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Spring Series: What You Need to Know About the Enneagram One! | Jasmine Washington · The Wholehearted Enneagram Podcast

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  SPEAKER_01: Have you found yourself saying things like, I should have just done it myself?
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  SPEAKER_01: Really bugs me they do that.
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  SPEAKER_01: But I'm not sure the right way to tell them that it does.
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  SPEAKER_01: Am I dressed properly?
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  SPEAKER_01: Can I just do that over again?
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  SPEAKER_01: If these are something you would say, or they are familiar phrases that you hear said by a loved one, you might be an Enneagram one or no, a type one.
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  SPEAKER_01: If so, I want to invite you to join me on a journey of self-discovery and compassion to learn insights about the personality type who has been known as the reformer, perfectionist, principled one, and responsibility advocate.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you know a one or want others to know more about the Enneagram One personality, go ahead and follow that prompting to share this podcast episode with them.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can use the podcast platform share feature so this episode can give others an opportunity to learn more about the contributions of the Enneagram 1.
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  SPEAKER_01: Hello and welcome to the Simply Wholehearted Podcast.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm your host, Amy Wicks, your wholehearted living coach.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I'm so glad that you stopped by to spend some time with me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you curious about the Enneagram?
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  SPEAKER_01: Do you want to learn biblical truths?
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  SPEAKER_01: And have you wondered if there are life rhythms that will help you thrive?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, friend, you are in the right place.
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  SPEAKER_01: For six years, this podcast has focused on sharing conversations with my friends about life, business, motherhood, faith, and all things Enneagram from a Christian perspective.
• 1:46
  SPEAKER_01: I truly understand what it's like to juggle everything as a wife, mom to three teenagers, a pup, and all while building a growing business.
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  SPEAKER_01: And friend, I haven't always done things with clarity or joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: But still, Lord has taken my broken-hearted pizzas and healed them so I can live with a whole-hearted lip.
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  SPEAKER_01: Provide with a step-by-step process so that you can get free of anxiety, shame, and frustration that might be holding you back from thriving.
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  SPEAKER_01: I pray that the Lord speaks to you as you listen today and that you would invite your friends and family to join the fun conversations.
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  SPEAKER_01: Are you ready to laugh a little and learn a whole lot?
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  SPEAKER_01: Alrighty, let's get to the conversation.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, what do you need to know about the Enneagram one?
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  SPEAKER_01: Well, we do need more time than the time I'm going to give today because each personality type are as multifaceted as there are shades of the Sherwin Williams Paint collection.
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  SPEAKER_01: But this episode will offer some highlights to help you understand more about the perspective of an Enneagram type one.
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  SPEAKER_01: As we continue this conversation, I want you to know that if there is more Enneagram or specific Enneagram 1 information that you are looking for, I've got you covered.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just head to the show notes for podcast recommendations and more.
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  SPEAKER_01: In this specific episode, I'm going to share unique traits and insights into this dutiful personality type.
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  SPEAKER_01: And then you're going to get a firsthand account of an Enneagram 1 and her experience through the self-discovery and wholehearted process.
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  SPEAKER_01: And last, I'm going to invite you to listen to the end because the lovely Deanna Sudom will finish this episode with a scripture and a prayer specifically for you or your loved one.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, what does an Enneagram 1 look like as a child?
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  SPEAKER_01: They are potentially very critical of themselves and even others.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yet they may hold back their more negative emotions.
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  SPEAKER_01: Again, anything that would seem like a bad or wrong emotion.
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  SPEAKER_01: They tend to be fairly responsible and they focus on living up to expectations, specifically expectations of their caregivers and those they love and admire.
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  SPEAKER_01: Many Enneagram ones reflect that as a child, they intuitively felt that they would earn love from others through compliance and expectations stated by those who were in authority and those who were caring for them.
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  SPEAKER_01: This would often cause them to be more submissive and even guided by their inner critic.
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  SPEAKER_01: If their child at home was constantly changing or had unpredictable expectations, this would create greater tension with a one's inner fear of being intrinsically flawed.
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  SPEAKER_01: The one may have even doubled down on their habit of attention to their inner principled nature, because if they followed their own unrealistic standards for goodness, they could avoid their fear of not being good enough.
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  SPEAKER_01: Their desire to be correct and have integrity and achieve balance as a one continued to grow as they matured and moved about through the world.
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  SPEAKER_01: They desired to improve themselves, others, and the general environments that they encountered.
