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The Power of a Mindset Shift: How to Change Your Life | Dr Sam Adeyemi · The James Granstrom Podcast - Super Soul Model series

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SPEAKER_02: Sometimes, when you feel stuck and you have no idea what's going to happen next or how things are going to work out, all you can do is listen to that quiet voice within.
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SPEAKER_02: Trust your intuition, say a prayer, and take the next step.
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SPEAKER_02: And sometimes that's where the most extraordinary journeys begin.
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SPEAKER_02: I hope this conversation and story inspires you to trust your own journey too.
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SPEAKER_02: Hello and welcome to the James Grantstrom Podcast Super Soul Model Series.
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SPEAKER_02: Today I am joined by Dr.
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SPEAKER_02: Sam Adayeme.
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SPEAKER_02: Sam is a global speaker, strategic leading expert, minister, and best-selling author who, for more than 25 years, has helped millions of people transform the way they think, lead, and live.
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SPEAKER_02: More than 52,000 people have graduated from his leadership school, and his work is centered around a powerful idea.
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SPEAKER_02: When we shift our mindset, we can begin to see possibilities and we become those possibilities.
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SPEAKER_02: He's the author of Shifts, Six Steps to Transform Your Mindset, which came out last year, and Dear Leader.
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SPEAKER_02: He holds a doctorate in strategic leadership from Regents University.
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SPEAKER_02: And what interests me most about Dr.
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SPEAKER_02: Sam is the deeper question behind his leadership.
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SPEAKER_02: Who do we become as we grow, succeed, and take responsibility not only for ourselves but for others?
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SPEAKER_02: So it's a real pleasure to welcome this week's guest, Sam.
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SPEAKER_02: Thank you so much, James.
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SPEAKER_02: It's a pleasure to be here.
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SPEAKER_02: You know, Sam, you have reached millions of people.
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SPEAKER_02: You're helping so many people.
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SPEAKER_02: And it's phenomenal to watch your journey and see how many people you've managed to contribute and help transform.
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SPEAKER_02: How did this whole journey start for you?
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SPEAKER_02: And where did it start?
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SPEAKER_01: Right.
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SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much.
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SPEAKER_01: My journey started in Nigeria, middle belt of Nigeria.
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SPEAKER_01: My dad was uh a civil servant.
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SPEAKER_01: He was working for the government.
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SPEAKER_01: The first 10 years of my life was there.
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SPEAKER_01: It was quite a bit of a remote place because there were no TV signals where we lived the first 10 years of my life, right?
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SPEAKER_01: So you appreciate where the journey started.
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SPEAKER_01: When I was 10, then we moved to a bigger city.
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SPEAKER_01: Uh my dad had resigned and started his own construction business.
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SPEAKER_01: Now, my granddad was the leader of people in the building industry in my hometown.
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SPEAKER_01: My dad was a building contractor.
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SPEAKER_01: So naturally, I studied civil engineering, right?
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SPEAKER_03: Yes, naturally, naturally, following family factors, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I practically grew up on construction sites.
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SPEAKER_01: So I was going to go in that direction.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, did civil engineering in college.
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SPEAKER_01: It was like my place was waiting for me in my dad's company.
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SPEAKER_01: I wasn't going to have to apply for any job.
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SPEAKER_01: The problem was by the time I was through college, the company was nowhere.
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SPEAKER_01: The company had crashed.
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SPEAKER_01: The economy was so bad, it wasn't getting contracts.
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SPEAKER_01: So I had to search for a job.
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SPEAKER_01: And that was my first rude awakening.
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SPEAKER_01: Family was in a very difficult place.
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SPEAKER_01: My dad was struggling to pay rent.
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SPEAKER_01: I remember the day I went with him to the court because the landlord had taken him to court for not paying the rent.
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SPEAKER_01: And then I had to search for a job, and the job was not coming.
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SPEAKER_01: Six months, one year, one and a half years.
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SPEAKER_01: I was I was scared.
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SPEAKER_01: The future looked bleak because I didn't even have a starting point, so to speak.
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SPEAKER_01: How old were you at this time, roughly?
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SPEAKER_01: What sort of age were you?
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SPEAKER_01: 21.
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SPEAKER_01: 21.
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SPEAKER_01: 21.
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SPEAKER_01: So my mind was searching: is there any system, any principles, any steps that can that one can take and be sure that one would succeed?
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SPEAKER_01: And that was when one day I was at a bookstand and I saw this used book titled Tough Times Never Last, but Tough People Do.
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SPEAKER_02: Oh, love it, love it.
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SPEAKER_02: That's a great title, right?
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SPEAKER_02: What a great title.
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SPEAKER_01: Robert A.
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SPEAKER_01: The book was a turning point for me because it shifted my mind.
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SPEAKER_01: There's one statement I'll never forget from the book.
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SPEAKER_01: Attitudes are more important than facts.
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SPEAKER_01: It was a brain fister for me, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I knew what I was going through.
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SPEAKER_01: Things were rough, things were bad.
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SPEAKER_01: And you're telling me attitudes are more important.
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SPEAKER_01: Attitudes that I can't see, I can't.
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SPEAKER_01: What are you talking about?
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SPEAKER_01: My problem is my problem.
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SPEAKER_01: So I had to read it over and over, read through the book, and eventually I got it.
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SPEAKER_01: What you're thinking, how you're feeling, they are more important than what is happening to you.
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SPEAKER_01: Because ultimately they control what will happen to you.
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SPEAKER_01: So I began to read books like that, and that was a huge turning point.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, so eventually I got a job as a site engineer on a construction site.
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SPEAKER_01: And at the same time, I was very active in my church.
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SPEAKER_01: So I was made the leader of the youth group.
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SPEAKER_01: Uh I think more because it helped me to display my leadership and management skills.
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SPEAKER_01: I wasn't quite aware of them at that time, but I just found it really, really uh exciting rallying young people together and telling them, let's take this city.
5:29
SPEAKER_01: So we were that's nice.
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SPEAKER_02: So you felt like you were contributing at some early level of your, you know, your career.
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SPEAKER_01: Yes, I was and that would eventually influence the trajectory of my life quite a bit because I did only eight months on the construction site and resigned.
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SPEAKER_01: And the day I was leaving, they had this small party for me, and my director said, uh, Mr.
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SPEAKER_01: Adeame, well, thank you for the time you spent with us.
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SPEAKER_01: I'm puzzled though.
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SPEAKER_01: Why should a young man like you, with a very brilliant career ahead of you, leave all of this and go into religion?
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SPEAKER_01: And I said, Thank you so much for the care and the love.
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SPEAKER_01: I have found an area of life where I function like a computer.
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SPEAKER_01: That's how I put it then.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, it felt interesting.
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SPEAKER_01: I put it then.
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SPEAKER_01: I said, I think it's better invest my life there.
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SPEAKER_01: I said, Don't worry about me.
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SPEAKER_01: You will hear about me in a few years' time, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I was so sure.
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SPEAKER_01: I like that.
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SPEAKER_02: I like that.
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SPEAKER_02: Right?
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SPEAKER_02: I like the confidence already, you know.
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SPEAKER_02: You put 21, 22, and the confidence.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, I love it.
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SPEAKER_02: Love it.
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SPEAKER_01: So looking back now, I realized what was happening.
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SPEAKER_01: What I was doing in church was tapping more into my gifts, right?
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SPEAKER_01: That area where you put in the effort that the average person puts in, but you get extraordinary results.
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SPEAKER_01: It was the leadership, it was the management.
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SPEAKER_01: And then teaching is actually my number one calling, my number one gift.
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SPEAKER_01: I like to I like to read, I like to gather information, to distill it into simple steps that people can take to transform their lives.
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SPEAKER_01: So the position that opened up in church was they called it director of pastoral care.
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SPEAKER_01: My church had over 20 branches then, and they wanted someone to manage all to oversee.
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SPEAKER_02: Did you see still in your local town or was it in a biggest city?
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, yeah, it was my still in my local town.
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SPEAKER_01: Right.
