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Dustin needs our BF advice and YOURS!! · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: Dustin. Good morning, Hey John Jay.
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  Speaker 2: How's it going, longtime listener?
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  Speaker 1: Oh? Thanks, Dustin? How are you?
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  Speaker 2: I'm awesome, man, I mean mostly, you know, I just
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  Speaker 2: really need some advice because I'm genuinely confused and it's
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  Speaker 2: at the point now where it's just starting to hurt
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  Speaker 2: my feelings. Okay, it's about my boyfriend and I've been
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  Speaker 2: with him for a little over a year now. I
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  Speaker 2: think it's a significant amount of time. And I'm saying
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  Speaker 2: this because he's the first guy I'm fully openly dated,
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  Speaker 2: committed to, and I just really want this to work.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So how can I help you?
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  Speaker 2: So it's just that lately I'm realizing because I don't
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  Speaker 2: want this to come off like a small thing, but
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  Speaker 2: it's just I'm realizing, and it's been going on for
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  Speaker 2: a bit, that he just doesn't remember things about me,
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  Speaker 2: and it's things I feel like your partner should know
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  Speaker 2: about you or recognize or remember. Like let me just say,
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  Speaker 2: like I brought him a gift back from Europe and
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  Speaker 2: when his friend asked where he got it, he said
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  Speaker 2: someone else gave it to him.
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  Speaker 3: That's bad. Hurt by that for sure?
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  Speaker 1: What else?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And you know, normally you know, I can just
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  Speaker 2: let that stuff slide, you know, because we're in a
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  Speaker 2: serious relationship. But then the other day I found out
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  Speaker 2: he doesn't even know my middle name.
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  Speaker 4: After over a year of dating.
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  Speaker 2: A little over a year, he still does not know
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  Speaker 2: my middle name. Again, that's just a I mean, that's
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  Speaker 2: an obvious word flagged. But to top it off, we
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  Speaker 2: had a dinner reservation and he seld my last name wrong.
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  Speaker 5: We got a text here that was funny because I
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  Speaker 5: was just perfect timing. This text says, Hey, my son
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  Speaker 5: is two years old next week, and I had to
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  Speaker 5: check how I spelled his name correctly for another kid's
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  Speaker 5: birthday party.
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  Speaker 1: Card her own. Yes, this spell check. He thought he's
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  Speaker 1: spelled his sons the name wrong. That's that happened.
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  Speaker 3: Some people are details. I mean, he might love you
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  Speaker 3: just kind of like have one of those brains that
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  Speaker 3: doesn't operate that.
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  Speaker 4: That's kind of what I was thinking. I was going
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  Speaker 4: to ask you, is he like a big picture guy, Like,
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  Speaker 4: is he like thinking ten years down the road and
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  Speaker 4: he's not really normally into the details anyways, Because that
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  Speaker 4: what kind of makes sense.
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  Speaker 2: I mean somewhat, But it's just like when you put
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  Speaker 2: these pieces together, and there's there's been more like smaller signs,
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  Speaker 2: and these aren't like isolated incidents that are fure far between.
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  Speaker 2: It's just it's just starting to make me after a year,
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  Speaker 2: I mean a year, and I've tried bringing it up,
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  Speaker 2: inching at it. But if she takes me feel like
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  Speaker 2: I'm not important or member.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, Darren, I think you're just being emotional Dustin.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, maybe you don't even remember Justin's name.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe it's just you.
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  Speaker 3: Maybe it's you.
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  Speaker 1: I think it's you, Dustin. I think it's your whole person.
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  Speaker 2: So is he going to call me Darren now.
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  Speaker 1: Just a little joke?
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  Speaker 4: I think you got to talk to him about it
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  Speaker 4: and just be like, are you doing this on purpose?
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  Speaker 4: Or do you not realize you're doing this?
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  Speaker 3: Because these details kind of.
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  Speaker 4: Matter to me. Maybe he doesn't realize what he's doing.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to be too sensitive about it, but
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  Speaker 2: but I think.
