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I Chose Not To Be Bitter: How One Decision Changed Everything | FT Charity Floyd | EP148 · Jess Ask

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  Speaker 1: Yo, it's your girl, Jessica as Smith, and you already
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  Speaker 1: know that you've entered the safe space for influencers to decompress,
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  Speaker 1: have fun and just ask God for another do you
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  Speaker 1: already know what it is?
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  Speaker 2: And then you know it's about to get real to
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  Speaker 2: be sure to.
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  Speaker 1: Show your girl the love and like how many subscribe
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  Speaker 1: God for another day?
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  Speaker 3: Hey, hey, I know we could be another way.
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  Speaker 1: Yo, yo, yo, it's the girl Jessica as Smith, and
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  Speaker 1: you have entered the safe space where influencers can decompress,
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  Speaker 1: have fun and guess.
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  Speaker 4: What, just good? That was a little bit like.
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  Speaker 1: My lord Raffle, everybody, everybody, but you know, I got
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  Speaker 1: my headphones on, and I have my headphones on. You know,
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  Speaker 1: we got a virtual guest. And when you know how
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  Speaker 1: we got a virtual guest. You can't see desert?
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  Speaker 2: Does a?
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  Speaker 4: Does A? Does a? Does? It's Thursday, y'all?
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  Speaker 1: It is Thursday or whatever day you decided, whatever you said.
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  Speaker 4: Whatever decide, whatever you decided.
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  Speaker 1: To do on today, you could have been anywhere else
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  Speaker 1: but your choes.
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  Speaker 4: And be grateful to come down this street avenue. That's right,
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  Speaker 4: how you feelings? I'm good?
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  Speaker 5: That's an honest answer like that it came out real fast,
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  Speaker 5: but it was true. Like you know, I've been evaluating
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  Speaker 5: like these answers that I be giving, because you know,
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  Speaker 5: it's easy to say I'm good and you're gonna be.
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  Speaker 4: Good and real good, but I'm good. Blessing, blessing, how
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  Speaker 4: favor not not the clocks?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, how you feeling?
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  Speaker 4: I am? I am. I'm nervous right now. And you
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  Speaker 4: know when I get nervous, it's nervous. No, I'm trimling.
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  Speaker 1: Listens, I guess, but I'm nervous right now because the
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  Speaker 1: level of excellence is about to enter this platform.
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  Speaker 4: She is a little saucy. Uh huh.
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  Speaker 1: I am excited also because the guests that we have today, Desiree.
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  Speaker 1: We went to school together. We went to the University
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  Speaker 1: of Alabama. Yeah yeah, I said it, ted, come come
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  Speaker 1: try it if you want to. But we went to
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  Speaker 1: the University of Alabama. We graduated the same time. And
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  Speaker 1: so just watching her developed and her grow has just
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  Speaker 1: been a blessing. It's been a blessing just because you know, baby,
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  Speaker 1: you feel like you in the trenches when you were
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  Speaker 1: in school, and so like she did the work, she's
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  Speaker 1: executing and she's living in purpose, on purpose. This young
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  Speaker 1: lady is a fashionista. The lady lady taught me how
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  Speaker 1: to do my eyebrows. I didn't know what an eyebrow
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  Speaker 1: was until this lady talked me. Let us god old
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  Speaker 1: eyebrows left behind. But most importantly, outside of not only
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  Speaker 1: being a wife and a mother, she is the profession
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  Speaker 1: She's a b c BE, a Board certified behavioral analyst. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: so I had to let y'all know what that means
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  Speaker 1: because some people say it and we don't know what
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  Speaker 1: that means. But we're gonna get into it today because
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  Speaker 1: she's gonna teach us and we're gonna learn from her
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  Speaker 1: because she has done the work we gotta understand not
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  Speaker 1: only the aspect.
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  Speaker 4: Of behavior, but specifically.
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  Speaker 1: She specializes in autism and understanding how to navigate those conversations.
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  Speaker 1: So I know me personally, my kJ has autism, and
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  Speaker 1: then Creed, the nephew has autism. And so I'm really
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  Speaker 1: excited to learn from her, really excited for to delve
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  Speaker 1: into her intelligence.
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  Speaker 4: So I want to.
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  Speaker 1: Bring up the beautiful, the wonderful charity flowed.
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  Speaker 2: Girl.
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  Speaker 4: Are you over there typing your life away? No? Oh oh,
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  Speaker 4: why are you laughing.
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  Speaker 2: Good, y'all are best. I'm super super excited that you
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  Speaker 2: invited me to be here. This is my first podcast.
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  Speaker 2: So you talk about you being nervous, baby, I'm nervous.
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  Speaker 4: Why are you nervous?
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  Speaker 2: I don't know. I've never done anything like this. You know,
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  Speaker 2: I get on and I talk my talk online that's
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  Speaker 2: not formal. But you know, I'm just super nervous. But
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  Speaker 2: I know it's gonna be a good time. I know
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  Speaker 2: you'll have some great questions for me. I just hope
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  Speaker 2: that I'm able to give your offering this platform so
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  Speaker 2: that I can, you know, talk and I'm super excited,
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  Speaker 2: but I hope that I'm able to live up to
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  Speaker 2: your expectations.
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  Speaker 4: Maybe you are the expectations.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, it's about to be great because we're about to
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  Speaker 1: have a conversation. One of the things I like about
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  Speaker 1: you charity, especially online, as I was doing my due
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  Speaker 1: diligence and just reviewing your content because you're doing something
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  Speaker 1: different with like fashion and all that stuff like that.
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  Speaker 1: But your heartbeat is your passion for being that behavioral
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  Speaker 1: analyst and dealing with people well, providing an opportunity for
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  Speaker 1: people to learn more about the autism world right, and
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  Speaker 1: I've been in I learned so much from you, just
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  Speaker 1: watching you just being vocal about it, you going into
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  Speaker 1: these different spaces and teaching on it. But one of
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  Speaker 1: the posts that you made, I think this was last
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  Speaker 1: year sometime where you was like, Hey, I'm just a
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  Speaker 1: girl from Georgia, Florida, Alabama, depending on who you ask,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just a girl that just you know, decided to
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  Speaker 1: do this and just passionate about this. Don't I don't
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  Speaker 1: code switch, I don't do all these things that people
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  Speaker 1: want me to do. I'm just me and I'm living
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  Speaker 1: on purpose for purpose. How did you How do you
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  Speaker 1: come to that resolve of I'm in this in this
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  Speaker 1: eloquent field, but I'm just gonna be her.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely, that is an amazing question and something that I
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  Speaker 2: think in the beginning of my career I struggle with
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  Speaker 2: a lot just being myself and feeling like it's okay
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  Speaker 2: to show up as myself. I think in the beginning
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  Speaker 2: kind of just going forward, you know, like, you know what,
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  Speaker 2: let me just show up, let me just beat myself
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  Speaker 2: and see if these opportunities are still gonna present themselves.
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  Speaker 2: And they did. I also find that you know, there's
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  Speaker 2: beauty and authenticity, and people really understand when they feel
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  Speaker 2: and they hear me talk and they feel the passion
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  Speaker 2: that I have for this, everything else doesn't matter anymore,
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  Speaker 2: you know. They how they present, how I present on
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  Speaker 2: the outside, that doesn't matter because they see the passion,
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  Speaker 2: they see my heart. So you know, it's just been
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  Speaker 2: a blessing. And I will say, like, I'm not everybody's
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  Speaker 2: cup of tea. Yeah, And I study is why I'm
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  Speaker 2: so vocal online is because I want people to understand
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  Speaker 2: that what you see this is exactly how I show up.