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  SPEAKER_01: They also wanted to be consistent with their ideals and wanted to be beyond criticism so no one else could correct, criticize, or condemn them.
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  SPEAKER_01: The one's decision-making strength associates them with what is known as the gut triad, and those are the types eight, nine, and one.
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  SPEAKER_01: They often have a gut reaction immediately, very visceral, and then they incorporate feelings or thinking afterward.
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  SPEAKER_01: They strongly desire justice, fairness, or control over the outcome.
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  SPEAKER_01: And their reaction when things are deemed unjust, unfair, or not within their control, it often leads them to an emotional response of anger.
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  SPEAKER_01: While the one does struggle with anger, this is typically turned inward and reinforces the inner critic who is a relentless taskmaster.
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  SPEAKER_01: The one's anger is often even repressed or saved for only those who are closest to them, so they could be seen as good and right by everyone else.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when the inner critic fails to be silenced and repression has been maxed, the anger will spill out inconveniently, or what I often like to say, it comes out sideways, like a smushed sandwich, and it's just a mess.
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  SPEAKER_01: When that happens, depression and melancholy may follow the out-of-control anger because a one fears being wrong and they get stuck in this cycle between anger, shame, and anxiety.
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  SPEAKER_01: The one's communication preference falls within the dutiful stance of the Enneagram, which means they're more reliant and compliant with others' opinions and desires.
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  SPEAKER_01: They come alongside the ideas and visions of others or even group thinking for resolution.
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  SPEAKER_01: Their strength is being present focused, and they tend to think, what should be done right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: And this stance may struggle the most with boundaries that are needed in relationships and the workplace.
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  SPEAKER_01: I know this dutiful term has tended to be one of confusion for those who lead dominantly as the type one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because they have such an inner moral compass, they often suppress some of that opinion in order to not be the one who is creating disunity or disruption.
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  SPEAKER_01: But it is a lot more difficult oftentimes for the one to come along dutiful, even though it's their natural inclination, which often leads to the resentment that a one is very familiar with.
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  SPEAKER_01: When it comes to thinking, you might be surprised to learn that the one is thinking repressed.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, of course, this can feel rude and jarring to hear that if you are a one, but the reality is that a one does think all the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: But this is the important piece.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not productive thinking.
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  SPEAKER_01: Their constant inner critic or quote unquote mean girl or harsh authoritarian voice demands an answer.
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  SPEAKER_01: This thinking is often done silently, so no one else can see the mess in their mind.
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  SPEAKER_01: The one does count this as thinking, but it's truly not productive.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's just an inner dialogue and tends to beat the Enneagram one down.
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  SPEAKER_01: What often triggers the one is the constant need to fix things, to make it better, to improve, because there's the mess in their home.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe they feel their appearance is not just so even it can go to frustrations with their family's behavior, poor grammar that they see, hello typos, and even moral lifestyle issues.
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  SPEAKER_01: The one is invited to realize or to be cognizant that they have a tendency to believe that if it's not 100% correct, then it is wrong or bad.
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  SPEAKER_01: The invitation is to be willing to live in the middle space of even if or the situation isn't completely good or correct, it's not all bad or hopelessly flawed.
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  SPEAKER_01: When faced with loss and grief, the one may naturally grieve what is happening currently.
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  SPEAKER_01: So in the face of loss, they may be overwhelmed with grief, and it is more challenging for them to navigate the typical demands of life, especially when making plans too far in the future.
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  SPEAKER_01: The narrative, again, for those in the dutiful stance and those dealing with grief could be a general sense of overwhelm.
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  SPEAKER_01: Like all the Enneagram types, the one's wings are on either side of its number on the diagram.
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  SPEAKER_01: So the Enneagram one wing nine does tend to be calmer, more relaxed, introverted, cerebral, impersonal, objective, and detach.
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  SPEAKER_01: The Enneagram one wing two is warmer, more helpful, possibly more critical, fiery, vocal, sensitive, action-oriented, and controlling.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you haven't heard it before, we have both wings, and the idea is to use both of them so we stop flying in circles.
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  SPEAKER_01: You just might relate to using one more than the other.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, when a one's triggers is activated, they may self-sabotage and engage in the low side of the four, becoming more indignant that their expectations were not achieved either by themselves or others.
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  SPEAKER_01: They may become more melancholy and depressed and withdraw from others, which may inadvertently cut off good relationships.
