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Ep. 80: From military grit, to Mama, to mercy & self-love w/Veteran & Empowerment Coach Dielle Luster · Adventures in Adversity: an inspirational podcast

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  Hello, Episode 80. We're back.
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  And I knew this was gonna be good, but I didn't know it was
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  gonna be this good until I just talked to Dee, my new friend DL
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  Luster. Did I say it correctly?
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  Yes, Dielle Luster and I go by D Simone on Instagram.
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  That's what they all know, me, Coach D Simone.
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  But you're going to call me D because we're friends already.
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  And if this is published right now, you're looking down at the
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  show notes and you're like, oh, I wonder what her Instagram is?
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  It's right down below. All the things websites, all the
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  links are down below. I wanted to thank you D for
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  coming on the show. I am so honored and excited and
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  I and I'm already feeling like the amazing energy from you.
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  Thank you for having me. When I saw you, you were so real
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  and so honest and authentic. And I'm like, yes, let's talk,
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  let's get together. This is my new girlfriend.
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  Yes, well, and then I was at the gym earlier today, I was doing
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  my little podcast homework and I was like searching around and I
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  could already tell from your picture then like your your
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  smile and I'm sure you get that like just everything.
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  I'm like, she's obviously amazing, but I was like, oh, I'm
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  just clicking on some videos and then once I heard you talk and
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  stuff, I'm like, oh, she might be a little bit of a goofball
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  like me too. I think when I was like, oh,
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  she's kooky. She's kooky too.
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  Like you're, you're, you're amazing and you're a veteran.
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  You are. Thank you for your, but you're
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  also a little kooky, which I love.
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  I am. I'm kooky.
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  It makes us. I enjoy that side of me.
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  I'm not going to hide it. Like, yeah, it's.
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  Great. It's great.
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  You know, serious enough? No way.
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  It is never a dull moment when you're hanging out with us.
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  It's kooky. Right, like I'll tell you a
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  story. I have these braids and I was in
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  my closet and my hair got caught on the hanger.
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  So I'm just like, oh, dying laughing.
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  It's the it's. Your sons come in, they're like
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  mom, you're like, I'm good, I'm fine, I'm fine.
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  I got it. Oh, I it's life, man.
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  Yeah. Beauty is pain.
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  No, I'm just kidding. You're like listen, OK, no,
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  you're the back when you signed on for the people who weren't
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  here 5 minutes ago, everybody 5 we met 5 minutes ago literally
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  doesn't feel like that. But when you signed on your
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  background and your whole vibe, I'm like, and then we
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  coordinated by accident with the the neon and all that stuff.
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  So there's just gonna be a lot of goodness and laughs and
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  realness in this conversation. I can already feel it.
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  Let's do it. I can.
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  OK, So Dee, we connected like God has been sending me the most
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  amazing people and the majority of which come through
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  connections through Instagram, someone commenting, someone
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  liking or then me seeing what I'm being like.
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  Like so I think we connected. Was it through a reel with Adam?
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  It was, it was. It was a reel through Adam.
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  Yes, he is Adam. I don't know him personally.
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  No, it just popped up and I'm like, that's awesome.
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  You're awesome. Yeah.
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  And here we. Are thank the algorithm for once
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  it got it right. Oh my gosh.
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  No, it's seriously. I'm like, you're sending me not.
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  I mean, you're sending me people who want to share their stories,
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  like, and it's happening very effortlessly where they're like,
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  yeah, sure, when? Tomorrow.
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  Cool. I'm like what?
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  Wait. Huh.
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  OK, like. Yeah, it's a shift of energy.
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  We feel it. We feel God's grace surrounding
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  us. I think it's time for voices
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  that matter to be heard, to make an impact.
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  And he's letting it be seen and shown.
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  And we're shining lights and we're willing.
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  I'm willing to use my voice. Yeah.
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  So you are no stranger to using your voice.
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  This is the part where I love to brag about the guests in front
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  of them, if you're OK with that. Oh yes.
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  And you just sit there and then I just talk about you and then
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  you get to talk after. But it's all.
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  So guys, if you don't know D OK, DL right.
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  Am I saying you're right? DL dial dial OK, dial I got to
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  get it right. But you go by D yes.
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  OK, So dial you are you are an Army veteran, which have so many
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  things to say about that. First of all, I want to thank
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  you for your service because that is incredible.
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  So you obviously we're going to get all into that.
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  You are equally important. More importantly, all of the
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  things A mother of three, three boys.
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  Two boys, one girl. Two boys, one girl.
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  The one in the middle's a girl, but she's my roughest one.
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  She is embodies the boy. It's her OK.
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  She's the second born the it's. The second born your protection
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  exactly as as they are as well, but also their mom is an army
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  veteran. So I'm like, yeah, they're you
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  guys are fine. You'll be good.
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  They're protected. Yeah, it's amazing.
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  And I'm not done, by the way. I'm just getting started, guys.
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  So Army veteran, which we're going to talk, talk all about.
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  You're a mother of three. You have a degree in radio and
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  television broadcasting. You are an empowerment coach,
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  literally. That's like my two favorite
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  kinds of people who are coaches and veterans.
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  That's how you were meant to be. I mean, I, I just, yeah, I just
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  have so much respect for our military.
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  It's beyond. Yeah, it's, it was a beautiful
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  life. I'm so thankful that I did it.
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  It was rough. It was tough.
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  I worked hand in hand with infantry, so I was pretty much
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  frontline as a bridge crew member.
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  I built the bridges that they drove over to go frontline.
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  That's what I did. It was insane, insane, but I
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  loved every second of it. It was so thrilling, you know?
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  Wow. OK, so let's just back up
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  because all the things so. We got.
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  Connected and you had there's so many I want to touch upon, you
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  know, in this hour we spend together and I'm sure this will
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  be the first hopefully if you have time in your schedule
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  because you're amazing and you're doing so many cool things
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  to collaborate in some way in the future.
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  Obviously, this is going to be the beginning, but I would love
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  to touch upon your story, like how you approach adversity, how
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  you get through it, and then also how you help your clients
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  get through adversity, Right? Yeah.
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  So this is the part where I'm going to zip it and I'm going to
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  ask you to just kind of take me through your life, take me
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  through when you think about adversity, like all the things.
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  I'm just going to be quiet and let you start talking and then
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  telling your story. How about that?
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  Let's do it. OK, I'll start from from about
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  after high school time frame. I was in a relationship and it
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  was now looking hindsight, it was detrimental.
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  It was having fun. We were racing cars.
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  It was all the things I was down this fun girl slope and my
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  sister who is the light of my life, my joy, my everything is
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  my my older sister. She saw it and she's like, we
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  need to get you together. And the heartbreak was so
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  drastic. I'm like, you know what, I'm
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  going to the Army just drastic. And she's I was like, OK, you
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  know what, if that's what you want to do, I believe in you.
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  You're tough enough. Let's go.
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  And I did. And that's where I started the
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  journey. I'm from a small town, so
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  there's many, not many options outside of that.
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  But I did go to college before the Army ad Bethune Cookman
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  College. But it was so fun.
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  It was so exciting. I'm like, I'm I'm never going to
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  graduate. Mom, you're wasting your money.
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  I am just having fun partying. I'll be honest.
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  You know, that's fine, yeah. Yeah.
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  So Fast forward, I got into the military and that's where I
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  found the discipline, the structure, the the empowerment
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  of self. And especially as a woman, there
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  was no, oh, you're a woman, You don't have to nae, nae, nae, nae
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  nae nae. Let's go.
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  If we're watching 12 miles, you're going 12 miles.
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  Yes, it was very much if we're lifting this 1000 LB bridge
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  piece, grab your piece, let's go.
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  So it was very much empowering to know that me and my best
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  friend Gina, she was my battle buddy, but she's still to this
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  day my best friend ever. It was me and her and she's just
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  as small. And we did it.
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  We did everything it took. We went through all of the the
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  rigmarole. I I still to this day sometimes
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  struggle with the thought of going out of the country, even
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  because of the POW training. There was just different things
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  that we were taught and now is embedded as a veteran that many
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  might not think of that I'm very like, oh, you know, it's.
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  You can't look. You can't look at life the same.
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  I don't. You.
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  I don't. I don't look at anything the
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  same. And now, you know, as a single
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  woman, I'm like, I'm such a different girlfriend because we
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  might be sitting on the couch and I'm like, you know, I need
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  to train how to fireman carry you if there's ever a house fire
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  or like who's going on the roof or who's going if a zombie
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  apocalypse. I know they're like, whoa, it's
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  just I'm now wired differently. And it's that adversity and that
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  even that fight with the soft girl era and the still the woman
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  empowerment in civilian world is even something that I have to
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  struggle with her or learn to to manage.
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  Is that dark and light feminine masculine energy.
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  It's it's very intriguing. You know, it's a very slippery
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  slope. And that's why I keep God at the
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  center of it all. Oh.
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  Yes, that is such the best thing I've ever heard.
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  Yeah, he's at the center of it all.
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  Because if I go with just me, who knows where I'll be?
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  There is no, yeah, I'm going to need, I need a switch, I need
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  something to kind of a calibration, right?
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  Yeah, yeah. And, and with the military, we
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  went to five different states. I was married for 13 years.
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  So he and I were soldiers together.
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  You know, it worked. While we were soldiers together,
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  we did civilian life in five different states, including
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  Texas, Mississippi, here in Florida, just different States.
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  And when we came here, I grounded myself in Tampa and it
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  was amazing. That's where I'm, I learned to
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  hone myself in as a woman. You know, women empowerment is
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  something I've been doing since the military with my
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  girlfriends. We even with my battle Buddy Guy
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  friends, I was always that friend that they would come to,
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  to calm down for peace for and a word of advice.
