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2131- 90 Day Fiance- The Other Way (s8e2) "Kiasu, Kancheong and Carry On" with Kimberly · Pink Shade: Reality TV with Mary Payne

• 0:12
  Speaker 1: Hey everybody, welcome to Pink Shade. It's Mary Payne here.
• 0:15
  Speaker 2: It's TLC Tuesday.
• 0:18
  Speaker 1: I've got Kimberly. Guess what? We're back in our home spots.
• 0:23
  Speaker 2: Regularly scheduled programming.
• 0:26
  Speaker 1: That's correct. No hotels.
• 0:30
  Speaker 2: No horrible lighting. My normal makeup set. And that same
• 0:37
  Speaker 2: old good filter button.
• 0:39
  Speaker 1: That filter button does it every time. Every time. Yeah,
• 0:44
  Speaker 1: I had to put my hair up today. I mean,
• 0:46
  Speaker 1: like halfway.
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  Speaker 2: It's really cute.
• 0:48
  Speaker 1: I just was like, I can't. I got to get
• 0:50
  Speaker 1: it out of my face.
• 0:51
  Speaker 2: Super cute.
• 0:52
  Speaker 1: I don't normally wear my hair like this. But, you know, guys,
• 0:55
  Speaker 1: if you're not watching, you don't get to see on video. YouTube,
• 0:58
  Speaker 1: follow us. Okay.
• 1:00
  Speaker 2: You're missing out.
• 1:01
  Speaker 1: You're really missing out. Now, Kimberly and I have just
• 1:06
  Speaker 1: returned from New York City, where Kimberly was there for
• 1:12
  Speaker 1: 10 days.
• 1:14
  Speaker 2: I heard that song approximately 27 times.
• 1:18
  Speaker 1: Concrete jungle where dreams are made of.
• 1:21
  Speaker 2: I feel really bad for the people that work around
• 1:24
  Speaker 2: Times Square.
• 1:26
  Speaker 1: You have to imagine that. that the people that play
• 1:28
  Speaker 1: that song over and over and over, because they're trying
• 1:31
  Speaker 1: to lure you to their photo machine, that they have to,
• 1:35
  Speaker 1: it's just got to be like ambient noise. They don't
• 1:38
  Speaker 1: even hear it.
• 1:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:40
  Speaker 1: They could go to sleep to it. They've got these
• 1:44
  Speaker 1: machines guys, you know, the ones like you stand in
• 1:46
  Speaker 1: the middle and then the camera swirls around you really
• 1:48
  Speaker 1: fast and they play that song and there's, they're everywhere.
• 1:52
  Speaker 2: It's over and over again. Yeah. Just it's a lot.
• 1:56
  Speaker 1: It's a lot.
• 1:57
  Speaker 2: Um, But I did see one of the bicycle guys
• 2:00
  Speaker 2: who do the little bicycle carts where you ride around
• 2:03
  Speaker 2: and film yourself and look really touristy playing Taylor Swift,
• 2:09
  Speaker 2: Welcome to New York.
• 2:10
  Speaker 1: Okay, that's good.
• 2:11
  Speaker 2: Thank you for changing it up a little.
• 2:14
  Speaker 1: I would have gotten in that one. I've been in
• 2:17
  Speaker 1: those tuk-tuks before. I've been in, I told you, with
• 2:21
  Speaker 1: Ingrid and all three kids, all three girls one time
• 2:24
  Speaker 1: we did that. That was too many people. scary yeah
• 2:27
  Speaker 1: ingrid and i've definitely jumped in them before because they
• 2:29
  Speaker 1: will get you there faster because you because you almost
• 2:32
  Speaker 1: die in the process there's there's not a seat belt
• 2:36
  Speaker 1: it's just get in and good luck yeah yeah um
• 2:41
  Speaker 1: we were in a cab going somewhere and producer james
• 2:44
  Speaker 1: was telling us about he's been in those tuk-tuks in
• 2:47
  Speaker 1: india yeah oh really yeah and he's like fun He said,
• 2:53
  Speaker 1: there's no way. Keisha can't handle New York. She can
• 2:55
  Speaker 1: never handle it. Keisha's so funny. Every time we would
• 2:58
  Speaker 1: depart with Kimberly, Keisha would be like, are you guys
• 3:00
  Speaker 1: okay to walk? We're like, we're good, girl. We're in
• 3:02
  Speaker 1: the middle of a huge city. Yeah. She's very concerned.
• 3:06
  Speaker 2: I know, but she did great.
• 3:08
  Speaker 1: She did great. She sent me a long- She.
• 3:10
  Speaker 2: Texted me the nicest message today. Did she text you
• 3:14
  Speaker 2: a nice message?
• 3:15
  Speaker 1: She did, and I have not responded because I'm not
• 3:18
  Speaker 1: in a place to accept it. and take it in.
• 3:22
  Speaker 1: I was on my way out to talk to the
• 3:24
  Speaker 1: doctor about a foot injection. And then I came home
• 3:27
  Speaker 1: and I had to do these notes. And so I
• 3:29
  Speaker 1: was too busy. I will look at it later. Because
• 3:32
  Speaker 1: I just, you know, like in your car, you can
• 3:34
  Speaker 1: press car play and the car reads it to you.
• 3:37
  Speaker 1: And it started with, I know you're not going to
• 3:39
  Speaker 1: want to hear this, but it was like started some
• 3:41
  Speaker 1: nice compliments. And I just was like, done. I don't
• 3:44
  Speaker 1: want to hear this. I don't– it's not good for
• 3:46
  Speaker 1: my soul to hear things like that.
