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what types of people do narcissists like to be around · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on? Beautiful people.
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  Welcome to another episode of The Narcissist code.
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  I'm your favorite self-aware, narcissist mr.
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  Lee hammock better known as mental illness across all social
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  media platforms. This your first time seeing my
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  face or hear my lovely voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist. And I use my platform on social
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  media to raise awareness for MPD.
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  Get more people into therapy and also validate the victim
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  survivors. And thrivers of said disorder
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  said, taxi people, say types of traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about what type of person.
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  Do narcissistic people typically surround themselves with what
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  type of person do narcissists? Like to be around now, know
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  everybody's gonna say Yes, Men, yes woman.
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  Yes, people. Anybody who says, yes and it and
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  you would be absolutely correct. That's one type of person that a
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  narcissistic person could likes to surround themselves with like
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  we want to people narcissist rarely ever even the self-aware
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  one's even some of these self-aware nurses will rarely
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  Ever, hang around people or surround themselves with people
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  that are going to hold them accountable.
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  Very rarely, will you ever see that happen then?
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  Why'd you say it like narcissist?
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  You know, large is this and other types of people.
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  We like to be right all the time.
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  We like for people to tell us that we're doing good, we like
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  to be validated and be and be reassured and whatever we have
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  going on. We want that.
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  We need that we We crave that a lot of times y'all.
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  Yes. I'm outside today filming.
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  We crave that a lot of times. So we will seek out people.
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  It's like, we will filter people out of our lives.
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  That question our, you know, they make us question ourselves.
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  That brings shame upon us. It makes us feel less than.
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  So like I said, very rarely ever.
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  Would you see a narcissist or toxic person that is just like
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  oh yeah, I need people around me.
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  They're going to, they might say it, but they might actually did
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  not actually going to follow through with it.
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  They'll say that they want people around them.
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  They're going to hold them accountable.
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  And talk to them and things like that.
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  They will say that, you know me, they will absolutely say things
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  like that, but that's but like yeah dude, literally, that's how
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  it goes. If you're dealing with a
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  narcissist, they will say, look, they want people around them,
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  they're going to enable their behaviors and just said, oh,
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  yeah, and allow them a lot of times to sit to sit inside their
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  victimhood and their victim mentality.
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  They like being the victims. Oh my goodness.
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  Like yeah. Hey, I know you.
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  I know you just hold a person to go under live themselves but
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  what about the The trauma you had when you were a kid so it's
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  really not your fault. Is your parents fault for
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  raising you their way and traumatizing you.
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  So yeah, it makes sense and it's okay that you told that person
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  to go under live themselves, it's okay.
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  That you hurt that person. It's okay.
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  Did you cheat on her person? It's understandable.
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  Why wouldn't you keep? Look at the circles that look at
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  that. Look at the cards that you were
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  dealt. Why wouldn't you end up the way
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  you? Like I'm saying, very rarely if
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  ever when you see a narcissist actively seeking out people that
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  question them. Hey, that right there you did.
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  Hey, what are you? If the darkness, is this, a is
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  like, hey, what do you think about this situation right here?
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  Was it was it for my actions Justified and you get a person
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  that says no, you're a man love. Seriously, your actions were not
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  justified you were completely wrong there, but I feel like you
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  need to apologize and, you know, take take back what you said.
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  If you can vary a, what do you think?
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  A narcissist, we do in this situation, there's somebody they
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  responded to them like that. You think they will bring them
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  closer and they're into their Inner Circle.
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  Do you think that they will expel them from said Inner
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  Circle? I'm I'm leaning to I'm going to
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  lean towards expelling them from the inner circle.
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  I'm going to lean towards that Dynamic right there because it's
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  easier. You some saying it's easier to
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  expel, you get to try to do, get to accept this accountability
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  because accountability brains on the shame.
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  And I said, I said, I don't say the word shame a lot when I'm
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  talking about nurses and other types of people, but
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  accountability does bring on the shame.
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  Y'all a narcissist, want to avoid shame.
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  So if you're not validating me, if you're not enabling my
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  behaviors, I don't want you around.
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  I'm just saying me as a narcissist in general me right
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  now. Lee habit.
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  I have people around me that hold me accountable.
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  Haley. There was wrong.
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  Right there. Hayley Hayley.
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  You shouldn't have said that. You shouldn't have.