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  Speaker 4: You I mean, it's not one thing, it's a it's
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  Speaker 4: several things at this point, and I don't think you
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  Speaker 4: have to be confrontational about it.
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  Speaker 3: Just be like, hey, do you do you know what's.
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  Speaker 5: Kind of happening here?
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  Speaker 4: It's kind of like it's it's it's something that I'm
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  Speaker 4: concerned about.
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  Speaker 3: You're like, out of my three names, you only kind
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  Speaker 3: of have my first name. I don't.
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  Speaker 1: I don't think it's that big of a deal just yet.
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  Speaker 1: That's just my opinion for sure. In fact, we could just.
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  Speaker 5: Put this out real quick eight seven seven ninety three
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  Speaker 5: seven one o four seven.
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  Speaker 1: Let's make Dustin feel better.
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  Speaker 5: Call up and tell us about how your boyfriend, girlfriend
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  Speaker 5: cergtificant other. I mean, even me as a dad, I
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  Speaker 5: get all my kids names, wrongs, wrongs, wrongs, I'll say
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  Speaker 5: three or four names. You have parents do that all
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  Speaker 5: the time, right, So I could see him not getting
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  Speaker 5: things right, and he probably mispelled your name by mistake, rushing,
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  Speaker 5: but I mean, you still bring it up to him.
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  Speaker 5: But we'll just do a quick round. Tell us about
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  Speaker 5: how you're sitting to the other completely messed up something
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  Speaker 5: that was Like every time my wife tells me about
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  Speaker 5: her birthday, it takes a second for me.
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  Speaker 1: I can't it's just not I mean, she knows my
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  Speaker 1: social Security number. Yeah, like I don't know, you forget.
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  Speaker 3: Some people are like that. Some people remember everything. Other
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  Speaker 3: people big picture, they don't think about it. So I'm
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  Speaker 3: going to give him a pass. Yeah, so that's what
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  Speaker 3: I'm saying. Yeah, but still we'll do a round. So
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  Speaker 3: Darren Dustin will hang up. You turn up the radio,
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  Speaker 3: and you listen to what everyone says to make you
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  Speaker 3: feel better.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, Hey, I appreciate that. Thank you for all your health.
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  Speaker 1: You got a hold on a second. Oh sorry, what
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  Speaker 1: what are you saying? You just want to what? Sorry?
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  Speaker 2: Just wanted to get this off my chest. I'm happy
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  Speaker 2: I did.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, good hold on eight seven, seven, nine, three, seven
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  Speaker 5: one or four seven. Let's make him feel better. We'll
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  Speaker 5: talk to you next. John Jay and Rich.
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  Speaker 3: Squabble lot, squabble lop, squabble up, squabble up. Jessica, good morning,
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  Speaker 3: Good morning.
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  Speaker 6: John Jay.
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  Speaker 1: What's up?
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  Speaker 7: Hey?
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  Speaker 6: So I was just calling because I wanted to let
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  Speaker 6: you guys know that I was one of the first
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  Speaker 6: people who lost the thousand dollars and then I asked
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  Speaker 6: for party in the park tickets and I said that
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  Speaker 6: we would dress up in bald caps for this weekend
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  Speaker 6: and we did and everybody loved it. So I send pictures, Yeah,
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  Speaker 6: I it. I send pictures to you guys' instagram of
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  Speaker 6: our bald caps.
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  Speaker 8: But we went all that we liked.
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  Speaker 6: Spent all the day gluing them down and actually looked bald,
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  Speaker 6: and people were taking pictures of us. It was so fun.
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  Speaker 3: That was what a great show.
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  Speaker 4: That was one of my favorite parts about being there,
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  Speaker 4: just seeing everyone with the bald caps on.
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  Speaker 5: I was like, yes, Piple, what was your favorite part, Jessica,
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  Speaker 5: would you like about the concert?
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  Speaker 6: It was really fun. I liked everything, but my favorite
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  Speaker 6: part was honestly being dressed up with one of my
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  Speaker 6: best friends that are just having.