• 3:48
  Speaker 2: No, too much joy is bad for you.
• 3:51
  Speaker 1: It's too much niceness.
• 3:52
  Speaker 2: You feed off negativity and sarcasm.
• 3:56
  Speaker 1: True.
• 3:57
  Speaker 2: That's true.
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  Speaker 1: But not too much negativity. Don't call me ugly or anything.
• 4:00
  Speaker 1: I can't take that. No, no.
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  Speaker 2: Or don't say anything about the bangs.
• 4:05
  Speaker 1: Please.
• 4:06
  Speaker 2: Because you'll still be talking about it years later.
• 4:10
  Speaker 1: How dare you. Yeah. okay, let's, let's break down this
• 4:16
  Speaker 1: show because it was a long one. It was a
• 4:18
  Speaker 1: good one and a lot happened. So we're going to
• 4:21
  Speaker 1: be talking for a while.
• 4:22
  Speaker 2: Nice enough to do all the notes because I had
• 4:26
  Speaker 2: a very long journey yesterday and I got back at
• 4:31
  Speaker 2: one in the morning, my time, New York time, which
• 4:35
  Speaker 2: I was used to by then. My journey was 13 hours.
• 4:42
  Speaker 2: Which is ridiculous.
• 4:43
  Speaker 1: It's supposed to be four.
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  Speaker 2: It's supposed to be five and a half.
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  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 4:47
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 4:48
  Speaker 1: Whenever I think about going to LA and it's so far,
• 4:52
  Speaker 1: I literally could go from here to London in the
• 4:54
  Speaker 1: same amount of time.
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  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 1: It's really far away. So that's why you don't do
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  Speaker 1: it very often. The people that just go back and
• 5:01
  Speaker 1: forth like every week.
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  Speaker 2: I don't get it.
• 5:02
  Speaker 1: I don't get it either. And both you and I
• 5:05
  Speaker 1: came back with some sort of like nasal funk.
• 5:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 5:09
  Speaker 1: So I'm hoping when I wake up tomorrow, it'll be gone.
• 5:11
  Speaker 1: I'm hoping it's just, like, the shock. And if not,
• 5:13
  Speaker 1: I'm going immediately to the doctor and, like, give me
• 5:17
  Speaker 1: a steroid shot. Give me something because I cannot be sick.
• 5:19
  Speaker 1: I've got too much going on. Too much going on.
• 5:22
  Speaker 2: She's a jet setter.
• 5:23
  Speaker 1: I'm a jet setter. I'm jet setting to Mississippi next.
• 5:26
  Speaker 1: So go Rebs. Okay. So this episode, it's Season 8,
• 5:32
  Speaker 1: Episode 2, 90 Day Fiance. The other way, it's called... Kiyasu, Kanchung,
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  Speaker 1: and carry on. Let me do this. Let me go
• 5:45
  Speaker 1: down here and find.
• 5:47
  Speaker 2: I did write down the definitions. I Googled it, and
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  Speaker 2: then she explained it, and I didn't need to have
• 5:51
  Speaker 2: Googled it.
• 5:52
  Speaker 1: Kiyasu and Kanchung. Kanchung is how I wrote it down.
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  Speaker 1: And carry on. Okay. We're going to start with Squishy Squishy, Matilda...
• 6:04
  Speaker 1: Squishy Squishy, Matilda, and Niles. So I also like this.
• 6:09
  Speaker 2: I don't like that there's a Niles and a Nigel because.
• 6:13
  Speaker 1: It's hard.
• 6:14
  Speaker 2: For ladies with perimenopause, that's not nice to do.
• 6:17
  Speaker 1: It's rough. It's rough for our brains.
• 6:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: So the Squishy Squishy, you know, we're going to get
• 6:24
  Speaker 1: sick of it, but it's cute at the beginning. Yeah.
• 6:27
  Speaker 2: And it hasn't been too much yet, but, and if
• 6:30
  Speaker 2: you're new here last season, Niles and Matilda are a
• 6:33
  Speaker 2: repeat couple and they, do a lot of.
• 6:35
  Speaker 1: Squishy squishy squishy squishy on the face and squishy at
• 6:38
  Speaker 1: some point she's gonna slap the squishy squishy out of him.
• 6:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah i think oh i'm gonna go see my nephew
• 6:43
  Speaker 2: tomorrow and i'm gonna do a squishy squishy.
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  Speaker 1: Squishy squishy yeah um okay so matilda 26 from ghana
• 6:51
  Speaker 1: and niles 29 from mobile alabama so niles is getting
• 6:56
  Speaker 1: his haircut i love when he has his haircut short
• 6:59
  Speaker 1: like that it looks so much better um and he's
• 7:01
  Speaker 1: telling the barber he's moving to ghana The.
• 7:05
  Speaker 2: Guy has no reaction. Where are you going?
• 7:08
  Speaker 1: Ghana?
• 7:08
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
• 7:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you packed? You good? You good?
• 7:13
  Speaker 2: What?
