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SEASON2 EPISODE_136_DA CREW PODCAST_HOST PROPHETESS T · DA CREW Podcast

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to another episode of the Cursing Percy. All things
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  Speaker 1: ain't what they used to be?
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  Speaker 1: All things ain't what.
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  Speaker 2: They used to be.
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  Speaker 6: I hope you had a wonderful Wednesday. And like every
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  Speaker 6: quote comes from the Bible, Second Samuel seven fourteen to
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  Speaker 6: fifteen I will be a father to him, and you'll
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  Speaker 1: This mortal life.
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  Speaker 6: But I'll never remove my graciousness from him once again.
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  Speaker 6: That is from Second Samuel seven, fourteen and fifteen. And
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  Speaker 1: Because the Word says that whatever.
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  Speaker 6: in the preseless, matchless name of your son Jesus, we
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  Speaker 5: God.
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  Speaker 6: Now we put this program into your hands. God, let
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  Speaker 6: we cannot only.
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  Speaker 1: Live in the church, but outside of the church.
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  Speaker 6: God, bless everybody who is listening on tonight. You know
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  Speaker 6: the things that they have need of. God, grant them
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  Speaker 6: those things that they have need of. We don't even
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  Speaker 6: know how to pray, as we all, but Jesus works
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  Speaker 6: antnccessry for usn't tonight We give you the glory, we
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  Speaker 6: give you the power, and we give you the honor
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  Speaker 6: in Jesus' name. On tonight we are talking about fatherhood
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  Speaker 6: and father engagement. That a lot of fathers think that
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  Speaker 6: if they just pay their child support that that is sufficient.
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  Speaker 6: But research has shown that it is more important for
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  Speaker 6: a father to be in their child's life than just
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  Speaker 6: to donate money. That a child needs their father and
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  Speaker 6: their life.
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  Speaker 1: I was.
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  Speaker 6: I went to an in service training a couple of
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  Speaker 6: years ago, and I found out that I was a
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  Speaker 6: little biased. That I would concentrate on the mother's in
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  Speaker 6: my classroom, but I would not do anything to encourage
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  Speaker 6: the fathers because I grew up in a father's home.
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  Speaker 6: My son had male role models, but his father passed
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  Speaker 6: away when he was very young. So I found out
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  Speaker 6: that because I was so used to doing everything on
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  Speaker 6: my own and being a single mother, that I didn't
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  Speaker 6: make the fathers feel like they were welcome in my classroom.
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  Speaker 6: And then I began to change that and would do
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  Speaker 6: things to encourage the fathers to come into the classroom
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  Speaker 6: and spend time with their children, because a lot of
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  Speaker 6: the fathers would think that if they go to work
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  Speaker 6: and they're providing for their family that that is enough.
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  Speaker 6: But we found out doing research that children that fathers
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  Speaker 6: are in their life are less likely to get in
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  Speaker 6: trouble less likely to join gangs, less likely to have
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  Speaker 6: a teenage pregnancy. Because boys need their fathers to show
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  Speaker 6: them how.
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  Speaker 1: To be a man, how to love a woman.
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  Speaker 6: Girls need their father to show them how a man
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  Speaker 6: is supposed to treat a woman. And when a father
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  Speaker 6: has been a good role model for his children, most
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  Speaker 6: of the time a girl looks for in a man
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  Speaker 6: the same things that she received from her father. And
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  Speaker 6: so there are many ways. Because I spent thirty two
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  Speaker 6: years I'm teaching a headstart, I am familiar with the
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  Speaker 6: three to five year.
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  Speaker 1: Old age groups.
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  Speaker 6: And we used to do a lot of activities to
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  Speaker 6: get the fathers to come in. And sometimes you have
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  Speaker 6: to adjust your schedule to work in fathers. Like sometimes
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  Speaker 6: we would have things in the morning before they went
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  Speaker 6: to work, and I would tell them, you don't have
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  Speaker 6: to stay all day, just show up for a few minutes,
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  Speaker 6: help sell birth, breakfast, read a book to the child,
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  Speaker 6: to the children, and it doesn't you can still go
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  Speaker 6: to work. Sometimes we do things after school that when
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  Speaker 6: the fathers got off they can attend. And I'm very
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  Speaker 6: very excited right now that my guest is here and
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  Speaker 6: he's in the stead of chaplain Anthony James, how are
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  Speaker 6: you doing?
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  Speaker 5: Man, I'm blessed. I'm blessed. How you doing Alma's alway
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  Speaker 5: is a blessing, you know what I mean. You're a soldier.
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  Speaker 5: You definitely definitely are doing what God is calling you
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  Speaker 5: to do. So I'm honored to be here tonight to
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  Speaker 5: share this platform with you tonight.
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  Speaker 6: And I am honored to have you on this platform.
