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Why Ya Gotta Be So Mean? · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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Speaker 1: This is t pod. Hey guys, welcome back to this
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Speaker 1: week's Teddy Teapod. I felt like it was fitting that
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Speaker 1: maybe we get into the discussion of bullying, cyber bullying,
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Speaker 1: social media bullying, all those type of things because of
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Speaker 1: what's been going on in my world this last couple
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Speaker 1: of weeks. I mean, of course, there has been so
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Speaker 1: much love and so many great comments, but within those
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Speaker 1: great comments, there are some things that people say that
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Speaker 1: are just so brutal, and you know, whether it's they
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Speaker 1: wish that I died or wishing harm on my kids,
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Speaker 1: I think it really just should remind us all that,
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Speaker 1: like we don't always know what everybody's going through, and
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Speaker 1: in the world of social media, in the world of
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Speaker 1: so many unknowns, we've got to just take a moment
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Speaker 1: to like, if we don't know what's but he's going on,
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Speaker 1: what's going on in somebody's world, take back a moment
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Speaker 1: and say, like, maybe I shouldn't say that, Maybe I
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Speaker 1: don't actually wish this stranger dead, Maybe I don't wish
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Speaker 1: this karma on their kids. Like around the same time
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Speaker 1: people are saying karmically, we hope something happens to your children.
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Speaker 1: You know, my daughter is getting neurosurgery, or my son's
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Speaker 1: broken his thumb or whatever it may be. And I am, like,
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Speaker 1: you know, trying my heart is not to break down
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Speaker 1: and be the strongest parent that I can, but also
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Speaker 1: trying to be this balance of being myself on social
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Speaker 1: media and saying like here, I am sharing the good,
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Speaker 1: the bad, and the ugly of myself, but like, also,
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Speaker 1: you're really hurting my feelings and I don't know you,
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Speaker 1: And you know, it's been a really like sad week
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Speaker 1: with Chad Chadwick Boseman's passing away. And I remember back
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Speaker 1: when he was doing Black Panther or there was an
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Speaker 1: Instagram photo or something and it was people commenting on
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Speaker 1: his weight loss, and and the fact that people would
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Speaker 1: would comment on something they have no idea about. It's
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Speaker 1: just heartbringing, especially with what we know now. And I'm
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Speaker 1: not comparing our situations in any way. I'm only comparing
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Speaker 1: it to the world of being virtually online and not
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Speaker 1: knowing all the information. We've got to take a look
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Speaker 1: at ourselves. We've got to be able to say, when
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Speaker 1: I say this to somebody's face, could I live with
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Speaker 1: myself saying this to somebody's face? And what would I
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Speaker 1: do if somebody actually said this to my face? Um?
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Speaker 1: And so because of that, I'm going to bring on
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Speaker 1: a specialist today to talk about how we can protect
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Speaker 1: our children's from cyber bullying and give us a lot
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Speaker 1: of useful information. I'm also going to have Rebecca Black on,
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Speaker 1: which I'm beyond excited about. She knows this world of
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Speaker 1: cyber bullying beyond and I'm excited to dig into it.
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Speaker 1: And thanks you guys for listening. Are you guys now?
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Speaker 1: I'm so excited to get on. Josh Oaks, who has
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Speaker 1: smart Social dot Com. He has a background at Disney
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Speaker 1: and a love for all things technology. Josh combines both
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Speaker 1: to help teens and tweens use social media as a
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Speaker 1: portfolio of positive accomplishments. How cool is that Josh travels
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Speaker 1: the nation speaking to over thirty thousand students each year
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Speaker 1: sharing tips to create positive online activity. To me, that
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Speaker 1: is a game changer because so often we are seeing
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Speaker 1: negative activity when it comes to our teens and tweens. So, Josh,
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Speaker 1: just to kind of catch you up to date, you know,
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Speaker 1: I'm on a you know reality show that the Good,
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Speaker 1: the Bad, and the Ugly, and it's one of the
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Speaker 1: things that comes with the packages. What people say, and
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Speaker 1: what I always say is like, listen, I think you
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Speaker 1: should definitely have your favorites, the ones that you don't
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Speaker 1: like as much, whatever it is. But I never want
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Speaker 1: anybody you to wish harm on somebody else. And and
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Speaker 1: something that was recently starting is I started to get
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Speaker 1: messages not only saying to me, um, you know, I
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Speaker 1: hope you die Teddy, more along the lines of like
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Speaker 1: because of you, karma happened, and that's why your daughter
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Speaker 1: daughter needed neurosurgery, or you know, I hope something happens
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Speaker 1: to your kids as payback for what happened on the show.
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Speaker 1: And it really started leading me thinking about ways to
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Speaker 1: protect our kids. You know, yes, I can protect them
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Speaker 1: through my social media. Most of the time, the people
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Speaker 1: messaging need these things don't have any followers. It's like
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Speaker 1: a dog as the Instagram photo, and if I block them,
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Speaker 1: then somebody with a similar name will start saying the
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Speaker 1: same types of things. So, you know, I think it's
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Speaker 1: people with a lot of time on their hands that
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Speaker 1: are just kind of unhappy. But I want as my
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Speaker 1: kids get older, you know, like my kids already are
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Speaker 1: like can we can we be on TikTok. Can we
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Speaker 1: do that? I'm like, no, you know, but what is
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Speaker 1: the healthy boundary is that you can set as a
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Speaker 1: family without creating fear, but also creating you know, a
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Speaker 1: successful relationship with social media. Yeah, that's a great question.
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Speaker 1: And so first of all, sorry that people are harsh
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Speaker 1: to you online. We have a couple of rules that
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Speaker 1: I'd love to tell my quick backstory for one second,
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Speaker 1: how I was bullied if I may, and and how
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Speaker 1: that might help you, um teddy. Many years ago, I
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Speaker 1: ran for city council in Hermosa Beach, California, which is
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Speaker 1: where they filmed the original Baywatch many years ago. And
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Speaker 1: it was gorgeous and I was the youngest person on
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Speaker 1: the ballot. I was running against people who are all
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Speaker 1: twice my age about and um in in the race.
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Speaker 1: In the campaign, I set out to knock on more
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Speaker 1: doors than anyone else. I was positive. But there were
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Speaker 1: two people that blogged negatively about every candidate. And I
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Speaker 1: reached out to him and said, hey, you're you're being
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Speaker 1: negative online about every candidate. Can we meet? You don't
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Speaker 1: have to vote for me, but I think you might
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Speaker 1: like me and respect me. Can we sit down the cough.
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Speaker 1: They wrote back to Teddy and said, no, we don't
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Speaker 1: want to meet you, but we're going to continue to
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Speaker 1: blog negatively about you and we don't want to meet you.
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Speaker 1: And and there's a couple of things that happened, Teddy.
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Speaker 1: And this is why I'm one of the forefront people
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Speaker 1: in this space right now, is because number one, it
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Speaker 1: hurts an adult. And if it hurts an adult, that
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Speaker 1: bad that people won't want to meet you, but they'll
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Speaker 1: say terrible things to you as they've done to you
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Speaker 1: or about your family or anything else. It hurts. Guess
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Speaker 1: how much that hurts a child. It's really bad. The
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Speaker 1: second thing is it starts to change our Google results.
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Speaker 1: As these people were blogging, they would people I would meet. Um.
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Speaker 1: I think I knocked on two thousand and fifteen doors
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Speaker 1: over the course of a couple of months, just like
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Speaker 1: do the door knocking, and I ended up. Um. It
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Speaker 1: wasn't a partisan race, it was just it is either
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Speaker 1: right fit for that it was. It was a nonpartisan race.
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Speaker 1: So people just genuinely either liked me or didn't and
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Speaker 1: they always were very kind. But one of the things
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Speaker 1: that also did is it changed my Google results because
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Speaker 1: after you would meet me and see my little thing,
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Speaker 1: and I had a whole crew of people helping me.
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Speaker 1: They would go to Google to search and learn more
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Speaker 1: about me, and these I didn't want these other people
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Speaker 1: coming up in my Google results. So those two important
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Speaker 1: things in my background. The bullying hurts even adults, as
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Speaker 1: you know, and it changes our online footprint for future
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Speaker 1: opportunities and everything else, which is so important. Now, may
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Speaker 1: I give you a couple of ideas. Yes. So one
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Speaker 1: of the things that we find most important and that
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Speaker 1: I did when I was being bullied, was I had
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Speaker 1: friends read the comments. I stopped reading the comments for
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Speaker 1: a while because I was way too sensitive, I learned,
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Speaker 1: and it wasn't good for me to keep doing what
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Speaker 1: I needed to do. So I had a bunch of
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Speaker 1: friends read the comments and then they were to report
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Speaker 1: back to me. They were almost my proxy. They'd go,
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Speaker 1: all right, so this person is just really angry, and
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Speaker 1: this and this and this and these people are great.
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Speaker 1: You should follow up with them. And they made it
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Speaker 1: super easy for me. They were my filter and hearing
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Speaker 1: it from them the negative stuff didn't hurt me because
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Speaker 1: they were my bff. They were one of my friends.