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  SPEAKER_01: When a one practices rhythms of consenting to stillness, this teaches them restraint.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's in restraint that a one can better discern what the Lord is compelling them to do.
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  SPEAKER_01: It opens the door to encounter Jesus, the true reformer, and their broken-hearted moments are transformed into wholehearted healing as they declare these truth statements.
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  SPEAKER_01: May I be at ease, may I breathe deeply, releasing control, and may I find freedom in rest.
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  SPEAKER_01: Rest meets the deepest need of the one who is in the idealist triad.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this battle tends to continually struggle with agitation, never quite satisfied because they themselves are failing, or others are failing their expectations.
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  SPEAKER_01: Rest shakes the proverbial fist at Satan and declares your trust in God.
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  SPEAKER_01: And as a one rest in stillness, they can rediscover the simple pleasures of breathing and to let themselves off the hook for not always getting everything perfectly or not even being able to fix all the things around them.
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  SPEAKER_01: I love that A.J.
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  SPEAKER_01: Sherrill advises Enneagram ones to observe the church calendar rhythm of Good Friday called Tenimbrae.
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  SPEAKER_01: This serves as a meaningful way to observe the crucifixion of Christ.
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  SPEAKER_01: Liturgical observances invites participants to snuff out their candles after the reading of the cross event to remember the significance of Jesus' death on the cross.
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  SPEAKER_01: This can remind them that they do not have to carry their imperfections alone.
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  SPEAKER_01: Christ died for their sins too.
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  SPEAKER_01: In addition to spiritual rhythms, here are practical tips for a one to remember.
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  SPEAKER_01: Pay attention to your patterns of dichotomy thinking, specifically the either-or versus right-wrong thinking.
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  SPEAKER_01: Remember, oftentimes there's someplace in the middle.
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  SPEAKER_01: Those gray areas are real.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now use your feelings of resentment as a clue to the anger or bitterness that you might be carrying.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's not necessarily wrong that you are angry.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's acknowledge the anger and give it to the Lord and find healing, even if it's on a daily basis for a while.
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  SPEAKER_01: And last but not least, practice gratitude for what is good and positive in everything, whether that's people, objects, events.
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  SPEAKER_01: Even if it needs fixing or isn't ideal, there is something to be grateful for.
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  SPEAKER_01: And therefore, change the focus of attention.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, would you like to meet an Enneagram one?
• 13:45
  SPEAKER_01: I'm so excited to introduce you to one of my clients, Jasmine Washington.
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  SPEAKER_01: I am so grateful for her trust over this last year and even more thankful that she is willing to share some of her story with you.
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  SPEAKER_01: One of the fun things to know about Jasmine is she is becoming a wholehearted coach and is part of the wholehearted coaching mentorship.
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  SPEAKER_01: I just love her eagerness and her desire to not only support her community, but to build it and to also champion what Simply Wholehearted is all about.
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  SPEAKER_02: Hi, my name is Jasmine Washington.
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  SPEAKER_02: I live in Prosper, Texas, and this is my wholehearted journey.
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  SPEAKER_02: Ever since I can remember, I was a good kid.
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  SPEAKER_02: I'm not just saying that.
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  SPEAKER_02: If I made a mistake, you could bet that I rarely made that mistake again.
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  SPEAKER_02: Growing up, I would watch my brothers get into trouble and think to myself, you should have known better.
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  SPEAKER_02: If you don't study, you get bad grades.
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  SPEAKER_02: If you get bad grades, you lose privileges.
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  SPEAKER_02: It's simple cause and effect.
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  SPEAKER_02: This was the paradigm I walked through life with for years.
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  SPEAKER_02: If you do good things, good things will happen.
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  SPEAKER_02: If you do bad things, bad things will happen.
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  SPEAKER_02: To beat the system, you simply have to be and do good.
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  SPEAKER_02: Perfect, to be exact.
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  SPEAKER_02: So that's what I did.
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  SPEAKER_02: I tried to be perfect.
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  SPEAKER_02: I got all A's.
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  SPEAKER_02: I graduated from both high school and college with a high GPA.
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  SPEAKER_02: After college, I acquired a good paying job, paid my bills on time, tithed, and gave 110% to everything I did.
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  SPEAKER_02: My paradigm worked until it didn't.
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  SPEAKER_02: In a series of unfortunate events, God began to dismantle my belief that perfection was attainable.
