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Wellness Wednesday · Black Girl Interrupted Podcast

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Black Girl, y'all already know how it's your y'all already know how that girl.
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Mm hmm. Maybe y'all got the bed with me because I'm trying to
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get this all situated. It's all just combobulated over here. But anyway,
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Happy Wednesday, everybody. It is finally Wednesday, baby, it is home
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day and it is Wellness Wednesday. So shout out to everybody that has made
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it through this long work week, this long week period in general. But
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y'all welcome back to another episode. Up Black Girl interrupt that, y'all know
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it's your favorite girl. Ash bring y'all another great episode tonight. So tonight
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I'm doing something a little different. I know, I haven't done an episode
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like this in a while. I haven't done a Wellness Wednesday episode in a
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while, So I felt like it was imperative for me to jump on and
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do this tonight simply because I've looked at a lot of the responses to the
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post that I've made today with regards to Wellness Wednesday, and it looks to
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me that a lot of my y'all bear with me. I'm trying to get
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everything organized, and it just looks like a lot of my friends or people
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that are close to me are really truly going through a lot in life right
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now. So I just wanted to take a moment today just to talk,
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just to just love on y'all a little bit, just to pour into y'all
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a little bit, Not nothing big tonight. Just it's well this Wednesday,
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So I'm just I just want to do something a little different, you know,
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and then tomorrow we'll be back on our regular schedule program. But tonight,
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I really want to do something different. So y'all welcome back to another
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episode of Black Girl Interrupted. Y'all already know what is. It's your girl
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Ash just coming to love on y'all today. That's it. Just to encourage
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somebody to love on somebody, to pour into somebody, to uplift somebody,
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to encourage somebody. That's what we're doing tonight. So no, this is
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not going to be a long, long, long, long long episode,
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but who knows, you know. I only go with, however, the
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way the Lord moves me. So if it's only an hour, where it's
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only an hour, hey, it is what it is. Like, I'm
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just I just you know, like I say, I look at a lot
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of a lot of people that are around me, and y'all are really going
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through some things. Y'all are really truly, truly going through some things.
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And if there's in any way, in any shape, form or fashion that
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I can encourage somebody, let me know, because I've been exactly where you
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are. You know, I've been where you are. I've experienced loss,
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I've experienced hurt, pain, I've been knocked down, all of that.
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So tonight, like I said, we're just gonna do something different tonight today
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as well, it's Wednesday, so it's Wellness Wednesday. So everything we're we're
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gonna be talking about tonight is in regards to how do you protect your peace?
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How do you set those boundaries? How do you learn to tell people?
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Oh? Like, that's what we're doing tonight. So before we get
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started, you already know I always do my mental health check ins. So
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since today is Wellness Wednesday, m let's get into it. Let's let's let's
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get into it. Let's do our mental health check in and then we're definitely
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getting into our Wellness Wednesday show for tonight. So here we go. What
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is the common denominator of failure? Why are you failing? You're never say
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because of me. Oh, it's the competition, it's the economy, it's
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the president, it's Congress. If you wake up tomorrow morning and blame your
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failure on someone or something else, you have no reason to change, do
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you. But if you woke up in the morning and looked in the mirror
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and said, I am failing because of med decisions that I make the energy
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I couldn't, I'm not passing the blame. If you look at a mirror
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tomorrow, would say that you will change because nobody likes thinking of themselves as
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a failure. Winners win and losers lose. And if you create a culture
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of losing, if you keep being a victim, if you keep letting losing
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happen to you, if you keep letting people do you and treat you any
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kind of way, it's gonna become a culture. Take ownership. Take ownership
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of everything in your world, the good and the bad. Don't make excuses,
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don't blame any other person or any other thing. Take ownership of your
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mistakes, Take ownership of your short falls, Take ownership of your problems,
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and then take ownership of the solutions that will get those problems solved. Take
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ownership of your job, of your team, of your future, and take
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ownership of your life. The people in life that win play offense, not
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defense. Stop backing into everything, stand up, blow your back a little
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bit, start to walk a little different, start to be have best version
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of you. You can do it in your quiet way, you can do
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it the way you do it. But somehow they gotta look at you and
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go, okay, I want monkey with that one. You push back,
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you gonna get obsessed. You gotta get relentless. You gotta be a road
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doll. You gotta get intense. You gotta have a permeating attitude that you're
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gonna win. You got a positive out look. You gotta be optimistic.
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You gotta know you're gonna win. You gotta right now, I get said,
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I'm gonna win. I'm gonna win. My life is gonna win.
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This gonna be a victorious life here because listen to me, the price you've
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made for losing year is too extreme. You have to carry the burden of
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failure the rest of your life. As we begin to elevate ourselves and to
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follow the crowd, activating the thinker in us and disciplining and putting on hold
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the emotional part of ourselves. It's not easy, but through practice and practice
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and practice, practice makes improvement. You can always better your best. You
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can always go beyond anything that you have ever done. You never hit a
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state of perfection. You're always bigger than what you do, and so all
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you're looking for new breakthroughs. Through practice and practice and practice, you'll get
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better and better and better. Something you should affirm to yourself every day.
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Repeat this, please, no matter how bad it is or how bad it
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gets, I'm going to make it. The people that make it in this
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world look around for the circumstances that they want, and that they can't find
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them, they create them. It's hot, no easy, it's not an
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option. However, ladies and gentlemen, which you will discover it is that
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it's worth the takes cuts. You gotta dig down deep to cut it out,
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keep going, going again and again it again. I tell you make
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it happen because you know that is possible, and you are the Germany factor
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who man. Let me tell you something, y'all. I just cussed over
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here because I say, damn it, I needed to hear that today.
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I definitely needed to hear that today. So hesus, I love you.
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Hey, hey floor, oh Floyd, don't forget check out my episode that
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I did on autism. I dedicated it to you and all my other autism
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So I love you. Happy Wednesday. So that video, man, let
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me tell you, that video just shook me up. Because people, when
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I tell you, I was so ready to walk away from my job yesterday,
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I was ready to throw babe. I was ready to unlook all that
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furniture yesterday. But I mean they computer and stuff. I was ready.
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But that video, I don't know. That video just really truly did something
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to me. But today is Wednesday, and like I say, today I'm
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doing something a little different. This is wellness Wednesday. She said, already
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did thank you so much for your support. I loved it. Let me
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tell you something I thought about you, Jessica b being all the other mothers
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and fathers that are parents of children that are artistic, and I think you
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guys are doing a phenomenal job, an amazing job. Or it gets difficult.
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I know some days you're like, oh my god, what did I
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do? But I wanted to. I wanted to give love and support to
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our beautifully made puzzle pieces, because that's what they are there. There are
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beautiful super heroes. So and I do apologize for getting to emotional on the
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show, but I just when I'm passionate about something, and I think maybe
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y'all are now starting to see when I give very RepA when I'm passionate about
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a topic, y'all see the whole meet like y'all see everything of me.
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So it's only right that I start doing episodes where I'm just loving on people.
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You know, I said I was gonna start doing it, and I
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was doing it constantly for a little while and then I fell off, y'all,
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so forgive me. But today is well as Wednesday, and I made
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some statuses today and I didn't realize people were really truly life was really truly
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life and for a lot of people. So tonight's episode was supposed to be
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something totally different. But I say, you know what, looking at these
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responses of the statuses that I've been making these last few weeks, it's only
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right that I stop, I take a step back, and I need to
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encourage somebody because when I tell you, it's a lot of people that have
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a dark cloud hanging over them and they just don't know what to do.