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  And it was very much needed outside of just practical things
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  or, you know, always being so strong.
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  We need a place where we can just calm down.
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  I would cook for everybody. I'd invite them over.
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  We'd have Christmas at my house. It was always so endearing.
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  I loved it. And to this day, I love my
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  military family. You know, I just became that and
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  on this side, I wanted to continue to do the same thing,
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  IE becoming a certified empowerment coach.
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  And that was where I'm finding myself as a woman.
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  I have this, this calling within my being.
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  What am I going to do with myself?
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  It's when we have to face those shadows of self and really look
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  inward. Where am I going wrong?
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  Where am I just, oh, it's fine when it's not when you have to
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  face those hard decisions that sit in your gut as a woman, you
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  know, like I need to face it. I need to face it, you know, and
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  that that practice became my lessons.
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  That practice became what I would speak even when I was
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  scared or nervous or I didn't know.
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  I gained that community. So my girls, can we go through
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  this together? I don't know what.
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  Yeah, well, it everything you're saying too, it's you're, you're
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  not alone. You have your friends and God.
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  It's like you have that awareness.
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  Absolutely. And that's who I I really leaned
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  into God. I really begin to read my Bible
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  and really have a foundation of who I wanted to become and where
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  I'd stand. Where would this be built from?
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  Is it social media? Is it entertainment world?
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  Is it the trendy? Is it your career?
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  Am I my own idol? Let me get in my word and see
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  what the good Lord tells me to do and who to be.
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  Yeah, yeah. It's mind blowing.
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  Like I understand exactly what you're saying because I'm now
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  reading the Bible and in a Bible study and probably maybe a year
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  or two ago I wouldn't, I'd be like, wait, what?
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  Like I wouldn't. Now I'm like when I read the
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  Bible or do anything related to God, all of the downloads and
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  answers come. They just come when the things
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  that are on your mind, you're like, OK, if I read this, even
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  if it's just a little verse, I'm like.
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  Right. OK, if I were to, yeah, then I
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  know the answer is pretty clear. Are you actually going to do it?
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  Because it's pretty clear. It's pretty clear.
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  It's something you just read and you're just kind of not you're.
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  Not exactly you're. Pretending like it confused, but
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  he just said it right there he. Said it right.
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  There very nicely. It's very convicting now.
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  Now you feel it rather than just reading it.
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  You're convicted by it and that's what causes the change.
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  That's what we have to stir and work and write about.
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  Those are the things when it stirs your emotions and convict,
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  you move on it. It's hard.
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  It's hard. So let me ask you this.
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  Did you before the military did? When did you find God?
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  Was God always a part of your life?
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  Yeah, absolutely. I grew up in church.
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  My mother was always sick in as a church.
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  I worked with the church. We were always there.
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  There was always something. So I grew up in the church, yes,
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  but I didn't build my own personal relationship until
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  military. That's when I was like, uh oh.
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  Because it conflicted What I was grew up raised as and what I was
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  training to become was very conflicting, very conflicting.
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  I am trained to kill. It's a very morbid, it's very
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  dark, but that's the reality You are trained to take out without
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  a thought. Growing up religious and and a
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  Christian, it's like that's the last thing I'm going to do.
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  Right, right it was. Very it was a friction and I had
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  to to lean into God and that's my sister was my saving grace.
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  Even in that I used my sister. If my sister's life was on the
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  line, what would I do? I'd puncture her lung if there
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  was fluid. I'd tie a tourniquet on her leg.
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  I'd fireman carry her out of a building.
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  I'd mow anybody down. That's in my way about my
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  sister, and that's how I got through it.
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  It's so dark. It's so dark.
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  And coming from a woman, it's even more like whoa.
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  But that's the reality of being a veteran there.
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  It comes with the cost for sure mentally.
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  Yes, well, thank you for sharing that.
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  And I want to say what came to mind was in, I don't know, it
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  just came and downloaded was God's army, though.
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  Like there's an there is gosh, it is a you are battling against
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  some really dark stuff and you have stepped up to be the one.
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  You know, we all have a, a calling.
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  You have a, you have a the toughest.
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  I feel like when and I that's why I'm so I was raised like my,
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  I'm so patriotic. I love our veterans.
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  I am like when I see anyone in a coffee shop, I'm like, Oh, I
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  must like I that's I must go talk to you and say thank you.
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  And if and if I'm going to buy you coffee, like that's it.
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  Like you don't mess with like if you mess with a veteran around
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  me, like I, I, I don't know how to handle that.
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  Don't do it. No, like don't do it around me
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  like. But what I want to tell you is
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  that that's such a, it's a weight to bear, but yet somebody
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  has to like fill that role. And it's like the army of God,
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  right? Right.
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  When you're like fighting evil. Absolutely.
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  It is putting on the armor. There wasn't a moment I wasn't
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  praying. There wasn't a moment that I
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  didn't need to get near and dear to me.
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  There was a moment where we had to dig our own foxholes, which
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  is a grave and you sleep in it and you guard your friends and
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  that is a part of your brain structure changing.
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  I am prepared to sleep in my grave to protect those I love.
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  It's that mentality. But on this side, it makes it
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  that much more beautiful to say, oh, my sister, oh, my, my
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  daughters, my children. It's all is well.
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  All is well. I know, I know.
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  So I just draw everybody in in that that manner.
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  Yeah, it's a beautiful. No.
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  So you were deployed. Where were you deployed?
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  I was at Fort Knox. I was in Garrison Fort Knox.
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  So we, we trained heavily. Like that was that was, that's
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  the base. You know, you have to be top
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  notch for Fort Knox. We guarded the base.
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  So it was very much that, yeah, all goals there.
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  All of our, our valuables are at Fort Knox.
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  So it was protecting the land. Oh my God.
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  That's the expression. It's like Fort Knox.
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  Yes, lockdown, like Fort Knox, is a real thing.
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  And I already, I researched and I did my research and then I,
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  I'm so glad that happened actually on where I'm like,
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  wait, Fort Knox, Fort Knox, that's very secure and very
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  famous. Oh, yes.
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  Oh, yes. It is very much protected in
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  that way. Yeah.
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  You know, so I take all my training and I take it with me,
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  and I wear it as a badge of honor.
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  I don't because you can get in a depressive state, you can get in
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  a darker state, which I've seen so many of my battle buddies and
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  other soldiers take on who have deployed, who have actually put
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  that training into real life practice, doing it, seeing some
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  things. I'm blessed that I didn't have
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  to go that drastic, but the training even was enough.
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  Girl well and your nervous system and rewind and like you
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  also I feel like military once and again I have not been
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  trained so please correct me if I'm wrong.
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  Going through the training and then being part of that
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  community. You cannot look at everyday life
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  the same, right? Right.
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  Even if you're after the fact like you are now.
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  See, you are you look at everything through the lens of
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  what you've been trained and you've also seen and are aware
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  of the darker side of life. Exactly, exactly.
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  I don't look at things the same. I, you know, I travel solo here
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  in the States. I'll travel to New York.
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  I, I love my annual trip to New York and I travel by myself and
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  most of my girlfriends are like, Daddy, you know, you're not
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  scared. You're not.
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  I don't have that fear that most, you know, might assume
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  like, oh, a single woman trap. No, no.
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  You're like, I know what to do. I got this.
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  I'm going to enjoy myself. Yeah, even protecting my
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  children. I have this awareness that even
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  instilled in them, you know, it's very much crudes forward
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  the circle, you know, but it's I'm very much it's how my brain
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  works. It's, I'm, I love that side.
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  It's a bright side, you know, I'm not afraid of the world.
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  Of course I know God is protecting me all times but.
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  Sure, it's the the awareness, peace and then like it's
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  discernment, which I'm learning about as like baby Christian,
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  baby Christian. I'm like a Christian toddler.
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  I'm a little toddler. I was like raised Catholic and
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  then I like would just do my own thing and I was like, why am I
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  anxious all the time? Oh, maybe because I'm not
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  talking to God ever. And then.
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  You know, now I'm like, huh? Yeah.
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  What drew you in? What?
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  What's it? What made you say I?
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  This is the journey. You know what it was?
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  Narcissistic abuse recovery. Look at that.
• 20:33
  A little bit of that. Get it?
• 20:35
  So, and I think we touched on on a little bit of that word and,
• 20:39
  and kind of stuff before, but like, again, I don't want to
• 20:42
  talk about myself. I'm I'm rambling.
• 20:44
  I want to come back to you and we'll probably all relate it,
• 20:47
  but so take me through. You said you grew up with God,
• 20:51
  and where did you grow up? I grew up in Sanford, FL, right
• 20:54
  outside of Orlando, FL so I grew up with Mickey.
• 20:56
  Mouse. OK, Yes.
• 20:57
  Florida. Awesome, awesome.
• 20:59
  Florida. Amazing.
• 21:00
  OK, so you grew up there, then you go to the military.
• 21:04
  And how long were you in the military?
• 21:06
  I served three years. I personally served three years,
• 21:09
  but I served 8 as the spouse. So I went from soldier to
• 21:12
  spouse. Continued.
• 21:13
  So then I did that journey. So I've served on both sides as
• 21:16
  a spouse and the soldier. Yeah.
• 21:18
  And that was my longest journey as the spouse.
• 21:21
  So I understood more and it was great to be the spouse.
