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Believe in Yourself: Unlock the Key to Overcoming Any Obstacle · Motivation Mindset Podcast

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  Speaker 1: A lot of us don't believe that we can achieve
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  Speaker 1: the impossible. And along my journey I started realizing, man,
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  Speaker 1: like I discover something that some people have but.
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  Speaker 2: They don't even know all of us have it.
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  Speaker 1: But along this way, I wasn't, like I said, I
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  Speaker 1: wasn't a theorist. I became a practitioner, and I was like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm busting down so many barriers of like I've a
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  Speaker 1: learned disability, okay, but I'm catching up with everybody.
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  Speaker 2: I figured that out.
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  Speaker 1: I figured out all these negative things in my life
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  Speaker 1: that were keeping me in this hole. I'm like, I
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  Speaker 1: gotta tell people, man that hang on a second man,
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  Speaker 1: you can achieve.
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  Speaker 3: The absolute impossible.
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  Speaker 1: You'll need great parents, You'll need like a private school.
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  Speaker 1: You don't need to have this humongous GPA and all thirdship.
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  Speaker 1: What you need is the one thing I talked by
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  Speaker 1: my book, which is straight up brutal work ethic. You
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  Speaker 1: have to be willing to outwork everybody in the world and.
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  Speaker 3: That that that's the hard part. That's the hard part.
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  Speaker 1: This isn't like some five step process where you can
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  Speaker 1: do these five steps you're gonna end up with this
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  Speaker 1: magical world. Now, I'm basically teaching you how to callous
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  Speaker 1: over your victim's mentality. I'm teaching you how to like
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  Speaker 1: I did sixty seven thousand pull ups in training for
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  Speaker 1: the pull Up Ricord, I was seriously callous.
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  Speaker 3: In my hands to protect them.
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  Speaker 2: What I'm trying to do with people is teach.
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  Speaker 1: Them how to find war themselves to where they empower themselves.
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  Speaker 1: I'm all about the underdog. So that's all that. So
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  Speaker 1: that's what the book's all about, and it's all about
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  Speaker 1: having that step process. And I had to share this
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  Speaker 1: with people.
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  Speaker 2: Almost nothing in life is constant.
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  Speaker 1: Conditions and circumstances are perpetually influxed, like the winds and
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  Speaker 1: the tide, which is why my mind is never fixed,
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  Speaker 1: attack and adjust forever searching for my new age. Health
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  Speaker 1: and the responsibilities we carry can be limited. That doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean we should give into those limitsations or use them as.
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  Speaker 2: Excuses to let ourselves or our dreams go.
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  Speaker 1: But we can acknowledge them as long as we are
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  Speaker 1: committed to finding out what we can still do given
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  Speaker 1: those limits, whether they be temporary or indefinite, and maximizing that.
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  Speaker 1: Every day, thousands of people wake up to a life
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  Speaker 1: defined by newfound limitations that are difficult to accept.
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  Speaker 2: Maybe they've been diagnosed with a.
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  Speaker 1: Terminal disease or suffered a spinal injury. Could be they
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  Speaker 1: lost a limb or are suffering from PTS. More often,
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  Speaker 1: the shifting circumstances are not nearly so dire. Sometimes it's
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  Speaker 1: good news that changes the equation. Maybe you are a
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  Speaker 1: new parent or landed a lucrative gig that demands ten
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  Speaker 1: to twelve hour workdays. Could be you recently got married,
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  Speaker 1: which means you have to consider more than just your
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  Speaker 1: own goals. No matter the variables, you're new one percent
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  Speaker 1: is out there waiting for you to find it. The
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  Speaker 1: thing is, most people don't want to because whenever you're
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  Speaker 1: trying to find new anything, it means you're not who
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  Speaker 1: you used to be, and that can be depressing enough
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  Speaker 1: to give up the search. Some people use their new
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  Speaker 1: circumstances to dial down their effort level instead of adjusting
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  Speaker 1: their approach and still giving it their all to achieve
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  Speaker 1: their goals.
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  Speaker 2: You've got to work with what you have. I couldn't
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  Speaker 2: run a ruck, but that didn't mean I was out
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  Speaker 2: of the fight.
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  Speaker 1: No matter what you are dealing with, your goal should
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  Speaker 1: be to maximize the resources and capabilities you do have.
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  Speaker 1: If you've suffered a freak injury or received diagnosis that
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  Speaker 1: changes everything, what does your new maximum effort level look like?
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people buy their time and wait to
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  Speaker 1: see what happens next, but a year or two later
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  Speaker 1: they find they are still waiting.