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So today is well as Wednesday. Today is the day that we take our
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power back. We walk with our heads up and our chest out like we
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own the world, all while protecting our peace and setting boundaries. I made
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a post today and I said, y'all better learn and start telling people no.
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Y'all better learn to start telling people no. When I tell y'all,
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no is etched so far into my vocabulary, I don't have a problem we're
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telling somebody no, because what I'm not going to do, you know,
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let me back up and let me rephrase this. What we're not going to
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do is we're not going to We're gonna stop allowing people disrupting our peace because
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let me tell you something, when you achieve that realm of peace, maybe
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you don't ever let anyone disturb and disrupt that because people don't know what we
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fought through to get to that place of peace. So today is well on
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this Wednesday, and I'm gonna keep saying it. It is well this Wednesday.
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Mondays are mental Mondays, and I'm gonna continue making polls to encourage somebody.
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But boundaries, we have to start setting those boundaries. You have to
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stop explaining to people why you move or do things the way that you do.
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You don't owe anybody in explanation but you, and that's something we need
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to start standing on. If people don't care about your feelings, stop caring
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about theirs, protect you at all costs. No one knows what it took
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for you to get to where you are today. No one knows what you
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had to fight through. No one knows what you're struggling with today. And
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you don't owe anybody an explanation. If you say, you know what,
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I don't want to talk, I don't want to talk today, you don't
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have to explain that to nobody because anybody that really truly, genuinely loves you
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will understand and they'll say, you know what, I love you, and
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they'll let you go through whatever it is you need to go through. But
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a real true friend will also pull you up out of that dark space too.
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A person that really truly loves and cares about you will tap you on
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the shoulder and say, come on, I'm gonna let you cry today.
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But tomorrow is about solutions. Tomorrow is about this. Tomorrow is about that.
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That person's gonna encourage you, that person is gonna pour into you.
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That person is going to tell you you got it. So we are taking
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back our power. We're reclaiming our power back. We're taking it back.
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We're no longer letting people beat us down anymore. We're no longer pouring into
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others while our cup stays empty. No, no, ma'am, no sir,
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we're not. We're taking care of us. We're gonna learn self care,
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love, and it's okay to be selfish with yourself. Because baby,
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let me tell you something. One thing about me, one thing for show,
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two things for certain. I am not gonna allow you evil spirited people
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to come in here and disrupt my realm, a piece that I've created for
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myself. I'm no longer let me rephrase that, I'm so sorry because I'm
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not talking about me tonight. I'm talking about us tonight. We are no
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longer tolerting disrespect. That that ends today. Stand in whatever it is that
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you believe in. Stop a lot, Stop trying to rebuild bonds that God
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broke, because He did that for a reason. Baby, that was your
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protection from something. Because your name has been mentioned in a room and God
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didn't like what he heard. Okay, God didn't like that you know,
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God said, I I no, no, no, no, no,
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I'm finna cut this off for you. I know you didn't ask me to
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do it, but God said, I'm gonna do it anyway. So stop
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trying to pull those people back into your life that God removed from you.
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Stop trying to pull them back into your space after God removed them, and
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push them out the way, because again, God heard a conversation that you
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didn't hear. Somebody mentioned your name, and I'm gonna say this again,
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somebody mentioned your name and God didn't like what he heard. God says,
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stop smiling in the face of your enemies. And a lot of times the
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enemy is always the person that's closest to you. M somebody needed to hear
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that. So Flora says, thank you for your kind words, for your
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empathy as well. It definitely is hard, and I'm proud of myself and
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every parent that has a special needs child. Wellness Wednesday, check in.
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Come on now, check in with us. I'm putting that up. She
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says, you are so right. I hate that people always stare with my
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son is having issues, and I always feel they need to explain that he's
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autistic. I honestly, shouldn't care what people think about me and my son.
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Girl, let me tell you, some girl to help with them damn
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people, to help with those people. Let me tell you something. Let
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me just love on you for a moment, because flow I've known you since
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middle school and I know what kind of person you are. I know your
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spirit and I know your heart. You've always been so loving. You've always
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just been a sweet, genuine person. So to help with with those people,
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say letting people stare, let them look you don't you don't let me
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tell you. Stop explaining to people what's going on with your son, especially
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when they mean you're no good. Because the people that really truly love and
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genuinely care about you, you don't have to explain because they already know.
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It's these outside people that are so ignorant to special needs children. You'll get
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what I'm saying. Society has made the world this way. There's no empathy
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anymore. People are always pointing, oh my god, she just until they've
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walked in your shoes. They need to shut the hell up. And I'm
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gonna say that they need to shut the hell up. I posted this a
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while ago. Stop letting people that have never lived in your life. Write
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your story, stop it. Stop explaining to people why you do and move
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the way that you do. Stop pouring into people that don't pour back into
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you, because see, now you're thirsty. While you quench their thirsty.
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Now you're thirsty. Now you're sitting here and you're scrambling and you're trying to
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find somebody. But they're never there for you, but you always show up
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for them. So one of the things that we have to learn is stop
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showing up to every party even though you receive the invitation. Sometimes it's okay
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to return that invitation back. Don't even open it, return, put return
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to center, and send it back. It's okay to do that because every
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time I'm invited somewhere and if I don't feel it's right, I'm not coming.
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I'm not opening your invitation, baby, I'm sending it back to you.
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God bless you. I wish you well. Put those boundaries. Put
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those boundaries up. Stop allowing different energies to intertwine with yours. Stop thinking
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everybody is your friends. Stop smiling in everybody's face. Who's stabbing you in
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the back, and that includes family, because the hurt and pain doesn't always
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come from the people you don't know. What always comes from the people that
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you do know. So it's okay to say, you know what, I'm
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good, it's good. It's good to cut those people off. Sometimes you
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gotta cut the head. You gotta cut the head of the snake off.
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You gotta cut those bonds off. And it's okay if those bonds aren't rebuilt.
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It's okay to, you know, pull somebody back into you and then
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you let them go. Let them go, because people can only wear a
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mask for so long before it tends to fall off. And I know,
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y'all, we want to hold on to these people because we've been friends within
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fifteen, twenty thirty years, or we want to hold on to them because
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that my mom. Oh I want to hold on because that's my dad,
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or that's my sister. No family's getting cut off too. It's okay to
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put boundaries over with family. My cousin right here said she say, family
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be the ones. Those are the ones. The hurt, the pain and
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the hate never comes from a stranger. And when we start to understand and
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realize that, we'll start to let go of those people, we'll start to
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distance ourselves from our people will know how to handle those people accordingly. I'm
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learning that I've learned that every hand that you shake doesn't mean they mean you
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will you understand, Just because they're smiling and or they loving on you in
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your face don't mean they're not gonna turn around and stab you right in the
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bag. People don't have to know your business. Stop giving unwarranted information to
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your to your jene me, baby, because let me tell you something,
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all they gonna do is turn around and stab you in the back with it.
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They gonna weaponize it against you. They're gonna use it against you.