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  SPEAKER_02: Like the Angry Birds game, God took a slingshot and took hits at the structure I had built my life upon until it all came tumbling down.
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  SPEAKER_02: Hit number one came in 2008.
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  SPEAKER_02: I woke up early to drive to work after spending the night at a friend's house to help her with her newborn baby.
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  SPEAKER_02: Everything was normal about this 8 a.m.
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  SPEAKER_02: drive to work when I noticed a guy following me and yelling for me to pull over.
• 16:04
  SPEAKER_02: It wasn't a cop, and I wasn't pulling over.
• 16:08
  SPEAKER_02: This guy continued to pursue me.
• 16:10
  SPEAKER_02: He pulled up next to me and tried to open my passenger door while he hung out of his driver's side window.
• 16:18
  SPEAKER_02: He sideswiped me.
• 16:19
  SPEAKER_02: I spun across all three lanes of traffic and hit the cement barrier.
• 16:25
  SPEAKER_02: My doors jammed shut, my engine dropped, and my front tire flew off.
• 16:30
  SPEAKER_02: I walked away from this accident with minor physical injuries.
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  SPEAKER_02: However, my paradigm took its first hit.
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  SPEAKER_02: I had just finished helping a friend, and this is what I get.
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  SPEAKER_02: Hit number two came about three years after I had married my husband.
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  SPEAKER_02: I had a sweet little boy starting kindergarten.
• 16:49
  SPEAKER_02: Although I'm in education, I was definitely in denial that my son was impulsive.
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  SPEAKER_02: He struggled to sit still and wanted nothing to do with structured schooling.
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  SPEAKER_02: He was diagnosed with ADHD.
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  SPEAKER_02: I immediately asked myself, What did I do wrong during pregnancy to cause this?
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  SPEAKER_02: Is this still cause and effect?
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  SPEAKER_02: Hit number three came after I had come to terms with my son's diagnosis and gotten pregnant with baby number two.
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  SPEAKER_02: This time I vowed to do everything right during pregnancy.
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  SPEAKER_02: I ate healthy, I exercised and stayed active.
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  SPEAKER_02: I even had baby number two naturally.
• 17:29
  SPEAKER_02: Then my sweet baby girl started experiencing issues with her eyelids closing unintentionally.
• 17:34
  SPEAKER_02: After four months and several doctors' visits, she was diagnosed with myasthenia gravis.
• 17:40
  SPEAKER_02: I questioned why God would allow this to happen with my child when I did everything right.
• 17:46
  SPEAKER_02: I questioned why.
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  SPEAKER_02: I blamed myself, but there was no identified cause.
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  SPEAKER_02: At this point, you think I would have gotten the message God was trying to send?
• 17:56
  SPEAKER_02: Good in life isn't guaranteed.
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  SPEAKER_02: Just because you do good doesn't mean life will be good.
• 18:02
  SPEAKER_02: But I'm a bit hard-headed.
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  SPEAKER_02: So God had to reinforce his message for good measure.
• 18:07
  SPEAKER_02: Fast forward to 2019.
• 18:11
  SPEAKER_02: I was sitting in my bedroom streaming If Lead 2019, a gospel-centered gathering for women trying to lead others to Jesus.
• 18:19
  SPEAKER_02: The next speaker introduced was Beth McCord.
• 18:22
  SPEAKER_02: She stood on stage and began to explain this new personality tool called the Enneagram.
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  SPEAKER_02: I found it fascinating because I had never seen personality types intertwined with the gospel.
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  SPEAKER_02: I liked what I heard, but the next speaker came on stage and I moved on with the program.
• 18:38
  SPEAKER_02: I didn't do anything else with my newfound knowledge of the tool of the Enneagram until 2020.
• 18:44
  SPEAKER_02: Yes, that's when I could no longer handle life's curveballs by myself, and I enlisted the help of a counselor.
• 18:51
  SPEAKER_02: I was disappointed with life and discouraged.
• 18:53
  SPEAKER_02: I blamed Bob Goff, co-conspirator with God.
• 18:57
  SPEAKER_02: He wrote this book telling people they should love everybody always.
• 19:02
  SPEAKER_02: Well, this perfectionist couldn't do it no matter how much I tried.
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  SPEAKER_02: People pushed my buttons, did things I didn't like, and the list goes on.
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  SPEAKER_02: First I got angry, then I became frustrated, and finally, tears.
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  SPEAKER_02: As much as I wanted to deny it, the reality set in.
