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The L in GLIMPSE: Self-Love, Gratitude Rampages & Setting Boundaries for Good · The GLIMPSE Method Podcast: Your Guide to Raising Your Vibration, Spiritual Awakening & Breathwork Practice

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Hi there, it's Megan from the Glimpse Method podcast.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: I am here to talk to you about love today.
• 0:08
  SPEAKER_00: So last week we delved into the G of the Glimpse Method, which is grounding.
• 0:14
  SPEAKER_00: And I recommend you go and listen to that.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: That is the foundation of the Glimpse Method.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: It's very important and it feels good to do it.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: I also offered a kind of off-the-cuff breathwork session to get grounded.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Um, so today we are talking about love and not only loving yourself, but loving others.
• 0:41
  SPEAKER_00: And a big part of love is gratitude and appreciation.
• 0:46
  SPEAKER_00: So um we'll split this episode up between those things.
• 0:51
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I know self-love is sort of a cliche, you know, you have to love yourself before you can love others and and all that, but it is a very true statement.
• 1:03
  SPEAKER_00: It's also, I mean, I don't know if it's necessarily true, true.
• 1:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like I think you can love your child, you can love other people, even if you're not feeling full love for yourself.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_00: But I believe that you maybe can only feel a certain degree of love, and possibly you are holding yourself back and your loved ones back from you know knowing the real you and and loving the real you.
• 1:37
  SPEAKER_00: And it's actually quite a fun process to practice pro self-love.
• 1:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and you know, the parts of you that you feel you don't like, or um, I kind of talked about in one of the episodes how one thing that I find challenging to love about myself is my sensitivity.
• 2:05
  SPEAKER_00: Um but as I do this work, I feel like number one, you just have to give yourself grace and know that things that you feel and things that your mind tells you not necessarily are they true at all.
• 2:27
  SPEAKER_00: Like your mind is a total liar.
• 2:29
  SPEAKER_00: Um, all it knows is past experiences, and actually, it doesn't even know like the actual truth of the past experience, it just knows your perception.
• 2:38
  SPEAKER_00: So I think knowing that your mind and your feelings really want to protect you, that is their goal.
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  SPEAKER_00: It makes it a little bit easier to love.
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_00: So with sensitivity, I often, you know, wish I could toughen up, um, not get my feelings hurt so much.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_00: And definitely as I've um matured and aged, that is less and less.
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  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it was pretty bad as a child and and in my 20s.
• 3:12
  SPEAKER_00: And so anybody that's feeling that um they get their feelings hurt a lot, I hear you, I see you.
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and just know that a lot of that is just perception, it's your brain trying to protect you.
• 3:27
  SPEAKER_00: Um and really that makes it so much easier to love that part of yourself.
• 3:35
  SPEAKER_00: And then as we look deeper into the people we are and the reasons possibly for our actions and our feelings, it can be really interesting and really eye-opening and really freeing, actually.
• 3:59
  SPEAKER_00: So I think for self-love, one of the things that you can start with if you're having trouble with this is appreciation and gratitude for the things that you actually really like about yourself, and um maybe think about accomplishes or accomplishments you've made and um people that are in your life, and once you start appreciating, it's hard to have lack.
• 4:36
  SPEAKER_00: So it's hard to feel appreciate appreciation for something and then lack, it's like almost impossible.
• 4:44
  SPEAKER_00: So that is one big tip I have for starting the self-love journey.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, it's also just questioning your thoughts, and actually on our other podcast, uh Nate, my husband and I have a podcast called The Dry Life.
• 5:02
  SPEAKER_00: You should check that out too.
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  SPEAKER_00: But we talked about thoughts and how um one of the little sayings that I heard was your thoughts are seeds.
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  SPEAKER_00: Are you planting flowers or weeds?
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  SPEAKER_00: And you know, we have so many thoughts during the day.
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  SPEAKER_00: Everybody knows that 60 to 80,000, who knows, maybe more.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, and a lot of them are repetitive, and one of the most important things to do when you have a thought is question like, where did that come from?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why, how do I know that's true?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is it really true?
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  SPEAKER_00: And if it makes you feel bad, if it brings up bad feelings, I don't think it's true because that means you're at odds with there's there's something at odds, like it's not matching up with who you really are.
• 5:58
  SPEAKER_00: So that is one tip that I would say um is to just start questioning your thoughts.
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  SPEAKER_00: Don't let them, don't plant them, don't plant that seed.
• 6:12
  SPEAKER_00: Question it.