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That's what they do. And people like that work for the devil. Do
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you hear me? The people that do stuff like that, they work for
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the devil. Those are those evil spirits and people that are carrying around trauma
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and pain, and you know what they do. They want to come and
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they want to bring misery to you because they're miserable. And then this when
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you need to set up those boundaries, baby, that's when you need to
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cut off the supply, let it die off. Sometimes you don't even have
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to ask God to remove people from He just clears the path for you and
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don't even question when I tell you I've lost a lot of people that I
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thought were my friend, that I thought really truly loved me, that I
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thought really truly genuinely cared about me until I heard my name in a conversation
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that God wasn't too pleased with. So you know what he did. God
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removed them. And now they they knocking, They trying to come back in,
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and the door is locked, access denied. And I'm in a better
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space when I tell you, these last three years was hard as hell for
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me. But I said twenty twenty four, God, I'm finna show up,
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and I'm finn show out. And let me tell you something, wherever
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I show up, God is been showing out. So stop playing with me.
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Stop playing with me, because you can't take nothing. Let me say
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this, anything that God is ordained for us, man can't take away,
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no matter how hard the enemy tries to penetrate. Baby. If God has
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got it for you, they can't take it from you. And until we
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learn and we get in these spaces where we understand ourselves, you'll start to
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see the world a whole lot clearly. And I love it. I love
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it. If your energy is off I don't want no dealings with you.
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Hey, how you doing? And I'm gonna keep it moving. I don't
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want you in my circle because where I'm trying to go, where God is
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elevating me, I can't take you with me. Stop trying to take people
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with you that God don't have for you. See y'all, just man let
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me Ooh, I really feel like I really feel my Daddy coming through me
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right now. Because we always want to pull people up with us when we
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get somewhere else, because we say, oh, I don't want to leave
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anybody behind, But sometimes God wants you to leave them behind. It's like
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a bus. Let them off at the next stop. Let them off at
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the next stop, and keep going. You get what I'm saying. Some
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people are not destined to go with you on your journey. Some people are
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not destined to follow your path. Some people have to fall down, bump
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their heads, scrape they knees, and so you've been through that. Some
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people are just not going through that. And see my cousin let me say
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this, so let me get to the comments. So she says, yup,
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she say big facts, hay night ride or what's stood my family?
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He said, it's a shame to say, but family and friends can be
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an Achilles here, man, Do you hear me? Do you hear me?
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But we always want to hold on because family always makes us feel like
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we owe them. I don't owe you. It's only one person in this
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world that I owe and that's me. That's you. Everything you do,
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you owe it to you. Baby. You don't owe it to nobody else.
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You owe it to you. And in order to owe it to you,
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you got to be the best you, so you could be good to
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your children, so your babies will know what to do to with their children,
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and so on and so forth and again. If that means cutting communication
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off with family, it just it is what it is. I love you,
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but I can't take you with me. I wish you the best.
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It's not hate you the best, but I can't take you with me.
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I can't bring you where I'm going. Because God never blesses a mess.
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So if you if you're in a mess, if you are a catastrophic type
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of person, God not gonna bless you until you come and you clean yourself.
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But you gotta go to God, and you gotta be sincere. You
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have to open up and say you know what, God, I'm ready.
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I'm ready for you to breathe into me. I'm ready for you to make
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me whole again. Because see what God gonna do, baby, God,
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God will put you in a position where all you'll need is Him. You
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won't have a choice but to go to Him. And that's the part that
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hurts, And that's the part that a lot of people not ready for.
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I sit in and I look at a lot of these posts on Facebook,
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and I see people say, oh, yeah, God is da da da
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da. But then you're still trying to play in the devil's playground. You
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can't have both sides of the coin. Maybe you either won't hands or you
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won't tails which one you won't because you can't say I'm gonna do this for
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God, but you still doing bull And I see a lot of that.
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See the thing with me, everything I talk about, I walked that walk.
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I've made that peace not only with myself but with the people around me
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that I've heard. I've made that peace and I took accountability for that.
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And a lot of y'all not ready for that because y'all don't feel like y'all
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have done anything wrong. It's everybody else's fault, right, I know it.
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I'm being sarcastic when I say that, because we love blaming everybody else
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or it's they fault, it's it's this person fault. But what about you
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see when you gotta like that saw a Man in the Mirror by Michael Jackson.
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When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Are you
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happy with the person that you look at every day? Or are you disappointed
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in what you see? I wake up now, I can honestly say when
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I wake up now, when I look in at merriored baby, I love
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the woman, the mother, and the person that I've become. I love
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the fact that God. I didn't have a choice but to go to him.
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And I was ready mentally, spiritually, emotionally, physically because I didn't
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have nobody but him. So when I sat down and I had my conversation,
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Because everybody's conversation with God is different, everybody's relationship religion is different.
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Whether you believe in God or you don't believe in God. If you're a
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bulled up whatever religion you are, you've had that conversation with the person that
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you give the most praise to correct You've had that conversation, and when you
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don't like the things that you hear, you need to change them correct That's
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what I did. I didn't like the person I was. Let me tell
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you this young lady right here, Mss Keisha done more. Let me tell
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you something about this woman. This woman is known me her whole life,
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and she could tell you the type of person I was then and the type
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of person I am now. See. People have seen my change. I've
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seen her transition. I've seen my sister Jules transition. And I look at
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where we started, but I look at where we are today. Because see,
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it's not never where you start, it's how you finish. God don't
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care what you did then. God don't care what you did yesterday because today
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He woke you up to give you another chance to fix what you did yesterday.
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So every day that my eyes are open, that's another chance for me
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to correct what I didn't do right the day before, or to fix what
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I'm gonna do in the future. That's what it's about. Illness, your
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peace, your sanity, your mental that's what it's about. Because when you
30:08
get tired of living in chaos, you're gonna beg for that peace, and
30:12
baby, when you get a taste of that peace, honey, let me
30:18
let me h. I love it. I love it. I love it.
30:27
I love my peace right now. I love who I am and who
30:33
I'm becoming. You get what I'm saying. God is opening doors for me
30:37
that I never thought I could ever get into. But that's because I had
30:45
to surrender. That's because I had to do the work. That's because I
30:48
had to move these people out of the way. I had to cut people
30:52
off, people that I loved, people that I just was like, Oh
30:55
my God, I can't let them go. They're they're my forever, They're
30:59
my best friend. There this God say no, they're not. So then
31:06
He'll start to reveal things to you. So this little picture, this facade
31:11
that we've painted in our minds of how we feel like our friendships or relationships
31:17
are supposed to be, ain't always what they look like. So God will
31:23
drag you through so many things until you finally say, you know what,
31:30
God, you got it. Okay, God, you know what you gotta
31:34
Let me. Let me, let me get out of here, let me
31:37
let me let you have your way. And baby, when God has his
31:41
way, God will pick you up. He gonna blow you and dust you
31:48
off, and he's gonna make your whole again. Mmm. I just called
31:55
cheers when I said that. Who welcome. Let me say that one more
32:07
time. When you give it up to him God to pick you up,
32:15
he'll scoop you up like a brand new baby. He gonna blow you off,
32:20
he gonna dust you off, and he gonna make your whole again.
32:25
And baby, when I tell you that transformation is so beautiful, it's painful.
32:31
So I'm not gonna get set up here and lie to you and say,
32:34
oh, it's a beautiful journey or it's just a wonderful thing. No
32:37
it's not. No, it ain't. No, it ain't nor it's not.