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Speaker 1: And that's something that I know Joe Rogan does. He goes,
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Speaker 1: I don't even read the comments. I have my buddy
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Speaker 1: Jamie go in there and read them. Right, whether you
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Speaker 1: like Joe or not. I listen to a few of things.
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Speaker 1: It's pretty interesting. But that's a person that has a message,
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Speaker 1: that interviewed some of the world's most interesting people and
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Speaker 1: decides not to read the comments of the stuff. Um,
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Speaker 1: and he's able to keep a clear head. So that's
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Speaker 1: one idea is to have somebody else read them, report
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Speaker 1: back only if they're important, or feedback, you know, and
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Speaker 1: then a couple other things to um, I don't know.
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Speaker 1: What do you think about that? Do you have somebody
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Speaker 1: in your life that could do that well? For me?
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Speaker 1: I think yes, of course. And on show day I
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Speaker 1: don't read the comments because I just know, like you know,
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Speaker 1: I couldn't even keep up with that. You know, there
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Speaker 1: is somebody that can monitor and look for me, you know,
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Speaker 1: if I if I wanted, but I wonder for a child,
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Speaker 1: for a kid, what are you going to say to
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Speaker 1: your parents or your friends, like, Hey, I'm really getting
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Speaker 1: bullied online? Can you read my comments for me? That's
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Speaker 1: where it really strikes home for me. To even have
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Speaker 1: to open up and say it's happening concerns me for kids.
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Speaker 1: So we have a couple of rules here at our organization,
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Speaker 1: at smart Social dot com. The number one safety app
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Speaker 1: in the world, the only safety app that's really going
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Speaker 1: to protect your kids, is going to be that healthy
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Speaker 1: dialogue that you have with your children. And another important
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Speaker 1: note is so that means starting that dialogue early and
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Speaker 1: often about what's happening online, what they see, that they
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Speaker 1: can come to you with no judgment whatsoever and tell
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Speaker 1: you anything. You won't get mad, You'll listen, You'll learn.
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Speaker 1: You want to be on all the same apps as them,
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Speaker 1: because they shouldn't be able to go connect with seven
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Speaker 1: billion other people on Snapchat or TikTok or anything else
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Speaker 1: without you being there. But one of the most important
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Speaker 1: things is that dialogue that happens first being on every
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Speaker 1: one of the apps or kids are on, and then
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Speaker 1: next having that open conversation. It is not a one
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Speaker 1: and done, as we tell parents parents. Instead it's a
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Speaker 1: rather than um one ninety minute session talking to your
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Speaker 1: kids about that. It's one minute little discussions. Over the
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Speaker 1: course of a year or two years, continually doing that
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Speaker 1: and that's that's gonna be the hardest part. And the
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Speaker 1: reason for that is young kids don't have a vocabulary
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Speaker 1: about how to deal with this stuff. And if we
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Speaker 1: give our kids a phone, and if a lot of parents,
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Speaker 1: here's what they tell me, Teddy, they say, oh, when
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Speaker 1: I'm ready for my kid to get a phone, then
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Speaker 1: I'll have that talk the day that I give it
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Speaker 1: to them. And unfortunately, that's like saying, hey, when I'm
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Speaker 1: ready for you to learn how to drive, I'll hand
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Speaker 1: you the keys and I'll give you the crash course
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Speaker 1: in thirty seconds or sixty minutes. How to drive No, no, no.
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Speaker 1: Learning how to not have road rage happens a decade
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Speaker 1: before you that right, seeing if right, if you if
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Speaker 1: you have an angry uncle that's always screaming at people,
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Speaker 1: you will you are more inclined to become like that person.
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Speaker 1: So what we tell people is way before you think
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Speaker 1: you need to have that talk, have that talk. But
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Speaker 1: where they get a device, uh talk about if they
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Speaker 1: see something inappropriate online, they can always come to you
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Speaker 1: or a trusted adult. Well I have a question. Um,
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Speaker 1: you know, sometimes you'll hear stuff and it's a hoax
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Speaker 1: or it's whatever, like I forget what it was, maybe
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Speaker 1: like a year ago. They were saying that if you
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Speaker 1: were watching YouTube kids, all of a sudden this like
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Speaker 1: ghostly woman characters coming up and get telling your kids
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Speaker 1: subliminal messages. Did you hear about this? Yeah? Yeah, yeah,
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Speaker 1: so but then you wonder, like is that stuff true?
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Speaker 1: Then all the kids start talking about it, and like,
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Speaker 1: none of my kids have any of their own social
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Speaker 1: media or tablets or anything that they personally own, but like,
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Speaker 1: for example, there is like a forty five minute window
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Speaker 1: a day where they want to play roadblocks with their
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Speaker 1: friends where they get on zoom calls and they roadblocks together.
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Speaker 1: And now what they've started asking, which I know nothing about,
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Speaker 1: is Fortnite. And so I was on a call with
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Speaker 1: other parents for a school thing and I asked, I said,
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Speaker 1: to your kids to play roadblocks, and half of them
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Speaker 1: were like, absolutely not. We heard terrible things about roadblocks.
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Speaker 1: I asked my kids, I'm like, your chats off right
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Speaker 1: there like yes, And I'm like, so how is roadblocks?
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Speaker 1: Like are you talking to strangers? Are you doing? And
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Speaker 1: they're like no, But I, as a parent, I don't
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Speaker 1: really know what roadblocks is. I know they love it,
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Speaker 1: so how do you protect your kids and that capacity
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Speaker 1: as well. Yeah, it's such a good question. I'm actually
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Speaker 1: pulling up. We have we have some really interesting stuff.
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Speaker 1: So those of you who are listening right now, what
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Speaker 1: is fortnite? Let's step back for just a hot sec.
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Speaker 1: Any app your kids are on, you've got to be
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Speaker 1: there before they're atting Teddy. Let's look at an app
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Speaker 1: or a website like a park. If I were to
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Speaker 1: ask you, hey, would you like to take your kids
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Speaker 1: to Central Park in New York? You'd be like, that's beautiful,
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Speaker 1: what's the weather like? Okay, awesome, It's a great place.
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Speaker 1: But if I had then asked you, hey, would you
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Speaker 1: feel comfortable leaving your younger kids alone in Central Park
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Speaker 1: in New York alone as it's getting dark? You'd probably
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Speaker 1: rethink that a little a bit. Nothing against Central Park,
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Speaker 1: it's just it's a place where lots of other people
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Speaker 1: can interact with your kids, and if you haven't gone
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Speaker 1: to that park with your kids the first few times,
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Speaker 1: they won't know what to do or who not to
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Speaker 1: talk to, and all kinds of things. Fortnite is the
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Speaker 1: same thing. In fact, everything is the same. You've got
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Speaker 1: to be there with your kids when they're younger, and
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Speaker 1: know how that park looks at daytime, nighttime, who's on there,
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Speaker 1: how it works, and what might be dangerous for your kids.
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Speaker 1: So Fortnite, for all of you listening right now, it's
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Speaker 1: a multiplayer shooting game available on console, PC, Android, It
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Speaker 1: really everywhere that you could get an app. It's there
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Speaker 1: even on the web sort of. As many as a
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Speaker 1: hundred players can join in a single round, and players
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Speaker 1: fight each other with guns until only one player is
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Speaker 1: left and the other are critically injured or dead. Now,
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Speaker 1: there's been some studies that come out. There's a couple
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Speaker 1: of things that are really dangerous. Number one, there's a
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Speaker 1: lot of chatting in their teddy um. If you ever think,
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Speaker 1: or if any of the listeners right now ever say, oh,
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Speaker 1: my son is he's right there in the corner. He's fine,
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Speaker 1: he's safe. He's just got this headset on. He's just
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Speaker 1: chatting with his friends. He's not in the corner of
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Speaker 1: the room. He's a million miles away, chatting with people
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Speaker 1: who are using four letter words, chatting with people who
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Speaker 1: do not love him as much as you do, and
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Speaker 1: talking with people who might want to move him from
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Speaker 1: Fortnite over to Snapchat or over to Instagram, or over
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Speaker 1: to something else where they can chat offline and the
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Speaker 1: parents won't know. And so that's one of the biggest
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Speaker 1: things is if your kids are wearing a headset, dive in,
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Speaker 1: pop in every once in a while, go into your
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Speaker 1: kids world and come back out and no, let them
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Speaker 1: know that the wisdom that mom has extends into Fortnite,
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Speaker 1: extends into Minecraft, and that if they see anything that
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Speaker 1: they should come and talk to you, and also that
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Speaker 1: they should behave on a way that is also just
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Speaker 1: like what mom does in real life. Okay, and what
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Speaker 1: about Roadblocks? Do you know my about that? Yeah? Roadblocks?
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Speaker 1: So Roadblocks and Minecraft very similar in that you can
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Speaker 1: build stuff, you can chat with people, you can play
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Speaker 1: your own games. It's a whole virtual world where you
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Speaker 1: can get sucked in and spend a lot of time.
