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Thanks For Being Here... · Billy & Lisa in the Morning: The After Show

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Speaker 1: Hey, what's up? Guys? Have to show podcast justin here,
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Speaker 1: whoever you are listening. I appreciate it so much. Today's Thursday,
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Speaker 1: May twenty eighth. I love doing this after show podcast.
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Speaker 1: It's kind of like a confessional, but I have guessed.
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Speaker 1: Sometimes you never know what I'm gonna say or what
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna talk about, and I like that it's raw,
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Speaker 1: it's sometimes emotional, sometimes it's funny. I hope and I
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Speaker 1: hope that you enjoy it. And some days like today Thursday,
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Speaker 1: kind of in a rush, but I never want to
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Speaker 1: leave you a hanging. Billy has the Food Show. If
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Speaker 1: you're an OG listener of the app to show, you know,
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Speaker 1: every other Thursday, the Food Show happens, so I gotta
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Speaker 1: be rushed out. And then today we even meeting. It's
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Speaker 1: a programming meeting. It's not like yesterday's meeting, which was
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Speaker 1: just with the Boss, which by the way went really
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Speaker 1: really good man, really really good news. The Boss was
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Speaker 1: very very happy. You know, we are Ratings are a
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Speaker 1: part of what we do. You know, that's how they measure,
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Speaker 1: you know, who's listening, how many people are listening. It's
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Speaker 1: good for us, it's good for the advertisers because it
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Speaker 1: helps sell more advertising and you know, make the company
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Speaker 1: more money and hopefully put my mond in our pockets.
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Speaker 1: That's kind of how it works behind the scenes. To you,
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Speaker 1: it doesn't matter, because to you, you just want to
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Speaker 1: tune in and have fun, laugh and be informed and
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Speaker 1: find out what's going on, which I hope we do
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Speaker 1: a good job of. But when it comes to ratings,
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Speaker 1: you know, we consistently do well at Kiss one oh
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Speaker 1: eight because we are a heritage radio station in Boston.
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Speaker 1: I feel like people just listen, but it's our job
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Speaker 1: to make it compelling and make it funny and make
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Speaker 1: people want to come back and listen again and again.
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Speaker 1: But the boss was reading the ratings yesterday, it was
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Speaker 1: like mind blowing, man, So thank you to everybody. We
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Speaker 1: had a huge month last night, the last two months huge,
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Speaker 1: all the way up through May huge. I'm not gonna
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Speaker 1: get into the numbers and all that because it doesn't
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Speaker 1: really matter. But you know, there's different demographics. Obviously, we
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Speaker 1: have a target demo. We have a demo that you know,
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Speaker 1: our bonuses are based on. We have bonuses written into
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Speaker 1: our contract and we aren't just really crushing. So the
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Speaker 1: boss was very very happy, you know, and it feels good.
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Speaker 1: It feels good that people are liking the show and
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Speaker 1: they want to come back, and they are there and
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Speaker 1: they are listening. And the big thing now is summer
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Speaker 1: because what happens is you have teachers or parents in
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Speaker 1: general who take their kids to school. That's a huge
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Speaker 1: portion of our audience. And what happens is when summer happens,
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Speaker 1: they're not getting the kids up to take them to school,
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Speaker 1: they're not in the cars listening. So the listening kind
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Speaker 1: of goes down and then it comes right back up
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Speaker 1: after summer. So it's our job to remind everybody that
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Speaker 1: you can still listen while you're at home. You know,
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Speaker 1: if you have an Alexa, you can listen on the
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Speaker 1: iHeart app, you can listen on your phone. We also
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Speaker 1: have a podcast that you can listen to too, So
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Speaker 1: it's kind of getting that messaging out because every year,
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Speaker 1: no matter what, when September hits, we get the talk
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Speaker 1: back from teachers, Oh, I'm so happy to be back.
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Speaker 1: I'm back listening, and we're like, well, we've been here
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Speaker 1: all summer long. So we were kind of talking about
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Speaker 1: maybe like we set up a prize to the best
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Speaker 1: talkbacker over the summer and award them something at the end,
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Speaker 1: you know, something to get people to keep listening because
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Speaker 1: we're here, nothing's changing, you know, if people's schedules are changing,
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Speaker 1: and when we get that and if they can't listen
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Speaker 1: in the morning, they can always listen on the podcast,
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Speaker 1: which we appreciate so much. What else, Yesterday was a
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Speaker 1: very tough day for me. I will share this because
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Speaker 1: sometimes it is a confessional. You know, I talk a
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Speaker 1: lot about recovery and addiction, and you know, if you're
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Speaker 1: tired of hearing of that stuff. I'm not going to
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Speaker 1: apologize for it because it's a part of who I am.