32:45
It hurts. But we all know God is not a man of confusion,
32:51
but a man of clarity. So in those moments when you feel like
32:55
you don't understand, Keisha says wow, she says yes, Ashley, Amen,
33:04
She'll say yep, I had to learn that. Hey, my baby,
33:08
I hope you're having a good night. It works, so you know
33:10
what, I love you, Keisha said, yep. Ja Vert says,
33:15
you're so right about that accountability. It's kind of hard for a lot of
33:19
people, it ain't kind of hard. It is hard, But until you
33:23
sit down with yourself and you look at what you've played in a lot of
33:29
these situations, you'll come to learn and love and appreciate a lot of things.
33:38
Because we get up every day and a lot of us get ready for
33:44
work, a lot of us get you know, whatever it is that you
33:45
do to start your date, and are living amongst chaos. So they go
33:52
and they go to spaces where they want everyone else to be miserable. If
33:57
y'all ever noticed that people you work for, the people you encounter, never
34:02
smile, They're never happy about anything. That's because they're miserable. That's because
34:10
they have some things sitting in their chest that they need to release, but
34:15
they hold on to it. Because see, people love to be the victim.
34:20
People love that they love, Oh well, I was this, so
34:23
that gives them an excuse to act the way that they act. No,
34:27
baby, that's not acceptable. That's not acceptable. To be mean to people,
34:35
to be evil to people, that's not acceptable. And stop saying that,
34:40
oh, that's just the way you are. No, you choose to
34:44
be that way. A lot of y'all that have issued, you know,
34:51
things, that need to be worked out. You want to come and project
34:53
on everyone else because see you're alone in your misery, and misery love company.
35:01
Let me go and let me repeat that one more time. A lot
35:08
of y'all that are miserable, you want other people to be miserable with you,
35:16
because misery loves company. But see the thing about me, You're not
35:24
gonna be miserable with me because I'm not a miserable person anymore. I want
35:32
joy and love and peace because I don't know how much time I have left
35:37
here on earth, and I'm not gonna spend the rest of my life being
35:43
miserable or trying to make other people miserable. You get what I'm saying,
35:46
because that'll make your blessings harder to get to. Somebody didn't understand that,
35:57
He shall say, preach night right us say that's right. You owe success
36:00
to yourself and no one. Everyone is responsible for their own choices in life.
36:06
Where choices come pros and cons hm. My brother TJ says, I
36:16
love this cis absolutely. He should say, when you get a taste of
36:22
that piece, you will cut anybody off? Or do you hear me having
36:23
some sizzles? Because I don't mind, because see, let me tell you
36:30
where I'm at mentally. Baby, can't nobody, babe. You can't come
36:36
in here and interject on me. You can't come in here and try to
36:38
make me miserable. Now, I may cuss and fuss behind CROs doors,
36:43
but I'm not gonna let anyone make me come out of character. I'm gonna
36:45
wish you well. God bless you, my love, and I'm gonna send
36:50
you on your way. I'm gonna wish you the best because see, that's
36:54
your spirit and your evil and your demons that you have to deal with.
36:59
Because I've dealt with mine. I faced mine. I've apologized to a lot
37:05
of people that I heard, and then I wish them well. I didn't
37:09
do it for them. I did it for me. So if you have
37:14
to apologize to get your power back, Baby, apologize and wish them well.
37:19
I love God bless you. It's not hate, but I wish you
37:22
well. God bless you. Y'all, welcome back to another episode of Black
37:29
Girl Interrupted. This is Wellness Wednesday, and that's what we're doing today.
37:32
We are wellness. We're protecting our peace, we are boundaries. We're being
37:39
selfish with ourselves. Let me tell you, ladies and gentlemen, take those
37:45
solo trips. Go off and have dinner by yourself. Go take a walk
37:53
on the beach, Go take a walk around the block by yourself self.
37:59
Love. We need that, because, let me tell y'all, I love
38:07
when y'all are in beautiful spaces. I love to see these beautiful posts.
38:12
I love to see the beautiful things that each and ever last one of y'all
38:15
are doing in your life. I love it, especially if I know your
38:19
story, especially if I know your struggles. If I know where you've been
38:22
to where you are today, I'm proud of you. I love it.
38:28
I love it for you. When I see your beautiful post come across the
38:35
way, I don't care if it's if it's something your baby did at school,
38:38
I'm proud of you. Congratulations to your baby. Congratulations to you on
38:43
that new job. Congratulations to you because you got that new car, Congratulations
38:47
to you because you've got that new house. Because I know what you went
38:51
through to get to where you are, I'm proud of you. If no
38:57
one has told you today, I'm proud of you. Keep going. It's
39:06
a lot of people out here that are cheering and oh yeah, and don't
39:09
genuinely mean it, but I do because I had to wait my turn.
39:16
And now these doors are opening doors again that I never thought I would ever
39:22
be able to walk into or open it for me. But I waited a
39:29
lot of times we look at other people in and we're jealous, we're envious.
39:36
Devil, wait your turn, your time is coming, but you do
39:43
have to understand it's never on your time. It's always on God's time.
39:45
And see that's the problem with us. We want things right now. But
39:50
let me ask you. If God were to give you everything you asked for
39:54
today, would you be able to substantiate it? If God gave you that
40:04
million dollars that you asked for, what would you do with it? Would
40:07
you be able to handle it? If God said, you know what,
40:14
I'm gonna put you in that big five bedroom house, would you be able
40:21
to handle it? A lot of y'all wouldn't a lot of y'all wouldn't even
40:30
know how to handle your blessings. A lot of y'all don't know what it
40:37
means to be humble Tolkien to brag and boast about your accomplishments. But are
40:45
you genuine and doing so, or are you doing this to show somebody.
40:55
Anytime I make a post about anything that I do, I do for me
41:00
because I'm not in competition with anybody. I want us all to win.
41:09
I want whatever everybody has going on, I want everyone to make it.
41:19
I used to be jealous and then be as some people old God, she's
41:22
in a house. I'm not in a house yet. But God wasn't ready
41:27
though. I wasn't ready for those blessings because I wouldn't have known what to
41:34
do with them. Wait your turn. It's okay if you're forty years old
41:46
and you're just not purchasing a home, I'm proud of you. Either way.
41:52
It's okay if you wait till you're fifty years old and you want to
41:55
start your career all over again, that's okay. I'm proud of you.
42:04
Because people don't know how many times you fell down and got back up.
42:10
Some of y'all fall down and never get back up because y'all are fel worried
42:15
about what other people are gonna say. To hell with those other people.
42:21
Ain't no bunk beds and caskets. Stop trying to be in competition with other
42:28
people, their blessing may not be your blessing, and we have to learn
42:36
that. Okay, God gave her a house. Maybe you wasn't ready for
42:39
the house. Shit. Maybe God didn't feel like you were ready for that
42:42
house. Maybe he didnt feel like you were financially able for that house.
42:45
Maybe God didn't feel like you were mentally ready for that house. But you
42:50
mad, and you jealous, and you pointing in your talking about people.
42:53
Stop it. Your blessing is coming. It's on the way. It just
43:02
may not be today. When I tell y'all how many times, let me
43:10
tell you so my sister can't tell you how many times I got discouraged with
43:14
this podcast? I was done? How many times did y'all see me walk
43:16
away? And I was like, you know, I don't want to do
43:17
this my more. But I was like, man, something just kept calling
43:21
me back to do it. That was God, because I had a purpose.
43:29
I had a calling. God said, as big as your mouth is,
43:34
you got a story. I need you to talk. I need you
43:37
to get the word to people, and I'm gonna use you to do it.