• 21:24
  And that's where a lot of my time as a spouse, 10 years
• 21:28
  total. Can you, if you were to kind of
• 21:30
  say like if someone was like, hey, so based on your time in
• 21:34
  the Army, when someone says like, hey Dee, how do you get
• 21:39
  through adversity based on like how does the military and your
• 21:42
  time in the army? I mean, obviously there's so
• 21:44
  many different situations, but how do they train you to look at
• 21:48
  adversity? Well, it's, it's one of those
• 21:54
  things where you take it head on because it might, it might be
• 21:59
  you being sleep deprived, you haven't slept in 36 hours or
• 22:03
  your spouse might have just left you and took everything in your
• 22:06
  house, including your children. And you now have to tomorrow
• 22:10
  6:00 AM go to training. You know, there was different
• 22:14
  things where it was to take it head on.
• 22:16
  And it's much like fear in the world now in my civilian life,
• 22:20
  when I feel the fear, I feel it as in take it on head on, face
• 22:24
  it Got at Percy. You just have to face it.
• 22:27
  There's there's moments where I'm like, OK, I want to cry.
• 22:29
  I want to just soak. And I just don't.
• 22:32
  No, no, no. But I'm trained to take it head
• 22:36
  on. Yeah.
• 22:39
  That's a really good answer because it's you.
• 22:42
  I it's so easy to avoid. Yeah, avoid, avoid it you.
• 22:50
  But in military, you can't. You cannot.
• 22:53
  There's no way around it. There's no way.
• 22:55
  Around it? No, you are called.
• 22:57
  Nope, no, yes. We're rocking 12 miles.
• 23:02
  I can't say mile 4. I'm so tired.
• 23:05
  I'm going to sit down and have a sandwich now.
• 23:07
  No, you're going to get through 12 miles.
• 23:11
  However, you have to tell your yourself, I have to do this.
• 23:15
  And that's what you really have to almost delusion.
• 23:19
  It's almost a form of that psyching yourself out.
• 23:23
  I got to do this. And that's how I get through
• 23:25
  life. You know, I've done teaching,
• 23:27
  I've done school and there's been moments where I'm just so
• 23:30
  like, oh, I'm overwhelmed and then I'm like, I got to do it.
• 23:33
  That means sitting up 1:00 AM planning your schedule for when
• 23:36
  the kids have to go, for when you're going to school, face the
• 23:40
  thing and plan it out and do it. So that's kind of how I just, it
• 23:45
  keeps me happy. It keeps me authentic.
• 23:48
  Yeah, yeah. And once you face it and again,
• 23:53
  I have not faced anything military wise Fort Knox.
• 23:57
  So like however the parallels, right, like as a parallel, I'm
• 24:01
  sure in your, well, obviously in your empowerment coaching
• 24:04
  business, which we're going to talk about, you take your
• 24:06
  training and the principles and that's you help apply that to
• 24:11
  life, right? Yeah.
• 24:12
  So it's like, I don't know if you found this, but once the
• 24:16
  hardest part for me with anything is that first minute,
• 24:20
  but then once you've looked at it for maybe a couple minutes,
• 24:24
  you're like, all right, this still sucks, but like at least
• 24:28
  at least like I'm already going. So I'll just keep going.
• 24:30
  Or sometimes you go, oh, you was that wasn't even what you
• 24:34
  thought. Like you're like, come on, you
• 24:36
  avoided this for two weeks. Come on.
• 24:38
  Yes, It might be just making that phone call.
• 24:41
  It might be just looking at that that's sending that e-mail.
• 24:43
  That first step, once you get past, you're like, OK, now
• 24:47
  you're in it. You just click on Yes.
• 24:51
  You just go. It's almost like it sounds like
• 24:53
  in the military no option of quitting helps you not quit
• 24:58
  because you can't. Exactly.
• 24:59
  You can't exactly. You can't quit.
• 25:02
  You can't quit. And when once graduation came
• 25:04
  and there's a moment where we all stump our feet and the
• 25:07
  lights come on and it's this moment, the stage is set.
• 25:11
  We're ready. We all, there's just tears
• 25:13
  because we all have felt. Yet.
• 25:16
  We. Did it?
• 25:18
  Yeah. Yeah, and that's what I I, I
• 25:22
  strive for in life with my clients, those things, you know,
• 25:25
  whatever it may be, I want them to have that empowered moment.
• 25:28
  Like I really did it, Dee. Yeah, you did.
• 25:32
  You always could. Yeah.
• 25:35
  Yeah. OK, So you have the graduation
• 25:38
  moment, you're you're in the Army and then you also are an
• 25:43
  Army spouse. And then so, so take me through
• 25:48
  again, like I know there's so many parts of your story and
• 25:51
  this will just scratch the surface, but take me through the
• 25:55
  next chapter of your life and kind of where you find yourself.
• 25:58
  Yeah, OK. I was my mommy's spouse for a
• 26:01
  while there. He got out because of some
• 26:03
  medical conditions. So once we came to Tampa, you
• 26:06
  know, things kind of they were OK, but they got a little bit
• 26:09
  worse in this time frame. Now we're like living
• 26:11
  separately. We're starting to feel the
• 26:14
  distance start to happen between us.
• 26:17
  This is after the military because it was so much of our
• 26:19
  identity, so much of our marriage.
• 26:22
  That's what we were based on, our friendship groups, our
• 26:24
  friend groups. It was all encapsulated within
• 26:27
  our military life. It was a totally different life.
• 26:30
  So civilian. I understood his perplexion, my
• 26:35
  perplex, but I was very much, I was older, so I was, you know, I
• 26:39
  had time. He joined at 19, I joined at 23.
• 26:42
  I had some life skills. So I wasn't new to civilian
• 26:46
  world. So we just kind of started to
• 26:47
  grow, grow apart. I was ready and he was more
• 26:51
  fragile and and fearful. You know, it was there was this
• 26:55
  friction. We lived apart for a while, you
• 26:57
  know, so that's when things started to OK, who am I going to
• 27:01
  be without him? He's a great person.
• 27:05
  That was the hard part. He's a beautiful soul.
• 27:09
  There's no, oh, there was infidelity.
• 27:10
  He was mean. He was there's, it was not that
• 27:14
  that was actually me. Oh, it was a woman.
• 27:20
  That was the harder part of the relationship.
• 27:23
  There was resentment coming from me towards him.
• 27:25
  There was this bitterness. You're supposed to be the leader
• 27:28
  of the family. You should be knowing you should
• 27:30
  be doing. You should be.
• 27:32
  There was this judgment from me, you know.
• 27:36
  So there was a moment where I'm like, I love you enough to let
• 27:39
  you go experience life, how you need to do it, how you want to
• 27:43
  do it at your own pace. So that created adversity,
• 27:47
  especially for our kids and, and just breaking the family apart.
• 27:49
  But he got ill and you know, things happened where he came
• 27:52
  back, but we just finally decided to go our own ways.
• 27:55
  And and now that's where the empowerment became really what I
• 28:02
  needed to hold on to for my, my, myself and my communities.
• 28:06
  There were moments where I would do videos and it was just what I
• 28:09
  was thinking or feeling or, and my girlfriends would reach out
• 28:12
  like Dee. I I can understand.
• 28:14
  There was my YouTube community really saved me in that way.
• 28:18
  That's where I really developed my relationship with God was he
• 28:22
  was a great person. I was spoiled, Ryan.
• 28:25
  I lived a soft life like it was great, and to break away from
• 28:32
  that. No, but so it wasn't, it was, it
• 28:36
  was a yeah, like. Yeah, it's, it wasn't a typical
• 28:40
  easy type of fix. And I knew I, it was the
• 28:44
  problem, you know, so it was almost just saving him from me.
• 28:48
  He's so innocent. He's so sweet.
• 28:50
  He's so kind in that way. He grew up in Mississippi.
• 28:53
  He's a country boy. He's just by hand.
• 28:56
  He's so traditional. I love, love his soul dearly.
• 29:00
  To this day, he's still one of my best friends.
• 29:02
  I, I love him dearly, you know, So it was me that had those
• 29:06
  traits of, you know, being the, you can ruin his life if you
• 29:11
  don't either break away from him or be willing to be the partner
• 29:15
  that he needs, you know, and it was choosing myself in that
• 29:19
  moment. Yeah, yeah.
• 29:22
  And you know, like it, it's. I'm sure you've learned in life
• 29:28
  like things happen and you grow apart from people in different
• 29:33
  ways in different. Like it doesn't relationships
• 29:36
  change even when you don't think certain ones will ever change?
• 29:40
  You're like. You're like, no, that one, but
• 29:42
  that one won't. That one won't.
• 29:43
  And you're like, no, but you don't know that because like
• 29:46
  we're all changing and God is actually, as you know, God is
• 29:51
  changing us at when we're open to it at different times.
• 29:55
  So it's, yeah, your journey. It's in those lessons, it's in
• 29:58
  those, those moments, and it's letting go of the control of
• 30:02
  thinking we're even in control. It's understanding God has his
• 30:07
  hands on everything that's happening.
• 30:09
  Trust the process and the timing of your life and let God lead
• 30:13
  the way. It's getting out of your own
• 30:14
  way. You know, that was really,
• 30:16
  really hard for me. Yeah, one of your YouTube videos
• 30:21
  that I was listening to earlier where you were like, you were
• 30:25
  just talking, which I love and that's I just, I love doing that
• 30:28
  too 'cause you're like, listen, this is the real what I'm going
• 30:31
  through and like, if you resonate, then great.
• 30:34
  If not, then I'm the only one and I'm crazy.
• 30:37
  And now it's recorded and now it's recorded great.
