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- Lisa Dwoskin: Hello and welcome back to Life Rescue Podcast with Lisa. Welcome everyone. Thank you so much for joining. I appreciate all the love and support. And I really want to thank all of you actually call in and talk to me, leave me messages, text me about your stories, what you feel about my different podcasts, and about different topics that you would like to speak about. So I want to thank Tanya. I don't want to mention her last name because she said she doesn't want to mention her last name, but Tanya in South Florida, who wanted me to do a podcast about why we self-sabotage ourselves even when we want so much better for ourselves in our lives. Why do we self-sabotage? So Before we jump into this, I would like to do some grounding work. And I know I'm sometimes most of the time breathing in beautiful positive energy, exhaling out negative energy. But for a moment, I want to do some grounding breath work, which I think will help all of you out there who are self-sabotaging yourself, but you really want better for your life. So let's all put our hands Down on the ground. ⁓ I I'm like I say in every episode, I'm sitting on my Pilates bed right here. I could roll back and forth. I'm putting my hands on my Pilates bed where I lie down. Put them on your seat, on your chair, on your couch, on your floor, mat, ground outside. You can do this later if you want, and watch it outside in the grass with Mother Earth. Close your eyes. Keep your hands down on the ground and just take a long deep breath. Be still. Breathe in beautiful positive energy of mother earth, of grounding, of balancing, of centering. Hold your breath and exhale. Anything that no longer serves your highest good. Breathe in again, grounding, centering, balancing. And just exhale fully. One more time, breathe in as deep as you can, four to five seconds, ground yourself, balance. Hold your breath, exhale fully. Whatever is no longer serving your highest good, take a moment with your hands in prayer position, close to your heart, touching your chest, and just be still for a moment. And then open your eyes. Wow, that felt amazing. That stillness, that quiet moment of just breathing, reflecting, grounding, balancing, centering, it really restores you and your nervous system to a more peaceful energetic state of being, of just peace. So I want you all to take a sip of water. Don't forget we have water, V O L 528 Hertz. Go check it out on our website or Instagram. It's amazing. It really makes you feel uplifted, more positive. It's very healthy for you. It builds immune your immunity, immune system. It's delicious, a tree of life. I love it. Okay, so let's jump into this podcast. Why we self-sabotage? Even when we want better for ourselves, this is a big one for a lot of people. Everyone relates to procrastination. Everyone procrastinates at one point or another in their life, maybe not on a daily basis, but at some point. Unhealthy eating. How many of you eat unhealthy? How many of you eat unhealthy? Seriously. A lot of people do not fuel their body with health and good nutrition, healthy eating. ⁓ this one's big. Bad relationships, toxic relationships. Why do we stay in them when we know they're not good for us? Bad relationships, whether it's with your significant other. Or your family or your friends. It doesn't matter if it's your blood relatives. If it's a bad relationship and it's toxic for your soul, get out of it, get away from it, step back and take some peace for yourself. Fear, fear is a huge, huge one. Fear holds so much of us back, and we self-sabotage. Getting stuck. I did an episode on how to become unstuck. Getting stuck. Getting stuck in the same situation like the hamster and the gerbil in the cage going round and round and never getting out of your comfort zone of switching the direction, changing something in your life to get unstuck. Okay, so this is a very interesting podcast that we are going to talk about, a topic, why do we self sabotage? Excuse me. Let me take a sip of water. Okay. Now I have a fly flying around me. At least I didn't swallow the fly, although that's good protein, they say. Okay, fly, go away. So have you ever wanted something so badly, but somehow you keep getting in your own way to sabotage whatever it is that you want so badly? Of course you have. I answer yes to that question. You're answering yes to that question. We all do it. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of judgment, fear of change. Me personally, I don't fear failure. I don't fear success. I don't fear judgment, but I do fear change. Not I wouldn't really say fear. I just really don't like change too much. I get comfortable eating the same things, doing the same things. I mean I'm exciting and I'm s I'm spontaneous when I need to be and I like to get out of my comfort zone, but moving or ch like big changes kind of like I guess fear is a good word. Fear me. They they make me feel uncomfortable. So it's all about the mindset shift, okay? Small daily actions that we create. will create momentum in our lives. Small little daily actions that we do. ⁓ and I'm missing one of my pages. ⁓ there we go. Okay. I love that I do this live and I never edit and I never start over because hey, I'm real, I'm true, I'm authentic, I'm doing this podcast to share with all of you what I go through in my life. So I'm gonna just keep it real. Okay. So I always talk about the body connection and how we can stop self sabotaging by taking care of ourselves. Okay. Body connection. Energy changes the emotional state. So let me give you an example. Wow. I don't know what is happening with me today, but My throat chakra is blocked. I need a cleansing with my chakras. And I need to do an episode on the seven chakras. But the throat chakra, they say that when it's blocked, you're holding back on speaking your truth to a person in your life or your relationship, your mother, your father, your child, that when something's blocking your throat chakra that you need to speak out and ⁓ that's what I'm doing here, right? So okay, let's get back on track. Sorry. I tend to babble sometimes. Okay, that's why I take notes. Body connection. Exercise changes the emotional state of being. So let's talk about fears. Okay. If you're a person that fears judgment, if you're a person that fears failure if you're a person who feel fears success you need to build your self-confidence because when you can be a more confident person then you're not going to have those fears driving you crazy as much. We all have fears there will always be fears to a certain point in your life but to quiet down those fears or to let go of those fears, you need to build confidence. And how I like to teach confidence in people is strong body, strong mind, strong confidence in yourself in your life and you can tackle your your goals more. So what I like to do is talk about strong body. So when I work out not just walking, I'm saying like walking and I Talked about my fit bit in the last episode. I move my body all the time, but you know what makes me feel really strong? Lifting weights. Especially as a woman, when I'm lifting weights, I'm feeling strong. I'm feeling strength. I'm feeling empowered. I'm feeling unstoppable. And that gives me more confidence. And when I have more confidence, my fears that try to take over my mind tend to quiet down a little bit more. So moving your body, finding something that makes you feel strong within your body will definitely help you to lighten up those fears a little bit and build your self-confidence. Okay. The other thing, huge one, is nutrition. I'm gonna take a sip of water now that I'm saying nutrition and hydration. Hydration is so important. Stay hydrated. Okay, food affects mood, it affects energy, and it affects your anxiety. So if you're feeding your body, and I said this in the last episode, if you're feeling feeding your body junk, you're going to feel like junk. When you fuel your body with good, whole, nutritious foods, you definitely are going to feel better. So it enhances your mood. It reduces your anxiety and it helps you to feel better, look better, which builds your confidence, which in turn quiets down those fears that are so loud. And I'm gonna talk about nutrition in a minute. But before I jump into nutrition, stop waiting. This is what I just wanted to say. I wrote down. Stop waiting to feel ready. to make your life become what it is that you want to become. And what I said at the beginning. We want better, but we're always saying, Well, I'll do it tomorrow, and that's self-sabotage. Why are you self-sabotaging yourself by saying, ⁓ I want to do better, but now is not the time? ⁓ I want to lose weight, but now's not the time. I'll wait till next week. I'll wait till January 1st of next year. Stop self-sabotaging yourself and start today. Stop waiting to feel ready because you will never feel ready. You have to take little steps every single day to move forward on your journey and stop self-sabotaging. Okay, little baby steps. So that's a very important point. When you take on too much too soon, you get overwhelmed, which was my last podcast. is feeling exhausted and overwhelmed, then you don't want to do anything. So little baby steps every single day to get you ready to where you want to be every single day, today. Not when you're ready because that is not going to happen. You're ready today, not tomorrow, not next week, not next month, not next year. Today okay, so I want to get back to nutrition. Food affects mood, it affects anxiety, and it affects your energy. So people are asking me every single day what I eat. And I do want to do a podcast on just nutrition, but I want to go over it for just a couple of minutes. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Do not skip breakfast. If you drive a car and you don't put gas in the car, and I always say this, if you have a Lamborghini and We're all putting gas in our car. So let me rephrase that story. If you have a Lamborghini, which would be nice, right? And you're driving it and it's a powerful performance car, you're not gonna put regular unleaded in it or no gas. You're gonna put Supreme Unleaded, you're going to take care of it, and you're going to fuel the car to perform at its highest level because it's an amazing powerful car. Your body is an amazing beautiful temple. Fuel your body first thing in the morning, not with coffee. You could have coffee, but drink your water first. Some lemon would be great. Drink your water first to hydrate your body, to make your body feel better with non toxic coffee, and then eat breakfast and have your coffee. Then I have one coffee a day. I love it. I'm not giving up my one coffee, but Fuel your body with breakfast. Your body needs fuel to fuel your mind to feel better to reduce the anxiety, increase the energy, give you more confidence so that you can conquer whatever it is you want to do. So stop self-sabotaging yourself by underfueling your body. Whoa, that was a tongue twister, but you got my message. So, okay, that's breakfast. So then to go on a little bit more with my eating, every two to three hours I fuel my body. The second thing I have is a protein shake. Whether I worked out in the morning, worked out at night, I have a protein shake between breakfast and lunch. For lunch, I have to have carbs, protein, fat, all of the above. I don't cut my carbs. Because when I cut my carbs, I go in a brain fog, I have no mental clarity, my body doesn't have energy, I feel low, low, low, and I'll start self-sabotaging myself. So in order for me to go forward with my goals and get everything done that I need to get done, I have to fuel my body. Now, those of you who are afraid of carbs, I'm gonna do another episode on that. But keep the carbs lower at night if you're afraid of carbs. Have carbs for breakfast, have carbs for lunch. Okay, you need them for energy. Between lunch and dinner, I have another snack, either a protein bar. There's so many protein bars. I'll put it in the comments. The different protein bars that I eat. Be careful of the sugar. I said this in the last episode. Keep your sugar levels low. Because sugar is the enemy. So I have a protein bar, or I'll have an apple with some almonds, or an apple with some peanut butter, or banana with some peanut butter. I have protein in every single meal. Probably five to six six sex. ⁓ what what? Huh? Okay, I'm back. Now sex is good too. Sex is good for your confidence, it boosts your energy. Make sure you're having a lot of good sex with your partner, not multiple partners every day. I don't suggest that, but with your partner or whatever. Okay. See what I mean? I ramble on sometimes. That caught me off guard. Okay, six, not sex. Five to six meals a day is what I like to have. Protein in every single meal. Ladies, listening. Protein is going to give you more lean muscle, is going to help your body with osteoporosis, with longevity of life, with menopause, with mood, with energy, all of the above. Protein is essential if you're over the age of 30, with which most of you are watching me. Protein, super important. Okay, and then for dinner, more protein. Usually for dinner if I have carbs I'll have a fistful, a tiny fistful of pasta or rice with salmon. I love salmon, but not every night. Chicken, lean turkey meat. ⁓ do I eat red meat? Yes, I do. Not every night either. Once, twice a week. ⁓ I eat a lot of lean turkey meat, a lot of chicken. So that's pretty much it with my eating. But the reason why I'm going over nutrition so much here, I firmly believe that the way we fuel our body, definitely 100%, not only do I believe scientifically prove it, it affects your mind and your mood. And when your mind is in a better place and your mood is elevated and you're raising your energetic vibe, you're going to build your confidence. Which is going to help you get where you need to go with your goals, with your dreams. You need the energy. You have to fuel your body, which fuels your mind, which fuels your confidence, which helps you to stop self-sabotaging. You got that? So remember, stop waiting to feel ready and do it today. That is all I have to say. And I'm a poet and didn't even know it. Okay, I'm in a silly mood. And I gotta run because I'm going to yoga now. So namaste, everybody. I hope you had a beautiful, beautiful day today. I hope you are having a beautiful day. Will have a beautiful day. Bless you all. Breathe in. Peace, love, and light. Exhale negative stress, fear, or worry. Call me 754-222-4413. Thank you, Tanya, for asking me to do this one on self-sabotage. I enjoyed it. I hope all of you did. Please put comments on my podcast. Like it, share it with a friend, and let me know what you liked about this or did not like about it. Okay, I hope you have a beautiful day and I will see you next time on Life Rescue with Lisa. Bye.