• 7:14
  Speaker 1: He's like, Ghana? Is that in Africa? Where's that? So
• 7:18
  Speaker 1: he's packing his bags with his squishy mommy's gifts, and
• 7:22
  Speaker 1: he says he wishes his parents would drive him to
• 7:25
  Speaker 1: the airport, but... He knows he has to get there
• 7:29
  Speaker 1: and get established with Matilda and make her understand that
• 7:33
  Speaker 1: he's making the best decision for the family. And he
• 7:36
  Speaker 1: hopes the squishy mommy can understand. And then we see
• 7:41
  Speaker 1: him getting in the cab, which is a Mercedes. So
• 7:43
  Speaker 1: it's obviously an Uber, a production car. And in the
• 7:47
  Speaker 1: talking head, he says, my family is not supportive of
• 7:50
  Speaker 1: the marriage. They're not supportive of this move. But my
• 7:53
  Speaker 1: mother did call me today to tell me that she
• 7:55
  Speaker 1: loves me and wishes me well. But I do wish
• 7:58
  Speaker 1: they would have come with me in person to say goodbye.
• 8:00
  Speaker 2: That would involve appearing on this program, which they have
• 8:05
  Speaker 2: not yet done, which is very rare for this show.
• 8:09
  Speaker 2: Usually we see the families.
• 8:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah. They don't want any part of this bullshit.
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  Speaker 2: They're like, Matt Sharp, fuck him.
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  Speaker 1: That's exactly. How dare? And, you know, they wish him well.
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  Speaker 1: And he says he has not heard from his father
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  Speaker 1: at all. So he goes, fuck it. I'm going to
• 8:28
  Speaker 1: call my father. And it goes right to voicemail. And
• 8:31
  Speaker 1: he goes, no, I'm not surprised he didn't answer. And
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  Speaker 1: he says, my family thinks Matilda is a scammer. And
• 8:37
  Speaker 1: they're fully expecting this to fail. But I really want
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  Speaker 1: to prove them wrong. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: And at this point, I wrote, Mr. Ark is a
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  Speaker 2: better father to you in his one hand than your
• 8:48
  Speaker 2: own father.
• 8:49
  Speaker 1: With two hands.
• 8:50
  Speaker 2: With two hands. Well, I wrote this before what happens next.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, okay. I thought you weren't going to take any notes.
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  Speaker 2: Well, that's all I wrote.
• 9:00
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 9:01
  Speaker 2: That's all I wrote for the entire episode. No, I
• 9:04
  Speaker 2: took little notes like I was following along. Okay. It
• 9:07
  Speaker 2: helps me pay attention.
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  Speaker 1: So in the airport, it's one hour later, and he's crying.
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  Speaker 1: He's very upset because his parents really are not coming
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  Speaker 1: to the airport. And he calls his father, Mr. Ark.
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  Speaker 1: And he.
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  Speaker 1: Mr. Ark says, you were coming to Ghana to see
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  Speaker 1: your father, and I will welcome my son from the
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  Speaker 1: United States.
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  Speaker 2: I had forgotten this, like, way too seriously. They take
• 9:34
  Speaker 2: this role playing that they started at the wedding.
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: It's like, you are my son. I gave birth to you.
• 9:41
  Speaker 2: I put sperm in your mother, and you came out
• 9:44
  Speaker 2: of her nine months later. You are my biological child. Like,
• 9:47
  Speaker 2: they took it. I think they think it's serious, and
• 9:50
  Speaker 2: I love it.
• 9:51
  Speaker 1: The two of them together are sharing a brain and
• 9:53
  Speaker 1: they are like, this is what it is now. Like
• 9:56
  Speaker 1: you are my child.
• 9:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 9:58
  Speaker 1: And Mr. Ark says, I'm sure Matilda. will pick you up,
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: but you will need to come and see me first
• 10:04
  Speaker 1: before you talk to the family. My wife and I
• 10:07
  Speaker 1: will need to go with you to talk to Matilda's
• 10:09
  Speaker 1: family because her family is going to have a lot
• 10:11
  Speaker 1: of questions. And Niall says, yep, there is a lot
• 10:16
  Speaker 1: to discuss and I'll just do what you say, dad.
• 10:19
  Speaker 1: And Mr. Ark says, you have to stay at my house,
• 10:22
  Speaker 1: my son. And Niall says, Dad, can Matilda stay with us?
• 10:27
  Speaker 1: And he says, yes, of course. She is your wife.
• 10:31
  Speaker 1: But remember, no anal.
• 10:33
  Speaker 2: No anal. We don't believe in anal here. And we
• 10:38
  Speaker 2: also don't believe in trimming our nose hairs. Or eyebrows.
• 10:43
  Speaker 1: So many nose hairs, and the camera is always just
• 10:46
  Speaker 1: right up there.
• 10:46
  Speaker 2: Right up there, and it's just gray nose hairs and
• 10:51
  Speaker 2: the eyebrows.
• 10:52
  Speaker 1: The eyebrows are crazy. So now we go over to Ghana,
• 10:56
  Speaker 1: and Matilda is talking to her family, and nobody's happy.
• 11:01
  Speaker 1: And you know the phrase, if mama ain't happy, ain't
• 11:03
  Speaker 1: nobody happy, and mama ain't happy. Mm-mm. And they're like,
• 11:07
  Speaker 1: he's bringing shame to our family. He said five months,
• 11:11
  Speaker 1: but this process is taking forever. Now, do we know
• 11:15
  Speaker 1: that they applied and got denied, but they're applying for this?
• 11:19
  Speaker 1: They're married. So they're applying for this spousal visa or
• 11:22
  Speaker 1: he never applied.