• 30:40
  No, but like more off you usually get like, Oh my gosh, me
• 30:43
  too, you know, but literally you said you're excited for what's
• 30:50
  come to come. And if there's also and I'm not
• 30:52
  sure, I can't remember the timing of when it was recorded,
• 30:54
  but like I could relate to like two things can be true at one
• 30:58
  time. You're very excited about this
• 31:00
  new phase and adventure and possibility, but then there's
• 31:03
  like a grieving or a sadness or like a like it's and then I'm
• 31:09
  like, Oh my gosh, I feel that right now and I'm like, am I
• 31:13
  grieving? Like, and then I'm like, Oh,
• 31:15
  there's stuff like I, I just identities.
• 31:18
  And then like also losing, like realizing I'm drifting from some
• 31:23
  people, but then being like, yeah, I see why.
• 31:26
  But then being like, oh, but that's sad.
• 31:29
  It's so sad because you're comfortable with it.
• 31:31
  It's your comfort zone that's fading away and you're not sure
• 31:34
  of the unknown. But you know, it's great.
• 31:37
  It's for my highest good. But I'm so comfortable with
• 31:40
  these people, with this way of thinking of life.
• 31:43
  I know if it makes me sad, I can just cry about it and it's fine.
• 31:45
  I'll just deal with it. It's letting and shedding those
• 31:49
  layers and letting it go while also being like, I have no idea
• 31:53
  what I'm getting myself into but.
• 31:56
  Let's. Let.
• 31:57
  Go, but it's exciting. It's exciting.
• 32:01
  And by the way, I don't want to be like arrogant in that.
• 32:04
  Like I've grown apart from some people and I'm sure maybe
• 32:07
  they're happy about like maybe they're like, yeah, she's really
• 32:09
  annoying now. Like, I don't know, I'm not the
• 32:11
  one that's like. I'm not like the villain.
• 32:13
  We're all the villain. We're all.
• 32:14
  Like I'm not like, oh, I've grown apart because I'm a puppy.
• 32:18
  Like no, we've probably grown apart because we just for
• 32:21
  whatever reason don't resonate like.
• 32:24
  Yeah. But like, yeah, I love that, how
• 32:26
  you're so humble about it. You're so humble.
• 32:28
  Like you could you could see. Where I could be like, oh, I,
• 32:31
  you know, it's not like that at all.
• 32:32
  It's literally like, for whatever reason, I mean, there's
• 32:36
  some people around like, yeah, you're just so negative.
• 32:38
  I can't be around you. Like sorry.
• 32:41
  Because you yourself are growing out of that.
• 32:42
  You know, maybe Once Upon a time you were OK with letting
• 32:45
  yourself suffer through it. And now you're like, I have no
• 32:48
  patience for that anymore. And.
• 32:50
  Then they're probably like, she talks so much and I'm like,
• 32:52
  yeah, I do. But it's at least it's not
• 32:54
  negative. Hello.
• 32:57
  And there's people that love to hear me talk and I have a
• 33:00
  community that I can go to that enjoys all my words.
• 33:03
  Yeah, I do. Exactly.
• 33:05
  Like at my. My poor husband who's like quiet
• 33:08
  and he's like, I go, am I talking a lot?
• 33:10
  And he goes uh huh. And I'm like, is it annoying?
• 33:13
  He's like, no, I'm. Just I loving you and I'm like,
• 33:16
  it's you, all right, Accepting you for you.
• 33:19
  That's what it's all about. He lets me.
• 33:23
  That's the key in life, right with.
• 33:25
  That's life, chips. Anything Absolutely.
• 33:30
  OK, sorry, I forgot I was, you know, interviewing you.
• 33:33
  I was just like yapping. OK, so you are literally you
• 33:39
  were talking about we were talking about how two things can
• 33:40
  be true at one time. Now you I'm so grateful that you
• 33:45
  have such a great relationship with him though, because
• 33:46
  obviously you have kids together.
• 33:48
  That's a really cool thing that that you guys are like that.
• 33:53
  I mean, it took some time to get to it took some moments, but we
• 33:58
  our friendship has always remained intact because that's
• 34:00
  where our basis was. I tell a lot of my friends or
• 34:03
  even as my clients, you know, make sure and when our
• 34:06
  relationships, there's a friendship, especially romantic,
• 34:09
  develop that friendship. Sometimes that's what saves you
• 34:12
  and sometimes that's what makes the breakup easier.
• 34:15
  It makes it less so impacting. There's a friendship that lies,
• 34:20
  that allows us to love each other enough to be like, you
• 34:23
  know what? I'm excited for you to go off
• 34:26
  and do your thing. I'm happy for you.
• 34:28
  There's a friendship. It's not just losing this
• 34:32
  romantic partner. It's still remaining friends,
• 34:36
  you know? And that's how we got through
• 34:38
  it. A lot of prayer, girl, I've been
• 34:40
  on my knees. Yes, a lot of prayer.
• 34:45
  It really is the should be the number one thing on your list of
• 34:50
  resources. Absolutely, absolutely.
• 34:54
  It is much. Pull it out.
• 34:57
  It is. I can't believe how much I go to
• 34:59
  it now. And then I was like, I never did
• 35:01
  this when I was like in my 20s. And so, I mean, I kind of did,
• 35:04
  but not really. And I'm like.
• 35:05
  Not really. Why pray?
• 35:10
  I just would think about it for hours.
• 35:12
  I'm like, yeah, that that didn't work.
• 35:15
  Yeah, it allows you to process the emotions because our
• 35:17
  emotions aren't bad. It's good to feel them.
• 35:19
  It's good to let them process. It's just what are you filtering
• 35:23
  them through that makes it anxiety driven or faith and
• 35:27
  peace driven? What are you sending those
• 35:30
  emotions through? Filter them through, through
• 35:33
  your prayers, through your readings, your scriptures.
• 35:35
  Filter all the emotions, but do feel all the emotions, you know?
• 35:40
  It's the one language we all speak.
• 35:42
  If you were Chinese and I was Arabian, if you laughed, I
• 35:47
  understand your joy. If you're African and I'm
• 35:51
  Japanese, I understand your tears.
• 35:54
  We all speak the same language. When we remember we're all human
• 36:00
  together, it's an experience. It's almost like, like I said in
• 36:04
  the previous episode, it's almost like someone designed it
• 36:07
  that way. God, absolutely.
• 36:16
  It's a beautiful way to think about it because, yeah, when
• 36:19
  you're walking on the street in any foreign country, if it's a
• 36:22
  foreign country to you and you see someone like sobbing, you
• 36:27
  know that they're set. You don't need to know, no.
• 36:31
  Reason, but you know and you know you can pray for that
• 36:35
  sadness. You know you can pray for
• 36:37
  someone's happiness whether you know that the details are not
• 36:40
  you can recognize it was intentional for our feelings to
• 36:44
  come, but filter them properly so you can see yourself.
• 36:49
  That's the self love. It's seeing where you're a piece
• 36:52
  of crap right there. You know it's and being OK with
• 36:56
  it. Don't hold the judgement or hold
• 36:58
  the guilt, but hold yourself accountable for sure.
• 37:02
  Totally. I've learned that as like as a
• 37:06
  Catholic who kind of just fell away and then kind of relearning
• 37:09
  and like read like the baby Christian toddler.
• 37:12
  Now year 2, I'll be a teenager soon.
• 37:15
  It's like dog years, you know, like one year is 7.
• 37:19
  You know. Like I might even quote a
• 37:22
  scripture here soon. OK, yes, in there.
• 37:27
  Yeah. No, but it's, it's I had a point
• 37:30
  there. It was something, it was like,
• 37:32
  it was, oh, when you're, when you're like connecting with God,
• 37:38
  if you're, if you're in the audience right now and let's say
• 37:40
  you're Christian or you're just, you know, connected to God in
• 37:43
  whatever way and you're nodding and you're going, yeah, I know
• 37:46
  what they're talking about. If you're struggling and you're
• 37:48
  hearing this, what how would you recommend starting to talk to
• 37:56
  God? If you're kind of like, listen,
• 37:58
  I don't know much, I'm just in a bad place and I'm willing to try
• 38:02
  because I heard this podcast and I'm down to try.
• 38:06
  Yeah, well, you know what? It's exactly what you said.
• 38:09
  It's go to them as a child of God, as if you're talking to
• 38:14
  your dad, as if you're talking to that parental like, hey, I
• 38:18
  don't know what I'm doing. I don't know.
• 38:20
  Can you just pick me up and hold me in your arms like we do our
• 38:24
  parents? Can you just sit with me?
• 38:26
  Can I just lay on your chest and and be I don't know what to say.
• 38:30
  I don't know how to feel. I'm doing I have a lot just talk
• 38:35
  as a child of God. That's what the Bible speaks to
• 38:40
  us as not Aceo, not an influence answer, not mom, even not all
• 38:45
  the things as a child of God and I read Jonathan McReynolds book,
• 38:50
  don't don't be afraid to climb any higher.
• 38:52
  Don't climb any higher. Sorry, I forgot the title, but
• 38:55
  that's it was one of the things that he was saying was just to
• 38:58
  be a child of God and I that's what I would recommend to
• 39:00
  someone that's coming to him. Just be a child like hey dad,
• 39:04
  I'm here. I probably messed up a lot, but
• 39:08
  yo, do you love me? I'm here bro.
• 39:12
  I did the thing you told me not to do.
• 39:14
  I did it again. I did.
• 39:16
  It again, our parents love us any less.
• 39:19
  They teach us, they guide us, they steer us through.
• 39:22
  But they love us no less. That's God, yeah.
• 39:27
  And that is a clip. You just said a clip.
• 39:31
  That is a clip. It always happens.
• 39:33
  There's always a couple moments where I'm like and clip.
