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Setting 2024 Intentions So The Universe is Your Sugar Daddy: with Dellara Gorjian · QUESTION EVERYTHING

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  Speaker 1: Big things happen when you're pretty, pretty bold, pretty clever,
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  Speaker 1: pretty strong. I'm Danielle Robe and each week my guests
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  Speaker 1: and I have conversations that put a new spin on
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  Speaker 1: pretty This is pretty smart happy. Almost two thousand and
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  Speaker 1: twenty four, I kept calling twenty twenty three, Are Michael
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  Speaker 1: Jordan here? Maybe it's because I'm from Chicago, but I
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  Speaker 1: just walked into twenty twenty three frustrated with my circumstance.
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  Speaker 1: I was ready for a change, and here's what I did.
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  Speaker 1: It's kind of a roundabout story, but I'm gonna tell
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  Speaker 1: it to you because it totally shifted my perspective and
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  Speaker 1: I'm wondering if maybe it will shift yours. I went
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  Speaker 1: to a workout class midway through twenty twenty two and
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  Speaker 1: I had a little bit of a back injury, so
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  Speaker 1: I couldn't really give.
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  Speaker 2: It my all.
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  Speaker 1: And at the end of the class, the teacher, his
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  Speaker 1: name is Pollie, he looked at me and he said,
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  Speaker 1: imagine what you could do, Danielle if you really gave
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  Speaker 1: it your all. And I was kind of pissed off
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  Speaker 1: because I was like, what are you talking about. I
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  Speaker 1: showed up and I was hurt, like I did give
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  Speaker 1: it my all. And I said that to him and
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  Speaker 1: he looked at me and he goes, no, No, If
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  Speaker 1: you cut out the noise and you really dedicated yourself
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  Speaker 1: to your goal, if you really gave it your all,
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  Speaker 1: can you imagine what would happen in a year? And
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  Speaker 1: it was then that I realized that he wasn't talking
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  Speaker 1: about working out anymore. For the rest of the year,
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  Speaker 1: I thought about what he said on and off. His
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  Speaker 1: voice would kind of like replay in my mind. And
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  Speaker 1: on New Year's Eve that year, so like December thirty one,
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty two, I didn't do anything plans. I didn't
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  Speaker 1: go to a party, and to be honest, I was
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  Speaker 1: kind of feeling sorry for myself and I sat down
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  Speaker 1: and I heard Polly's voice, What would happen if you
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  Speaker 1: really dedicated yourself. So that's what I did. I said,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going to do it this year, and I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to see what happens in one year if I give
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  Speaker 1: it my all, and by it.
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  Speaker 2: I met my career.
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  Speaker 1: Card games, podcast, TV, hosting, merch lines, all of the above.
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  Speaker 1: I knew it was going to take making some changes.
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  Speaker 1: I wasn't going to be able to be as active
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  Speaker 1: of a friend or sister or daughter. I wasn't going
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  Speaker 1: to be able to answer every phone call or email
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  Speaker 1: or help everybody that I wanted to serve. But I
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  Speaker 1: decided I was going to take one year to really
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  Speaker 1: dedicate myself full throttle to my career and see what
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  Speaker 1: happens in three hundred and sixty five days. Now it's
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  Speaker 1: December twenty eighth, so three days before the new year,
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  Speaker 1: and I have to tell you my life changed. I
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  Speaker 1: didn't hit every goal. I didn't post every day on TikTok.
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  Speaker 1: I definitely didn't scroll less on Instagram. I didn't meditate
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  Speaker 1: three times a week. I didn't get into the best
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  Speaker 1: shape of my life. But I did do these things.
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  Speaker 1: The podcast grew tremendously. We got the card deck into
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  Speaker 1: retailers and have expansion packs, meaning new ones on the way.
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  Speaker 2: I signed a.
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  Speaker 1: Contract with a company for a new show that I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to be talking about in March.
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  Speaker 2: That's launching.
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  Speaker 1: It's a company I've always wanted to work with that
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  Speaker 1: was on my vision board. I did a travel show
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  Speaker 1: with First Look that was one of my goals. I
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  Speaker 1: moderated more panels and did live speaking events about the
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  Speaker 1: power of questions. I actually wrote a whole speech about
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  Speaker 1: the power of questions.
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  Speaker 2: That I now give.
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  Speaker 1: I visited two new countries and saw several new states.
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  Speaker 1: I learned how to say no politely and boldly. I
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  Speaker 1: held my boundaries better. And I have to say the
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  Speaker 1: best one of all was I really followed my heart.
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  Speaker 1: I was really working on getting out of my head
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  Speaker 1: and leading with my heart. And for the first time ever,
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  Speaker 1: I can say I really did it, and I did
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  Speaker 1: it without struggle.
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  Speaker 2: That's the thing. I think. I have led with my heart.
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  Speaker 1: But there was tension between my mind, my brain, and
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  Speaker 1: my heart, and this year there wasn't.
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  Speaker 2: I just moved, I flowed.
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  Speaker 1: So how do you really intention set whether it's personal
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  Speaker 1: or professional. Here's my method that I'm going to share,
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  Speaker 1: and it's really simple. Each year, I write down in
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  Speaker 1: my notepad professional and personal, and I write down my
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  Speaker 1: goals for each and then I put bullet points under
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  Speaker 1: those in terms of how I think I might achieve those.
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  Speaker 1: Is there somebody I need to connect with, Is there
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  Speaker 1: something I need to make, something I need to learn?
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  Speaker 1: What are the steps I need to take in my
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  Speaker 1: mind at this point.
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  Speaker 2: To achieve some of those things?
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  Speaker 1: That's what I think the differentiator is because everybody can
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  Speaker 1: write down a list of what they're hoping to do,
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  Speaker 1: but how are you.
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  Speaker 2: Going to do it?
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  Speaker 1: And sometimes you don't know the how and it reveals
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  Speaker 1: itself on its own throughout the year. Sometimes you think
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  Speaker 1: you know the how and it changes and that's okay.
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  Speaker 1: But I think having an idea of the how when
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  Speaker 1: you begin.
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  Speaker 2: Helps catalyze things.
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  Speaker 1: Also, one of the fun things I do is each year,
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  Speaker 1: before the year ends, I go back to that list
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  Speaker 1: and underneath it, I write about what I did and
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  Speaker 1: what I didn't do, So I almost have like a
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  Speaker 1: little personal diary of the year and bullet points.
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  Speaker 2: It's so fun to look back on because you get
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  Speaker 2: about things. I went to Tucson with my dad.
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  Speaker 1: I made the news for Pretty Smart with our interview
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  Speaker 1: with Constance Wu. I threw a huge birthday party and
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  Speaker 1: invited tons of people and realized that that's not actually
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  Speaker 1: how I like to celebrate my birthday. I write down
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  Speaker 1: all the things that were memorable for me throughout the year,
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  Speaker 1: and they're so fun to look back on because you
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  Speaker 1: forget some of them as the years march on. But
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  Speaker 1: before you sit down and do all this, Where do
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  Speaker 1: you begin? I don't mean to sound like a broken record,
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  Speaker 1: but it's all about the questions you ask yourself. So
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  Speaker 1: I wrote twenty four questions to ask ourselves in twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty four. Twelve of them are looking back reflecting, and
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  Speaker 1: twelve of them are looking ahead in visioning. I do
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  Speaker 1: this almost every single year, and I posted them on Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: So if you're curious about the method, you can head
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  Speaker 1: to my ig and the questions are right there. There's
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  Speaker 1: something that I actually really love to send to people
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  Speaker 1: I love, to friends and family. It feels like a
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  Speaker 1: little mini gift, a digital gift. So if you feel
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  Speaker 1: like they're useful, send the link to people you love.
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  Speaker 2: Now, before we.
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  Speaker 1: Jump into today's episode, I just want to say thank
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  Speaker 1: you when you send episodes to your friends and family.
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  Speaker 1: When you reach out to me via DM about an episode,
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  Speaker 1: about something somebody said or an experience that I shared,
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  Speaker 1: I cavel.
