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Romeo In The Morning 7-15-26 · Romeo In The Morning

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  Speaker 1: That what's going on?
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  Speaker 2: Everybody?
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  Speaker 1: It's Romeo. What do we get into today?
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  Speaker 2: We talked about doing things for your spouse that your
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  Speaker 2: spouse wouldn't do for you.
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  Speaker 1: We also got to do who comes first the spouse
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  Speaker 1: are the kids? That was kind of an interesting conversation.
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  Speaker 2: I was telling the story about these people. I know,
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  Speaker 2: I've known him for a while, but I haven't seen
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  Speaker 2: him a while. Husband and wife and she ended up
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  Speaker 2: cheating on him. And this was about a year ago.
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  Speaker 2: I think she ended up cheating on him.
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  Speaker 3: Why.
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  Speaker 1: I ran into him the other night and they're actually getting.
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  Speaker 2: Back together, working it out, and we were talking about it,
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  Speaker 2: and I guess he was saying that part of the
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  Speaker 2: reason for all the reason, I don't know which one
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  Speaker 2: it was, but he took a responsibility to saying he
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  Speaker 2: was working too much, wasn't giving her attention, wasn't spending
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  Speaker 2: any time with her. You know, it was just basically busy, busy, busy, busy, right,
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  Speaker 2: And so they're working it out. Apparently she got lonely,
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  Speaker 2: he wasn't around. She cheated on him, But I don't
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  Speaker 2: know if that's right or not. I don't know if
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  Speaker 2: I I really don't know what to think about it,
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  Speaker 2: to be honest with you, because I don't think you
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  Speaker 2: need to cheat.
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  Speaker 1: You guys know, I'm against cheating. I hate cheatings.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's a terrible thing to do to somebody.
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  Speaker 2: I think there's a lot of other options other than cheating.
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  Speaker 2: But the way they were explaining it to me as
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  Speaker 2: a couple, by understand it that it was kind of
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  Speaker 2: like a wake up call for his marriage and he
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  Speaker 2: didn't realize what was going on. So evidently her talking
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  Speaker 2: to him about it didn't open his eyes. And maybe
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  Speaker 2: I want to say that she said she I want
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  Speaker 2: to if I we were drinking, so I want to
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  Speaker 2: say that she said we taught he had told her,
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  Speaker 2: or she had told him, Hey, I need more attention
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  Speaker 2: from you. He didn't pay attention. But this cheating, her
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  Speaker 2: cheating opened his eyes, so he took responsibility. Now they're
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  Speaker 2: I guess working it out four seven to seven. But
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  Speaker 2: are you responsible if you're the cheaty, the cheater, the cheaty? No,
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  Speaker 2: if you were cheated on or I don't know how
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  Speaker 2: to say it, do you have any responsibility for your
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  Speaker 2: spouse cheating on you? Or is it just all your
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  Speaker 2: is it just all on the cheater already four two, five,
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  Speaker 2: four or seven to seven rom Once the cheater, always
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  Speaker 2: a cheater. Maybe I mean, you're always a cheater because
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  Speaker 2: you cheat it, but that doesn't necessarily mean you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: cheat again.
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  Speaker 1: That's like saying once an alcoholic, always an alcoholic.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's true, but doesn't mean you're always you're gonna
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  Speaker 2: drink again.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't know what you mean by that statement.
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  Speaker 2: But Okay, I was talking to a couple that I know,
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  Speaker 2: and she cheated on him. Okay, and now let me
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  Speaker 2: explain because the reasoning that she used for cheating on
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  Speaker 2: this guy was, uh, he was working too much, never around,
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  Speaker 2: didn't pay an attention to her. Well, they're working it
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  Speaker 2: out because he I took accountability for the fact that,
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  Speaker 2: you know what, I wasn't there for her, so she cheated.
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  Speaker 2: So apparently this opened his eyes. Now they're working it out.
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  Speaker 2: Can you ever blame yourself for being cheated on?
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  Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, what's going on?
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  Speaker 4: Look, man, I gotta say nothing justified cheating, you know
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  Speaker 4: what I mean? Like you want if you want out
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  Speaker 4: to stay your spouse or I think you could let
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  Speaker 4: him know.
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  Speaker 1: Hold on, hold on, let me take you.
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  Speaker 2: I totally agree with that, totally, but it made sense
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  Speaker 2: when they were explaining it to me, like they were explaining, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I felt this way. I told him he wouldn't he
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  Speaker 2: wouldn't change. The cheating is what made him realize that, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: I want this woman and I I screwed up and
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  Speaker 2: I'm not agreeing with it. I just do it made
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  Speaker 2: sense to me when he explained it.
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  Speaker 4: Right, Yah, man, I agree with you. I did not
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  Speaker 4: like at all.
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  Speaker 1: I'm with you.
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  Speaker 4: Everybody has a choice, you got an option. You can
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  Speaker 4: always be that and I have to be in there
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  Speaker 4: and I'm not. I can't think of everybody but nobody
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  Speaker 4: hold it good to your head.
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  Speaker 2: I agree with you, But here's my only question, and
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  Speaker 2: that's why I said this. Do you have to take
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  Speaker 2: any responsibility for being cheated on? Because if she wouldn't
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  Speaker 2: have cheated and just laughed, would they be better off?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe not? Maybe they're Maybe they're meant to.
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  Speaker 2: Be together, and the cheating is what made him realize,
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  Speaker 2: So now they're gonna be great.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know the answer to that. I'm just I'm
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  Speaker 1: just throwing it.
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  Speaker 2: Out there because, like I said, what they were telling me,
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  Speaker 2: kind of made sense.
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  Speaker 1: Right later, But I agree with you.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think there's any excuse for cheating, none whatsoever.
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  Speaker 2: But just hear me out. Based on their logic, she
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  Speaker 2: said she's not getting enough for from her husband. He
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  Speaker 2: does nothing about it, keeps going along.
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  Speaker 1: With the program. So she has two options. She could leave.
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  Speaker 2: Him or she could cheat on it. She chose to
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  Speaker 2: cheat on him, and supposedly now their marriage is getting better,
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  Speaker 2: it's getting back on track because he realizes Wait a second,
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  Speaker 2: when she talked to me about it, it didn't work.
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  Speaker 2: If she would have left, what would have happened? Maybe
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  Speaker 2: that would have opened his eyes if she left him.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: All I'm saying, is there any scenario where you have
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  Speaker 2: to take responsibility for being cheated on?
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  Speaker 1: It was talking about cheaters, right, cheating.
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  Speaker 2: Is there any reason or any point or any example
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  Speaker 2: of where you need to take responsibility for you being
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  Speaker 2: cheated on?
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  Speaker 1: Or is it just always the cheaters fall these.
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  Speaker 2: This couple I know was explaining it to me that
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  Speaker 2: he just wasn't present in his marriage.
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  Speaker 1: She cheated on him about a year ago.
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  Speaker 2: Now they're back together, said opened his eyes, couldn't believe it. Now.
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  Speaker 2: Supposedly they're on the path to foreverness. According to them,
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  Speaker 2: what's going on?
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  Speaker 3: It was going on?
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, I heard it, and I don't know. I mean,
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  Speaker 5: how can you how can you forgive that?
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  Speaker 1: How can you forgive?
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  Speaker 4: Yes? I mean, it's always going to be on the table.
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  Speaker 5: She cheated obviously because she.
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  Speaker 4: Didn't love the guy.
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  Speaker 5: And if she's using that an excuse, oh, you were
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  Speaker 5: not there for me, so I wouldn't sit on you.
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  Speaker 5: Now let's work it out. It's gonna happen again. I
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  Speaker 5: guarantee you, she's gonna cheat on him again, and she's
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  Speaker 5: going to bring up another excuse why she did it.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I guess time will tell. I can't argue with you.
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  Speaker 2: I mean that sounds right, But like I said, man,
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  Speaker 2: they were explaining to me together and it made sense
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  Speaker 2: when they were telling me that.
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  Speaker 5: It might make sense.
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  Speaker 4: But you know, you can't justify that that how.
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  Speaker 5: Much you batter yourself, how much do you buy just himself?
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  Speaker 5: You can't put yourself in the situation. Well, okay, well
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  Speaker 5: I wasn't diff so she got to cheat them. Now
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  Speaker 5: we're gonna work it out. It's not gonna work. It
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  Speaker 5: might work for a little bit, because oh, he forgave me,
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  Speaker 5: but she's gonna do it again. And I feel bad
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  Speaker 5: for the guy, but you know what, he needs to
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  Speaker 5: just look at her and say, no, what, that's not
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  Speaker 5: the reason why you had to be framing like that.
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  Speaker 5: That's betrayal, a.
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  Speaker 1: Brother.
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  Speaker 2: I don't disagree with you guys. Don't get me wrong.
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  Speaker 2: I'm against cheaters, and I think it's despicable. I think
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  Speaker 2: it's the worst thing you can do to somebody. But
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  Speaker 2: when they were explaining to me how this he took responsibility,
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, my wife was I wasn't there for
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  Speaker 2: her and she wanted me to be. She told me
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  Speaker 2: she wanted to be to be there for and nothing
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  Speaker 2: she said worked. She cheated on me, and now I realized,
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  Speaker 2: oh my god, I'm a loser forever.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: You tell me already fourteen five four seven to seven,
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  Speaker 2: yeard Rod, she brainwashed him.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I don't.
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  Speaker 2: Know, because all I'm saying is this, I agree with
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  Speaker 2: what you guys are saying.
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  Speaker 1: Cheaters are cheaters.