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  Speaker 6: So can you tell us a little bit about you?
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  Speaker 6: At the end of the show, I'm going to allow
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  Speaker 6: you to talk about your books and how people can
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  Speaker 6: read you. But right now, can you tell us a
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  Speaker 6: little bit about Chaplin James?
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  Speaker 2: Who? Well it is Chaplain James. Well, you know, I'm
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  Speaker 2: originally from New York.
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  Speaker 5: I relocated to North Carolina twelve years ago. It's been
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  Speaker 5: a long twelve years, went so fast though, And so
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  Speaker 5: you know, I just listening to you talk about the
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  Speaker 5: father the fatherless homes and with all that stuff that
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  Speaker 5: you and you can see I see said got my
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  Speaker 5: shirt on empowered fathers.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 5: I'm an empowered father today. And once upon a time,
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  Speaker 5: you know, I had I had the same struggles dealing
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  Speaker 5: with because I got three children by three different women.
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  Speaker 2: So that was. I know what you're talking about, because
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  Speaker 2: I came to the head start.
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  Speaker 5: To deal with my children even when you was working there,
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  Speaker 5: you know what I mean. So I can attest to that.
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  Speaker 5: And yeah, this journey has been for me. Being a
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  Speaker 5: father man is very important. Is detrimental to the point
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  Speaker 5: whereas now if you see these younger these teenagers now
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  Speaker 5: growing up without a father in the home, man, it's
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  Speaker 5: not a good situation. So I've been on this journey
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  Speaker 5: trying to connect with different men that's dealt with the
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  Speaker 5: same situations I've dealt with as far as leaving the home,
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  Speaker 5: leaving the children in the situation, and and and and
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  Speaker 5: and it's a struggle. And so my ministry, you know,
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  Speaker 5: I've been God has been blessing me to do this
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  Speaker 5: ministry in the prisons. Outside the prisons, I have a
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  Speaker 5: mentorship program. I deal with just men, you know, coming out,
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  Speaker 5: men that ain't never been to prison, that still deal with,
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  Speaker 5: you know, being fatherless to their kids in some sense,
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  Speaker 5: you know.
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  Speaker 2: And so that's what's been going on in my life.
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  Speaker 5: And my ministry God is definitely just it's a crazy
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  Speaker 5: ministry to the point.
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  Speaker 2: Of it's hard. It's hard because men.
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  Speaker 5: We're very tough, we're very hard headed, we're very stubborn
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  Speaker 5: in areas, and so to pull men together, to get
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  Speaker 5: them to realize that the mistakes they made based on
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  Speaker 5: you know now, it's.
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  Speaker 2: Hard to get them. So that's it's been a real
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  Speaker 2: real challenge for me. But I'm I'm for the challenge.
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  Speaker 6: Hey man, looking back on your career, I talk about
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  Speaker 6: something that you regret.
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  Speaker 2: I regret my career.
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  Speaker 5: I regret not I'm gonna say, you know, just getting
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  Speaker 5: it because I had a father in my life. I
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  Speaker 5: had a father. I was brought up in a two
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  Speaker 5: family home. My dad stayed with my mom for sixty years,
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  Speaker 5: you know what I mean. So I had that experience.
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  Speaker 5: So but I'm not my dad. One thing that me
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  Speaker 5: and my dad we were present in the household because
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  Speaker 5: he stayed there, but we didn't have any connection. And
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  Speaker 5: so that I regretted leaving the nest earlier than I
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  Speaker 5: was supposed to, because once I left, the next my
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  Speaker 5: father was like, if you leave, you ain't coming back here.
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  Speaker 5: And once I did that, my life just spiraled out
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  Speaker 5: of control, you know what I mean. Because I didn't
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  Speaker 5: have that male figure that really loved me because the
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  Speaker 5: streets ain't love me.
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  Speaker 2: The streets showed a false type of love.
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  Speaker 5: So I regret leaving my household at an age where
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  Speaker 5: I didn't understand anything, at the age of fourteen, I left,
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  Speaker 5: came back, then other stuff started happening. That's that's the
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  Speaker 5: regret that I you know, that I can look back
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  Speaker 5: on and say, man, that was my greatest regret leaving
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  Speaker 5: the house early.
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  Speaker 1: What was your proudest moment as a father?
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  Speaker 5: My proudest moment, you know, when they was born, When
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  Speaker 5: they was born, you know, because I didn't know what
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  Speaker 5: being a father was until even all through the pregnancies
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  Speaker 5: or whatever. But at the end of the day, once
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  Speaker 5: that child came, I didn't. I was just proud, like, Wow,
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  Speaker 5: I'm gonna be a dad. I'm gonna be a father
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  Speaker 5: like you know. So that was one of my proudest
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  Speaker 5: moment of being a father.