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  Speaker 2: The best time.
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  Speaker 6: Like she was so down with me to be bald,
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  Speaker 6: and just like we went out to eat at Philibertos
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  Speaker 6: in our bald caps and just it was just fun
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  Speaker 6: to have that experience. So I really appreciate you guys
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  Speaker 6: giving us the tickets and letting us have that time together.
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  Speaker 5: My sister was with me, and she was walking around
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  Speaker 5: and she goes, she was texting with her daughter, and
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  Speaker 5: her daughter she goes, I'm a Pivot concert and the
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  Speaker 5: daughter goes, are you wearing a bald cap? And my
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  Speaker 5: sister goes, lol, right, she didn't know, and then she goes,
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  Speaker 5: she goes, Elle just asked me if I was wearing
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  Speaker 5: a bald cap, and I see all these people that
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  Speaker 5: are wearing bald caps. Is that a thing? And I'm like, yeah,
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  Speaker 5: what do Why would you say? Is that a thing?
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  Speaker 5: And it's a thousand people here bald cap It's a thing,
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  Speaker 5: a thing, all right, Jessica, thanks for listening and glad
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  Speaker 5: you had a good.
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  Speaker 1: Time playing the park.
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  Speaker 6: Thank you so much. Thanks.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that was a great event, fantastic event.
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  Speaker 5: Okay, So a little side note again, another behind the
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  Speaker 5: scenes with our radio show. Dylan who answers our Phones,
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  Speaker 5: was in New York over the weekend, and much like
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  Speaker 5: ten thousand flights that got canceled last night, hers did too.
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  Speaker 5: So I believe she's on a plane coming home now.
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  Speaker 5: So we ask for your patients as we answer phones
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  Speaker 5: because we're short some people. So what is everybody here
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  Speaker 5: calling about? I don't know, So let's just see Hi, Taylor, Hi.
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  Speaker 8: I was calling because I really Dustin's story. I did
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  Speaker 8: not know how to pronounce my husband's last name until
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  Speaker 8: probably about a year and a half until we were dating.
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  Speaker 8: I just kept pronouncing it wrong. He never corrected me,
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  Speaker 8: and I didn't know that the way it was pronounced
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  Speaker 8: until he stated his full name.
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  Speaker 9: At a group party and I was like, what are
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  Speaker 9: you talking about?
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  Speaker 3: And I was like, uh, he had it, So how
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  Speaker 3: do you what is your last name?
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  Speaker 1: How did you say it? And what's the right way
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  Speaker 1: of saying it?
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, so he's Chinese.
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  Speaker 2: It's spout Zhou.
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  Speaker 8: So most people just called him Zao and so I
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  Speaker 8: was like, yeah, j just out No, it's Joe. I
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  Speaker 8: was like, I have to commit now. Yes. I was
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  Speaker 8: like I thought this whole time, like we're gonna get married,
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  Speaker 8: my last name's gonna be Zou and then come to
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  Speaker 8: find out I'm gonna be Taylor. J I was like,
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  Speaker 8: oh my god, I have to reconcile about Taylor.
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  Speaker 3: Joe is very southern.
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  Speaker 8: Yeah, exactly. It doesn't sound Chinese at all, does not.
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  Speaker 4: How did he not correct?
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  Speaker 1: You know?
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  Speaker 8: I don't know. I guess he just because he's in
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  Speaker 8: the military, they go by last names. That's what everybody
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  Speaker 8: else was calling him too. I'm like, why do you
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  Speaker 8: never correct anyone?
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  Speaker 1: That's great, Taylor. Thanks for calling you. So you are
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  Speaker 1: married now.
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  Speaker 3: And you are Taylor show Yes, I am, yep.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks for calling in, thanks for listening.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, of course today, Hi, Annah, what's going on?
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  Speaker 1: Hi?
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  Speaker 10: I was calling about my husband always calls my daughter's
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  Speaker 10: birthday the dogs. He mixes it up with the dog's birthday.