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  Speaker 2: That's a Yiddish word. I don't know how to say
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  Speaker 2: it in English.
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  Speaker 1: I guess I just melt so for all of the
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  Speaker 1: love and care and warmth and excitement that you share
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  Speaker 1: with me. It's so gratefully received, and I'm just sending
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  Speaker 1: all of the vibes back your way. I hope twenty
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  Speaker 1: twenty four brings you exactly what you are craving. Oh
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  Speaker 1: and I almost forgot. The other part of intention or
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  Speaker 1: goal setting that I do is I name the year.
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  Speaker 1: What is the one word on your heart, on your
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  Speaker 1: mind that you want this year to take on?
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  Speaker 2: Is it optimization? Heart centered? Peace? Rest? Mine this year
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  Speaker 2: is discipline.
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  Speaker 1: I've always been a very focused, dedicated person, but I'm
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  Speaker 1: not a very disciplined person.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have a morning routine.
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  Speaker 1: I don't like when my days look the same, I
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  Speaker 1: don't eat the same thing every day, etc. And in
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  Speaker 1: order to take things to the place where I want
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  Speaker 1: them to be, I think I need to take on
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  Speaker 1: some real discipline this year. Okay, now for real the
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  Speaker 1: last episode of twenty and twenty three. I think this
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  Speaker 1: time of year can be really a challenging time for
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  Speaker 1: so many of us.
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  Speaker 2: I personally find it challenging.
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  Speaker 1: On top of the stress and of course the joy
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  Speaker 1: of holidays or travel commitments, the year is also winding down,
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  Speaker 1: and with the end of the year, there's a lot
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  Speaker 1: of pressure to take stock. Feel like it's good timing
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  Speaker 1: for today's guest musician TikTok, star influencer Dlara.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's that bad. She's all one name kind of girl.
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  Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. She has a last name, but she's.
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  Speaker 1: A baddie, so I'm going with one name. Even if
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  Speaker 1: you're not one of her nearly one and a half
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  Speaker 1: million followers, yet, there's a good chance you've run across
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  Speaker 1: her content, or at least her nuggets of wisdom online.
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  Speaker 1: She's a former lawyer who quit to pursue her dream
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  Speaker 1: of content creation, and her page really runs the gamut.
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  Speaker 1: It's legal advice, current events, tips on radical confidence, and
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  Speaker 1: so much more. What I like most about her is
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  Speaker 1: that Delara really feels like she's on the journey with you,
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  Speaker 1: and she's really open about her evolution.
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  Speaker 3: I don't think it's possible for a human, maybe a
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  Speaker 3: monk or something to live a life without any insecurity.
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  Speaker 4: But we get to choose what we want to be
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  Speaker 4: insecure about.
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  Speaker 3: I just decided, instead of being insecure about like my
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  Speaker 3: stomach role or like, you know, my hair, you know,
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  Speaker 3: looking a certain way, I'd rather be insecure about like
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  Speaker 3: how good of a daughter am I to my parents?
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  Speaker 3: Like I'd rather be insecure about like how much of
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  Speaker 3: an impact am I making? Insecure about how how am
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  Speaker 3: I living my life in a way that's true to me.
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  Speaker 1: So today our conversation ranges from her thoughts and practical
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  Speaker 1: tips on confidence finding our way.
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  Speaker 4: She even shares her perspective.
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  Speaker 1: On why disagreeing with someone can be a beautiful thing.
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  Speaker 3: It's about making sure that you are cultivating an environment
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  Speaker 3: where people are on the same page as you and
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  Speaker 3: are also willing to view it that way, us versus
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  Speaker 3: the problem. Because when you can get there, it's such
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  Speaker 3: a beautiful thing.
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  Speaker 1: Plus, this is a nugget about manifestation that I will
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  Speaker 1: never forget.
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  Speaker 4: I'm spoiled like the universe is my sugar daddy, more
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  Speaker 4: than any man, more than any man.
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  Speaker 1: I swear that line was replaying in my mind for
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  Speaker 1: weeks after our interview. So as the year winds down
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  Speaker 1: and as we start to mentally prepare for twenty twenty four,
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  Speaker 1: let's dive in to our sit down conversation with Delara.
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  Speaker 1: It's a good reminder to always put in the work
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  Speaker 1: for future.
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  Speaker 2: You you are worthy of it.
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  Speaker 1: I hope you enjoy the conversation as much as I
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  Speaker 1: enjoyed having it.
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  Speaker 4: I want to know the meaning of your name.
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  Speaker 3: My name is Iranian, and the literal translation, well, actually,
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  Speaker 3: i'll tell you.
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  Speaker 4: Delara is believed to be the goddess of love, and
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  Speaker 4: that's so you. Thank you. It's a lot to live
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  Speaker 4: up too, but I do.
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  Speaker 3: It's it's amazing that you say that, because more and
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  Speaker 3: more I find myself leaning into just living a life
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  Speaker 3: that's rooted in love. I really think that all decisions
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  Speaker 3: can be divided into love or fear, and try to
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  Speaker 3: choose love.
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  Speaker 4: As often as I can. So, thank you. But the
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  Speaker 4: literal translation is love of ours.
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  Speaker 3: Dell means heart, Ra means of ours, so de laura,
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  Speaker 3: which is how it's pronounced in FARSI means love of ours.
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  Speaker 4: And it's cool. Yes, I never I love that question. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: thank you.
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  Speaker 1: Well, when you came in here, you you were talking
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  Speaker 1: to me and the crew, and I noticed that you
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  Speaker 1: said you were telling a personal story, but you used our.
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  Speaker 4: You didn't.
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  Speaker 1: You said, you know, I really believe that everything.
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  Speaker 4: Happens our highest benefit.
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  Speaker 1: Not my even though you were telling a personal story.
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  Speaker 4: It's so true. So our love, yeah, love of ours.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, And it's so true because I have such a
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  Speaker 3: deep belief that everything is working out for our highest benefit.
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  Speaker 3: And even detours, they're not actually obstacles in our paths,
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  Speaker 3: but they're a part of the path. And it's actually
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  Speaker 3: so beautiful to be able to look at things in
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  Speaker 3: retrospect and understand that something had to happen for something
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  Speaker 3: extra special to unfold. Alternatively, sometimes contrast has to happen
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  Speaker 3: in order to enjoy something a little bit more to.
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  Speaker 4: Lara, where did you grow up?
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  Speaker 3: I grew up in I was born in Canada, but
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  Speaker 3: I grew up in southern California, in Orange County. I
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  Speaker 3: was always in love with la from a young age.
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  Speaker 3: I think because it was a space for creatives and
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  Speaker 3: people to show up and be their authentic selves.
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  Speaker 4: And I feel like in Orange County was a lot
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  Speaker 4: of well, there's two different types of performing.
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  Speaker 3: There's like performing because you have to like and I
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  Speaker 3: mean that in a good way, Like performing because like
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  Speaker 3: for the art of it and because you want to
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  Speaker 3: share what's on your heart and then performing for like
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  Speaker 3: validation or for performing for affirmation. So great to you know,
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  Speaker 3: live here now and live a childhood dream and just
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  Speaker 3: I remember I would even literally skip school sometimes just
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  Speaker 3: to take the train to come to LA and walk
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  Speaker 3: around like I just I had to be in a
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  Speaker 3: different environment because in school I never fit in. But yeah,
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  Speaker 3: I was like a loner for sure.
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  Speaker 4: Why do you think so that is?
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  Speaker 3: I think because I was a creative I think I
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  Speaker 3: was denying myself that for especially a lot of my
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  Speaker 3: academic career. But growing up, all I wanted to do
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  Speaker 3: is music, Like music was my whole life, and I
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  Speaker 3: wanted to be a pop star. And so going to
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  Speaker 3: school with the feeling that I was a pop star,
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  Speaker 3: I just I felt like I couldn't connect with people.
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  Speaker 3: I would show up to school very much my authentic self.
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  Speaker 3: I would like come to school in foreign heels before,
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  Speaker 3: like people were doing that.