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SPEAKER_01: And then some five months later, I was posted to Lagos, which is the largest city in Nigeria.
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SPEAKER_01: And because our church was going to start a church, then I was 24, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I was 24, and I was posted to this huge city to go start.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, how far away was the city from where you lived?
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SPEAKER_01: Uh, about four hours drive.
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SPEAKER_02: So it's it's like, you know, if you're in the states, that's like an like another state, right?
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SPEAKER_02: And if you're in the UK, it's like, wow, it's like London, Durham, or something like that, you know, whatever.
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SPEAKER_01: Exactly, exactly.
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SPEAKER_01: So uh so in the city, yes, I did that for four years, and then had this strong inspiration.
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SPEAKER_01: I was I was feeling like I was getting stuck, and then I I had to pray.
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SPEAKER_01: I told my wife, you're gonna join me and pray.
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SPEAKER_01: It's too early for me to get stuck.
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SPEAKER_01: There's got to be a next level, right?
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SPEAKER_01: And and one day I woke up and it was clear, this huge inspiration, that the next level was gonna be around my teaching gate, and I should go on the media and teach people basic principles for success.
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SPEAKER_01: So I went on radio, right?
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SPEAKER_01: It was a crazy move, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I did not know how it was gonna happen.
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SPEAKER_01: I did not know anyone was running a radio broadcast, and but I was just so sure about it.
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SPEAKER_01: Uh I relay that experience because it was also a huge turning point for me.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, so I had this love for teaching, and I was praying, Lord, why don't people invite me to speak at conferences?
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SPEAKER_01: Especially the churches.
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SPEAKER_01: They pray to you and ask you to inspire them on who to invite to speak.
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SPEAKER_01: Why don't you give them my name?
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SPEAKER_01: So, in my ignorance, and this was God's answer, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Once and I just mentioned it in church, guys.
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SPEAKER_01: I have this big idea to go on radio, so don't be surprised to hear my voice.
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SPEAKER_01: And these two gentlemen came after me right after the service and said, Can we see you for a few minutes in your office?
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SPEAKER_01: They worked at one of the leading advertising agencies in Nigeria.
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SPEAKER_01: Let's talk about your idea.
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SPEAKER_01: What do you have in mind?
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SPEAKER_01: And they said, Can you give us two weeks?
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SPEAKER_01: They did their research, came back with a report with graphs and charts, all the radio stations people listened to in Lagos, the percentages of women and children that listened and made their recommendation on the one to go on.
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SPEAKER_01: And then they took me into the studio and and they drilled me, right?
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SPEAKER_01: We produced a professional show.
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SPEAKER_01: It was a hit from the scratch.
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SPEAKER_01: Wow.
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SPEAKER_01: And the answer to my question, why were people not inviting me?
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SPEAKER_01: Because the invitations began to pour in for me to speak.
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SPEAKER_01: And I found out they did not invite me because one, I was focused on myself and how to succeed.
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SPEAKER_01: And there was that wasn't going to come until I shifted the focus and put it on other people.
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SPEAKER_01: Two, people did not know my name.
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SPEAKER_01: Three, they did not know my message, right?
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SPEAKER_01: So they didn't know what to invite me for.
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SPEAKER_01: But the moment all of that came together, it was boom.
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SPEAKER_01: And that was 31 years ago.
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SPEAKER_02: Wow.
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SPEAKER_02: So how old were you?
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SPEAKER_02: Were you were you were you 24, 25 at that time, Sam?
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SPEAKER_01: No, I was 28 when I started the broadcast.
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SPEAKER_02: But I love the download, I love the the inspiration.
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SPEAKER_02: You know, whether you're a musician, an author, a speaker, you know, whatever line of work you're in, whatever line of work, when you receive that inspiration to, I need to do this.
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SPEAKER_02: I mean, it's so clear, right?
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SPEAKER_02: But you have it's quite scary at the same time, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
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SPEAKER_01: The when they told me what it would cost for production and airtime for the first quarter, I was scared.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I just couldn't say I was the leader at the meeting, so I couldn't say I was scared.
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SPEAKER_01: I just said, no problem.
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SPEAKER_01: My salary was my salary was like was less than 10%, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Of that amount.
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SPEAKER_01: So I had no idea how to even raise that kind of money.
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SPEAKER_01: But the money came.
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SPEAKER_01: The first thing I did was I got home, I wrote radio broadcast, wrote the amount on a small card, postcard, and I used cellulotip to tape it on the wall in my bedroom, just so I could be seeing it every day.
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SPEAKER_02: Love this.
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SPEAKER_02: I want to talk to you about this in a little bit more detail.
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SPEAKER_02: But um I I'm I'm fascinated by the receiving of the idea, and then I'm absolutely going for it.
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SPEAKER_02: Because I think a lot of people listening or watching, you know, sometimes think, is that yeah, have I received a good idea?
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SPEAKER_02: Is that a good idea, you know, or or you question it.
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SPEAKER_02: And for you, you had real clarity there.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that that's a major point, James.
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SPEAKER_01: That's a major point.
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SPEAKER_01: And it's in the fact that it was it is intuition at work, right?
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SPEAKER_01: And that's why it's so easy for us to ignore it, right?
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SPEAKER_01: It's easy for us to doubt it.
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SPEAKER_01: However, intuition plays a huge role in our decision making uh because uh there's just such a huge limit to what we know.
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SPEAKER_01: There's such a huge limit to what we know of the present, not to talk of the future.
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SPEAKER_01: So we need to learn to pay attention, we need to learn to have time for deep reflection, time for being quiet.
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SPEAKER_01: I I've been amazed at the ideas I have received while on vacation.
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SPEAKER_02: Yeah, you know, this word receive, because I think this is a really important word, you know.
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SPEAKER_02: You receive an idea, you receive like direction.
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SPEAKER_02: But if you're always busy, busy, busy, you're never going to receive anything.
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SPEAKER_02: You know, like I've been meditating for 22 years every single day.
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SPEAKER_02: I've created space in my mind to receive.
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SPEAKER_02: This podcast came and started, it's nearly seven years old.
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SPEAKER_02: I've had some of the most incredible guests, you included, on this show, that keep pouring in, keep coming in.
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SPEAKER_02: And it just started as an idea, I have to do this.
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SPEAKER_02: But I was a bit late.
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SPEAKER_02: I didn't listen to my intuition when I first got it, which was in 2008.
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SPEAKER_02: I didn't start till 2019.
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SPEAKER_02: Whoa.
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SPEAKER_02: And it was only when I've told this story, but I'll tell you because it's quite fun.
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SPEAKER_02: Is I was swimming in the pool with a friend's son who's wanting to go professional in swimming.
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unknown: Right.
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SPEAKER_02: And they said, Oh, the the parents were right there who are good friends of mine.
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SPEAKER_02: And and he said, just watch him do a tumble turn, watch him do the turn at the end.
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SPEAKER_02: And I said, All right, and then I I did mine and he did his.
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SPEAKER_02: And little Sante just absolutely nailed it.
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SPEAKER_02: But I hit my head right in the middle of my forehead.
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SPEAKER_02: But as soon as I hit my head, it was almost as if I got this like bump, which was like, you need to do this now.
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SPEAKER_02: And I I knew as clear as day that it was time to start the podcast, and I had no idea, I did not know who to interview, I did not know what to talk about, but I knew that this needed to happen, and it needed to happen really soon.
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SPEAKER_02: And within one week, I met somebody who invited me on a podcast.
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SPEAKER_01: Wow!
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SPEAKER_02: And I was like, and and they said, I want you to talk about your experience with meditation because you know you've managed to turn your life around just by sitting still, and I was like, okay.
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SPEAKER_02: And little by little it began, and I managed to find out a way.
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SPEAKER_02: And I think this is really powerful for anybody tuning in to this episode.
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SPEAKER_02: It's it seems as though when you receive an idea like you did, it's just like, really?
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SPEAKER_02: But it's kind of like you need to do this, you need to do this, and and even though you don't know how, the way will be made, but you've got to kind of have the courage to just show up, and your story is just one of pure courage, right?