• 39:37
  You do your job well. You.
• 39:39
  Know what you just like, because I'm taking it and going.
• 39:42
  I have that is literally such good advice because some people
• 39:49
  are like and I know and it's a beautiful that so many people
• 39:51
  are waking up. It seems like there's like a
• 39:53
  revival of absolutely, you know, something's going on and I love
• 39:57
  it. But some people are kind of
• 40:00
  like, wait, how do I even begin? I don't know any prayers.
• 40:03
  I don't even know. Like what the Bible is really, I
• 40:06
  know it's an important book, but like, I don't know anything.
• 40:09
  Like that's fine. It's fine.
• 40:11
  He doesn't care what you know now.
• 40:14
  He doesn't doesn't, he doesn't and you know, I've been in this,
• 40:17
  it's in Matthew. It's a scripture.
• 40:19
  Let's just start with scriptures now and and you know it, I'm
• 40:22
  still wrestling with this scripture.
• 40:25
  I know I've read it before, but he was it's the moment where
• 40:28
  Jesus was having dinner. He was having dinner with
• 40:30
  taxpayers and sinners and he was sitting and the Pharisees are
• 40:32
  like, why are you here with them?
• 40:34
  What are what are you doing with these low?
• 40:35
  He's like, why do I keep finding you here just amongst the
• 40:39
  Commons? And Jesus said back to them, I
• 40:42
  want you to go learn when I say I desire mercy, not sacrifice.
• 40:49
  And I've just been like, whoa, not sacrifice.
• 40:58
  I want compassion. I want your kindness.
• 41:03
  I don't want you to necessarily have to always come and repent
• 41:06
  or, or, or feel bad or feel like you're, you have to give the ox.
• 41:10
  So you have to cut the it's, I just desire mercy.
• 41:16
  And that's what we all can give, receive.
• 41:19
  It's there. It's for the giving.
• 41:21
  Every day there's mercy. Embrace it.
• 41:25
  Just embrace it, you know? It's such AI love that passage
• 41:32
  of the Bible and knowing that Jesus was not too cool for
• 41:36
  school for anybody, anybody, no one, anybody like it's you could
• 41:43
  like he's like willing to have a conversation with absolutely
• 41:46
  anyone. Anyone.
• 41:48
  Absolutely. He will cast the first stone.
• 41:50
  Let go ahead. She was a prostitute.
• 41:53
  She. He knew that.
• 41:54
  But there's nobody without sin. So if you have no sin, throw a
• 41:58
  stone right now. There were no stone's throne.
• 42:02
  He saves us all. All are welcome.
• 42:06
  It doesn't matter the journey. That's life.
• 42:09
  That's life is the journey. We've done some crazy, reckless
• 42:12
  things. And he's like, Yep, come on
• 42:14
  home. Yeah.
• 42:15
  He's like you humans are super high maintenance, but it's fine.
• 42:20
  I created. The paradox of light.
• 42:22
  The dark, the light, the good, the bad, the Ying, the Yang.
• 42:26
  It exists, you know. Where's your foundation in that
• 42:31
  ebb and flow? Yeah, Yeah.
• 42:34
  Let me ask you this. So if someone's nodding and
• 42:37
  they're like, OK, I can do that. I can, I'll try that.
• 42:41
  After that, I listen to this podcast.
• 42:42
  I'm going to, I'm going to, OK, I'm going to pray and talk to
• 42:46
  this. I'm going to just start talking
• 42:48
  and see what happens. But then if they're like, wait,
• 42:51
  but Dee, how do I know? How do you feel?
• 42:54
  God, how do you feel or know? Because I love talking to
• 42:58
  people. So I've met some people who are
• 43:00
  like I hear God and I'm like oh I haven't heard him but I feel
• 43:03
  something or I have dreams or I. How do you experience God?
• 43:12
  You know, I, it's cliche maybe, but I love to sit in the sun.
• 43:19
  I've the sun draws to me. I, I feel God.
• 43:24
  It's in those simple things. When I look around and you see
• 43:27
  the creation of life, just life itself.
• 43:30
  I'm like, OK, God, now is the time that I can open my heart.
• 43:34
  I open my everything to you and you feel that good feeling.
• 43:38
  You feel it in your, your bones. You feel it in your, even when
• 43:42
  you're releasing to God, when you're having a moment.
• 43:45
  Lord, I've done this, Lord, I've done that and letting it all go,
• 43:49
  you'll feel that weight just being relieved.
• 43:53
  There's no judgement in God. That's what I need the my the
• 43:56
  viewers to understand. There's no judgement, there's no
• 43:59
  condemnation. There's nothing that you can say
• 44:02
  that's going to knock him off his rocker, that's going to make
• 44:04
  his eyes bulge, that's going to make him even upset.
• 44:09
  Say the thing. Say the thing that you're
• 44:12
  holding so tight. I was molested.
• 44:16
  I was. I was bullied.
• 44:18
  I didn't know what to do. I judged myself.
• 44:21
  Say the thing that really makes you afraid of even being big,
• 44:27
  being bold, allowing yourself to be free.
• 44:30
  Say that thing to God and you'll feel.
• 44:34
  You'll feel God join you. You'll feel the Holy Spirit
• 44:37
  welcome himself into the room. Be honest with God.
• 44:42
  Yeah. I, I can relate to that.
• 44:45
  You feel something comes into the room.
• 44:49
  I'm telling you, like for me, it just happened yesterday when I
• 44:55
  interviewed another guest and she have to connect you guys cuz
• 44:59
  she is a publisher and, and, and she, her company's called
• 45:03
  Redemption Press. Like, like it's a Christian.
• 45:07
  I'm like, Oh my gosh, I'm like, God, you're like God's like,
• 45:10
  yeah, I'm gonna keep. I'm like, OK, yeah, OK.
• 45:12
  I get it. I get it.
• 45:14
  I get it. I get it.
• 45:15
  I hear you. I'm like you're, you're showing
• 45:18
  off now. OK, enough.
• 45:21
  Like I was just kidding. But she was, she was, gosh, what
• 45:26
  is she saying? She was Oh my gosh, I don't even
• 45:29
  know what what my point of that was.
• 45:31
  What was my point? What was my point?
• 45:33
  I had a .0 and she was praying. She's like I I was telling her
• 45:39
  that I feel and again I might sound crazy and that's fine in
• 45:44
  the last year and I got baptized November like a where?
• 45:48
  I feel that's beautiful. Yeah, where I was like, all
• 45:51
  right, baby Christian, I'm real now.
• 45:53
  Like I'm a pain. My official baby because, yeah,
• 45:57
  I was like, it was good. It was good.
• 45:59
  It was really, really exciting. But I feel whenever I pray and I
• 46:03
  get really connected and when I'm really vulnerable, when I'm
• 46:06
  like, all right, I'm coming to be vulnerable today, I feel this
• 46:11
  presence on my left side. Like it's not, I don't hear
• 46:14
  anything. I don't, it's not like warm.
• 46:17
  I just feel like you're not feeling when you feel like
• 46:19
  someone's standing near you. Right.
• 46:23
  He's on the left side and I'm like, OK, never felt that until
• 46:26
  the last six months. Oh, you know, that's that's
• 46:31
  that's how he detailed. He is.
• 46:33
  He knows that's just for you. That's him sitting.
• 46:35
  Holy fear just for you. Yeah, never on that.
• 46:39
  Right. And I'm like sometimes like now
• 46:41
  when you do. Feel it on the right side.
• 46:42
  You'll be like. Yeah, I'm like, no, that's,
• 46:46
  that's something else. I'm.
• 46:47
  Like, wait a minute. Yes.
• 46:49
  I know my connection is on my left side.
• 46:52
  He's so detailed and beautiful in that way.
• 46:54
  Oh my gosh. Yeah.
• 47:00
  'Cause there's. A whole, oh goodness, there's so
• 47:02
  much to talk about, but thank you for answering that.
• 47:06
  So for for it sounds like you, you're telling people to really
• 47:11
  be vulnerable. Say the thing, say it out loud.
• 47:14
  And for me, I feel the same. It's when I'm out, just nature,
• 47:18
  just sit and kind of get quiet, right?
• 47:20
  Oh, yeah, I'll go by a window in my house.
• 47:22
  Wherever the sun, it's just soaking in that, that moment.
• 47:25
  Just as the sun is shining. God is here.
• 47:29
  Just as the sun is shining. He can relieve my pain.
• 47:32
  Just as the sun is shining. I'll be OK.
• 47:35
  It's a shortness. I use the sun.
• 47:37
  Maybe someone can use the clouds.
• 47:39
  Maybe you can use a tree. Just as sure as that thing is
• 47:42
  there and you can see it and feel it.
• 47:44
  God can move that mountain for you, pull you off that mountain,
• 47:49
  bring you back down to the valley and meet you there.
• 47:51
  Absolutely, Absolutely. That's great.
• 47:56
  I love the metaphor of I've just been learning about the whole
• 47:59
  valley in the wilderness thing. I'm like.
• 48:01
  Yeah, yeah, we're. At something and tell me about
• 48:04
  how you feel about this that some I think it was Joyce Meyer,
• 48:07
  somebody I was listening to. There's so many amazing
• 48:09
  preachers. She was like, don't be afraid
• 48:12
  when you're in the wilderness or adversity or in the dark time.
• 48:15
  That's where the work is done actually.
• 48:18
  Absolutely not a bad. Thing If you're in a dark, tell
• 48:22
  me what you think about that. It's not bad at all.
• 48:24
  Like I was mentioning Jonathan McReynolds book.
