Compliments vs. Affirmations
Josh Gondelman takes a late-night call from a listener who's been trying to work on her husband's love language.
What You'll Hear
"That's a compliment, not an affirmation": Caller Lucy is stumped on why "you're so tall" doesn't count — and Josh helps her untangle the surprisingly slippery difference between noticing someone and actually seeing them.
The birthday card loophole: It turns out Lucy writes a killer Father's Day message, she just freezes up when she has to say it out loud. Josh makes the case that the warmth she puts on paper belongs in the room, too.
Scratched behind the ears…
The skinny
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