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  Speaker 2: With every unfortunate turn.
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  Speaker 1: In life, no matter how heavy the weight, you have
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  Speaker 1: to be committed to pushing back against that pressure with effort.
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  Speaker 1: No matter your age, abilities, disabilities, or responsibilities, we must
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  Speaker 1: all stay committed.
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  Speaker 2: To finding our new benchmarks.
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  Speaker 1: Because not only does that keep your mind engaged and
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  Speaker 1: your demons at bay, you actually might achieve things the
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  Speaker 1: old you never could have conceived. No, don't take it
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  Speaker 1: like go out there and run through a brick wall
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  Speaker 1: as many times as you can. No, I'm not saying
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  Speaker 1: be me, don't run towards them five miles at one time.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying do that. I'm saying, start to learn.
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  Speaker 1: The mind is powerful. It's powerful, man, It's it's unbelievable.
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  Speaker 4: But if people need, they need a thing to get
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  Speaker 4: them going right, they need a thing right, They need
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  Speaker 4: a goal, they need they need a like it's well
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  Speaker 4: sometimes the first step is the hardest, Like it's hard
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  Speaker 4: to take that one million step too, But sometimes the
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  Speaker 4: first step is the most.
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  Speaker 2: It's something about the gos. What do I do?
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  Speaker 4: How they start going over their phone, they start calling people,
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  Speaker 4: They don't get out of the house.
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  Speaker 3: I was sorry.
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  Speaker 4: And there's something about procrastination.
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  Speaker 5: It's like, you know it's painful, you know you should
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  Speaker 5: be doing things, but you just keep doing it.
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  Speaker 2: You keep itching that scab.
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  Speaker 3: I procrastinate, like, man, every day I want.
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  Speaker 2: That's what's so funny.
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  Speaker 1: Man, People looking like I'm some damn superhero that came
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  Speaker 1: down from the gods, from the heavens of earth.
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  Speaker 3: No, man, I don't want to do it.
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  Speaker 1: I'm looking at my shoes for thirty minutes sometimes thinking.
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  Speaker 3: Man, man, people people look up to your goggins.
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  Speaker 6: Damn I want to do I'm like, I want to
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  Speaker 6: do this, man, But guess what you do it. I'm
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  Speaker 6: gonna do it as long as you do it. And
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  Speaker 6: that's what I know about it. Man, That's why I
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  Speaker 6: stopped doing I'm thinking, Oh man, you sit here, you
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  Speaker 6: look at your shoes for thirty forty minutes.
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  Speaker 1: You go.
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  Speaker 3: You gotta think about it all day.
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  Speaker 5: Long you go, do it anyway, and sometimes you don't
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  Speaker 5: have the time to look at your shoes for thirty minutes. No,
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  Speaker 5: those are the those are the beautiful days, yes, because
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  Speaker 5: you know you just have to go, that's right, and
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  Speaker 5: so like there's no room for procrastination.
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  Speaker 1: And that's when I when I was in the military,
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  Speaker 1: I loved my schedule because I knew how to be
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  Speaker 1: work at seven o'clock. So you better get your ass
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  Speaker 1: up at four o'clock, man, and brother, because I had
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  Speaker 1: to before, right, you know.
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  Speaker 3: So that was my mentality back then.
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  Speaker 1: Man, you know, like I had to get the miles
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  Speaker 1: and get everything in man, and get to work. Man,
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  Speaker 1: I'm competing with the alpha males.
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  Speaker 2: The road to success is rarely.
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  Speaker 1: A straight line for me. It's always been more like
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  Speaker 1: a maze.
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  Speaker 2: Many times, when I thought I'd finally.
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  Speaker 1: Cracked the code, had it all figured out, and found
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  Speaker 1: the straight past a certain victory, I hit a wall
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  Speaker 1: or got spun into a turnaround. When that happens, we
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  Speaker 1: have two choices. We can stay stuck or regroup, back
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  Speaker 1: up and try again. That's where evolution begins. Hitting those
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  Speaker 1: walls time and again will harden and streamline you having
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  Speaker 1: to back up and formulate a new plan without any
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  Speaker 1: assurances it will ever pan out, will tune your say
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  Speaker 1: up and develop your problem solving skills.
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  Speaker 2: And your endurance. It will force you to adapt.
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  Speaker 1: When that happens hundreds of times over the course of
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  Speaker 1: many years, it is physically exhausting and mentally draining, and
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  Speaker 1: it becomes damn near impossible to believe in yourself or
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  Speaker 1: your future.
