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Healing From Past Wounds: Finding Freedom Through Faith and Forgiveness · Fostering Faith

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  Welcome back to Fostering Faith. I will be your
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  host Tracy and we are walking into freedom and
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  healing this July. And so welcome to July on
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  Fostering Faith. And this month we're going to
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  be stepping into freedom. Jesus died to give
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  you. And so whether it's emotional wounds, past
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  pain, fear, shame or strongholds, God wants you
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  healed, whole and free. And this month we're
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  going to tap into some biblically healing. releasing
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  from those past pains and living fully alive
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  in Christ and our anchor verse is going to be
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  John 8 36. So if the sun sets you free, you are
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  truly free. And so as we are going to go into
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  this episode of July, I am actually sitting on
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  my back deck recording this episode in the start
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  of July. It is beautiful outside. I am looking
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  at my frozen pool and the husband is gone. G
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  is out of friends. And so we have the house to
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  ourselves. And so it's nice and quiet. So we
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  are going to record some podcasts. And so healing
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  from past wounds and the moments in life that
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  shape us and the wounds in life that shake us.
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  Some wounds are loud, betrayal, heartbreak, abandonment,
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  humiliation, trauma. Some wounds are quiet, disappointment,
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  neglect, emotional distance, unspoken expectations,
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  words that cut deeper than they should. And some
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  wounds are old, childhood wounds, family patterns,
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  things spoken over you that should have never
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  been said. Some wounds are recent, breakups,
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  church hurt, friendship loss, Rejection. Failure.
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  Unexpected changes. But Proverbs teaches us something
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  profound. Unhealed wounds make foolish choices.
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  And healed hearts make wise ones. And this month
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  is all about freedom and healing. And today we're
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  going to be walking straight into something most
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  people spend years avoiding. Your heart. Your
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  hurt. Your wounds. Your story. And not to reopen
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  pain. but to let God finally restore what life
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  broke. And because here's the truth, God can't
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  heal what you hide. He heals what you bring to
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  him. Your past can shape you, but it doesn't
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  have to define you. And so Proverbs 4 .23 says,
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  above all else, guard your heart for everything
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  flows through it. Everything you do, your relationships,
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  your reactions, your expectations, confidence,
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  boundaries, Identity flow from your heart. If
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  your heart is wounded, your life will leak pain.
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  And if your heart is healed, your life will release
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  strength. Your past explains you, but it does
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  not own you. It may influence your story, but
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  it's not the author of your future. Here are
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  three types of wounds people can carry. And this
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  is not all encompassing, it's just three. Wounds
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  of commission, things done to you. These are
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  hurts someone else caused, betrayal, rejection,
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  abuse, manipulation, abandonment, emotional neglect,
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  harsh words, and broken trust. These wounds tell
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  you lies. You're not worthy. You're not lovable.
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  You're not enough. You're too much. You don't
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  matter. But God says the opposite. He says that
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  you are enough. I do love you. You are enough.
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  You are worthy. You're not too much. I made you
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  just perfect. And you do matter. So we remember
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  in past episodes, we have to say what the truths
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  are and not what we say that we are. And so wounds
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  of omission are things you need, but never got.
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  And so those are not being protected, not being
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  encouraged, not being seen, not being supported,
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  not being nurtured, and not being valued. These
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  wounds are the hardest to identify, but some
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  are the deepest to heal. We have three self -inflicted
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  wounds, things you regret, bad choices, bad decisions,
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  people you hurt, patterns that you repeated over
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  and over again, expecting it was going to be
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  different, seasons you wasted, opportunities
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  you sabotaged, shame attaches these wounds like
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  a shadow. But listen, Jesus did not die so you
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  could live chained to your regrets. He wants
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  you healed the whole story and not just little
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  parts. God cares about your heart more than your
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  performance. Proverbs is full of verses about
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  the inner life, the hidden parts that no one
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  sees. The Lord weighs the heart. Proverbs 21
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  to a peaceful heart gives life. Proverbs 1430.
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  Hope deferred makes a heart sick. Proverbs 1312.
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  Why? Because God knows. you look successful and
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  still be wounded. Because God knows you can lead
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  and still be bleeding. Because God knows you
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  can function and still be fractured. God knows
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  that you can smile and still be hurting. But
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  God doesn't heal what you pretend isn't there.
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  He heals what you surrender. And healing requires
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  honesty. And some people aren't healed because
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  God can't, not because God can't, because they
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  won't be honest. And honest about how deeply
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  it hurt, how long it shaped what the circumstances
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  were, how much they've avoided it, how much it
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  still lives in their reactions, and how they've
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  learned to survival instead of healing. Wisdom
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  begins with truth. Healing begins with honesty.
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  And lies that you surround yourself with to make
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  yourself feel better are not helping you. And
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  so lies, wounds teach and truth that breaks them.
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  And so I have to earn love, lie, truth. You are
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  loved because of whose you are. People always
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  leave, lie, truth. God never abandons his children.