• 11:23
  Speaker 2: I think he still has not applied. And because she
• 11:27
  Speaker 2: says something about like, maybe he's going to come and
• 11:30
  Speaker 2: we're going to go for the interview. And I'm like,
• 11:33
  Speaker 2: none of that has happened yet. Because he still hasn't
• 11:35
  Speaker 2: saved up the money. And I don't know how much
• 11:38
  Speaker 2: the spousal visa costs compared to the K-1. It might
• 11:44
  Speaker 2: be similar. $ 7, 000, $ 10, 000, something.
• 11:47
  Speaker 1: It's a lot. And that's just if you do it
• 11:50
  Speaker 1: regular without a lawyer. That's just you do it yourself. Yeah.
• 11:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't think he's done squat.
• 11:58
  Speaker 1: So Matilda says, I love Niles, and he loves me,
• 12:02
  Speaker 1: and I'm pleading with you to take it easy on
• 12:04
  Speaker 1: him when he gets here. But, you know, he's coming.
• 12:06
  Speaker 1: He's coming tomorrow. He says he has a huge surprise
• 12:10
  Speaker 1: for me. You know, it could be a ring. It
• 12:12
  Speaker 1: could be a new car. I mean, he could be
• 12:15
  Speaker 1: saying my visa is ready.
• 12:16
  Speaker 2: Maybe he's bringing you a bra. Girl.
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: She wasn't?
• 12:24
  Speaker 2: No. And she was really cookin'. With the, the helping
• 12:28
  Speaker 2: her mom with dinner. And it was, I was like,
• 12:31
  Speaker 2: that just hurts me.
• 12:34
  Speaker 1: Oh, I did not notice. So she's young.
• 12:35
  Speaker 2: But good for her if she's comfortable. It's not a car.
• 12:40
  Speaker 1: And it's not a ring. Not a ring. It's not
• 12:45
  Speaker 1: a visa.
• 12:47
  Speaker 2: It's, it's a, it's a 29 year old. Surprise.
• 12:54
  Speaker 1: Here I am. So in the talk it had, Niles goes, wow,
• 12:57
  Speaker 1: now I have two bombs to drop. We're moving in
• 13:00
  Speaker 1: with Mr. Ark, and I'm moving to Ghana permanently. Surprise!
• 13:06
  Speaker 2: You're not moving in with Mr.
• 13:08
  Speaker 1: Ark.
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  Speaker 2: You're just staying with him for this trip that he
• 13:11
  Speaker 2: thinks is just a trip. Because Mr. Ark doesn't know
• 13:15
  Speaker 2: that he's moving there, right?
• 13:17
  Speaker 1: I don't know. I assume he's told no one, because
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: that's what he does.
• 13:21
  Speaker 2: I think that's what he does, yeah.
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. Y'all know how you see the social media posts like,
• 13:26
  Speaker 1: what's in your bag? Where's this girl going? What are
• 13:28
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• 13:30
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• 13:34
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• 13:39
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• 13:42
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• 13:45
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• 13:47
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• 13:49
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• 13:54
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• 13:56
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• 13:58
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• 14:01
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• 14:03
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• 14:05
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• 14:09
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• 14:12
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• 15:11
  Speaker 1: let's move on to Andy and Nigel. Oh, God. Okay,
• 15:16
  Speaker 1: get ready. So we did find out this episode that everyone.
• 15:20
  Speaker 2: At Lieberfest that we talked, I talked to about this show. Yeah.
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: I just talked about Andy the whole time.
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I liked her a little more this episode, kind
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: of seeing her through Nigel's eyes. You know, that made
• 15:35
  Speaker 1: me like her. I think she's a little bit cooler. Yeah.
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: You know?
• 15:40
  Speaker 2: The bangs, I just can't get over. No. But he
• 15:43
  Speaker 2: was better than I thought he'd be. Oh, he was worse. Oh, see,
• 15:48
  Speaker 2: I thought he was better. No.
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: Did you notice, in addition to the super short bangs,
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: she also has a rat tail in the back?
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: Oh, yes, I did.
• 16:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Okay. So double whammy on the hair.
• 16:03
  Speaker 2: And also he's got- I don't know what you call
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: a mullet that has short, it's so short, the short
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: bangs in the front. So it's like a tiny business
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: in the front, party in the back. He's also got-
• 16:17
  Speaker 2: It's a small business.
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: It's a small business.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: Small business loan in the front. And then you're having
• 16:25
  Speaker 2: a rager in the back.
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: But he also has like the guy on Double Lives.
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: He's got like a two mullet situation happening.
• 16:33
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: It's like.
• 16:34
  Speaker 2: Combined with the beard and the little handlebar mustache.
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: It is.
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: It's a hair raising situation. It is.
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: And he's got bad teeth.
• 16:47
  Speaker 2: Okay. That I knew you were going to.
• 16:51
  Speaker 1: Of course. I couldn't take it. Yeah. So we open
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: with Andy singing at her piano saying like she's writing
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: this song. And continuity is important here. They keep messing
• 17:01
  Speaker 1: up showing us her lyric book. It's two different lyric
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: books they keep showing us. So they obviously filmed this twice.
• 17:09
  Speaker 1: One day and they go, hey, just for pickups, just
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: do it one more time. Because at one point, it's
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: like a long and skinny lyric book with only one row,
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: one column of lyrics. And then when they're showing it later,
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: it's a wide landscape. style book with two.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: Rows of lyrics. We had Forrest and Sheena pretending that
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: they had never met each other and they had fully
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: visited multiple times. That's Matt Sharp for Audacity.
• 17:42
  Speaker 1: This is continuity.