43:43
Everybody has a call, everybody has a purpose, everyone has a gift,
43:46
But not everybody answers. Kesha said, hey, man, she said
43:58
think she said me too. She say thank you Jesus. She say,
44:01
girl, you got me in tears. I hope their tears a joy because
44:07
let me tell you something. You better shout, You better give God all
44:10
the praise, because today we wouldn't bear where we are if it wasn't for
44:14
him. How many storms have we encountered, baby, and God didn't pull
44:19
us through? What does he say? I'll bring you so far, but
44:22
I'll never leave you. And just because it rains doesn't mean you have to
44:29
get wet. I speak love, light and peace into everybody because I've been
44:37
in those storms. I know what it's like. I know what it's like
44:42
to be alone, not to have nobody but you. I've been there,
44:51
and that's what I mean when I say, can't nobody ever take my peace
44:54
away from me? Because I fought too hard to get out of the dog.
45:00
I don't have a problem with telling people no. I don't have a
45:02
problem with my phone ringing and I look at it and don't answer it.
45:07
Maybe I'm in a moment right now. Maybe I just maybe I need a
45:09
reset and I'll talk to you tomorrow. The people that love you. They'll
45:16
understand. The people that genuinely and I'm talking about genuinely love and care about
45:25
you will understand. But y'all better cutting people off that don't mean you're no
45:35
good baby. Y'all better put holding onto them folks that talk about you or
45:39
don't protect your name when you're not in the room. You know how many
45:45
time let me tell y'all, do you know how many times I've had people
45:49
dog me and drag me and those very same people that I allowed to break
45:53
me, God has rebuilt me back in their faces and now they're mad.
46:01
Now they want to come back. Now they knocking on the door. Uh
46:05
uh access to night. Hm. Stop letting the people back in your life.
46:15
Stop stop it now, and I mean right now. Stop letting those
46:20
people back in your life that mean you no good. Then people that have
46:23
ill intent for you. Letting people go. I know it's hard, but
46:28
that's my best friend. But that's my husband. Oh that's my mama.
46:32
Okay, you're miserable though, you sad every day. You constantly trying to
46:45
fix broken relationships. Stop it. God broken for a reason. God broke
46:53
you down for a reason. God pulled you out that situation for a reason.
47:04
Stop questioning everything that God does because it's always for the best interest.
47:09
It's always for the greater good of you. That's why He does what he
47:15
does. I quit question him a long time ago. God. Well,
47:19
okay, okay, God, God, he did it. Okay, cool,
47:22
no problem. I understand. I understand. I hear you. You
47:34
got a guy. You're right, I know that person. That's what he
47:42
does. God God removes and replaces. He takes, but he adds or
47:57
let me, let me, let me say this again. He's tracks,
48:00
but then he adds, and you'll multiply and divide. That's the beautiful thing
48:07
about it. It's whatever God removes, he replaces it with something better.
48:14
But you have to be you have to stop being so scared to take those
48:16
chances. You have to stop being afraid to walk through the door because it's
48:22
something Familion. I understand, we'll be. I don't know. I ain't
48:25
never been over there before. But when you open that door and you take
48:30
that chance, it's always the best. It's always the best. I love
48:39
taking chances now. I love opening doors and people say no, But that's
48:45
okay. This door they said no. Who says the next door, they
48:50
won't say yes. Stop being afraid to take chance, and stop being afraid
48:57
to take those risks. Stop second guessing the things that you do. Because
49:05
Baby, let me tell y'all, y'all are winners, and I've seen the
49:08
things that y'all do. I know, I see the potential. I see
49:12
the light, and a lot of y'all play with it. That's what assessed
49:16
me is y'all play with the potential that I'm like, man, this girl
49:20
man she could. Man, this man he could. But y'all don't because
49:28
y'all are afraid someone's gonna say no. But out of all those news you're
49:32
gonna get a guess. Hey, big brother, Keisha says yes, Jewel
49:42
says, I refuse to deal with miserable people. She says, shit is
49:45
draining and it is being your brother. Your sister say, hey, brother,
49:52
they're gonna big brother riding. He says, hey, big sis,
50:00
my brother. Nutty Peace says, I'm proud of you. Says baby,
50:01
let me tell you something. You know, I'm proud of myself. I'm
50:08
proud of y'all. I'm proud of the beautiful things that y'all do. I
50:15
love the calling that God has placed on y'all, and y'all are winning that
50:22
new job. I'm proud of you. That two dollars raise you got,
50:25
I'm proud of you. You had a brand new baby. Congratulations, you
50:31
finally got the dream car you want it. I'm proud of you. Come
50:35
pick me up and let's go roll. Let's roll out. You just closed
50:39
on your house. I'm proud of you. Let me know when your housewarman
50:45
is. I want to come and celebrate your accomplishments. Juel says, a
50:55
sad truth. As for some people, misery will never end because they love
51:00
a whallow in it. They love to be the victim because that's where they
51:04
get the most attention. But sometimes all attention ain't good attention. It's not
51:12
always good. But people wanna they want to do those things because they're trying
51:17
to show off for somebody. They're trying to show somebody. They're trying to
51:21
prove to somebody. Oh you said I couldn't. God is gonna let me
51:25
tell you something. God will always use your enemies at your footstool, so
51:29
you don't have to show them anything. They're gonna see your doubters, your
51:35
hate us. They gonna see because the light around you is gonna start shining
51:40
even brighter, so your glow up is gonna be even better. That's where
51:46
it's gonna go. Jule says misery loves company. People who are miserable and
51:53
unhappy in their own lives hate to see you happy and want to try to
51:57
put you down in a chance they get be aware of stoo to their level.
52:00
Do you hear me, Let me, let me, let me say
52:02
this. He should say, we are claiming it in the name of Jesus,
52:07
and we are, and it's already claimed. God said it's already done.
52:13
It's already done. So Truth Vibes podcast says success is not worthy abuse
52:19
you will take from others to get there, especially knowing how traumatic it will
52:22
be discovering who the gatekeepers really are as people who guard the doors man.
52:30
This young man set up Jay Bob, what I tell you? You you
52:37
you set a mouthful with that. You set a mouthful with that. But
52:45
you do have people that beat others down, will stepping stump on you to
52:50
get where they're trying to go. But everyone has a purpose and everyone has
52:55
a calling on their life. It's up to you to have discernment amongst those
53:05
that you or walk around or associate yourself with. You have to have discernment.
53:10
You have to know when to remove yourself from certain people in certain situations.
53:17
And I say that because when my daughter's father passed away, they had
53:22
a memorial service, okay, and I could be a hundred percent honest.
53:29
I didn't deal with those people. And regardless of how I felt about my
53:32
daughter's father, I showed up for her because that's who needed me. Had
53:38
it been to old me, oh baby, that mayl went a whole different
53:43
way. But because of the person and the woman and the mother that I
53:47
am, I let that go because I'm never gonna block my blessings. I'm
53:55
never gonna block them. I wish you well. You're never hear from me
54:01
again. You just never hear from me again. It ain't no love lost,
54:07
it ain't no bad blood. But I wish you well, how low.