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  Three, I'll never be enough. Lie. Truth. You're
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  chosen and equipped. I'm too broken. Truth. Broken
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  pieces are what God shines the brightest. Like
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  a diamond in the rough. My story disqualifies
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  me. Lie. If you look at all the broken messed
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  up people in scripture. I can guarantee it that
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  you did nothing that they didn't do. Moses killed
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  a guy. You had David who did adultery and killed
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  a guy. You just time after time, there's so many
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  people. And so the truth is, your story is the
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  place where God reveals his truth. Jesus doesn't
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  ignore wounds. He transforms them. And healing
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  doesn't mean it didn't hurt. It means it no longer
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  controls you. Healing is not pretending. are
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  forgetting, minimizing, or ignoring, or suppressing.
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  Healing is understanding, and processing, and
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  releasing, forgiving, surrendering, reframing,
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  and renewing. Healing doesn't ease the memory,
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  it erases the sting. In four stages of God's
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  healing, so I want you to write these down. One,
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  recognition. These wounds, Wounded me. You can't
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  heal what you don't acknowledge. Stop saying
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  it wasn't a big deal. It was. That's why it still
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  hurts. Recognize your feelings. And so we walk
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  through this with teens and adults and you want
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  to recognize it. And so by you living the lie,
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  oh, it doesn't bother me. It doesn't bother me.
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  That drives me insane. It does still bother you
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  or you wouldn't be talking about it eight months
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  later. No, it did bother you. You didn't walk
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  through it. Two. Revelation. God, show me how
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  this shaped me. Ask. How has this affected my
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  relationships? My boundaries? My trust? My emotions?
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  My reactions? My self -worth? Proverbs 25 says,
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  the purpose of the perfun's heart are deep waters,
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  but a person of understanding draws them out.
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  Healing requires digging. You can't just look
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  at the ground and just be like, oh, yeah, I'm
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  just gonna let the grass grow over that. Well,
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  you have a leak under your house. You gotta get
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  to the root of the problem. You gotta do some
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  digging and look up why you keep having relationships
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  like that. You have to keep looking at why you
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  crash out so much. You have to keep looking at,
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  you have to dig deep and why is this, where is
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  this root from? And once you find it, three,
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  release it. Lord, I give this wound to you. This
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  is where forgiveness lies. Not excusing what
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  happened, not reconciling it with unsafe people,
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  not minimizing it. Forgiveness, releasing their
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  power over your story. When you release the wound,
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  God releases healing. And whenever you have healing,
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  You're are renewed and so for renewal God heal
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  and reshape my heart This is the supernatural
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  part God restores identity trust joy peace confidence
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  hope purpose Healing isn't a behavior modification.
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  It's a heart transformation and we said that
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  before on this podcast It's about after you leave
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  Jesus's presence It's about the transformation
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  that happened on the inside and the enemy wants
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  your wounds to remain open because unhealing
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  wounds leave to distorted identity, fuel insecurity,
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  sabotage relationships, create triggers, feed
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  lies, block intimacy with God and keep you reactive
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  and produce fear and prevent growth. Healing
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  makes you spiritually dangerous. And a healed
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  believer is harder to lie to, manipulate, tempt,
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  shame, and derail. Which is really scary for
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  Satan. Because once you know the truth, once
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  you repeat that truth, once you believe it, and
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  once you let go of what you've been holding onto,
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  you're unstoppable. And so some practical steps
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  to walk in healing. Journal your honesty. Pray
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  specifically over those wounds. Talk to God and
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  a mentor and a counselor. Memorize scripture
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  that contradicts your wounds. Set boundaries
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  with people who reopen those wounds. Say out
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  loud what God says about you. Practice forgiveness
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  daily. Encourage and engage in spiritual disciplines.
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  Give God your triggers instead of reacting. And
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  pay attention to your emotional patterns. Healing
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  is not a one -time moment. It's a continuous
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  invitation. And so as we've said every episode,
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  we hope that you are turning into Fostering Faith
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  Media. There is email setups. There is connection
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  cards on there. And so as we have a new website,
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  fosteringfaithmedia .com, we have workbook pages
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  on there for you. Very simple, black and white,
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  nothing fancy because I do not like to waste
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  ink. And so in your workbook this week, it says,
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  what wound from my past is God inviting me to
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  heal? It may be words spoken over you, a friendship
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  that broke you, church pain, church hurt, something
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  that still makes you flinch, a loss that you
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  never processed, a mistake that you're holding
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  over yourself. God highlights what he intends
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  to heal. And so sit with him. This you. pencil
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  and paper, and so write one intentional healing
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  step that you're willing to take this week. Forgive
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  somebody, write a letter that you'll never send,
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  talk to a mentor, pray over specific memories,
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  create a boundary, replace one lie with one truth,
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  and surrender the past regret. Healing happens
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  one obedient step at a time. And so if this message
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  encouraged you, we hope that you send it to a
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  friend and walk through these lessons together,
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  share it with a small group, write a comment,
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  share us on social media. And so in that instant,
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  we'd like to pray for you. Dear Heavenly Father,
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  thank you so much for our healed hearts. Thank
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  you that you're exposing every wound, every lie,
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  every fear, every scar that will shape us. We
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  fully surrender our past to you, our pains, our
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  memories, the people, the moments that hurt us.
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  Help us heal deeply, restore us fully, and renew
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  us completely. Make me whole again, and so I
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  can walk with you freely into my future. We pray
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  all this in Jesus' name. Amen and amen. We are
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  so happy that you guys tuned in this week. And
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  as we stay tuned for next week, we are going
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  to be talking about letting go of shame. So stay
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  tuned for that one. We love you guys. Have a
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  great week.