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  Speaker 1: What was your farthest moment as being a faller?
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  Speaker 5: Being responsible? Being responsible because I didn't understand. I saw
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  Speaker 5: my dad do it, but I'm not my dad. So
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  Speaker 5: because when trial and ever came, he still stood the
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  Speaker 5: test of time.
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  Speaker 2: I did.
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  Speaker 5: I ran, I ran, So you know, artist is being
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  Speaker 5: a father being a person that heard about my child,
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  Speaker 5: my children and helping. Matter of fact, trying to nurture.
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  Speaker 5: The woman's the nurturer. I'm the head, so trying to
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  Speaker 5: be the head man. If you don't know what that
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  Speaker 5: consists of, better ask somebody.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean, and ask somebody.
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  Speaker 6: So you talked about your father being in a home,
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  Speaker 6: and then he was there, but y'all didn't really communicate.
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  Speaker 6: So how would you like to be like your father?
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  Speaker 6: And what part of you is different from your father?
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  Speaker 5: Well, the part of me that was different from my
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  Speaker 5: dad because there was seven of us, okay, so he
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  Speaker 5: was like listen, he didn't really communicate much.
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  Speaker 2: He had to make ends meet, so at the end
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  Speaker 2: of the day, he was tough man round it.
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  Speaker 5: You know. We played with us at times, but for
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  Speaker 5: the most part, you know, for instance, like cut the grass.
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  Speaker 5: We had chores back then, so at the end of
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  Speaker 5: the day, I had to cut the grass, but I
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  Speaker 5: didn't do it right. So I used to get a
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  Speaker 5: beaten for not doing it right. And what I did
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  Speaker 5: different than my dad did with me. Instead of telling
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  Speaker 5: my children, I showed my children, you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 5: because it's a big difference when you tell somebody to
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  Speaker 5: do something that's just like nobody never got on Google,
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  Speaker 5: and you tell them the Google this, they may be
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  Speaker 5: able to cut Google on, but do they understand what
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  Speaker 5: Google really consists of?
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 5: And so I didn't understand because when I did the grass,
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  Speaker 5: I made the lines a little crooked. My dad didn't
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  Speaker 5: like that. So in my head I was saying, man,
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  Speaker 5: why I just do show me? If he showed me,
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  Speaker 5: I'll probably do a better job. So through that trial
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  Speaker 5: and error, what I've learned from that to show my
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  Speaker 5: kids better than just telling them because they don't understand.
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  Speaker 2: So that was the difference.
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  Speaker 1: So what lessons do you hope to pass on to
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  Speaker 1: your children?
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  Speaker 5: Well, I want to pass on first of all, having
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  Speaker 5: to building a relationship with God. That's first and foremost.
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  Speaker 5: I want them to learn that from me. I want
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  Speaker 5: to pass that on as a legacy, not just money.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 5: Inheritance is what you who you become, not what you get.
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  Speaker 5: So my legacy I want to leave my children to
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  Speaker 5: honor God. Is that honor themselves and then honor their
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  Speaker 5: parents as well. I want them to honor their parents,
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  Speaker 5: you know, because this generation. Now there's no honor because
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  Speaker 5: they would raise a certain kind of way, and I'm
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  Speaker 5: glad I was raised that way, so I would I
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  Speaker 5: would love to leave that with my children to really
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  Speaker 5: tap into the spirit of God as they know, you know,
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  Speaker 5: get to know who God is.
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  Speaker 2: It's a journey. So that's what I would love to leave.
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  Speaker 6: What relationships do you think have helped you keep your
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  Speaker 6: friendships and rahmatic romantic relationship strong, especially your marriage now, Well.
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  Speaker 5: I mean to be honest with you, I can't really
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  Speaker 5: attest to a person.
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  Speaker 2: I can attest to God.
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  Speaker 5: The spirit of God is what helped me because I've
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  Speaker 5: been through two divorces. This is my third marriage, so
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  Speaker 5: I really didn't Back then it was taboo to talk
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  Speaker 5: to people. It was taboo for somebody to get in
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  Speaker 5: your business. You didn't want nobody in your business. And
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  Speaker 5: so I had to lean close to God to help
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  Speaker 5: me understand what love is really about because I didn't know.
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  Speaker 5: I didn't understand it. I thought love was having sex
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  Speaker 5: and you know, going out on the date, and I
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  Speaker 5: thought it was just about that, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 2: Intimacy is way deeper than that.
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  Speaker 5: So I had to learn from God to really love
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  Speaker 5: myself first before I can love any other woman.
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  Speaker 2: You know what I mean.
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  Speaker 6: Right, if you could change one thing about your fatherhood,
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  Speaker 6: what would it be.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I would be more patient.