• 48:26
  That's one of the things though, that is the basis of what he was
• 48:29
  talking about is, is de romanticizing this mountain and
• 48:32
  remembering that the valley is where there's lushness.
• 48:35
  That's where the greens are, that's where the river is,
• 48:38
  that's where the animals are. That's where community is in
• 48:41
  that valley. You get your nourishment to go
• 48:44
  ahead and climb that mountain, to go ahead and do that big
• 48:47
  thing. You gain that in the valley.
• 48:50
  That's where you're just a child of God.
• 48:53
  You're just to be in the valley. That's not always a bad thing.
• 48:58
  You know, look at the valley as that's where the richness is.
• 49:02
  Now I can go scale this mountain to be the best podcaster or
• 49:06
  entrepreneur. There's only a little bit of
• 49:08
  thin air up there. You need some nourishment.
• 49:11
  You need to be full from the valley before you go on that
• 49:15
  Mount Everest and hurt yourself. Yes, so.
• 49:20
  It's almost like it's almost like donics.
• 49:23
  So you're saying too. I'm so I'm so like seeing as
• 49:26
  you're saying, and I'm like, I'm standing in the valley, like,
• 49:28
  you know. In.
• 49:30
  The water and taking my dog for a walk and I'm like, I'm like
• 49:35
  getting my sleep and then God's like, OK now Bree, remember Dee
• 49:40
  said you're all nourished. You've been self caring.
• 49:44
  Yes and now and you did your Bible study.
• 49:47
  Yes. Now we have some adversity.
• 49:49
  This mountain, I'm going to need you to climb it.
• 49:51
  But don't worry, I've told you everything you need.
• 49:53
  For it, you have it all in your bag.
• 49:55
  And then if I'm like, I don't want to climb it, he's like,
• 49:57
  well, you're going to. You're going to do it, you're
• 50:00
  going to do it, and you're going to be great at it.
• 50:03
  Trust yourself in the process. Let's do it.
• 50:06
  It's just moving past that fear, moving, passing that fear, doing
• 50:10
  it anyway. Doing it when you're not even
• 50:12
  sure who you're becoming. I know this isn't me anymore.
• 50:16
  I know I don't recognize my own thoughts anymore, my own
• 50:19
  feelings anymore. This is not me, but now I'm
• 50:23
  becoming. And it's the journey you take
• 50:26
  with God becoming. It's beautiful and scary at the
• 50:30
  same time. Life is that you're a dox.
• 50:32
  Yeah. Yes, so you, you as a human are
• 50:37
  going through that as we all are.
• 50:39
  And then you what is so amazing is that I love that you have
• 50:43
  taken your foundation with God growing up.
• 50:47
  You've taken your military training, you've taken your role
• 50:53
  as a mother, as a wife as now as like obviously you're single and
• 50:58
  like next, like, you know, ready for the next like well, you, you
• 51:02
  love on yourself and then love comes to you that obviously.
• 51:05
  We know that. Absolutely.
• 51:06
  I'm attracting in what comes to me.
• 51:08
  Yeah. I used to think it was
• 51:09
  backwards. I was like, if someone will love
• 51:11
  me and then I'm like God's like, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
• 51:14
  no. No, you are the prize.
• 51:15
  No, no, honey, he's like, I love you and you love you and then
• 51:18
  other people love you, but you love you.
• 51:19
  You love you. So tell me Dee, how did you
• 51:26
  transition to become a empowerment coach?
• 51:29
  Part 1 and Part 2? How do you help your clients,
• 51:35
  like, live their best lives? Yeah, I became an empowerment
• 51:40
  coach because I was a teacher. I was a school teacher for a
• 51:42
  while. I was talking 3rd grade.
• 51:44
  I love teaching, but even prior to that, when I was in Texas, a
• 51:47
  lot of my girlfriends, those those party moments, those
• 51:49
  things while the guys are out hanging out drinking, the girls
• 51:52
  are out like deep. I have this problem.
• 51:54
  I have this, what do you say? What do you?
• 51:56
  And I found myself just being that and I would study and I'm
• 52:00
  like, what am I even studying for?
• 52:01
  What is happening? You know, like what am I doing?
• 52:04
  I'm not a therapist. Like what, you know, but I
• 52:08
  wanted to be there so much for them.
• 52:10
  It became so special to me. And I just one day was searching
• 52:14
  and I'm like, you know, an empowerment coach.
• 52:15
  That's what I, I do that. Well, I wanted to be a drill
• 52:18
  Sergeant in the Army. And I'm like, well, that's one
• 52:20
  way to do it. But on this side, yeah.
• 52:23
  Sergeant. I did.
• 52:26
  I wanted to do drill so bad. I love it.
• 52:29
  It's so. That is such a good quality to
• 52:32
  have in an empowerment coach. Exactly.
• 52:35
  So that's kind of where it transitions to empowerment
• 52:38
  coaching. Yeah.
• 52:39
  You know, we have our lessons, we have our moments.
• 52:42
  It's a no judgement free zone. I do consultation, whether it's
• 52:45
  Zoom phone calls, you know, and I keep, I keep tabs on my
• 52:48
  client. I'm not a therapist where it's
• 52:50
  just that one session and that's it.
• 52:52
  No, like we keep constant communication, you know, I'm
• 52:55
  open. But we do have our lessons.
• 52:57
  I do hold you accountable. I am checking in.
• 53:00
  I am doing those things. But there's lessons on self
• 53:03
  love, there's self trust, there's journaling prompts.
• 53:06
  You know, there's one where we do seven day where you just
• 53:09
  write whatever you're feeling in that moment, 30 minutes of your
• 53:12
  day, you just write. You write it out and as soon as
• 53:15
  you're done, you burn it. Whatever was on that paper is
• 53:18
  now gone. You burn it.
• 53:20
  So you say whatever while filthy things you need to say about
• 53:26
  whoever, whatever yourself, whatever, write it out, write it
• 53:30
  out and then you burn it for seven days.
• 53:33
  It is life changing all the things you let let out and no
• 53:39
  longer have space. Oh, it's it's exhilarating, I
• 53:43
  tell you. And you're gonna have to do it
• 53:45
  with me one of these times I don't need.
• 53:47
  To finish. So I'm already like it's.
• 53:49
  Beautiful. I just had a flash on me in the
• 53:50
  backyard, like, like. But here's what's amazing about
• 53:56
  that seven days in a row. Seven days in a row.
• 54:00
  That's and. You burn it.
• 54:02
  You start some rewiring there you're.
• 54:04
  Like, oh, you do you see your words change, you start to see
• 54:08
  the things you yourself change. It's it's empowering the way
• 54:13
  there's people you might write something from 15 years ago.
• 54:16
  You know, you're just writing things.
• 54:18
  I hate that they you let this happen to me.
• 54:20
  I can't stand that I even it went through this.
• 54:23
  You just let it out and then you'll find yourself like I can
• 54:26
  get through anything. I am strong.
• 54:29
  I am wise. You, you gain this empowerment
• 54:33
  of yourself. It's beautiful.
• 54:34
  It's beautiful seven days. I've had some clients that like
• 54:38
  D I'm still burning. They're like, I'm on day 492 and
• 54:43
  you're like, are you using recyclable paper or like I
• 54:48
  think? We're OK.
• 54:51
  So like I said, 7 but do you need a hug?
• 54:54
  No, I'm kidding. No, but like we all have like
• 54:57
  so. Much, so much Spike carrying, so
• 55:00
  much that we think we suppressed, we think we've
• 55:03
  healed from and we moved on from.
• 55:04
  But once you start writing the things that come out, your 7
• 55:08
  year old self is now writing this page and you're just like,
• 55:10
  oh, I didn't even remember that. I remembered that.
• 55:13
  But you don't have time to now read it back, replay it.
• 55:17
  You burn it and it's done. Done.
• 55:21
  Yeah. It doesn't even.
• 55:23
  I mean it. It matters, but but it's also
• 55:27
  done. It's done.
• 55:29
  You're seeing it. It's almost like because I've
• 55:31
  been learning, you got to look at it, right?
• 55:33
  You have to, you have to feel it.
• 55:35
  You have to face it. But you don't.
• 55:37
  Have to like, face it forever and ever.
• 55:40
  Exactly, exactly. You can let that go.
• 55:43
  You can let that leave your memory space and you can feel
• 55:46
  the relief of it. You don't have to hold on to it
• 55:49
  anymore. It's very bringing.
• 55:52
  I feel like that's, I feel like God.
• 55:55
  That's when I feel the God on the left side where I'm like
• 55:57
  something shit where I'm like I'm.
• 56:00
  Like that's your Shannon girl. We call that your Shannon.
• 56:03
  Take that with you. Like, oh, I feel it in my
• 56:05
  Shannon. I'm gonna give you some good
• 56:09
  Christian terms. Yes please.
• 56:12
  I'm a, I'm a, I'm a, I'm a baby toddler.
• 56:14
  Just like saying my first sight words and stuff.
• 56:18
  You know. Now I'm like discernment and I'm
• 56:20
  like the enemy and the wilderness and the valley and
• 56:24
  I'm like, and then I'll be like, oh, and then I told told some a
• 56:29
  cash cashier. It's like said something and I'm
• 56:31
  like, Oh my gosh, I'm really turning into like a God person
• 56:34
  now. I'm like, Oh my gosh, I'm going
• 56:36
  to pray over someone soon, like. Go for it.
• 56:39
  You know, the same power and grace that's had me for 38
• 56:42
  years. That's the same grace that's
• 56:44
  within you for two years. His power doesn't change.
• 56:48
  His power is just as strong in you as it is in me.
• 56:51
  It's. No different.