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SPEAKER_02: Moving cities, you know, four hours.
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SPEAKER_02: You know, that's just it goes on and on.
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SPEAKER_02: So I really I really resonate with that.
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SPEAKER_01: Wow.
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SPEAKER_01: So these I'm fascinated by your own experiences with meditation.
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SPEAKER_01: Because it seems to be like a lost art.
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SPEAKER_01: The world is getting busier and busier, more and more distracted.
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SPEAKER_01: And you're so concerned for young people these days because I said to myself, it looks like they see in five days what we saw in five years, right?
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SPEAKER_01: So, you know, so 20, 30 years ago.
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SPEAKER_01: So there's a lot of distraction, and yet in the midst of everything, it's like we have radio waves, we have television waves in our rooms right now.
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SPEAKER_01: Right.
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SPEAKER_01: But we also have thought waves.
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SPEAKER_02: Right.
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SPEAKER_02: We also have thought waves.
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SPEAKER_02: Sound waves.
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SPEAKER_02: And the thought, the thought waves are if you have like a thought waves of positive energy, of good feeling thought, right?
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SPEAKER_02: Or even zero thought, which means you just got you create presence, then in your home or your room, it creates this peace.
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SPEAKER_02: And if we have a room for where we just sit still, you'll when someone walks in there who's not who doesn't live with you, they'll go in that room and they'll be like, oh, this feels really nice in here.
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SPEAKER_02: And you'll be like, Oh, this is the room where I sit still, or this is the room where I pray, or this is the room where I'm just relaxed.
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SPEAKER_02: That's why we have always loved going to places of outstanding natural beauty because it's gone from waves of care and beauty and love and craftsmanship.
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SPEAKER_02: I'm fascinated by this.
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SPEAKER_02: And you could be you could be anywhere in the world, and yet somebody still does that.
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SPEAKER_02: It's you you feel it, right?
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SPEAKER_02: And I think I think, as you said, intuition it is so powerful, but tuning into it is amazing for your business and amazing for your life.
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SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
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SPEAKER_01: You know, it's like you tune in, you flipping channels on the TV or tuning the channel of the radio.
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SPEAKER_01: Then once you get on the frequency, it's a download.
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SPEAKER_01: So the powerful ideas are there, powerful inspirations are there, but but we need to find that place where we can be still.
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SPEAKER_01: I wrote some of my books, Sitting by the Atlantic Ocean.
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SPEAKER_01: Wow, the effect is just amazing, difficult to describe.
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SPEAKER_01: Nature is just so powerful, right?
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SPEAKER_01: I I my latest book, I wrote many of the chapters in the air while flying, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Because of the solitude that it provides.
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SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
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SPEAKER_02: Can I just say something about this?
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SPEAKER_02: I love you having this conversation.
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SPEAKER_02: You brought it up because I've really thought about this so many times, and I'm due to fly really shortly.
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SPEAKER_02: Whenever I'm flying, I see it as an opportunity to be really creative with your mind because it's you're kind of higher in altitude, which means there's lower thought form up there, meaning not many thoughts, other than the people you're flying with.
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SPEAKER_02: But I have had uh some ideas when I've been flying that have been absolutely phenomenal, and they've come to pass.
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SPEAKER_02: So when you said you were writing in the sky, I'm gonna take my laptop and I'm because I'm writing a book right now and I'm just wrapping it up, and I'm thinking this could be an opportunity to to use your formula as well, because there's something about being very high and being close to, you know, some people would say closer to God, closer to spirit, yeah, but you're closer to this purity, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Honestly, I I usually uh say humorously that it looks like up there I'm closer to God because how come I'm able to download beautiful ideas up there?
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SPEAKER_01: And uh this idea of taking a break, taking a vacation, I had an unusual experience.
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SPEAKER_01: The first time my wife and I traveled together out of Nigeria, she had been out of Nigeria, but I had never been.
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SPEAKER_01: And it was to the UAE, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Some 26 years ago or so.
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SPEAKER_01: And I found out I just woke up one morning, I was meditating, I read some passages in the Bible, I had a question I was asking God, and so, and then I just got this download, right?
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SPEAKER_01: Like, when you get back to Nigeria, do this, and our church, uh, which both of us founded together, was uh going to be five years old in a few months.
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SPEAKER_01: So the question on my mind was so what should we expect for our sixth year?
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SPEAKER_01: The download that I got laid out three years, all was gonna happen in three years, and gave just a simple instruction.
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SPEAKER_01: When you get back home, create another service, move the services from one to two.
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SPEAKER_01: When we did it, the two services filled up in six weeks.
20:41
SPEAKER_01: Wow, that's quick.
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SPEAKER_02: How many people in those services, roughly?
20:46
SPEAKER_01: So uh let's say about 600.
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SPEAKER_01: Okay, so we're talking about a great number of people, right?
20:53
SPEAKER_01: A great number of people, so so the two services filled up in in six weeks.
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SPEAKER_01: So we had to start a third service because 30 minutes, right?
21:06
SPEAKER_01: No, right?
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SPEAKER_01: That was at all.
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SPEAKER_01: This this an out of the box idea altogether.
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SPEAKER_01: So we had to start the third service, and the three services packed out in about six weeks.
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SPEAKER_01: So we had to start the fourth service.
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SPEAKER_01: So we moved from running one service to running four services in just 10 months.
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SPEAKER_01: Wow.
21:30
SPEAKER_01: One idea that just came when I was not busy, right?
21:35
SPEAKER_02: So, what were you doing when you were not busy?
21:37
SPEAKER_02: It was vacation, just a little vacation.
21:39
SPEAKER_01: Just you know, staying, going shopping with my wife and whatever.
21:44
SPEAKER_01: And and I this day I just woke up in the morning and I was in that meditation mode, and it was just boom.
21:52
SPEAKER_02: Yeah, amazing.
21:53
SPEAKER_02: And I think that there's something about this, it's actually being receptive enough to be able to go, hey, that is something.
22:00
SPEAKER_02: That is something I I've got to do.
22:02
SPEAKER_02: But why is it that sometimes we won't listen to our gut or we won't listen to our intuition?
22:08
SPEAKER_01: Well, it's because all the other senses that we have, the five senses that we have, are supplying data at the same time.
22:16
SPEAKER_00: That's interesting.
22:18
SPEAKER_01: And they're supplying data from reality.
22:21
SPEAKER_01: I had someone say yesterday that your brain receives about 11 million signals in a minute.
22:28
SPEAKER_01: Right?
22:28
SPEAKER_01: That's why we have the RAS, right?
22:31
SPEAKER_01: The reticular articulating system at the back of the brain, and its job is to filter.
22:37
SPEAKER_01: Right?
22:37
SPEAKER_01: But what it filters depends on what we programmed already, what we accepted as normal already, you know, our values, our vision.
22:48
SPEAKER_01: So it screens out everything else.
22:52
SPEAKER_01: So we have a lot of stimulation, a lot of things coming at us uh in a minute, and they uh most of them are coming from the five senses, and they call the intuition the sixth sense, uh you know, because it's not based on reality, it's just abstract.
23:12
SPEAKER_01: That's why we tend to ignore it.
23:14
SPEAKER_01: So, like you said, we actually need to be in that state where we can receive, and it requires a lot of stillness.
23:23
SPEAKER_02: You know, there's there's something that you mentioned I think is really powerful for us to just acknowledge and be mindful of, which is stimulation, too much stimulation.
23:34
SPEAKER_02: And you you were talking about young people, and I know you have a you've done so many wonderful talks talking about young people, bringing them into the company and saying we can learn stuff from them.
23:46
SPEAKER_02: But there's also some things that the people who've been around can teach you as well.
23:52
SPEAKER_02: So it's about learning both ways.
23:55
SPEAKER_02: But stimulation for young people can a lot, scrolling, et cetera, et cetera.
24:01
SPEAKER_02: How do you feel that you could help the next generation with some of the things that you've learned?