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  Speaker 4: Like are people doing that now? I think they are?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, And I noticed a few years after I graduated,
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  Speaker 3: like people would tell me, oh, like more girls are
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  Speaker 3: wearing heels to school and stuff, and just like showing
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  Speaker 3: up as their authentic sells without like kind.
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  Speaker 4: Of getting like side eye for it.
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  Speaker 3: And I got a lot of sided But I thankfully,
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  Speaker 3: I think it was because of my parents. I just
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  Speaker 3: had enough confidence about who I am and what I
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  Speaker 3: have to share with the world that I didn't mind
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  Speaker 3: and I was just like, you guys don't get it.
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  Speaker 3: So maybe that was my feeling about others, like you
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  Speaker 3: guys just don't get it.
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  Speaker 1: And then when did you move to LA because you
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  Speaker 1: came here to be a singer.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, I graduated high school year early, so seventeen is
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  Speaker 3: when I moved to.
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  Speaker 4: LA to pursue music.
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  Speaker 3: And I ended up getting a bad taste in my
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  Speaker 3: mouth with the music industry at that time, diversity wasn't
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  Speaker 3: celebrated as much, and I was told, you know, I
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  Speaker 3: wasn't the person that they were looking for. And that
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  Speaker 3: felt as a seventeen year old who also struggled with
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  Speaker 3: body image issues and as it's weird to have like
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  Speaker 3: confidence and insecurity at the same time. And I think
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  Speaker 3: that's something actually a lot of people struggle with. It's
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  Speaker 3: like this belief that I know I have something special
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  Speaker 3: to offer, but what if I'm wrong? And I hate
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  Speaker 3: that question, And that was a question I was really
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  Speaker 3: struggling with for a long time because I felt so
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  Speaker 3: confident on one and and again it was like balancing
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  Speaker 3: each other out, and the dissonance of it was dissonance
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  Speaker 3: is a hard thing. Yeah, for your heart, it's a
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  Speaker 3: hard thing.
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  Speaker 4: For your heart.
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  Speaker 3: That's such a great way to put it. This is
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  Speaker 3: why affirmations are so powerful. It's not because it's not
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  Speaker 3: because you're saying like I am beautiful, I am I'm smart,
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  Speaker 3: I am cool, I am all of these things for
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  Speaker 3: the sake of saying it. It's the consistency that makes
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  Speaker 3: it powerful, because it's the reminding yourself, which is training
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  Speaker 3: your mind to believe that on a subconscious level where
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  Speaker 3: you don't have.
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  Speaker 4: To say it out loud anymore. And for a long time,
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 3: Sometimes I wonder even if law school or like, a
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  Speaker 3: lot of the achievements, like the achievement based goals that
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  Speaker 3: I set for myself and saw through, were to prove
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  Speaker 3: something to myself, not even to prove something to the world,
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  Speaker 3: but to prove something to myself that I am enough
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  Speaker 3: or I am worthy. And to now be on the
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  Speaker 3: other side of it and to realize, and this is
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  Speaker 3: something I just really want people to understand, is you
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  Speaker 3: have this big achievement, something that a lot of people
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  Speaker 3: really aspire to or think is really noble or amazing.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, I invite people to ask themselves, when you
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  Speaker 3: achieve something, how long are you really excited and happy,
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  Speaker 3: because the nature of the hedonic treadmill is to create
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  Speaker 3: an experience where it's really cool for a short period
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  Speaker 3: of time and then you return to your baseline. And
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  Speaker 3: if that's what's going to happen every single time, then
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  Speaker 3: why do we play so much worthiness happiness. I'll feel
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  Speaker 3: good once I get there, i will finally be worthy
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  Speaker 3: once I get.
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  Speaker 4: There, or I'll finally feel whatever when.
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  Speaker 3: I get there, when that's just not how it works
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  Speaker 3: one hundred percent of the time. That's why I just
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  Speaker 3: think journaling is so important and reflecting and thinking about
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  Speaker 3: these things as opposed to just going through every day
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  Speaker 3: fighting these mini battles, like it's so good to just
• 18:51
  Speaker 3: step out and understand the big picture of it all
• 18:55
  Speaker 3: so that you can be more efficient in the way
• 18:57
  Speaker 3: that you move through the world and make sure that
• 19:00
  Speaker 3: you have goals that are not to prove something to
• 19:02
  Speaker 3: the world or to prove something to yourself, but because
• 19:05
  Speaker 3: there is an intrinsic joy that comes from the process,
• 19:08
  Speaker 3: not a grab of joy that you're delaying giving yourself
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: until the thing happens, because that's just not how it works,
• 19:18
  Speaker 3: and we all know it. It happens over and over,
• 19:20
  Speaker 3: like even with graduating law school, for instance, or you
• 19:24
  Speaker 3: know a million followers on TikTok, or you know certain
• 19:28
  Speaker 3: awards or whatever.
• 19:30
  Speaker 4: It feels really great.
• 19:32
  Speaker 3: And it's amazing and it's an honor, but it's not
• 19:37
  Speaker 3: some type of thing where all of a sudden I
• 19:39
  Speaker 3: am a happier or a more confident or a more
• 19:41
  Speaker 3: worthy person. I still struggle with insecurity. I still struggle
• 19:44
  Speaker 3: with questions of am I enough? And that's the annoying
• 19:48
  Speaker 3: part of it all. But it's like, okay, but now
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: that I know that that's going to be the case,
• 19:52
  Speaker 3: I could.
• 19:54
  Speaker 4: Become a pop star even now.
• 19:56
  Speaker 3: And it's not about the It's not about the numbers.
• 20:01
  Speaker 4: It's certainly not about the metrics.
• 20:03
  Speaker 3: But I really think true joy, happiness, worthiness, feeling fulfilled,
• 20:09
  Speaker 3: it comes in the process and not in the destination.
• 20:13
  Speaker 3: So just pick a process you like, like, learn from me,
• 20:17
  Speaker 3: because I don't regret you know, law school at all,
• 20:20
  Speaker 3: and I think it was a really important and a
• 20:23
  Speaker 3: beautiful experience.
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: But I just urge people.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: I think a lot of people sometimes will pursue something
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: like higher education or graduate school for the wrong reason.
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: Did you feel that way about law school? I think
• 20:40
  Speaker 4: at a time I did.
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: I think, especially coming from an Iranian family, I just
• 20:45
  Speaker 3: think in Middle Eastern and South Asian culture, having that
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: degree is so important because it represented freedom for all
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: of these people. But it's like, why the detours, Why
• 21:02
  Speaker 3: not access You can access freedom without having to tell
• 21:06
  Speaker 3: yourself this narrative in the story that you have to
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: do something hard in order to be worthy of love, respect, adoration.
• 21:19
  Speaker 3: You know all of these things. And I think it
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: took going through it for me to realize it. And
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: I think that the value that I can bring to
• 21:28
  Speaker 3: others instead of maybe practicing law, is to look at
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: just things from a different perspective and share, Hey, this
• 21:36
  Speaker 3: is kind of what I went through, this is what
• 21:37
  Speaker 3: I learned. Maybe what I learned can be helpful for
• 21:40
  Speaker 3: you in a different way than like representing you in
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: a courtroom.
• 21:44
  Speaker 4: And oftentimes in.
• 21:46
  Speaker 3: Order to have the financial security that the legal profession brings,
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: it's making rich people richer, it's the big law jobs,
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: it's working for corporations.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: You are a recipient of DOC which is also known
• 22:01
  Speaker 1: as the Dreamers. So you played a role in UCLA's
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: Supreme Court challenge and to that effort to dismantle what
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: the Trump administration tried to dismantle. What perspective do you
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: have now after that experience that you wish more people
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: would understand.
• 22:22
  Speaker 3: I think what's really important for people to understand is
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: that these are people, including myself, who came to the
• 22:30
  Speaker 3: States through no choice of their own. These are children,
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: and this is the only country that they know of
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: as home, and they have contributed so much to this
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: country and.
• 22:43
  Speaker 4: Deserve to be here. I just feel like.
