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☀️ Ennea-Summer: Enneagram 6 The Loyalist · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

• 0:02
  SPEAKER_01: Welcome to the Simply Wholehearted Podcast with Amy Wicks, your wholehearted life and business coach.
• 0:10
  SPEAKER_01: You should know this podcast will inspire you to grow in self-awareness, be passionate about your faith, and get clear on your calling.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_01: If you are new here, then welcome to the community of multi-passionate women who love to go deep on topics like faith, Enneagram, relationships, leadership, and community.
• 0:31
  SPEAKER_01: This conversation might provide the step you need to make the change you desire.
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  SPEAKER_01: So let's get started.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_01: This episode will explore the traits of the Enneagram 6.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_01: I'll share an upstream practice for fostering faith over fear.
• 1:11
  SPEAKER_01: You're going to hear from a wholehearted type six client who is also a wholehearted coach.
• 1:17
  SPEAKER_01: And then wholehearted coach Deanna Sudom will close and conclude with a prayer for trust in God and belief in his voice over fear.
• 1:26
  SPEAKER_01: If you know an Enneagram 6 or you are a 6, I hope you'll take notes and share this fun and easy way to learn about all nine Enneagram types this summer.
• 1:36
  SPEAKER_01: And remember, if it isn't safe to take notes while you listen, well don't worry.
• 1:41
  SPEAKER_01: Just click the link in the show notes and you can download the guide sheet that is all about the Enneagram 6, plus find the guide sheets for all of the other Enneagram types as well.
• 1:53
  SPEAKER_01: Here's a quick snapshot of the Enneagram 6.
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  SPEAKER_01: A 6's core fear is lacking support, security, or guidance, being blamed, targeted, alone, or abandoned.
• 2:06
  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram 6's core desire is to have security, external support, and guidance from trusted advisors.
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  SPEAKER_01: The 6's core weakness is anxiety, which leads them to remain in constant apprehension and worry, where they might be continually scanning the horizon, trying to predict or prevent worst-case scenarios.
• 2:26
  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram 6's core longing is to know that they are safe and secure.
• 2:34
  SPEAKER_01: Let's talk about the Enneagram wings.
• 2:37
  SPEAKER_01: Enneagram wings are the two personality types on either side of the primary personality type.
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  SPEAKER_01: For instance, for the type 6, those wings are the type 5 and the type 7.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oftentimes one wing is used more than other.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's just like adding salt and pepper to a potato or sugar and cream to coffee.
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  SPEAKER_01: It doesn't change the primary type, but it does add flavor to it.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that means the main type, for instance, the type 6 core fears in their perception dominates their experience, but the wings do impact and influence.
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  SPEAKER_01: It also may add some additional internal conflicts or even layers of the childhood experience or wounds because of those wings.
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  SPEAKER_01: So the idea is to just have awareness about our wounded parts so that we might mend them and use our wings and balance to experience forward momentum.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Neagram 6 wing 5 tends to struggle with their conflicting desires.
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  SPEAKER_01: The type 6 wants to band together, and the type 5 often would rather detach or withdraw.
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  SPEAKER_01: So a type 6 wing 5 tends to be more vigilant for potential adversaries, yet they have a mindful voice for the underdogs.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram 6-wing 7 combination tends to blend well as both types are more sociable and enjoy finding new connections.
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  SPEAKER_01: Even though this type does tend to be more anxious, they are a warm and engaging friend who looks out for problems but also wants to have fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: The 6-wing seven Achilles heel is often indecision or conflicting voices from the inner committee and the desire to please and have fun.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now let's talk about the Intelligence Center for the Type 6.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Intelligence Center is also known as a Enneagram triad, and the specific triad that the 6 fits in is the head triad.
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  SPEAKER_01: It also helps us understand how these types tend to approach decision making.
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  SPEAKER_01: So people in the head triad often evaluate situations through their thoughts before determining their emotional responses.