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Speaker 1: But you can gauge how big it is to me
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Speaker 1: by how much I share about it and in the
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Speaker 1: role that it plays in my life. Everything in my
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Speaker 1: life is based on that because if I did not
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Speaker 1: have that, if I didn't have recovery, I would not
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Speaker 1: be able to be here and do this. It's that
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Speaker 1: crucial right, the disease of addiction. So it comes out
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Speaker 1: in all different ways. And while I'm talking about it
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Speaker 1: making references to it, I know, I know again and again,
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Speaker 1: and you know, there are people that Le've talked back
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Speaker 1: sometimes like enough, justin enough. We get it. You're an addict,
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Speaker 1: we get it, and I understand that. But it's who
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Speaker 1: I am, you know, And yesterday was a very very
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Speaker 1: tough day for me. You know, I have a close
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Speaker 1: friend of mine who I got clean with years ago,
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Speaker 1: been my friend just like me. Success story, built his life,
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Speaker 1: got married, had a kid, built a business, super successful guy,
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Speaker 1: one of the best guys you will ever meet. And
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Speaker 1: you know, the last couple of years have been kind
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Speaker 1: of weird, you know, because you know, I kind of
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Speaker 1: stopped seeing him well when I had kids. He has
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Speaker 1: a kid, but I had younger kids, so you know,
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Speaker 1: schedules change and stuff, so we would check in hair there.
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Speaker 1: I talked to him probably like a few months ago,
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Speaker 1: and his dad was in hospice. His dad's unbelievable guy,
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Speaker 1: and you know, so I talked to him him like, oh, man, okay,
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Speaker 1: you know, he's doing okay, but he's in hospice, so
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Speaker 1: he's not really doing okay. So he was kind of
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Speaker 1: struggling with that, and you know, I check in with
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Speaker 1: him from you know, hair there, and you know, he
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Speaker 1: had been clean for almost twenty years. And I got
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Speaker 1: a message from his wife a couple of days ago
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Speaker 1: that that he had relapsed, and you know, like right
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Speaker 1: away it was like that feeling in my body like hills,
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Speaker 1: like oh my god. So you know, I had been
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Speaker 1: talking to her, coming up with a plan to talk
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Speaker 1: to him. I called, he wasn't answering, and you know,
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Speaker 1: I finally got on the phone with him via his
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Speaker 1: wife yesterday, and it was bad. It was It was
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Speaker 1: very bad. I could tell. You know, he's very emotional,
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Speaker 1: obviously drunk, been drinking day and night, not going to work,
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Speaker 1: just really falling apart the grief of losing his father.
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Speaker 1: It was just really really, uh really sad. So I
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Speaker 1: was gonna meet him today and uh and go see
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Speaker 1: him and take him out. And then I just had
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Speaker 1: the thought like, well, I can't leave him there, you know,
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Speaker 1: like he's not in good shape. Like we got to
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Speaker 1: get him in somewhere today. So you know, I made
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Speaker 1: some phone calls, I had my wife help me, and
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Speaker 1: ended up getting him in a bed. I was gonna call
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Speaker 1: Damon and Maddie, but you know, my wife's best friend
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Speaker 1: runs a place kind of near where he is, and
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Speaker 1: so you know, I got his wife to get him
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Speaker 1: to agree to go, and he said I will. I'll
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Speaker 1: only go up Justin comes and gets me. And you know,
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Speaker 1: in that time, at first he was saying no, and
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Speaker 1: then he wouldn't. He said, oh, he would go, and
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Speaker 1: then he wouldn't like talking on the phone with the
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Speaker 1: people with admissions. It was a whole big thing, okay,
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Speaker 1: And finally he said he would go, and he had
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Speaker 1: to be there by a certain time five o'clock. And
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Speaker 1: typically you don't do these things alone. It's kind of
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Speaker 1: frowned upon to do. Like they call him twelve step calls. Basically,
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Speaker 1: if somebody's like using or drinking, you're not supposed to
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Speaker 1: go as another recovering addict alone. But I was on
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Speaker 1: a time crunch. You know, he had to be there
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Speaker 1: by a certain time. I didn't want to change his mind.
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Speaker 1: His suitcase was packed, so I just went, you know,
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Speaker 1: and I wasn't far away from where he was because
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Speaker 1: I trained with my friend Zeb yesterday at the gym.
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Speaker 1: So I went there, and god, I don't even know
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Speaker 1: if I can get through this. You know, I walked
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Speaker 1: in his house and he was sitting there, and you know,
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Speaker 1: he was just crying, you know, kind of I guess
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Speaker 1: a whimper is how you describe it, like breaking down.
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Speaker 1: You know, this is a grown man. This is like
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Speaker 1: one of the greatest guys that I've ever known. And
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Speaker 1: I walked in and I just walked up to him
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Speaker 1: and we just hugged and I started crying and I
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Speaker 1: was like weeping too. It was just such a moment, man,
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Speaker 1: And he couldn't get it together, you know, and he
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Speaker 1: just kept saying like, like, I fucked up. I can't
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Speaker 1: believe it. I did it. I did it. I did it.
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Speaker 1: And that's all I really could get out of him.
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Speaker 1: And I kind of got him out of the house,
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Speaker 1: you know, obviously he had been drinking heavily. And got
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Speaker 1: him into my car and we drove there and not
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Speaker 1: much conversation, and you know, I just said, you know,
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Speaker 1: I know you fucked up, but you know, it's not
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Speaker 1: about what you did. It's about what you do from
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Speaker 1: now on. You know, I'm gonna get you into this place.