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Speaker 1: Number One, predators are everywhere your kids are at. So
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Speaker 1: if there are not predators that were a hoodie, there
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Speaker 1: in some weird little tiny chat room that your kids
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Speaker 1: don't hang out, and predators go to where your children
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Speaker 1: might be. So they're definitely on Roadblocks and Minecraft. Even
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Speaker 1: though those companies contact me all the time saying no,
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Speaker 1: they're not. We have they are, right, I mean, because
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Speaker 1: that's where they want to go. Second, there's a lot
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Speaker 1: of chat features that are just a hundred percent available
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Speaker 1: usually unless you want to turn it off or make
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Speaker 1: sure it's a closed room with just your friends, your
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Speaker 1: kids friends from the classroom. So that's why it's so
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Speaker 1: important to know who your kids are talking to, know
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Speaker 1: what room they're in. Pop in while you're cooking dinner
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Speaker 1: or whatever, pop back out, give them a little bit
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Speaker 1: of freedom, then pop back in again so that there
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Speaker 1: you're aware of everything that's going on in that room.
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Speaker 1: I've noticed a lot, you know, granted we're pretty much
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Speaker 1: on on lockdown here still in l A. But like
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Speaker 1: when I when we are doing things like you know,
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Speaker 1: I was talking earlier, how I was sitting you know,
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Speaker 1: socially distanced of course, but at a pool and I saw,
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Speaker 1: you know a couple of things happening. You know, either
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Speaker 1: kids that were still very very young posing provocatively you
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Speaker 1: know for their Instagram, or kids that instead of playing
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Speaker 1: with their friends or their siblings or whomever they were with,
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Speaker 1: I don't know, they are spending the entire time doing
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Speaker 1: TikTok videos like what is the overall what does that
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Speaker 1: look like? Like? When I was younger, we didn't have
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Speaker 1: We didn't have any of that. It was like our
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Speaker 1: parents were like, go outside and play, ride your bike.
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Speaker 1: Figure it out. If we wanted pictures, we had a
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Speaker 1: couple of like maybe those little polaroid cameras, you know that,
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Speaker 1: Like I have a couple of pictures that we like
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Speaker 1: laugh at. Or we'd go to like the place at
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Speaker 1: the mall where you take pictures with your friends. But
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Speaker 1: that was it. There wasn't this type of you know,
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Speaker 1: early I don't even know how to explain it, but
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Speaker 1: like where you're you don't want to take away somebody's
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Speaker 1: like expression, but also like you're you're too young for this. Yeah, okay,
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Speaker 1: So tip number one, if if I may um, the
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Speaker 1: best way to get if you want to rule your
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Speaker 1: kids eyes, the best way to get them to roll
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Speaker 1: their eyes is tell them what your childhood was like. Right,
17:40
Speaker 1: you and I are like, yeah, but at weddings in
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Speaker 1: the in the TV show Friends, I was watching Friends
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Speaker 1: last night, they said, where's all the disposable cameras? Right?
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Speaker 1: Remember at weddings they used to do that, you take pictures.
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Speaker 1: We don't do that anymore. We don't need those right,
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Speaker 1: But the best way to rule a kid's eyes. We've
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Speaker 1: learned this from principles at schools as we travel across
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Speaker 1: the country or used to is a principle it up
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Speaker 1: there and go in my day, and then the kids
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Speaker 1: will go okay, disconnect, but rather instead um, one of
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Speaker 1: the most important things is to kind of just learn
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Speaker 1: from the students. Now, I'd say the tip number one
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Speaker 1: is really know the screen time that your kids are using.
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Speaker 1: There's a screen time feature built and I teach this
18:16
Speaker 1: in my webinars. There's a screen time feature to all
18:19
Speaker 1: your listeners that's built into the iPhone. And if you
18:22
Speaker 1: guys have an iPhone, all you do is you click
18:24
Speaker 1: on the settings button in your iPhone and as soon
18:27
Speaker 1: as you click on that, you can then scroll down
18:29
Speaker 1: to the screen time feature. If you don't have that on, parents,
18:33
Speaker 1: make sure you turn that on so that you can
18:36
Speaker 1: monitor your own thing. It's important to monitor how much
18:40
Speaker 1: we're using this so that we can adjust that and
18:42
Speaker 1: make sure it doesn't take from our day. For you
18:45
Speaker 1: Android users, you click on your settings and you go
18:47
Speaker 1: down to digital well Being and that's just like screen time.
18:51
Speaker 1: You can turn it on. Parents, if you haven't tethered
18:55
Speaker 1: your kids phone to your phone, that's something to do.
18:59
Speaker 1: Don't let your kids to run free. If you have
19:01
Speaker 1: an Android, parents, make sure your kids have an Android.
19:03
Speaker 1: You can do what's called family Link. If you have
19:06
Speaker 1: an iPhone, get your kids an iPhone and you can
19:09
Speaker 1: use the parental controls and tether them. We have a
19:12
Speaker 1: whole course on that at smart Social dot com in
19:14
Speaker 1: our program or v i P Very Informed Parent program.
19:18
Speaker 1: But by tethering them together, you're gonna be able to
19:21
Speaker 1: see how much screen time your kids have When they
19:23
Speaker 1: should go to bed, the phone starts shutting down, and
19:26
Speaker 1: that keep helps them to sleep better because there's no
19:28
Speaker 1: blue light going into their mind and all that stuff.
19:31
Speaker 1: But really important to just first monitor how much their
19:34
Speaker 1: online and then you can, using those screen time features,
19:38
Speaker 1: turn off a few apps. Okay, you get thirty minutes
19:41
Speaker 1: a day of TikTok or fifteen minutes, and it's between
19:45
Speaker 1: these hours and it can't be this close to bed.
19:48
Speaker 1: There's there's a you can kind of create a little
19:50
Speaker 1: plan for your family. And then this is the bad
19:53
Speaker 1: guy right the the when everybody all the listeners right now,
19:56
Speaker 1: the phone and the timers the bad guy. You set
19:58
Speaker 1: those rules. Before you do that, you do need to
20:02
Speaker 1: have an important conversation with your kids so that it's
20:04
Speaker 1: not just jail time. Instead it's an agreement. And for
20:08
Speaker 1: that anybody can go to the web for free and
20:11
Speaker 1: google social media agreement. You have to come up with
20:15
Speaker 1: what is this relationship going to look like between our
20:17
Speaker 1: phones and mom and the kids, right, And that way
20:20
Speaker 1: mom doesn't feel like the bad guy all the time.
20:23
Speaker 1: And so a social media agreement is crucial. And then
20:26
Speaker 1: tethering the phones so that you can figure out what
20:30
Speaker 1: healthy amount of time online is. And I know that
20:32
Speaker 1: doesn't exactly answer your TikTok, but that's giving us some
20:36
Speaker 1: healthy boundaries so it's not taking over your entire life.
20:39
Speaker 1: Because every here's the problem. If you went into the
20:41
Speaker 1: kitchen and you told your younger kids teddy and you said, hey, kids,
20:45
Speaker 1: don't touch that hot stove. What do you think they
20:48
Speaker 1: want to do? They're gonna touch it. But if you
20:50
Speaker 1: instead said all right, if you said don't get on TikTok,
20:54
Speaker 1: they're gonna want TikTok. But if you said, hey, let's
20:56
Speaker 1: talk about your future career, your college, your plans. So
21:00
Speaker 1: what what do you want to do? Okay, how are
21:01
Speaker 1: we gonna get you to shine online? Our company's motto,
21:04
Speaker 1: so that you can then someday get there. Great. Now,
21:07
Speaker 1: how do we use that device with a purpose instead
21:09
Speaker 1: of a pastime? So now, as an example, in the kitchen,
21:13
Speaker 1: hey are you hungry tonight? And your kid goes, yeah, great,
21:15
Speaker 1: We're gonna make some amazing spaghetti and a salad and everything.
21:19
Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you how to use the stove. That
21:21
Speaker 1: sharp knife over there, I'm gonna show you how to
21:23
Speaker 1: use it to cut the tomatoes and all this stuff.
21:25
Speaker 1: I'm gonna show you all this stuff. We're gonna work
21:27
Speaker 1: together because our goal is this, and we're gonna use
21:30
Speaker 1: the stuff that you might think is dangerous. I'm gonna
21:32
Speaker 1: show you the purpose behind them. And then at a
21:34
Speaker 1: young age, they're learning, oh this is cool, but you
21:37
Speaker 1: have to have that shining star. What do you want
21:39
Speaker 1: to do? And schools are talking about this less teddy,
21:41
Speaker 1: I gotta be honest. Social media is the hotbed because
21:44
Speaker 1: kids don't have a purpose in our opinion, and I
21:47
Speaker 1: have a two hundred and thirty episodes on our podcast,
21:51
Speaker 1: The Smart Social Podcast psychologists, counselor's therapist, teachers all agree
21:56
Speaker 1: with us. As soon as you start talking about what
21:58
Speaker 1: do you want to do with your career call edge internship,
22:02
Speaker 1: then kids have a purpose instead of just giving him
22:05
Speaker 1: a Ferrari that's a an eight hundred dollar ferrari in
22:08
Speaker 1: their pocket. That's an iPhone that becomes a pastime that
22:11
Speaker 1: gets him in trouble. Yeah, I mean, I I noticed.
22:14
Speaker 1: Even So I have a stepdaughter, she's amazing, and she
22:17
Speaker 1: has She got a phone early because she goes back
22:20
Speaker 1: and forth between our house and her mom's house, so
22:23
Speaker 1: of course, so she can have open communication. Um, she
22:26
Speaker 1: ended up getting a new one and she had her
22:28
Speaker 1: leftover one, and so my daughter Slate became obsessed with
22:33
Speaker 1: wanting to get her phone. Can I have a phone?