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  Speaker 2: You know, I know some things that I folks are
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  Speaker 2: sometimes controversy or but I want people to know and understand,
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  Speaker 2: like this is what I believe in, This is who
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  Speaker 2: I am, and when I show up, this is exactly
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  Speaker 2: what you're gonna get. So yeah, I hope that you
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  Speaker 2: know answers the question. I don't plan to stop showing
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  Speaker 2: up as myself anytime soon. Yeah, as a joint.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And I think that's so important because and I
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  Speaker 1: wanted to start with that space because you know, growing up,
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  Speaker 1: we were taught especially as as black strong women.
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  Speaker 4: Because you're a strong woman, you've always let's let's make
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  Speaker 4: this clip. Charity.
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  Speaker 1: You've always we've always known what Charity thought. We've always
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  Speaker 1: been clear on where she stood. There was never any
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  Speaker 1: discretion about that. But but you've been able to take
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  Speaker 1: that tool and be excellent in an area where you've
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  Speaker 1: been purposed for.
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  Speaker 4: And so how does that trans slate for you being.
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  Speaker 1: A business like you're over multiple businesses, but specifically with
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  Speaker 1: I'm thinking about puzzling without patterns. Puzzling patterns because let
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  Speaker 1: me tell y'all, serial entrepreneur, let's let's let's get that
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  Speaker 1: serial entrepreneur.
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  Speaker 4: We got to talk about which business?
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  Speaker 1: This is the business we're talking about, Okay, was that
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  Speaker 1: your actual first business?
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  Speaker 2: My first business was perfect party tail Palace. I was telling,
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  Speaker 2: come on, I don't know if you remember.
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  Speaker 4: I remember that and the microwaves.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, it was like innovative and somebody told my
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  Speaker 2: business idea. Now it was like a very crow wrap around.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, and that's all I saw and it did
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  Speaker 2: really well. But I started patterns and I just did
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  Speaker 2: not have the time, like and I'm all about excellent,
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  Speaker 2: So I wasn't trying to be stack sending nobody's stuff out.
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  Speaker 4: Laid and yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So I just had to stop. That was my first business.
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  Speaker 4: But after that, pus, Okay, I forgot about that. I like,
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  Speaker 4: as soon as you said, I was like, she did
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  Speaker 4: rap around on the tails, I'm screaming, so can let's
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  Speaker 4: let's let's back up.
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  Speaker 1: How do we get into wanting to help kids and
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  Speaker 1: develop children? Because your your is your bachelor's in human development.
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  Speaker 2: My bachelors is in psychology and undergrad is in human
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  Speaker 2: development and family studies. So if we kind of back
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  Speaker 2: up to the whole starting with children, because that's where
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  Speaker 2: it starts for me, is that even when I was younger,
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  Speaker 2: I always loved children. So I was the girl in
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  Speaker 2: church that's like, ooh, canledge your baby? You know, like
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  Speaker 2: just love love children. And then to tie that with
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  Speaker 2: what my mom does. So she is a social worker,
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  Speaker 2: but her job is kind of unique and that she
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  Speaker 2: works with children with especially not directly, but organizing like
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  Speaker 2: things for soldiers who have kids and family members with
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  Speaker 2: special needs. So we would go to like bowling events
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  Speaker 2: and summer camp programs and I would go and I
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  Speaker 2: would be around children with special needs. So that's where
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  Speaker 2: I was like, okay, love with just being around children
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  Speaker 2: with special needs. I can't tell you exactly was, but
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  Speaker 2: I just loved it. So I knew going into college
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  Speaker 2: that I wanted to somehow work with children with special needs.
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  Speaker 2: Was thinking about being a doctor, was like, eh, now,
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  Speaker 2: don't really want to do that, and then kind of
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  Speaker 2: just started looking up different developmental disabilities children and everything
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  Speaker 2: that kept coming up is psychologists. So that's what I
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  Speaker 2: went to school for. I was like, I'm going to
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  Speaker 2: be a psychologist, a clinical psychologist. I started volunteering at
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  Speaker 2: arts and autism and that's where I fell in love
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  Speaker 2: with children with autism. Okay, and so back then, if
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  Speaker 2: you were to google autism, work with you ass me
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  Speaker 2: the only thing that was going to come up as
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  Speaker 2: clinical psychologist. So changed my major to that I was
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  Speaker 2: going to go to grad school. I was going to
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  Speaker 2: get my doctor and be a clinical psychologist. But I
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  Speaker 2: always knew that what I'm reading about what a clinical
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  Speaker 2: psychologist does like diagnose and then maybe have like a
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  Speaker 2: one hour session where we sit and talk. I was like, man,
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  Speaker 2: that's not getting in the nitty gritty for me, Like
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  Speaker 2: that's not getting really doing the work changing their lives.
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  Speaker 2: And ended up finding Auburn University's ABA program like a
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  Speaker 2: week before the applications were due and had no clue
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  Speaker 2: what ABA was found. It applied, got in very rigorous
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  Speaker 2: and competitive program. I think about a thousand applicants and
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  Speaker 2: only twelve people got in. And I was a black
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  Speaker 2: person got in that program. It was an intensive one
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  Speaker 2: year program. And when I say intensive, I mean intensive.
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  Speaker 2: I was very skinny and ball. When I got out,
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  Speaker 2: Lord Jesus got out and uh man, the rest is history.
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  Speaker 2: Like that's we're kind of so I want to say,
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  Speaker 2: I got to give kudos stars and autism. I think
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  Speaker 2: that's what my love for children with our autism started.
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  Speaker 2: That was not an ABA program. That was a we
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  Speaker 2: are working with kids with autism and we're just doing
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  Speaker 2: what we know. We have the therapy. Look, but I
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  Speaker 2: had no method behind my madness. It was just let
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  Speaker 2: me do what I think will work. But that's where
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  Speaker 2: that love came from.
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  Speaker 4: That's so good. I'm glad you're you're allowing me to
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  Speaker 4: answer my questions a little l question the couple. No,
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  Speaker 4: you're doing You're doing good.
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  Speaker 1: Your answers are so good and so needed because now
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  Speaker 1: because it was I saw a post yesterday and it
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  Speaker 1: was then like a then versus now post and the
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  Speaker 1: lady was explaining how were we even when we were
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  Speaker 1: growing up.
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  Speaker 4: How we attacked or managed.
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  Speaker 1: The autism world differently than we manage it now. Like
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  Speaker 1: she was like, oh, she was pointing at like this
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  Speaker 1: picture or whatever, like this is what you need to do.
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  Speaker 1: This is what you need to do versus being more
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  Speaker 1: interactive with the child. And one of the things I
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  Speaker 1: learned about your program is that you treat every child differently.
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  Speaker 1: And so I'm interested in knowing about this ABA therapy
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  Speaker 1: or is.
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  Speaker 4: It ABA therapy or is it a program? Like how
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  Speaker 4: does that? What does that mean?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, absolutely so ABA it stands for applyed Behavior analysis.
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  Speaker 2: And what I like to tell people is that ABA
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  Speaker 2: is just like a set of principles that you use
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  Speaker 2: to teach behavior, to decrease behaviors that are problematic, to
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  Speaker 2: teach skills. It is not tied to just autism. Unfortunately, insurance,
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  Speaker 2: we know insurance, especially in the climate that we're in,
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  Speaker 2: is going to always try to figure out a way
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  Speaker 2: to not pay and they're gonna limit, Okay, you have
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  Speaker 2: to have this, you have to have that for us
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  Speaker 2: to pay for that. And so unfortunately most insurance companies
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  Speaker 2: will only pay for it if they have an autism diagnosis.