24:06
SPEAKER_02: Because you were once, you know, that 20-something who was trying to figure things out and yet you managed to figure it out.
24:13
SPEAKER_02: How could we talk to somebody who may be tuning in or listening, thinking, hey, listen, this is this is a path.
24:18
SPEAKER_02: This is some practical advice.
24:21
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
24:22
SPEAKER_01: So the the first thing I like to say to a young person is listen, there's hope.
24:29
SPEAKER_01: It you're absorbing so much now, and it looks like the whole world is crashing, right?
24:35
SPEAKER_01: There are wars and so on.
24:38
SPEAKER_01: It's always been like that, right?
24:41
SPEAKER_01: This world works in cycles.
24:43
SPEAKER_01: You check the seasons, it's cycles, and they are predictable, they don't change.
24:48
SPEAKER_01: Uh, I know a lot of things are changing around, especially technologically, but it's not everything that is changing.
24:54
SPEAKER_01: You just look at the sun in the sky, it's been there for millions of years.
24:57
SPEAKER_01: It's the same one, okay?
24:59
SPEAKER_01: Same more.
25:00
SPEAKER_01: Some things are not changing.
25:02
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, that's true.
25:03
SPEAKER_01: Okay, so um in my book, Shifts.
25:10
SPEAKER_01: There's a reason why I wrote this book.
25:12
SPEAKER_01: I wrote this book because I found out that most transformation efforts in our world don't work, they fail.
25:20
SPEAKER_01: A lot of people made new year resolutions as we came into this year.
25:24
SPEAKER_01: The scientists say 90% of the resolutions fail within the first 60 days of the year.
25:31
SPEAKER_01: Why?
25:33
SPEAKER_01: And I found out it's because we humans are, I say, programmable.
25:40
SPEAKER_01: Okay, this is how they describe it, the psychologists.
25:44
SPEAKER_01: They say when the thought is fresh on your mind, maybe you're learning how to swim or you're learning how to drive or you face a new problem, your mind goes to work trying to create a solution or to learn the new thing.
25:56
SPEAKER_01: Once it becomes repetitive, becomes routinous, the conscious mind pushes it down to the subconscious mind.
26:05
SPEAKER_01: Once it gets to that subconscious level, it just goes on auto, puts your life on auto.
26:12
SPEAKER_01: You will be thinking without thinking.
26:15
SPEAKER_01: You will think you're thinking with your rational mind, but that's actually that subconscious is the one controlling your life.
26:20
SPEAKER_01: And they say 96% of our decisions and our behaviors are actually controlled by the subconscious mind.
26:29
SPEAKER_01: That shifts on my book is actually a framework, it's an acronym.
26:34
SPEAKER_01: The S is for C, the H is for here, the I is for insight, F formulate, T transform, S succeed.
26:44
SPEAKER_01: And this is the principle that drives the whole experience.
26:47
SPEAKER_01: Whatever you see and hear consistently over time will enter your heart, it will go into your subconscious and put your life on autopilot.
26:56
SPEAKER_01: So the challenge is that most people are not intentional about what they are seeing and hearing.
27:02
SPEAKER_01: This principle is very powerful.
27:04
SPEAKER_01: It's the reason why the entertainment industry is so powerful.
27:08
SPEAKER_01: You think you are watching a movie or you're listening to music, it's programming you, it's changing who you are right down from your core, right down to your core.
27:18
SPEAKER_01: It's shaping your identity.
27:19
SPEAKER_01: Okay, you know, our daughter, uh, youngest, when she was in high school here in Georgia, she was coming home on a short, short break, and then she called and said, Oh, I have a friend, a classmate, she's from Croatia, she has no family to stay with during the break.
27:39
SPEAKER_01: Can she come along?
27:40
SPEAKER_01: And we said, sure.
27:42
SPEAKER_01: So when they came home, the young lady from Croatia was speaking fluent English, right?
27:48
SPEAKER_01: So my wife asked her, Wait, you did your elementary school in Croatia?
27:53
SPEAKER_01: Were you taught in English then?
27:54
SPEAKER_01: She said no.
27:55
SPEAKER_01: So, how did you learn to speak English?
27:57
SPEAKER_01: She said, Oh, by watching American movies.
28:00
SPEAKER_01: That caught my attention.
28:02
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
28:02
SPEAKER_01: And then they said they wanted to go shopping.
28:06
SPEAKER_01: And then on the way, they said we should please stop by an address.
28:10
SPEAKER_01: Another classmate was there who came from Vietnam.
28:13
SPEAKER_01: When the lady from Vietnam got into the car, she was speaking fluent English with American accent.
28:19
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
28:21
SPEAKER_01: So my wife asked her the same question by surprise.
28:24
SPEAKER_01: She said, Oh, by watching American movies.
28:27
SPEAKER_01: That day, my understanding of Hollywood changed completely.
28:32
SPEAKER_01: To me, Hollywood became a programming platform.
28:35
SPEAKER_01: And then my so this is how I see the educational system.
28:39
SPEAKER_01: Because what you do day in, day out when you go to school is seeing and hearing.
28:44
SPEAKER_01: The media, why the media is so powerful, because you are seeing and hearing.
28:49
SPEAKER_01: Sadly, most of what is on the news is negative.
28:52
SPEAKER_01: The people in the media industry they say good news is no news, bad news is good news.
28:58
SPEAKER_01: That's what makes them the money, the bad news.
29:00
SPEAKER_02: Well, unfortunately, it's the it's the drama that sells, right?
29:04
SPEAKER_02: Because it it the drama attracts the energy.
29:08
SPEAKER_02: The drama is the bit that makes you sort of buy into the fear, and then suddenly, when you have a fear response or the drama response, then you are engaged with all your senses.
29:19
SPEAKER_02: And then suddenly you're going to buy into making us try and make yourself feel safe again in any capacity.
29:25
SPEAKER_02: But it can drain your it can drain your energy because it's got your attention.
29:30
SPEAKER_02: Oh, yes.
29:30
SPEAKER_01: And they repeat the same thing for six straight hours.
29:33
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
29:34
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
29:34
SPEAKER_01: So my so my challenge to my young friends is pay attention to what's going on.
29:39
SPEAKER_01: Okay.
29:40
SPEAKER_01: Australia banned social media for young people below the age of 16.
29:45
SPEAKER_01: Banned.
29:47
SPEAKER_01: Why would they go to that extent?
29:50
SPEAKER_01: It's because they know the future is being literally created.
29:56
SPEAKER_02: Yes, beautiful way.
29:57
SPEAKER_02: But also, I also think that places like Australia and New Zealand are testing markets to see could this work?
30:04
SPEAKER_02: Could this ban actually be powerful?
30:07
SPEAKER_02: You know, they were the first country that had like put your pin in the card and chip and pin.
30:13
SPEAKER_03: First country.
30:13
SPEAKER_02: I when I was in Australia in I don't know, late 90s.
30:17
SPEAKER_02: I was that I was like, they got you can put your you can put a card in and put a number, you don't even need to sign it anymore.
30:23
SPEAKER_02: Wow.
30:23
SPEAKER_02: And then they have you know cash that you can't tear.
30:27
SPEAKER_02: It doesn't because if you go into the ocean, it's not gonna disintegrate.
30:32
SPEAKER_02: These are amazing testing markets, but at the same time, I think they're very forward-thinking.
30:37
SPEAKER_02: And I think and I think that that is a a powerful thing to do to protect young minds so that they not only protect it, but they can create what they want instead of feel as though they have to be all consumed by whatever the the whatever the media is putting out in the world.
30:54
SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
30:54
SPEAKER_01: So so for my young friend, it's think about the future that you want to live in.
31:02
SPEAKER_01: And see, I practice, I have practiced the principles for over 30 years, right?
31:12
SPEAKER_01: I would write a goal on a plain sheet of paper and stick it on the wall.
31:16
SPEAKER_01: Like I said, I did for the radio broadcast.
31:19
SPEAKER_02: So how did you write the goal on the board?