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  Speaker 2: Tell them, but they made it made sense to me
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  Speaker 2: the other night. It was it's crazy, all right, But
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  Speaker 2: I mean, do you think that you should ever take responsibility.
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  Speaker 2: And you know what I think the problem is the
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  Speaker 2: problem is it's because she cheated. What if he cheated,
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  Speaker 2: you guys would be standing up for him while she
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  Speaker 2: wasn't giving him sex. She I think you guys are
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  Speaker 2: a little skewed by the fact that it was her
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  Speaker 2: and not him talking about this. I was talking to
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  Speaker 2: a couple that I know, and she cheated on him.
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  Speaker 1: They're working it out.
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  Speaker 2: He took responsibility, and his logic was she had told him, Hey,
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  Speaker 2: you're not spending enough time with.
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  Speaker 1: Me, you're not president our marriage.
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  Speaker 2: And the way that she opened his eyes was by
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  Speaker 2: cheating on him. So is there ever a time when
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  Speaker 2: it's your f you got cheated on him already four two, five, four, seven,
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  Speaker 2: and seven, that you need to take a little bit
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  Speaker 2: of responsibility. I don't know a room in regards to
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  Speaker 2: what you're talking about. Would you take back your ex
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  Speaker 2: that cheated on you? I would never do it. No,
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  Speaker 2: I am completely against cheating. I think it's the absolute
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  Speaker 2: worst thing that you can do to somebody's self esteem, ego, everything.
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  Speaker 2: I think it's terrible. But just listen to their logic.
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  Speaker 2: Their logic is he wouldn't be there for me. I
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  Speaker 2: tried to tell him. I tried to tell him. He
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  Speaker 2: wasn't there. So I had two options to leave him,
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  Speaker 2: cheat on him right now, maybe leaving one of work.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe if she left him, he would have said, wait
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  Speaker 2: a second, I gotta get her back. I gotta get
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  Speaker 2: her back. But would that have changed the scenario. Or
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  Speaker 2: she cheated on him and he realized, oh my god,
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  Speaker 2: this is I'm gonna lose my wife. I'm gonna lose everything,
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  Speaker 2: you know, because cheating is the worst thing you could do.
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  Speaker 2: We can agree upon that, right, So do you tell
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  Speaker 2: me already? Four two five, four seven to seven. I
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  Speaker 2: just it made sense to me. That's that was my point.
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  Speaker 2: It made sense to me when they were explaining this
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  Speaker 2: to me. I didn't know what to think.
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  Speaker 3: A room.
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  Speaker 2: Let's see here eight four two five, four seven seven
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  Speaker 2: A room. He's just the dumbass. She played him, see,
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  Speaker 2: And I think, you guys, I think because she cheated
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  Speaker 2: and he didn't cheated, you guys are being a little
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  Speaker 2: biased because if some man cheats because his wife doesn't
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  Speaker 2: give him sax, you're gonna be well, what do you
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  Speaker 2: expect the man to do? His wife wasn't giving it up. Well,
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  Speaker 2: what's the difference. She wasn't getting the attention she wanted
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  Speaker 2: out of her husband. What's the difference?
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  Speaker 4: Romeo?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, Yo, she's a before the street Man certified Satiana. OK.
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  Speaker 3: I'll tell you why.
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  Speaker 4: Because relationships are about communications. She was better off just
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  Speaker 4: leaving him. I think that would have worked out a
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  Speaker 4: lot better because now he got one on her.
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  Speaker 3: When when she's in her happiest moment, she's going to
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  Speaker 3: get cheated on.
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  Speaker 4: Watch I hope she does, okay, And that's just the
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  Speaker 4: way it goes.
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  Speaker 2: You know.
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  Speaker 4: And once why are women like that?
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  Speaker 3: Here? This man is trying to work his hardest and
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  Speaker 3: she cheats on him.
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  Speaker 4: But if he was at home every day, she would
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  Speaker 4: have cheated on him because.
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  Speaker 1: He was okay? Then why do men? Why is it
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  Speaker 1: okay for men to cheat when their wives won't give
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  Speaker 1: him sex.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. I don't believe in cheating, So I
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  Speaker 4: believe in communication. You got to have an open communication.
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  Speaker 4: If it's not working, go your separate ways. Come back
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  Speaker 4: when it is.
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  Speaker 6: But once you.
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  Speaker 4: Cheat, that's it. I want to put into the universe.
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  Speaker 2: Get back eventually, all right, all right, I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 2: argue with you guys, because I agree with you guys.
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  Speaker 2: I just think that there is I'm not gonna argue that, okay,
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  Speaker 2: because you're right, Raider Dame's right. I believe that too.
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  Speaker 2: But if you want to be with somebody, right that
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  Speaker 2: just their logic made sense to me the way they
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  Speaker 2: were explaining it to me, That's what needed to be
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  Speaker 2: done to save their marriage.
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  Speaker 6: And.
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  Speaker 1: Apparently it's working right now.
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  Speaker 2: So I mean, do you ever take responsibility for the
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  Speaker 2: fact that you got cheated on?
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  Speaker 1: Is it ever your fault? I don't know, Hey, Romeo, I.
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  Speaker 2: Got the worse for the same reason that I was
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  Speaker 2: working a lot of hours when I first started working
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  Speaker 2: in the oil fields. Her let's see her respond why
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  Speaker 2: she did it? She did it just that she was lonely.
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  Speaker 2: I was never home or spent time with her. But
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  Speaker 2: I got lonely too. I was around a bunch of
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  Speaker 2: oil field guys, but as a man, I had to
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  Speaker 2: work to provide. But with all the hours I worked,
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  Speaker 2: she drove a new car and lives in a nice house.
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  Speaker 2: So if a man don't work, is she gonna cheat too?
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  Speaker 2: And if we work lots lots of hours to provide,
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  Speaker 2: we still get grued because we're gone too long, so
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  Speaker 2: I would not have I would not go back to her.
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  Speaker 1: Here's the thing about that is, I'm not saying she's
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  Speaker 1: right by any means, but think about it.
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  Speaker 2: You're you're you got you guys, try to justify your
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  Speaker 2: your decision to work long hours by saying, well, I
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  Speaker 2: bought her a house, I bought her a car.
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  Speaker 1: Guess what. Figure it out.
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  Speaker 2: If she wants you to be present in the marriage,
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  Speaker 2: you gotta.
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  Speaker 1: Figure it out.
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  Speaker 2: You gotta figure out a way to do it in
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  Speaker 2: whatever way that is, and not just say well I
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  Speaker 2: got your house, I got your car. You should be happy.
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  Speaker 2: Some women want it all. Some women want a house
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  Speaker 2: in a car, some women want a husband. Every woman's different.
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  Speaker 2: So you either need to find a woman that fits
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  Speaker 2: your lifestyle or you need to figure out how to
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  Speaker 2: fit her lifestyle.
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  Speaker 1: It's that simple. Hey, Rome, why not just leave? It's
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  Speaker 1: a great question.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, I don't know, I don't know why it
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  Speaker 2: is so hard for people to just leave. Honestly, Yo, Rome,
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  Speaker 2: that's all the that's all the time. That's the all
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  Speaker 2: time classic excuse for cheating. Oh I wasn't getting attention
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  Speaker 2: or never or you're never here.
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  Speaker 1: I travel a lot.
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  Speaker 2: When I realize I'm gone a lot, I'll bring the
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  Speaker 2: wife up to where I am and where I'm at
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  Speaker 2: for the weekend or even just for the night. Let
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  Speaker 2: them splurge a little out of town, take them to dinner,
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  Speaker 2: clap them, you know what, life's great. Then send them
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  Speaker 2: back home and they stay happy. The guy's a dumbass,
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  Speaker 2: feeling all guilty. That is that is his fault. Someone
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  Speaker 2: smacked that dude. Okay, ayround the difference, the difference women.
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  Speaker 1: The difference.
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  Speaker 2: Women's cheat whenever they want to cheat, whenever they can't. Okay, right,
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  Speaker 2: all right, all right, all right, oh would you send
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  Speaker 2: me here?
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  Speaker 1: Let me sit here?
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  Speaker 2: Nah, Rome, The fault completely on the cheater, because if
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  Speaker 2: they weren't happy in the relationship, they need to communicate
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  Speaker 2: with with what they're unhappy with, and if they issues
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  Speaker 2: don't get fixed, then obviously the partner doesn't care enough
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  Speaker 2: to fix the issue, and that's they're signed to leave
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  Speaker 2: and find a partner that's willing to fulfill that need.
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  Speaker 2: Cheating should never happen because if the relationship was that
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  Speaker 2: miserable to be in, then why not just I mean,
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  Speaker 2: that's a great question.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, that's a very good question that I don't
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  Speaker 2: have the answer to. And now that she cheated and
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  Speaker 2: he took her back, there will always be a thought
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  Speaker 2: of he's doing something I don't like, let me cheat
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  Speaker 2: so he can hear me better, no matter how small
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  Speaker 2: the thinking may be A great point. I mean, you're
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  Speaker 2: absolutely right. You're absolutely right. Hey, Rome, somebody asked, or
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  Speaker 2: a couple of people asked, why women just don't leave
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  Speaker 2: when they're not happy in their marriages. Rome, I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: tell you why. The same reason my wife didn't just
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  Speaker 2: leave when she cheated on me, because I work too much.
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  Speaker 2: She don't want to lose that lifestyle when guys make
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  Speaker 2: a bunch of money. These women don't want to lose
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  Speaker 2: that lifestyle because they don't know what's gonna happen next.