54:15
God bless you, God bless you, And that's all I'm gonna tell
54:20
you. It ain't it ain't no hard feelings, but I wish you the
54:24
best. I don't wish ill on anybody. I just know I'll never deal
54:31
with you again. If I see you in pastor Hey, how you doing,
54:37
And I'm gonna keep a trucking. We're not gonna sit and hold a
54:39
conversation because let me tell you something, you don't need to know what goes
54:44
on in my life. You're gonna see it unfold. So I'm not gonna
54:47
keep telling you when I got going on in my life. Baby, you're
54:52
gonna see it. You're gonna see it in my appearance. You're gonna see
54:57
it in my character, and you're gonna see it in the way that I
54:59
conducted carry myself. Okay, So we don't have to keep telling people,
55:05
Oh, I'm doing this, Oh I'm doing that. They're gonna see it
55:07
already. Your energy is what is going to trigger them. So when you
55:21
just say God bless you, uh huh, it's great, and you keep
55:28
on, that triggers them because you didn't give them the response that they were
55:31
looking for, and that hurts people. People don't like that when you don't
55:38
bop down to a level because then it looks like two fools fighting. And
55:45
it's okay not to show up and be a clown in everyone's circus. It's
55:50
okay. It's okay to allow them to continue making you the villain in their
55:58
story. But guess what, You'll always be the clown in mind. And
56:04
you will, my love, and you will. But no matter how much
56:10
you spit in my face and try to drag me, don't forget to tell
56:17
them how good I was to you and see. And that's the part of
56:22
the story people tend to leave out. Remember that, Okay, my love,
56:25
that's what they do. They love to paint you as the villain,
56:31
but will never tell people what they did to trigger you for that reaction.
56:38
Kay. They love that, They love that. They always want you to
56:43
show up and be a clown in their circus. I am I'm not coming.
56:49
I don't like peanuts anyway. Clowns scam me. You understand clouds the
56:55
clowns. They scare me. So I won't be attending your circus. Okay.
57:00
I won't be going to the Ringling Barnum Bill. I won't be attending
57:04
Sugar. Okay. I don't have the money. I can't even afford to
57:07
get into your circus. Okay, that's what you start telling people. You
57:13
lettingm be clowns by themselves. Stop laughing and joking in the faces of people
57:21
that spit on you. I promise you you'll live alone, productive life.
57:28
Baby, I promise you, because I'm no longer doing it. If you're
57:37
not trying to elevate me and I can't elevate or empower you, then we
57:42
need to part ways. No, no, no, baby, it's not
57:50
any type of hate, but it's a whole lot of peace and boundaries.
57:57
Okay, because one thing about me? Why you talking about me? I'm
58:05
over here still working on my podcast, sugar. Okay, while you over
58:10
here talking about how Ashley used to be, let's talk about how you are
58:15
today. So let me tell you something. People love trying to send you
58:21
back to addresses you're no longer resided, baby, if you don't put a
58:24
stamp on it that says return the sender and send it back, stop opening
58:29
mail that ain't addressed to you. Mm hmm I said it. Just because
58:40
they invite you doesn't mean you have to go, you know, because those
58:49
various same people that sought to destroy you. Watch out, baby. Let
58:53
me say this, and I say this with so much conviction. I didn't
58:59
have God swing his sandal on me quite a few times, and it don't
59:04
feel so good. But when those people that slandered your name or your character.
59:16
Baby, watch y'all, watch y'all hard. God gonna swing back.
59:21
I can honestly say I done sat back on my Facebook timeline and I've seen
59:24
a lot of y'all that have done me wrong, that have mistreated me.
59:31
I ain't doing so well right now. But don't laugh and revel in their
59:39
misery. Your pray for you. Pray that God will pick them up and
59:46
dust them off and breathe into them and make them whole again. That's what
59:51
you do because trust and believe God will spend the block. H Baby,
1:00:02
God will definitely spend that blockin. Y'all. Better stop playing with that man.
1:00:07
Y'all better could play it like karma ain't a real thing. Stop reveling
1:00:14
in another person's misery because you made it, because God will own But you're
1:00:20
real quick, everything that God gave to you, baby, he'll snatch it
1:00:24
right on back, and then you'll be right back where you're started. Y'all
1:00:34
better stop playing I promise you. Gazan so truth vibe says. All it
1:00:42
taste is for one former friend or family member to be against you and the
1:00:45
war and started on your spirit. Yes, sir, Yes, sir,
1:00:51
Juel says, there's always something you could do about your misery instead of blaming
1:00:54
your circumstances. Not everything is in your control. But to make the best
1:00:59
of the situation, accept the role. Accept your role in your misery,
1:01:04
and own it. Since that's accountability, let me get a little closer.
1:01:12
A lot of people don't like that word. A lot of people run from
1:01:16
that. You want to know why because they feel like they've done nothing wrong
1:01:22
and it's everybody else's fault. So a lot of people don't like accountability,
1:01:28
you understand. But I love it because that made me the person I am
1:01:31
to day. Sometimes you have to eat out of the same bowl that you
1:01:37
served to other people, and when you be at of it doesn't taste good,
1:01:42
does it? I know it. I know it doesn't good. I
1:01:45
know it does it. But at the time you thought it tastes the good
1:01:50
while you were giving it to everybody else, right, I understand, Until
1:01:53
you had to taste it and now you're mad, and now you're like,
1:02:00
god it mm hmm. No, No, I'm gonna feed you the same
1:02:07
thing that you were given to other people. And it doesn't taste good.
1:02:13
It doesn't feel good, and it does it m h it doesn't. So
1:02:22
you have to own your part and you have to make it right. You
1:02:30
have to say I'm sorry, but you have to correct the behavior that comes
1:02:40
behind that. I'm sorry, because you can apologize all day, every day
1:02:45
and still have the same behavior. Why I apologize if you're not gonna change.
1:02:55
Oh, that's right, because it sounds good. I get it.
1:02:59
I understand. I used to do that. I used to apologize, but
1:03:05
the behavior never changed. M hm, it didn't. Now my apologies come
1:03:14
with a change behavior. Now. The way that I move comes with listening.
1:03:22
And I don't listen to speak, but I listen to comprehend and understand.
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My sister had a conversation with me yesterday and like I explained to her,
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it's no hard feelings. I just have boundaries now. And my social
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say yeah. Brittany says, you are constant. You are a constant inspiration
1:03:50
and I thank God for you. It took a long time to get here.
1:03:54
So the continue the part two of Jules conversation, Sit says, accept
1:04:00
your role in your misery and own up responsibility to change yourself, and there
1:04:08
was nothing more powerful. Absolutely, Brendan says, I need to sit here
1:04:12
this thank you. NodD says hey bb BB says hey, unct he sent
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you the heart. Juel says, no amount of suffering gives you the right
1:04:25
to tell others that healing and recovery are impossible. No amount of misery gives
1:04:29
you the right to tell others that misery is the only option. If you're
1:04:31
discouraging people from trying to heal, you are hurting them directly. Absolutely.
1:04:36
But there are people out here like that because they're hurting, so they want
1:04:44
you to be miserable right there with them, because they don't want to be
1:04:46
alone. And this is why you see a lot of trauma bonding. This
1:04:50
is why you see a lot of a lot of people that hang together that
1:04:55
you know they not they should even be hanging together, But because they're miserable
1:04:59
and bitter soul, they're gonna all hang together. What they say, birds
1:05:01
of a feather flock together. I don't want to be that bird in your
1:05:05
flock. I don't want to be miserable anymore. I don't want to be
1:05:11
said. I don't want to sit there and talk about people all day.