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  Speaker 2: But you can use a BA to change your own behavior.
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  Speaker 2: So there are behavior analysts who work in fitness who
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  Speaker 2: work and big corporations to change staff behavior. There are
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  Speaker 2: behavior analysts that work with animals at like a zoo
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  Speaker 2: to teach them how to do specific things. People who
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  Speaker 2: train dogs. They're using a BA, right, wow, Yeah, it's not.
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  Speaker 2: It's just a set of principles that you use to
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  Speaker 2: teach whatever you need to teach. But my particular field
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  Speaker 2: is working with children on the autism spectrum or teachers
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  Speaker 2: or providers, parents, But it is not anything that is
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  Speaker 2: only tied to, you know, just children with autism. Now,
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  Speaker 2: you know, my clinic particularly, we work from age of
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  Speaker 2: diagnosis to eighteen, and we work, we provide what I
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  Speaker 2: call comprehensive services. So most of my kids are getting
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  Speaker 2: twenty to forty hours a week. That's because our goal
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  Speaker 2: is after a couple of years they're leaving us. ABA
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  Speaker 2: is not a forever thing. I want them to go on,
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  Speaker 2: go to school, you know, and not need us anymore.
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  Speaker 2: But we primarily are focusing on, you know, reducing my
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  Speaker 2: adaptive behaviors and helping them increase skills across all domains,
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  Speaker 2: so social skills, self help skills, language, anything that they
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  Speaker 2: really need. If I have a kid that comes in
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  Speaker 2: and I got, hey, mambos, hey you got new glasses,
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  Speaker 2: and he won't wear them, We'll write a program from
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  Speaker 2: scratch to teach him how to wear his glasses, you know.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah. Or I have a kid that's like so
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  Speaker 2: terrified every time I turn on animated movie. We'll write
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  Speaker 2: a program to you know, desensitize so that you can
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  Speaker 2: watch an animated movie at the movie theater and without
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  Speaker 2: freaking out.
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  Speaker 1: You know.
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  Speaker 2: So you tell me what you need, I take these
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  Speaker 2: principal developer program to teach you that.
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  Speaker 1: So this is on a line attached to them going
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  Speaker 1: to like school, like to learn to learn?
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  Speaker 4: Or do you is this there school?
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  Speaker 2: Like? So yeah, So I have a lot of kids
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  Speaker 2: that are not old enough for school yet. Okay, you
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  Speaker 2: know aged was my youngest kid I ever had was
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  Speaker 2: eighteen months right, so age of diagnosis. But what I
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  Speaker 2: do is school is obviously where I want the kid oo, right,
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  Speaker 2: But sometimes I don't know. If you've been in self
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  Speaker 2: contained classrooms, I can walk in a classroom and I
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  Speaker 2: can say this kid is not even benefiting from being
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  Speaker 2: here because they do not have the prerequisite skills necessary
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  Speaker 2: to learn. Right, So what's the point of you being
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  Speaker 2: here if you actually can't even sit down for three seconds? Right?
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  Speaker 2: So in that, you know, in case by case, I'll
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  Speaker 2: do an assessment. Sometimes that assessment is only in clinic.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes I need to go observe the kid at home,
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  Speaker 2: or I need to go observe them at school, and
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  Speaker 2: I might say, Hey, we're gonna pull them from school
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  Speaker 2: for X amount of time. We're gonna work on these
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  Speaker 2: specific goals, and then we're gonna push them back in school. Right.
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  Speaker 2: And then I might have some kids that their level
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  Speaker 2: of autism is so high that school can just not
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  Speaker 2: accommodate their needs for the foreseeable future, and we pull
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  Speaker 2: them and it is a medical service, so you know,
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  Speaker 2: we write a letter in excusing them from school. Technically
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  Speaker 2: they're still enrolled, but they attend ABA, they have their
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  Speaker 2: one to one therapist that is all day that is
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  Speaker 2: focused on implementing their treatment plan.
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  Speaker 1: So and with that case, well, the last case that
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  Speaker 1: you talked about, are y'all working with the school, Like,
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  Speaker 1: are y'all still submitting like the work that they need
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  Speaker 1: to do to graduate or how does that work out?
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  Speaker 2: I would only ever do that for a kid that
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  Speaker 2: is in self contained, and that means that really know,
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  Speaker 2: so they're not giving us any work. Their excuse because
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  Speaker 2: self contained. After a certain year in school, it's kind
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  Speaker 2: of like you go and then you graduate and they
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  Speaker 2: give you a certificate, but it's not a high school
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  Speaker 2: diploma that now I can take and go on to
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  Speaker 2: college right now, if I am working with a kid
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  Speaker 2: where I'm like no, in a couple of years or
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  Speaker 2: in a couple of months, like I want to tie
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  Speaker 2: tripping back, we do work with the school. We go
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  Speaker 2: to all of our kids' IP meetings so that we
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  Speaker 2: can make sure that they're IP goals, they're translated. And
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  Speaker 2: the reality is we usually can teach it faster because
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  Speaker 2: they have a wonder one right and it's literally only
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  Speaker 2: responsible for them the whole day, So they're going to
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  Speaker 2: acquire those skills much faster than if they're in a
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  Speaker 2: classroom with one teacher and fifteen kids that all have
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: different IPS.
• 18:50
  Speaker 1: That makes sense, No, that makes sense, and so and
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: that's why I have you here because it's so many
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: it's more and more people that I'm learning about now
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: that we have the right language, now that we have
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: better resources and the algorithm does what it needs to
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: do for us to find help things, and we have
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: people like you speaking about it. You know what I'm saying,
• 19:11
  Speaker 1: Like Will, I'm still learning how because I want to
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: be the best, the best sister to kJ and Creed
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: and know that they might not be like so far
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: off the spectrum, but they still have it, Like how
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: do I adjust myself? So with that said, like, what
• 19:27
  Speaker 1: does it look like to support not only the child
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: but the family? So what tools do you give the
• 19:33
  Speaker 1: families for children dealing with autism?
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: Absolutely? So you got two sets, right. So I have
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: my parents of children that I surface in their treatment.
• 19:48
  Speaker 2: Parent training is included, right, So not only included is required.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: My parents have to come to parent training at least
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: once per month. In those parent trainings, I am teaching
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: them the strategies, the things that's working here in the clinic.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: I'm teaching them that and I'm teaching them exactly how
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: to do it. I'm also allowing my parents to bring
• 20:07
  Speaker 2: up to come in and be like, look, he started
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: doing this, what do I do? I'm coaching that one.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: This is how you need to be thinking. I'm basically
• 20:15
  Speaker 2: reprogramming their mind to think how I think as a
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: beginner an when I see it, right. But those are
• 20:22
  Speaker 2: the kids that are already in therapy. The biggest issue
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: is I have a wait list of two hundred kids,
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: two hundred plus kids. What about those kids? Right? What
• 20:31
  Speaker 2: about those kids? And how do we help those parents?
• 20:34
  Speaker 2: So a series that I've started and I'm going to
• 20:38
  Speaker 2: pick it back up this year is called while You Wait,
• 20:41
  Speaker 2: and it is targeting the parents who are waiting for services. Okay,
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: I'm on a wait list? What do I do while
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: I wait? And this is me giving strategies to be
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: able to And they can only be general strategies because ethically,
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: I can't tell you exactly what to do with your
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: child when I don't know your child. I have not
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: done an assessment. I cannot do that. But I can
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: give you some general strategies and general tips that should
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: help help to, you know, teach you things while you're
• 21:11
  Speaker 2: waiting for that individual lize service.