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  Speaker 2: You never know if you're going to get a guy
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  Speaker 2: that makes as much money as your current husband. So
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  Speaker 2: women aren't stupid, Rome, They are a little despicable, but
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  Speaker 2: they're not stupid.
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  Speaker 1: So that's exactly why women don't leave.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I mean, you gotta believe there's a couple of
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  Speaker 2: reasons women won't leave, right, they'll cheat, instead of just
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  Speaker 2: leave because well, one they don't want to lose that money.
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  Speaker 2: Two maybe they got kids. I mean, some of it
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: might be embarrassment. Although if you're gonna cheat on your husband,
• 17:07
  Speaker 2: I don't know how the embarrassment part you don't think
• 17:10
  Speaker 2: about the embarrassment factor.
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I guess a.
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: Lot of women won't leave because they don't want to
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: lose that lifestyle. You might be right about that already
• 17:21
  Speaker 2: four two, five, four or seven to seven? Is he right?
• 17:24
  Speaker 2: We're talking about a woman who cheated on a guy
• 17:26
  Speaker 2: and apparently he took responsibility for it because she said
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: he worked too much, wasn't around enough. And a lot
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: of you guys were saying, why didn't she just leave?
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: Why did she have to cheat? And we've all said that.
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: I think that's been the pretty state, a pretty fundamental
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: statement of people who cheat.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: Why didn't you just leave? What is there?
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: If you're gonna cheat, then you don't have to Cheating
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: is always the worst you can do, but leaving it's
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: probably the hardest, right. I mean, obviously, from what we've
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: seen in the past, it's easier for you to cheat
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: on your spouse.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: Than it is to leave.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: Why I guess that's the question, right, four two, five, four,
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: seven to seven. And that's what somebody, just some guy
• 18:10
  Speaker 2: just texted and said that, you know, the women don't
• 18:13
  Speaker 2: cheat because of the money, you know, because they don't.
• 18:17
  Speaker 2: I mean, if you got a guy that provides you
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: a certain lifestyle and he's working his ass off to
• 18:22
  Speaker 2: give you that lifestyle, and then you go cheat on
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: him because he's never around, you know, because he's always working,
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: or he's making you know, or he's just more involved
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: in making money than being with you, and you cheat
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: but you don't want to lose that lifestyle. Then that's
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: what some guy just said. And maybe you're right about that.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: You might be that might be the most important being
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: kids are probably important as well, or community, embarrassment of
• 18:46
  Speaker 2: getting divorced. I don't know, you know so, but I
• 18:51
  Speaker 2: don't disagree with what you're saying. I just don't know
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: what the end. It's probably a little bit different for anything,
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: but I would say the most common reason maybe are.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: Four or seven to seven year rome.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: I believe one The guy who said that women don't
• 19:05
  Speaker 2: leave because they don't want to lose their lifestyle is
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: absolutely right.
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: All women are shady.
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: All women are out for themselves ROME, especially when it
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: comes to men, So don't let them fool your rom
• 19:21
  Speaker 2: They go do their dirt and then go back to
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: their husbands because that guy makes the money and the
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: lifestyle that they want. Once they get caught, though, is
• 19:29
  Speaker 2: usually when.
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: It all ends.
• 19:33
  Speaker 2: I always like it that he says, especially bakers Filled women.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: I always like how when you guys, always especially bakers
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: Field women. Like Bakersfield women are far dirtier than the
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: rest of America.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: So we're talking about cheaters. Why why don't you just leave?
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: Why do you cheat?
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: Why is it easier for you to cheat on somebody
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: than it is for you to leave? And we've been
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: talking about women mostly because the story came up that
• 19:57
  Speaker 2: a woman cheated on her husband because he worked too much,
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: because he was doing dirt.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: He was just working too much and he wasn't around apparently.
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: So instead of you know, leaving, or instead of that's
• 20:08
  Speaker 2: what we always say, why don't you leave instead of cheat?
• 20:11
  Speaker 2: So where where does that come from? Somebody said, it's
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: because women are selfish and they want the money.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: The lifestyle.
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: That's why they don't leave already four two, five, four
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: seven seven, And I believe by the way I believe,
• 20:28
  Speaker 2: and I could be wrong about this.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: You guys can go.
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: I believe statistically more men stay with their wives when
• 20:35
  Speaker 2: they cheat, because I believe that it's a common story
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: that more men stay with cheating wives because the cheating
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: wives manipulate them into thinking that the man is the
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: reason they cheated. You know, and they always say men
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: are the dirtiest, but women are just as bad, So
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: why don't you just leave already? Four two five four
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: or seven to seven a roam. I think it's easier
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: to cheat because they probably don't want to be the
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: one to call it quits. And you may be right
• 21:03
  Speaker 2: about that, but at that point, you're the one that
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: called it quits, right, I mean, is anybody standing up
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: for a cheater? If you're an unbiased person and you're
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: just from the outside looking in, are you standing up
• 21:18
  Speaker 2: for a cheater?
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: I'm not.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: I would never stand up for a cheater, and I
• 21:24
  Speaker 2: would and these are I wouldn't even stand by my
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: friends if they if they cheated on their wives or
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: husbands or whoever, I wouldn't stand by them. And I
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: mean I'd still probably be friends with them because they've
• 21:34
  Speaker 2: been my friends for who knows how long. But I mean,
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: I am friends with cheaters, but I don't I wouldn't
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: support them, And when the conversation has come up, I
• 21:42
  Speaker 2: would always say, you know you're wrong, You're the.
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: One that screwed everything up.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: Don't come crying to me because you're unhappy, but you
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: know it is what it is. So I don't know. Yeah,
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: I really don't know what I think. This is what
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: I think happens to women. I mean, most women, almost
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: all women, go into relationships.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: With hopes and dreams.
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: And everything's going to be positive and great, it's all
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: going to work out, and then you hit a couple bumps.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: In the road.
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: You have some life's experience it, you have some life experiences,
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: you see that it's not all rainbows and bubblegum rainbows
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: and unicorns, and you realize, wait a second, I live
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: in a real world where men and women are you know,
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: they got faults. And then after you learn that, you
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: change your attitude on how you deal with things, right, so.
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: You lose common sense. Yeah, I don't know.
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: I might agree though, that the biggest reason women cheat
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: instead of leave is because they don't want to lose
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: their lifestyle, or they don't want they don't want the
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: public humiliation, even though if you're the cheater.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know, man, it's so complicated.
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: Did you text me here? I always love when you
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: guys text me crazy stuff. Hey, Rome, So I was
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: having this conversation with my spouse. She was wondering who
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: should come first, a spouse or the kids, And I'm
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: talking about in general.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: What do you think, Rome?
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: I think it depends on what side of the fence
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: you're on, right, I'm a woman. I would think a
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: wife would think or a mother would say her kids
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: come first over her spouse based on the way, you know,
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: all the issues that people that husbands and wives have
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: in their marriages. After the kids or you know, after
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: the kids come, a husband would probably say that his
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: spouse should come first, I mean, or she'll be upset, right.
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: I think it's just a matter of perspective what side
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: of the fence you're on.
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: Am I wrong about that?
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: I think women want themselves to come first with their husbands,
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: and I think women want the kids to come first
• 24:07
  Speaker 2: over their husbands. So I guess that would be my
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: answer of what I believe it is. Aready four two, five,
• 24:13
  Speaker 2: four or seven to seven. But there is that old
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: scenario right off, you know, I don't know how I
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: remember somebody saying this, if the lifeboat was going down,
• 24:22
  Speaker 2: who would you save? You know, if the boat was
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: going down, who would you save? Your wife or your kids?
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: And I guess the answer for most people, or the
• 24:30
  Speaker 2: answer was you save your wife because you could have
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: more kids, although a lot of you, I don't think
• 24:34
  Speaker 2: would say that. But yeah, I don't know that's a
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: good question. Already four two, five, four or seven to seven.
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: So somebody texted me this says.
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: Hey, rome I mean my wife.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: I was having a conversation with my spouse and she
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: was wondering who should come first, a spouse or the kids.
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: And I'm talking in general.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: What do you think, rom I'm not really sure what
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: that means in general, but I guess if you're gonna
• 24:55
  Speaker 2: make that decision, yeah, how does that work?
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: Already? Four or seven to seven? Hey Romeo?
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: Biblically speaking, the spouse comes first. If you and your
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: spouse are not good, then the then in the end
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: the kids would suffer.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: This is coming from a woman. I mean, it makes sense.
• 25:20
  Speaker 2: I don't know biblically, But it makes just common sense
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: if you and your husband or you and your spouse
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: are happy, good, good good people. The kids are gonna
• 25:33
  Speaker 2: learn from that and they're gonna grow up in a
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: happy situation. So that makes that makes sense, right.
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: But I guess.
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: What do you mean by in general? You know, like,
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: if you only have one hundred dollars in you know,
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: you got to buy a Christmas gift? Do you buy
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: your wife something? Or I mean, if you only have
• 25:52
  Speaker 2: twenty dollars you gotta buy a gift. Do you buy
• 25:54
  Speaker 2: your wife a Christmas gift or your spouse a Christmas gift?
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: Over the kids, I mean, there's a lot of difference
• 25:59
  Speaker 2: than when kids should come first, right, and other scenarios
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: where your spouse should come first. So I guess I
• 26:08
  Speaker 2: don't know if you can actually answer that question because
• 26:11
  Speaker 2: it's all based on it's all situational based.
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: You know, the kids come first, sometimes the spouse comes first.