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  Speaker 5: I would be more patient, like I'm getting now, because
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  Speaker 5: it's a thing when you get older, you know, things
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  Speaker 5: start changing a little bit, you know what I mean,
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  Speaker 5: You start seeing a little differently. But in my younger years,
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  Speaker 5: married and being a father, you know I would I
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  Speaker 5: would pay attention more responsible in certain areas where I missed,
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  Speaker 5: you know what I mean, where I could have missed that.
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  Speaker 2: You know I could have get a little better. You
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  Speaker 2: know I would. I would pay attention to that, just
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  Speaker 2: being more patient and aware.
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  Speaker 1: You know what quality do you most value in yourself?
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  Speaker 5: Well, I'm I'm I'm I'm humble, you know, I'm God fearing,
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  Speaker 5: I love. I understand what love is. That's the qualities.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm understanding. I used to hate that. I said, Lord,
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  Speaker 5: you put understanding. Why do you want me to understand everything?
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  Speaker 5: You understand? So I understand that that's very valuable to understands.
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  Speaker 5: And we know in Proverbs four and seven it says
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  Speaker 5: it all by getting get understanding, because we go through
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  Speaker 5: life with these different ideologies and methodologies, but we don't understand,
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  Speaker 5: and that's when you get.
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  Speaker 2: Hurt or you hurt someone else.
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  Speaker 5: Lack of understanding, So understanding is really really worth. That's
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  Speaker 5: my go to trying to understand what my walk is about.
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  Speaker 6: You know, do you think that this is not a
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  Speaker 6: question that I wrote down, but do you think now
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  Speaker 6: that a lot of women don't understand how important a
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  Speaker 6: father relationship is to their children, Like when you break
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  Speaker 6: up with me, now you can't see your kids anymore.
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  Speaker 1: And a lot of fathers.
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  Speaker 6: There are some fathers that hang in there and fight,
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  Speaker 6: but there's a lot of fathers just walk away because
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  Speaker 6: they don't want to go through that drama.
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  Speaker 1: So you think that there's a lot of women who
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  Speaker 1: use their children as a.
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  Speaker 5: Pawn for sure? For sure, that's that's part of the problem.
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  Speaker 5: That's part of the problem. It's not all the men,
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  Speaker 5: you know what I mean? Because it's like, you know,
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  Speaker 5: I have a program called Boys Becoming Men, and it's
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  Speaker 5: a lot of boys and men bodies that they.
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  Speaker 2: Don't really understand.
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  Speaker 5: But the ones that do try to stay there with
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  Speaker 5: their children to conflict with the mother and the father.
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  Speaker 5: The woman does use the kids for pawns, because that's
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  Speaker 5: her only, that's her strength, because she know physicality, she
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  Speaker 5: can't beat a man. Or the only way to get
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  Speaker 5: to a man's heart is his children. So so of
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  Speaker 5: course that's that's huge right now.
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  Speaker 2: And I hear a lot of women speaking out against it.
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  Speaker 5: But the damage, once the damage is done, it's like
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  Speaker 5: a woman's scorn.
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  Speaker 2: They said, hell has no fury, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 5: Once once that woman is upset what you've done with
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  Speaker 5: you like that, you just gotta figure it out the
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  Speaker 5: best way you can. And I thank God that because
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  Speaker 5: of my upbringing, because of God, you know.
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  Speaker 2: I had a lot of that drama in my life.
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  Speaker 5: And but I stayed the course with my children because
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  Speaker 5: I love my children, because.
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  Speaker 2: Didn't think I did learn My dad didn't leave me.
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  Speaker 2: He didn't care what my mom dealt with. You know
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  Speaker 2: what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 5: He keep brusting off, but he made sure he stayed
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  Speaker 5: there and she was represented.
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  Speaker 2: And so I try to follow.
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  Speaker 5: That, you know. But yeah, of course the women they need,
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  Speaker 5: they need they need some help too in that area,
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  Speaker 5: you know, because it's it's it's not about just the woman.
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  Speaker 5: You didn't just lay down and have that baby by yourself.
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  Speaker 5: You understand that man was very present at that time,
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  Speaker 5: you know.
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  Speaker 6: So yeah, yeah, that's true that I even as a woman,
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  Speaker 6: I see that and that A lot of times it's like, Oh,
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  Speaker 6: if he's not paying child to border, he's not giving
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  Speaker 6: me what I want, or he had don't have another girlfriend,
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  Speaker 6: then oh I don't want that be around me. You
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  Speaker 6: don't even know how justn't done anything to harm your child,
• 22:52
  Speaker 6: but just because he's with someone else, you have a
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  Speaker 6: very negative attitude. So I think that women need to
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  Speaker 6: be educated, but your children need their father. Like a
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  Speaker 6: lot of times will say, oh, I don't need no man.
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  Speaker 1: My son don't need no father. But I was a single.