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: That's good. I think that it's needed as well. I
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: think this is I think this is good. So now
• 21:22
  Speaker 1: I'm curious about We've talked about your your your program,
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: we talked about we talked about how to help the families.
• 21:31
  Speaker 1: But now I'm curious about Cheerity woman chair. The woman
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: manages a lot. Like I said earlier, you were, uh,
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: your serious serial entrepreneur.
• 21:41
  Speaker 4: You cater to families.
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: I can't even just say children, but you cater to
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: families that are discovering this new level of autism and
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: just navigating that. I wonder how you balance it all, Like,
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: how do you navigate being a business owned her, being
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: a serial entrepreneur, being a wife, being a mother. How
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: how does charity manage it all? And who takes care
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: of charity?
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: Great question. I've been trying to figure that out myself.
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: So I'm gonna start by saying, who you married matters. Okay,
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: I married a wonderful man that allows charity to do
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: a new thing every's two days without complaining. So if
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: that means he eat a TV dinner three times this week,
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: then he's not go plan and that means that sometimes
• 22:38
  Speaker 2: it means he's getting home cook meals sometimes. In me,
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: he is so supportive in everything that I do. I'm
• 22:46
  Speaker 2: not a single married mother, so you know my son
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: is with him right now. So I know some people
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: are like, oh, you know, well, what do you do
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: about your kid? I got a husband who's a dad
• 22:59
  Speaker 2: and wants to be dad.
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 23:02
  Speaker 2: My ABA clinic is in Georgia and I started that,
• 23:06
  Speaker 2: and my home is in Florida. I started that ABA
• 23:09
  Speaker 2: clinic before we had a kid, but I was newly
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: married and I was spending week, the whole week away
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: from him, So you can guess what that means, right, Yeah.
• 23:22
  Speaker 2: And I was tired when I came back because I
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: was working work and working work and working. So I
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: just having a supportive system around you. I could not
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: do this without.
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: That, right.
• 23:37
  Speaker 2: And then systems. I'm really big on systems and I
• 23:40
  Speaker 2: don't just jump into things. So anything that you see
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: me launching has been well thought out. Anything that could
• 23:47
  Speaker 2: be automated has been automated. And I've done the leg
• 23:51
  Speaker 2: work before anybody sees it. So having systems in place,
• 23:55
  Speaker 2: having a team in place, a team that I trained,
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: per vet it. I don't just hire anybody. My family
• 24:02
  Speaker 2: and friends will be like, don't go work there at
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: charity of fire anybody, because I run a street program.
• 24:08
  Speaker 4: And I believe it.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: I run a street program and the standard that I have.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: Everybody on my team, they know that standard and if
• 24:17
  Speaker 2: you're not up on that standard, you gotta go. So
• 24:20
  Speaker 2: having those things in place really allow me to just
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: have the time right and so I'm able to take
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: care of myself and still have time to work out
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: and do the things that I love because of the
• 24:32
  Speaker 2: back the leg work that I did before launching, before
• 24:37
  Speaker 2: opening up, and then also like moving with intention and
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: moving slow. Everybody's like, when are you going to open
• 24:42
  Speaker 2: another clinic? You have a weight list of this, and
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: I'm like, never, never, because I need to be able
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: to get there, be there if something is going on.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: I don't want to have fifty clinics all over the
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: United States and then the quality of service diminish. Right.
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: So systems and having a supportive system around you, supportive
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: people around you is next to none when it comes
• 25:05
  Speaker 2: to really being able to take care of yourself as well.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: And I'm not gonna say I always prioritize me, because
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: that's not the truth. I don't you know, I do
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: prioritize the people around me, and you know, I'm making
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: sure my businesses are taken care of, but I still
• 25:21
  Speaker 2: do have time for me, and it's not like I'm
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: just drowning every day.
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: So with you living in Florida. And because I saw that,
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: I was like, they got the wrong address on here, I.
• 25:35
  Speaker 4: Would trying to say, I was about to say charity.
• 25:37
  Speaker 4: You know, y'all you still got the Georgia address.
• 25:39
  Speaker 1: I didn't realize that you're still like traveling to do that.
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: So what's a typical week look like for you? And
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: the reason And I'm about to be very clear because
• 25:48
  Speaker 1: we have women that it's Women's History Month, right, and
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: so we have women that aspire to do these things,
• 25:57
  Speaker 1: but they feel like it's not attainable to do. And
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: so bringing language and clarity to what that looks like,
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: I feel like is important. So you have these multiple businesses,
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: two of which because Street Sensory is about to be
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: in Georgia too, right m hm. And so like you
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: have these strong businesses that are flourishing. One it's still
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: got Street Sensory is not open yet.
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so play at Sensory Street is opening in the
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: next maybe the construction is being done right now, probably
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: the next Like I hate.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: It opening soon, it looks it's opening soon. But okay,
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: So with with that, what does a typical week look
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: like for you when you're navigating these businesses?
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, Also, I do want to shout out I have
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: an assistant to Her name is Carla, and she actually
• 26:52
  Speaker 2: lives in the Philippines. She's been with me since twenty eighteen.
• 26:55
  Speaker 2: She does a lot of my background, so I want
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: to say that is a big part things as well.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: But typical week, right, So I might let's just say
• 27:05
  Speaker 2: last week, I went down every day, and I do
• 27:09
  Speaker 2: have somewhere that I can stay in Georgia as well,
• 27:12
  Speaker 2: but I don't always do that because my baby's in
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: daycare close to our home. So I'll wake up early,
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: my husband, will you know, help get the baby ready.
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: I'll drop the baby off on my way to Georgia.
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: I'll go to Georgia. I like to be there before
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: or right when the clinic get is opening. If I'm
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: on the floor that week, or if I'm actually like
• 27:32
  Speaker 2: in the clinic not that we that day. This could
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: be supervising technicians, meeting with my two supervisors that are
• 27:40
  Speaker 2: there in the clinic at all times. This could be
• 27:43
  Speaker 2: working directly with clients. If I'm in my office, it
• 27:47
  Speaker 2: could be communicating with insurances It could be writing treatment plans.
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: It could be meeting with my accountant, all the background stuff.
• 27:56
  Speaker 2: Last week it was supervising play its Street, so going there,
• 28:01
  Speaker 2: going to get things that the contractors needed, coming back
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: and forth do all of that have to wrap up.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: Could be meetings with schools as well, and parent trainings
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: with parents. When I wrap up, I need to be
• 28:13
  Speaker 2: back to get my baby before daycare clothes and I
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: don't like for him to be the last one, so
• 28:19
  Speaker 2: I get him and just depending I might. I found
• 28:25
  Speaker 2: the gym that we go to has daycare, so if
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: I want to go to the gym, I could take
• 28:28
  Speaker 2: him with me. He can go to the little daycare
• 28:31
  Speaker 2: and then we come home. I'll get him dinner, get
• 28:34
  Speaker 2: him cleaned up, and then he goes to bit. So
• 28:37
  Speaker 2: that's day today. So in a week, I could be
• 28:40
  Speaker 2: going back and forth every day if I'm working from
• 28:42
  Speaker 2: the home. Then anytime I'm working from home, I always
• 28:46
  Speaker 2: have the cameras up. I'm watching on the cameras the clinic,
• 28:50
  Speaker 2: so I could be doing some supervision there and any
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: background billing. So we work with insurance, so we have
• 28:56
  Speaker 2: to build insurance. Sometimes claims are denied for whatever reasons
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: following up on the not claims. Interviews for new employees,
• 29:06
  Speaker 2: so it can be a lot, it can be a
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: lot of back and forth. But again, I do have
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: supervisors there that I've trained to do some things as well.