• 56:52
  It's wild once you for anyone listening out there that is like
• 56:56
  I don't know what they're talking about but sounds
• 56:59
  interesting and I'm down to try. I swear I don't even know.
• 57:05
  I'm so different now. Like in the best way.
• 57:09
  I just love now that's the frequency when love is your
• 57:13
  frequency, that's when you where you move from love.
• 57:16
  Everything else makes sense in a way it you just see the world
• 57:22
  different when you can operate from a safe place of love, but
• 57:25
  that's being authentic with yourself.
• 57:26
  That's the self love, and that's where I pray that most viewers
• 57:30
  get to is realizing you are enough just as you are with your
• 57:35
  mess, with all your everything. You are enough and you're worth
• 57:39
  the save. God wants to save you.
• 57:42
  It makes him happy to save you. You're enough just as you are.
• 57:47
  Oh my goodness, yeah. Such a good phrase.
• 57:50
  You are worth the save. You're worth the save.
• 57:52
  You're. Worth the save because some
• 57:54
  people would be like, that's amazing that he did that.
• 57:56
  But I don't think I'm worth that.
• 57:59
  Exactly. I'm not like I don't like I
• 58:01
  don't have, I don't, you know, feed the poor and I can't even
• 58:04
  get out of bed. I'm a piece of shit.
• 58:05
  Like people would say that, right?
• 58:07
  Right. And no, you're worth the save.
• 58:10
  You're worth. He's going to lay right there in
• 58:11
  that bed with you. He's there with you.
• 58:14
  Yeah. You're worth it.
• 58:16
  Yeah. It's incredible because I've
• 58:18
  been the one that couldn't get out of bed.
• 58:20
  And then I've been like, hello, how could I pot?
• 58:23
  Like when you're in that moment, you're like, how could I
• 58:24
  possibly turn this one around? And then you look 10 years later
• 58:29
  and you're like, what? Whoa.
• 58:31
  It's like, you're like what? Whoa, here I am like I didn't
• 58:36
  see that one come. Like and when I let go, I let go
• 58:39
  and I was like, fine, I'll go to church groups.
• 58:41
  Sure sounds good, whatever. And then I'm like, I'd get in
• 58:45
  there and the worship music would start and I'd start
• 58:47
  bawling and I'm like, what am I even crying?
• 58:49
  I don't even know this song. Don't even know these people.
• 58:52
  Never been here and I'm crying. Don't.
• 58:55
  Make me scream. I love.
• 58:58
  It I walk in and I'm like like this.
• 59:03
  I literally and then like an 80 year old woman comes up and like
• 59:08
  hugs me and I'm like sure, prey on me.
• 59:11
  That's fine. You're really nice.
• 59:13
  The tears. Come even more.
• 59:15
  Yeah, and then like a 5 year old smiles at me and I'm like
• 59:20
  everyone's so nice. Like, everyone is so nice if
• 59:25
  you're in the right place. Some Christian people are some
• 59:28
  of the nicest. I'm like wow, wow.
• 59:30
  Absolutely I you know I make that testament to my church
• 59:33
  here, the rock of Central Florida.
• 59:35
  Oh, they were my saving grace. Some of the most amazing people
• 59:40
  from the moment I walked in the door, I.
• 59:43
  They don't even know you. They love you.
• 59:46
  They loved me dearly like they saw my spirit more so than the
• 59:49
  details They knew you need a hug, you need prayer, you need
• 59:54
  community around you had no idea of what detail and it was a
• 59:58
  beautiful experience. I still to this.
• 1:00:00
  They're absolutely near and dear to my heart.
• 1:00:03
  I shout out to the rock of Central Florida pastor Steve
• 1:00:06
  Parker. Amazing.
• 1:00:08
  That's pops. I honestly, I cannot believe the
• 1:00:14
  feelings that I get that I got when I first walked in to my
• 1:00:18
  first couple and then walked into this women's retreat and I
• 1:00:21
  was like, who are these people and why this room?
• 1:00:25
  I, I, I, I, I promise you. I used to think that sounded
• 1:00:29
  nuts, but I'm like, there's something in this room and I
• 1:00:32
  just walked in. And you can feel it as you.
• 1:00:35
  Feel. Something.
• 1:00:36
  There's something there that's the holy.
• 1:00:38
  Spirit. That's that's how I where I'm
• 1:00:40
  like, OK, Yep. Yes, you have entered the
• 1:00:44
  presence of the Holy Spirit, and you can feel Him and.
• 1:00:47
  It doesn't stop like it doesn't once you start, it's like a
• 1:00:49
  daily. It doesn't like go away.
• 1:00:51
  You don't get only like 10 feelings.
• 1:00:54
  You get like 10 always. You get it more and more
• 1:00:56
  actually. Absolutely.
• 1:00:58
  It's the most beautiful thing. And it also can feel a lot.
• 1:01:02
  It can feel like, oh, OK, OK, enough.
• 1:01:06
  I see it. I get it.
• 1:01:07
  I'm overwhelmed with this greatness, this goodness, this
• 1:01:11
  oil that you know, like God, you are so much bigger than I really
• 1:01:16
  can fathom. You have those moments, you
• 1:01:19
  know, and it's beautiful. That power is in you.
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  Well, and I think it's great that like coaches like you,
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  communities like yours, and I'm sure like just, I was looking at
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  all of the things you've done and the events and the causes
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  you partner with. And it's like you bring that
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  spirit. I think with you, you just kind
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  of like you really do. That's why I was like when you
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  commented and then I was like, I have to have another show right
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  now. It's next.
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  Like I just, I feel like I'm just like, your energy is so, so
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  good and so like nourishing. You know, it really is.
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  I'm sure you've been told that 100 times.
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  I mean, yeah, baby, this oil comes with the cross.
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  It comes with those crying days. It comes with stretching out to
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  Jesus days. You don't know the cost of this
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  oil. You know, it comes with the
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  price, but that's. Where you get the great point.
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  You know, yeah. It's a great point.
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  I will say I was. I was crying out of happiness
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  this morning at the kitchen table.
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  I was like, I was over my coffee, ask my husband if I
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  pulled him in right now, he'd be coming in and be like, yeah, she
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  did, can I go now? I I was like, I'm just really
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  happy and I'm not, I'm not like. And then I was like, I'm
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  probably also PM messing, but it's also real.
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  Like I was like, it's probably a little bit of that, but yeah,
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  but it's just I get overwhelmed with emotion.
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  And then sometimes, sometimes I'll be at the gym and then you
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  get this like attack of like, what are you doing this podcast?
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  Who do you think you are? And I'm like, where does that
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  come from? Like I'm, what do you think
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  you're annoying? Like you talked and I'm like,
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  yeah, should I stop? And then I'm like, yeah, I am
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  annoying. And then I'm like, whoa, no, no,
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  no, no. That's a lie.
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  I've been told that's a lie. That's not true.
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  It's not true. You know how to yeah, you that's
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  going to come. The enemy is going to come and
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  try and stir those emotions within us when we're becoming
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  new, even just in day-to-day like, oh, I'm still not good
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  enough. I'm still not this, I'm not that
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  or I'm too tired to do. No, you have to fight those
• 1:03:34
  battles. It's it's one of the things I
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  call catch a thought catch that thought and send it right back
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  away. I see you trying to hook into
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  me. If you let it hook now, it
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  allows room for all those others catch thought throw it away.
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  I'm good. You know that's those
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  affirmations. Have a positive affirmation
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  within you where you I I'm centered, I am enough, I am
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  strong, I am powerful. God help me, whatever it is,
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  have those readily affirmations to knock off those thoughts.
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  Don't let them hook in. No, no, no.
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  Such a good point. Don't try.
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  And I'm so glad you brought that up because even though like
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  you're an empowerment coach, I'm podcast like we do this.
• 1:04:21
  Like there's some days where I'm looking in the mirror going, I'm
• 1:04:25
  a podcaster university, you're positive.
• 1:04:32
  And my hair is like a mess. And I'm like.
• 1:04:35
  I am a mess. And then I'm like, I hate myself
• 1:04:38
  right now, but I'm gonna, I'm, I'm diversity, yes.
• 1:04:43
  But then I'm like, it's OK. I don't have to be this.
• 1:04:47
  Your emotions go up and down. And like, you don't have to be
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  anyone. We're all just human.
• 1:04:51
  And then we like, you're not. Expected not feel OK.
• 1:04:54
  It's quite not feel like poop right now and that's OK.
• 1:05:00
  Yeah, you. Know there's that moment if you
• 1:05:02
  have that moment where you just need to go sit on the sofa and
• 1:05:05
  have a blanket in a Hallmark day and.
• 1:05:07
  Cry. Hey, yes.
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  Ugly cry. It happens.
• 1:05:13
  It's when you try to fight that and try to go against it and oh,
• 1:05:16
  I'm, I have to be strong. I have to be.
• 1:05:18
  That's where you have anxiety now.
• 1:05:20
  That's where you have those battles within yourself.
• 1:05:23
  Just let yourself be not OK. Yeah, you know.
• 1:05:27
  It'll pass. It'll pass.
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  Quicker and. Lean into it quicker.
• 1:05:31
  Absolutely. That's it.
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  Lean into it, go through it and move right on past it.
• 1:05:37
  Yeah, you might. Steal your way, you may as well
• 1:05:39
  just get it over with. Lean into it and then you might
• 1:05:45
  be watching a movie and you hear someone say something and that's
• 1:05:48
  the thing that now you're up in your attic.
• 1:05:51
  It's just lean into it. You can hear yourself when you
• 1:05:56
  honor yourself, yeah. It's a beautiful thing.
• 1:06:00
  And then you start, you know what?