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: It's not like anyone deserves to be here more than
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: anyone else. But I just think that this is a
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: really deserving group of people who love this country and
• 22:54
  Speaker 3: want nothing more than to be able to live out
• 22:58
  Speaker 3: their dreams and also have a positive impact on others.
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: For ten years, there has been no change.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: There has been no pathway to citizenship for eight hundred
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: thousand people who are in the same position as me.
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: But it's something that has such a high approval rating
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: across partisan lines, and I think people think that if
• 23:24
  Speaker 3: something makes sense, then of course the government. Of course
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: it will be enacted into law. It's just a matter
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: of time. What people need to realize is I think
• 23:34
  Speaker 3: that we will get to a point, unfortunately where DACA
• 23:38
  Speaker 3: is in severe jeopardy where like because it keeps you know,
• 23:43
  Speaker 3: it's in place, and it keeps getting renewed, and it's
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: still in jeopardy, like it literally tomorrow could all dismantle.
• 23:50
  Speaker 4: Yeah, which uproots tons of people.
• 23:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the entire lit Obviously, I'm going to be one
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: of those people and will continue to use my platform
• 24:00
  Speaker 3: to raise awareness and to really fight for this.
• 24:02
  Speaker 4: I'm so proud to be a part of this like super.
• 24:05
  Speaker 3: Resilient community that can live in uncertainty every single day
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: and still make crazy shit happen and.
• 24:16
  Speaker 4: Realize their dreams in a world of uncertainty.
• 24:19
  Speaker 3: Then it's just I think it's really important to continue
• 24:22
  Speaker 3: to amplify this cause because it's crazy that there isn't
• 24:27
  Speaker 3: a solution, but I'm hopeful that there will be soon.
• 24:30
  Speaker 4: What do you think you were put on earth to do?
• 24:33
  Speaker 4: That's a good question.
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: I think I think I was put on earth to
• 24:39
  Speaker 3: share good ideas and to just like maybe it goes
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: back to my name, but like bringing just more love
• 24:47
  Speaker 3: into the world. Yeah, because I think that's really what
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: everything really boils down to. It's like everyone just wants
• 24:54
  Speaker 3: to feel love, to receive it, and to give it.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: But I love when you sing on tick talk thank you,
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: like you wrote a song for your friend's unborn baby
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: and it was so beautiful.
• 25:05
  Speaker 4: Thank you so much.
• 25:07
  Speaker 3: That was Yeah, probably my favorite type of video to make.
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: Really Yeah, And uh.
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: I think it's cool that you don't hide that part
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: of you, even though that's not necessarily like the bread
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: and butter of your TikTok.
• 25:19
  Speaker 4: So I'm so.
• 25:19
  Speaker 3: Happy you brought that up because I think that there's
• 25:22
  Speaker 3: actually something really toxic happening in my industry, this content
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: creator world, where.
• 25:30
  Speaker 4: So like my whole thing.
• 25:31
  Speaker 3: Is I really I notice when I find myself having
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: to play by rules something like I don't like it
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: because again, I think like where we're all trying to
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: get to is a place of freedom, and even like
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: deciding to leave law and enter like the creative world
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: was in my mind, like breaking free of the rules
• 25:55
  Speaker 3: that society places on you. That if you spend all
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: of this time, money, resources, and identity into something that
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: you have to stick with it, And I think that's
• 26:06
  Speaker 3: so problematic. I think that also translates into relationships, people
• 26:10
  Speaker 3: staying in relationships for too long because I've already invested
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: all this time if I leave or if we end
• 26:16
  Speaker 3: the relationship, it's a waste, but.
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: You're not happy. So like that's just a little backwards
• 26:21
  Speaker 4: to me.
• 26:22
  Speaker 3: But going to like this rules thing, I feel like
• 26:26
  Speaker 3: I thought I was coming. I was getting to a
• 26:29
  Speaker 3: place of freedom by being able to live this creative
• 26:32
  Speaker 3: life and to make videos and to share you know,
• 26:35
  Speaker 3: ideas that I thought was good. But then I noticed
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: myself playing to the algorithm. And what is an algorithm?
• 26:41
  Speaker 4: That a set of rules? And I think what the
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: algorithm is training people to do?
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: And it quite literally it's like pavlov and like training
• 26:50
  Speaker 3: because what these metrics equate to is money and is
• 26:55
  Speaker 3: a form of survival and you know, dreams coming true
• 26:59
  Speaker 3: and abundant. So what people are doing is they're contorting themselves,
• 27:03
  Speaker 3: hiding parts of themselves, niching themselves down to a point
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: where you're kind of killing the rest of your identity
• 27:11
  Speaker 3: in order to succeed on an app. I really think
• 27:15
  Speaker 3: this concept of like niching down does it work?
• 27:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah? Because what does it provide?
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: It provides the audience with a sense of trust, which
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: is what the brands are paying for. That like, I'll
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: be able to come back and I know what I'm getting.
• 27:32
  Speaker 4: But when does life work like that? Yeah? It doesn't.
• 27:36
  Speaker 4: And when are people one dimensional? They're not.
• 27:39
  Speaker 3: I think in many ways, like my law degree gave
• 27:42
  Speaker 3: me a sense of permission to pursue a lot of
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: the things that I'm doing now because I feel like, Okay,
• 27:48
  Speaker 3: I've proven that I can do this hard thing, or
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: like I am smart enough or like whatever to feel
• 27:55
  Speaker 3: safe to be silly and to be dumb or like whatever.
• 27:59
  Speaker 3: But now I I almost feel like the success that
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: I have achieved on social media has given me permission
• 28:07
  Speaker 3: and the freedom to be like, Okay, I want to
• 28:10
  Speaker 3: do something different now, Like I don't want to again
• 28:12
  Speaker 3: play by these rules, even if I'm not rewarded for
• 28:14
  Speaker 3: it in the interim. I've already proven that I can
• 28:17
  Speaker 3: be successful on the app, but now I want to
• 28:20
  Speaker 3: experiment with something different. So I so appreciate you enjoying
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: the content that I'm not necessarily known for. But that
• 28:29
  Speaker 3: shows my entire self to hopefully give others permission to
• 28:34
  Speaker 3: show their entire selves.
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: I think you're ahead of the curve. I think that's
• 28:36
  Speaker 4: where social media is. HEAD think it is too.
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: When did you post your first video? When did you
• 28:41
  Speaker 1: find traction online. Well.
• 28:43
  Speaker 4: When I was younger, like.
• 28:44
  Speaker 3: When I was sixteen, like back in the day, I
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: posted on YouTube and I would post music covers.
• 28:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, and that did well.
• 28:52
  Speaker 3: And so I, at a very young age, was able
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: to understand the power of the Internet and you know,
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: the attention economy and being able to leverage an online
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: presence into real world's dreams being realized. And then things
• 29:13
  Speaker 3: in my life change and evolved. I went to law school,
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: graduated during the pandemic, and I didn't I mean, I
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: think everyone was kind of just like what's going on,
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: like confuse, like reevaluating.
• 29:26
  Speaker 4: I didn't know what I wanted to do, but I
• 29:28
  Speaker 4: was really into.
• 29:28
  Speaker 3: Self development and I made I told myself, I wanted
• 29:33
  Speaker 3: to like create a challenge where I read for twenty
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: or read ten pages a day, like meditated for ten minutes,
• 29:41
  Speaker 3: stretch for ten minutes, like just things that are objectively
• 29:44
  Speaker 3: good for you. And I wanted to use TikTok as
• 29:48
  Speaker 3: a form of accountability.
• 29:50
  Speaker 4: And I just made a video.
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: I was like, but I also knew that people like
• 29:53
  Speaker 3: following a journey, so I said, hey, you know, this
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: is day one of a thirty day challenge.
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: I'm doing where I'm going.