31:21
SPEAKER_02: What sort of words?
31:22
SPEAKER_02: Because someone listening right now, I mean, you're teaching CEOs, you're teaching everybody, everybody listens to Dr.
31:28
SPEAKER_02: Sam here, which is beautiful, and I can tell by your energy because you're so enthusiastic.
31:33
SPEAKER_02: But when somebody is literally going, I have a goal, I don't know how to achieve it, and you had a goal all those years ago, and you didn't know how to achieve it, but you just wrote it out, put it on a little postcard, and you're like, that is what I'm doing.
31:48
SPEAKER_02: How did that look?
31:50
SPEAKER_02: What did it how was the present tense?
31:52
SPEAKER_02: You know, was there a formula for you?
31:54
SPEAKER_02: Could you share?
31:56
SPEAKER_02: Thank you.
31:57
SPEAKER_01: So I wrote radio broadcast.
32:01
SPEAKER_01: And in the Nigerian currency, the amount of money was 120,000 naira.
32:08
SPEAKER_01: So I wrote 120,000 naira, and I wrote a deadline.
32:13
SPEAKER_01: I wrote a date by which I wanted the money and just left it there.
32:18
SPEAKER_01: Right?
32:18
SPEAKER_02: How long was the date in front?
32:20
SPEAKER_02: How many, how many, what was a date in front, roughly?
32:24
SPEAKER_00: I had um I had two months.
32:27
SPEAKER_00: You had two months?
32:29
SPEAKER_00: I had two months.
32:30
SPEAKER_02: Oh wow, that was pretty quick, right?
32:31
SPEAKER_02: So were you going to bed?
32:33
SPEAKER_02: Were you going to bed a little anxious, thinking, oh, I don't know how I'm gonna do that?
32:36
SPEAKER_02: Or how how was your how was your energy?
32:38
SPEAKER_02: Because I think this all plays a part, you know.
32:41
SPEAKER_02: Everything you've been saying, the energy, the focus, you know, your intention, you know, how how did you feel when you were looking at that as you're drifting off to sleep?
32:50
SPEAKER_01: I was excited because the writing is powerful.
32:57
SPEAKER_01: Your dream is a dream, it's abstract, it's intangible.
33:01
SPEAKER_01: So when you write something, in my view, it's the first opportunity your dream has to touch reality.
33:10
SPEAKER_01: Writing is powerful.
33:11
SPEAKER_01: I don't know.
33:12
SPEAKER_01: The psychologists say actually that we should use the blue pen, right, to write on white paper.
33:18
SPEAKER_02: And I've heard it's 74% if you write it down rather than write it down on your phone or or type it out on the computer.
33:25
SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
33:26
SPEAKER_01: So so that's what I did.
33:29
SPEAKER_01: And so exactly what happened.
33:32
SPEAKER_01: So this is it, I left it there.
33:34
SPEAKER_01: Some days I will look at it, some days I will not even look, but it looks like your intuition picks it as long as it's there.
33:41
SPEAKER_01: So this Saturday morning, we were getting close to the deadline.
33:46
SPEAKER_01: So in the morning, so I was just praying, Lord.
33:52
SPEAKER_01: How do how do I raise this money?
33:55
SPEAKER_01: I looked at the paper, you know, and then an inspired thought came to my mind.
34:01
SPEAKER_01: Your money is in the city already.
34:03
SPEAKER_01: Yeah, your money is around, your money is around here.
34:05
SPEAKER_01: Um you just have to pray to remove whatever obstacle is removing it, is is blocking it from coming to you.
34:12
SPEAKER_01: So I started praying, praying, praying.
34:15
SPEAKER_01: I removed the obstacles, I removed the obstacles, you know.
34:20
SPEAKER_01: I remove the obstacles, whatever devil is blocking my money.
34:24
SPEAKER_01: Release it.
34:25
SPEAKER_01: I I asked for angels to help me, and so on.
34:28
SPEAKER_01: So and then I prayed until I felt peace.
34:31
SPEAKER_01: I just stopped, got dressed.
34:33
SPEAKER_01: As I was about to get out of the house, I just had this inspired idea.
34:39
SPEAKER_01: Stop by this member's house, our church member, and pray for her because she was having some challenges.
34:47
SPEAKER_01: So on the way to the office, I just stopped by, did the prayer, said, I'm off.
34:52
SPEAKER_01: The lady just asked me, excuse me, wait.
34:56
SPEAKER_01: You spoke about the radio broadcast, right?
34:59
SPEAKER_01: So, how far with it?
35:00
SPEAKER_01: I said, Well, we're on.
35:02
SPEAKER_01: Uh we're preparing to go to the studio now.
35:05
SPEAKER_01: Well, uh, they said um the production cost would be 75,000 naira for the first quarter.
35:12
SPEAKER_01: And well, I believe that's gonna come somewhere.
35:15
SPEAKER_01: She said, Oh, you know what?
35:17
SPEAKER_01: I need to make my own pledge right now.
35:19
SPEAKER_01: She took a sheet of paper, wrote something on it, put it in an envelope and gave me.
35:23
SPEAKER_01: And it was after I left that I opened the envelope and I saw she wrote 75,000 naira.
35:30
SPEAKER_01: Oh no, you can just imagine, I was blown away.
35:34
SPEAKER_01: That was not my way, that did not even cross my mind.
35:37
SPEAKER_01: Getting anything from her did not cross my mind.
35:40
SPEAKER_02: It's interesting because when you feel like you're trying to manipulate or get something from somebody, you mess everything up.
35:47
SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
35:48
SPEAKER_02: You mess everything up, you mess, I call it I you know, I have got a little phrase I I I say, but I don't know where I get I can't kind of you mess up the magic.
35:58
SPEAKER_02: Don't get anything from anybody.
36:01
SPEAKER_02: It's wow, and uh because I I really do believe and listening to your story is just amazing because I I really want people listening and watching to go, if this can happen to these guys, this can surely happen to me.
36:15
SPEAKER_02: And the answer is 100%.
36:18
SPEAKER_02: If you've ever been in that position when you're out of work, or you know, you're someone you love is going through a health crisis, or or someone you love's passed away at a breakup, or or one of many things that seem to happen.
36:32
SPEAKER_02: There is a way, there is always a way, and you only mess up the magic when you're trying to get things from people and take rather than actually just give.
36:44
SPEAKER_02: Give.
36:45
SPEAKER_02: And I think that that's what you're trying to do with your whole story.
36:48
SPEAKER_02: It's like about giving, right?
36:50
SPEAKER_02: And this podcast is about giving and collaboration and uplifting and giving people hope and giving people practical ideas to go, hey, this will turn your life around if you apply it.
37:00
SPEAKER_02: I mean, we're not gonna do it, you will, but the ideas will assist you along the way.
37:06
SPEAKER_02: And and I have seen it time and time again, and I can't I can't not believe now.
37:11
SPEAKER_02: That's the thing.
37:12
SPEAKER_02: You can't not believe.
37:13
SPEAKER_02: I mean, you can have moments of doubt, don't get me wrong.
37:17
SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
37:18
SPEAKER_02: You can have moments of doubt, but it's just like I I do I do believe this, you know.
37:24
SPEAKER_02: Wow.
37:25
SPEAKER_02: This is powerful.
37:26
SPEAKER_02: I I'm taking this away from this discussion.
37:29
SPEAKER_02: Going back to you know, that ministry when you received the 75,000 Naira, what you know, you walk out that door, what's happening?
37:36
SPEAKER_02: How how are you feeling?
37:37
SPEAKER_02: What what what's your what's your thought process now of like your experience with this beautiful person and her generosity, but also about your connection with something bigger than just yourself?
37:49
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
37:50
SPEAKER_01: So it this is the experience you have when you live by principles, right?
37:58
SPEAKER_01: It's like you can't see gravity, you can't see electricity, but it works, you know, and and after you you test it a few times, it's like you develop that confidence.
38:09
SPEAKER_01: If I flip this switch, the light is gonna come on.