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  Speaker 6: Parent and I had to before my son passed away,
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  Speaker 6: I had to give him male role models because I
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  Speaker 6: couldn't teach him how to be a man. I couldn't
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  Speaker 6: know how a man feels, what a man is going through.
• 23:36
  Speaker 6: He needed other men to teach him that right. And
• 23:41
  Speaker 6: you know, because his father passed away, we had to
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  Speaker 6: find men in the community like you that you know,
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  Speaker 6: go out just not for your own child, but for
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  Speaker 6: other children to see that positive role, male role model
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  Speaker 6: in their life. A lot of people of men don't
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  Speaker 6: know how to be men because they didn't have any
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  Speaker 6: men in their lives, and we as women, tried to substitute.
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  Speaker 6: But a man, a woman can't, no matter how you
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  Speaker 6: argue when you look at it, a woman cannot teach a.
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  Speaker 1: Man how to be a man.
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  Speaker 6: Right, So are the things you wouldh you had you
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  Speaker 6: had done differently as a father?
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  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, of course.
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  Speaker 5: I mean we all think back and to see the
• 24:41
  Speaker 5: mistakes or the decisions that we made to now you're
• 24:45
  Speaker 5: a little older, you're a little bit more disciplined, and
• 24:47
  Speaker 5: you're like, wow, man, if I did this a little
• 24:49
  Speaker 5: bit differently, and yeah, you know, one of the things I,
• 24:54
  Speaker 5: you know, wish I would have done was to not
• 24:59
  Speaker 5: beat myself self up so hard, you know, not not
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  Speaker 5: put so much pressure because I had to learn, you
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  Speaker 5: know what I mean. This is not doesn't come with
• 25:09
  Speaker 5: a script or a book or you know, you don't
• 25:12
  Speaker 5: get answers, but you got to go through the process
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  Speaker 5: of learning and.
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  Speaker 2: Growing because you have to get to know the children.
• 25:19
  Speaker 5: The children has to get to know you, not just
• 25:21
  Speaker 5: respect you, but know you. You know what I mean,
• 25:24
  Speaker 5: that you that they know that you. You know what
• 25:27
  Speaker 5: I stood for and I did pretty good at it.
• 25:30
  Speaker 5: But at the same token, you know, just just could
• 25:35
  Speaker 5: have been more, a little bit more assertive, you know,
• 25:41
  Speaker 5: I was.
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  Speaker 2: I was always you know, I was kind of you know,
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: I was, I was. Really it was a lot, It
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: was a lot. Raising children is not a game.
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  Speaker 5: You know, most men, you know, they take flight because
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  Speaker 5: the responsibility.
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  Speaker 2: But once I I started understanding that.
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  Speaker 5: God, he's he's those are his children, I had to
• 26:07
  Speaker 5: understand I had to get it right because they didn't
• 26:08
  Speaker 5: actually be born into this world. So that helped me
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  Speaker 5: kick into another situation to say, yoh, you know what,
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  Speaker 5: I got to learn.
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  Speaker 2: His fatherhood thing, because this is serious. This is serious.
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  Speaker 2: This is not a game.
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  Speaker 5: This is a soul we're talking about, you know what
• 26:22
  Speaker 5: I mean. This is a life of breathing life. And
• 26:24
  Speaker 5: so yeah that, yeah, that's.
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  Speaker 1: Tough and man, but I've seen you.
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  Speaker 6: In your father role from when your daughter was in
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  Speaker 6: head Start, and everyone I liked. A value was that
• 26:42
  Speaker 6: every event that she was a part of I would
• 26:47
  Speaker 6: look into the audience and see you there. Even when
• 26:52
  Speaker 6: you moved North Carolina, at recitals, graduations, you were there.
• 26:58
  Speaker 6: And she is wonderful, wonderful young lady that she matured
• 27:04
  Speaker 6: in two. So I've seen you, you know, being a
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  Speaker 6: part of one of your children's life and really showing
• 27:13
  Speaker 6: her how a man is supposed to treat a woman
• 27:17
  Speaker 6: with the flowers and just always just being there for her,
• 27:22
  Speaker 6: like nobody can't come along and tell her the okie dope,
• 27:27
  Speaker 6: and she's gonna fall for it because she had a
• 27:30
  Speaker 6: real man and a life.
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: One more thing, do you think today's fathers.
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  Speaker 6: Have things harder or easier than you had done?
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  Speaker 5: Nah?
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: Well you can, like it's what you make it.
• 27:46
  Speaker 5: It's what you make of it, you know, because again
• 27:50
  Speaker 5: even moving, you know, I could have been like man,
• 27:53
  Speaker 5: because I went through a lot with the mothers of
• 27:55
  Speaker 5: my children a couple of times, and you know, and
• 27:59
  Speaker 5: I could to say, you know, what the heck with this?
