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#HURDLEMOMENT: Are You Where You Say You Are? The Importance of Being Truly Present · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: I want you to ask yourself the question that I've
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  Speaker 1: been asking myself, what are you running by? With the
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  Speaker 1: blinders on fun fact to kick off today's episode. When
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  Speaker 1: I started the podcast at the very end of twenty seventeen,
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  Speaker 1: I originally envisioned it as like the Hurdles of New York,
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  Speaker 1: similarly to Brandon Stanton's Uber Famous Humans of New York.
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  Speaker 1: I had this idea that I would go around and
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  Speaker 1: find the stories of everyday people that were just like me,
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  Speaker 1: leaned into fitness and wellness to become better versions of themselves.
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  Speaker 1: And I still want to do that in some capacity,
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  Speaker 1: but in the meantime, this girl has got a lot
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  Speaker 1: of other things on her to do this anyway. Emily
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  Speaker 1: A body here. I'm a freelance journalist writing everywhere from
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  Speaker 1: GQ to Runners World, and I'm also the creator of
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  Speaker 1: this special show called Hurdle, a wellness focused podcast where
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  Speaker 1: I sit down with inspiring individuals to talk about everything
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  Speaker 1: from their big wins to how they've gotten through some
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  Speaker 1: of life's toughest moments. For Hurdle Moment this week, I
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  Speaker 1: am chatting about a really important moment I had a
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  Speaker 1: few days back running the Miami half marathon. In summary,
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  Speaker 1: it took me about an hour on the course or
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  Speaker 1: so to actually start paying attention to what was going
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  Speaker 1: on around me, to my surroundings. Thanks to a fellow runner,
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  Speaker 1: I was reminded of the importance of being truly presence,
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  Speaker 1: the importance of not just showing up, which is often
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  Speaker 1: the first and very most important step, but also of
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  Speaker 1: opening our eyes to all that is around us to
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  Speaker 1: truly get the most of any given experience. I'll dive
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  Speaker 1: into this a little bit more shortly, but in the meantime,
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  Speaker 1: I'd love for you to let me know what topics
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  Speaker 1: you want me to dive into here on Hurdle Moments.
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  Speaker 1: So what is it that you want to know about?
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  Speaker 1: What are you struggling with? How can I help let
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  Speaker 1: me know by shooting me a message over on Instagram
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  Speaker 1: or Twitter. It's at Hurdle Podcasts or at Emily at
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  Speaker 1: Body and of course always feel free to reach out
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  Speaker 1: to me over at email It's Emilyefcurdle dot us. Before
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  Speaker 1: I get into it today, I want to take a
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  Speaker 1: Emily Badi at Hurdle Podcast. Let's get to hurdling the
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  Speaker 1: good news. It was a lot less hot and a
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  Speaker 1: lot less humid than I anticipated down in Miami. Now,
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  Speaker 1: the course itself, let me tell you pretty nice. It
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  Speaker 1: was nice to run over that bridge at first, although
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  Speaker 1: I did not love the hill situation, but the rest
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  Speaker 1: of it was pretty flat. I went into the race
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  Speaker 1: the other day after a week of intentional rest thanks
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  Speaker 1: to a cranky hip, which I'm happy to report is
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  Speaker 1: faring much better today than then, and that intentional rest
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  Speaker 1: was paired with a work trip. So, needless to say,
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  Speaker 1: I showed up to tow the starting line, and I
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  Speaker 1: was understanding and okay with the fact that this might
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  Speaker 1: not be my best race. Still I showed up and
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  Speaker 1: felt pressure. I wanted to perform well. I've been running
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  Speaker 1: pretty well recently. It's like that common saying that I
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  Speaker 1: go back to time and time again. You don't work
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  Speaker 1: hard in life to show up and things not to
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  Speaker 1: go as you had hoped or as you had planned.
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  Speaker 1: And so I was definitely in my head. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: want to have a race that I felt like was
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  Speaker 1: disappointing and then pick up my phone after from bag
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  Speaker 1: check and have to tell the world, tell the masses
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  Speaker 1: that I wasn't as awesome as I had hoped to be.
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  Speaker 1: And so I went for it as much as I
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  Speaker 1: felt like I possibly could, and in the process, as
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  Speaker 1: the miles rolled on from the get go. I was
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  Speaker 1: so in my head. I was frustrated at the beginning
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  Speaker 1: because I was in a corral with a lot of
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  Speaker 1: people that typically ran a slower pace than me, and
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  Speaker 1: so for the good first two or so miles, I
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  Speaker 1: was doing a ton of bobbing and weaving, which so
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  Speaker 1: many of you know can be such an energy suck.