• 17:44
  Speaker 2: You gotta let it go.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: I didn't like it. So she tells us she's getting
• 17:50
  Speaker 1: super nervous about her move to Australia in four hours,
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: which we say, please head to the airport. And writing
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: this song is really helping her work through these things.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: But she knows that going to Australia will help her
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: understand that it's worth the risk. And she's got nothing
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: to worry about. She's just got to get on that plane.
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: So we meet Nigel. Nigel rides up on a motorcycle.
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: And he's acting at a kid's party as a pirate
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: where you can rent a Cinderella costume. a transformer, a.
• 18:26
  Speaker 2: Ooh, Johnny Depp.
• 18:29
  Speaker 1: A wiggle, I guess, if you're Australian. I don't know.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: The yellow wiggle.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: I did those parties for a brief moment.
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: You did? Yeah. What did you go as?
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: I think some sort of princess, but not a good-looking one.
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: Well, they're all good-looking, and you've got the hair for it.
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: You were Rapunzel.
• 18:49
  Speaker 2: I honestly can't remember, but I, or maybe I never
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: did a party. No, I did a party. I just
• 18:54
  Speaker 2: can't remember what I was dressed as. I think I
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: only did one party. And then I was like, nah,
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: I don't like children. And his job is depressing. But
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: for him, he's like, I'm almost 40. It's a great
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: job for me.
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: He loves it. But we see these kids putting sprinkles
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: on bread and eating that. And I was like, is
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: this an Australian thing to put sprinkles on bread and
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: eat it? That sounds kind of gross to me.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: No, I've seen that even in America. Yeah. Fairy bread
• 19:25
  Speaker 2: or something.
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: Oh, okay. Well, kids, what do they care? It's got sprinkles.
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: They're happy. Yeah. We see him barefoot in his hero
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: shot with some drumsticks, but barefoot is going to be
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: the theme here. So he tells us, I'm Nigel. I'm
• 19:39
  Speaker 1: a good time. I consider life to be a permanent vacation.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: I have made good investments and good life choices, other
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: than that timeshare, I guess. And he considers himself retired.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: He owns his own home. He has a motor home.
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: He doesn't have to work a job every day.
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: I mean, I love this for him, and I want
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: it for myself. What investments can he give me tips?
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: Why didn't he invest in his teeth?
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: And why did he dip out on the timeshare? Why
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: did he like kind of pressure her into doing it
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: and now he's not going to pay for it?
• 20:16
  Speaker 2: Right. I don't believe that this is a good investment
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: type guy.
• 20:22
  Speaker 1: Doesn't seem like it.
• 20:24
  Speaker 2: Did he like get into like Apple like way back when?
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: Right. That's a good call. So we see all his
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: mechanical projects that he wants to work on shoved under
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: his house. And he's like, this is untreated ADHD. I
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: do work on projects. Then I shove it under the house.
• 20:43
  Speaker 1: And his buddy Chris comes over. And talking head, Chris goes,
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Nigel is just a big child. He never sits down.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: Do you think Chris is American? He's definitely not Australian.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: He had a slight accent that I couldn't place. And
• 20:56
  Speaker 2: it was only on certain words. Yes. So, yes, I
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: did think he was American. I am very much into him.
• 21:04
  Speaker 2: And think that Andy should date him instead of Nigel.
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: A thousand. He has way better teeth.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: Yep.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: And he seems more responsible and he seems like he showered.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: And he seems very hot for Andy.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: He's in love with Andy. Yes.
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: So Chris is like, so why are we out here
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: working on this riding lawnmower race car? Like, have you vacuumed?
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: Have you washed? Have you put out some smelly candles? Like,
• 21:32
  Speaker 1: you're about to have a full-fledged woman living with you.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: He's like, oh, I know. Nigel tells us his first
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: impression of Andy is that she's just like a super
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: cool chick. Very tall. Easy to talk to. Beautiful. Kind.
• 21:46
  Speaker 2: Genuine.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: Talented. He feels so honored she's choosing to move in
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: with him and start this life. And then we see
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: all the pictures of them together. Yeah. And he was like, okay.
• 21:58
  Speaker 1: He's very into her. He appreciates, you know, her.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: He's honored she's moving in.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So Chris says, I got to be honest. Andy
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: is the top of the top tier of what you
• 22:12
  Speaker 1: could pull.
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:14
  Speaker 1: No offense.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: Out of your league.
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: She's cool. She's hot. She's talented. Chris is in love
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: with Andy. 1,000%.
• 22:21
  Speaker 2: So Chris asked him- And maybe doesn't even like Nigel,
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: even though he's friends with him.
• 22:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah. He's like, he's my next door neighbor. But Chris
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: asked him, now he says two different, they say two
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: different things here over and over. They say ethical non-monogamy,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: but they also say polyamory a lot as well. And
• 22:41
  Speaker 1: these are two different things.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: Okay. Okay.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: That's the difference. Well, ethical non-monogamy is we are together
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: and we can choose to go out with other people
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: as long as we don't bring it home and we've
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: set our own rules and the rules are this. And
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: we abide by the rules and that's ethical non-monogamy. But polyamory,
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: in my understanding from watching all these shows, is that
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: it is you can have multiple partners, but you could
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: be Like these are my two girlfriends. Like you're dedicated
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: to the two people. Non-monogamy is more just like you're
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: allowed to fuck around within your parameters.
• 23:27
  Speaker 2: But they are just.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: No relationships.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 23:31
  Speaker 2: That's it. Okay. I'm not sure if that's correct, but
• 23:34
  Speaker 2: that could be. Yeah.