38:12
SPEAKER_01: So, in this instance, it was how everything was coming together because there was no way I was gonna dissociate what happened in the morning when I was in my prayer and meditation time, and then what happened with this lady, and you brought out a very powerful principle there, focusing on giving.
38:31
SPEAKER_01: I went to give, and just this morning I saw a post online that applied the Pareto principle, the 80-20 principle to giving and getting.
38:59
SPEAKER_01: I haven't either, no, okay.
39:00
SPEAKER_01: Interesting.
39:02
SPEAKER_01: So I was I was elated, right?
39:05
SPEAKER_01: I I was blown away.
39:07
SPEAKER_02: I'm excited.
39:08
SPEAKER_02: Um I mean, this happened years ago, and I'm still excited for you because it's just magic, right?
39:12
SPEAKER_02: It's just magic, right?
39:13
SPEAKER_02: It's magic.
39:14
SPEAKER_01: Miracle, we would say.
39:16
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
39:16
SPEAKER_01: Now, and then a few days later, a lady walked into my office and said, Well, my husband and I were discussing about your your radio broadcast, and we decided to participate in it.
39:28
SPEAKER_01: And she also gave me an envelope when I opened it.
39:34
SPEAKER_01: It was double the 75.
39:36
SPEAKER_01: It was 150,000.
39:40
SPEAKER_01: I was looking for just 120,000 for the first quarter production and airtime.
39:45
SPEAKER_02: You were looking for 120,000, did you say?
39:48
SPEAKER_02: Yes.
39:49
SPEAKER_02: And you received 150,000.
39:51
SPEAKER_01: I got 150 from a family, I got 75,000 from this other lady.
39:56
SPEAKER_02: So you got 225,000 in total from the initial.
40:00
SPEAKER_02: Wow.
40:01
SPEAKER_02: Okay, that that's just incredible, right?
40:04
SPEAKER_02: And and you know, what did that what did you and your wife, when you had when you told her about this, I mean, what was her feeling?
40:12
SPEAKER_02: Because, you know, this is important, right?
40:13
SPEAKER_02: Because we have spouses, we have family, and when the magic happens like this, it kind of like messes with your brain a little bit.
40:23
SPEAKER_02: I'd really love to know what was your wife's response or reaction to what happened when you received the second MLA report.
40:31
SPEAKER_01: She was excited.
40:33
SPEAKER_01: She is my faith partner.
40:36
SPEAKER_01: Oh.
40:37
SPEAKER_01: And sometimes she's actually quicker to have the faith than I.
40:44
SPEAKER_01: She she's a big dreamer, right?
40:46
SPEAKER_01: So um, so we dream together and then we celebrate together.
40:52
SPEAKER_01: We experience we've experienced miracles, or we call it magic over and over and over.
40:59
SPEAKER_01: She's right now by my bedside.
41:02
SPEAKER_01: There are things there.
41:03
SPEAKER_01: There are you have I have pictures, I have those playing suits of paper where I wrote things.
41:10
SPEAKER_01: And you know, after the radio broadcast one, the next one was for a car, right?
41:16
SPEAKER_01: And I got the car to specification, right?
41:21
SPEAKER_01: Right?
41:21
SPEAKER_01: It was beyond what I could afford.
41:23
SPEAKER_01: So it was a used car.
41:25
SPEAKER_01: So the next one was for a brand new car.
41:27
SPEAKER_01: I got it.
41:28
SPEAKER_01: So I thought I said, this thing is working for cars, then it should be able to work for cash.
41:33
SPEAKER_01: So I tore a leaf from my checkbook, wrote my name on it, and wrote an amount of money I'd never gotten before.
41:40
SPEAKER_01: Uh, the signature part was where I got stuck.
41:42
SPEAKER_01: But no, I mean so, what did you write for the signature?
41:45
SPEAKER_01: This is interesting.
41:46
SPEAKER_01: I wrote Christ.
41:48
SPEAKER_01: I said, if I could afford this, I would not be writing this down.
41:51
SPEAKER_01: Let me draw on God's account, right?
41:53
SPEAKER_01: I like that.
41:55
SPEAKER_02: You know, they talk about this in the secret, but it's also nice to have uh another perspective, right?
42:02
SPEAKER_02: The the writing the check.
42:03
SPEAKER_02: But when it's actually happened to you, you're thinking, okay, it's happened for for Sam.
42:09
SPEAKER_02: It can happen for me, you know.
42:11
SPEAKER_02: And that's what we want to say here.
42:12
SPEAKER_02: It's absolutely happened.
42:14
SPEAKER_02: Yeah.
42:15
SPEAKER_01: So that one, I just made sure I was recording every income that I got, right?
42:21
SPEAKER_01: I was recording everything.
42:22
SPEAKER_01: It was one year later.
42:23
SPEAKER_01: It was one year later that, you know, my eyes fell on the check, and I said, wait, let me check.
42:31
SPEAKER_01: So I added up my income for the past year and it was past that amount.
42:36
SPEAKER_01: Nice.
42:37
SPEAKER_01: Wow.
42:38
SPEAKER_01: So this also works.
42:40
SPEAKER_01: Let me say something about goal setting with deadlines.
42:44
SPEAKER_01: What uh the psychologists have said, not only goal setting, but setting an impossible goal, setting the goal that's beyond you.
42:53
SPEAKER_01: Because this inspired ideas, the radio broadcast, the card, they were way beyond my capacity, right?
43:00
SPEAKER_01: They said it does something that it shifts your mind.
43:04
SPEAKER_01: It becomes the filter, the new filter through which you see the world.
43:09
SPEAKER_01: They say the opportunities are always there, but we don't recognize them.
43:14
SPEAKER_01: But once you have a clear picture, it's like the illustration, they talk about a red car.
43:19
SPEAKER_01: Once you decide you are buying a red car, you'll be surprised how many red cars you'll see on the road, right?
43:24
SPEAKER_02: Totally.
43:24
SPEAKER_02: Reticular activating system working for you immediately.
43:28
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
43:29
SPEAKER_01: So um you set a big goal, you give it a deadline.
43:35
SPEAKER_01: And that can be tricky because since it's a big goal, you tend to want to give it a long deadline, deadline, a far out date.
43:44
SPEAKER_01: And they said that's not going to help you.
43:46
SPEAKER_01: The closer the deadline is, the better.
43:50
SPEAKER_01: And they said, your system just goes to work from there, searching, searching, even when you're not conscious of it, searching to catch.
43:58
SPEAKER_02: I've got a question for you.
44:00
SPEAKER_02: I've got a question for you.
44:01
SPEAKER_02: So if someone wants a financial miracle or they need a new car because they need a new car or need a new home to support their family, if someone's listening or watching, what deadline do you give them and how do they actually write it out and put a put something by their bedside?
44:19
SPEAKER_02: Because I remember you in a video talking about the subconscious mind will always win.
44:26
SPEAKER_02: Right.
44:26
SPEAKER_02: And when the subconscious mind will is going to win, because it's 94% of whatever you're giving your attention to, if you have any programming, if I remember your words, if you have any programming, you're programming if it's counter, the subconscious mind will win.
44:47
SPEAKER_02: So if you don't think it's possible, it's not going to be possible.
44:51
SPEAKER_02: If you don't believe, it's not going to happen.
44:54
SPEAKER_02: So how do you how do you work with that?
44:56
SPEAKER_02: So if someone's got, like you said, you you wanted a car, you got a car, you wanted some cash, you you received some cash.
45:03
SPEAKER_02: I mean, amazing.
45:04
SPEAKER_02: But that means your subconscious mind at some level was helping you and assisting you to accept that.
45:10
SPEAKER_02: But what if somebody's been trying to do this and it hasn't worked?
45:14
SPEAKER_02: What do you say?
45:15
SPEAKER_02: And how would you begin to help reprogram?
45:20
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
45:20
SPEAKER_01: So then that's a very good question, right?
45:24
SPEAKER_01: So I say what goes in through your eyes and through your ears is information, right?
45:33
SPEAKER_01: Information.