22:35
Speaker 1: Bell has a phone? Phone? The phone? No, you can't
22:38
Speaker 1: have the phone. You can't have a phone. So regardless,
22:42
Speaker 1: for about two weeks, she asked every single day about
22:44
Speaker 1: the phone. I kept telling her, no, she still doesn't
22:47
Speaker 1: have the phone. Every couple of days she'll stick her
22:49
Speaker 1: foot in again and ask for the phone. I don't
22:51
Speaker 1: even know the appropriate age that you give a trial
22:55
Speaker 1: the phone, because I didn't have a phone. I know
22:57
Speaker 1: that we're gonna roll our eyes about like what I
22:59
Speaker 1: did as a kid, But like, what do you think
23:01
Speaker 1: the appropriate age to give in and say, okay, you
23:04
Speaker 1: can't have a phone, because in my mind, you don't
23:06
Speaker 1: need a phone. Slate one, we're not going anywhere too.
23:09
Speaker 1: I give you your tablet time when you're allowed to
23:11
Speaker 1: have it at the three? Like who are you calling?
23:15
Speaker 1: These are all really good questions. So I've got a
23:18
Speaker 1: couple of ideas. So I'm just kind of pulling up
23:21
Speaker 1: when should my kid get a phone? That's a really
23:23
Speaker 1: good question. Uh. First of all, parents, you decide when
23:26
Speaker 1: you're the experts. But our professional recommendation is that zero
23:31
Speaker 1: to ten, there's no phone, right, they're borrowing yours, they're
23:34
Speaker 1: doing other stuff. I know if parents are separated or divorced,
23:37
Speaker 1: that does something weird. I have a solution for you
23:40
Speaker 1: if you need it. But then at age ten you're
23:42
Speaker 1: gonna think this is young eight to ten. It's a
23:45
Speaker 1: cell phone safety contract with your kids, because you have
23:48
Speaker 1: to say before you get it, this is what's going
23:50
Speaker 1: to happen. And also parents, and as you know, teddy um,
23:55
Speaker 1: when your kids go over to their friends houses, their
23:58
Speaker 1: parents always have an extra zombie phone. It's an extra
24:02
Speaker 1: old phone that fires up on WiFi. We call it
24:05
Speaker 1: a zombie phone because the heart of a phone usually
24:08
Speaker 1: is connecting to a T and T Verizon or T Mobile,
24:11
Speaker 1: but it'll fire up on on WiFi and let your
24:14
Speaker 1: kid borrow it while they're over there to set up
24:17
Speaker 1: a Snapchat and TikTok account. And that's why you have
24:20
Speaker 1: to have an agreement with your kids, a dialogue. Your
24:23
Speaker 1: kids are doing nothing wrong if they set up a
24:25
Speaker 1: new account if you haven't warned them about that yet,
24:29
Speaker 1: so it really goes back over to the parents. But
24:31
Speaker 1: zero to ten, no phone, if you can avoid it.
24:34
Speaker 1: Let the kid be a kid a little bit longer
24:36
Speaker 1: ted if you can not understand about the divorce thing.
24:39
Speaker 1: But ages ten to thirteen is time for um, some
24:43
Speaker 1: kind of a phone alternative of first phone. And kids
24:46
Speaker 1: are gonna hate a flip phone. They're gonna roll their
24:48
Speaker 1: eyes and hate you. And that's okay, you are a
24:51
Speaker 1: normal human being. But it could be something like a
24:53
Speaker 1: GAB wireless phone is spelled g A B B wireless um,
24:57
Speaker 1: And that is a dummy phone. In fact, I have
25:00
Speaker 1: one right here. This is a gab wireless phone everybody
25:02
Speaker 1: listening right now. Looks just like an iPhone and it
25:05
Speaker 1: runs on the Android operating system, but they kind of
25:08
Speaker 1: watered it down. It's what's called a first phone. There's
25:11
Speaker 1: a new one called pin Wheel that's out here soon
25:13
Speaker 1: as well. And this phone only has contacts. It has
25:18
Speaker 1: text messaging that doesn't send pictures as of the time
25:21
Speaker 1: of this video. It has a camera, and it has
25:24
Speaker 1: an FM radio, and it lets you call your parents,
25:27
Speaker 1: text your parents, but and it but it doesn't let
25:29
Speaker 1: you text images. So it's a good first phone because
25:32
Speaker 1: your kid won't be bold. Yeah, and and Teddy, here's
25:36
Speaker 1: why this is huge. Um, So ten to thirteen, maybe
25:39
Speaker 1: fourteen years old? Is this first phone right and we'll
25:42
Speaker 1: call it a water down smartphone. It gives them all
25:45
Speaker 1: the features that they want, but it doesn't allow them
25:48
Speaker 1: to get download any apps, so there's no social media
25:52
Speaker 1: on this phone. The average use time, I'm gonna pull
25:54
Speaker 1: this out of nowhere. I'm guessing the average use time
25:57
Speaker 1: is about fifteen minutes a day for a kid because
25:59
Speaker 1: they want to text and then they go put it down.
26:02
Speaker 1: Like me, I've communicated, I'll put it down. Um And
26:06
Speaker 1: then age fourteen before fourteen, Please everybody please consider being
26:11
Speaker 1: very careful before buying your kids a smartphone like an
26:14
Speaker 1: iPhone or an Android. You are connecting your kids with
26:18
Speaker 1: seven billion other people. So what we would recommend is,
26:21
Speaker 1: if you are going to give your kid a smartphone
26:23
Speaker 1: at fourteen, go six months to a year without social
26:27
Speaker 1: media apps installed. I know your kids are gonna hate me,
26:30
Speaker 1: blame it on me, It's okay. And then at age fifteen,
26:33
Speaker 1: that's gonna give you the chance to do something where
26:35
Speaker 1: it's a smartphone and allowing them now because they're tethered
26:39
Speaker 1: to your phone, because now you can control it now,
26:42
Speaker 1: allowing to download with your permission, and you log in
26:45
Speaker 1: to Snapchat, Instagram or TikTok or something that you approve
26:50
Speaker 1: that you also have an account on your their follower
26:53
Speaker 1: and you have their pass code and their password, so
26:56
Speaker 1: you can get into their phone and into their account
26:58
Speaker 1: if something happens. Now I've got to go into the
27:02
Speaker 1: world of YouTube. So here's the next thing. My kids
27:07
Speaker 1: also have started to ask can we watch these YouTube
27:11
Speaker 1: So it's only on YouTube, kids, but like, can we
27:13
Speaker 1: watch these YouTube videos? And it's like, I don't know.
27:17
Speaker 1: It almost looks like a fifty I'm watching with them
27:19
Speaker 1: just kind of see and but it'll be like either
27:22
Speaker 1: kids play like when they were into l O L dolls,
27:24
Speaker 1: like an adult almost playing with l L dolls, or
27:28
Speaker 1: this happening. And I always would just be like, let's
27:30
Speaker 1: watch this or let's do that. But what how do
27:34
Speaker 1: you really know what's okay in regards to the YouTube.
27:39
Speaker 1: So here's what I would do. First. YouTube is a
27:42
Speaker 1: mixed bag because anyone can create content, and that content
27:47
Speaker 1: is usually designed to get your kids addicted. Remember the
27:50
Speaker 1: unboxing things or they just unboxing everything. Remember those eggs
27:54
Speaker 1: five years ago. They go, oh, here's a kinder egg
27:57
Speaker 1: or whatever it is and pop it open. Kids love
27:59
Speaker 1: that YouTube. If YouTube wins and the influencers win, here's
28:04
Speaker 1: what they get. They get your your kid's eyeballs for
28:07
Speaker 1: a long time, so they can run multiple ads during
28:09
Speaker 1: the video. And that's what they want from a business standpoint,
28:13
Speaker 1: they want your kid to be hooked. So I've got
28:15
Speaker 1: a couple of tips on how to remove that. Number One,
28:18
Speaker 1: know what influences your kids are following. Some of them
28:21
Speaker 1: might throw inappropriate language in there, and you don't want
28:23
Speaker 1: them Subliminally teaching something to your kid that you don't approve.
28:27
Speaker 1: So yes, you can watch a Blippy video right. A
28:30
Speaker 1: lot of kids are younger kids and nephews. Blippy. He's
28:33
Speaker 1: he has suspenders, it's pretty funny. Here's how a dump
28:36
Speaker 1: truck works, and it's hilarious. But follow that influencer. As
28:41
Speaker 1: long as it's a Blippy video, you can watch it right,
28:43
Speaker 1: because other videos will pop up from other people and
28:47
Speaker 1: it looks like it's maybe another Marvel character, but that
28:51
Speaker 1: person is talking to your kids in a way that's inappropriate.
28:56
Speaker 1: Number two, if your student is on their actual phone
29:02
Speaker 1: in the actual YouTube app. We have a few techniques.
