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Inner Child Hypnosis to Harness Emotional Intelligence and Acceptance · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in this episode of the
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  Hypnotist, you're going to be listening to a hypnosis session
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  that utilizes in a child work. And I was working with a client
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  that had the aftermath of quite a serious eating disorder and
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  levels of mistrust with themself that they would be able to deal
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  with things like binges. But quite often the binges would
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  follow feelings of overwhelm. And one of the key triggers of
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  overwhelm was feeling that they had a responsibility to change
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  how the people around them were feeling.
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  Now, that's a very difficult thing to do.
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  You can influence how people feel, but you can't make people
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  feel a certain way. And yet what was interesting is
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  that when they were a child, they really did help a sibling
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  to change how they felt. But not by taking on the
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  responsibility, just by accepting who they were, having
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  a loving intention and being present with them.
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  And that really worked in their childhood, but they weren't
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  utilizing that same strategy as an adult.
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  And that's why the inner child work here is quite useful for
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  two reasons. There was a time that they dealt
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  with a very similar triggering event but weren't triggered by
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  it. In fact, they felt empowered by
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  it. And secondly, they weren't
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  overthinking it. In the present they were, but in
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  the past they were much more intuitive.
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  And that intuitive approach, which is based on trust, was
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  more helpful. So the fact that this client was
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  dealing with the aftermath of an eating disorder, I think is
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  almost immaterial to what this session is all about.
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  And what it's really about is harnessing certain strategies
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  from the past and also just the idea of love and acceptance as a
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  way to preempt and prevent feelings of overwhelm.
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  And if overwhelm is a key trigger for a coping strategy,
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  whatever that coping strategy is, and you don't feel the
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  overwhelm, well then you don't need the coping strategy.
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  So there's a bit going on here in order for you to benefit from
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  this session. I would encourage you to think
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  of something from your past that was working for you then that
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  might be helpful for you now. And maybe there was less anxiety
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  when you were a child. Maybe you felt very confident in
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  social situations as a child. Maybe you felt more playful.
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  But these resources from your childhood may be actually very
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  helpful for you now. And just by thinking about that
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  in advance, you'll get more from this session.
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  Because this session is quite specific about the
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  responsibility of feeling somehow responsible for the
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  emotions for the people. But the actual modality of inner
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  child work is much broader than that.
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  So to make it relevant for you, think of what might be helpful
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  for you now that you certainly had as a resource, as a
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  strategy, just as a way of being as a child that might be helpful
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  for you. Now.
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  Obviously it was created for an individual.
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  So if you do like the idea of a bespoke individual session just
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  for you, that's certainly where most of my clients come from is
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  this desire to have something bespoke for them.
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  And where that normally starts is you would book a free
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  consultation call on Zoom, we'd have a chat and you'd be able to
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  get a sense pretty quickly if you think I'd be able to help
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  you for your specific situation. And then we can discuss how
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  things go from there. But in the initial instance,
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  it's just a free conversation to explore whether or not I would
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  be a good hypnotherapist for you.
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  For now though, for this hypnotherapy session, the best
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  thing to do would be to find a quiet, comfortable place where
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  you won't be disturbed to relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, just imagine
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  breathing in a feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale just allow your eyelids to close.
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  And as they close, notice a feeling of tension releasing
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  from your eyelids as you give yourself permission to just
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  relax, to let go of any feeling of needing to do anything in
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  this space here and now, there is nothing you need to do other
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  than listen to the sound of my voice.
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  When you breathe in. Just breathe in a feeling of
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  calm and relaxation. And as you exhale, feel a
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  wonderful feeling of release, releasing any tension, any
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  stress and any worries. Breathing in, relaxation,
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  exhaling tension. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you become. And the more relaxed you become,
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  the deeper you breathe. But you don't need to force
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  yourself to breathe, just allow it to happen.
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  And maybe you start by breathing from the chest, but notice that
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  when you just focus your attention lower there on the
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  abdomen, the tiny muscles around your diaphragm start to relax.