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: To do these things, join me if you want see
• 30:04
  Speaker 3: you like in third year, like I'm going to take
• 30:06
  Speaker 3: you along. And that first video went pretty viral, and
• 30:10
  Speaker 3: so I was like, Okay, now I understand the power
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: of this app, in particular because YouTube and Instagram and
• 30:18
  Speaker 3: or at least Instagram at the time, all these other
• 30:20
  Speaker 3: platforms they had, you know, their own powerful algorithms. But
• 30:24
  Speaker 3: there was just something about short form content and the
• 30:28
  Speaker 3: way that TikTok shares stuff that isn't just for the masses,
• 30:35
  Speaker 3: like it matches content to the audience that would like
• 30:39
  Speaker 3: to see it, and there was something really cool about
• 30:41
  Speaker 3: that for me. So I started making like wellness and
• 30:44
  Speaker 3: self development content and then I realized, how can I
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: add value from my formal education and what I've done
• 30:53
  Speaker 3: in the past. Have a speech and debate background, and
• 30:56
  Speaker 3: I wanted to share a lot of the things that
• 30:59
  Speaker 3: made me a better public speaker, or just allow me
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: to use my voice more fluidly, more effectively, and to
• 31:06
  Speaker 3: translate my thoughts into words that people could understand. So
• 31:11
  Speaker 3: I made videos about how to speak like a.
• 31:14
  Speaker 4: Baddie or something.
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: I love it Yeah, and it did so well, and
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: I think the reason it did so well is because one,
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: you get like the playfulness.
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: Of it's not so serious. It's not like a super
• 31:24
  Speaker 4: educational video, but it is an educational video. It doesn't
• 31:28
  Speaker 4: feel like one.
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: And then two there was value, like I could take
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: something away from this. It's not just a video where
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: I'm entertained, but I can like take this into my life.
• 31:38
  Speaker 4: But three, the nature of the video. It was interactive.
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: Like I said, find a friend, have them yell out
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: a random word, and you have to talk about it
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: for sixty seconds without using a filler word.
• 31:48
  Speaker 4: That's really hard to do.
• 31:49
  Speaker 3: It's hard at first, but then over time it becomes
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: a lot easier.
• 31:54
  Speaker 4: It's a great practice.
• 31:55
  Speaker 3: It's a great practice. And the point is not to
• 31:57
  Speaker 3: eliminate filler words. I use filler words all the time,
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: but it's to just become less dependent on them and
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: to not overuse them.
• 32:07
  Speaker 2: I like that.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was amazing. So then I just started my videos.
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: Over time, I was just asking myself how can I
• 32:14
  Speaker 3: bring value? How can I bring value?
• 32:15
  Speaker 4: But then I think I.
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: Got to a point where I got a little tough
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: for me because identity wise, like behind the scenes, I
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: had to ask myself, like are my videos only good
• 32:25
  Speaker 3: when I am giving the audience something to take away?
• 32:29
  Speaker 4: Like? Am I not good enough just being me?
• 32:33
  Speaker 3: And that was an interesting question I had to ask myself.
• 32:38
  Speaker 3: I mean, I meditated on it, and I knew that
• 32:40
  Speaker 3: that's not the case. I know that that's not the case.
• 32:43
  Speaker 3: And I'm so grateful for this community that I've built
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: because they send me so many affirming messages. This is
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: a crazy anecdote, but I was at the National Speech
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: and Debate Tournament. I was lucky enough for them to
• 32:56
  Speaker 3: reach out and ask me to judge, which was just
• 32:58
  Speaker 3: a dream come true. And I remember meeting one of
• 33:02
  Speaker 3: the directors of the organization and I was being introduced
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: to her, and in my mind, I was a little
• 33:11
  Speaker 3: bit doubting myself, thinking like does she think like I'm
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: just like some random influencer, Like.
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: Why is she here? I just couldn't really.
• 33:18
  Speaker 3: Like read her body language while I was talking to her.
• 33:22
  Speaker 3: And then after I kind of finished introducing myself and
• 33:26
  Speaker 3: expressing my gratitude or whatever, She's like, I feel like
• 33:28
  Speaker 3: I'm talking to a celebrity. You have no idea My daughter, like,
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: my five year old daughter has rewatched your making chicken
• 33:35
  Speaker 3: soup dumplings video like so many times, which was a
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: low performing video, and I was thinking I wanted to
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: delete that video because I'm like, this is stupid. It's
• 33:43
  Speaker 3: just me making like food at home, like being silly,
• 33:48
  Speaker 3: and but that's the one that touched her. But that's
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: the one that touched her. And she's like, I've heard
• 33:52
  Speaker 3: that video so many times in like my own home
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: because my daughter, and she's like, I feel so comfortable
• 33:57
  Speaker 3: knowing that my daughter can watch any one of your
• 33:59
  Speaker 3: video and like I know.
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: That she's taking like some she's You're like such a
• 34:04
  Speaker 4: good role mode or whatever else. What a great compliment.
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: It was an amazing compliment. And it gave me also
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: the confidence to know that even when a video doesn't
• 34:12
  Speaker 3: like go viral or it's not inspiring or like super dope,
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: that it's still like it could still touch someone. Someone
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: being able to relate to you is just such a
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: beautiful thing and that's the whole point of it all,
• 34:26
  Speaker 3: Like just connection.
• 34:27
  Speaker 1: How did you come up with the term legal battie?
• 34:29
  Speaker 1: Because the producer that I work with, Colleen for this podcast,
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: she calls me. We talked before every episode and we
• 34:35
  Speaker 1: like talk to questions and she's like, I want to
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: be a Legal Batty when I grow up.
• 34:41
  Speaker 4: I love that so much. That's a great question.
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: So I wanted my handle to be my first name,
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: Delara from the beginning, but someone else had name and
• 34:52
  Speaker 3: she was inactive too, so like that really bothered me,
• 34:56
  Speaker 3: and I tried to message her, but TikTok has like
• 34:58
  Speaker 3: this feature where it won't even and allow you to
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: send a message if they're private, So I just asked them,
• 35:04
  Speaker 3: I'm like, so, what is my username this? It's not
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: going to be DeLaura too.
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: It's not going to be like something else. And I
• 35:12
  Speaker 4: wish I wish I knew.
• 35:14
  Speaker 3: I wish I knew, Like I think it was just
• 35:16
  Speaker 3: a download, like from the universe.
• 35:18
  Speaker 4: I don't know what it was. I think that's cool.
• 35:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it was almost like screen name energy in a way,
• 35:25
  Speaker 3: which I very much resonate with because I grew up
• 35:28
  Speaker 3: in the digital age and was very much a kid
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: on the Internet. So I was thinking, what's like a
• 35:33
  Speaker 3: screen name that kind of embodies who I am?
• 35:36
  Speaker 4: And I just went with legal Batty.
• 35:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to go back to something you said,
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: because I don't think I picked up on it. Enough
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: so after you graduated from law school, you got a
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: job working for a judge, and then you ultimately decided
• 35:49
  Speaker 1: to pivot into content creation. You just said that everybody
• 35:55
  Speaker 1: can choose their path. As a child of immigrants, I
• 36:00
  Speaker 1: think there's an added pressure there to choose the quote
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: safe route.
• 36:04
  Speaker 4: Yes, what was that decision? Like? Terrifying?
• 36:09
  Speaker 3: Like especially because and I've talked about this before when
• 36:13
  Speaker 3: I was googling, like what happens when you leave a clerkship,
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: because it's a one year long term and it's not
• 36:22
  Speaker 3: something that you are supposed to leave in the middle
• 36:26
  Speaker 3: of or you're supposed to finish your term. And everything
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: I read online was like, you're going to kill your
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: legal career if you do this, Like you will not
• 36:35
  Speaker 3: get another job. And these were people who were in
• 36:38
  Speaker 3: really shitty situations with terrible judges.
• 36:42
  Speaker 4: And my judge was a dream come true. She was
• 36:46
  Speaker 4: such a girl's girl.
• 36:48
  Speaker 3: She was so supportive, so brilliant, and so now I
• 36:52
  Speaker 3: felt like an asshole, and I felt ungrateful, and I
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: felt extremely unsafe because I was thinking what will happen?
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: But then I asked myself and I had to be realistic.