29:06
Speaker 1: I give these away for free in our In our
29:08
Speaker 1: next webinar, which is September one, I believe it is,
29:11
Speaker 1: we teach the hidden secrets of YouTube, TikTok, Snapchat, Instagram, iPhone, Netflix,
29:18
Speaker 1: and an Android. That's six I think there's seven. In YouTube,
29:22
Speaker 1: you can actually turn off the auto play feature. You
29:26
Speaker 1: can also do this in Netflix. The auto play feature
29:29
Speaker 1: is kind of cool. And I tell students this, Hey,
29:31
Speaker 1: you are in charge of the next video you watch,
29:34
Speaker 1: and I want to make sure that the AutoPlay features off,
29:38
Speaker 1: so that way you're not sitting there and and YouTube
29:41
Speaker 1: is is deciding your next video. When AutoPlay features off,
29:46
Speaker 1: it just plays the video and then your kids can
29:49
Speaker 1: have the choice, because right now it's a mind game, Teddy,
29:53
Speaker 1: it's a mind game. These smart producers in TV. You
29:55
Speaker 1: know how they hook us with their preview on coming
29:57
Speaker 1: up or next on the Bachelor. I mean you're you're
30:00
Speaker 1: basically going, oh, I have to I have to skip
30:02
Speaker 1: through these commercials and stay with it because there's this drama. Well,
30:06
Speaker 1: YouTube producers and people are smart, and every app is
30:09
Speaker 1: just like a TV producer. They're going coming up next,
30:12
Speaker 1: and they get you hooked with a free preview or
30:15
Speaker 1: a video or something funny. So what we do is
30:17
Speaker 1: we try and turn off that addictive nature of auto play.
30:21
Speaker 1: You can do it also on Netflix if you go
30:23
Speaker 1: to Netflix dot com. And Netflix is huge, we all
30:26
Speaker 1: know that it's in almost every single household. You can parents,
30:30
Speaker 1: don't share your password of Netflix password with your kids
30:35
Speaker 1: because when you go to Netflix dot Com, not on
30:37
Speaker 1: the app. You have to do this. On Netflix dot
30:38
Speaker 1: Com you can go in and adjust Little Billies or
30:41
Speaker 1: Sally's age requirement of they can only watch things up
30:45
Speaker 1: to why seven or why thirty or whatever that their ages.
30:49
Speaker 1: You can also un checked two major boxes, and I
30:51
Speaker 1: teach all this in our free webinar. Thousands of parents
30:54
Speaker 1: have taken this five star reviews and it teaches you
30:57
Speaker 1: how to un check these two boxes. One is auto play,
31:01
Speaker 1: and it just changes the game. On Netflix, you go whoa,
31:05
Speaker 1: because then your kids aren't hooked into scrolling past Ozark
31:09
Speaker 1: and it's going look coming up next. It's just all
31:11
Speaker 1: this stuff is less enticing. They get to decide what
31:14
Speaker 1: they're gonna pick rather than emotionally getting involved in the preview.
31:18
Speaker 1: That's a hard thing to teach your kids is the
31:21
Speaker 1: preview looks good and you're not allow that's not for you. Well,
31:24
Speaker 1: I also want to give any parents that heads up.
31:27
Speaker 1: Even if your kids can't write or spell, they can
31:31
Speaker 1: still find stuff on YouTube because the other like this
31:35
Speaker 1: was a couple of months ago, but my son is
31:37
Speaker 1: obsessed with wrestling, loves wrestling, anything to do with wrestling.
31:40
Speaker 1: He was having his tablet time, thankfully he was. We
31:43
Speaker 1: were together in the same room and I hear him
31:47
Speaker 1: talk into the phone the best of John Cena. So
31:52
Speaker 1: at first I'm like, okay, that seems fine, he's trying
31:55
Speaker 1: to see that he's you know, he wants to see
31:56
Speaker 1: a wrestling match. But then I start seeing his face
32:00
Speaker 1: and it's like this confused look on his space and
32:03
Speaker 1: like what And I'm like, what's happening Cruis? And I
32:07
Speaker 1: went over and it was a kissing scene between him
32:10
Speaker 1: and whomever his girlfriend was on the reality show he
32:14
Speaker 1: was on. So like, even though you think things are
32:18
Speaker 1: going okay, are my kids can't type with my kids?
32:20
Speaker 1: Can't you know whatever it may be, they're able to
32:23
Speaker 1: have acts and that's on YouTube kids. Yeah, um yeah.
32:28
Speaker 1: So really the moral of the story is be where
32:31
Speaker 1: your kids are at every app they want to download,
32:34
Speaker 1: know that it's a new park. Go there first. Would
32:36
Speaker 1: I would? I would go there first without your kids
32:40
Speaker 1: and download the app and get to know it, because
32:42
Speaker 1: that way the pressure isn't on Teddy. You're not saying, well,
32:45
Speaker 1: let's look get it together up. I don't like this Snapchat.
32:48
Speaker 1: It's inappropriate. By the way, parents, if you give your
32:51
Speaker 1: eleven year old Snapchat, there is a part in it
32:53
Speaker 1: that you cannot turn off that is designed only for
32:57
Speaker 1: college students. It's called the Explore feature. And you're like, oh,
33:00
Speaker 1: all just turn off parts of the app. No, no, no,
33:02
Speaker 1: that's not how it works. That's that's unfortunately. You get
33:06
Speaker 1: all the app or none of the app. You can
33:08
Speaker 1: limit the time that kids use it by using that
33:10
Speaker 1: tim or feature that we talked about. But there are
33:13
Speaker 1: parts of every app that you must know about. We
33:16
Speaker 1: have something in our webinar dent Free. We teach you
33:19
Speaker 1: how to turn off the map feature in Snapchat. It's
33:22
Speaker 1: called snap map. It is a part of Snapchat that
33:26
Speaker 1: predators used to check kids. It's the most creepy thing
33:30
Speaker 1: you've ever seen. We teach you in four or five
33:32
Speaker 1: clicks how to turn it off. Moms are emailing us, going,
33:35
Speaker 1: I had no idea people could see where my daughter lived.
33:39
Speaker 1: They can not only follow her and be uh there,
33:42
Speaker 1: friends are not following. Followers are not friends, but it
33:45
Speaker 1: looks like on there all these are all my friends.
33:47
Speaker 1: They're not sorry to interrupt you if you even have
33:51
Speaker 1: a like. For example, I have Snapchat on my phone.
33:54
Speaker 1: I don't use Snapchat, can use it even if you're
33:57
Speaker 1: not showing Snapchat. But it's just on your phone. People
34:00
Speaker 1: still it can usually track you quite often. Yeah, so
34:03
Speaker 1: I'll teach you offline how to turn that off. Parents
34:05
Speaker 1: know about snap map, you can go google that or
34:08
Speaker 1: you can go to smart social dot com. Take our
34:09
Speaker 1: free webinar. It's amazing. We we help people all over
34:12
Speaker 1: the world in multiple continents. How there's a there's a
34:16
Speaker 1: few hidden features. And as we it's not social media
34:19
Speaker 1: is bad, it's how to navigate it. We get in
34:22
Speaker 1: kind of a car together and we drive down the
34:25
Speaker 1: road and we go look at that, and look at that,
34:27
Speaker 1: and we just we make it more comfortable by going
34:29
Speaker 1: into the jungle together in a safe vehicle, looking at
34:33
Speaker 1: each one of these apps. And and to finish off
34:36
Speaker 1: on like a positive note. So our kids are starting
34:38
Speaker 1: school next week via zoom. That's you know, no in person.
34:42
Speaker 1: What is a good way to kind of get our
34:44
Speaker 1: kids excited about you know, the positives of being able
34:48
Speaker 1: to interact on Zoom or whatever the program is that
34:52
Speaker 1: you're gonna they're gonna be doing their schoolwork on with
34:54
Speaker 1: their peers. First, have a little bit of a um
34:58
Speaker 1: have your behavioral discussion in with them. Hey, when mommy's
35:02
Speaker 1: on the phone in the back or someone or you're
35:04
Speaker 1: not talking, feel free to mute yourself. Tell your kids
35:07
Speaker 1: mute yourself. It's just gonna keep them a little bit safer. UM,
35:10
Speaker 1: let the teacher know if somebody is inappropriate to you,
35:12
Speaker 1: have a talk about bullying and zoom it happens. Um,
35:16
Speaker 1: when to mute yourself, How to support the teacher and
35:19
Speaker 1: help the teacher? How to smile? You have no idea
35:23
Speaker 1: on our podcast as we do this, how many kids
35:25
Speaker 1: are just sitting there and and they're just like leaning
35:28
Speaker 1: back with no posture. Right now is the time to
35:32
Speaker 1: practice in person posture, positive smile, trying your best, take
35:37
Speaker 1: a break, Let's go outside and go on a walk
35:39
Speaker 1: during your things. And I know it's it's crazy right now,
35:42
Speaker 1: it's not fun, but we're gonna get through this together.
35:45
Speaker 1: But now is the time to treat it like it's
35:47
Speaker 1: in class, almost like a little job. Interview your kids
35:50
Speaker 1: are how do we use this with a purpose instead
35:53
Speaker 1: of just like I have to instead of I get
35:57
Speaker 1: to be on Zoom? What could we do and maybe
36:00
Speaker 1: listen to your kids? Give them what are the three
36:01
Speaker 1: things you want to accomplish today that you want to
36:03
Speaker 1: learn me? Do you want to become a Zoom expert?