1:05:15
I don't want to talk about that. Can we talk about rebuilding Black Wall
1:05:18
Street? Can we talk about building schools. Can we talk about building black
1:05:24
owned banks so we could get business loans to start businesses with, like my
1:05:28
sisters say, without all the red tape? Can we have those types of
1:05:30
conversations? Can we have conversations where we're uplifting and loving and encouraging each other
1:05:36
instead of trying to tear each other down? Can we do that? But
1:05:41
a lot of y'all don't like peace. A lot of y'all live chaotic lives,
1:05:44
and this is all that you want, So this is all that you
1:05:46
know, so is familiar to you, So you want to keep up the
1:05:48
chaos. I can't have that around me. If you are still socializing with
1:05:56
people that love chaos, you need to separate yourself from their immediate Yes,
1:06:00
I said immediately. If you are still hanging around and associating yourself with people
1:06:10
that are bitter, evil, mean spirited people, you're not gonna get far.
1:06:19
Sometimes you have to change the circle. Sometimes you have to change the
1:06:25
people, and most importantly, you have to change you. Because you can't
1:06:32
say I want to be better, but you're not doing anything to make it
1:06:36
better. Do you understand what I'm saying? You can't say you want these
1:06:41
things. If you're not doing what it takes to get to the next level,
1:06:47
you can't say these that you know that's what you want. If you're
1:06:50
not taking the necessary steps, if you're not being productive in you're healing,
1:06:55
baby, you're never gonna heal. You'll forever be a miserable person. You're
1:06:59
gonna forever be alone because not everyone. Everybody wants to be around sad,
1:07:02
miserable people all day. I know I don't, and that's that boundary.
1:07:14
And it's okay to stand on what you want for yourself because once you do
1:07:23
that, you'll start attracting the same like minded people such as yourself. I've
1:07:30
noticed that since I started to that, since I started the transition, because
1:07:35
that's what it is. It's a transition, not necessarily a change, but
1:07:39
a transition. Because I went from being this person three years ago to the
1:07:43
person and the woman and the mother I am today. I transitioned. I
1:07:46
changed. I let go of a lot of things that kept me bound and
1:07:55
that was hurt, that was pain, that was anger, that was guilt.
1:07:59
That was good. And once I started to eliminate those one by one,
1:08:05
one door started to open, Another door started to open. Then another
1:08:10
door opened. Then another door opened, and I became a light. And
1:08:15
once God saw that my life was bright enough, he said, okay,
1:08:18
now with your big mouth, this is what I need you to do.
1:08:25
So I did it. I did it. I now have a better relationship
1:08:32
with my mother. I have the most beautiful relationship with my sister. But
1:08:38
I have the greatest relationship of all with my children. God blessed me with
1:08:44
the most amazing man. God has blessed me with the most amazing people that
1:08:48
love me genuinely. The very same people that the Lord has blessed me with
1:08:58
have showed me that I'm out above correction. Baby, And anytime I fall
1:09:01
down, they tapping me. Get up, Get up. You're a winner.
1:09:12
Get up. I say this to you. You're winners, You're not
1:09:19
losers. Okay, you fell down that they get up. Stop blaming other
1:09:28
people. Take accountability for your actions. Be mindful, choose wisely with how
1:09:35
you respond to certain situations. Sometimes you don't even have to address the people's
1:09:47
silences everything. Some things don't even deserve a response. You'll see something and
1:09:59
you don't lie. Keep going. Save yourself the headache, save your protect
1:10:03
your peace, baby, of all things, protect your peace. Honey.
1:10:08
You don't have to respond to everything if you don't like it. You know
1:10:11
what, whatever you don't like it, I'm not going back and forth.
1:10:16
We're not going let me say this, let me correct this, because it's
1:10:18
about us tonight, not just me, but it's about us. We're not
1:10:21
going back and forth with people no more. Okay, you know what.
1:10:24
This is what we're gonna say. You know a baby, you're right,
1:10:26
you got it, you got it, you got it. Let them have
1:10:31
it. Mm hmm. Two plus If they tell you two plus two equal
1:10:36
five, just say you're right, two plus two equal five. You got
1:10:40
it. Stop arguing with people, Stop stooping down today level, because you
1:10:45
know you're better than that. Take care of yourself. And I'm talking about
1:10:56
mentally, emotionally, ritually, and physically. Take care of yourself. Stay
1:11:02
out of the way. Stop trying to be Hollywood all the time. Everybody
1:11:08
want to be seen all the time. I don't care if I'm seen or
1:11:11
unseen. I don't care if you'll see me. Hey, you don't.
1:11:14
Hey, that's what you do. Stop showing up every time somebody calls you,
1:11:27
because how many times did they show up for you when you call them
1:11:31
m if you could call somebody right now with an answer for you. Y'all
1:11:43
always showing up for everybody else, but who shows up for you? You?
1:11:47
Always breaking bread and giving you all to everybody, but who's pouring back
1:11:53
into you? But yet these are the friendships and the people y'all want to
1:11:57
hold on to. These are the family members you want to hold onto.
1:12:01
No, you're not gonna leave me Thursday, no more. I guarantee you
1:12:05
that you're not gonna We're not gonna keep allowing people to keep giving us empty
1:12:12
cups. And when you pick it up, it's empty, and they've gone
1:12:19
on and you dreamed they depleted you. And then you want to run back
1:12:29
and you want to rebuild this vine. No bathing. Uh take take you
1:12:32
and your empty glass and I will. I wish you the best. I
1:12:40
love you. It ain't no hard feelings, my love. I wish you
1:12:44
the best. Great job, great job, what's them wealth? Pray for
1:12:56
and leave you with God. Stop trying to help people that don't want to
1:12:59
be help. Stop trying to fix people that don't want to be fixed,
1:13:02
because in the midst of you trying to fix other people, you're breaking yourself.
1:13:09
It hurts more the hold on than it is to let go. Y'all
1:13:13
been lot going in people that don't. He'll let me tell you something.
1:13:15
I'm gonna let them FoST go. I'm gonna let them people go because God
1:13:23
is gonna replace them with something. Let me tell you something. God is
1:13:25
gonna remove those people out of your circle, and he's gonna replace you with
1:13:28
better friends. God is gonna replace you and put you in the path of
1:13:33
better like minded people that think the same way you think, that feel the
1:13:38
same way you feel. I know those relationship break ups hurt, those friendships,
1:13:47
I know it hurts, But think about the peace that you come from
1:13:54
those broken for those friendships that ended, for those relationships that ended. How
1:14:00
much peace you have to stop thinking about what you lose and think about more
1:14:03
of what you gain. Because not one friend or a one person that I
1:14:11
thought was a friend that I lost, stop stop my money from rolling in.
1:14:16
Not one person that I lost did it stop me from sleeping good at
1:14:20
night? Not one person. But that's what we do. We break these
1:14:30
you know, these friendships, in these relationships in and then we run right
1:14:34
back to them, only to be burned again and again and again and again,
1:14:40
and it just keeps going and going and going, and no, be
1:14:45
you're burning me one time. That's it. We're getting too old to keep
1:14:50
forgiven and forgiven and forgiven for people that continue on with the same behavior.
1:15:00
Got one time. Mm hmm. One time. I'm gonna forgive your baby,
1:15:08
but I'll never forget. And if we never speak, do sus If
1:15:16
I see you, hey, how you doing? Good? To see you
1:15:19
good? Great to hear well, all right, I'm gonna holler at you
1:15:23
later and keep it moving. Y'all not holding me back. I'm sorry,
1:15:30
they're not holding us back no more. Mm hmm. We're not doing it.