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: So like let's just say I've done an interview and
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: then they're coming in for their second interview. I don't
• 29:20
  Speaker 2: necessarily need to be there for that. I can have
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: a person, I can have a supervisor, have that first
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: come in, give them a tour, do the part two
• 29:28
  Speaker 2: of the interview, and I don't make major decisions like
• 29:31
  Speaker 2: who are going to hire by myself. I always include
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: my leadership team in that. So I like for them
• 29:36
  Speaker 2: to kind of get an idea of the new employee
• 29:39
  Speaker 2: or potential new employee.
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: Well, what's your why behind that?
• 29:43
  Speaker 1: Because you I was just about to say something and
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: you just made the point, what's your why behind it?
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: So I think it's not that I don't trust myself, right,
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: but I trust my team. And some times people can
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: see things that you don't see.
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 30:03
  Speaker 2: Sometimes people can it's like getting a second opinion and
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: what I tell my team. So something else unique that
• 30:11
  Speaker 2: I have is that everybody that comes on board is
• 30:13
  Speaker 2: on a ninety day professionary period. After ninety days, everybody
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: that has already passed their ninety days votes. We have
• 30:19
  Speaker 2: a form and it asks different questions about our core values,
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: and then the final question is do you recommend this
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: person to be a permanent part of the team. Right,
• 30:29
  Speaker 2: you can't just put no, I don't like our hair,
• 30:32
  Speaker 2: you know. You can't put something crazy like that. It
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: has to be something of substance. But everybody has to
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: vote yes, and people forget about that, right. But the
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: reality is every single person knows the standard, right, and
• 30:47
  Speaker 2: everybody knows that our goal is that everybody that comes
• 30:50
  Speaker 2: in here makes it past their ninety days. So if
• 30:52
  Speaker 2: somebody's not upholding that standard, and I keep in mind,
• 30:56
  Speaker 2: I've never had a time where only one person that's
• 30:58
  Speaker 2: voted no, it's very one band, one sound. If I
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: got one note, I know more coming. Right. So what
• 31:05
  Speaker 2: it does is it spreads that accountability for everybody. We're
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: all responsible for who comes in this door. And I'm
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: really big about the culture of puzzling patterns being positive.
• 31:16
  Speaker 2: You work. You spend so much time at work that
• 31:19
  Speaker 2: I can't have somebody in there that's messing up the
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: culture right, and so we're all responsible for making sure
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: when we all made that decision together. We can't blame
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: one person, y'all, not just blame the charity. We all
• 31:31
  Speaker 2: see it.
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: So it's almost like when you're doing that's making them
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: more invested in what it is because I think, and
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: it's just a leadership thing, like once people become more
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: invested and they feel like their voice matters, they care
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: about what they're doing across the board. And this is
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: not just with charity's business. That's with any business. So
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: if you're saying, and I think people as leaders, just
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: speaking from a leadership standpoint, are afraid to get to
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: act the voices of their people. But you're saying, like,
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: the reason why I do is because it makes them
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: invested into what I have going on. And I need
• 32:09
  Speaker 1: them to do that because now I can make sure
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: that the clients and the families are properly taken care of.
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: I think that's brilliant.
• 32:19
  Speaker 2: I'm telling you, even policies, right, So if there is
• 32:22
  Speaker 2: a policy something that we have that's just not working,
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: I come to our leadership, our team meeting every two
• 32:28
  Speaker 2: months and I say, okay, y'all, this isn't working. We
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: got this policy. This is what it is. You know,
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: your session notes are supposed to be here at this time.
• 32:37
  Speaker 2: They're getting to me, you know, two days late. What
• 32:41
  Speaker 2: are we gonna do about it? We make our policies together,
• 32:44
  Speaker 2: like there is very small Like you can probably count
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: on one hand the amount of times that I've had
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: to make like an executi decision by myself. And I'm like, yoa,
• 32:51
  Speaker 2: this is what it is. Everything else I'm like, what
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: what do else? Is?
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: Just?
• 32:56
  Speaker 2: And we come up with the policy together I drafted.
• 32:58
  Speaker 2: I send out, hey, everybody, how this look. And that's
• 33:01
  Speaker 2: how policy the implement it. So it's like, y'all chose.
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: So now if somebody's getting written up, which is very rare,
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: you know, but this is the policy y'all chose. Hm,
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: we all we put it on this. So that's the
• 33:13
  Speaker 2: other beauty of just not having investors or not having
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: a big corporation and having multiple is that we get
• 33:19
  Speaker 2: to make our decisions together. I don't have to ask
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: nobody nothing. I make the decisions with my team.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: That's so good with you being an established business owner,
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: I I I just I think I think people think
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: that people wake up are just knew from jump that
• 33:40
  Speaker 1: they wanted to do this, and I found that you
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: stumble upon entrepreneurship. Can we talk about that?
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: Oh gosh, yes, how much time you got?
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: How did how did know that she needed to create
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: a space like this?
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, So Puzzling Patterns came out of a huge, unfortunate,
• 34:07
  Speaker 2: unfortunate situation that I have never talked about anywhere else
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: because I have been trying to figure out how to
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: talk about it without impacting anybody else, because that's not,
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: you know, my goal. Yeah, but I'm going to try
• 34:26
  Speaker 2: to make a long story short in that my original
• 34:29
  Speaker 2: goal was never to open a clinic. In addition to
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: working with the kids, I'm also passionate about training the
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: upcoming b cbas. I want there to be good BCBAs
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: who come after me. And so my ultimate goal was
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: to have kind of like an agency that mainly focused
• 34:44
  Speaker 2: on training BCBAs, and then we would send these bcs
• 34:48
  Speaker 2: out to these rural areas that look to be honest,
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: nobody's moving to Sweetwater, Alabama, Like, but there are autistic
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: kids in Sweetwater, Alabama, and you know who's going to
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: help them. So I was gonna send in there kind
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: of like you go an assignment, you know, and then
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: you come back. That was my ultimate goal. Two ladies
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: contacted me that were in Georgia. Neither were BCBAs, and
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: they wanted to open ABA clinics, but they didn't have
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: a BCBA. You have to have a BCBA to build
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: for services for ABA. So I agreed to be that BCBA.
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: I helped them start every single thing, any kind of documents, insurance,
• 35:28
  Speaker 2: credentially and all of that stuff went through me, but
• 35:30
  Speaker 2: it's not my business, to be very clear, started providing services,
• 35:37
  Speaker 2: ended up catching one of the ladies engaging and billing
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: fraud with my license. Okay. The thing about it is,
• 35:48
  Speaker 2: and I learned a very hard lesson, is that when
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: you work for people that are not certified through your board,
• 35:54
  Speaker 2: they can never be held accountable for your board because
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: the board doesn't care about anybody but their certificates. They
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: don't care about anybody else. They care about who they certified. Right,
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: So though they technically are my supervisors, it's their business.
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: I'm responsible for anything clinical that goes wrong or not
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: following any even if I didn't do it. So immediately
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: terminated services as far as telling her you can no
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: longer reveal with my license, but agreed to continue providing services,
• 36:25
  Speaker 2: but just you can't be on insurance for you do
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: have to pay me for it, but you can't build
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: insurance just so that I can make sure I properly
• 36:31
  Speaker 2: transfer cases. Well, she reported me to the board for
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: abandoning clients, and obviously I thought that they found me like,
• 36:42
  Speaker 2: not guilty of anything she said, but they tacked on
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: something which was me not keeping in contact with the
• 36:50
  Speaker 2: parents of one of the clients I served with her,
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: which was true. I did not keep in contact because
• 36:58
  Speaker 2: the father died by suicide like two weeks after we
• 37:04
  Speaker 2: started services, and mom just kind of went goes. So
• 37:07
  Speaker 2: I just said, you know what, the parent training part,
• 37:10
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna put that on the back burner for right
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: now because y'all got a lot going on. In hindsight,
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: you know, I probably should have still just emailed and
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: let them know whenever you're just so, I had a
• 37:19
  Speaker 2: track worker for me trying to reach out. So I
• 37:24
  Speaker 2: ended up having to do six months of mentorship with
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: somebody who was a BCBA for five years. I could
• 37:33
  Speaker 2: have lost my license like behind that. I was devastated.