36:06
Speaker 1: Do you want to answer five questions? Right? Let your
36:09
Speaker 1: kids decide you might get some creativity out of them,
36:12
Speaker 1: and you know what, it's good to let them speak up.
36:14
Speaker 1: This is a tough time for everybody. Kids don't want
36:16
Speaker 1: to stay home all the time. They kind of want
36:19
Speaker 1: to go to school. So getting them to set some
36:22
Speaker 1: goals and hearing from them usually is a good thing.
36:27
Speaker 1: I love that, And I know for sure something that
36:29
Speaker 1: they said on our class call that really resonated with
36:31
Speaker 1: me was, guys, make sure your kids show up to class,
36:36
Speaker 1: even though it's virtual, fully dressed, not in their pajamas,
36:39
Speaker 1: had eaten well, like the same way you would actually
36:42
Speaker 1: send them to school, because if they just roll out
36:45
Speaker 1: of bed and they're just eating a bar while they
36:47
Speaker 1: start their first thing, it doesn't set the tone for
36:49
Speaker 1: the day. And I think that really makes a lot
36:51
Speaker 1: of sense because I know when I wake up and
36:53
Speaker 1: I immediately get on a conference call and I'm just
36:55
Speaker 1: like going through the motion, it's never as good as
36:58
Speaker 1: when I get up by, you know, on a walk,
37:00
Speaker 1: have my breakfast, take some time, take a shower, or
37:03
Speaker 1: you know, whatever it may be. Whatever your morning machine
37:06
Speaker 1: is gonna be with your kids, I think is such
37:08
Speaker 1: a game changer. So like set that from the beginning
37:10
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be perfect, and just like you know,
37:13
Speaker 1: drop offs at school don't have to be perfect. But
37:16
Speaker 1: if we set the tone for the day and we
37:18
Speaker 1: set the expectations, our kids aren't going to be shocked
37:21
Speaker 1: at the end. Yeah. I am so grateful to speaking
37:26
Speaker 1: with you today. Thank you so much for so much
37:29
Speaker 1: good information. How do people find you? And I mean
37:32
Speaker 1: I'm going to have to listen to some of these
37:34
Speaker 1: webinars now, Yeah, so they go to smart social dot com.
37:37
Speaker 1: We have an awesome parent webinar that is really going
37:39
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37:42
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38:13
Speaker 1: Thank you so much. It's so nice talking to today.
38:15
Speaker 1: I really appreciate it. I am super pumped to talk
38:28
Speaker 1: to Rebecca Black today about cyber bullying, all types of bullying.
38:32
Speaker 1: She has gone through so much in her years of
38:36
Speaker 1: becoming like a YouTube sensation, huge musical star. Like I'm
38:41
Speaker 1: sure you guys all know the song Friday. I listened
38:44
Speaker 1: to it five days ago and it's still stuck in
38:47
Speaker 1: my head. And I remember feeling the same way back
38:51
Speaker 1: when I listened to it the first time. She is
38:53
Speaker 1: such a great artist and gone through so much, so
38:56
Speaker 1: I think I really would love her tools for a
38:58
Speaker 1: younger audience on how how to deal with this constant
39:01
Speaker 1: bullying that's happening online or even in school. So I'm
39:06
Speaker 1: so excited to have you on one. It is the
39:09
Speaker 1: second that I found out that you're coming on. I
39:11
Speaker 1: really listened to some of your music and now it
39:14
Speaker 1: is stuck in all of our my kids and my
39:17
Speaker 1: head NonStop. I'm like, what is it about your songs
39:21
Speaker 1: that immediately get stuck in your head? One, you have
39:23
Speaker 1: a beautiful voice, because I also stalked your Instagram and
39:26
Speaker 1: you're just sitting there singing like with your guitar, and
39:29
Speaker 1: I was like, this is incredible. But like two, it
39:32
Speaker 1: is such a talent to have a song or to
39:35
Speaker 1: have to play something, and it really resonates with you.
39:39
Speaker 1: And like I am thirty nine years old, and like
39:42
Speaker 1: my kids are seven and five and all of us
39:45
Speaker 1: like we have to be like stop you, you have
39:47
Speaker 1: a problem now. But I would love to like hear
39:50
Speaker 1: the history on like how everything went down, and just
39:54
Speaker 1: talk to you a little bit about bullying, cyber bullying
39:56
Speaker 1: in general and like all this craziness. Yeah, got what
40:02
Speaker 1: a crazy I guess almost ten years it's been. Um
40:05
Speaker 1: so I got started. I got I had a very
40:08
Speaker 1: on a unexpected, kind of unprecedented at the time, start
40:15
Speaker 1: into I guess the industry at the time. I guess
40:18
Speaker 1: I kind of started into an industry that also barely existed,
40:22
Speaker 1: which was, you know, now kind of this massive online
40:26
Speaker 1: influencer world where there's YouTubers and people getting their start
40:29
Speaker 1: off of I mean you see on TikTok, like seventy
40:32
Speaker 1: thousand people going viral on TikTok every day. Back then,
40:35
Speaker 1: it just really happened, you know. Back then it was
40:38
Speaker 1: like two boys at their grandparents house, like Charlie that
40:42
Speaker 1: my finger, like one of the first viral videos or
40:45
Speaker 1: I don't know. It was just so random and and
40:48
Speaker 1: kind of so much less of what it is now.
40:51
Speaker 1: And I was thirteen, and I grew up a kid
40:54
Speaker 1: who loved to perform my group, a kid who did
40:58
Speaker 1: everything from the musical theater or to like patriotic singing
41:02
Speaker 1: groups and just kind of whatever I could do to
41:05
Speaker 1: get that part of me out into the world just
41:09
Speaker 1: because it was what I loved. And Friday was this
41:13
Speaker 1: song that was just kind of meant to be like
41:16
Speaker 1: another experiment of that that would exist in like my
41:20
Speaker 1: little bubble in Anaheim, and that my grandparents would see
41:24
Speaker 1: maybe if it reached that far. And uh, it ended
41:27
Speaker 1: up blowing up hugely, massively, way more so than it
41:32
Speaker 1: ever should have or that I thought it could have.
41:35
Speaker 1: So yeah, it ended me up in to a place
41:38
Speaker 1: where I was thirteen and had hundreds of millions of
41:42
Speaker 1: people not only kind of coming into my bubble but
41:46
Speaker 1: giving me really stark opinions of what they thought about
41:49
Speaker 1: me and kind of what I should do for the
41:50
Speaker 1: rest of my life. And some of them were positive,
41:52
Speaker 1: a lot of them were negative. Uh, And it really
41:56
Speaker 1: changed I mean, it changed my life obviously. Uh. And
42:01
Speaker 1: it really shaped me, for better and for worse, into
42:04
Speaker 1: the person that I am today. So so yeah, I
42:08
Speaker 1: mean you even ended up having to be homeschooled, right
42:11
Speaker 1: because it was just relentless. It was. It was crazy.
42:15
Speaker 1: I mean, it wasn't necessarily solely because of of everything
42:20
Speaker 1: going on. There was there was a lot. There was
42:22
Speaker 1: a lot happening. I had parents that had no idea
42:25
Speaker 1: what they were doing. I don't come from a family
42:27
Speaker 1: who was, you know, experienced in in this world at all,
42:31
Speaker 1: their veterinarians. So I was just trying to figure out
42:34
Speaker 1: what to do. And so I did. I did go
42:37
Speaker 1: into homeschooling for a while, and uh, I went back
42:41
Speaker 1: into high school later on. And what would you say,
42:45
Speaker 1: what advice would you give to parents who maybe have
42:48
Speaker 1: kids who are wanting to be in YouTube or wanting
42:50
Speaker 1: to start a music career or whatever it may be.
42:53
Speaker 1: I mean, I'm worried for my kids to even like
42:56
Speaker 1: look at my TikTok, because then they start wanting to
42:58
Speaker 1: do it and I'm like, oh my gosh, this is craziness,
43:00
Speaker 1: and people comment these terrible things. What advice would you
43:04
Speaker 1: give to parents who are in this situation where their
43:06
Speaker 1: kids are wanting to, you know, be artistic and put
43:09
Speaker 1: themselves out there, but you don't really know how to
43:12
Speaker 1: handle I'm not the world's most like you know, well
43:16
Speaker 1: versed when it comes through TikTok or YouTube or any
43:18
Speaker 1: of those types of things. I know how to do Instagram,
43:22
Speaker 1: but like that's it. Yeah, yeah, And that's the thing.