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  Speaker 2: A lot of people abandon belief at that point.
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  Speaker 1: They swirl in the eddies of comfort or regret, perhaps
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  Speaker 1: claim their victimhood and stop looking.
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  Speaker 2: For their way out of the maze.
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  Speaker 1: Others keep believing and find a way out, but hope
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  Speaker 1: to never slip into a trap like that ever again,
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  Speaker 1: and those skills they'd honed and developed with her they
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  Speaker 1: lose their edge. I am always on the hunt for
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  Speaker 1: another twisted pretzel of a maze to get lost in,
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  Speaker 1: because that's where I find myself. The smooth road to
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  Speaker 1: success is of no use to savages like me.
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  Speaker 2: That may sound ideal, but it won't test us. It
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  Speaker 2: doesn't demand.
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  Speaker 1: Belief, so it will never make us great. We all
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  Speaker 1: build belief in different ways. I clock countless hours in
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  Speaker 1: the gym where I log thousands of reps and run
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  Speaker 1: and ride my bike obscene distances to cultivate belief. Despite
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  Speaker 1: what you may think, I don't consider myself an ultra
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  Speaker 1: athlete because those races are not who I am.
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  Speaker 2: There are tools. Each one provides me a stockpile of faith.
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  Speaker 1: So when I get stuck in the maze of life
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  Speaker 1: like a broke down savage, I still believe I'm capable
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  Speaker 1: of achieving my unreasonable goals, such as becoming a smoke
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  Speaker 1: jumper at forty seven years old, no matter what society
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  Speaker 1: or the good doctor says.
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  Speaker 2: I don't mean to suggest that you must run one
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  Speaker 2: hundred or two hundred miles to believe you have what
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  Speaker 2: it takes to get where you want.
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  Speaker 1: Ago that's what I had to do based on the
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  Speaker 1: depth of the.
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  Speaker 2: Darkness I came from and the scale of my ambitions.
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  Speaker 1: But if you've lost it, you do need to find
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  Speaker 1: your way back to belief. Whatever it takes for you
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  Speaker 1: to believe that you're better than good enough to achieve
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  Speaker 1: your dreams is what you must do. And remember, your
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  Speaker 1: greatness is not tied to any outcome. It is found
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  Speaker 1: in the valiance of the attempt. It's hard to imagine it,
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  Speaker 1: but you have to learn how to fail. Because I'm
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  Speaker 1: going to explain this to you. I had big dreams.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of us have big dreams, big goals, and
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  Speaker 1: when you have goals that are maybe outside your reach,
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  Speaker 1: you have to know that getting to that goal, you
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  Speaker 1: can have a lot of bad days, a lot of setbacks.
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  Speaker 1: Like when I was losing one hundred and six pounds
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  Speaker 1: in three months.
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  Speaker 3: The first two months or the first two.
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  Speaker 2: Weeks, it's like I was gaining weight.
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  Speaker 1: You know, I would lose a pound, gain two, So
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  Speaker 1: I was just failing. I kept failing and kept failing,
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  Speaker 1: and kept failing.
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  Speaker 3: So I had to teach myself how to fail right.
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  Speaker 3: And what that.
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  Speaker 1: Means is when I fail, I can't spend much time
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  Speaker 1: in that fail zone. I have to be able to
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  Speaker 1: get up and get after the next day just as fast.
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  Speaker 1: Because my goals were, you know, to be a navy seal.
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  Speaker 1: I don't have time to stay here and feel b
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  Speaker 1: after myself for weeks and months and years because I'll.
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  Speaker 2: Lose that time.
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  Speaker 3: So the big thing is to know that.
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  Speaker 1: If you have big goals and big dreams along the way,
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  Speaker 1: failure is going to happen. So how fast do you
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  Speaker 1: get up from that? And you got to teach yourself that.
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  Speaker 1: But the biggest key to success in anything you do
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  Speaker 1: is you got to have an unlimited supply, a fucking you,
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  Speaker 1: this drive and passion, and it may come from nothing
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  Speaker 1: like for me, there was no passion, no drive, no nothing,
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  Speaker 1: but I had this fire that I'm going to be
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  Speaker 1: somebody and it has to be there because on all
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  Speaker 1: those bad days and all those days you don't want
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  Speaker 1: to do shit, you have to be your own motivator,
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  Speaker 1: your own coach, your own your own trainer, your own everything.
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  Speaker 1: So to do that, you have to come into work
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  Speaker 1: and work is whatever your work may be ready to go.