45:34
SPEAKER_01: And we have various ways through which we get information.
45:39
SPEAKER_01: So what exactly is it that works for you, right?
45:43
SPEAKER_01: Reading works for me a lot.
45:46
SPEAKER_01: Some people are auditory, it's it's what you listen to.
45:50
SPEAKER_01: For some people, some people are visual, right?
45:52
SPEAKER_01: It's video.
45:54
SPEAKER_01: And so there are various ways you go about it.
45:57
SPEAKER_01: You you need to experiment quite a bit, right?
46:01
SPEAKER_01: Some of us actually need, some of us can handle abstracts the way our brains are designed.
46:06
SPEAKER_01: So just if you give me information, my imagination can construct it, even if it's on four dimensions, right?
46:13
SPEAKER_01: But some of us are not designed like that, some of us are sensory.
46:17
SPEAKER_01: You need to touch it, you need to feel it, right?
46:21
SPEAKER_01: So you may need to actually go somewhere where you can see what you're dreaming about already done.
46:29
SPEAKER_01: You may need to get a mentor, right?
46:32
SPEAKER_01: You may need to have get a mentor uh with whom you can visit, maybe visit their office, right?
46:39
SPEAKER_01: And see them all.
46:40
SPEAKER_01: Just talking to a mentor sometimes can shift something in your brain because your brain is telling you this guy is a human being, he doesn't have two heads, he doesn't have four hands, it's exactly like me.
46:52
SPEAKER_01: So if he could do it, why can't I do it?
46:54
SPEAKER_01: And you you probably are even more brilliant than the mentor when you check and the mentor tells you, Oh, I failed this exam when I was in school, I failed at this, was like, wait, wait, right?
47:09
SPEAKER_01: Mine is not as bad as that.
47:11
SPEAKER_01: So if this guy could do it, then I could do it.
47:13
SPEAKER_01: So you may be the kind of a person that actually needs a mentor, flesh and blood, or you may be the kind of person who needs to go somewhere, maybe go to a five-star hotel and just sit at the lobby, or go to a mall, go to a luxury shop where they sell men's clothes.
47:30
SPEAKER_01: These are things I've done, or you may need to travel.
47:33
SPEAKER_01: Traveling was brain shifting for me, like I said.
47:36
SPEAKER_01: Let me give you an example.
47:37
SPEAKER_01: Okay, so uh that first time that we went to Dubai, my wife and I, so we were walking on the street later that day, that day that we got to Dubai, and all of a sudden, I just said to her, Stop.
47:49
SPEAKER_01: She was shocked.
47:51
SPEAKER_01: She said, What is it?
47:52
SPEAKER_01: I said, Look at it.
47:53
SPEAKER_01: She said, What is it?
47:54
SPEAKER_01: I said, The car.
47:56
SPEAKER_01: So I saw a police patrol car, okay, and it was a brand new Mercedes, E-class.
48:04
SPEAKER_01: I just flew in from Nigeria where the police vans were uh wretched.
48:10
SPEAKER_01: Let me use that word, right?
48:14
SPEAKER_01: And then I see a police kind of brand, it was like what?
48:19
SPEAKER_01: So sometimes you need to take yourself into those experiences, right, where you can actually see and feel something new that looks like all you want to get.
48:30
SPEAKER_01: But whatever you're going to do, you just like you said, the news does, they add emotion to it.
48:36
SPEAKER_01: They want to scare you, right?
48:37
SPEAKER_01: Because they know the stronger the emotion, the faster it will get into your emotions.
48:43
SPEAKER_01: It's the reason why music is powerful because it's emotional, it's sentimental, it bypasses loops, barriers in your brain, and connects straight there.
48:52
SPEAKER_01: You need to, you know, do whatever you need to do to get the kind of an information that will move you and stamp that new thing in there.
49:03
SPEAKER_02: I love that.
49:04
SPEAKER_02: I mean, that's so, so, so true.
49:09
SPEAKER_02: I would like to say, I put my hand up because in about 15, 16 years ago, I used to go to every hotel in London, every nice hotel.
49:19
SPEAKER_02: I'd go out for dinner to every nice place.
49:21
SPEAKER_02: Uh, I would, in between castings, when I was modelling, I'd be like, I'm gonna go and have a coffee or a cup of tea in the Ritz or the Dorchester or you know, whatever.
49:33
SPEAKER_02: I would go literally go anywhere.
49:35
SPEAKER_02: In the Ritz, you have to wear certain clothes, right?
49:38
SPEAKER_02: You're not allowed to just go in anywhere.
49:40
SPEAKER_02: You actually have to have a reservation.
49:42
SPEAKER_02: But the Savoy, I could walk in, the Dorchester I could walk in, Intercontinental, four seasons, you name it.
49:47
SPEAKER_02: I went to every single one.
49:49
SPEAKER_02: Wow.
49:49
SPEAKER_02: And all my friends were like, What are you doing?
49:51
SPEAKER_02: It's like, well, I'm just I'm just gonna go for a coffee or a tea here, you know, and having biscuits, listening to the piano.
49:56
SPEAKER_02: I was like, this is better living, you know, it's raining outside, there's no point in me waiting in a queue to your potential client.
50:02
SPEAKER_02: I was like, I might as well wait here, it's much, much nicer.
50:05
SPEAKER_02: And so I became accustomed to being in that environment, which is very, very unusual for some people because you'll just think, oh, well, I can just go to Starbucks or Costa Coffee.
50:16
SPEAKER_02: And I was like, of course they're lovely places, but I want to put myself in the most spectacular environment because I I want to pick up the thought forms of the people that are doing business in here, the people that are talking to one another here.
50:30
SPEAKER_02: If they know they have a consciousness, they have a spirit, they have an energy.
50:36
SPEAKER_02: And by osmosis, if I'm in this space, then I too can absorb it.
50:40
SPEAKER_02: Even if I'm not participating, I'm participating just by being here.
50:45
SPEAKER_02: And I know when I've studied energy, it's like it's contagious.
50:48
SPEAKER_02: So if I put myself in a nice space, that's going to rub off on me.
50:52
SPEAKER_02: And I think that's what a wonderful mentor can do.
50:54
SPEAKER_02: It can really rub off on you.
50:56
SPEAKER_02: And with my work, you know, to help these powerful ideas rub off on the high performance guys that I work with who want to understand greater health, want to understand greater vitality, because this is something that I live on a day-to-day basis.
51:10
SPEAKER_02: Right.
51:10
SPEAKER_02: And I think that your idea of putting yourself in that place is just so powerful.
51:16
SPEAKER_02: You know, it's so true.
51:18
SPEAKER_02: Some people are really good at envisioning, as you said, or listening, you know, auditory.
51:23
SPEAKER_02: I'm quite an auditory, so I need like I need something on repeat, you know.
51:26
SPEAKER_02: Right.
51:27
SPEAKER_02: Got something on repeat at the moment when I go for a little afternoon power nap.
51:31
SPEAKER_02: It's 20 minutes, but I'm like, bang, just chuck.
51:34
SPEAKER_02: Put that in there, put that in there.
51:35
SPEAKER_02: And I read a script before I go to bed at night.
51:40
SPEAKER_02: I have a script that I read.
51:42
SPEAKER_02: That's powerful.
51:43
SPEAKER_02: I mean, some of the things that have happened from that is just you know.
51:49
SPEAKER_02: Amazing.
51:50
SPEAKER_02: I'm fascinated by your postcard thing, but I'm also fascinated by the millions of people you've uplifted by these principles, though.
52:00
SPEAKER_02: And they seem simple, but to actually show up every day isn't, is it?
52:07
SPEAKER_01: Exactly.
52:08
SPEAKER_01: Thank you.
52:09
SPEAKER_01: So people need to realize that consistency beats intensity.
52:18
SPEAKER_01: So when someone hears these principles that we're discussing, oh, then they did they go ahead, they do it, and then they forget about it, right?
52:28
SPEAKER_01: Two months from now, they've forgotten, they've moved moved on to something else.