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  SPEAKER_01: Anxiety tends to be the emotional reaction within the head triad, and again, those types are the five, six, and seven.
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  SPEAKER_01: So anxiety tends to drive their thoughts and actions.
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  SPEAKER_01: When facing choices, these Enneagram types prioritize options that offer a sense of security that helps them align their core desires and quest for stability.
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  SPEAKER_01: For the six specifically, security is placed in their ability to plan and prepare for safety.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram 6's communication preference falls within the dutiful stance in the Enneagram, and this means they tend to come alongside others in conversation and even conflict.
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  SPEAKER_01: They tend to be more attuned to what others need, want, or expect of them.
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  SPEAKER_01: The positive intention of those in the dutiful stance is to work alongside the ideas of visions or others in a group.
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  SPEAKER_01: But these types often get frustrated or overwhelmed by those who are either too pushy or are simply non-responsive.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram types in the dutiful stance are the one, two, and six, and they tend to struggle most with the boundaries that are needed in relationships or obviously the workplace as well.
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  SPEAKER_01: The strength though is that they are present focused.
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  SPEAKER_01: They tend to think, what should be done right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: The what happens in the moment informs them of what they do right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: They easily recognize what's unfolding at the moment, and they love to invite others to experience it with them.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, I'm sure it hasn't escaped your attention that when you look at the Enneagram diagram, there's a bunch of lines within the circle.
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, all of those lines denote connections of stress and growth for each type.
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  SPEAKER_01: So here are the details about the specific lines connected to the Enneagram 6.
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  SPEAKER_01: When the Enneagram 6 is operating under stress and perhaps with unawareness, they go to the lower average side of the type 3.
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  SPEAKER_01: They become competitive and arrogant, they tend to overbook their schedules in hopes to avoid feeling anxious, and they are reluctant to try new things if failure is a possibility.
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  SPEAKER_01: But when the Enneagram 6 does the hard work and they respond with purpose and intentionality, they're going to exhibit the high or healthy side of the type 9.
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  SPEAKER_01: So anxiety-ridden sixes become more relaxed and optimistic, believing it'll all work out.
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  SPEAKER_01: They take life less seriously and they free up their energy to relax.
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  SPEAKER_01: And ultimately, it creates more empathy.
• 7:25
  SPEAKER_01: Remember, your starting point doesn't have to be your stuck point.
• 7:29
  SPEAKER_01: When a six practices rhythms of engaging in silence, silence helps them to learn how to attune to God's voice, which is not always easy to recognize.
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  SPEAKER_01: Silence also opens the door to encountering Jesus, the true loyalist.
• 7:43
  SPEAKER_01: Broken-hearted moments are transformed into wholehearted healing as a six declares these truth statements.
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  SPEAKER_01: May I acknowledge and release my fear to a trustworthy God.
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  SPEAKER_01: May I receive the courage that is offered to me at this moment, and may I embrace the faith to believe in the best possible scenario.
• 8:04
  SPEAKER_01: When the constant noise from the worst-case scenario threatens to drown out peace for the six, the invitation is to place their trust in what is true.
• 8:12
  SPEAKER_01: Take time for reflective gratitude for all the ways the Lord has come through for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: When a six engages in silence, they will discover their courage is found in Christ.
• 8:23
  SPEAKER_01: Author AJ Sherrill advises Enneagram Sixes to utilize the discipline of scripture memory in their spiritual rhythms.
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  SPEAKER_01: So truly, when disappointment and fears feel insurmountable, the word of the Lord can be a safe refuge.
• 8:38
  SPEAKER_01: And the season of the church calendar to pay special attention to is Advent.
• 8:43
  SPEAKER_01: Advent reminds us that light is coming and we won't have to always stay in darkness.
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  SPEAKER_01: It also acknowledges the living between here and not yet.
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  SPEAKER_01: Advent provides hope that whatever happens, God's sovereign purposes prevail.