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  And don't be surprised if you breathe lower down, breathing in
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  deeper, exhaling for longer. That's right.
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  I don't want you to think of a place from your childhood that
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  was a safe, relaxing place, maybe a garden or a park or a
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  place you used to play. And I want you to think back to
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  that moment and imagine what it would feel like to be back in
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  that happy, relaxed place. Maybe you can remember things
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  that you've forgotten, the size or shape of a tree, certain
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  objects or things that you haven't thought about for a
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  while. And if you can remember a place
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  like that, a place that you used to feel calm and relaxed, a
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  place used to go to, to just think, just let me know about
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  nodding your head. And imagine being in that place
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  now, breathing in the air from back then, not being that age,
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  being yourself back at that time.
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  I wonder if you could see a younger version of you at the
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  age you were back then. Maybe you can see a version of
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  you that was a thinker, introspective, but someone that
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  cared deeply, that always wanted to help.
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  As you imagine being back in that place, with all the
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  knowledge and wisdom that you have now, but back in that
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  moment, I want you to notice how relaxed you're becoming.
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  Breathing and relaxation, exhaling tension.
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  Feel a wonderful sense of calm, the sense of serenity and
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  perspective, and allow yourself to be an invisible observer of
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  the past. I want you to see a moment.
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  A moment where someone you loved and cared about was in an
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  emotional state that was causing issues for them or issues for
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  others. And when you know that moment,
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  allow yourself to observe as this invisible observer to that
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  younger version of you that intuitively knew exactly how to
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  help. I want you to watch that memory
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  as an observer, not reliving anything, just watching.
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  And I want to see that younger version of you using love and
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  acceptance as the very foundation of helping.
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  That version of you didn't need permission to match someone
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  else's mood. In fact, that would have made
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  things worse back then. You gave yourself permission to
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  be exactly who you are at your very core, the essence of you to
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  be loving and accepting. And if you can see that younger
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  version of you that did indeed help someone too radically
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  change their emotional state, using love and acceptance as the
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  primary way of doing that, just let me know by nodding your
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  head. I want you to get a sense then.
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  Sometimes we don't need to learn anything new, we just need to be
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  reminded of what we already know.
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  I want you to get a sense that if it worked back then, wouldn't
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  it work now? That if someone is upset or
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  angry or frustrated, you could accept their state without it
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  needing to become your state. To hold the belief that all
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  emotions are temporary. You've never met a single person
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  locked in a single emotional state forever.
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  Therefore all emotions change. So if someone is angry or
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  annoyed, Moody or sad, that too will be temporary.
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  If someone is feeling overwhelmed, that overwhelm
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  won't last forever. It's like a wave.
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  Some waves are big and some waves are small, but all waves
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  are temporary. I want you to imagine looking at
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  that child version of you a time where they weren't rules.
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  I want you to see that that version of you built those rules
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  for herself. And sometimes too many rules can
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  be like a cage, and everyone wants to break free of a cage
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  every now and then. But what if these shoulds and
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  musts become coulds and maybes? If the rules become intentions,
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  I want you to get a sense that what if that makes you feel more
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  free? And what if that freedom helps
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  you feel more in control of your choices?
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  I want you to get a sense that sometimes rules can be helpful,
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  but sometimes rules can be restrictive.
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  They feel like handcuffs and chains.
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  To deprive you of what you are, your essence.
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  To be intuitive as you imagine seeing that younger version of
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  you do so many things intuitively.
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  To find the right tone of voice. Intuitively, to know what kind
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  of play would be stimulating. Intuitively, you weren't
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  following rules and shoulds and regulations and restrictions.
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  That when you allow yourself to trust your intuition, more often
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  than not it gets things not just right, but after more.
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  That when you trust your intuition, you do things just
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  about as well as they could be possibly done.
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  And if a new belief is forming, then a new future is possible.
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  A future where you allow yourself to be more of you and
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  less of what you should be, if you allow a future version of
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  you to be everything that you could be.