• 26:19
  Speaker 2: Sometimes when you say in general, I'm not sure what
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: you mean by that.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: Let you ask me a question.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: Hey, Rome, So I was having a conversation with my
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: spouse and she was wondering who should come first, the
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: spouse or the kids. I'm talking about in general? What
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: do you think Rome? I think in general is a
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: tough way to say it. Okay that Uh, I don't
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: think there's a general way to answer that question. I
• 26:44
  Speaker 2: think it's all situational. Hey four, two, five, four or
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: seven seven?
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: Not what's going on?
• 26:51
  Speaker 5: Hey?
• 26:52
  Speaker 1: Hey, what's up?
• 26:53
  Speaker 6: What many spouse is first? My cas always go first.
• 26:59
  Speaker 6: I don't love that for eight years.
• 27:01
  Speaker 4: And my kids still comforst I love him at death,
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: but my kids come first.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: Well, how does he feel about that?
• 27:08
  Speaker 6: Well, I mean, how do you feel about it?
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: Wait to put him on the spot when you're in
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: front of him, Okay, you don't, he don't mind.
• 27:19
  Speaker 6: He he he agree with me.
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: He agrees with you because you're sitting there over and
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: looking over him as he answers that, Hey, go out
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: of the room.
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: Let me talk to him when you're not there. Hang up.
• 27:31
  Speaker 6: See what he says.
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I just don't uh yeah, I just it's got
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: to be said.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: I don't think either one comes first, right, I mean,
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: first of all, who has that conversation?
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: Hell's wrong?
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: Why are you and your wife having that conversation? That's
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: just a recipe for disaster. If someone doesn't say the
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: right thing, but I will say this, I do think that, uh,
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: like she said, my baby daddy is okay with it.
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: I think a husband's perspective is different from a mother's perspective.
• 28:05
  Speaker 2: I think a wife and a mother believes her kids
• 28:09
  Speaker 2: come first, and she comes before her kids to her husband.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: I believe that you women are selfish like that. On
• 28:18
  Speaker 2: the other hand, I think that your man is supposed
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: to accept the fact that your kids come before him,
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: So it might be hypocritical. So when you ask me
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: the question in general, what do I think, I don't
• 28:33
  Speaker 2: think there's a general answer, you know, but in reality,
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: sometimes the kids should come first, Sometimes the parents should
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: come first, the spouse should come first, right, That would
• 28:43
  Speaker 2: probably be the best way to answer it, ALRIGHTY four
• 28:47
  Speaker 2: two five four seven to seven. Hey, rom I was
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: having a conversation with my spouse and she was wondering
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: who should come first, the spouse of the kids, And
• 28:55
  Speaker 2: I'm talking about in general, what do you think, Rome, Well,
• 28:58
  Speaker 2: I think that it's I think that's a tough question
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: to answer, and why are you having that conversation?
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Why is your wife talking about that?
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: But I think that it's situational, so sometimes the kids
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: come first, sometimes the spouse comes first. But to say
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: in general, I'm not sure what you mean by that,
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: because it's like, I mean, when you're sitting around watching
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: TV and who gets to choose the channel?
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: I mean, what do you I don't. I don't know
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: what you mean by that.
• 29:27
  Speaker 2: But uh, okay, I will tell you this though, and
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: this is a story that I'll never forget. When I
• 29:35
  Speaker 2: lived on the reservation. First of all, not all Indians
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: live on the reservation. There are other people that live
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: there sometimes also because they work.
• 29:42
  Speaker 1: Okay, but.
• 29:46
  Speaker 2: I went over to my friend's house for dinner and
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: he had three brothers and sisters and him, so there
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: were four kids total. And when I got there for dinner,
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: or was there for dinner playing with a different the
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: dad ate first, not got served first. The dad got
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: the plate, got his food and ate before everybody else,
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: and then everybody else says, See, I.
• 30:14
  Speaker 1: Didn't grow up like that.
• 30:15
  Speaker 2: I grew up in a Fanwell your Mexican families, No,
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: you grow up when you get fed first, your mom
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: gets fed, your mom feeds you first. Even my dad
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: fed me for it was never so I guess is
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: that what you mean by general. I don't know what
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: you mean by that. So in a situation like dinner,
• 30:35
  Speaker 2: you know, kids get fed first. So I guess, I
• 30:40
  Speaker 2: guess you can't answer that quest. I guess to say
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: that there, everybody comes first because it's based on the
• 30:46
  Speaker 2: situation you're in at the time.
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 30:48
  Speaker 2: I remember going to UH, I think it was the
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: cheesecake factory one time with my nieces and.
• 30:53
  Speaker 1: Nephew and UH.
• 30:55
  Speaker 2: The waitress brought the kids a little plate of cheese,
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: crackers and everything before she even offered us drinks or order. Right,
• 31:04
  Speaker 2: kids come first in that situation, So I guess it's
• 31:06
  Speaker 2: just situation. I guess it's really the way. It's really
• 31:09
  Speaker 2: what it would come down to. Hey Romeo, Julio, Here's
• 31:12
  Speaker 2: spouse has always come first before kids.
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: Who came first your spouse?
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: After kids are around, as parents, you got to be
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: on the same page to parent them, so that means
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: your spouse comes first. Even the Bible says it. Just FYI, okay,
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: So this is just a crazy conversation. Somebody brought it
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: to me yesterday. Hey, rome So I was having this
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: conversation with my spouse and she was wondering who should
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: come first, the spouse or the kids. And I'm talking
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: about in general. What do you think? I just I
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: don't think. I think they both come first, right Why?
• 31:46
  Speaker 2: I would like to know a scenario where you have
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: to choose between your spouse or your kids.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: That would be I guess.
• 31:54
  Speaker 2: Before I can answer that question, you'd have to because
• 31:58
  Speaker 2: why can't they both come first? Because in different situations,
• 32:03
  Speaker 2: you know, unless your spouse is just selfish, I guess there,
• 32:08
  Speaker 2: everybody comes first depending on the situation.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: Right, Hey, Roam, this is a big joe.
• 32:15
  Speaker 2: I've always said that we raise our children to be
• 32:18
  Speaker 2: with somebody else, So my wife comes first after the
• 32:21
  Speaker 2: kids are old enough to take care of themselves. At
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: the end of it, it's just me and her. My
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: wife also feels the same way.
• 32:31
  Speaker 1: Okay, I guess, Yeah, I guess. I don't know, but
• 32:40
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I go okay, I mean logically, I guess what
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: you're saying makes some sense because they're gonna leave.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: Like the lady who called the you know who called.
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: And said she went to go see her kids, but
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: her her kids friends got there first, so they took off,
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: which is okay, she had to go with her husband
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: and get ice cream.
• 32:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, aerom.
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: If those are his kids, then than they do. But
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: if they are their kids, then the wife. So you're
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: saying his kids come over the step mama, the step spouse.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: Your kids come before the step spouse, your current wife
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: or husband. But if they're your kids with then the
• 33:22
  Speaker 2: kids come first, Then the wife comes first. That's some
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: illogical logic right there. That makes no sense. What's over?
• 33:29
  Speaker 2: But okay, dang Rome, I didn't know you had Bible
• 33:33
  Speaker 2: thumpers that listen to your show.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: That's pretty cool. Oh yeah, there's a lot of people.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: Well that's because there's still a generation of Mexicans that
• 33:42
  Speaker 2: are true Catholics and Christians. And yeah, they listen to
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: the show already four two five four seven seven.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Bible thumpers.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: That's funny already four two five four is seven to seven?
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: Who comes first? The spouse are the kids? That's a uh,
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: that's a question.
• 34:02
  Speaker 3: Money around me all So I believe that if you're
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: just my boyfriend and you're not even my kids to father,
• 34:09
  Speaker 3: you're not coming first before my children.
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: Wait, say that one more time. If you're just my boyfriend,
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: oh you're not the kid's father.
• 34:16
  Speaker 3: Okay, Oh you're not my kids is father. You are
• 34:19
  Speaker 3: not coming first my kids is, you know. But if
• 34:22
  Speaker 3: this witches over to my husband, then maybe you might
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: come first. But other than that, I believe like it's
• 34:28
  Speaker 3: like how you said, it's like a mutual finger. You
• 34:30
  Speaker 3: can't put one or the other before the other because
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: you don't know how your day's gonna be. Your your
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: kids could come first or your husband. You got to
• 34:38
  Speaker 3: be a hard working man for you to come first
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: in my life. You better be out the door at
• 34:43
  Speaker 3: seven in the morning and six in the morning making
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: that money for to come first.
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: Damn.
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: If you are stay at home, man, boy, you ain't
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: coming first in my life at all. You go back here,
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: go back to your mama's house.
• 34:55
  Speaker 6: You might be first there.
• 34:56
  Speaker 3: Not in mine, though.
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: Oh that's great, that's awesome. I fair enough, cool, thanks
• 35:00
  Speaker 1: for calling. I appreciate it already. Fourteen four seven to seven.
• 35:06
  Speaker 1: Let's see, Hey, Rome, I'm a mom.
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: My point of view is if it's life or death situation,
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: I would put my kids to be saved in the
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: situation you gave with the is the situation you gave
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: with the presence for Christmas, I would save the twenty
• 35:24
  Speaker 2: dollars and do a barbecue fun day so everyone can
• 35:27
  Speaker 2: enjoy the last of the twenties. In everyday situations, a
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: spouse comes first. No one will be happy if Dad
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: is unhappy. Dad is always uh served first, while the
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: kid's stuff, while the kids stuff cool.