52:32
SPEAKER_01: It doesn't work like that.
52:33
SPEAKER_01: We we said it's about programming, right?
52:36
SPEAKER_01: So and um that means it's got to be habits.
52:40
SPEAKER_01: You've got to stay with it, you've got to keep it there, right?
52:43
SPEAKER_01: Keep doing the same.
52:44
SPEAKER_01: Success can be boring, right?
52:47
SPEAKER_01: But at the end of the day, being successful is a habit.
52:50
SPEAKER_01: So um I'm it's been the privilege of my life to be able to share these principles with people.
53:00
SPEAKER_01: I know it's easy for people to ignore, but gratefully I've been at it for more than 30 years.
53:06
SPEAKER_01: So everywhere I go, all over the world, maybe in a hotel, maybe on a flight, at an airport, I'm meeting people and they're sharing stories with me.
53:16
SPEAKER_01: That is what gives me the greatest fulfillment in this world because these are principles.
53:22
SPEAKER_01: And principles have no respect for persons, right?
53:26
SPEAKER_01: If you go to the roof of a 10-story building and you jump from there, it doesn't matter if you're the prime minister of the UK or the president of the United States or you are a farmer, or uh it doesn't even matter if you slept on the street last night.
53:41
SPEAKER_01: If you jump from the roof of a 10-story building, you're coming down.
53:44
SPEAKER_01: Gravity won't discriminate.
53:46
SPEAKER_01: So the beautiful thing people need to know is that these principles don't discriminate.
53:50
SPEAKER_01: I think they're the best opportunity for the person that is weak, that is struggling.
53:55
SPEAKER_01: Like I was before.
53:58
SPEAKER_01: This is the greatest leverage.
54:00
SPEAKER_01: These things that we're sharing are actually principles and they have no respect for persons.
54:05
SPEAKER_01: They work for you.
54:06
SPEAKER_02: I like I like I like that.
54:08
SPEAKER_02: If you follow these principles, you won't mess up the magic, right?
54:12
SPEAKER_02: You won't mess it up.
54:14
SPEAKER_02: Because it will just happen, but it will happen in in a time frame that I know you've said it talked about the deadlines, but it sometimes happens in a time frame that you don't control.
54:26
SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
54:27
SPEAKER_02: Exactly.
54:28
SPEAKER_02: And and that's humbled me quite a lot because sometimes I've wanted things to happen, I've put deadlines on, they haven't happened, and I've gone, oh dear, you know, was that was I actually giving or was I trying to get, you know, from life?
54:41
SPEAKER_01: Right.
54:42
SPEAKER_01: Well, some some did not happen immediately, like I wanted.
54:46
SPEAKER_01: And then they happened years later.
54:48
SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
54:49
SPEAKER_01: Then I realized, oh my god, okay, wait, I I thought that failed.
54:52
SPEAKER_01: I I thought it failed completely, but it's still eventually.
54:57
SPEAKER_02: I I had a uh I had a vacation last year to someplace I've always wanted to go to, and and I think it was in the making for eight years, and I thought, I really'd like to go there.
55:08
SPEAKER_02: And it was Sardinia.
55:09
SPEAKER_02: Beautiful island in Italy, and we went last year and it was incredible.
55:13
SPEAKER_02: And I remember when I was there, I was like, I remember getting a postcard and having it and going, I want to go there one day, but it happened eight years later.
55:20
SPEAKER_02: Wow.
55:21
SPEAKER_02: And you know, these little things have cropped up in my life time and time again, sometimes years later, but nonetheless, they still presented themselves.
55:30
SPEAKER_02: Um Dr.
55:31
SPEAKER_02: Sat, it's so enjoyable talking with you.
55:34
SPEAKER_02: I mean, I could talk with you for hours, but I have a question for you, like my final question for today, which is we talked about the next generation.
55:43
SPEAKER_00: Yeah.
55:44
SPEAKER_02: And we talked about how we want to leave some type of legacy in some capacity to make them feel as though life has infinite possibilities.
55:54
SPEAKER_02: If your books weren't available, if any of you, none of your YouTube was available, and you just had a message you could share to the next generation, uh, next generation of leaders, what message would you like to leave?
56:11
SPEAKER_01: It would be that your success is not measured largely by your acquisition, it is measured by your contribution.
56:24
SPEAKER_01: That's beautiful.
56:28
SPEAKER_01: Just bear in mind at some point you will exit this planet.
56:32
SPEAKER_01: Everyone will, and it's good for you to think ahead about how you would like to be remembered.
56:42
SPEAKER_01: If you back it up from there and instill those visions, those ideals into how you live your life now, you will have an amazing life.
56:55
SPEAKER_01: So that's what I've done.
56:57
SPEAKER_01: Fast forwarded uh to the day when people will be at my funeral.
57:03
SPEAKER_01: What do I want them to say?
57:05
SPEAKER_01: Long after I'm gone.
57:07
SPEAKER_01: Uh, how long do I want people to remember me for?
57:11
SPEAKER_01: I I would like for people to still be able to reference my life 600 years, 1,000 years after I've left.
57:18
SPEAKER_01: And if if you're thinking 600 years, 1,000 years, and you're taking that, you know, taking that insight and then making decisions now.
57:28
SPEAKER_01: Sometimes there's even a price to pay for that, that the people around right now may not even understand what you're doing.
57:34
SPEAKER_01: But remember, I studied civil engineering and I understand the kind of foundation that you dig for a bungalow is different from the one you dig for a 60-story building, right?
57:45
SPEAKER_01: One is shallow.
57:46
SPEAKER_01: The other one, you'll be deep in a hole.
57:49
SPEAKER_01: Nobody will see you for a long time before they even see what you're building.
57:53
SPEAKER_01: That's also taught me patience, right?
57:55
SPEAKER_01: Think long term, be patient, build, prepare.
57:59
SPEAKER_01: By the time people now see what you're building, when you've gone two floors, they'll think you're done.
58:05
SPEAKER_01: You'll add another one, and another one, and another one, and another one.
58:09
SPEAKER_01: So um at the end of the day, we when we've been deprived.
58:16
SPEAKER_01: I grew up in a deprived environment, right?
58:18
SPEAKER_01: I experienced deprivation.
58:20
SPEAKER_01: And when you've been deprived of something, it tends to assume a disproportionate value to you.
58:26
SPEAKER_01: You think, oh my god, that's the only thing I need in this world.
58:28
SPEAKER_01: If I could just get that, if I could just get money, if I could just get this, I'll be happy.
58:34
SPEAKER_01: Let me tell you, upfront, you may not be.
58:37
SPEAKER_01: When you've achieved success, you find out it may not necessarily make you happy or fulfilled.
58:44
SPEAKER_01: There's something beyond success.
58:45
SPEAKER_01: We call it significance.
58:48
SPEAKER_01: And what brought you to success is not likely to take you there.
58:51
SPEAKER_01: You focused on setting goals for yourself and so on to achieve success.
58:55
SPEAKER_01: To get to that significance level, which Abraham Maslow called self-actualization, you actually have to turn the focus and put it on other people.
59:07
SPEAKER_01: The same passion with which you chase success for yourself, use it to chase success for others.
59:13
SPEAKER_01: That's why I said it's not about acquisition, it's about contribution.
59:17
SPEAKER_02: Thank you so much, Sam.
59:19
SPEAKER_02: It's been an absolute joy speaking with you.
59:21
SPEAKER_02: And this podcast is about representing wonderful role models in the world, of which you are contributing at a really high and beautiful level.
59:29
SPEAKER_02: And thank you for sharing your presence today and your ideas and your wisdom.
59:34
SPEAKER_02: And also, you know, you are an example of someone who can make it and is using the power of faith and prayer and manifestation.
59:44
SPEAKER_02: Thank you, Dr.
59:44
SPEAKER_02: Sam, this week's super soul model.
59:47
SPEAKER_02: Thank you.
59:48
SPEAKER_02: Thank you.
59:49
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59:54
SPEAKER_02: And thank you as always for listening.