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  If that feels like a future where you have less stress and
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  less overwhelm and more balance, just let me know by nodding your
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  head. What if the teacher here is not
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  the adult teaching the child, but the child teaching the
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  adult? Just imagine that that younger
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  version of you has done all the helping.
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  She's now on her own. Just imagine turning yourself
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  from invisible to visible and explain to that younger version
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  of you that you are them from the future.
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  And I want you to prove that to them by telling them a secret
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  that only they know. And once you've convinced that
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  younger version of you that you are them from their future, let
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  me know by nodding your head. That's right, I want you to find
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  a private place where you can tell that younger version of you
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  that they are loved, they are accepted, they are good at their
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  very core. But you're wiser now than you've
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  ever been, and I want you to share some wisdom.
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  With that younger version of you, something you wish you knew
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  all the way back then, something that would have helped you to
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  avoid the extremes and to find that perfect black balance
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  between discipline and balance, a perfect balance between
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  acceptance and control. And once you've shared that
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  wisdom with them, I want you to give that child version of you a
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  valuable resource, a quality, an emotional feeling that you wish
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  you would have had all the way back then.
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  Maybe confidence, maybe trust, maybe acceptance.
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  Give that resource like a glowing ball of energy to that
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  younger version of you that you wish you would have had back
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  then. And when they've accepted it and
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  see them, pull that glowing energy to their chest and absorb
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  that quality. And when they've done that, let
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  me know by nodding your head and feel that resource rippling
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  through time all the way from back then to right now.
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  But I want you to see that that young version of you has
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  something you had in abundance then and you need right now.
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  And maybe it's acceptance. Maybe it's the ability to trust,
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  or maybe to really lean into your intuition, or maybe
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  something else. You know what you had in
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  abundance back then that you could benefit from right now and
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  allow that child version of you to give you a glowing ball of
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  energy, but a different colour, Something you need right now.
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  And you don't have to label it or name it.
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  Just know that it will help and feel the sensation of that
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  younger version of you placing that glowing ball of energy on
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  your chest near your heart and you're absorbing it.
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  Feel your cells update with this new resource, the resource that
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  will help you in whichever ways you need helping most.
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  And when you feel you've absorbed that quality that you
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  had in the past and need now, let me know by nodding your head
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  and then give that younger version of you a hug.
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  Tell her she is the most important person in the world
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  and that she has permission to be true to herself.
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  And then say goodbye, knowing that you can revisit this
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  younger version of you whenever you desire.
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  But I want you to feel all these changes start to ripple through
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  time, to the here and the now, and start to think of your
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  future. I want you to think of something
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  specific that in the past would have triggered you, but see
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  yourself like you're someone else and the same thing that
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  triggered you before now doesn't.
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  See yourself with more options, more choices.
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  See yourself with the ability to not take on someone else's
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  energy like it's your own. See yourself as not having to
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  hold someone else's burden, not needing to fix someone else.
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  That your responsibility is to be true to yourself and that is
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  where you are at your most influential and what you can see
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  in that future version of you dealing with the future event in
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  a new way because of what's happened.
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  Let me know by nodding your head and then step into that future
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  version of you feeling how it would feel.
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  That thing that triggered you in the past now makes you feel
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  different. That even if you feel bored or
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  overwhelmed, even if you see someone upset or annoyed, you
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  feel different and therefore you have different choices.
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  And when you feel this future, like you have all of those
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  resources here in the present, let me know about nodding your
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  head. It's time to leave this place,
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  this place from your past all the way back to the here and the
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  now taking these changes and these feelings with you.
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  So take a deep breath in through your nose and out through your
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  nose. Wiggle your fingers and wiggle
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  your toes. Start to connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now. As I now count from 1:00 to
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  10:00 to awaken you. You will awaken with a new sense
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  of resourcefulness, perspective, and acceptance.
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  Starting to count. 123 Waking up 456 More alert 7-8 Open your
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  eyes. Open your eyes. 910 Wide awake,
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  wide awake. Wide awake.
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