43:25
Speaker 1: I mean, the Internet is changing so fast every single
43:30
Speaker 1: day that nobody knows what is going on, nobody knows
43:34
Speaker 1: what to do with any of this. I still feel
43:36
Speaker 1: like when TikTok first came out, I felt like I
43:38
Speaker 1: was a grandma trying to figure out something. This is
43:41
Speaker 1: what I do. I think one thing that I heard
43:44
Speaker 1: my parents, specifically my mom say all the time growing up,
43:48
Speaker 1: as she was trying to handle it the best she could,
43:50
Speaker 1: It's like there's just no handbook, there's no lessons, there's
43:53
Speaker 1: nowhere to go to ask questions. It just kind of
43:57
Speaker 1: felt like, you know, making it up as as she went,
44:02
Speaker 1: that's all she could really do and and try to
44:04
Speaker 1: protect me as best says as she could. And I
44:07
Speaker 1: think that I can't imagine how scary it must be
44:12
Speaker 1: as a parent. I don't have that experience, you know,
44:15
Speaker 1: when your kid is starting to go through it. And
44:16
Speaker 1: of course where we live in a time now where
44:18
Speaker 1: everybody all so many kids want this like really cool
44:24
Speaker 1: idea of being really kind of big in their circle
44:27
Speaker 1: or having this online moment, which it can turn out
44:30
Speaker 1: to be a positive thing. But I think as a parent,
44:35
Speaker 1: the best advice I could give is try to understand
44:41
Speaker 1: this world like you are a kid as best as
44:43
Speaker 1: you can, because when you know it, it will make
44:46
Speaker 1: so much more sense to you. Um, because a kid
44:49
Speaker 1: is on here, like on TikTok. I'm on TikTok like
44:53
Speaker 1: way more than I should, or or YouTube or like Instagram.
44:56
Speaker 1: It all exists and it consumes us. But I just
45:02
Speaker 1: I just think that being as kind of with it
45:06
Speaker 1: as possible will help you understand it and then help
45:09
Speaker 1: your kid, you know, get through it emotionally. That is
45:12
Speaker 1: the biggest also thing as well. It's like I understand
45:15
Speaker 1: that once somebody kind of gets their start or get
45:18
Speaker 1: something really I don't know, something that gets a lot
45:21
Speaker 1: of attention, it can be really exciting, um and there's
45:24
Speaker 1: a lot of opportunity, But your kid is not an
45:26
Speaker 1: opportunity for you. You know, a kid is just trying
45:29
Speaker 1: to go through their own thing. And is there something
45:33
Speaker 1: now that's still like when they say something to you
45:36
Speaker 1: that it's still just like hits home and hurts you.
45:39
Speaker 1: Or have you been one of those people that can
45:40
Speaker 1: block out the noise or how do you handle it now? Uh,
45:46
Speaker 1: it's an up and down. I've definitely come a long way.
45:49
Speaker 1: I think where I went wrong for a while was
45:52
Speaker 1: trying to convince myself that nothing bothered me. I did
45:55
Speaker 1: that for a long time, and what happens is you
45:57
Speaker 1: just like build up this huge pile of resentment underneath
46:01
Speaker 1: the massive rug that one day you're gonna have to
46:03
Speaker 1: pick up that rug and deal with it. Um. I
46:07
Speaker 1: just try to be patient with myself and and kind
46:11
Speaker 1: of I think when I let myself realize, like, wow,
46:15
Speaker 1: anybody who would be getting this many opinions about themselves,
46:20
Speaker 1: you know, or this many kind of thoughts into their world,
46:22
Speaker 1: this would be hard for any single person. And if
46:25
Speaker 1: it wasn't, that would be concerning. I mean, it's incredible.
46:29
Speaker 1: I know how I feel, as you know, an adult,
46:33
Speaker 1: when it happens to me, or when it happens you
46:35
Speaker 1: know somebody says something like you know, carm is gonna
46:38
Speaker 1: get you through your kids or whatever it is, whatever
46:40
Speaker 1: the like recent attack is going to be. I know
46:43
Speaker 1: how I feel. I can't even imagine being thirteen years
46:45
Speaker 1: old trying to process that. Yeah, so what what what
46:49
Speaker 1: advice would you give to kids who are getting this
46:52
Speaker 1: getting this heat, or getting this hate or getting this
46:55
Speaker 1: like whatever type of information to kind of deal with it?
47:00
Speaker 1: What got you through? It's it's so hard and and
47:04
Speaker 1: that is the thing that I guess I would have
47:08
Speaker 1: told myself, um, back back when I was going through it,
47:12
Speaker 1: because I mean, when you're thirteen, is it's one of
47:16
Speaker 1: the worst ages. You know, it's not it can be
47:19
Speaker 1: the best, but it just it's really hard. You're so tender,
47:21
Speaker 1: and you're getting to that point where you feel like
47:24
Speaker 1: you know everything and you should know everything, and everyone
47:27
Speaker 1: around you seems to have it figured out and you're all,
47:29
Speaker 1: I mean, middle school is just weird. Um. I guess
47:33
Speaker 1: I wish I would have been able to just be
47:36
Speaker 1: a little bit more forgiving with myself. I think I
47:39
Speaker 1: was really really hard on myself for um, feeling like
47:42
Speaker 1: I was just constantly messing up and feeling like I
47:45
Speaker 1: wasn't doing anything right or the way that I should
47:48
Speaker 1: be doing it. And that's the point of being thirteen, Like,
47:52
Speaker 1: that's the point of being a teenager or a young
47:54
Speaker 1: person or anyone at all. And at any point in
47:57
Speaker 1: your life is you're gonna mess up. You're gonna do
47:59
Speaker 1: things that you're not going to do or that you
48:01
Speaker 1: wouldn't do in your future world. But that is how
48:04
Speaker 1: you get to you and it's okay. Just be kind
48:09
Speaker 1: and forgiving and also whatever you do, it's a thirteen
48:12
Speaker 1: year old in high school at any point in your
48:14
Speaker 1: life is just not going to define you as long
48:16
Speaker 1: as you don't like it's not a long term I
48:18
Speaker 1: mean anything from year to year, just constantly a shifting um.
48:23
Speaker 1: And did you ever get to the point where you
48:25
Speaker 1: just wouldn't look at comments? Yeah? Yeah, Or I would
48:29
Speaker 1: look at comments and feel nothing. And that was probably
48:33
Speaker 1: the worst time, because when somebody would say something kind
48:37
Speaker 1: or something positive or something that is nice to take
48:39
Speaker 1: in because there's a balance with it all, I couldn't
48:42
Speaker 1: do it, and so I saw only people that thought
48:46
Speaker 1: the worst of me, and I was unable to kind
48:48
Speaker 1: of let anything go to come in, which is important
48:51
Speaker 1: as well, especially as a young person. I agree, and
48:54
Speaker 1: I could see myself doing the same thing now, Like
48:57
Speaker 1: I'll get a bunch of nice comments and then something, well,
49:00
Speaker 1: somebody will say something to me that I'm like what,
49:03
Speaker 1: and I'll comment to the negative and I'm like, what
49:05
Speaker 1: are you doing? Like just block that person and keep
49:08
Speaker 1: it moving, like I've now taken so much like pride
49:12
Speaker 1: and being like block You're done, you know, like this
49:14
Speaker 1: is an unnecessary comment. I mean, like why would you
49:18
Speaker 1: say this to a stranger? And throughout like your time
49:22
Speaker 1: and being in the spotlight and like as you're getting
49:25
Speaker 1: older and not older, but as you're no longer thirteen
49:29
Speaker 1: and you've met you know, I know you performed with
49:31
Speaker 1: Katy Perry once, Like did you ever have any other
49:34
Speaker 1: people in the music industry give you any like really
49:37
Speaker 1: sound advice on? Yeah, yeah I did. Um. I will
49:46
Speaker 1: never forget the conversation I had with actually Katy Perry
49:50
Speaker 1: like early on, and I'll always just be so appreciative
49:53
Speaker 1: of not only her, but just people like her who
49:57
Speaker 1: uh can see a kid for what they are, which
49:59
Speaker 1: is just a child who needs a little bit of
50:02
Speaker 1: love and uh and she she really emphasize the importance
50:09
Speaker 1: of a family and the people who are your home
50:13
Speaker 1: and it can be really difficult in I don't even
50:17
Speaker 1: think in just the entertainment industry, but in so many
50:20
Speaker 1: aspects of our world nowadays to let something come in
50:23
Speaker 1: between that, UM, and especially as as as a kid
50:27
Speaker 1: and as someone young who's trying to figure it out,
50:30
Speaker 1: if you can hold close to that relationship with your
50:33
Speaker 1: family and UM, I guess kind of not forget about
50:37
Speaker 1: that aspect of yourself outside of whatever else is happening. UM,
50:41
Speaker 1: that can be really important and really helpful. So yeah,
50:45
Speaker 1: when it first started happening to you, did you immediately
50:49
Speaker 1: like have that conversation with your parents or did you
50:51
Speaker 1: feel like nervous to have the conversation. I'm trying to
50:54
Speaker 1: get to a place of being thirteen and saying like, wow,
50:58
Speaker 1: would I have had that? I know, like if I
51:00
Speaker 1: got in a fight with somebody like in school, or
51:02
Speaker 1: an argument or somebody said something to me, I don't
51:04
Speaker 1: know that I necessarily would have told my parents. So
51:07
Speaker 1: I'm curious how it works in the world of social
51:09
Speaker 1: media when it happens. Oh god, I know, I mean
51:13
Speaker 1: looking at today and what kids are kind of now
51:18
Speaker 1: dealing with, where not only do you see someone go viral,
51:21
Speaker 1: you see a kid go viral and then immediately they
51:23
Speaker 1: have a record label and they have this going on
51:25
Speaker 1: and this going on, and it's like, how did this
51:27
Speaker 1: just turn into a booming industry within a week? UM,
51:30
Speaker 1: That I can't even imagine. But I think, uh, in
51:36
Speaker 1: my case, I'm lucky to have had parents who, uh,
51:41
Speaker 1: not only who I had a really close relationship with,
51:44
Speaker 1: specifically with my mom, who again wanted to protect me,
51:48
Speaker 1: like as her kid before anything else. UM. And that
51:52
Speaker 1: was really helpful and and I think um just helped
51:58
Speaker 1: me experience my age years a bit as as I
52:02
Speaker 1: should and and and hopefully would have still UM. But
52:06
Speaker 1: I think the most important conversations were acknowledging the mistakes
52:10
Speaker 1: that there were because we were all trying our best,
52:13
Speaker 1: and parents I know everywhere are always, you know, hopefully
52:17
Speaker 1: trying their best to do the right thing, and sometimes
52:19
Speaker 1: it it doesn't turn out the way that you wanted to.
