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When a Crush Becomes an Obsession: Why You Can't Stop Thinking About Them · A Capture Deep Vibs A Positive Space For Inspiration And Embracing Of Heart

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  Speaker 1: Hi! Are all your thoughts and emotions occupied by someone?
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  Speaker 1: It seems like a crush, but it feels so intense
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  Speaker 1: that you can't stop thinking about it or even stalking them.
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  Speaker 1: You're attracted to them, but you realize it's taking a
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  Speaker 1: toll on other aspects of your life. According to the
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  Speaker 1: American Psychological Association, an unhealthy obsession often stems from underlying insecurities,
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  Speaker 1: childhood trauma, anxious attachment style, or a need for control. Also,
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  Speaker 1: it can be linked to seeking validation or filling a
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  Speaker 1: void in your life through someone else. So, you have
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  Speaker 1: an unhealthy obsession with someone. Now what? The first step
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  Speaker 1: to fixing the problem is acknowledging it. To deal with
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  Speaker 1: an unhealthy obsession, it's important to first understand the signs.
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  Speaker 1: Here are the signs to watch out for. You can't
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  Speaker 1: stop thinking about them. You feel anxious when you're not
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  Speaker 1: around them. You can't live without them. You neglect your
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  Speaker 1: needs to focus on them. You spend hours stalking them
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  Speaker 1: on social media and show up uninvited to places you
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  Speaker 1: think they might be. Obsessive feelings can become unhealthy when
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  Speaker 1: they affect your wellbeing and other relationships. They would make
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  Speaker 1: you do things you wouldn't normally do, affecting your growth, self-esteem,
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  Speaker 1: and productivity. Here are a few tips to help you
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  Speaker 1: deal with an unhealthy obsession. Know you're worthy of love.
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  Speaker 1: Obsessions can come from you feeling undeserving or thinking you've
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  Speaker 1: missed out on love. You can convince yourself that you're
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  Speaker 1: unlovable and won't find someone who truly cares. The key
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  Speaker 1: is to look into these doubts. Ask yourself, why do
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  Speaker 1: I feel unlovable? Why do I believe this person doesn't
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  Speaker 1: love me the way I want? Once you understand, focus
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  Speaker 1: on loving yourself, imperfections included. Remind yourself of your worth
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  Speaker 1: daily and know that you're worthy of love. Get clear
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  Speaker 1: on what they mean to you. When you're obsessed with someone,
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  Speaker 1: try to find out what they mean to you. Ask yourself,
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  Speaker 1: what does this person represent? Is it acceptance, security, love
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  Speaker 1: or understanding? Then, think about whether your experiences with them
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  Speaker 1: have fulfilled your emotional needs. Oftentimes, the answer is no.
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  Speaker 1: Embracing this reality can help you deal with unhealthy obsessions effectively.
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  Speaker 1: Take a reality check. Take a moment to consider if
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  Speaker 1: the perception of this person aligns with who they truly
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  Speaker 1: are Have there been instances where your hopes didn't match reality?
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  Speaker 1: What lessons can you draw from those moments? Reflecting on
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  Speaker 1: these questions would help you understand that your obsession isn't
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  Speaker 1: based on reality, but an idea of them you created.
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  Speaker 1: Think about their flaws. Think about their not so great qualities.
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  Speaker 1: Everyone has flaws, even the person you're obsessing over. Realizing
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  Speaker 1: this helps you see them more clearly. It might not
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  Speaker 1: seem simple, but making a list of all their negative
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  Speaker 1: traits can give you a fresh perspective. Remember, this doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean they're a bad person or unworthy of love, but
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  Speaker 1: it's a way to make sure you're looking at them
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  Speaker 1: as regular humans. If you don't know their flaws well enough,
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  Speaker 1: you might not really know them well enough to love them.
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  Speaker 1: Finding these insights helpful? Give this video a thumbs up
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  Speaker 1: and subscribe for more. Seek professional help. If your obsession
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  Speaker 1: with someone is affecting the overall quality of your life,
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  Speaker 1: Reaching out to a professional would be a good idea
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  Speaker 1: to determine if medical help is needed. While talking to
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  Speaker 1: loved ones can offer support, if you have an extreme
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  Speaker 1: obsession with someone, professional help would be the best solution. Lastly,
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  Speaker 1: don't forget to be kind to yourself throughout the process.
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  Speaker 1: It's okay to have strong feelings for someone, but when
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  Speaker 1: it becomes overwhelming and obsessive, it's important to take steps
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  Speaker 1: to address it. Understand that obsessions are based on your
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  Speaker 1: idea of them and not reality. Take small steps, be
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  Speaker 1: patient with yourself, and reach out for professional support when needed.
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  Speaker 1: You deserve a healthy and fulfilling love life. Have you
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  Speaker 1: experienced any of these signs? How did you overcome an
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  Speaker 1: unhealthy obsession? Share your experiences in the comments below. Curious
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  Speaker 1: about the signs of an unhealthy obsession? Watch this video
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  Speaker 1: to learn more. 7 Signs You're Obsessed With Your Crush