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did why do I feel that way?
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  SPEAKER_00: Where did I hear this?
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  SPEAKER_00: Why did I, you know, and with media and interactions with other people and other people's opinions and just living life and interacting with people, the human condition, we are definitely affected by other people's attitudes, opinions, and it really helps to just stop that thought before it gets into this full fledged feeling and really think about hmm, where did I actually hear that?
• 6:53
  SPEAKER_00: Is that my feeling?
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  SPEAKER_00: Is that my thought, or is that something I heard and then it made me feel this way?
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  SPEAKER_00: Um, so that's as a good tip.
• 7:03
  SPEAKER_00: Um also for self-love.
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  SPEAKER_00: Depending uh on your beliefs, your spiritual beliefs, your religious beliefs.
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  SPEAKER_00: Um I know that I was created in God's image and all other humans were, that is my belief, and I don't believe anybody was created in a in a way as not to be a person of love.
• 7:45
  SPEAKER_00: So um, whether you believe in, you know, just the universe and um my whole feeling on this and the glimpse method is life is meant to feel good and just being born is your is that birthright.
• 8:07
  SPEAKER_00: Like you have the birthright to have a happy, fulfilled life.
• 8:11
  SPEAKER_00: You do not need to suffer.
• 8:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um, you know, there is gonna be pain, not everybody, not every moment of every day, or you know, sometimes some days are not joyful at all, but um, we're always striving for that peace within us.
• 8:27
  SPEAKER_00: So really knowing and loving yourself and knowing what you can handle and and putting yourself in situations, you know, protecting yourself from certain situations, um, like setting boundaries is a big one for me too.
• 8:50
  SPEAKER_00: And I have just started.
• 8:53
  SPEAKER_00: There's people um in my life, in my inner circle and my outer circle.
• 8:58
  SPEAKER_00: So, like inner circle, I mean like friends, family, like those people you choose to be around, um, or have to be around, like your family, but there's also like the outer circle, so like your co-workers, your you know, people you uh come in contact with in social situations, um, just all kinds of of things like that.
• 9:24
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna have um times where you need to set boundaries, and that has been hard for me because I think a little bit I'm a people pleaser.
• 9:39
  SPEAKER_00: Um in a way, I am like I want to keep the peace, I don't really like confrontation, but then I was noticing somebody in my outer circle that was um causing me, and I don't want to say they were causing me because ultimately it was my reaction to their lack of boundaries that had me feeling uncomfy, and so as uncomfortable as it was, I slowly have started setting boundaries, and that is a way to show love for yourself and actually for the other person too, because without boundaries, nobody feels very safe, so um that is another way that you can show love and feel love for yourself and for your fellow man, woman is to you know actually have standards and have boundaries that you you set and you can do it in a loving way.
• 10:50
  SPEAKER_00: It in fact it feels good to do it in a loving way, and um, I've had some small wins and I've celebrated those internally.
• 11:00
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and I've actually thanked that person, not um or person or persons in my life, for you know, I having gratitude for them.
• 11:14
  SPEAKER_00: I haven't actually told them thank you for driving me crazy that I had to set boundaries, but inside, you know, like I love you, thank you.
• 11:23
  SPEAKER_00: You are here in my life for a reason, and I feel empowered and I and I am able to even love myself more by taking care of myself.
• 11:35
  SPEAKER_00: So that is another great way to um express love and feel love for yourself and and others.
• 11:44
  SPEAKER_00: Another good way that I have been practicing love for myself is just slowing down and actually waking up a little bit earlier.
• 11:55
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't really realize that's what I was doing, but I started doing um having kind of a morning, not kind of an actual morning ritual.
• 12:07
  SPEAKER_00: And it's um morphed over the past probably nine months, but I take time to wake up and I don't grab my phone, and I have some affirmations that I've developed um personalized for me and my goals and you know how I want to feel throughout the day.
• 12:30
  SPEAKER_00: And so I take time for those.
• 12:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um, I also got this vibrating plate, which I love, and I do that for 10 minutes, and just doing little things, you know, maybe um taking some extra time a couple of days a week before work to have coffee with my husband and just touch base, you know, without our phones and just kind of talk about the week, talk about, you know, what's going on and and how we're feeling.
• 12:59
  SPEAKER_00: Um and it's important to do that at night too, to wind down and to not be amping yourself up on your phone, you know, those dopamine hits that don't last very long.
• 13:14
  SPEAKER_00: Um and, you know, maybe have making a cup of tea like I did last night.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: It was so good.