• 37:05
  Speaker 3: I'm like, but if I die at the end of
• 37:08
  Speaker 3: the day, Am I gonna be happy with how I
• 37:10
  Speaker 3: spent my day?
• 37:11
  Speaker 4: And the answer was no.
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: There was parts of the job that I really loved,
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: and that was when I was on the phone with
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: my judge and we were talking about like who should
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: win the case and like talking about like the parts
• 37:23
  Speaker 3: that made it exciting. But then like everything else, which
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: is like eighty five percent of the job, which is paperwork,
• 37:30
  Speaker 3: like the I mean, yeah, I mean that's that's a
• 37:33
  Speaker 3: great way to put and not even paper was just like.
• 37:38
  Speaker 4: The formalities of it all and.
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: The rules of it all, that was so triggering for me,
• 37:44
  Speaker 3: and I just felt unhappy. I felt not myself. My
• 37:47
  Speaker 3: family could tell, like the people who loved me, they
• 37:50
  Speaker 3: were just like, you're not yourself.
• 37:51
  Speaker 4: I'm like, I know.
• 37:53
  Speaker 3: And so it was a hard decision, but I made
• 37:55
  Speaker 3: it and I was so rewarded for it. And I've
• 37:58
  Speaker 3: talked about the universe rewarding you for taking acts of
• 38:01
  Speaker 3: courage and alignment for your true self, and I think
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: that was one hundred percent the case, because not only
• 38:07
  Speaker 3: was I actually met with so much support from my judge,
• 38:09
  Speaker 3: who told me she was happy to mentor me as
• 38:11
  Speaker 3: long as I needed, and mental health comes first, and
• 38:14
  Speaker 3: she totally understood.
• 38:16
  Speaker 4: But also the career that I really loved, like really
• 38:20
  Speaker 4: began to take.
• 38:21
  Speaker 3: Off, and like the amount that I was making the
• 38:24
  Speaker 3: entire month was the amount I would make off of like.
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: A brand all back then.
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: And so I was just like, Wow, to be rewarded
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: for doing what I love was so affirming. And I
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: see it, you know, in the stories of others every time,
• 38:39
  Speaker 3: like when you so, here's the thing, here's what makes
• 38:41
  Speaker 3: it unsafe, Like it's so recent realization that I had moving.
• 38:46
  Speaker 3: So when you are starting a new job somewhere or
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: a new school or something, what makes it safe is
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: that all of the systems are in place already for
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: you to just move in kind of seamlessly. You have
• 38:59
  Speaker 3: all this support from the systems that are established. When
• 39:02
  Speaker 3: you decide you want to be your own business or
• 39:06
  Speaker 3: you want to pursue something that hasn't been done before,
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: you have to create all of those systems yourself. And
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: the front end of the work is not fun, like
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: it's scary. It's you don't feel like you know what
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: you're doing. That's a terrible feeling. Like you always want
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: you want to feel like you know what you're doing.
• 39:27
  Speaker 3: You want to feel confident, you want to feel supported,
• 39:30
  Speaker 3: you want to feel safe, Like we just want to
• 39:31
  Speaker 3: feel safe. But I just I want to remind people that. Like,
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: But once you can build those systems for yourself on
• 39:40
  Speaker 3: the front end, the payoff on the back end is
• 39:44
  Speaker 3: just worth everything, because what's the point of having it
• 39:48
  Speaker 3: be you know, easier at first to not like your
• 39:51
  Speaker 3: job down the line, or not like the program that
• 39:54
  Speaker 3: you're in or whatever it is that you're doing. It
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: doesn't have to, you know, be related to employment or anything.
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: But it's just a choice about whether you want things
• 40:03
  Speaker 3: to be hard at first and then really fulfilling and
• 40:06
  Speaker 3: amazing down the line, or if you want it to
• 40:08
  Speaker 3: feel super you know, a fun opportunity for this amazing
• 40:12
  Speaker 3: company that I you know, am inspired by, I really like.
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: But then you're like, wait, what is my role here?
• 40:17
  Speaker 3: And what difference am I making? And am I being fulfilled?
• 40:21
  Speaker 3: And am I happy?
• 40:22
  Speaker 4: Like it's just always about choosing joy and choosing what
• 40:26
  Speaker 4: really sets your heart on fire.
• 40:27
  Speaker 3: You'll never be rewarded. There's a Terrence Mchanic quote. Grimes
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: actually was the one who brought it up in an
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: interview and I was so moved and I posted it
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: on my Instagram. But it's this idea that nature always
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: rewards courage. Like you think that you take this big
• 40:46
  Speaker 3: risk and you'll fall into the abyss, but you actually
• 40:50
  Speaker 3: fall into a feather bed like you are.
• 40:52
  Speaker 4: So the universe loves it so much when you believe
• 40:55
  Speaker 4: in it.
• 40:56
  Speaker 3: And it's just like a relationship, right, Like if I'm
• 40:59
  Speaker 3: in a relationship, romantic relationship with someone and I say this,
• 41:02
  Speaker 3: like I'm in a romantic relationship.
• 41:04
  Speaker 4: With God, It's like a little like weird to say,
• 41:08
  Speaker 4: but I do feel that being admired.
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: When I'm admired in a relationship, I want to give
• 41:14
  Speaker 3: more when I admire God, when I admire the universe,
• 41:16
  Speaker 3: I am given so much. When I'm trusted as a partner,
• 41:21
  Speaker 3: I want to give more. I want to show up
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: more for you. I want to reward you for believing
• 41:26
  Speaker 3: in me. Saying with the universe, sing with God, I
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: mean it's all synonymous source God, the universe. When I
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: say God, it's not like in a religious way, it's
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: really just like the infinite intelligence of it all connection.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 41:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah, And so whenever I want more from my life,
• 41:43
  Speaker 3: or I want certain.
• 41:46
  Speaker 4: Things or feelings.
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: Really because the only thing, the only reason we want
• 41:51
  Speaker 3: anything in this life is because of the feeling we
• 41:53
  Speaker 3: think it'll give us.
• 41:54
  Speaker 4: I just think, Okay, well, how can I be a
• 41:56
  Speaker 4: better girl friend to God?
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: And when I do those things where I'm spoiled, like
• 42:06
  Speaker 3: the universe is my sugar daddy.
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: Honestly, the universe is your sugar daddy.
• 42:15
  Speaker 4: And more than any man can can give to me.
• 42:18
  Speaker 1: I really love the way you described it because it's
• 42:20
  Speaker 1: a coke.
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: It is a co creation. It's not a one way relationship.
• 42:25
  Speaker 3: It is one thousand percent like I would be pissed,
• 42:28
  Speaker 3: like if I'm doing all the work in the relationship
• 42:30
  Speaker 3: and you're just like feeling entitled or feeling like you
• 42:33
  Speaker 3: don't have to do anything, Like that's not a relationship.
• 42:36
  Speaker 4: That's I don't even know what that is.
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: Where did all this faith come from?
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: Like data, like journaling, looking at the patterns in my life.
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: Gratitude is so important when we practice gratitude and we
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: dedicate time to not just like saying I'm bangle for this,
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: I'm thingle with this, but like feeling it in your soul,
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: like to the point where you want to cry when
• 43:04
  Speaker 3: you are taking moments to understand how many things are
• 43:07
  Speaker 3: going right in your life, because I mean, just the
• 43:11
  Speaker 3: fact that, like an earthquake isn't happening right now, or
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: like the fact that I am not experiencing any pain.
• 43:16
  Speaker 3: I have all five senses, like so many things that
• 43:20
  Speaker 3: we can just take for granted. You realize, holy shit,
• 43:24
  Speaker 3: I'm so protected, I'm so actually like love, I feel safe,
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: cared for.
• 43:28
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: And the reason why I think gratitude equates to like
• 43:33
  Speaker 3: or like what a lot of successful people in the
• 43:35
  Speaker 3: world they attribute gratitude towards this because when you feel safe,
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: you're so much more likely to take action without fear
• 43:43
  Speaker 3: in your heart.
• 43:43
  Speaker 4: And that's where miracles happen. Like when I act.