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: Dad is always first to shower. Huh Okay. I mean,
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: like I said, I.
• 35:51
  Speaker 2: Think it's all a matter of perspective, right, who comes first,
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: the kids or your spouse?
• 35:57
  Speaker 1: I would say the yeah, yeah, what's the wrong man?
• 36:06
  Speaker 4: Hey?
• 36:06
  Speaker 5: Man?
• 36:07
  Speaker 1: So picture this.
• 36:08
  Speaker 2: You're on a boat, right, You're on a boat, uh huh,
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: and your wife and your kid falls overboard and you
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: only have one life jacket.
• 36:20
  Speaker 4: Who are you saving.
• 36:21
  Speaker 1: That's a stupid argument, that's what.
• 36:25
  Speaker 5: That's a stupid everything else you're gonna save.
• 36:28
  Speaker 1: That's a stupid scenario. That's not that's not what we're
• 36:31
  Speaker 1: talking about. That's a stupid scenario.
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: The guys say the kids come first, no matter what.
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: All right, Well, that's fair. I mean, there's nothing wrong
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: with that.
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: I'm just saying everybody, that's you know how long that
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: scenario has been fifty years?
• 36:44
  Speaker 1: I remember that when I was a kid, somebody telling
• 36:46
  Speaker 1: me that that's just dumb. Yeah, yeah, that's just dumb.
• 36:51
  Speaker 4: All right.
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: That's why sometimes lou Ne listen and not talking. That's
• 36:55
  Speaker 1: not what we're talking about. Good morning, how it's.
• 36:57
  Speaker 6: Up the morning around me?
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: Hey, what's going on?
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: I just call it in because you know, at.
• 37:07
  Speaker 6: A time in on the feeding of the children and
• 37:10
  Speaker 6: who come first and who doesn't and all that day. So,
• 37:17
  Speaker 6: in my honest opinion, were are they're thinking way too
• 37:21
  Speaker 6: hard about because if you're a real mother, all the
• 37:26
  Speaker 6: food is gonna have enough for everybody to be spending
• 37:29
  Speaker 6: the house and you're making all the place and handing
• 37:32
  Speaker 6: them out. Actually, it's not about who's hurst. It's not kids.
• 37:36
  Speaker 6: Excuse me, it's really take carr of your kids. Take
• 37:39
  Speaker 6: care of your kids, and they come first, so your
• 37:41
  Speaker 6: kids know what a good household is. If we're not
• 37:44
  Speaker 6: living in the eighteen hundreds, no more, grow up kids.
• 37:48
  Speaker 6: Kids need to eat. I don't care who had to
• 37:50
  Speaker 6: take kids.
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: Don't nothing wrong with that. That's fair, okay, okay exactly.
• 37:57
  Speaker 6: And and for the Bible stuff in comments, y'all.
• 38:02
  Speaker 1: All right, I appreciate it. Well, there you go. What
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: do you got here?
• 38:10
  Speaker 2: Hey, Rome, Rome, never neglect your spouse, but the kids
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: come first until they're grown. The age of them being
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: grown determine how you raise them. I guess you can
• 38:22
  Speaker 2: say that since that's a whole other topic itself, but
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: legally eighteen. Well, the biggest problem with the conversation is
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: when you most of you people can't do both. Actually,
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: I would say most, probably ninety nine percent of moms
• 38:44
  Speaker 2: can't do both. They can't take care of their kids
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: and not ignore their husband at some point at the
• 38:50
  Speaker 2: same time. It's just it's impossible. Kids are too much,
• 38:54
  Speaker 2: too hard. I'm not saying they they can't, they shouldn't
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: figure it out. What I'm saying is that the kids
• 38:59
  Speaker 2: are too impossible their heart.
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: You know, they're difficult.
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: They take up a lot of time, and a lot
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: of husbands don't understand that husband's On the other hand,
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: I think just because the moms are handling here's the problem.
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: I think.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: I think because the moms are normally taking care of
• 39:16
  Speaker 2: all of the kids stuff, the husbands are kind of
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: oblivious to how hard the women are working to take
• 39:22
  Speaker 2: care of these kids, and so they get mad when
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: she doesn't have time for him. But she has no
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: idea what she's doing all day right, because he's over
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: here just you know, not helping. Hey, ro I think parents,
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: especially moms, put their kids in front of their spouses
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: for the reason being their spouse is always going to
• 39:42
  Speaker 2: be with them. In the other hand, their children were
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: only there for a temporary time. But it's wrong put
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: your relationship slash marriage on the back burner. I mean,
• 39:53
  Speaker 2: I agree with what you're saying. You're absolutely right. The idea, though,
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: is what's the option? You know, what's the how It's
• 40:04
  Speaker 2: it's damn near impossible. Kids are a pain in the ass.
• 40:08
  Speaker 2: They they take take up a lot of her time,
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: So what is her option?
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: You know? But to be fair, and.
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: Most men don't take much, you know, it's not like
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: if kids. How do I how do I explain this?
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: To be perfectly honest with you, A man doesn't take
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: much to feel satisfied, you know, he really doesn't.
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: You know, Go get him a beer and give him
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: a you know what, and he'll be good for a
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: couple of days. So it's not really.
• 40:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know, I really don't know how to
• 40:54
  Speaker 2: say it. You know, it doesn't take much to satisfy
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: a dude. So so if she doesn't have time to
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: take care of the kids and satisfy him. Maybe maybe
• 41:07
  Speaker 2: there is a problem because I but then again, kids
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: were a lot of work. So hmmm, already four two, five,
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: four seven seven? Uh so Rome, who would Chicken Loo
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: save first?
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: His wife? Are kids?
• 41:22
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 41:24
  Speaker 3: That, you know what?
• 41:26
  Speaker 1: You know what the answer is?
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: What the that story, how that story goes, And what
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: Seahawk Lou was saying is who do you save first?
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: If you have to save your wife or your your
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: child because they're both drowning. That's an old It's an old.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: I don't know if it's from a book or I
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: don't know what it's from, but it's not new. But
• 41:42
  Speaker 2: the answer was to save your spouse because you can
• 41:45
  Speaker 2: have more children. That was what the when I heard
• 41:49
  Speaker 2: that one hundred years ago, that's what the answer was.
• 41:52
  Speaker 2: So I don't know where it came from, and I
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: don't know. I don't agree with what they said. I mean, but.
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: It's a stupid scenario to ask somebody, hey, what's up.
• 42:04
  Speaker 5: Man?
• 42:05
  Speaker 4: You know, it all just depends on the situation at
• 42:07
  Speaker 4: the end of it, you know what I mean, It
• 42:09
  Speaker 4: just all depends, you know what I mean? Because if
• 42:11
  Speaker 4: one of my kids, you know what I mean, Like,
• 42:12
  Speaker 4: let's just say one of my kids got crazy with
• 42:14
  Speaker 4: my girl. Of course I'm gonna take my girl. So
• 42:16
  Speaker 4: kids better snap out of it, you know what I mean?
• 42:19
  Speaker 6: Just every to the situation.
• 42:20
  Speaker 4: But the old ladies over here and trying to get
• 42:23
  Speaker 4: crazy and the kids can't do nothing. I'm then told
• 42:25
  Speaker 4: ladies you need to go take a walk.
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: Okay, it just it just depends the situation.
• 42:30
  Speaker 5: Bro.
• 42:30
  Speaker 4: But right now, right now, you just said something that
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: made me laugh when you said every man is good.
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: With the with the beer and a you know what, yeah,
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: don't take much man, I guess I take a lot
• 42:42
  Speaker 2: roll because I want to talk back. Then well that's fine,
• 42:45
  Speaker 2: you're gonna get tired of me.
• 42:52
  Speaker 6: But I got one more thing and I'm leaving alone.
• 42:54
  Speaker 1: Okay, what's up?
• 42:55
  Speaker 3: All right?
• 42:56
  Speaker 4: So this last.
• 42:57
  Speaker 6: Conversation, I've been sitting here listening the whole time.
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: Everybody's where do the kids go.
• 43:02
  Speaker 4: After they grow up?
• 43:03
  Speaker 6: Do they just like drop off the face of the earth?
• 43:06
  Speaker 6: Women and men actually stay together the whole life, Like
• 43:09
  Speaker 6: my husband isn't going anywhere, My wife isn't.
• 43:11
  Speaker 5: Going in earth.
• 43:12
  Speaker 6: Since when it's your kids that never leave you. Y'all confused,
• 43:18
  Speaker 6: y'all have lost sight of the mission.
• 43:20
  Speaker 3: Y'all have lost sight, like because you're married and because
• 43:24
  Speaker 3: that's a piece of paper.
• 43:25
  Speaker 6: People leave people every day.
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: I mean, that's fair.
• 43:29
  Speaker 2: That's a fair statement to make your I mean I
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: never I never even looked at the life right now,
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: your kids will never leave you.
• 43:34
  Speaker 1: You're absolutely right, that's fair statement. All that is that
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: the kids you ain't never letting leave the house.
• 43:42
  Speaker 4: No, that's my two year old.
• 43:43
  Speaker 6: That's bit hard I told you about yesterday.
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: That's awesome.
• 43:48
  Speaker 5: You want to get his high Romeo.