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  Speaker 11: Her birthday June twenty fourth.
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  Speaker 10: Every time he does his benefits and everything, he's like,
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  Speaker 10: June twenty fifth. I'm like, that's the dog's birthday twenty one.
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  Speaker 9: At this point he still does it.
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  Speaker 1: That's awesome.
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  Speaker 4: Doesn't mean he doesn't love him, so you definitely don't
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  Speaker 4: want to mess it up on Bill Fitz.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's good that he knows the dog's birthday.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know any of my dog's birthdays.
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  Speaker 3: My wife, you got too many dogs that remember.
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  Speaker 1: Thanks and I have a great day.
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  Speaker 8: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Bye, Kendall, good morning.
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  Speaker 9: Good morning.
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  Speaker 4: How are you guys?
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  Speaker 1: What's going on? What do you call him for?
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  Speaker 9: I was forgetting my wedding anniversary. I was on a
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  Speaker 9: video call with an adoption and social worker for my
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  Speaker 9: daughter for my current husband to adopt her legally, and
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  Speaker 9: I messed up my wedding anniversary.
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  Speaker 3: Like how many years you were married, but the date
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  Speaker 3: that you were married, No.
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  Speaker 9: The date we were married. I said the twenty seventh,
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  Speaker 9: and my husband just looked at me funny, and he
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  Speaker 9: was like, we got married.
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  Speaker 7: On the twenty night.
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  Speaker 4: There's a lot of pressure. That was a stressful day.
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  Speaker 9: Would you care about the church There's a lot happening.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, thanks Kendall, have a great day. Thanks for listening
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  Speaker 1: you too. By the way, we still have the grand
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  Speaker 1: prize give away to Disneyland. We'll be doing that in
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  Speaker 1: a second. Hi, Lucy, Hi, don't do it.
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  Speaker 7: Good morning everyone. So I want to share something funny
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  Speaker 7: about me and my husband. I met him like about
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  Speaker 7: twenty years ago, and I didn't like the nickname he
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  Speaker 7: had at the time, so I was like, you know what,
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  Speaker 7: I'm gonna nickname you differently. So I name him Choco.
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  Speaker 11: Right.
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  Speaker 7: We even married, you know, we know the family. Everybody
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  Speaker 7: knows him for like, you know, fifteen years or so. Anyways,
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  Speaker 7: just up until a couple of years ago, my uncle
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  Speaker 7: calls me from Mexico. Everybody calls him Choco, right, because
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  Speaker 7: that's the nickname I take for him. Anyway, So my
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  Speaker 7: uncle calls me and he's like, Hey, what is Choco's name?
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  Speaker 7: By the way, because you know, he's been in the
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  Speaker 7: family forever and we have no clue what his actual
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  Speaker 7: name is. I just wanted to say to Dusting, like
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  Speaker 7: it is important for him to talk to his partner
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  Speaker 7: and let him know what bothers him. But it's okay.
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  Speaker 7: I have a little fun with it, you know, like
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  Speaker 7: it's it's you know good.
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  Speaker 1: That's so funny.
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  Speaker 5: Because like my mom's Mexican, and all my aunts and
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  Speaker 5: uncles they all have nicknames.
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  Speaker 1: And I have an uncle, uncle Chemale Chemalie.
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  Speaker 5: His name Chimeli, right, and then I took the longest
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  Speaker 5: time for I said, my mom, I go, eventually go Chimily.
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  Speaker 1: What does that mean? She was?
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  Speaker 5: His first name is Jesus. His last name is Maria
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  Speaker 5: he Ma, Hemma, Hamily, Emily Shemily. That's w oh yeah.
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  Speaker 7: Sometimes like we have people that we know and we
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  Speaker 7: only know them by the nickname, so we just like, uh,
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  Speaker 7: become fancy and just throw the last name bright and
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  Speaker 7: like it just grows like that forever. So that's that's
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  Speaker 7: part of being Mexican, right.
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  Speaker 1: Down, Jay, Yes, Lucy, Okay, thanks for calling in, Lucy.