• 9:03
  SPEAKER_01: She is a wholehearted client who is now a wholehearted coach.
• 9:07
  SPEAKER_01: She is such a dear woman who has overcome so many obstacles to work on this desire and dream business of hers.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm excited to hear from her voice and her perspective about the wholehearted journey.
• 9:25
  SPEAKER_00: Hi, I'm Selena.
• 9:27
  SPEAKER_00: I live in Texas.
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  SPEAKER_00: Here's my wholehearted journey.
• 9:30
  SPEAKER_00: I first heard about the Enneogram from my husband.
• 9:33
  SPEAKER_00: He got introduced to it by a colleague from work.
• 9:36
  SPEAKER_00: My initial reaction, ooh, the Enneogram.
• 9:40
  SPEAKER_00: That's cool.
• 9:41
  SPEAKER_00: By then my husband and I had been together for nine years.
• 9:45
  SPEAKER_00: We were always seeking ways to deepen our relationship and understand each other better.
• 9:51
  SPEAKER_00: Early on in our marriage, my husband saw me as someone with many, many, many, many favorites, or as he would say, indecisive.
• 10:00
  SPEAKER_00: We tried different marriage counseling programs, including one on the five love languages.
• 10:06
  SPEAKER_00: My husband had one or two dominant love languages, while I scored equally across all five.
• 10:13
  SPEAKER_00: Naturally, I had a hard time typing myself in the Enneagram.
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  SPEAKER_00: Commit to just one number?
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  SPEAKER_00: How could a complex person like me not be a mix of all of them?
• 10:24
  SPEAKER_00: My husband sometimes calls me divergent.
• 10:27
  SPEAKER_00: Being a type 2, he was naturally inclined to help me figure things out.
• 10:32
  SPEAKER_00: And with his support, I started using the Enneagram to get to know myself better.
• 10:37
  SPEAKER_00: After skimming the basics, I thought I could be a type 2 like my husband.
• 10:41
  SPEAKER_00: Then after several online quizzes, I thought I might be a type 9, but I kept questioning it.
• 10:48
  SPEAKER_00: Years later, I heard about the first wholehearted Enneagram Summit.
• 10:52
  SPEAKER_00: I started listening to Amy's podcast, simply wholehearted, and soon after I reached out to her for coaching sessions.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_00: Not long into our first session, I realized how much I resignated with type 6.
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  SPEAKER_00: I cared deeply about safety and security.
• 11:09
  SPEAKER_00: I learned the subtle differences that made me a type 6 in a phase of growth acting like a healthy type 9.
• 11:17
  SPEAKER_00: As we delved deeper into the inner workings of a Type 6, it felt like someone was finally reading my soul, my heart, my mind.
• 11:25
  SPEAKER_00: It all made sense.
• 11:28
  SPEAKER_00: Though I didn't discover my type right away, I'm glad I did because I believe it was God's timing.
• 11:34
  SPEAKER_00: I considered working with an Enneagram coach after reading several blogs and listening to different podcasts.
• 11:41
  SPEAKER_00: I needed more personalized guidance to understand and apply the Enneagram in my life.
• 11:46
  SPEAKER_00: Hearing success stories and recognizing my need to break through personal barriers convinced me to work with the coach.
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  SPEAKER_00: A pivotal change was realizing how my core fears drove many of my decisions and behaviors.
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  SPEAKER_00: This awareness helped me make more conscious and healthy choices.
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  SPEAKER_00: Understanding my partner's type and my own brought a significant change in our marriage.
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  SPEAKER_00: We communicated better and were more empathetic toward each other's needs and fears.
• 12:18
  SPEAKER_00: I was surprised by how quickly the coaching sessions brought clarity to deep-seated issues.
• 12:24
  SPEAKER_00: Amy's insights helped me see patterns I had not recognized on my own.
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  SPEAKER_00: Currently, I use the Enneagram as a tool for personal growth and in my relationships.