• 19:21
  SPEAKER_02: No amount of energy I could muster would allow me to convince myself that I could love everybody always.
• 19:27
  SPEAKER_02: There was no faking it.
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  SPEAKER_02: God finally did it.
• 19:31
  SPEAKER_02: He gave me a standard I could never meet, and that tore me up inside.
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  SPEAKER_02: You may think this is dramatic and irrational, but it was my truth and God was tearing it down.
• 19:41
  SPEAKER_02: I had held on to my desire for perfection for so long, I didn't know what to hold on to now that it was gone.
• 19:47
  SPEAKER_02: I needed counseling.
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  SPEAKER_02: My counselor asked me to read another book, as if the last book I had read didn't just knock me off my feet.
• 19:56
  SPEAKER_02: It was The Road Back to You by Ian Kron.
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  SPEAKER_02: He thought it would help, so I did it.
• 20:01
  SPEAKER_02: Like any good student, I reviewed each of the nine types until I got to the type one.
• 20:06
  SPEAKER_02: I breathed a sigh of relief and inheld acceptance.
• 20:12
  SPEAKER_02: I thought, finally, someone gets me.
• 20:15
  SPEAKER_02: This is me to my core.
• 20:17
  SPEAKER_02: I've always been a perfectionist.
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  SPEAKER_02: I have a lot of self-discipline, and I beat myself up when I make mistakes.
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  SPEAKER_02: I mean, I cried in third grade when I got the first and only beyond my report card.
• 20:29
  SPEAKER_02: Y'all, the struggle is real.
• 20:31
  SPEAKER_02: Although the type one felt right, I did my due diligence with the other types.
• 20:35
  SPEAKER_02: No other type compared.
• 20:36
  SPEAKER_02: Knowing that my personality type wasn't just a mistake, but a reflection and yearning for God's perfection, I finally felt seen, known, and understood.
• 20:46
  SPEAKER_02: I couldn't be perfect, but God is.
• 20:48
  SPEAKER_02: I didn't have to be.
• 20:50
  SPEAKER_02: There's no hacking the game of life.
• 20:52
  SPEAKER_02: For so long, I didn't understand my need for order or why I always felt the need to be perfect.
• 20:58
  SPEAKER_02: The Enneagram revealed the faulty foundation I had built my life upon.
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  SPEAKER_02: Perfection.
• 21:04
  SPEAKER_02: Oh, how I realized that perfection was my idol, and I felt like I had to be good to earn God's love and acceptance.
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  SPEAKER_02: The disappointment and discouragement I was experiencing made sense.
• 21:15
  SPEAKER_02: I repented and began to give myself grace as God began reconstructing my life on his firm foundation.
• 21:23
  SPEAKER_02: Learning about my type spurred a desire to learn even more, not just about myself, but about others as well.
• 21:29
  SPEAKER_02: I wanted to know why my husband was the way he was.
• 21:31
  SPEAKER_02: I began to explain myself to my husband and learn more about his type.
• 21:35
  SPEAKER_02: I gave him the time he needed to recharge, and we both leaned in spiritually to God.
• 21:40
  SPEAKER_02: I immediately saw an improvement in our marriage.
• 21:43
  SPEAKER_02: As I continued to research types, I remembered Beth McCord and found my way back to your Enneagrammed coach.
• 21:50
  SPEAKER_02: After several prayers and emails with YC, I decided that I wanted to become a coach.
• 21:55
  SPEAKER_02: In June of 2022, I made the choice to become a certified Enneagram coach with YC.
• 22:00
  SPEAKER_02: IC and started my coaching business, Compass Coaching Connection.
• 22:04
  SPEAKER_02: Right after certification, I began to share what I learned with those at work.
• 22:08
  SPEAKER_02: I shared an office with three other people.
• 22:11
  SPEAKER_02: There was some tension among my co-workers, and it was so thick you could cut it with a knife.
• 22:16
  SPEAKER_02: I couldn't work in that type of environment, so I began guiding my co-workers to understand their type and the types of those they were in conflict with.
• 22:23
  SPEAKER_02: It helped each of us gain perspective and become less judgmental and more curious.
• 22:28
  SPEAKER_02: Watching their transformation was confirmation that coaching was what I needed to do.
• 22:34
  SPEAKER_02: Although I was armed with a wealth of knowledge, I continued to learn more from a variety of sources.
• 22:40
  SPEAKER_02: In September of 2022, I was introduced to Amy through the wholehearted Enneagram Summit.