• 43:51
  Speaker 1: That's great. Hey, thanks for call.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: I appreciate it, all right, I mean there is some
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: validity to what she's saying though, right, absolutely already four
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: two five, four seven seventh, Good morning, Romell. The only
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: option is every now and then you have to say
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: forget them kids. Don't let that fire burn in the relationship. Well,
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: but the thing is, here's the thing about that. You're right,
• 44:18
  Speaker 2: but you don't have to say forget them kids. Men
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: are not that complicated. They're pretty simple idiots, to be
• 44:26
  Speaker 2: honest with you. And the women that understand that handle everything.
• 44:32
  Speaker 2: The women that understand that are aren't bitter, aren't mad?
• 44:35
  Speaker 1: Aren't you know?
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: They just understand? Hey, all he wants is a beer,
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: and you know what, and then you can go right
• 44:42
  Speaker 2: back to the kids.
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: And what does that take? Twenty minutes?
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: Seriously, a man will literally take twenty minutes of your
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: day to be honest with you.
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: All right? Eight four two five to fours seven seven?
• 44:54
  Speaker 2: Hey, Romeo, did you just say men are simply stupid? Yes,
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: men are simply stupid. They don't want much When you
• 45:00
  Speaker 2: talk about who should come first, the kids or the
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: spouse as far as women concerned, I mean, men are
• 45:07
  Speaker 2: pretty stupid. Very It's very simple to be honest with you.
• 45:11
  Speaker 2: Haven't you ever heard that saying never let your man
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: leave home horny or hungry because there's always a whore
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: with a sandwich. Yeah, it's pretty simple, right, and it
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: don't take much. Men don't take much.
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: Time, bro so and kids take a lot of time.
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: So anyway, hi Roman, all women have to do is
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: show us their boobs and we'll be happy. And like
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: I said, men are simply stupid, and women who don't
• 45:40
  Speaker 2: understand that they have difficult relationships. When it comes to kids,
• 45:46
  Speaker 2: kids are very complicated. They take up a lot of
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: your time. We are not disagreeing with that, but who
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: should come first. The biggest problem is in relationships and
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: households is when women have children, they ignore their husbands
• 46:00
  Speaker 2: and it causes a problem, right, which is nobody's arguing
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: that more time should be spent with the children. There's
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: nobody's arguing that at all. I don't think, at least
• 46:10
  Speaker 2: I'm not. You know, you need to be there, you
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: need to handle it all with the kids. The problem
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: is when you neglect your husband, you have issues. But
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: what you don't understand is men are simply stupid. It's
• 46:22
  Speaker 2: that simple, all right, Hey, Rome, and a husband needs
• 46:29
  Speaker 2: to have dinner ready for him by the time he
• 46:31
  Speaker 2: comes home from a long twelve hour shift. The kids,
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: of course, can eat beforehand. If he is the provider,
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: it's the it's if he's the provider, it is the
• 46:43
  Speaker 2: least a wife can do for him and the kids.
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: Of the Taco Tuesday moms, wives need a reality check
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: in their priorities.
• 46:53
  Speaker 1: That's a good one. I haven't heard that one of
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: the pumps. M Yeah, yeah, I don't think you're wrong
• 47:01
  Speaker 1: about that. I just think it's a lot of women
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: make it too complicated. You know, men are not that complicated.
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: What did you send me here? A?
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: Hey, Rome, dad comes first because he's the head of
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: the household. Kids next, then the mother. The mother comes
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: last because she already has what she wanted since being
• 47:23
  Speaker 2: a little girl, a husband and kids.
• 47:25
  Speaker 1: The husband made that happen for her. That's why he
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: is he is first. He is the king. Okay, all right,
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: there you go. I don't know how you feel about
• 47:39
  Speaker 1: that one.
• 47:41
  Speaker 2: I kind of like the idea that, depending on the situation,
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: will depend on who comes first. But when it comes
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: to actually neglecting one or the other is when you
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: have the real problem. Right, Hey, Rome, It's like you said,
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: depends on this situation, but mostly it's the kids first.
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: Young ones always come first.
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: If they are like graduated high school age or older,
• 48:08
  Speaker 2: then they stop being first because they should already be
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: on their way out the door and self sufficient.
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: The problem is, you're I mean, you guys aren't wrong.
• 48:20
  Speaker 5: And.
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: Kids take a lot. It takes a lot, man.
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: Kids need their mothers to do damn near everything for
• 48:28
  Speaker 2: them for quite a few years. Right.
• 48:30
  Speaker 1: The problem is, though, when you have this.
• 48:32
  Speaker 2: Conversation, is that most mothers neglect their husbands. Most mothers
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: and wives will do a great job raising their kids
• 48:44
  Speaker 2: in lieu of being a wife. You'd be a great mother,
• 48:49
  Speaker 2: but you don't be a wife. And I don't think
• 48:53
  Speaker 2: it's a hard argument to make to say that that's wrong,
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: because it's not wrong.
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: Should really come first.
• 49:01
  Speaker 2: Let's be honest, right, They need the most attention, they
• 49:04
  Speaker 2: need the most care, they need the most help. Dude,
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: you're a grown ass man. Okay, you really need to
• 49:11
  Speaker 2: understand that what she's doing is the most important thing
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: that's happening in your house right now, is that your
• 49:17
  Speaker 2: kids don't grow up to be little jackasses and they're
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: fed and clothed and comforted.
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: It's safe, right. There's no real argument.
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: If you're a man and you have an argument about that,
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: If you're a husband and a dad and you have
• 49:31
  Speaker 2: an argument about that, you're just a jackass. But once again, moms, wives,
• 49:42
  Speaker 2: it doesn't take much to satisfy that dumb ass.
• 49:45
  Speaker 1: Twenty minutes. I could probably guarantee.
• 49:51
  Speaker 2: That all a husband and dad needs is probably twenty
• 49:56
  Speaker 2: minutes a day out of your twenty minutes a day
• 49:58
  Speaker 2: out of you.
• 50:02
  Speaker 1: Probably it.
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: Now he may want more, but look, that's just not
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: happening right now, right now. You got kids that need
• 50:09
  Speaker 2: more attention than husbands. But he can get by on
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: twenty minutes a day, and you women don't even want
• 50:18
  Speaker 2: to do that, And then you wonder.
• 50:19
  Speaker 1: Why you got problems. So there you go. What do
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: we got here? Let's see what a.
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: Big boy send me, big roam. I paid a cost
• 50:28
  Speaker 2: to be the boss or whatever I say goes. I
• 50:30
  Speaker 2: let my wife take care of the kids first. Keep
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: it between us, though. Oh I guess I'm a little
• 50:40
  Speaker 2: late on that one. Big boy, My bad, My bad.
• 50:43
  Speaker 2: Don't tell anybody what I just said. Hey, Rome, women
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: don't make these kids alone. It's not about who comes first.
• 50:50
  Speaker 2: The children don't ask to come into this world. Me.
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: Men and women should commit to their guaranteem equally. If
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: they're having issues, maybe they shouldn't have had.
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: Nobody's arguing that point. Nobody. I don't think anybody who
• 51:05
  Speaker 1: argues that point. Hold on.
• 51:08
  Speaker 2: Big boy said, I'm the easiest dad you'll ever meet.
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: Just bring me a beer, and I'm exactly big boy
• 51:13
  Speaker 2: really is the easiest dad you'll ever meet. My point is,
• 51:19
  Speaker 2: you're right, nobody should argue that point. But that's not
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: what really happens. Okay, that is not what really happens.
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: And if it was, we wouldn't be having this conversation.
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: There wouldn't be so many parents who either who cheated
• 51:40
  Speaker 2: on each other or have had issues in their marriage
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: because the kids. You know, you're absolutely right, but that's
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: not the reality of the world we live in today
• 51:51
  Speaker 2: or you know, however long why maybe not today?
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: Maybe back in the day, well you know, Beaver Cleaver days.
• 51:59
  Speaker 2: The husband came from, not today, I mean, but the
• 52:02
  Speaker 2: problem is this, and here's the problem. Women do exactly
• 52:08
  Speaker 2: what you expect them to do, excuse me, and what
• 52:11
  Speaker 2: they should do focus on the children, I mean raising kids, right.
• 52:18
  Speaker 1: Men don't do that.
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: Men don't get over zealous when it comes to the
• 52:23
  Speaker 2: kids after they have them. But the wife, moms, you
• 52:29
  Speaker 2: still want your husband to be as fond of you
• 52:34
  Speaker 2: as you are of as you were of him before
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: the kids came along.
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: And unfortunately, that's just what happens. You know, how do
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: you break that cycle?
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: I have no idea, but that's nine times out of ten,
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: probably nine point nine times out of ten, that's what happens.
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: You can't argue it because she is not doing anything wrong.
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: She's taking care of her children like she should. Like
• 52:59
  Speaker 2: this person just said children didn't ask to come into
• 53:02
  Speaker 2: this world, so you got to take care of them.
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: You wanted them, you take care of them, right, So
• 53:07
  Speaker 2: I don't think we're gonna argue that fact. The problem
• 53:10
  Speaker 2: is sometimes women go over the top and forget all
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: about their husbands, and then their husbands are sitting there going, well,
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: what about me? Which, once again I'll go back to
• 53:20
  Speaker 2: your point. Men and women should commit. Men don't commit
• 53:25
  Speaker 2: the same way women commit. Okay, it's just I don't
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: know if it's human nature. I don't know, if it's society.
• 53:34
  Speaker 1: I don't know.
• 53:34
  Speaker 2: If it's because I don't know because he has to
• 53:37
  Speaker 2: work and I don't know, or because she bursts the child.