• 12:36
  SPEAKER_00: It helps me understand myself and others better, fostering more meaningful and compassionate interactions.
• 12:44
  SPEAKER_00: Using the Enneagram for ongoing growth involves regular self-reflection, checking my motivations, and being mindful of my type's tendencies.
• 12:55
  SPEAKER_00: It's an ongoing process of self-awareness and improvement.
• 13:04
  SPEAKER_01: Oh man, I'm so grateful for Selena and her willingness to share today.
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  SPEAKER_01: I hope that you are as inspired as I am.
• 13:13
  SPEAKER_01: We are all broken.
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  SPEAKER_01: We are all blowing it.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's the brave one who does something about it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, Deanna Sudan will share her prayer and blessing for the Enneagram six.
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  SPEAKER_02: Type six friend.
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  SPEAKER_02: You have been created to reflect the faithfulness of God, sometimes referred to as the loyal guardian.
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  SPEAKER_02: You have a fierce loyalty with others once you've established trust and will be faithful until the end when that is reciprocated.
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  SPEAKER_02: I sense this is the quality of God that He wants you to know about Him.
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  SPEAKER_02: He will be faithful to the end with you, when all other people might let you down, He never will.
• 13:55
  SPEAKER_02: I have two portions of Scripture to remind you in whom to put your trust.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_02: Psalm 56, verse 4 in NIV says, In God whose word I praise, in God I trust and am not afraid.
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  SPEAKER_02: What can mere mortals do to me?
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  SPEAKER_02: And Proverbs 3, verse 5 and 6, trust in the Lord with all of your heart, and lean not on your own understanding.
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  SPEAKER_02: In all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.
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  SPEAKER_02: Father, thank you for these hardworking, committed, and brave ones.
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  SPEAKER_02: Send them people that will reciprocate their loyalty and commitment, ones that are trustworthy and safe places for them to voice their concerns and have a place of security.
• 14:40
  SPEAKER_02: Thank you for how you formed them in your likeness and made them uniquely able to spot potential problems before they even develop.
• 14:49
  SPEAKER_02: Lord, reassure these problem solvers that this is who you are for them.
• 14:54
  SPEAKER_02: We are grateful for their desire for justice and the ability to walk in your law with respect for rules and authorities.
• 15:02
  SPEAKER_02: Lord, help them when fears and anxiety arise to pause and try to understand what the root of these reactions are.
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  SPEAKER_02: Show them how to interrupt these patterns of thinking that spiral them to insecurity, to be able to take these thoughts captive unto you.
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  SPEAKER_02: Give them strength to confront their fears.
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  SPEAKER_02: Clear their vision, Lord, to see things as they really are.
• 15:27
  SPEAKER_02: God thank you for the influence these responsible type sixes have in this world and in systems and bringing order.
• 15:35
  SPEAKER_02: Let them be aware of how their mood can affect others and how their perception of the way they are being seen may be skewed in this, but how you are not a god of confusion, but of peace.
• 15:47
  SPEAKER_02: Give them a sense of your presence in the midst of their struggles.
• 15:52
  SPEAKER_02: Thank you for their quick-witted sense of humor and how you use this as well for them to create community and change.
• 16:00
  SPEAKER_02: Lord, we ask for the mind of Christ over them so that they are aligned with you in thought and words.
• 16:07
  SPEAKER_02: Will you use their gifts for the benefit of others and to the glory of your name?
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  SPEAKER_02: I pray these things in the precious name of Jesus.
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  SPEAKER_02: Amen.
• 16:20
  SPEAKER_01: As we wrap up our discussion on the Enneagram 6, remember that true security comes from God and God alone.
• 16:27
  SPEAKER_01: I invite you to try today's practices and prayers to fortify your trust in the Lord and the wisdom that He offers you.
• 16:36
  SPEAKER_01: And join me again for more empowering episodes this summer.