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What happens when you ask a narcissist about their greatest weakness · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  So what happens when you ask a narcissist what is their
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  greatest weakness? If you're new here, my name is
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  Lee Hammock and welcome to another episode of the
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  narcissist code. Ah, welcome back.
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  If you're watching. If you on the podcast, you
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  probably didn't see it. I got a new intro and whatnot.
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  So yeah, what happens? What do you think would happen
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  if you were to ask a narcissist or a toxic person, whoever
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  you're dealing with, What is their greatest weakness like?
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  Like, Like if you're giving them a job interview, This could be a
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  question you ask a potential partner on a first date.
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  Or. Or were you all trying to get to
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  know somebody? Ask them like, what do you think
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  your greatest weakness is? What do you think they're going
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  to say? Yeah, seriously, what do you
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  think a narcissist would say when you ask them what their
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  greatest weakness is? They're not going to tell you a
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  weakness they're not going to get.
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  Very rarely will they give you something that makes them feel
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  weak. Let's just say it like that.
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  Very rarely would they give you something that would they give
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  up something to hurt them because a narcissistic person
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  doesn't want to expose their weaknesses and you get the Super
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  grandiose narcissist. They don't think they have any
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  weaknesses. Those narcissistic people can be
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  just as bad right there because they don't think they have any
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  weaknesses. So if you ask them, So what do
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  you So what is your So what is your greatest weakness?
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  What do you think they would say they were to say something like,
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  look, first of all, they're probably not going to tell you a
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  weakness. They're going to try to tell you
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  a strength, or they're going to try to tell you something that
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  makes them seem like a good person, like my greatest, my
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  greatest weakness is that I care too much.
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  I'm. I work too hard.
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  Like their their greatest weakness that they divulge to
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  you is going to be something that you don't even see as a
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  weakness. It's going to be, it's going to
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  be a it might be a good person, personality trait or
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  characteristic that makes them seem like they're a better
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  person than what they like. They're just too good of a
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  person. Like their weakness is also
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  viewed as a strength and whatnot.
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  Because they will, they will do that as well.
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  What is your greatest weakness? They're going to take a strength
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  and tell you that is a weakness. They're going to say something
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  like, like I say, it's just like, I'm just too nice a
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  person. Like, I I donate too much to
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  charity. I help too many homeless people.
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  I, you know, me, I assisted, you know, I put out too many fires
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  as a firefighter. Like, I worked too hard.
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  I worked like, yeah, it won't. It very rarely will it be a real
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  weakness because a narcissistic person doesn't want to seem weak
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  to you. They're going to say something
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  is a strength or that y'all the Super grandiose overt narcissist
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  might just tell you that they don't have any weaknesses.
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  They might just have this super, this super aura of the Super
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  bravado put out their chest poked out and just tell you that
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  they don't have any weaknesses at all.
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  Like, I don't have any. Like, what is what are your
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  weaknesses? I don't.
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  I haven't. I don't have any weaknesses.
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  Like, I'm just, I'm not saying I'm all strong.
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  Well I'm not. I'm not part.
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  I'm a perfect person, but I really don't have any
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  weaknesses. Like if you were to, if you
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  know, if you noticed something about me this week, let me know
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  because like I'll seal it up. I I work on myself too much to
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  have weaknesses. Like imagine talking to somebody
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  like that. Y'all imagine somebody talking
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  to you like that and divulging to you that they don't have any
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  weaknesses or that all of their weaknesses, their so-called
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  weaknesses, can be viewed as a strength from someone else.
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  You mean like, like I said, it's just like, tell me, tell me the
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  time that you failed in life and they yeah, they.
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  I can't think of any. And this is me speaking from
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  personal experience as well. For me back in the day, going on
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  job interviews and people asking me tell me about the time that I
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  failed in life like I had. I failed plenty of times, but I
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  felt like in a job interview that if somebody asking me that
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  question like I just like failed at what?
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  I haven't failed at anything. I'm still I'm, I'm.
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  I'm successful all around. Well, I I haven't failed yet.
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  If I fail, it's something I learn how to master it.
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  I learn how to be better. Like very rarely will they just
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  divulge to you any type of things y'all that is going to
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  make them seem weak or vulnerable.
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  Like if a narcissist tell, like just inside the mind of a
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  narcissist, if I tell you my weaknesses, I feel like you can
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  use them against me, but I feel like like tell you something
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  that makes me weak or something that hurts me.
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  Like it's it's pretty much you asking me what my
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  vulnerabilities are. So I feel like if I tell you
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  something that is a vulnerability of mine, that you
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  can absolutely use that against me.
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  But Lee, why would they, Why do they think you want to use it
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  against them? Why is that, Lee?
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  Why? Why do they think you want to
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  use those things against them? Because that's what narcissists
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  do. That's what we that's what we
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  would do. A lot of us will absolutely use
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  the stuff that you tell us against you.
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  We will use your, We will, we will weaponize your weaknesses
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  against you. That's why we don't want to tell
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  our weaknesses, the people, because we because we know what
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  how what we do with other people's weaknesses.
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  We know what we do with other people's weaknesses.
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  We know absolutely. We absolutely understand how we
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  take somebody else's weaknesses and weaponize them against them.
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  That's what we do. Yeah.
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  That's what we do. That's the mindset of a lot of
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  narcissistic people. That's what we do.
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  Like we take your weaknesses and use them against you.
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  That's literally the mindset. That's literally the grasp.