• 22:45
  SPEAKER_02: From then on, I became a fan and a follower.
• 22:48
  SPEAKER_02: Amy added an aspect that I had never seen exemplified before: how to let God lead your business.
• 22:55
  SPEAKER_02: In January, I attended her Equip and Activate retreat.
• 22:59
  SPEAKER_02: It was amazing to be surrounded by women pursuing God, loving, encouraging each other, praying for each other, and holding each other accountable.
• 23:08
  SPEAKER_02: For years I had been praying for someone to show me how to walk this life and business out spiritually.
• 23:14
  SPEAKER_02: God gave me Amy.
• 23:15
  SPEAKER_02: With the help of Amy and the collective, I continued to learn more about the nuances of my type, including my tri-type, and how to trust God to lead my business so that I can best serve my clients.
• 23:27
  SPEAKER_02: I get to help guide my clients through their own faith journeys as they struggle through life.
• 23:32
  SPEAKER_02: I look forward to encouraging and equipping women as they move from religion to relationship.
• 23:40
  SPEAKER_00: This is Deanna Sudom, type one friend.
• 23:45
  SPEAKER_00: You are good.
• 23:46
  SPEAKER_00: You reflect the goodness of God to this world.
• 23:49
  SPEAKER_00: How you try and make this world better, striving to always improve what is before you.
• 23:55
  SPEAKER_00: I have heard it said like this that ones have seen the Garden of Eden and they spend their days trying to achieve that perfection again.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for the order and solutions that you do bring.
• 24:08
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for your heart for justice and fairness in a world that needs this desperately.
• 24:14
  SPEAKER_00: Second Corinthians ten, three to five brings you direction as you desire for good and right that can help to give grace over the gray spaces you don't particularly love when the messy middle presents.
• 24:28
  SPEAKER_00: It says, For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does.
• 24:34
  SPEAKER_00: The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world.
• 24:37
  SPEAKER_00: On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds.
• 24:42
  SPEAKER_00: We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
• 24:53
  SPEAKER_00: Father, I sense you want to remind these precious ones that they reflect your goodness because of what you have done in them, and that they do not have to create good on their own.
• 25:04
  SPEAKER_00: As they rest in your goodness, the reflection will come as they are still and know that you are God.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_00: Help them see that you carry them.
• 25:13
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you that you do this, Father, imperfections and all.
• 25:17
  SPEAKER_00: Lord, I pray that you will gently uproot any bitterness or resentment that has taken up residence in their hearts.
• 25:24
  SPEAKER_00: Help them to remember, as you say in Nehemiah, you are a forgiving God, gracious and compassionate, slow to anger and abounding in love.
• 25:35
  SPEAKER_00: Show them how to rest and practice these parts of your character.
• 25:40
  SPEAKER_00: In the instance of any inner critic spilling over, can you help to put a restraining order on their tongue, Father, and not let any unwholesome talk come out of their mouths, but only what is helpful and builds others up?
• 25:54
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for the way they live with integrity and tenacity.
• 25:58
  SPEAKER_00: Will you bring balance and build in the fun, Lord?
• 26:01
  SPEAKER_00: Would you bring them release and deep breaths by having some fun to laugh and just be silly, to know that you have them and the world in your hands and it will all be okay.
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  SPEAKER_00: In Jesus' name.
• 26:15
  SPEAKER_00: Amen.
• 26:16
  SPEAKER_01: Ooh, that was a good word.
• 26:18
  SPEAKER_01: Deanna, thank you, right?
• 26:20
  SPEAKER_01: I know we are all so grateful for this beautiful contribution of both Jasmine and Deanna.
• 26:26
  SPEAKER_01: So if you are an Enneagram one, I do hope that you feel loved, seen, and blessed by this episode.
• 26:33
  SPEAKER_01: I'm guessing if you know a one, they would appreciate that you've taken the time to learn more about how they view the world and why they do what they do.
• 26:42
  SPEAKER_01: And of course, that they are so much more than just a number.
• 26:46
  SPEAKER_01: I encourage you to share this episode with them and a message about how you value their responsible nature, how grateful you are for their hard work to do things excellently.
• 26:58
  SPEAKER_01: All right, next week we're going to be back about what you need to know about the Enneagram too.
• 27:04
  SPEAKER_01: Until then, continue to pursue God's perspective, purpose, and plans for your simply wholehearted life.