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  Speaker 3: Have a great day, Have a great day.
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  Speaker 1: Justice. What's up? Dog?
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  Speaker 6: Hi?
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  Speaker 11: So I failed her? Desson my husband, we've been together
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  Speaker 11: for nine years and even to this day, he will
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  Speaker 11: forget our anniversaries. He forgets my birthday, even if he
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  Speaker 11: knows them, he still forgets or he'll get them wrong
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  Speaker 11: and have to ask me and correct it. But I
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  Speaker 11: kind of think it's like a guy thing. Sometimes they
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  Speaker 11: just don't always remember.
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  Speaker 3: It's not that we don't love, it's not that we
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  Speaker 3: don't care. It's just that, probably our whole life, somebody's
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  Speaker 3: been remembering that for us, so we don't have to. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: it just doesn't stick.
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  Speaker 4: It sounds like, yeah, like I know, because like my husband,
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  Speaker 4: he remembers more than.
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  Speaker 1: I do, Like maybe.
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  Speaker 2: Calendar, Yeah, fifty fifty.
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  Speaker 1: I have a little bit.
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  Speaker 5: Problem my boy's birthday because one of them was born
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  Speaker 5: on the fourth. One of them is born on the fifth,
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  Speaker 5: you know, so I get those two screwed up. Then
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  Speaker 5: the youngest one was born and I now know it's July.
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  Speaker 5: But for the longest time, I didn't know if it
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  Speaker 5: was June or July seventeen or eighteen. But I got
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  Speaker 5: it now it's July eighteen.
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  Speaker 7: That's I'm July too.
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  Speaker 11: July twentieth, is that a.
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  Speaker 1: What is that? Cancer? No?
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  Speaker 11: I don't know, yes, cancer yet.
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  Speaker 1: All right, Justice, thanks for driving and listening.
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  Speaker 7: Thank you, you have a good day.
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  Speaker 1: All right.
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  Speaker 5: So Dylan, the person who answers. Our phone is not
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  Speaker 5: here because of the government shutdown, which apparently is not
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  Speaker 5: a shutdown anymore.
• 13:18
  Speaker 4: Well almost, there's the light at the end of the
• 13:20
  Speaker 4: tunnel because the Senate actually passed a bipartisan thing that's like, Okay,
• 13:24
  Speaker 4: we're all going to be done, but then the House
• 13:26
  Speaker 4: still needs to approve it, and then the President still
• 13:28
  Speaker 4: needs to sign it. So they did basically want to
• 13:31
  Speaker 4: get like all the snap benefits back immediately, but according
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  Speaker 4: to like the FAA, flights are still going to continue
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  Speaker 4: to be affected for the next like coming days or
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  Speaker 4: even weeks until they can get everything.
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  Speaker 3: Guys, like ten thousand flights got cat It's a lot
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  Speaker 3: more than I thought we're gonna get canceled, that's for sure.
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  Speaker 5: And that's where Dylan, our phone screener, is on a
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  Speaker 5: plane somewhere. So Alyssa, good morning, Good morning.
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  Speaker 12: I was calling with the topic with this and I
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  Speaker 12: get it. I mean, if I've been with my husband
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  Speaker 12: for twenty four years, and I think it is the
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  Speaker 12: guy thing. You know, my husband does this often even
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  Speaker 12: after twenty four years, Like he'll ask me something and
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  Speaker 12: he even knows to himself because I bring it up
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  Speaker 12: to him often He's like, I know I already asked
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  Speaker 12: you this, but and then he'll repeat the question, very
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  Speaker 12: common thing, very common things.
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  Speaker 4: You know.
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  Speaker 12: They just love the door. And then maybe an hour later,
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  Speaker 12: I know I asked you this, did you lock the door?
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  Speaker 12: And then it will happen another time a lot of times,
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  Speaker 12: I'll just tell him again, I know you you're gonna
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  Speaker 12: ask me this, so I just repeat it, Yes, thanks,
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  Speaker 12: thank you,