• 13:20
  SPEAKER_00: I'm really into this Egyptian licorice root tea.
• 13:24
  SPEAKER_00: It's so good.
• 13:25
  SPEAKER_00: Add just a tiny bit of cream and um just a nice little treat to have before bed.
• 13:32
  SPEAKER_00: Um, and also just you know, going through.
• 13:37
  SPEAKER_00: I heard this thing today on a different podcast, and it was about going on.
• 13:44
  SPEAKER_00: I think it's Esther and Abraham Hicks, they're the same person, but anyway, they do a lot on manifesting, which I'll probably talk about more when we go into the M of the Glimpse method.
• 13:56
  SPEAKER_00: But this kind of made me chuckle and actually made it kind of fun.
• 14:00
  SPEAKER_00: They um go on appreciation rampages, so just like two minutes during the day, just sit down with a pen and paper.
• 14:11
  SPEAKER_00: I think it it's good to write it down, but you can also just go through it in your head and you just say, I'm thankful for, you know, like I would just say right now, my office.
• 14:23
  SPEAKER_00: Um, my lamp that my sister-in-law gave me, it's in the corner of my office and it's such a beautiful light.
• 14:31
  SPEAKER_00: I'm thankful for this wooden um candelabra that my mom got in Mexico when she was in her 20s.
• 14:37
  SPEAKER_00: It just adds something and the plant my friend Ann gave me.
• 14:41
  SPEAKER_00: And I'm grateful for my coffee and my water and my ice that comes out of the fridge, and the water I can fill up every day, and the breeze coming in through the window, and you just go on a rampage of appreciation.
• 14:58
  SPEAKER_00: And how can you not feel good after that?
• 15:01
  SPEAKER_00: And um, yeah, so that is another way to feel love, and and as I said, this this love, the love, uh gratitude goes right along with it, and something you can stop doing is actually talking down to yourself.
• 15:19
  SPEAKER_00: I think most of us are pretty aware that that can be detrimental, and um, you know, I still find myself saying, Oh, I'm such an idiot.
• 15:32
  SPEAKER_00: Like I'm trying to kind of be funny, you know, like if I do something stupid at work or at home or something, but actually those words matter, and um, so cutting back on talking down to yourself um can really leave room for more love for yourself and more appreciation, and also another thing that you can be grateful for and appreciative for not only people that challenge you, but just challenging situations and knowing that you have gotten through challenging things in the past, and if you're going through something now, and then if you're coming on the other side of it, you can be thankful for you know what you learned.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_00: I feel like the best way to learn things is by making mistakes, and I think sometimes society and people are uh some people were raised this way to like I remember um sorry, mom and dad, this isn't a dig on you.
• 16:42
  SPEAKER_00: I'm totally fine and adjusted, but I remember like when I would make a mistake when I was younger, and I was like, I didn't try to.
• 16:50
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it was just like, and they were like, Did you try not to?
• 16:55
  SPEAKER_00: And I was just like dumbfounded, there was no no response back to that.
• 17:00
  SPEAKER_00: So, anyway, the best way to learn is to make mistakes, and you know, don't be so hard on yourself, don't be so hard on your kids, your coworkers, your lovers, your family members, you know, just take a minute, breathe.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_00: It's easy to get frustrated with people, and um actually it almost, I mean, it does say more about you.
• 17:33
  SPEAKER_00: There is a situation that I have been dealing with, and I get so frustrated with a certain person, and I've realized with deep reflection that I get frustrated because I see myself in this person and these silly mistakes, and that has just brought me to feel more love for that person and love for myself, um, because you know life is not easy, and we can all, you know, make it a little bit easier for each other.
• 18:13
  SPEAKER_00: So, in summary, I just want to say that the L in Glimpse in the Glimpse method is loving yourself, loving one another, and having gratitude and using tool tick tricks and tools, maybe not tricks, tricks and treats.
• 18:32
  SPEAKER_00: No, I'm just kidding.
• 18:33
  SPEAKER_00: Um tools, there's lots of things out there, and it can actually be quite fun just to take a few minutes, do an appreciation rampage, take a minute, question your thoughts because I swear to you, they're not the truth.
• 18:52
  SPEAKER_00: Um and just let's go out there and show the love.
• 19:00
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much for listening.
• 19:03
  SPEAKER_00: And uh I hope to see you next week when we talk about the I and the glimpse method inspire.
• 19:11
  SPEAKER_00: Be good.