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  That's literally the cusp of the things that we will do.
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  Like because we feel like you're you, you would take this stuff,
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  like you would use it against us to hurt us.
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  So we have to make it seem like we don't have any weaknesses or
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  that our weaknesses are also strengths like we're so we're
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  such strong people that our weaknesses are also strengths.
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  Like I I'm too nice. I'm too empathetic.
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  I I cared way too much about the animals.
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  I donate too much to like I volunteer I would if I have to
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  tell you my weakness. I would say that I treat I
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  treated all my exes too good, like I was too good to them or I
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  volunteered too much at the at the at the homeless animal
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  shelter or. Yeah, yeah.
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  Do you understand that space though Have you ever asked, have
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  you ever asked a narcissistic person what you thought they
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  like about their weaknesses? And if you did, how did they
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  respond to you? How would they respond to you?
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  You know, how did you or how would they respond to you?
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  That's the mindset. That's the dynamic, that's the
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  space that a lot of us, that a lot of us fall into.
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  Y'all like most if not all narcissists don't want to appear
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  weak. There there is the occasional
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  narcissist. Y'all that will tell you their
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  vulnerabilities. They will tell you their
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  weaknesses. I'm not.
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  That's what I say. I don't speak in absolutes.
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  No, I say a lot. Most, quite a few.
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  Some like you, You never hear me say all narcissists.
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  If I said all narcissists, I don't remember saying it because
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  I I make sure I don't say it. Because I wouldn't say all
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  narcissists, you know? Or if I if I you know, maybe all
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  narcissists lie, maybe I might have said that.
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  But that's why I don't say there is the vulnerable.
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  There is the what they call the vulnerable narcissists.
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  Y'all that will share their vulnerabilities with you to get
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  you to trust them there. There are some narcissists that
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  would go into the description of being a vulnerable narcissist
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  that will share some of their vulnerabilities with you.
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  They will share select vulnerabilities or weaknesses or
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  traumas with you in order to get you to trust them a little bit
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  more, in order to get you to feel bad for them a little bit
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  more. And that y'all timing is
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  everything with this as well. When they share a weakness or
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  vulnerability with you, what what?
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  When are they doing this? Like if you ask them this one
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  thing, But when are they sharing these weaknesses with you?
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  When? When are they sharing these
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  vulnerabilities with you? When are they doing that?
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  You know they when, When are they doing these things?
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  Mindset wise, depth of wise, when are they doing it?
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  Like when when what's the mindset that goes behind it
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  right there. When are they doing these
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  things? Like seriously because they're
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  the vulnerable narcissists. Y'all will use these weaknesses
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  and vulnerabilities in a moment of desperation to get you back,
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  To get you to feel sorry for them or to justify something
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  that they've done to you. I did.
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  I did. You remember?
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  I told you in the beginning that my dad ended, Abandoned me?
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  That's why I don't know how to treat women.
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  That's why I cheat on you. I wish.
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  I just wish I didn't. I wish I was raised better.
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  I just wish I had a better role model.
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  You know my mom. I told you my mom left my dad
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  for my uncle, for my dad's brother.
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  I wish I just knew. I wish I knew.
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  You know they will. You.
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  They. Yeah.
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  Timing is everything. Very rarely do you get a
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  narcissist that wants to appear weak.
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  Like, even in those moments right there, they don't even
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  want to appear weak. If you think about it, they
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  don't want to appear weak. They want to appear vulnerable.
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  You know, they, I said that wrong.
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  They don't want to appear weak. They want to appear like they're
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  just, you know, like they're the victim.
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  It's victim mode. And the victims don't
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  necessarily equate to weaknesses.
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  You know what I mean? I notice it's my language gets
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  confused and sometimes I'll confuse myself sometimes when
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  I'm speaking really fast. But you know, I talk fast and
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  other people keep asking me. Some people ask me to slow down
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  and come and say like, yeah, this is how I talk.
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  You know, most of the stuff I say is slow and you can just
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  it's discernible is is you can hear me while I'm saying, you
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  know, sometimes I get, I get carried away and I get hype and
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  I start talking, you know, that's my vulnerability, that's
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  my what is your weakness, Lee? Sometimes I talk too fast, You
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  know, I'm not afraid to share my vulnerabilities with y'all
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  because that because I understand that vulnerability
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  does not equate to weakness. And people like if I'm sharing
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  my vulnerabilities with you, I'm sharing them with you because I
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  I and I anticipate the possibility that people will use
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  this against me. People go, oh, Lee, this will
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  happen to your child. You remember you said that.
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  OK, cool. I told you that you wouldn't
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  know if I didn't tell you. You know, you would not know.
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  Did this happen to me? If I wouldn't have divulged that
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  information to you willingly, you know, willfully, you know,
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  but that's the space that we fall into right there.
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  Y'all that's the space, that's the mindset.
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  That's the dynamic that are so many people fall into.
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  They want to say, like, what do you So what do you.
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  If you've dealt with a narcissist before you made it
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  this far, thank you. Shout out to you.
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  What did you What do you think a narcissist will tell you if you
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  ask them what their weaknesses are?
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  Or if you if If you've ever asked a narcissist, what hurts
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  you? What makes you sad?
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  What makes you cry? What makes you feel vulnerable?
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  What's your weak? What's your weakness?
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  What's your greatest weakness? Not your greatest strength.
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  What is your greatest weakness? What?
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  What do you think would happen if you asked the narcissistic
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  person in your life that question?
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