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  Did that? Take that back?
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  Now I can offer, I can deal with the shame now deal with it
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  better and I can apologize. I can take things back.
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  I can just say, hey look, I was wrong here, you know?
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  I'm not that's why I tell people, I'm not above being
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  wrong right now and that's the difference.
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  You see between between my page and a lot of other stuff for
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  nurses and narcissist in. Neural.
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  I'm not afraid to be wrong. I hate it.
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  I hate it with a passion but I can take it and I can course
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  correct. I can be better.
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  Like, I'm gonna learn more about this.
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  I won't be wrong again. It drives me to be better.
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  Some people it drives them to be hanging around people who tell
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  them. Yes, all the time, find me.
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  The Yes Men. If you find an artist are
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  looking for friends, that's the type of stuff.
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  They'll say, fine, bring the Yes Men to me.
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  I need them right here. You'll see that a lot.
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  Y'all very rarely do narcissist hang around people.
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  They want to hold them accountable.
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  They Weehoo. Why would they, why would they?
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  We want a lot of narcissists. Want to continue to sit inside
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  the victim mentality, the victimhood, and all the other,
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  good stuff out of the book, bad stuff, whatever.
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  So why wouldn't they surround themselves with people who are
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  going to validate who going to go into?
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  Why would they surround themselves with people who are
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  going to hold them accountable, not validate them and not
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  enabled. Their behaviors.
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  They'll keep people out. They'll cut off friends, they'll
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  cut off family members. That's why you see a lot of
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  times we done with it. Narcissist and toxic person's
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  family members and friends that enabled their behavior.
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  Y'all be like, why do they know who they know?
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  They're treating me badly. They know, they're doing
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  horrible things to me. Why won't they hold them
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  accountable? Because they know they'll get
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  cut off. If they stand.
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  They stand up for you, they'll get cut off.
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  So, a lot of them don't want to stand up to this person.
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  They'll get cut off. You said it was in the mindset
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  like they're going to cut. They want to cut me off if I
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  hold them accountable. You know, why are you with them?
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  You should leave them if you're not happy you just I'm just
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  telling you nurses friends and Only typically are in the end up
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  being the biggest of enablers to their narcissistic person.
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  But uh another type of person that a narcissist will hang them
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  to surround themselves with its people.
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  They feel like are lesser than them.
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  Let me repeat that. Another type of person who
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  endorses hangs around is people. They feel like are lesser than
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  them. Narcissistic people tend to
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  think higher like thanking a hierarchy.
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  There's there's a hierarchy going on right there.
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  Hierarchical. Mine said well, there has to be
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  like a dynamic of power dynamic in the relationship in the
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  relationship space. So they're narcissists wants to
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  be part be on top of the hierarchy.
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  I want to be on top of the pyramid so I can't.
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  I'm not going to surround myself with people that make me feel
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  like I'm on. The bottom of the pyramid or
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  people that make me feel less than or people make, they make
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  me feel insignificant or people that bring up my insecurities or
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  people that look better than me or people that are bigger and
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  stronger than me, or people that have more money than me.
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  Why would I do that? You see, I'm saying you get a
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  lot of nurses. They hang around people that
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  they feel like are just less than them in some way shape or
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  form. I have to be better than you in
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  my mind or on paper, in some way, shape, or form for me to
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  have you in my life. So I'm not going to want you in
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  my life. You're better than me in every
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  conceivable way. In every conceivable way you
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  better looking at more money teeth look better, you're
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  taller, you're stronger. You yo.
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  Whatever. The dynamic is yeah but head
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  full of hair. You your short haircut.
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  Looks I'm just whatever. The dynamic is narcissist like
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  to hang around people that they feel like are less than them
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  because they automatically makes them look better in a crowd.
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  You can say this way you. Sometimes you get to the good
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  guy. The good guy, not a good guy.
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  Y'all look. To this, listen to this, on the
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  podcast, I'm doing air quotes. The good guy narcissist.
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  They had the hangs around a lot of kind of a whole people so
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  they can look better. Like, if I hang around 5/8, hose
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  and I appear to be the good person, people will gravitate
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  towards me because I look different.
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  Those people are lesser than me. I want to stand out, help me
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  Stand Out by being being arrogant, I'm a covert
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  narcissist. I need arrogant malignant
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  narcissist around me sometimes, or just arrogant people, or just
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  loud people or boisterous people.
