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JUST BE YOU: Embrace Your Unfiltered Self! · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey you, welcome to the Nadia Chapman Show. I'm so happy to be here today because
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  we're talking about one of my favorite topics,
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  being you, stepping into your beautiful personality and the way God made you,
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  and stop trying to edit yourself to try to fit in.
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  I want to say something to you right out the gate. You don't need to become
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  a better version of yourself right now. You need to come back to yourself,
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  period. because somewhere along the way, you started editing who you are.
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  You know, we edit how we speak and how we show up.
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  And maybe you've edited your personality, your opinions, your energy,
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  just enough to fit in, to be liked by whoever's around you and not to be too much.
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  And here's the truth. You don't even like that version of you.
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  I know it. It feels tight. It feels controlled.
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  It feels like you're holding something back all the time, maybe,
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  probably. And I'm guessing that this is pretty exhausting, right?
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  Because being someone that you're not every day, even slightly,
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  a slightly edited version of yourself takes a lot of energy.
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  It's like you're constantly checking in. Was that okay?
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  Was that a stupid thing I just said? Did that land right?
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  Should I have said that differently? Okay.
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  You're not even fully in the moment and you're monitoring yourself in the moment.
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  And that pulls you away from everything, from connecting with people,
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  from being confident, from actually enjoying your life.
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  And listen, I get it. It doesn't come from nowhere.
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  Certain parts of us get a better reaction than others. So we highlight those
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  parts and we slowly dim other parts of who we are. You know,
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  we tone it down. We play it safe.
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  We try to be more polished, more agreeable, more acceptable maybe.
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  But in doing that, you lose your color.
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  You lose the thing that makes you you. And I'm going to say this clearly.
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  You were never meant to be neutral. You were never meant to blend in perfectly everywhere you go.
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  It's not going to happen. It's impossible to have this happen.
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  You were meant to be you, to be expressive, to maybe a little bit bold sometimes,
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  to laugh the way you laugh and talk the way you talk and just think the way you think.
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  And that's the part people actually connect with.
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  Not the perfect version, but the real one. And I can tell you this from my own
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  story, because there was a point where I realized that I don't want to live
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  myself where I'm constantly adjusting to be more liked.
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  I learned a long time ago, I was born with a weird, crazy personality,
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  and I've learned a long time ago to just be me and take it or leave it.
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  But I'm not going to edit myself to make you feel more comfortable.
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  I don't want to second guess everything I say. That's not why I'm on earth.
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  I don't want to shrink parts of who I am just to make other people comfortable.
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  So I made a decision a long time ago, maybe when I was a teenager, not perfectly.
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  Not overnight, but intentionally, that to step more into myself and not edit
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  who I am, to be myself, a little bit more colorful, maybe a bit more expressive
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  or a lot expressive, a little more me,
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  even if that meant not everyone would get it.
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  And today's episode is an invitation for you to start maybe doing the same thing.
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  And yeah, at first it feels uncomfortable because you're stepping out of that
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  safe version of you that maybe you've been using.
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  But then over time, something very powerful is going to shift.
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  You will feel lighter. You will stop overthinking all the little things that
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  you say and you do and you start trusting yourself more. And the confidence
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  that come from that, it's completely different from anything that you've experienced.
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  It's not loud and crazy. It's not performative. It's just steady.
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  Because you're not trying to be anything other than who you are, really.
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  And here's the part that people don't realize. When you stop editing yourself,
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  you give other people permission to do the exact same thing.
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  So you create a real connection, not surface level, not performative, but real.
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  And yes, I'm warning you, it might mean that some people won't resonate with you, and that's okay.
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  That was always going to happen, but the people who do, they're connecting with
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  the real most beautiful version of you, and that feels completely different.
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  So if you've been feeling a little off lately, I was speaking with somebody
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  last week about this, and it's also why I'm doing this podcast today,
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  but if you've been feeling a little bit off lately,
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  maybe disconnected, a little drain around the group of people that you work with or your friends.
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  It might not be the environment you're in.
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  It might just be that you've drift a little too far from yourself.
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  And this is your moment, your moment to come back, not to change who you are,
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  but by allowing who you are.
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  So as you go through the day today, as you go through next week,
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  I want you to start building awareness on when you're editing yourself,
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  where you hold something back, where you soften something that doesn't need to be softened.
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  Where you maybe try to come across certain way instead of just being, okay?
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  And just experiment with letting a little more of you come through.
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  Not all at once, just a little more. And this might be the writer downer for
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  today. You don't need to earn a place by being less of yourself.
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  All right. I believe that the world is made of so many beautiful personalities
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  and beautiful people and the world needs you as you are.
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  You don't need to filter your beautiful personality to be accepted and you don't
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  need to fit in perfectly everywhere you go.
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  You just need to show up and please show up as yourself fully,
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  honestly, and colorfully.
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  All right. thank you for being here and for being willing to hear this alright
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  and remember the more you come back to yourself the less you'll feel like you have to,
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  Okay, we've got this. I'll catch you in the next episode.