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  Speaker 2: You know, I I don't got to deal with this.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: I was just pay child support.
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  Speaker 5: But my heart, my heart wouldn't let me do that.
• 28:09
  Speaker 5: Plus the god I served wasn't gonna let me cop
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  Speaker 5: out like that. And so because he always reminds me,
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  Speaker 5: you know.
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  Speaker 2: Check yourself, son, check yourself before you wreck yourself.
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  Speaker 5: And because if you harm the very hands of mine,
• 28:24
  Speaker 5: I was like all right, lord, you know, because it
• 28:27
  Speaker 5: was some times where I was like, you know what,
• 28:28
  Speaker 5: I wasn't gonna never leave to see my dad.
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: He never, he never left us. See.
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  Speaker 5: But the bottom line is he didn't go through what
• 28:37
  Speaker 5: I went through because of he stayed.
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  Speaker 2: You see what I'm saying. That was the difference. He stayed.
• 28:43
  Speaker 5: He dealt with it inside. Most men now they have
• 28:47
  Speaker 5: to deal with it outside. And when you have to
• 28:50
  Speaker 5: deal with a situation outside, you know how much stuff
• 28:52
  Speaker 5: you can't see that's coming at you.
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  Speaker 2: You see what I'm saying. Once you're on the inside
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  Speaker 2: of it, you can see it. At least.
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  Speaker 5: You may not be dealing with it the way you
• 29:02
  Speaker 5: really want to, but you are aware of what's happening
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  Speaker 5: because you are close proximity. But if you're not close proximity,
• 29:10
  Speaker 5: anything goes. They can the mothers can do anything, can
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  Speaker 5: say anything.
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  Speaker 2: And you're just not there. And that was my problem.
• 29:17
  Speaker 5: I was out when I left the homes, I ripped something.
• 29:23
  Speaker 5: That was the disappointment right there, you know. And so
• 29:28
  Speaker 5: I'm still to this day building relationships with my children.
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: Even though it's okay, but it's room for improvement.
• 29:35
  Speaker 5: But because I left, that really tore something that I
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  Speaker 5: can't blame that.
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  Speaker 2: On them or the woman. I have to take full
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: responsibility for that. And it has whipped my tails up.
• 29:49
  Speaker 5: But it whooped me in a place whereas I understand
• 29:53
  Speaker 5: like wow, okay, wow, this is what this is the
• 29:56
  Speaker 5: fruit from the root that happened. So I had to
• 30:00
  Speaker 5: uproot myself. We planted myself and then going in a
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  Speaker 5: different way.
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  Speaker 6: Amen, So tell us about your book and what are
• 30:15
  Speaker 6: you doing now.
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  Speaker 1: Where the audience can reach you?
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  Speaker 2: Right? Well, I have a book called The Millionaires Brother.
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  Speaker 5: You know, I ain't gonna tell you the whole story,
• 30:28
  Speaker 5: but I had a brother went to the you know,
• 30:30
  Speaker 5: I ain't gonna even go there.
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  Speaker 2: Stay. It's called The Millionaires Brother. And I wrote the
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  Speaker 2: book in twenty fifteen.
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  Speaker 5: It came to me twenty ten when I was in
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  Speaker 5: New York, but because I was going through so much turmoil,
• 30:44
  Speaker 5: God didn't allow me to write the book until I
• 30:46
  Speaker 5: reached North Carolina. When I reached North Carolina, somebody actually
• 30:50
  Speaker 5: ghost writing the book for me. They were so moved
• 30:52
  Speaker 5: by my story and so, but the catch to the
• 30:56
  Speaker 5: book is The Millionaires Brother, you know. But the subject
• 31:00
  Speaker 5: title of my book, overcoming the addictions of life. That's
• 31:04
  Speaker 5: what's moving right now, especially with the opioids. It's not
• 31:07
  Speaker 5: just drugs, because you can be addicted to anything food,
• 31:11
  Speaker 5: you can be addicted to sex, you can be addicted
• 31:14
  Speaker 5: to gambling.
• 31:15
  Speaker 2: So it speaks to that.
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  Speaker 5: And so the book is actually I you know, wrote
• 31:21
  Speaker 5: the book and it's on Amazon, you know, but I
• 31:24
  Speaker 5: have my own website, W do because what I tell people,
• 31:27
  Speaker 5: you can go to Amazon, but Amazon is not going
• 31:29
  Speaker 5: to give you an autograph. So I'll send people to
• 31:33
  Speaker 5: my website www Dot Millionaires.
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  Speaker 2: Brother dot com.
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  Speaker 5: Www Dot Millionaires Brother dot com.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: And it's a book of testimonies. It's a powers.