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  Speaker 1: Before I knew it, I was already approaching mile eight.
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  Speaker 1: I was on what I want to say, was Washington
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  Speaker 1: heading north. Forgive me, I'm not stellar with Miami geography,
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  Speaker 1: and I hear the guy next to me say something
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  Speaker 1: you good. Just like that that moment, I felt shook.
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  Speaker 1: I felt unsure. I realized that I literally hadn't been
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  Speaker 1: paying attention to anything truly that was happening around me.
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  Speaker 1: I was soaking in the palm trees and some of
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  Speaker 1: the views, but I wasn't truly present. I wasn't paying attention.
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  Speaker 1: And what's the point of traveling to run a race
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  Speaker 1: or going anywhere if you're not really willing to soak
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  Speaker 1: in the thing that is the reason why you're there
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  Speaker 1: in the first place. I knew I wasn't going into
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  Speaker 1: this experience to get some stellar time, But why was
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  Speaker 1: I so wrapped up in these numbers. Why was I
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  Speaker 1: so concerned at the time of what maybe other people
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  Speaker 1: would think. It's a big metaphor for life, right. You know,
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  Speaker 1: we're often so worried about all of the little details.
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  Speaker 1: Sometimes we get wrapped up in the smallest things, the
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  Speaker 1: little things that we forget to truly enjoy the moment.
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  Speaker 1: It's funny, you know. A few months ago, I made
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  Speaker 1: the choice to mostly stop walking around New York City
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  Speaker 1: commuting on my phone. I decided to stop staring down
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  Speaker 1: and start looking up. At first, this small pledge to
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  Speaker 1: myself was in an effort to just meet more people,
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  Speaker 1: to be more open to whatever it is that's really
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  Speaker 1: going on in real life. Because until I had this
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  Speaker 1: little conversation, this pep talk with myself about the importance
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  Speaker 1: of showing up, of being present, I realized that I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't embracing the magic of this great place that I
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  Speaker 1: spend so much of my time. Think about it this way,
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  Speaker 1: What if someone's special just happened to be walking by
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  Speaker 1: you at any given moment. Maybe I was sitting next
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  Speaker 1: to someone that could have been my husband on the subway,
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  Speaker 1: but I was so wrapped up in a tweet or
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  Speaker 1: an Instagram or an email, and God, that's not what
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  Speaker 1: life's about, is it. That's not how I wanted to
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  Speaker 1: live my life. That's not how I want to live
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  Speaker 1: my life. And as appreciative as I am for all
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  Speaker 1: of you, I kind of had the same realization about
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  Speaker 1: handling social media as well. I want to be as
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  Speaker 1: available to all of you as possible, but I always
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  Speaker 1: want to be conscious of the real of my real relationships,
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  Speaker 1: and so I committed to myself that I would make
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  Speaker 1: sure that I was spending enough quality time with the
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  Speaker 1: people that matter to me, my relationships in real life,
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  Speaker 1: and conscious of how much time I was investing and
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  Speaker 1: those that I might not know so well. After that
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  Speaker 1: moment on the course, when he asked me if I
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  Speaker 1: was good, and I shook myself to being more present,
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  Speaker 1: I looked back at him and I kind of came
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  Speaker 1: to and I offered him my fist, almost in solidarity,
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  Speaker 1: and I looked at him and I smiled, and I said,
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  Speaker 1: we're good. In that moment, that special moments, that's when
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  Speaker 1: I started to really enjoy what was happening around me,
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  Speaker 1: to notice things like the spectators and the people and
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  Speaker 1: the other runners that were out there giving it all
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  Speaker 1: that they had. From that moment forward, I was really
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  Speaker 1: being my best self, understanding that that version of me
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  Speaker 1: that comes when I am willing to entirely and completely
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  Speaker 1: show up in a situation. I want you to ask
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  Speaker 1: yourself the question that I've been asking myself. What are
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  Speaker 1: you running by with the bhinders on What are you
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  Speaker 1: either consciously or not consciously, stopping yourself from reaping the
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  Speaker 1: full experience of because we're so wrapped up in something else.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I love the word opportunity, and that's because
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  Speaker 1: it is true. There is so much opportunity out there
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  Speaker 1: for us if we simply truly open our eyes and
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  Speaker 1: look around. And something tells me that I am sure
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  Speaker 1: only not the only person who wants to really embrace
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  Speaker 1: that opportunity. At Hurdle Podcast at Emily Abadi another Hurdle conquered.
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  Speaker 1: Catch you guys next time,