52:21
Speaker 1: I think my parents probably felt a lot of guilt
52:23
Speaker 1: as well for kind of feeling maybe a little bit
52:26
Speaker 1: responsible for letting me kind of out to the wolves.
52:29
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, when I decided
52:32
Speaker 1: that this was something I wanted to do long term
52:34
Speaker 1: and was a passion of mine. Um. They also knew
52:38
Speaker 1: how to kind of let me go and do it,
52:40
Speaker 1: um without overprotecting me, If that makes sense. Figure it
52:43
Speaker 1: out a little bit. Oh yeah, is there anything you
52:46
Speaker 1: would have done differently now knowing what can be? Then? Oh? God, Um,
52:52
Speaker 1: a lot of things I wouldn't have worn. But no,
52:57
Speaker 1: I mean I think I just would have been and
53:00
Speaker 1: kinder to myself and more forgiving to myself. And then
53:04
Speaker 1: we've talked a lot about like the negative of social
53:07
Speaker 1: media and of bullying and all these types of things.
53:10
Speaker 1: What would you say is like the most positive? I
53:12
Speaker 1: mean you the fact that you could wake up an
53:15
Speaker 1: overnight have like to I mean, what was it like
53:19
Speaker 1: two d thousand views in one night or something like?
53:21
Speaker 1: It's incredible and shows testament to like how talented you are.
53:26
Speaker 1: What do you think all the positives of social media are?
53:29
Speaker 1: And like how can people use it in a positive way? Yeah?
53:33
Speaker 1: I think there are a lot of positives to it,
53:35
Speaker 1: and especially seeing the way that the Internet has changed
53:39
Speaker 1: from the time where I kind of first started in
53:42
Speaker 1: two now there's been so many good outcomes. Um, I
53:48
Speaker 1: think as a younger generation, obviously you see so many
53:52
Speaker 1: more people now so aware of what's going on in
53:55
Speaker 1: the world, and so aware of what's happening to each
53:57
Speaker 1: other and how we're treating each other, and kind of
54:00
Speaker 1: the things that we've accepted as as always being the
54:03
Speaker 1: way that they were now being changed for something better.
54:06
Speaker 1: I think that's really cool and what I what I
54:09
Speaker 1: try to do now more than anything, is add to
54:14
Speaker 1: that kind of I feel like online we're seeing the
54:19
Speaker 1: potential of a community that's building in in a positive
54:23
Speaker 1: way for good and for the betterment of other people. Obviously,
54:26
Speaker 1: everybody knows about cancel culture and how it can kind
54:29
Speaker 1: of go a little too far, um, But I think
54:32
Speaker 1: that it's there's something hopeful in this kind of well
54:39
Speaker 1: intended thinking, rather than the Internet just becoming this like
54:42
Speaker 1: very dark rabbit hole of just people being awful to
54:46
Speaker 1: each other. There's still a lot of work to be done,
54:48
Speaker 1: and people are still awful, and people are still kind
54:52
Speaker 1: of using the anonymity of it all to get out
54:57
Speaker 1: there whatever they have going on in their lives. Um.
55:00
Speaker 1: But I do like seeing more and more everyday young
55:03
Speaker 1: people kind of getting involved on what will hopefully become
55:07
Speaker 1: the right side of history. Um, whether it be in
55:09
Speaker 1: a larger way or in just their own communities, and
55:13
Speaker 1: do you feel like you talk about it with your
55:15
Speaker 1: following now, Like are you like are you an open
55:18
Speaker 1: book about it, or like this bothers me or this
55:20
Speaker 1: sorts my feelings or any of those things are do
55:22
Speaker 1: you kind of just like keep it, you know, keep
55:24
Speaker 1: it close to the heart and kind of have your
55:26
Speaker 1: outside showing and your inside. I try to. I try
55:31
Speaker 1: to have a balance. I see people who are open
55:36
Speaker 1: with every single thing happening in the moment, and that's
55:39
Speaker 1: what works for them. Um. But what I what I've
55:42
Speaker 1: found works for me and for my audience is I
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Speaker 1: try to observe what's going on in my own world
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Speaker 1: and learn from it, and then once it's happened, share
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Speaker 1: what I've learned, rather than just kind of living it
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Speaker 1: all out online. I guess if that makes sense. UM.
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Speaker 1: For example, like coming to terms of my own sexuality
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Speaker 1: was something that I knew I wanted to talk about
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Speaker 1: the second I identified it, but I waited until I
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Speaker 1: had really gone through so many conversations with myself and
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Speaker 1: with people that I really trusted, with people in the community,
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Speaker 1: with just making sure that I was being I think
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Speaker 1: there's a certain responsibility when you have a platform, whether
56:21
Speaker 1: you'd like to admit it or not. Um, but I
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Speaker 1: do really think that honesty, more and more honesty is
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Speaker 1: is going to be important from from people like like
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Speaker 1: the both of us, from people who have It doesn't
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Speaker 1: matter how many followers you have, whether you have ten
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Speaker 1: or ten thousand or ten million, everybody's got a platform,
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Speaker 1: and the honesty is what will kind of break down
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Speaker 1: this like what seems like unachievable perfect world that still
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Speaker 1: exists on Instagram, the glossy version of everybody has like
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Speaker 1: my life is better than yours that Instagram creates. Well,
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Speaker 1: I think that's huge, and I think that's really good
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Speaker 1: advice what you said, like you think it through instead
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Speaker 1: of having like kick reaction, where like you're going to
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Speaker 1: say something just in the moment and then go wow,
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Speaker 1: I didn't actually think this is so I know that
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Speaker 1: that has when I'm tweeting or anything like that the
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Speaker 1: shows on, if I'm immediately responding, I'm probably not gonna
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Speaker 1: love my response. But if I like watch the show
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Speaker 1: prepare then tweet, you know, like I have it organized,
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Speaker 1: then I feel like I'm less likely to say something
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Speaker 1: that I regret and more like, I actually this is
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Speaker 1: how I feel. Um, how do I know you have
57:31
Speaker 1: like your recent singles out? How do people find you
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Speaker 1: get more information on you? Listen to your recent songs,
57:37
Speaker 1: give us all the deep Yeah, I mean I it's
57:41
Speaker 1: been a it's been a crazy, weird, weird year, but
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Speaker 1: I have really been honestly. The one thing that has
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Speaker 1: gotten me through it, other than many many hours on
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Speaker 1: TikTok is uh is writing and music. I put out
57:54
Speaker 1: a few singles um earlier this year called Closer and
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Speaker 1: and Sweetheart, and people can find them everywhere. You listen
58:01
Speaker 1: to music wherever you want, Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon Music, whatever. Right,
58:07
Speaker 1: all right, and then your Instagram is miss Rebecca Black. Right,
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Speaker 1: It's Rebecca Black. That's it. You guys have to go.
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Speaker 1: You have such a beautiful voice, you have such a
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Speaker 1: great heart, And I think this is such a good
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Speaker 1: message to put out there, like fight for your dreams.
58:22
Speaker 1: Like also know like you can talk to your parents
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Speaker 1: and be open with what's going on. And if you
58:27
Speaker 1: are a parent listening to this podcast right now, talk
58:29
Speaker 1: to your kids about what they're doing. Get yourself involved,
58:33
Speaker 1: and if they're not involving you, it might mean that
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Speaker 1: something's wrong. Yeah, that's perfectly said. Thank you so much, Betty,
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Speaker 1: thank you so much for coming on. Well, guys, I
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Speaker 1: hope you took in as much from this episode as
58:50
Speaker 1: I did. I know speaking to Rebecca and Josh, we're
58:53
Speaker 1: both eye opening to me a lot of good reminders
58:55
Speaker 1: for myself, but also for our kids and what the
58:59
Speaker 1: world is they're growing up in. I think social media
59:01
Speaker 1: can be such a positive, but if we don't handle
59:04
Speaker 1: it right, it can also be such a negative. I
59:06
Speaker 1: appreciate you guys tuning in and please continue to send
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Speaker 1: me your topics. I want to be on the pulse
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Speaker 1: of what you guys want to hear, what you want
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Speaker 1: to talk about. I try my best to be an
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Speaker 1: open book for you guys and talk to you about
59:20
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59:21
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59:23
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