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: Without fear is when like the breakthroughs happen, when the
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: opportunities just like reveal themselves like crazy, when I get
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: paralyzed because I'm not thinking about what I'm grateful for
• 44:00
  Speaker 3: and I think, wait, all these things are going wrong,
• 44:02
  Speaker 3: so maybe I'm not protected, maybe I'm not safe.
• 44:06
  Speaker 4: That keeps me from acting.
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: So it's literally like the reason why gratitude works is
• 44:11
  Speaker 3: not for like a weird energetic reason.
• 44:14
  Speaker 4: It's because you are. You are on a.
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: Subconscious level telling your mind I am safe to follow
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: my heart.
• 44:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: And when and when you actually act and you aren't paralyzed, yeah,
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: that's like where all the beautiful things happen.
• 44:31
  Speaker 4: So same sense.
• 44:32
  Speaker 3: Like in a relationship, if I'm doing all these things
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: for you and you're not saying thank you.
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna say fuck you. Same thing with the universe.
• 44:41
  Speaker 3: If I show true appreciation, it's gonna be like, oh,
• 44:45
  Speaker 3: you like that, well, let me give you more, Like
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: if you're really disappreciative of this, like, let me really
• 44:50
  Speaker 3: show you what I'm capable of.
• 44:51
  Speaker 4: So what do you suggest people do to start this practice?
• 44:54
  Speaker 4: Because I really like this idea. It's so simple.
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: I mean, it doesn't have to be first thing in
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: the mo morning, although that's best of course, because you're
• 45:02
  Speaker 3: priming your day to take action with no fear in
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: your heart. Do you think you have to write it
• 45:08
  Speaker 3: down or can you say it in your head? I
• 45:10
  Speaker 3: think it's different for everyone. I think as long as
• 45:13
  Speaker 3: you can get to a feeling of wow, I'm actually
• 45:18
  Speaker 3: so lucky, I'm so grateful. Oh my god, the chances
• 45:23
  Speaker 3: of me even coming to existence are one into a
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: billion to like the brilliant degree. There's two ways to
• 45:29
  Speaker 3: kind of like manifest, and it's either to be nonchalant
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: about the extraordinary, so like when really cool things happen,
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: be like, well, I deserve this and this is how
• 45:38
  Speaker 3: it should be.
• 45:39
  Speaker 4: And that works. But then there's also being.
• 45:44
  Speaker 3: Being like super chalant of the ordinary and like really
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: celebrating even the littlest things. And again that goes back
• 45:52
  Speaker 3: to gratitude and God really likes that, and God's like, Okay, well,
• 45:56
  Speaker 3: if you love the little things, girl, I'm gonna spoil you,
• 46:00
  Speaker 3: like like I'm going to give you the world, and
• 46:03
  Speaker 3: trusting in the process of it all, trusting that like
• 46:06
  Speaker 3: my Man's got me, like even when it doesn't seem like, yeah,
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: so ridiculous sometimes but yeah, no, like it's it's all
• 46:14
  Speaker 3: just so beautifully connected and it's amazing to see it
• 46:18
  Speaker 3: all unfold and to trust the process.
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: For sure, What are you most proud of when it
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: comes to what you've built over the last few years?
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: For sure, it's it's the connection that I have been
• 46:31
  Speaker 3: able to have with the people that connect with my content,
• 46:37
  Speaker 3: my community.
• 46:38
  Speaker 4: I guess.
• 46:40
  Speaker 3: I'll get like really really powerful, really like beautiful, long
• 46:47
  Speaker 3: like thought out letters where you know, people tell me
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: that one video has had x.
• 46:55
  Speaker 4: You know effect on them. Nothing feels better than that.
• 46:58
  Speaker 4: No achievement, no degree, no.
• 47:02
  Speaker 3: Follower counts, hot picture like whatever, like whatever bring me
• 47:08
  Speaker 3: that sense of fulfillment then being able to just like
• 47:14
  Speaker 3: touch someone else's life for sure.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: I've heard you talk about your diary being a strong
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: part of your identity. So when you flip those pages back,
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: what's been an interesting realization.
• 47:25
  Speaker 4: That you've had about your younger self? That she was
• 47:28
  Speaker 4: always right? So she always was a legal b she
• 47:32
  Speaker 4: was talking.
• 47:33
  Speaker 3: About she did, and it's so funny that, like, like
• 47:37
  Speaker 3: my I always did, And then I still doubt in myself.
• 47:40
  Speaker 3: And I just think it's funny that I doubted myself,
• 47:42
  Speaker 3: And it just reminds me. I'm like, Okay, if I
• 47:44
  Speaker 3: knew then, then I know now, And doubting myself is a.
• 47:46
  Speaker 4: Waste of energy. Shame and guilt is a waste of energy.
• 47:50
  Speaker 3: One hundred percent of the time, I was actually wrong
• 47:52
  Speaker 3: about a lot because I would journal shit like I
• 47:57
  Speaker 3: only ate this amount of calories today. Maybe tomorrow will
• 48:01
  Speaker 3: be better. I need to lose like this, might I
• 48:03
  Speaker 3: feel gross or like whatever, and that I'm just like,
• 48:06
  Speaker 3: what the hell was I thinking? Yeah, And it's something
• 48:09
  Speaker 3: I wish I could go back and just shake her.
• 48:11
  Speaker 4: And be like, you're tripping. It feels like a waste
• 48:14
  Speaker 4: of time. It's absolutely a waste.
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: It's very similar, but it's really cool to be able
• 48:19
  Speaker 3: to look back and have that ability to discern and
• 48:22
  Speaker 3: even among the stupid shit, there was a lot of
• 48:26
  Speaker 3: genius as well. And I've said this before, like you
• 48:30
  Speaker 3: can say and do stupid things all the time and
• 48:34
  Speaker 3: still be a genius. And I think for a long
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: time I was so afraid of people thinking I was stupid.
• 48:40
  Speaker 4: And where did that come from?
• 48:43
  Speaker 3: I think maybe because I've been a bad bitch all
• 48:47
  Speaker 3: my life. I say it louder for thea that like, yeah,
• 48:52
  Speaker 3: because I'm thinking even high school, like I was beautiful.
• 48:55
  Speaker 3: I have always been beautiful, But because I never got
• 48:58
  Speaker 3: the validation for whatever reason, I thought maybe there was
• 49:03
  Speaker 3: something wrong with me or like whatever.
• 49:05
  Speaker 4: But but I think.
• 49:08
  Speaker 3: That knowing that I was going to be received in
• 49:12
  Speaker 3: a certain way because of how I looked, Yeah, I
• 49:16
  Speaker 3: hated I hated being underestimated. I hated being I hated
• 49:20
  Speaker 3: people making judgments.
• 49:22
  Speaker 4: About who I was based off of how I looked.
• 49:26
  Speaker 3: When and also assuming that like how I looked was
• 49:29
  Speaker 3: for them when it was always for me.
• 49:32
  Speaker 4: I don't know. I don't know.
• 49:33
  Speaker 3: It's hard to it's hard to make that distinction because
• 49:35
  Speaker 3: how how can you separate like the environment that you
• 49:40
  Speaker 3: grew up in and who you really are.
• 49:42
  Speaker 4: It's also intertwined. But yeah, I really just hated you're
• 49:46
  Speaker 4: a bad bitch your whole life.
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 49:48
  Speaker 4: I like that answer.
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah, and I and now I realize that's so nice
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: not to give myself the permission to be dumb and
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: to be stupid and to be silly and to be goofy,
• 50:00
  Speaker 3: and to know that I still am a genius.
• 50:02
  Speaker 4: I still we all are. It's not me like we
• 50:07
  Speaker 4: all are bad bitches and we all are geniuses.
• 50:10
  Speaker 1: I think we all know who we truly are and
• 50:12
  Speaker 1: try and sometimes change it, cover it up, etcetera. Yeah,
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: for sure, Okay, we have some tips, because you're very
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: wise and full of advice, and it sounds like you've
• 50:21
  Speaker 1: always been I suppose.