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: Cause I feel like, like the Davis family, they practice polyamory.
• 23:41
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: But this, what he's doing is like, I can just
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: take these lovers, but they have nothing to do with
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: my main relationship.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: Yes, I see what you're saying.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah. So, Nigel says, since my divorce, I've really spread
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: my rings, my wings, my rings and my wings. And
• 24:01
  Speaker 1: I have found a polyamory community within going to festivals. Wow.
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: Andy is on the same page with wanting to practice
• 24:12
  Speaker 1: ethical non-monogamy.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: She couldn't be less on the same page.
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: She's just like, I'm not there for six months. So
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: if he wants to like bang somebody at a festival,
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: I get it.
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah. She wasn't practicing it and she wasn't ever interested
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: in it before this.
• 24:28
  Speaker 1: Right. So Nigel, so Chris is like, so you're just
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: going to like stick with this. And he goes, yeah,
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: I think it's my forever lifestyle. Like I'm used to
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: it now. And, It hasn't been smooth sailing. Like she's
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: been jealous sometimes. Like maybe she's jealous because I'm getting
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: more tail than she is.
• 24:46
  Speaker 2: No, now I hate you.
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Now we're mad.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: Now I was wrong. You suck. That's not at all
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: what she's feeling. Jealous that she hasn't been getting as
• 24:57
  Speaker 2: much sex.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: Like it's a tit for tat. Yeah, right.
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: That's no.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: He said, you know, recently I was performing at a
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: festival and I had a plus one that I could bring.
• 25:10
  Speaker 1: So I was going to take one of my playmates along. No,
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: don't like that term. And Andy was annoyed. And even
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: though it was within the rights of our agreement, but
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: I felt like I had to honor her feelings about
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: the situation. It really killed my vibe. And Chris is like, yeah,
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: you have to honor the agreement. So in the talking head,
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: Nigel says, my recent part-time lover, it's fun. She's great.
• 25:41
  Speaker 1: And it's annoying that Andy shut it down and she
• 25:44
  Speaker 1: made it awkward when it didn't need to be. Okay.
• 25:48
  Speaker 2: Imagine how it's going to be when she is staying
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: at home and you're going out to have a play
• 25:56
  Speaker 2: date with playmate and she's like just at home waiting
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: for you to come home. That's really going to cramp
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: your style.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Chris is like, yeah, man, this all sounds sticky. Don't
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: you think since she's moving all the way here, she
• 26:12
  Speaker 1: thinks you're going to give up that other lifestyle once
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: she's here? He goes, no, I don't think she thinks that.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: And a talking head, Chris, who hates Nigel and loves Andy, says,
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: I think Nigel has been living a very selfish lifestyle
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: for a long time.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: Oh, you hate him.
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: And I think he's going to have a massive lifestyle
• 26:36
  Speaker 1: change when she gets here. And I'm unsure if he's
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: actually thought this through.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: No, and I don't think they've talked it through. They're
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: both assuming that they're on the same page and they're not.
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: She's assuming he'll give it up and he's assuming he
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: won't have to give it up. Right. So I think
• 26:54
  Speaker 2: this before you get there.
• 26:55
  Speaker 1: Well, I think neither one of them want the answer
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: that the other one's going to give. So that's why
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: they didn't ask.
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: You're exactly right.
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's like if I just don't mention it,
• 27:03
  Speaker 1: maybe it'll go my way.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:06
  Speaker 1: So we see her leaving, and they do this whole
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: montage with all the couples that are flying out, which
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: was different. Not great for note-taking. No. We see her leaving,
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: and then we flip over to a didgeridoo man, and
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: I will never unsee the mouth hole that I saw there.
• 27:30
  Speaker 1: That was upsetting. Nigel's teeth look amazing compared to this guy. Yeah.
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: At least this guy was wearing shoes in the woods.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: He was?
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I thought he would be barefoot. He was shirtless. Yeah.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: There's so many snakes and critters there that he definitely
• 27:49
  Speaker 1: was like, yeah, this is scary.
• 27:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: Well, we see Nigel has cleaned up and put on
• 27:55
  Speaker 1: his worst outfit, and he wants her to know that
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: life with him is one big party, so that's why
• 28:01
  Speaker 1: he's dressed this way.
• 28:03
  Speaker 2: You know who he was dressed exactly like is the
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: guy from Love After Lockup who is dating the older
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: model chick and proposed to her on a bridge.
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're exactly right. I can't think of their names.
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: I really do feel like her name is something like Andy,
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: but I cannot remember what their names are. But yeah,
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: he's dressed exactly like him. And it doesn't look.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: Like either one. But that's his future.
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely. That's his future.
• 28:32
  Speaker 2: To like a very skinny, dirty looking pirate wannabe wearing
• 28:41
  Speaker 2: leopard pants.
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: Nigel's not wearing any eyeliner.
• 28:44
  Speaker 2: Zebra pants.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: Yes, he hasn't. You're exactly. Yes, that's what's missing is
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: the eyeliner.
• 28:50
  Speaker 1: And he doesn't look like he's.
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: And he still has a lot of hair. And that
• 28:54
  Speaker 2: guy on Love After Lockup has the long thinning hair.
• 28:58
  Speaker 1: And meth face. Yes. Yeah. Okay.
• 29:03
  Speaker 2: Give it time.