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Speaker 1: We're gonna go there, you're gonna have a bed, and
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Speaker 1: you're gonna turn it around. You know. I'm like, your
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Speaker 1: dad was a great guy, you know, but we can't
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Speaker 1: you can't do this to tarnish his memory and even
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Speaker 1: though all you want to do is drink right now
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Speaker 1: to wash away the pain, you have to think about others.
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Speaker 1: You have to think about your wife and your son,
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Speaker 1: and your family, and your brothers and your sisters, and
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Speaker 1: your dad and his memory like this is. If it
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Speaker 1: has to be about them right now, that's okay, because
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Speaker 1: it will eventually be for you. And it was one
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Speaker 1: of the hardest moments and I've had a long time,
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Speaker 1: and it brought me back, man, it brought me back. See.
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Speaker 1: I can always talk about remembering the last day out
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Speaker 1: there and the pain, and I do remember it, but
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Speaker 1: I had forgotten how it felt. And to see it
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Speaker 1: so close, like right next to me, you know, thinking
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Speaker 1: like he had fucked up his life again, was really
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Speaker 1: really tough. And so I got into the place. They
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Speaker 1: let me you can't go in with them. You have
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Speaker 1: to just leave him at the front door, and I
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Speaker 1: just hugged him in and told him I loved him,
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Speaker 1: and he just kept saying thank you. I can't believe,
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Speaker 1: thank you so much for doing this. And I'm like,
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Speaker 1: show me if you're really thankful, show me. So he's in,
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I did talk to his wife and
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Speaker 1: I said listen, he's gonna wake up tomorrow, he's going
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Speaker 1: to be sober, and he might want to go. You know,
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Speaker 1: he might not want to be there, he might try
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Speaker 1: to check himself out. That's how this thing goes. But
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Speaker 1: we need to be prepared. We need to prepare with
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Speaker 1: a plan for when he gets out and what he's
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Speaker 1: going to do. And you know, there's a lot of
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Speaker 1: things riding here. You know, he's got a business, he's
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Speaker 1: got a family, he's got a lot of things. But
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Speaker 1: as I share all the time in this podcast, doesn't matter. Man,
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Speaker 1: all that stuff will go if he's not sober, if
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Speaker 1: he's not in recovery, if he's not doing the right thing,
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Speaker 1: the business will go, the marriage will go, fatherhood will go.
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Speaker 1: He'll lose it all. So that's the most important thing.
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Speaker 1: And hopefully, even though he was drunk, I got that
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Speaker 1: message across to him. So if you're a praying person,
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Speaker 1: please pray for my friend, even though you don't know him.
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Speaker 1: I do believe in the power of prayer. If you're
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Speaker 1: into that. If not, that's okay. Thoughts thoughts go out
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Speaker 1: to him and to anybody out there struggling. You know,
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Speaker 1: and I guess my biggest take one of my biggest
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Speaker 1: takeaways from that was obviously being there for him and
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Speaker 1: being a friend. And his wife kept saying thank you,
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Speaker 1: and I said, I said, you're welcome. But he would
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Speaker 1: do it for me, and that really is it? Right?
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Speaker 1: He would do it for me, And I said the
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Speaker 1: same thing to him. He would do it for me
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Speaker 1: in a heartbeat if that was me, you know, and
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Speaker 1: that could be me. I know, people don't think that.
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Speaker 1: You know, people meet me and think, oh man, I
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Speaker 1: can't even imagine what Justin was like when he was
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Speaker 1: out there. Well, that was me, full of pain, full
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Speaker 1: of regret, and just a complete mess. So I'm happy
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Speaker 1: that my friend is in there. I'm not happy with
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Speaker 1: the situation, but I'm happy I was there and grateful
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Speaker 1: that I could be there for my friend. See that's
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Speaker 1: called showing up for life and showing up for others.
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Speaker 1: You know, that's the service that they talk about. When
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Speaker 1: we get clean, right, we become of service because we
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Speaker 1: took for so long. All I did was take. I stole,
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Speaker 1: and I ripped and I robbed, and I and just
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Speaker 1: took so much that now it's about giving back in
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Speaker 1: some way, you know. So whether that's taking my friend
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Speaker 1: to detox, or picking up the phone when somebody calls me,
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Speaker 1: or even when I do a commercial for Power of
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Speaker 1: Recovery or do a podcast where I talk about being
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Speaker 1: a recovery and I get a DM from somebody saying
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Speaker 1: that they are, you know, one day clean, two days clean,
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Speaker 1: one year clean. They heard about they heard Maddie and
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Speaker 1: Damon talking about Power of Recovery, went into the program. Anything.
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Speaker 1: That's all part of service and it means a lot
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Speaker 1: to me. So anyway, sorry for the confessional, gotta jump
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Speaker 1: in the meeting. I ended with three minutes so thinking
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Speaker 1: about my friend and yeah, we'll talk tomorrow. It's Friday.
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Speaker 1: Weather doesn't look that nice, but that's okay. We stay
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Speaker 1: positive around these pots, all right, Later Army