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: I one of the ladies kept all of my assessment material.
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: Both of them combined owed me to this day about
• 37:46
  Speaker 2: eight thousand dollars. A close family member, really close family member,
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: wanted to suit them on my behalf, and I thought
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: about it, and then one day I woke up because
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: I was angry. I was so angry because I did
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: this to help them. One day, I woke up and
• 38:03
  Speaker 2: I said, I'm not gonna be mad anymore. I just
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: made an active decision, not anymore. And I said, I'm
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: gonna talk to this lady that I have to talk
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: to every month. I'm gonna ask her questions, I'm gonna learn,
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna just pick her brain because I have to
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: paying for work, so I might as well. And I
• 38:19
  Speaker 2: also told this close family member that I'm also not
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: gonna sue them. I'm gonna let them keep everything. They
• 38:23
  Speaker 2: don't have to pay me any money. I'm just gonna
• 38:27
  Speaker 2: I'm just gonna be done with it, right. And I
• 38:28
  Speaker 2: just decided to not be angry, and in that I
• 38:33
  Speaker 2: decided to start posing matterness because I said, well, I
• 38:36
  Speaker 2: still want to serve as kids in a rural area.
• 38:38
  Speaker 2: That's why my Clinican is in Hinesville, Georgia. And not Jacksonville, Florida,
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: and I started in a daycare. But I only started
• 38:46
  Speaker 2: because I couldn't do what I wanted to do with
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: these two ladies. Now, in hindsight, I believe this was
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: Gouty's plan for me all along, you know, Like I
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: just feel like I had to go through that because
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: what I learned, and that's the away shit has helped
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: me so much in my business now that I almost
• 39:02
  Speaker 2: feel like I need to call them and say thank you.
• 39:06
  Speaker 2: But I talked to that close family member all the time,
• 39:10
  Speaker 2: and I said, you know what, it's crazy. You wanted
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: me to sue them for them like eight thousand dollars.
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: And if I look at my business now, like I
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: really believe that if I would have like pursued that,
• 39:25
  Speaker 2: I would not be where I am. Multiple businesses. We
• 39:29
  Speaker 2: own our commercial building where both of our businesses is ours.
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: We have two renters. We don't postling patterns, play us
• 39:39
  Speaker 2: since the street. We don't need for anything that doesn't happen.
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: If I didn't wake up one day and say I'm
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: not gonna be angry anymore. I'm gonna do what I
• 39:47
  Speaker 2: have to do, and then I'm gonna start this business
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna do with God put me on this earth toitude.
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: So that's how Charity got to start a business. Never
• 39:57
  Speaker 2: my plan, but I truly believe it was always guys.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: Girl, you said, girl girl, can we pause and just
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: praise the Lord like that? My goodness, because if there
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: is something called righteous frustration, and I think that's what
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: if we could define what you just said, righteous frustration
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: led you to entrepreneurship because you were done wrong. And
• 40:26
  Speaker 1: we just had a conversation not too long ago, Desi
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: Rae and I we're talking about we don't get if
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: we're believers, right, Charity. You know, I've always been in
• 40:34
  Speaker 1: the faith and always been vocal by my faith. So
• 40:38
  Speaker 1: if we are believers, Charity, we have a responsibility on
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: how we navigate things. We can't navigate it, just like
• 40:48
  Speaker 1: Susie May. We can't navigate that like oh, I got
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: to act off my emotions. And what blessed me out
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: of what you said, Charity is when you said I
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: woke up and I decided not.
• 40:59
  Speaker 4: To be angry anymore.
• 41:01
  Speaker 1: What do you know what that means, Charity. That means
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: that you took the power that God has invested in
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: you and you said, you know what, emotion lay down emotion.
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: I'm not doing this today, emotion. You won't have authority
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: over me.
• 41:15
  Speaker 4: Emotion.
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: I got a future and a plan that's been predestined
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: for me. So you can sit down, you can.
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: Stay over that anger.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: But what I'm about to do is say, you know what,
• 41:24
  Speaker 1: that eight thousand dollars you can have that you can
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: also have everything else. I blessed you with the time.
• 41:30
  Speaker 1: I blessed you it, and now it's time for me
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: to bless others. That's what I heard. That's exactly what
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: I heard, and it's so motivational for you to even
• 41:39
  Speaker 1: just I don't think and I'm saying this out loud
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: because I don't think you know what you just said.
• 41:45
  Speaker 4: I don't think.
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: No, I don't think you understand the faith behind that,
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: the faith to say, you know what, I'm not gonna
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: be angry no more. How much power resides in that,
• 41:57
  Speaker 1: and how much it has led you to your promise.
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: Absolutely. Oh. Now, one thing that I do You know,
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: when I do talk to people up about this, I
• 42:08
  Speaker 2: always say that that one decision I do think't change
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: the entire trajectory in my life. Just deciding to not
• 42:14
  Speaker 2: be mad, and the decision was so like it wasn't
• 42:19
  Speaker 2: even It's like I woke up and I said, I'm done,
• 42:21
  Speaker 2: like w And I was hardering so much anger in
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: my heart because I had done something with good intentions,
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: great intentions. I mean, I was doing services for them.
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: How insurance works is you don't always get paid real quick.
• 42:35
  Speaker 2: How you do the services right. So instead of me saying, okay,
• 42:39
  Speaker 2: but y'all got to pay me, you know, on biweekly,
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: I said, just wait until insurance page y'all and then
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: y'all can pay me. So I was going. I was
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: traveling there, so I felt so betrayed. They were supposed
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: to put me up in a hotel. I stayed at
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: one of their houses to save them money. These are
• 42:56
  Speaker 2: women who have established businesses already in other fields. I
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: was just a baby BCBA. So I just felt so
• 43:05
  Speaker 2: taken advantage of. And you know, I was, like you said,
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: I was angry. I was hurt. But when I woke
• 43:11
  Speaker 2: up that day, I almost feel like that one day,
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: it was just like like yeah, my heart felt, I
• 43:18
  Speaker 2: felt lighter, and everything changed. Everything changed, so yeah, and
• 43:25
  Speaker 2: I approached so many things like that now, things that
• 43:28
  Speaker 2: are supposed to make me angry. I go back to
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: that moment, like, remember what happened when you decided to
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: not be angry? You know, remember what happened when you
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: didn't let that lay on your heart? Your life changed.
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: So it's very hard for me to stay angry for
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: a long time.
• 43:43
  Speaker 1: Wow, there are that is would you say that's different
• 43:46
  Speaker 1: from you your ten year well charity ten years ago?
• 43:50
  Speaker 4: Man, I know the answer.
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: Girl, And the thing is now. Some people will sometimes
• 44:00
  Speaker 2: confuse me being vocal and you know, like talking about things.
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: I disapprove of what being angry, but trust and believe,
• 44:08
  Speaker 2: trust and believe. Don't what you see me?
• 44:10
  Speaker 4: Right?
• 44:10
  Speaker 2: And if I'm debating, I love a good debate. I
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: love a good debate. I don't see I'm never angry.