• 50:25
  Speaker 4: So.
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: I always hear that being in a relationship with an
• 50:29
  Speaker 1: attorney is very difficult because you're never gonna win an
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: argument or a disagreement. What do you think more people
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: need to know about the art of persuasion?
• 50:39
  Speaker 4: Great question.
• 50:40
  Speaker 3: I think this is something that I really want to
• 50:44
  Speaker 3: use my platform to and just my life to spread
• 50:49
  Speaker 3: this idea. Disagreement is such a beautiful thing, and it's
• 50:54
  Speaker 3: such an amazing opportunity to connect even deeper. But it
• 50:59
  Speaker 3: cannot happen when it's you versus me. It can only
• 51:02
  Speaker 3: happen when it's us versus the issue and us versus
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: the problem. And I think, yes, if someone if we
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: are on different pages and you think it's you versus me,
• 51:14
  Speaker 3: and I think it's us versus the problem, that's not
• 51:17
  Speaker 3: going to be a fun experience.
• 51:18
  Speaker 1: Public speaking freaks a lot of people out. What are
• 51:22
  Speaker 1: your tips to conquer, not just conquer public speaking, but
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: really be a great public speaker, be a moving public speaker.
• 51:30
  Speaker 3: So funny that public speaking is so feared and maybe
• 51:33
  Speaker 3: because it just feels vulnerable, And if that's the reason,
• 51:38
  Speaker 3: then we have to trick our minds into loving vulnerability.
• 51:43
  Speaker 3: One thing that really helped, especially when I was doing
• 51:45
  Speaker 3: competitive speech and debate, was I told myself, how many
• 51:51
  Speaker 3: minutes of my life am I going to be able
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: to be on stage, Like it's really not that much.
• 51:56
  Speaker 3: I like that instead of freaking out about it, why
• 52:00
  Speaker 3: I don't, I just like enjoy the fact that I
• 52:02
  Speaker 3: have this very limited amount of time to have this
• 52:05
  Speaker 3: specific and very unique experience and.
• 52:08
  Speaker 4: To just like have fun with it.
• 52:10
  Speaker 3: Also, I think what's really helpful is knowing that there's
• 52:13
  Speaker 3: a lot of studies that show that when you think
• 52:16
  Speaker 3: you suck, the audience does not think that you suck.
• 52:19
  Speaker 3: Like we are so much harder on ourselves than what
• 52:23
  Speaker 3: the reality of the situation is.
• 52:25
  Speaker 4: And there was a peer.
• 52:27
  Speaker 3: Review study that came out that showed that when you
• 52:30
  Speaker 3: tell speakers before they speak that your audience doesn't actually
• 52:35
  Speaker 3: think you are coming off as nervous as you were.
• 52:37
  Speaker 4: Like, if you think your audience thinks you're nervous, they
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: actually don't think that you are. Like it's proven.
• 52:43
  Speaker 3: But when you know that, your nerves go down when
• 52:45
  Speaker 3: you speak. So just knowing like you're okay, no one
• 52:49
  Speaker 3: wants to say for you you're safe exactly, Like just
• 52:52
  Speaker 3: act as if you're safe and guided and protected. Yeah, yeah, honestly,
• 52:59
  Speaker 3: And that's like probably the best advice that I could give.
• 53:03
  Speaker 4: And have fun. Okay, these are rapid fires.
• 53:05
  Speaker 1: Okay, you walk into a room full of people you
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: don't know, what's your move?
• 53:09
  Speaker 4: How do you win them over? I ask a really
• 53:12
  Speaker 4: good would you rather like my favorite? Would you rather?
• 53:15
  Speaker 4: I just think would you?
• 53:16
  Speaker 3: I'm like no, Like if you put all of the
• 53:18
  Speaker 3: guys I ever dated in a room together, like.
• 53:21
  Speaker 4: What they would say is like, this girl is the
• 53:23
  Speaker 4: queen of would you rather? Okay, I have one for you.
• 53:25
  Speaker 4: This is my go to?
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: Would you rather never be able to use Google again?
• 53:30
  Speaker 4: Or have three eyes? Wow? That's such a good would
• 53:34
  Speaker 4: you rather? It's a PG? Would you rather?
• 53:37
  Speaker 3: But?
• 53:38
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm for sure going three eyes?
• 53:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah? I have pretty eyes? Yeah?
• 53:45
  Speaker 3: Like?
• 53:45
  Speaker 4: Why not a third?
• 53:46
  Speaker 3: I can't live my life without Googling unless can I
• 53:49
  Speaker 3: hire someone to Google for me?
• 53:51
  Speaker 4: Sure? I like your tactics? Maybe that? Then? What's your favorite?
• 53:56
  Speaker 4: Would you rather? My favorite?
• 53:57
  Speaker 3: Well, at least my like go to feel like it's
• 54:00
  Speaker 3: a really good universal would you rather? Is? Would you
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: rather be fluent in every language in the world? Or
• 54:06
  Speaker 3: be able to communicate with animals?
• 54:08
  Speaker 4: Oh?
• 54:09
  Speaker 1: Very cool, I'm going language.
• 54:14
  Speaker 4: How about you? I go animals? That's cool? Okay.
• 54:18
  Speaker 1: A fictional character you relate to the most, Oh Woods.
• 54:23
  Speaker 4: It's a good one for sure. Yeah fill in the blank.
• 54:27
  Speaker 1: The older I get, the more I realize.
• 54:30
  Speaker 3: I'm safe and I'm loved, like truly, it's just a
• 54:38
  Speaker 3: deeper understanding with every day just how much.
• 54:42
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: I always ask everyone to tell me about a book
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: that changed their life, something that they think everybody should read.
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: But you're such a huge reader, So if you want
• 54:52
  Speaker 1: to give me a couple.
• 54:53
  Speaker 4: I'll give you. Well, the one I really prescribe to
• 54:57
  Speaker 4: like everyone.
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  Speaker 3: And I think if everyone read this book, the world
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  Speaker 3: would be a much better place.
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  Speaker 4: I've recommended it on social media before.
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  Speaker 3: It's called The Righteous Mind Why Good People Are Divided
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  Speaker 3: Over Politics and Religion by Jonathan Hate and he just
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  Speaker 3: includes so many interesting thought experiments within the book that
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  Speaker 3: really challenge you to ask yourself, wait, am I okay
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  Speaker 3: with this? Or am I not okay with this? And
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  Speaker 3: I think it's just I love a book that's able
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  Speaker 3: to challenge you and just make you think, make a
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  Speaker 3: question your beliefs, and that book does a really great
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  Speaker 3: job of doing it. And then another one, I think
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  Speaker 3: it's a short read, but a really powerful one is
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  Speaker 3: The Seven Laws of Spiritual Success by Deepak Chopra.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah. I think those two are my core curriculum.
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  Speaker 3: For the Yeah, exactly like these cards I love, not
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  Speaker 3: quite would you rather?
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  Speaker 1: But it is a game which everyone I always think
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  Speaker 1: people choose the question.
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  Speaker 3: That Okay, one thing you really dislike that most other
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  Speaker 3: people love.
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  Speaker 4: It's an interesting questions. Yeah, I don't like skiing what
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  Speaker 4: no one? Yeah, and people really love it.
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  Speaker 3: For me, I'm just like, I don't know, it's not
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  Speaker 3: worth it to put myself in that much danger.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I just I would rather be.
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  Speaker 3: On a roller coaster where like the experience is controlled.
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  Speaker 3: I think. I just it's too much control for me
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  Speaker 3: to have to navigate snow like that and at such
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  Speaker 3: a high velocity, and I could.
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  Speaker 4: I don't like it. I don't like it. What is
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  Speaker 4: the smartest decision you've ever made? To follow my heart? Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: for sure? That for so beautiful.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, Laura, thank you for joining us.
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  Speaker 4: I'm pretty smart. Thank you so much for having me.
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  Speaker 4: This is so amazing.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, you know what time it is. Today's a good day.
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  Speaker 1: To have a good day.
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  Speaker 2: I'll see you next week.