• 1:06:01
  I'm at the phase where I'm like now that I'm starting to really
• 1:06:05
  love myself, I'm like, Oh my gosh, I was so mean before.
• 1:06:11
  And I'm like, oh, I'm almost like.
• 1:06:15
  You. Like how are you not?
• 1:06:17
  How are you alive? How did you survive?
• 1:06:21
  How did you knock? Oh my goodness, yeah.
• 1:06:23
  Talk was nasty. Terrible.
• 1:06:26
  I was that person. I was so crude.
• 1:06:29
  I was so crude, so full of myself, so controlling and when
• 1:06:33
  I move past it, I'm like, Oh my gosh, I probably would have
• 1:06:37
  punched me in the throat. It's facing yourself in that way
• 1:06:42
  you know and the. Shadows.
• 1:06:45
  Yes, yes, doing that shadow work, you know, it makes it all
• 1:06:51
  so real. The self love is so much more
• 1:06:53
  full, yes. I feel like once and if people
• 1:06:58
  are like what is shadow work like they can come work with you
• 1:07:01
  and you can tell them about it. It's basically like facing the
• 1:07:05
  dark stuff that you really. I remember 1 therapist was like,
• 1:07:10
  she was like, yeah, I want you to write down about your shadow.
• 1:07:11
  And she's like, write down like the stuff you really don't like
• 1:07:15
  about your like you're just like.
• 1:07:17
  And I'm like, oh, that's awful. It makes you stomach.
• 1:07:21
  Yeah. And then once you do it about
• 1:07:23
  yourself, you're like, wow, I'm not going to be juggy about
• 1:07:26
  everybody else either. I've done all of that.
• 1:07:31
  I would send some grace, absolutely.
• 1:07:34
  Your grace really develops when you face yourself.
• 1:07:37
  Like sorry, I can extend grace way easily because you're
• 1:07:43
  absolutely. Said that I did that you lost.
• 1:07:47
  Me. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:07:49
  What does God say? Right.
• 1:07:50
  In my Bible study on Tuesday, I was like laughing.
• 1:07:52
  I'm like, oh, when they said it, I was like, no, because we all
• 1:07:56
  like laugh. And we're very like vocal Bible
• 1:07:58
  study where we'll be like, oh, I don't like that one, no.
• 1:08:01
  But they're like you. Know if you don't forgive you
• 1:08:04
  can't be forgiven and I was like but like no that one thing I'm
• 1:08:07
  just not gonna just that one person though, right I cannot
• 1:08:11
  how about everybody else but that one because I'll.
• 1:08:14
  Pull them out of the shadow of your heart.
• 1:08:17
  I have to do all of them, huh? Because otherwise I can't get
• 1:08:20
  any forgiveness. Otherwise.
• 1:08:21
  It's quite arrogant actually. Wow.
• 1:08:25
  Even though it's really bad. Oh, quite realizing things right
• 1:08:29
  now. Yes, forgive them for they know
• 1:08:33
  not what they do. They, they don't, you know, even
• 1:08:36
  when they think they do or we think they do, sometimes they
• 1:08:40
  don't know what's driving them to be so.
• 1:08:42
  Ugly and it's also if if the Bible if you believe the Bible,
• 1:08:46
  it's actually in some cases something else actually
• 1:08:49
  overtake. You absolutely, absolutely.
• 1:08:52
  People will. Well, we walk around people that
• 1:08:55
  are possessed in demons every day, all day.
• 1:08:57
  You better have some coverage over you.
• 1:08:59
  Protection of prayer. Cover yourself.
• 1:09:02
  There are entities in darkness right amongst us.
• 1:09:06
  It's true, and I really didn't growing up Catholic.
• 1:09:10
  I don't think I knew that. And now I'm like, this is real.
• 1:09:16
  And since now this is real, this changes how I move through every
• 1:09:19
  moment of my life. That's beautiful.
• 1:09:23
  That's beautiful. But like.
• 1:09:26
  It's crazy. It's very, it's very real.
• 1:09:29
  It's very real. And so like all the things
• 1:09:31
  you're talking about, the self love, the affirmations, the
• 1:09:36
  discipline, the coaching, that it's all in an effort to guard
• 1:09:40
  against that Exactly. Really, that's what it is.
• 1:09:45
  That's what it is. It's a spiritual warfare that it
• 1:09:48
  is, with self and the world around us.
• 1:09:51
  Absolutely. And some it the battle here and
• 1:09:55
  then the battle. Oh.
• 1:09:55
  Yes, here, out there, yes, my heart can in my mind sometimes
• 1:10:00
  aren't always on the same frequency.
• 1:10:02
  When you balance it with God at the center, now you can become
• 1:10:09
  Yeah. And what is it?
• 1:10:10
  And again, I'm learning, but when you say you're yoked,
• 1:10:14
  right? Yoked with God, equally yoked.
• 1:10:16
  Yes. And isn't that like back in the
• 1:10:19
  agricultural days, like when you would be like?
• 1:10:22
  With the oxen, have those on there, yeah, They had to be
• 1:10:25
  equally yoked so they can plow this field the right way, be
• 1:10:28
  equally yoked, Absolutely, yeah. Where did you go, girl?
• 1:10:33
  I know. I'm like, it makes so much sense
• 1:10:36
  because then everything you do, you're just governed by like,
• 1:10:39
  you're moving in the right. I mean, it's just the Bible and
• 1:10:41
  all these analogies. I'm like, yeah, he's like,
• 1:10:44
  because you humans are goofy and I need to make it.
• 1:10:46
  Really. I need to tell you exactly
• 1:10:48
  because you're, you're so arrogant, right?
• 1:10:52
  Oh well, because there's in this possibility.
• 1:10:55
  Isn't that the beauty of free will?
• 1:10:56
  There's possibility. Of that that.
• 1:10:58
  Can be endless that's life is in this possibility I need to have
• 1:11:03
  some anchor to hone in on, to hold to or else there's so many
• 1:11:09
  possibilities, there's so much that.
• 1:11:11
  It's too much. It's too much, yeah.
• 1:11:14
  Too much. It's like, I mean, it's too
• 1:11:17
  much. Oh, I love it.
• 1:11:20
  I mean, I'm, I'm a lot. I'm a lot.
• 1:11:22
  My husband is calm. I'm a lot.
• 1:11:24
  But you know as it should be 1 of you have to be.
• 1:11:26
  You know, listen, OK, Dee, I hope I haven't talked more than
• 1:11:31
  you in this, but I don't think this is going to be the first
• 1:11:35
  time we're talking, so I'm not worried about it.
• 1:11:38
  Absolutely not. It's just the beginning.
• 1:11:41
  Can I, can I ask you to leave our, our lovely viewers and
• 1:11:47
  listeners with anything that is on your heart, that is that you
• 1:11:52
  like to tell your clients that you like to tell all the people
• 1:11:55
  who come to you for for coaching about adversity or anything.
• 1:12:01
  You just want to wrap it up with that you're thinking about how?
• 1:12:07
  Will I wrap it up well with you and I talking and and just the
• 1:12:10
  feeling that I feel now is is to remember that you're a child of
• 1:12:15
  God and wherever you are in that journey, wherever you are in
• 1:12:18
  life, you're worth the save you're worth them coming to you
• 1:12:23
  are enough just as you are with all the things that you think
• 1:12:28
  are heavy and are too much. God can handle it all.
• 1:12:31
  He wants it all. All of you don't.
• 1:12:35
  He's so afraid and so like. He's a human.
• 1:12:38
  He's much, much more than us humans.
• 1:12:40
  He can carry the weight, put it at his feet.
• 1:12:44
  Let him have it. Go in the valley.
• 1:12:47
  Embrace your nourishment of who you are.
• 1:12:50
  The world needs you. The viewers specific each and
• 1:12:55
  everyone of you. We need you.
• 1:12:57
  I can't be you. She can't be you.
• 1:13:00
  Only you can be you. So you needed all those lessons.
• 1:13:03
  You needed all those things to make you.
• 1:13:05
  You go son, right? Go live grand.
• 1:13:10
  And if you need me, I'm here. And I love you guys to pieces.
• 1:13:15
  And I love everything you just said, and I love that we that
• 1:13:22
  God has brought you to my show somehow.
• 1:13:26
  Thank you. Thank you God.
• 1:13:28
  Thank you God for this moment. I'm so proud of you and your
• 1:13:32
  journey. I I pray you continue to be
• 1:13:35
  exactly who you are. Yes, you may have just started,
• 1:13:38
  but your power, your conviction, your confidence is strong.
• 1:13:42
  I feel it. I think you're amazing.
• 1:13:45
  You're going to do great, but God and you shines.
• 1:13:48
  You're a cathedral, yeah. No, I'm just gonna go have the
• 1:13:53
  best night ever now, yeah. I'm so glad I was on you're.
• 1:13:58
  Amazing and everybody listening, please look in the show notes
• 1:14:02
  again, Instagram website, all the things.
• 1:14:07
  Reach out to Dee and again, don't worry if you're sad that
• 1:14:12
  this podcast is over. We're going to collaborate in
• 1:14:14
  the future, so it's fine. Absolutely.
• 1:14:16
  Just like an appetizer we're getting, you know, this is just
• 1:14:19
  a preview of all the topics we could cover in the future.
• 1:14:22
  This is just to say hello. This is.
• 1:14:24
  Just to look at these two. Faces, This is my girl.
• 1:14:28
  You'll see more of us. De Simone, Brianne and this is
• 1:14:32
  it. Yeah.
• 1:14:33
  And that's how we close it. Episode 80.
• 1:14:36
  Thank you very much.