• 53:43
  Speaker 2: But whatever the case may be, men don't commit the
• 53:47
  Speaker 2: same way women do. So what are you supposed to
• 53:50
  Speaker 2: do about that? You can't just neglect him and say, oh,
• 53:55
  Speaker 2: you got to deal with it, and that's what most
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: women do. The reality is, for twenty minutes a day,
• 54:02
  Speaker 2: your husband will be happy.
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: What did you will send me here?
• 54:06
  Speaker 2: Hey?
• 54:07
  Speaker 1: Rome?
• 54:07
  Speaker 2: After work, after working a twelve hour shift, I would
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: be happy with just letting me unload, take a shower,
• 54:14
  Speaker 2: smoke a bowl, and then I will be there for
• 54:16
  Speaker 2: the wife and two kids. But if it doesn't happen
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: that way, I walk in, can't even take off my
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: work shoes, and the wife already like like here, here
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: are the babies. Well, I mean.
• 54:35
  Speaker 1: It's like I said, Okay, Well, for.
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: Twenty minutes a day, ladies, your husband will be happy.
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: Every every I think every woman wants to talk about
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: how equal they are, how relationship is fifty to fifty.
• 55:00
  Speaker 2: That's the only way that a positive relationship is going
• 55:03
  Speaker 2: to happen.
• 55:03
  Speaker 1: You gotta be fifty to fifty. You gotta be equal.
• 55:06
  Speaker 1: And a lot of it is true when it comes
• 55:09
  Speaker 1: to chores.
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: A lot of it is true sometimes when it comes
• 55:11
  Speaker 2: to finances, because there's power struggles and people be tripping
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: over money. What about other things? What about equality and fun?
• 55:21
  Speaker 2: What about equality and the things that your husband or
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: wife may want to do. And I'll tell you what
• 55:27
  Speaker 2: I mean by that. You know, I play a lot
• 55:29
  Speaker 2: of golf, and I got a lot of buddies I
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: play golf with, and they have wives who don't play golf.
• 55:34
  Speaker 2: But I got one buddy whose wife will never go
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: out to the golf course with all right, all of
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: my other friends, their wives will come out and they'll
• 55:42
  Speaker 2: you know, have some drinks and ride around in the car,
• 55:45
  Speaker 2: just you know, to enjoy the day with their husbands.
• 55:47
  Speaker 2: She will never go, but she makes him do everything
• 55:53
  Speaker 2: she wants to do. If she wants to go shopping,
• 55:56
  Speaker 2: if she wants to go antiquing, if she wants to
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: do pick what ever, is going to take hours out
• 56:02
  Speaker 2: of her day. And she asked her husband to go
• 56:05
  Speaker 2: do it. He always does it, never says no. Guy
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: could be sitting on the couch watching the game and
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: she'll be like, hey, maybe I want to.
• 56:12
  Speaker 3: Go do this.
• 56:12
  Speaker 1: Let's go. He'll go without a problem.
• 56:16
  Speaker 2: But the minute he says, hey, let's go out to
• 56:19
  Speaker 2: the golf course and just uh, we'll drive around, I'll
• 56:22
  Speaker 2: play a little golf, you can have a few drinks
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: and relax and we'll just she says. Never went. Never,
• 56:28
  Speaker 2: once has done it, never will do it. Is that
• 56:32
  Speaker 2: fifty to fifty? Is that equality? I mean, you tell
• 56:35
  Speaker 2: me how many of you have a spouse right now
• 56:39
  Speaker 2: that there is something they will never do for you,
• 56:42
  Speaker 2: but you'll do it for them in the same vein
• 56:45
  Speaker 2: as what I just told you. I mean, everybody talks
• 56:49
  Speaker 2: about equality when it comes to chores and money and
• 56:52
  Speaker 2: all this other stuff. I can do everything a man
• 56:54
  Speaker 2: can do well.
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: I can do it well.
• 56:55
  Speaker 2: But yeah, what about the other parts of your of
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: your relationship? What about the other you know I have
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: I have a lot of friends like that. And it
• 57:06
  Speaker 2: goes both ways. He won't do things that there's certain
• 57:10
  Speaker 2: things he won't do for her that she'll do for him,
• 57:12
  Speaker 2: or vice versa. How's that working out in your relationship?
• 57:16
  Speaker 2: You know there's and you hear it all the time.
• 57:19
  Speaker 2: There these are the people that are working. Oh, I'll
• 57:20
  Speaker 2: do I do anything. I do everything for my husband. Oh,
• 57:23
  Speaker 2: I do everything for my wife. Now you don't you
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: do a version of what you think everything is, but
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: you're not really doing everything? Right?
• 57:31
  Speaker 1: How fifty to fifty is your relationship?
• 57:33
  Speaker 2: Right? What is it?
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: Do you guys have a spouse?
• 57:35
  Speaker 2: Do you have a partner that you will do anything for?
• 57:38
  Speaker 2: Literally really do anything for? But there's some things that
• 57:41
  Speaker 2: they won't do for you?
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: Right? Or does it happen both ways? I think I
• 57:46
  Speaker 1: don't know.
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: I think I think it's probably one thing in every
• 57:49
  Speaker 2: relationship already four two five four seven seven a roam.
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: It's funny that you say that because on Saturdays we
• 57:58
  Speaker 2: like to clean up the house a few hours cleaning
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: up the house of the morning. I will help my
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: wife do whatever it is she's trying to do, But
• 58:08
  Speaker 2: when it comes to me asking for help outside, she
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: never comes to help me. That's not really fifty to fifty,
• 58:15
  Speaker 2: is it.
• 58:15
  Speaker 1: Romeo, No, it's not. But and I'm gonna guess, well,
• 58:23
  Speaker 1: I don't know if I should guess that. Yeah, it's not.
• 58:26
  Speaker 2: I think in every relationship there are, it's probably more
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: women than men. It's probably most men will do everything
• 58:35
  Speaker 2: for their wives, regardless whether they want to or not,
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: and most women pick and choose on what they will
• 58:42
  Speaker 2: or won't do for their husbands. I'm gonna guess that
• 58:44
  Speaker 2: it's probably how it works out, just like you just said.
• 58:47
  Speaker 1: Right, your wife.
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: Wants help with something in the house, doing the chores,
• 58:51
  Speaker 2: you'll help her, but she won't help you outside, probably
• 58:54
  Speaker 2: because it's too hot. Right, Hey, Rome, You're absolutely right.
• 58:58
  Speaker 2: Relationships aren't fifty fifty. These women want to act like
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: they are. So check this out. Me and my wife
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: we watch shows together on Netflix. If I ever watch
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: a show without her.
• 59:11
  Speaker 1: She loses her mind.
• 59:14
  Speaker 2: But she will always watch shows without me, and then
• 59:19
  Speaker 2: I have to catch up later. Not fifty to fifty,
• 59:22
  Speaker 2: is it? It's not how many of you got that problem?
• 59:26
  Speaker 2: If you don't, dare you watch a show without your wife?
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: Oh my god?
• 59:31
  Speaker 2: But let her watch one without you. Oh there's always
• 59:34
  Speaker 2: an excuse, all right? E fourteen five four seven. Hey, Romeo,
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: you know what else is not fifty to fifty? Pregnancy,
• 59:45
  Speaker 2: giving birth, giving birth or breastfeeding? Okay, what's your point
• 59:53
  Speaker 2: behind that? And then we'll we'll discuss further if you want.
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: But okay, you're right about that. What did you send
• 1:00:01
  Speaker 1: me here? Hey?
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: Rome Pregnancy and breastfeeding is maybe eighteen months combined. Men
• 1:00:09
  Speaker 2: work until retirement. It's not fifty to fifty. Oh you're
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: talking about the person who said somebody commented about the
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: whole fifty to fifty thing things you'll do for your
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 2: spouse but they won't do for you giving birth, breadthsfeeding.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: What did they say?
• 1:00:25
  Speaker 2: Giving birth and breastfeeding evens out the fifty to fifty
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: with all the hormones.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 1: Guys have to deal with.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, because somebody said, you know what else is
• 1:00:35
  Speaker 2: it fifty to fifty pregnancy, giving birth, breastfeeding. Okay, so
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 2: I see you guys are yeah. I don't know what
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: that comment means or why they said that, but okay,
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 2: let's see here. Hey, Rome, you're right. When I was married,
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: my ex wife used to always always ask for massages
• 1:00:53
  Speaker 2: for twelve years and I never got even one. If
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: I asked her, she will always tell me later and
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 2: later never happened. I mean that, I think every relationship
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: has something. There's just there's one thing that you'll do
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: that you won't do for your spouse, no matter what.
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: So how was that a fifty fifty relationship?
• 1:01:17
  Speaker 4: So brought me on morning and going on with a
• 1:01:19
  Speaker 4: whole fifty to fifty p It is true. I tell
• 1:01:24
  Speaker 4: my wife to help me out with some things or
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 4: give you a pay a bill.
• 1:01:27
  Speaker 6: She gives me a ah attitude.
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 3: But on her side she covered it in the bedroom.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 4: You know what, I'm fine with it.
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 1: I'm fine, I'm happy, tified.
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 6: Go ahead, do you boo boom?
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 2: That's awesome, man, They were all right eight fourteen, five
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 2: four or seven seven, Hey roam, So check this out.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 2: You're talking about things my wife will never do. So
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 2: when me and my wife got married, we divvied out
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: the bills. I was going to pay for the house,
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: the cars, the utilities. I asked her just to buy groceries. Now, Rome,
• 1:02:10
  Speaker 2: why is it She'll ask me to go buy groceries
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 2: when I'm on the way home from work, but if
• 1:02:16
  Speaker 2: I ask her to pay a bill, she throws a
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 2: fit and says, no, that's what we agreed upon.