1:15:38
We're not doing it anymore. Nope, Flora says the amen to that,
1:15:44
less encourage. Hey, Nash, she said, you better preach sis.
1:15:47
We're not doing it. We're not doing it. We're not doing it
1:15:53
no more for the nine nine and the two thousand. Baby, let me
1:15:56
tell you. If we're not doing it, we're letting the people go.
1:16:01
We opening doors and we letting people walk out. See your later, that's
1:16:10
what we're doing. But at all times, you better protect your peace at
1:16:16
all times. You put those boundaries up at all times. You be selfish
1:16:21
with yourself. You don't wear anybody one of the most beautiful things. Let
1:16:26
me say this to you'all, taking a break is not a sign of weakness.
1:16:30
It's a sign of strength. Take a break. Use that PTO at
1:16:36
work. Prepare the mothers, let them people deal with that. Stop letting
1:16:44
people that work drain you. Use that time, baby. Stop being coned.
1:16:48
They don't. They're not considerate to you. Stop being considerate of there.
1:16:51
Take that time off. That job will be there. I want to
1:17:00
tell you failure is never an option. You fall down, get up.
1:17:10
You are a winner. And I'm telling you you're a winner. You do
1:17:15
beautiful yet amazing things. And I'm proud of you. And if not one
1:17:25
person has told you this today, I love you and I'm proud of you.
1:17:36
I love your transition. I know right now you can't see the other
1:17:45
end of the tunnel, but it's there. That light is there. The
1:17:56
further you go on your journey, the bigger the light gets. The further
1:18:01
you go on your journey, the better you become as a person. The
1:18:06
further you're go on your journey, the more you heal. It's painful and
1:18:14
it's ugly, but it's beautiful. Look at how diamonds start, y'all.
1:18:25
Y'all so focused on what it's going to look like instead of what you have
1:18:30
to go through to get to it. We already know the finished product is
1:18:38
going to be beautiful. We know that you're beautiful. We know that you're
1:18:50
amazing. We know that you're resilient. We know that you're strong, But
1:18:59
we also or when you're weak. We also know when you're hurting. And
1:19:04
it's okay to take a step back. It's okay to reset. It's okay
1:19:10
to relax. It's okay to release and try it again. Stop beating yourself
1:19:19
down because you didn't get it right the first time. Get up and try
1:19:27
it again, try it another way, because now you've determined that, okay,
1:19:33
this one didn't work, so let me try it this way and keep
1:19:40
trying, keep trying, don't give up. Don't beat yourself down about it
1:19:47
because someone got to it before you did. That's okay. It's okay to
1:19:58
love people from a distance. It's okay to be mindful about the people you
1:20:04
allowing your circle. It's okay stop inviting everybody to your house. Everybody's energy
1:20:15
is not good. Be mindful what who prays over you? Because not everybody's
1:20:19
praying correctly for you. You may have someone praying for your downfall. M
1:20:30
you very well? Me hm. We have another episode in the books tonight,
1:20:39
ladies and gentlemen. Today was wellness Wednesday. And maybe when I said
1:20:45
the night, maybe somebody needed to hear that. Somebody could be right now
1:20:55
tired and ready to give up and ready to throw in a towel, but
1:21:00
then they heard the message tonight and say, you know what, I'm gonna
1:21:03
get up and I'm gonna fight another day. That's what black Girl interrupted.
1:21:09
It's all about It's about loving, it's about encouraging, it's about empowering.
1:21:17
It's about uplifting, spreading positivity through love, and just having these real life
1:21:27
conversations because we real life go through this stuff and a lot of us are
1:21:31
alone in this and a lot of us feel like I don't have anybody.
1:21:34
Yeah you do, You got God. Dig deep. Your happiness is gonna
1:21:45
come, but it starts within you. Stop depending on other people that make
1:21:50
you happy and figure out what makes you happy. I promise you you'll be
1:22:00
much better spiritually, emotionally, physically. All that just goes hand in hand.
1:22:14
And that is another episode of Black Girl. And throughout the podcast,
1:22:17
Thank your Opportunity for Wellness. Wednesday, I just had to encourage somebody.
1:22:23
I just I, like I said, I've been making posts on Facebook all
1:22:26
day in some of the comments and the responses, you know, I just
1:22:32
I wish y'all well. I wish y'all the best. I really wish that
1:22:43
you could see what I see in y'all. I really truly do. I
1:22:50
look at some of y'all and I'm just like, man, I don't I
1:22:54
just really don't even think you know how special you are. I just really
1:23:00
I don't think you know how loved you are and how blessed I am to
1:23:08
be in the company of a lot of y'all. I don't think y'all like
1:23:12
I just, I don't think y'all understand how great you are and wherever you
1:23:23
are in life, please do not that. Do not think that that is
1:23:28
your final destination, because it's not. And on that note, I'm gonna
1:23:34
go ahead and bring the episode to a coose so Truth Vibes podcast, he
1:23:44
says, I love the show tonight, enjoy the rest of your night,
1:23:45
everyone. Flora says, I love this. Thank you, she says,
1:23:49
stay blessed. My friend absolutely a. So tomorrow night, you guys know,
1:23:57
Black Girl Interrupted does stream every life I have every Tuesday, every Thursday,
1:24:01
but tomorrow, So tomorrow night we are continuing the conversation for sexual sexual
1:24:09
Assault Awareness Month, and tomorrow we will be discussing quite on a set the
1:24:15
documentary on Nickelodeon and how it pertains to what we're dealing with in everyday life
1:24:25
with Sexual Assault Awareness Month. If you are easily triggered, there will be
1:24:35
trigger warnings. There will be some things that are said that may trigger people
1:24:41
that may that coupletential that are victims of sexual assault. This is to educate
1:24:51
and encourage and and and and advocate for someone that may have been a victim.
1:24:59
So this is what we're doing for the entire month of April is everything
1:25:02
is Sexual Assault Awareness Month. So we will be having those conversations again streaming
1:25:10
tomorrow night eight thirty pm Central Time, nine thirty Eastern time, streaming live
1:25:14
on Facebook as well as YouTube. Excuse me, my mind literally just went
1:25:25
blank. But I do want to say thank y'all to each and every person
1:25:28
that tuned in tonight. Thank you guys for your love, support, the
1:25:30
encouragement, everything that you guys do. Trust me, it does not go
1:25:34
unnoticed. I am very appreciative of you guys. I love you guys.
1:25:39
I just man, you guys are just so so freaking amazing and I definitely
1:25:45
will not change that for you guys. But again, tomorrow night, we
1:25:49
will be discussing Quiet on the set of documentary on Nickelodeon and would love for
1:25:56
everyone to show up, comments, feedback, and everything would be very beautiful
1:26:00
for me as well. So on that note, I love you, guys.
1:26:06
I hope everyone has a beautiful night. Again. Today is Wednesday,
1:26:10
it is Wellness Wednesday. I will definitely keep up all the Wellness Wednesday posts
1:26:16
for anyone that may need it. But I love you guys. I hope
1:26:21
you have a beautiful night, and I will see y'all tomorrow night, same
1:26:25
time, oh the same time, same place, and y'all be careful.
1:26:30
I love y'all. Hella Z