• 31:43
  Speaker 5: Book of my life, you know, what I've been through
• 31:47
  Speaker 5: as a youth to up until you know, I went
• 31:50
  Speaker 5: to prison.
• 31:51
  Speaker 2: It talks about all of that stuff, you know what
• 31:53
  Speaker 2: I mean.
• 31:55
  Speaker 5: I was in the streets from nineteen seventy nine all
• 31:59
  Speaker 5: the way to nineteen ninety two. That's a long time
• 32:04
  Speaker 5: and so it was a lot of nefarious things that
• 32:06
  Speaker 5: happened to me. But it's in the book, and so
• 32:09
  Speaker 5: you can catch that on Amazon. Plus you can go
• 32:11
  Speaker 5: to my website www Dot Millionaires Brother dot com. And yeah,
• 32:16
  Speaker 5: the book is doing pretty decent right now, I'm moving
• 32:19
  Speaker 5: around with the book. It's like it's like I'm a
• 32:21
  Speaker 5: It's like my book is a car. I get in
• 32:24
  Speaker 5: my book and drive, you know what I mean. I'm
• 32:27
  Speaker 5: driving my book right now.
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: And so you know, I self published, you know what
• 32:31
  Speaker 2: I mean.
• 32:32
  Speaker 5: I didn't have the money for publicist because I didn't
• 32:34
  Speaker 5: understand what it was.
• 32:35
  Speaker 2: And I was encouraged to.
• 32:37
  Speaker 5: Publish published, you know, self published, and that worked out
• 32:40
  Speaker 5: for me because God didn't want the book to go
• 32:43
  Speaker 5: fast for me to blow up. He wanted me to
• 32:45
  Speaker 5: go through a journey with this book because it's a
• 32:48
  Speaker 5: rough it's a lot of stuff. It's a lot of
• 32:51
  Speaker 5: stuff in this book that you're going to see yourself
• 32:54
  Speaker 5: in this book. If you get this book, you were
• 32:56
  Speaker 5: going to see yourself or see somebody else in your
• 32:59
  Speaker 5: family or some money that you know, that's how closely
• 33:03
  Speaker 5: you're gonna you're gonna you're gonna really see yourself because
• 33:06
  Speaker 5: I touched on everything that the pitfalls that I went through,
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  Speaker 5: you know. And the tricker I don't even use satan.
• 33:15
  Speaker 5: Satan or Satan does is add on. He doesn't have
• 33:17
  Speaker 5: any power. He has the power suggestion. He talked to
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  Speaker 5: me a lot because I allowed him to talk to
• 33:23
  Speaker 5: me because I was in sin.
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: And that's all through the book. So if you get
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: that book, you're gonna be blessed, you know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: Amen?
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  Speaker 6: Amen, So repeat your website.
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  Speaker 1: Your website once again.
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  Speaker 5: Www Dot Millionaires Brother dot com.
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: And it's on Amazon.
• 33:46
  Speaker 5: You go to Amazon, but I encourage you to get
• 33:48
  Speaker 5: the book through www Dot Millionaires Brother dot com. And plus,
• 33:53
  Speaker 5: you see my shirt here Empowered Fathers.
• 33:56
  Speaker 2: Got a checklist, you know.
• 33:58
  Speaker 5: I have also a Kingdom Wear Store dot com and
• 34:01
  Speaker 5: have a store a claw a T shirt store Kingdom
• 34:05
  Speaker 5: Wearstore dot com. That's where you can get these shirts from.
• 34:09
  Speaker 5: It's available right now, you know. And and god, I'm
• 34:13
  Speaker 5: just using this for ministry. This is all tools for ministry.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Amen, Amen.
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  Speaker 6: I've read The Millionaire's Brother and it's a very very
• 34:22
  Speaker 6: good book. I advise everyone who is listening to get
• 34:27
  Speaker 6: out and get that book.
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: So what's next for you, Chaplain James?
• 34:31
  Speaker 5: Well, I'm working on my next book now, you know.
• 34:34
  Speaker 5: I'm I'm in ministry. You know, because if you get
• 34:38
  Speaker 5: the book, it alludes to the next book. If you
• 34:41
  Speaker 5: get The Millionaire's Brother, it alludes to the next book
• 34:44
  Speaker 5: I'm writing now. So at the end of the day,
• 34:47
  Speaker 5: you know, the next thing is God is pushing me.
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: Right now. I'm here, I'm here.
• 34:52
  Speaker 5: In the streets. I'm in the streets. You know, I'm
• 34:54
  Speaker 5: trying it as a saying. You know, they call me
• 34:57
  Speaker 5: an unorthodox chaplain. So a lot people saying they make,
• 35:01
  Speaker 5: they trying to make. It's a little little inside joke,
• 35:05
  Speaker 5: you know.
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: They say, I'm trying to people trying to get out.