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: I'm never I could debate with somebody and I see
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: them I don't harbor anger in my heart. I don't.
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: And that is not charity from ten, fifteen, twenty years ago.
• 44:30
  Speaker 2: It's not you know that was. And if I could
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: tell anybody like young people, don't harbor don't be angry,
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: just don't be angry. Things that have just things you
• 44:41
  Speaker 2: can't change. That was the thing for me it's like
• 44:43
  Speaker 2: you walk around mad still and it's already done.
• 44:48
  Speaker 4: So it's different, it's different.
• 44:51
  Speaker 1: But the thing about it is your delivery, your even
• 44:54
  Speaker 1: your presence. There's a piece about you. There's a piece
• 45:01
  Speaker 1: about you. You're it seems like you're at peace with
• 45:03
  Speaker 1: your marriage, your peace being a mother, You're at peace
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: with your business.
• 45:07
  Speaker 4: You're just at peace with yourself.
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: Just the encounter that I'm having with you right now,
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: like we was talking about before we started recording, like
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: we haven't seen each other in years, talked in years,
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: and you know, people can get get stuck in the
• 45:23
  Speaker 1: identity they knew you as versus giving you room for
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: where you've grown. And there is definitely growth there. And
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: I know that wasn't easy because I know there's some
• 45:33
  Speaker 1: things oh bye blah blah, Oh, there are some things.
• 45:40
  Speaker 1: There are some things that Jessica has had to rid
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: of apologize to herself for, apologize to others for. And
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: just giving people room to grow is very important to me,
• 45:52
  Speaker 1: to show that they have developed in a space.
• 45:55
  Speaker 4: And so I'm proud of you, girl. I'm woud journey.
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: It's gonna journey, it's gonna continue being a journey. I
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: always say this. You know, I think a lot of
• 46:07
  Speaker 2: black women have this story as well. I wasn't raised
• 46:11
  Speaker 2: in a house with a mama who apologized, right, So
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: I love my mom. My mom loves me. But like
• 46:20
  Speaker 2: just the culture sometimes of like you're just doing people wrong,
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: just be like, grow my bad? What was what was
• 46:25
  Speaker 2: I thinking? Like, you know, that just wasn't something. And
• 46:28
  Speaker 2: so I had to teach myself those things, you know,
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: even accountability, those are things that I had to teach
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: myself on being accountable. It is not being weak, right,
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: Apologizing is not being weak. And again when I say
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: that wasn't me so long ago, it wasn't. I had
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: to teach myself that, you know, I would say, probably
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: what yere we in? It started when he eighteen, twenty twenty, Yeah,
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: probably twenty eighteen. Just being more accountable, doing self reflection
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: and being like if everybody is saying this about your charity,
• 47:11
  Speaker 2: everybody ain't lying, Like everybody ain't lion, So you might
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: want to do some self reflection.
• 47:19
  Speaker 1: So yeah, no, that I think the best thing just
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: developing as a woman, Like there's no manual for this, right,
• 47:28
  Speaker 1: there's no manu. Especially I can imagine if your Mama
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: didn't apologize. She also didn't have the gift of letting
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: you know certain things or being vulnerable.
• 47:39
  Speaker 4: Right.
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: Apology require a level of vulnerability and transparency, and that's
• 47:45
  Speaker 1: what people don't want to do. They don't want to
• 47:47
  Speaker 1: show that they're quote unquote weak. But it's not really weakness.
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: I found. I found strength in being transparent and vulnerable.
• 47:56
  Speaker 1: Thank you, Holy Spirit. What I'm hearing to tell you now,
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: I just I gotta be obedient. I heard the Lord say,
• 48:02
  Speaker 1: tell the story, Charity, tell the story. And it's because
• 48:06
  Speaker 1: you are the woman that you are now, and you've
• 48:09
  Speaker 1: developed in that and you've been able to maneuver, and
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: you're not angry.
• 48:13
  Speaker 4: You don't have language for anger.
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: So when you tell your story, it's not going to
• 48:17
  Speaker 1: sound like you're bad to anybody because it's coming from you.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: Your language is connected to who you are, not where
• 48:24
  Speaker 1: you've been. Oh my gosh, thank you Holy Spirit. Your
• 48:28
  Speaker 1: language now. And I even see you writing a book.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: I don't know if you're in the process of writing
• 48:32
  Speaker 1: a book. I don't know if you've been told that,
• 48:35
  Speaker 1: but I almost called you author when I introduced you,
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: because I really feel like even people need to see
• 48:41
  Speaker 1: you in written form, and so I even pray for
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: you right now in that to where because you're so
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: prepared and you're like, how would I navigate that? There
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: are tools, just like you use tools for your business
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: to operate. I believe God would present you tools and
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: avenues to be able to do that. You have a
• 48:58
  Speaker 1: very unique story and your your voice and your language
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: is needed for a time such as this. So I
• 49:04
  Speaker 1: just I want to be obedient and.
• 49:07
  Speaker 4: Put that out.
• 49:09
  Speaker 1: And put that out there like bam, okay, But does
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: a ray up been over here shaking her leg girl,
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: So I'm gonna let I woulda let her say something
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: because this has been I've learned so much sitting here
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: talking to you, and I feel like I want to
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: talk to you more like, oh I got a question.
• 49:30
  Speaker 5: No, this has been really good. What was as I
• 49:33
  Speaker 5: was listening, the Lord was just reminding me, I don't know,
• 49:37
  Speaker 5: he does this a lot about the importance of Jeremiah
• 49:41
  Speaker 5: twenty nine and living right. We said a lot, you know,
• 49:44
  Speaker 5: almost kind of cliches just come on really really simple.
• 49:46
  Speaker 5: But if we if we really understand what it's saying,
• 49:48
  Speaker 5: it's saying the Lord is saying, Hey, I.
• 49:51
  Speaker 4: Have a plan for you. Right. The plan was already
• 49:54
  Speaker 4: set before you even made it to the earth.
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 49:56
  Speaker 5: And a lot of times when we make it here,
• 49:58
  Speaker 5: we we journey through life, we have life experiences, we
• 50:02
  Speaker 5: you know, get interesting things and stuff like that. But
• 50:05
  Speaker 5: I think we talked about this just a couple of
• 50:07
  Speaker 5: episodes ago about the suffering, right, like that comes along
• 50:11
  Speaker 5: with the life that we that we live. But the
• 50:13
  Speaker 5: beautiful thing is that God uses everything, and so it
• 50:17
  Speaker 5: sounds like you he already knew where you were headed.
• 50:19
  Speaker 5: He just used a moment that was unfortunate, that hurt
• 50:23
  Speaker 5: that you know, that had the opportunity to set up
• 50:26
  Speaker 5: some bitterness. But what it did was it just projected
• 50:29
  Speaker 5: you into the path that He had already set out
• 50:31
  Speaker 5: for you. And so now you're walking this path, you're
• 50:33
  Speaker 5: being obedient, you're doing the things that that was already
• 50:36
  Speaker 5: set out for you. And because of that one moment,
• 50:40
  Speaker 5: the decision, the decision that you made to not be bitter.
• 50:42
  Speaker 5: In that moment, God was like, Hi, I can trust
• 50:44
  Speaker 5: her now. And then that he began to to just
• 50:49
  Speaker 5: to to to open the doors. And so it's been
• 50:51
  Speaker 5: really beautiful just to listen and even in the space
• 50:54
  Speaker 5: that you're in. It's so needed, you know, I think
• 50:56
  Speaker 5: we're getting more language now to a lot of diagnos
• 51:00
  Speaker 5: sees that's happening with our children and things like that.