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  Speaker 1: And what that means is you may have failed miserably yesterday,
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  Speaker 1: but you come to work like people like man, you
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  Speaker 1: just lost everything, How the hell are you just fucking
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  Speaker 1: damn motivated?
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  Speaker 2: Because this is what it takes.
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  Speaker 1: This is what the fuck it takes, and you got
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  Speaker 1: to get it from wherever you can, whether you make
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  Speaker 1: up this illusion of your life or this false reality
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  Speaker 1: that gets you motivated, whatever gets you motivated, it's got
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  Speaker 1: to be here at the tip of your brain at
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  Speaker 1: all times because in those dark moments you gotta you
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  Speaker 1: gotta pull it out.
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  Speaker 2: So that's the big thing for me.
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  Speaker 1: Man I was always fired up at all times. When
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  Speaker 1: you observe highly successful individuals, it may seem tempting to
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  Speaker 1: conclude that they were inherently born with their capabilities, that
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  Speaker 1: they possess.
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  Speaker 2: Innate talent and that's the end of the story.
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  Speaker 1: However, talent, while undoubtedly making life more straightforward, is just
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  Speaker 1: one piece of the puzzle. Reflecting back, I was once
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  Speaker 1: a shy and fearful person. Ironically, this apparent misfortune turned
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  Speaker 1: into a source of strength, igniting significant changes.
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  Speaker 2: In my life.
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  Speaker 1: By consistently stepping out of my comfort zone, I not
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  Speaker 1: only conquered social shyness and improved my communication skills, but
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  Speaker 1: also nurtured robust self confidence and overcame other fears in
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  Speaker 1: my life. I might not have been naturally inclined to
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  Speaker 1: excel in social settings. I still prefer solitude over crowds. However,
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  Speaker 1: with self discipline and persistent effort, I attained remarkable results.
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  Speaker 2: So the next time you think you lack talent in.
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  Speaker 1: A particular area or believe you weren't born with inherent abilities,
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  Speaker 1: remind yourself that in many situations. Self discipline can compensate
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  Speaker 1: for the absence of inborn traits.
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  Speaker 2: Living life seems easy when.
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  Speaker 1: You take the hard path and challenging when opting for
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  Speaker 1: the easy way out.
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  Speaker 2: Self disciplined demands.
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  Speaker 1: Traversing the difficult route, resisting temptations and immediate gratification in
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  Speaker 1: exchange for more substantial and superior rewards in the future.
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  Speaker 1: It might seem simpler to avoid discomfort and indulge in
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  Speaker 1: immediate pleasures, but eventually this approach only offers fleeting pleasure
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  Speaker 1: at the cost of a potentially much improved future. Imagine
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  Speaker 1: a person lacking determination, who, when faced with a challenge,
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  Speaker 1: chooses to withdraw immediately. How likely is such an individual
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  Speaker 1: to achieve something significant in life when their primary value
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  Speaker 1: lies and seeking comfort. Contrast this with someone who voluntarily
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  Speaker 1: embraces difficulties. They actively seek and welcome challenges as opportunities
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  Speaker 1: for personal growth. Each self imposed trial toughens them, making
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  Speaker 1: them less susceptible to being.
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  Speaker 2: Overwhelmed by life's adversities.
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  Speaker 1: They become more resilient as they face difficulties head on.
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  Speaker 1: When life throws unexpected challenges at them, they are prepared
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  Speaker 1: to handle them because due to living their lives through perseverance,
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  Speaker 1: They've developed readiness for hardships. Our decisions are made in
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  Speaker 1: a moment, but their repercussions can extend throughout a lifetime.
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  Speaker 1: Humans possess the ability to resist impulses in exchange for
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  Speaker 1: a brighter future. Unfortunately, many people live by the principle
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  Speaker 1: of if it feels good, do.
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  Speaker 2: It, and if it doesn't, don't do it.
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  Speaker 1: Yielding to temptations whenever they arise is akin to surrendering
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  Speaker 1: your humanity in certain ways. As intelligent beings, we have
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  Speaker 1: the capacity, i would venture to say, the obligation to
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  Speaker 1: base our decisions on rational thinking, not just on instinct alone.
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  Speaker 1: Strive to be a better human by embracing your humanity.
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  Speaker 1: Exercise your willpower muscle instead of surrendering to the most
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  Speaker 1: primal and least beneficial part.
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  Speaker 2: Of your brain for long term goals.
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  Speaker 1: While primal instincts may provide immediate comfort, they rarely serve
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  Speaker 1: well in the long run.