• 1:02:23
  Speaker 1: That So that, like the last guy, Well, just.
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 2: Because women are selfish and greedy, bro, what do you
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 2: want me to tell you that's funny how that works out? Huh, yeah,
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 2: I don't know, but it's just it's like that. I
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 2: think most relationships. Everybody has something that they'll do that
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 2: they won't do for their spouse, even though their spouse
• 1:02:49
  Speaker 2: will do it for them.
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 1: I got a question for you. I want you guys
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 1: to be to be honest with me, all right, So
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 1: it takes.
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 2: A lot for me to get bothered by things, you know,
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 2: with all the stupidity going on in the world, and
• 1:03:00
  Speaker 2: I know you guys get all riled up when you
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 2: see stupid people on the internet, and they're stupid people,
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 2: just ignore them, right, But uh, my brother calls me yesterday.
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 1: And he tells me about this golf course because I'm
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 1: a big golfer. Now, my brother's not a golfer. He
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 1: just saw it online. He was watching YouTube.
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: He goes, oh, you got to check this out. You
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: know bryceon d Chambeau he plays. You know, he's a
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 2: professional golfer. He goes, I know you're a big golfer,
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 2: and I wanted to.
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 1: Tell you about what I saw because it looked amazing. Now,
• 1:03:32
  Speaker 1: so I go check it out.
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 2: Right, Well, this golfer played a nine hole golf course
• 1:03:40
  Speaker 2: on YouTube and made it sound like it's this spiritual,
• 1:03:46
  Speaker 2: just religious experience that you need to go see. My
• 1:03:49
  Speaker 2: brother sent it to me because my brother's kind of
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: a hippity dippity spiritual, you know.
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: Health met him and his girlfriend.
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 2: So I go watch the video and this clown is
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 2: playing this golf course that I played regularly thirty years ago,
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 2: before I moved to Bakersfield. I used to go play
• 1:04:11
  Speaker 2: this golf course, just a nine hole course the middle
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 2: of the Redwood's Great course.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 1: It's fun.
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 2: And now, oh, it's just gonna be the most popular
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 2: thing ever because it was on YouTube, and now I
• 1:04:25
  Speaker 2: got and my brother was just he was being nice
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 2: but the idea for him to tell me something like
• 1:04:32
  Speaker 2: somebody just created it yesterday, when it's been around for
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 2: forty something years.
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: And it's this amazing. It's not.
• 1:04:44
  Speaker 2: It's a little lass golf course in the middle of
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: northern California along the Russian River that a bunch of hippies,
• 1:04:51
  Speaker 2: dope smoking hippies created. It's not some spiritual, fine your
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: zen type of place. It's not even a great golf course. Beautiful,
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: but it's not even a great golf course. But anyway,
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: and I was bothered by it, and not so much
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 2: that my brother told me about it. It's just that
• 1:05:10
  Speaker 2: this idea, and this is not the first time this
• 1:05:12
  Speaker 2: has happened to me. You know, I used to go
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 2: up to Now they actually play a PGA tournament in
• 1:05:19
  Speaker 2: napat this golf course that I used to go to for.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 1: Sixty bucks hotels.
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 2: The hotels on the course were like, you know, seventy
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 2: bucks a night or one hundred bucks a night. And
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 2: then the real housewives of something Atlanta or not Atlanta,
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: Orange County go there and then all of a sudden,
• 1:05:39
  Speaker 2: this thing's the greatest things in sliced bread, a hidden gem.
• 1:05:46
  Speaker 2: The stupidity of it just bothers me. And I don't
• 1:05:52
  Speaker 2: know why. I mean, does it Am I wrong for that?
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 2: I mean, how many times have you you know? I
• 1:06:01
  Speaker 2: this is gonna sound stupid, but I remember it happening
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 2: in reverse. I remember, you know, everybody likes Bob Marley.
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 1: I remember finding, you know, getting into Bob Marley.
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 2: I don't know whenever it was. And I told my dad,
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 2: have you heard of this guy? My dad goes, yeah,
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 2: I've seen him in a concert three times. And my
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 2: dad looked at me like I was nuts. And I
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 2: guess I'm kind of the same way right now, right,
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 2: I don't know should Maybe it's just the attitude of
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: these kids.
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 1: I wasn't a jerk. I just asked my dad, Hey,
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 1: did I find that? Have you heard this before? And
• 1:06:36
  Speaker 1: he said yeah?
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: But is it the attitude of these kids today that
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 2: they find something that's been around forever and they act
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 2: like they invented it or it's brand new?
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: Or is that just normal? Like I said, a lot of.
• 1:06:52
  Speaker 2: Things don't bother me, but I was bothered by the
• 1:06:53
  Speaker 2: fact that I saw on YouTube yesterday that there's this
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 2: golf course that I've been playing for, you know, thirty years.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 2: You know, before I moved to Beggersfield, I was playing
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 2: this golf of course regularly, And now all of a sudden,
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 2: a pro golfer goes out there and shows everybody, and
• 1:07:08
  Speaker 2: now it's the hottest things in sliced bread.
• 1:07:11
  Speaker 1: And isn't that normally what happens in this world today?
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 2: Everybody goes on YouTube and does something like or TikTok
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 2: or pick your social media site and does something and
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 2: they act like they invented it.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 1: Already.
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 2: Four two pop four or seven to seven yearo Rome,
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: I just want to let you know that's normal. I
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 2: am a seventy year old father and grandfather. Back in
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 2: my day, I used to wear Birkenstocks all the time.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 2: We were made fun of called hippies, and yeah, I
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: remember birkenstocks. Now my grandkids wear them like their brand new.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 2: And it does bother me because we were doing that
• 1:07:56
  Speaker 2: back in the day and these kids today think they
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 2: invented You're absolutely right, Rome, Well, okay, then.
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 1: I guess I'm right. I was a little bothered. Yesterday
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 1: my brother showed me this video on.
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 2: YouTube and it's this golf course that I used to
• 1:08:18
  Speaker 2: play way back in the day, back before I moved
• 1:08:20
  Speaker 2: to Bakersfield up in northern California, and it was just
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 2: an old golf course, nothing fancy. It was cheat it
• 1:08:27
  Speaker 2: was nine holes. It was in the middle of the Redwoods.
• 1:08:30
  Speaker 1: No big deal.
• 1:08:31
  Speaker 2: Now all of a sudden some pro golfer plays it,
• 1:08:33
  Speaker 2: and all of a sudden, it's this hottest spiritual place.
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 1: That you gotta go.
• 1:08:37
  Speaker 2: Everybody's gotta go, like, come on, man, you guys can't
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 2: be that stupid, but I guess you can already four
• 1:08:44
  Speaker 2: two pot four seven to seven. Hey, Romeo, I gotta
• 1:08:47
  Speaker 2: tell you the same thing. So my daughter and I
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 2: are out shopping the other day, and she wants these
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 2: shoes that looked just like the old school jellies. Do
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 2: you remember the old school jellies room, Yes, I do
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 2: remember the old school jellies. They were the most ridiculous
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 2: looking shoes you could ever wear, next to crocs. They
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 2: were so silly. So what I did Roam was I
• 1:09:11
  Speaker 2: bought her the shoes and then went home and pulled
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 2: out my jellies that I had from when I was
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 2: younger and showed her. She was so dumbfounded by the
• 1:09:21
  Speaker 2: fact that they were made before her time. She thought
• 1:09:26
  Speaker 2: these things were brand new and the latest hottest thing.
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 1: I mean, kids today are stupid. I guess you can't.
• 1:09:36
  Speaker 1: You just can't be bothered by it.
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 2: They just think they invented everything, um, but really have
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 2: invented nothing. That's funny. Those jellies, Why would you save jellies?
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: By the way, those those shoes were silly? Why would
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 2: you say those? What do you got here, hey, Romeo?
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 2: I just bought myself jellies. I hated them as a kid,
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 2: but had been wanting some since they started making them again.
• 1:10:04
  Speaker 2: So when I found some on Clarance, I bought two styles.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 2: Hilarious because we wore them because we were poor.
• 1:10:12
  Speaker 1: Now girls are.
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 2: Paying fifty fifty bucks for some jellies.
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: Oh my god, you people are stupid or more on them.
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: I seen them at Macy's for fifty on sale, shaking
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 1: my head.
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 2: You guys are idiots. I'm sorry, that's just stupid. You
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 2: guys are Why can't why can't whoever's running the fashion
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 2: in this world for the younger generation, Why can't you
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 2: at least bring back cool stuff?
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 1: Why do you got to bring back.
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 2: The stupidest things that people wore when they were poor
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 2: and looked ridiculous, and now they're the most fashionable.
• 1:10:54
  Speaker 1: Products on the planet. Who stupid do you have to be? Hey, Rome,
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 1: they think they brought back the baggy jeans. What are
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: you talking about?
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 2: These kids think they brought back baggy jeans. Do you
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 2: even know how baggy jeans came into uh.
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 1: In fashion?
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  Speaker 2: Because people were poor and they had to wear hand
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 2: me down clothes. That's how you had to wear your
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 2: dad's old jeans, or you had to wear your brother's
• 1:11:35
  Speaker 2: old jeans because you were poor and you couldn't afford
• 1:11:38
  Speaker 2: your size, so you got hand me downs. That's how
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: baggy jeans became a fashion. Like I said, man, a
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 2: special kind of dumb, just a special kind of stupid.
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: Nowadays, every morning