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: So, okay. He says, I'm hoping things are going to
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: work out, you know, with the ethical non-monogamy. Because it
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: seems like she was mad that I was getting more
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: love than her. Again.
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: Again.
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: Stop. That's rude. And you're saying, like, I'm cuter and
• 29:21
  Speaker 1: could catch more tail. Like, it's not cute. Yeah.
• 29:23
  Speaker 2: She could have, if she was trying.
• 29:25
  Speaker 1: She could do what she wanted.
• 29:26
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 29:28
  Speaker 1: So another continuity issue I'm going to point out. When
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: he leaves his house, and he is wearing shoes, when
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: he leaves his house, he's pulling a trailer behind his truck.
• 29:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:38
  Speaker 1: But when he's at the airport, it's not there. It's
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: just the truck bed.
• 29:41
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 29:42
  Speaker 2: Well, that was a good decision to ditch that trailer.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: Yeah. I think he just circled the block and came
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: back and dropped it off.
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: So she has a 28-hour journey. Also, why does he
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: have that car? That truck?
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: Because he works on all those stupid projects and shoves
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: them under his house.
• 30:01
  Speaker 2: But there's no, it's not like a truck that has
• 30:05
  Speaker 2: like walls on the back part. So everything's just exposed.
• 30:10
  Speaker 2: It's just a flatbed.
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: He's got those things you can strap it down.
• 30:14
  Speaker 2: Just with straps. It doesn't seem like enough. Like put wall,
• 30:17
  Speaker 2: at least have, you know, like a normal truck.
• 30:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Sides. Yeah.
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: Do it.
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: That's the kind that Dylan had, a Dylan amputee. He
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: had a regular truck. Yeah. So it's been 28 hours.
• 30:29
  Speaker 1: That's how long it takes to get there. Oh, my God.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: I should be complaining. Oh, my God.
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: I should be complaining.
• 30:35
  Speaker 1: My hair would be so greasy. So she heads to
• 30:38
  Speaker 1: Baggage Claim to greet him in his getup. And he
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: has flowers. She says, you look like a wizard. She
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: has her guitar on her back. And I said, this
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: is when I realized, in addition to the bad bank,
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: she has a rat tail. And I was upset. Yeah.
• 30:55
  Speaker 1: Then we hear some music and she's like, what is that?
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: And then people kind of come from all over and
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: start dancing around. There's a bubble machine. For some reason,
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: some guy's dancing with the big fucking lizard, a bearded dragon.
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: She's dancing, having fun. There's bubbles. I'm assuming they're all
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: on acid. I have no idea. But he's like, I
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: just thought like, what could I do to greet her?
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: And I've created a flash mob because she loves dancing.
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: And I was like, these are all his drug friends, right?
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: Like, Oh, 100%. He called them at 3 in the morning. Yeah.
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: He was like, can you be at the airport?
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: They're like, we're not going to sleep. It's fine.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah. It's fine. And bring all of your accoutrement.
• 31:33
  Speaker 2: Like bring whatever you have. Like you have a lizard.
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: You have a bubble machine.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: Bring it.
• 31:38
  Speaker 2: You have a hula hoop.
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Bring it.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: Is there a fire dancer?
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: No. It's fine.
• 31:43
  Speaker 2: The didgeridoo guy, he had plans.
• 31:48
  Speaker 1: So in the talking head, Andy says, this is what
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: I love about Nigel. He has such a fun sense
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: of humor about life in general. He knows how much
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: I love to dance, so he surprised me with this.
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: But reality is starting to hit me like a ton
• 32:02
  Speaker 1: of bricks. I just left my friends and my family
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: and my music career, which was just taking off, and
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: I have a list a mile long of worries. One
• 32:10
  Speaker 1: of them, of course, is about does he want to
• 32:12
  Speaker 1: be monogamous? And I'm beginning to wonder, can I fit
• 32:16
  Speaker 1: into this life? Okay, good question. You know what?
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: I thought his place looked not that bad.
• 32:22
  Speaker 1: It was clean.
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah. It was clean. And he kept saying bachelor pad,
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: but he had furniture.
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: So he's a step above Thomas. And he's into music.
• 32:34
  Speaker 2: You're into music. I don't know if their musics coincide.
• 32:38
  Speaker 2: Could they play together or both book the same festivals
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: or something? But I do see potential aside for the...
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: monogamy issue and the timeshare issue.
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: Right he just seems to be very into going to
• 32:54
  Speaker 1: festivals to do drugs in my opinion.
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah if there are drugs involved and she's not into
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: drugs but they've traveled together it seems like a lot
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: so she should know what she's getting into in terms
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: of drugs yeah.
• 33:08
  Speaker 1: It seems like she's never seen this place because he's
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: like i hope she's okay with my bachelor pad yeah
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: and it was It's fine. It's fine.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: It's a house.
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: And then his friends, like all the bubble people, they
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: hugged her. And well, the dragon guy, the lizard guy,
• 33:24
  Speaker 2: he hugged her. Like, it seemed fine.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: Yeah. We'll see. Were one of these girls one of
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: the girls he was banging? Unclear.
• 33:32
  Speaker 2: Is it the bubble girl? She was hot. Yeah.
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: She had on the crop top?
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: Mm-hmm. Um, okay. Let's move on.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: Nothing like dancing barefoot at the airport.
• 33:44
  Speaker 1: I mean, okay. You've heard me talk about grocery store feet, right?
• 33:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 33:51
  Speaker 1: Later on, we're going to see two people walking barefoot
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: in a grocery store.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: Yep. Gross. So, um, let's move on to Allie and Jonathan.