• 35:07
  Speaker 5: Of prisons, but I'm trying to get in, you know.
• 35:10
  Speaker 5: And so and that's what's happening right now. That's the
• 35:13
  Speaker 5: work I'm doing. I'm doing the work of the Lord,
• 35:15
  Speaker 5: and so I'm excited about it. And because I'm trying
• 35:19
  Speaker 5: to help these boys become men and man.
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: And so that's the catch.
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  Speaker 1: Amen.
• 35:26
  Speaker 6: And can you pray for the men and the fathers
• 35:33
  Speaker 6: right now?
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: Yes, I can.
• 35:37
  Speaker 5: Father God in the name of Jesus, Lord, we thank
• 35:39
  Speaker 5: you right now for first allowing us to get up
• 35:43
  Speaker 5: this morning. We ask you for forgiveness for any things
• 35:46
  Speaker 5: that we fell short in. Lord, we're asking you right now.
• 35:51
  Speaker 5: You said when two of more's in the midst that
• 35:53
  Speaker 5: you are here. I believe you are here on this
• 35:55
  Speaker 5: broadcast for everybody who's listening, Lord, I pray for the men.
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  Speaker 5: I pray for the boys that's in men's bodies. I
• 36:03
  Speaker 5: pray for the boys. I pray for the men that Lord,
• 36:06
  Speaker 5: you said you love men because we.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: Are the heads and we are not the tales.
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  Speaker 5: And I prayed, Lord, that you convict, preak our hearts,
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  Speaker 5: prick the men's hearts, touch and deliver, and set free.
• 36:19
  Speaker 5: Set their minds free, Set them free from the captivity
• 36:23
  Speaker 5: that they are in right now in their own mind
• 36:26
  Speaker 5: because a lot of them are stuck in their ways
• 36:28
  Speaker 5: and they're stuck in their mind. Just help them to
• 36:31
  Speaker 5: understand that they got purpose, they got work to do,
• 36:36
  Speaker 5: because when you before you gave Adam a wife, you
• 36:39
  Speaker 5: gave him responsibility. Help them to understand that they got
• 36:43
  Speaker 5: to be responsible to do anything in this world. And
• 36:48
  Speaker 5: I just asked you to heal their hearts, heal their minds,
• 36:53
  Speaker 5: whatever they're going through.
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: The abuse.
• 36:55
  Speaker 5: Some fathers has been abused, some boys have been abused,
• 36:58
  Speaker 5: sexually abused, verbally abused, mentally abused.
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  Speaker 2: Just Lord, just.
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  Speaker 5: Help them to you know, have somebody to touch with
• 37:07
  Speaker 5: them and reach them wherever. Just pray that somebody gets
• 37:11
  Speaker 5: to these men and they have an epiphany, have something
• 37:16
  Speaker 5: with you, an encounter, so that they can wake up.
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: Because man, time is running out.
• 37:21
  Speaker 5: Time is running out, and you're giving us so many,
• 37:23
  Speaker 5: so much time to get it right. I thank God
• 37:25
  Speaker 5: for Jesus being on the right hand of you interceding
• 37:29
  Speaker 5: for us. And I'm saying, Lord, just wake awaken these men.
• 37:32
  Speaker 5: Awaken these boys, shake them up, shake them up as
• 37:36
  Speaker 5: you are doing.
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  Speaker 2: And so I appreciate this platform right now.
• 37:40
  Speaker 5: And whoever's under the sound of my voice, men, male
• 37:43
  Speaker 5: counterpart as well as the women you know. Connect your boys,
• 37:48
  Speaker 5: connect your uncles, Connect your cousin, male cousins, connect them
• 37:53
  Speaker 5: because time is running out, and so pray right now
• 37:56
  Speaker 5: and Jesus name.
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: Amen, Amen, Amen, and thank you.
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  Speaker 6: Thank you once again for taking your time and coming
• 38:06
  Speaker 6: out on tonight and sharing on inspirational moments with Profitence Tea.
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  Speaker 1: If you have gotten anything.
• 38:17
  Speaker 6: From this platform on tonight, don't forget to like, share
• 38:24
  Speaker 6: and comment, and if you want to get in touch
• 38:28
  Speaker 6: with chaplain James. He's in North Carolina, but I'm sure
• 38:32
  Speaker 6: he will travel to your venue. He will be virtual
• 38:36
  Speaker 6: to share his ventureship program for boys turning to men.
• 38:43
  Speaker 6: So everyone, have a wonderful, wonderful rest of your Wednesday.
• 38:49
  Speaker 6: I will see you on August thirtieth with another episode
• 38:53
  Speaker 6: of Inspirational Moments with Providence, Tea, good night and God
• 38:59
  Speaker 6: bless good night, Say good night, thank you.
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  Speaker 2: All right, all right,