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  So I look different Want to I Stand Out nurses, want to hang
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  around people to make them stand out.
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  We feel their insecurities tend to go away.
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  We feel like we stand out and things of that nature.
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  You see? I'm saying?
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  It's a mindset, y'all. It is a mindset, is a game that
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  in some of the harshest play as well.
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  So if you, if you, if you were dealing with a narcissist, think
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  about that. If you are literally dealing
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  with a narcissist, think about what role you play in our life,
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  Think about it, do you have boundaries?
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  If you are a person with strong boundaries you stand up for
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  yourself and you say, no a lot, you might not have a narcissist
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  in your life right now. I wonder why or you might have
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  gotten rid of that narcissistic person.
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  I wonder why. Huh?
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  You're not enabling the behaviors, you not validated,
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  you not make it consistent limit, making them feel
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  validated for their horrible mindsets and their terrible
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  actions. You see I'm saying literally
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  that's how it goes though. Yo, I'm just if you're not going
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  to enable their behaviors, they don't want you around him.
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  You know, mean if you're not going to make them feel better
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  about themselves, they don't want you around him.
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  That's just the mindset that a lot of narcissistic people have.
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  Yeah, I don't want you around me.
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  If you're going to make me feel bad about myself, why would I
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  have you in my inner circle? If you're going to make me feel
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  bad about myself? You're gonna make me feel less
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  than I don't want you around you know, me that's the mindset.
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  A lot of narcissistic. Taxi people, have y'all, if you
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  do are like, I need to feel better, I need to feel like I'm
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  better than you in some way, shape, or form.
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  And I also need you to be validated of my behaviors using.
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  That's why I like people see me and being Taylors our friendship
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  by Ben Taylor or motivations people.
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  See our friendship and it's like to narses can be free and think,
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  that's weird. Oh y'all are y'all just enable
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  each other behaviors? Not me and being are on a
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  different Plateau y'all. We hold each other accountable.
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  Damn. Hey Ben, that's crazy.
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  I would have said that right there.
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  Somebody love. Somebody gonna come back
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  tonight. I'll come at you being like a
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  lie. They write this time.
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  This time. I messed up, dude.
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  Hey, you know, growth, the growth.
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  That's that's not showing real growth right there.
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  So we hold each other accountable.
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  We have good conversations, been, if I don't know, Ben
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  Taylor our motivations, he's another step forward arses, on
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  all platforms. Real motivations being tender.
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  Our motivations promoting awareness, grows, healing,
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  changing development. He has a couple journals out on
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  Amazon, and things like that. He's a good guy, couple of
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  courses, and Challenges. You may we hold each other
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  accountable. We motivate each other, Inspire
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  each other. We were both diagnosed
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  narcissist but you see other stuff for narcissist like
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  clusters. They're not doing that.
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  They're just enabling each other's behaviors.
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  Oh your victim. You stay.
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  You're still a victim. Remember what happened to you in
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  childhood? That's why you cheated.
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  Hey, remember having a childhood that's why you're racist.
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  Hey, memory to happen you childhood.
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  That's why. Hey that's why you need this
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  neck. I'm just telling you watch who
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  you follow you again. This is not be throwing.
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  This is not be throwing that. Let you being petty, you
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  throwing shade, I don't throw shade.
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  Yeah, I throw truth. That's what I do but watch what
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  just watch you. If you have a narcissist in your
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  life, y'all you know they don't have to be self-aware if you if
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  you suspect a person to be a narcissist or narcissistic.
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  Go take a look at them. Y'all take a look at their
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  Circle. Take a look at the people that
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  hate. They hang around.
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  Take a look at it. Yo, because very rarely, will
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  you see them hanging around people to hold them accountable
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  and people that are that are better than me in every way
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  shape or form, you know? If they are hanging around
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  people that are better than them?
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  They are trying to get the the low-hanging fruit in the group.
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  Like, if I'm the Broke. Dude.
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  In the group. Everybody else Rich.
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  I'm a pretend to be rich. Guy, got a whole bunch of rich
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  people around me. I can use them in.
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  I can use them as my minute. A tool of manipulation.
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  He said I'm saying so mine said is everything.
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  Yeah it was y'all at a hop over here.
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  Hill. This is out peace.