• 51:02
  Speaker 5: And to have people that have a heart, to have
• 51:04
  Speaker 5: the heart of the father, you know, it's one thing
• 51:07
  Speaker 5: to you know, just be interested in thinking, yeah, this
• 51:09
  Speaker 5: is cool, but to have the heart of the father.
• 51:10
  Speaker 5: And you can tell that by the standard that you
• 51:12
  Speaker 5: set with your team, how you how you choose to
• 51:15
  Speaker 5: operate your business, Like that's that's a level of excellence
• 51:18
  Speaker 5: that everybody does not have, and it's needed in this
• 51:20
  Speaker 5: space because of how sensitive the area is that you're
• 51:24
  Speaker 5: working in. So I just thank you for for your
• 51:26
  Speaker 5: obedience and just for sharing your story. Like just said,
• 51:28
  Speaker 5: like the story needs to be heard because there's so
• 51:31
  Speaker 5: many women specifically out there who they're wrestling with this
• 51:35
  Speaker 5: thing right that the Lord that they that they know
• 51:37
  Speaker 5: that they're supposed to be doing, but they're like, I
• 51:39
  Speaker 5: don't know how to do this because you know, I
• 51:41
  Speaker 5: don't have the time, blah blah blah. Well, baby, we
• 51:43
  Speaker 5: just heard from somebody that live in Florida that's driving
• 51:46
  Speaker 5: like multiple times a week with a baby with a husband,
• 51:48
  Speaker 5: with multiple businesses with she's a woman, you know, she's
• 51:51
  Speaker 5: probably in other things as well, and she's doing it
• 51:53
  Speaker 5: by the grace of God, you know. So just thank
• 51:56
  Speaker 5: you for for coming on to the to the platform
• 51:58
  Speaker 5: and sharing your voice with us to day.
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: Thank y'all so much for having me. This has been
• 52:04
  Speaker 2: a wonderful conversation. I don't know, wait, I'm saying that,
• 52:06
  Speaker 2: like we do.
• 52:07
  Speaker 4: Are we doing well? Where towards the ending?
• 52:11
  Speaker 1: Because if I ask you, if I ask you another question,
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: we were gonna be gone for like two hours. Like now,
• 52:17
  Speaker 1: we try to keep it to where like people, because
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: it's always a way to come back.
• 52:22
  Speaker 4: It's always a way to come back.
• 52:24
  Speaker 1: And so Charity, I just want to reiterate what it
• 52:27
  Speaker 1: has already been said, like I'm I'm genuinely proud of you.
• 52:30
  Speaker 4: I am genuinely proud of you like you're.
• 52:33
  Speaker 1: Doing, you are doing some phenomenal things, and I'm just
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: so grateful that you gave just as a yes. And
• 52:42
  Speaker 1: then just to find out this is your first podcast,
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: which I kind of figured it because I was like, oh,
• 52:46
  Speaker 1: she ain't got no interviews or anything like that.
• 52:48
  Speaker 4: So so.
• 52:52
  Speaker 2: A couple of months ago and I just got like
• 52:55
  Speaker 2: so busy. But I'm actually doing one with her next week.
• 52:59
  Speaker 4: Two back, come on.
• 53:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm super excited. This is great. I love chatting.
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: I love talking, so and share a little bit of
• 53:09
  Speaker 2: my story.
• 53:10
  Speaker 4: Yes, because it's only a little bit. That's the gag.
• 53:13
  Speaker 4: It is only only a little bit.
• 53:15
  Speaker 1: So charity as a tradition on just as we like
• 53:18
  Speaker 1: to give our our guests the final word, and if
• 53:22
  Speaker 1: there was something that we didn't say, or something that
• 53:25
  Speaker 1: you want to make sure that they leave with, the
• 53:27
  Speaker 1: time is is now to reflect on that?
• 53:33
  Speaker 2: Oh goodness, let me think. Is this just supposed to
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: be anything?
• 53:39
  Speaker 4: Yeah, anything that's on your heart?
• 53:43
  Speaker 2: Okay, I don't know, y'all have to edit this part out.
• 53:52
  Speaker 4: We don't edit. We don't edit. This is really wrong.
• 53:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, Oh I don't know. I really I don't know.
• 54:04
  Speaker 2: I really don't know what to say that I haven't
• 54:08
  Speaker 2: already said. I'll say this. One thing that I really
• 54:22
  Speaker 2: think is important, and this is in any field, is
• 54:25
  Speaker 2: to really follow your passion. I know a lot of
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: people get into different things because of the dollar signs
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: or the potential for this or the potential for that.
• 54:37
  Speaker 2: And when I went to grad school, One of the
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: first things my professor said is you won't be a millionaire.
• 54:47
  Speaker 2: You won't make a whole bunch of money from being
• 54:50
  Speaker 2: a BCBA, like from being a BCBA and working in
• 54:54
  Speaker 2: a clinic. That's what he said. I didn't receive that.
• 55:01
  Speaker 2: I was like, I don't know what you're talking about,
• 55:03
  Speaker 2: you know, but I didn't get in it for that, right,
• 55:06
  Speaker 2: So I didn't say, well, let me get out of
• 55:07
  Speaker 2: school because I need to make a whole bunch of money.
• 55:10
  Speaker 2: I continue to follow the path that I truly believe
• 55:15
  Speaker 2: was designed for me because I love this work, not
• 55:18
  Speaker 2: because of the money. And I'll just say I think
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: God proved him out to be.
• 55:25
  Speaker 4: A lie, you know.
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: I think that. You know, I've done exceptionally well and
• 55:33
  Speaker 2: that's not because of anything other than following the path
• 55:36
  Speaker 2: that I know God designed for me and following my passion.
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  Speaker 2: So with anything, I don't care if it's being a
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  Speaker 2: garbage man, be the best garbage man you can be.
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  Speaker 2: You might be over a garbage man. And now you're
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  Speaker 2: a millionaire, right, so follow and follow you know what
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  Speaker 2: you are truly passionate about, and the money will come.
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  Speaker 2: The other thing, we'll call.
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  Speaker 4: It aymen that follow the passion.
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  Speaker 1: Listen, this has been I hope you guys take account
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  Speaker 1: to what she.
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  Speaker 4: Has told us today. She's taught us a lot. She
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  Speaker 4: taught us about leadership, taught us about using the tools
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  Speaker 4: to navigate and balance our life. She's taught us about
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  Speaker 4: not being angry. Anger is a choice. Uh huh.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and she landed with allowing us to remember to
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  Speaker 1: follow the passion and not the dollar sign. And so listen,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna be able to feast on this one for
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  Speaker 1: a while because it just motivated me that much. And
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  Speaker 1: so I hope you guys y'all digest this. Leave it
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  Speaker 1: a comment, tell me what you learn today, because I
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  Speaker 1: know I learned a lot. But until next week, until
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  Speaker 1: next time, remember life could be much more simple if
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  Speaker 1: you just ask.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for tuning in to this week's episode.
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  Speaker 1: Since you've made it this far, you might as well
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  Speaker 1: I know I won't see you back until next week,
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  Speaker 1: but until then, remember to love always yourself and always
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  Speaker 1: thank thank God.
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  Speaker 2: For one another day.
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  Speaker 3: Hey, Hey, I know we could be another way. Hey,
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  Speaker 3: pray thank God for another day. Hey, Hey, I'm just thankful.
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  Speaker 3: Another day, Hey hey, Another day, oh, another day wise,
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  Speaker 3: another day to get it right, another day to rise up,
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  Speaker 3: another day living. Another day.
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  Speaker 2: We loved ones.
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  Speaker 3: I always remember, hold it down for a ball one, yuhay,