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: I'm just going to call him John because she calls
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: him John. His thing is Jonathan. Sort of like my
• 34:07
  Speaker 1: husband really wants to be called David, but He introduced
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: himself to me as Dave 30 years ago. So that's
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: what I call him. He doesn't get to be David now.
• 34:13
  Speaker 2: Oh, I didn't know that. Now I'm going to try.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: You can try to call him David, but that's not
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: his name. So we start with the fight in the
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: car about vaping again. And he's like, I'm not vaping.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: I don't know what you want me to do. I've
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: made a lot of sacrifices to be here. And she goes, well, okay, great.
• 34:31
  Speaker 1: Making sacrifices and lying are two different issues, which is
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: a good point.
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: And he goes, okay, you're right. I'm sorry. I'm going
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: to try to do better about being a liar who lies,
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: I guess. So they go to the Hawker, H-A-W-K-E-R, the
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: Hawker Center, which is a food court. And to save
• 34:51
  Speaker 1: the table, you chop it. They keep saying chop it
• 34:54
  Speaker 1: by putting something on it. To me, that's just like
• 34:57
  Speaker 1: when you save a beach chair, you like put something
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: on it, you know? Yeah. There was a lot of
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: emphasis on this as if we've never heard this before. Yeah.
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: Well, there you can do it just with like a napkin.
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And then you're like, this is mine. Yeah. Yeah.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: Because that's how rule following these people are. Because they're terrified.
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: Every move is being filmed by the government.
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: Yes. There's CCTV everywhere and they can fine you for anything.
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: She says no spitting. That's $ 782 fine.
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: And she spits to mime it. And I was like,
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: the cameras are going to see you.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: She mimes it, but she doesn't spit.
• 35:39
  Speaker 2: Right, but the cameras might not know that. They might
• 35:41
  Speaker 2: just see that she, they might think she spat.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: Don't you think somebody is going to run up right
• 35:47
  Speaker 1: behind to see if there's any spit on the ground?
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: I do. I don't know.
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: No spitting.
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: I'm scared. It's like living in the Hunger Games or something.
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: No littering. That's a $ 235 fine. I like that. If
• 36:01
  Speaker 1: you don't flush the toilet in a public bathroom, $ 117 fine.
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: I love that too. I love that. Now, how would
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: they know? Because are they watching you go to the bathroom?
• 36:14
  Speaker 1: And if you're in your apartment and seeing naked through
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: the windows, it's a $ 1, 562 fine.
• 36:21
  Speaker 2: I love that. I mean, the whole city of New
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: York would be extremely rich, I feel like, because I
• 36:27
  Speaker 2: feel like people are just, I mean, I didn't see
• 36:29
  Speaker 2: anybody across from my hotel room, but I didn't either.
• 36:33
  Speaker 1: But if there was a way to just look, I
• 36:34
  Speaker 1: would just sit there all day and watch people. I
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: find it fascinating.
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: Oh, yeah.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: You do a rear window and witness a murder.
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: Yes, I love. Is that what rear window is about?
• 36:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's he's in a wheelchair because he broke his
• 36:51
  Speaker 2: leg and he's bored and he starts watching his neighbors
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: through his like telescope and he witnesses a murder. And then.
• 36:59
  Speaker 1: Oh, didn't even know. Okay, so they get some food
• 37:05
  Speaker 1: and they're eating. And he's like, I think she says,
• 37:10
  Speaker 1: everything feels normal now that you're here. We're going out
• 37:12
  Speaker 1: and we're eating. You know, she has been going out
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: too much because she's working really hard. She tells us
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: she's a tech analyst. And he goes, but that's great
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: that you have that job because you have the health coverage.
• 37:23
  Speaker 1: And she goes, yeah, but it's not enough. And that's
• 37:26
  Speaker 1: why I need you to have saved the $ 10, 000. She
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: says that her insurance only pays some, and she was
• 37:33
  Speaker 1: told that it's $ 15, 600 to have the baby. So she
• 37:39
  Speaker 1: needs that money for birth and postpartum, and $ 10, 000 is
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: actually probably not enough. So she's saved some, but not enough.
• 37:46
  Speaker 1: So he goes, $ 10, 000 is not that much. She's like, what?
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: And she goes, do you have it? Right, right. And
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: she goes, if you aren't worried about it, then why
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: haven't you saved it? He goes, I'm not worried about
• 38:00
  Speaker 1: the financial stuff at all. And she goes, you know,
• 38:03
  Speaker 1: I just got to get my company going in Singapore
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: or Malaysia. I don't care.
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: And he's got very pregnant already.
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: How fast do you think you can get a business
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: up and running there?
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: A sonar underwater listening device company. He wants to get
• 38:20
  Speaker 1: the manufacturing of the product moved to Asia is the point.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: And she's like, right, but you also, while you're doing that,
• 38:28
  Speaker 1: have to have a regular job. And he goes, yeah,
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: I will. She goes, you haven't even started looking. You
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: should have started looking months ago. Like, how are you
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: going to be making money? You need to be applying.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: And he goes, I really literally just got here. You're
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: being very aggressive. And she goes, I don't think I'm
• 38:43
  Speaker 1: being aggressive. I'm very kiasu and kunchung. It's fear of
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: missing out and fear of missing out on opportunities and
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: having anxiety around it. And she explains it like, there's
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: a bus coming and I'm going to go like 6 a.m.
• 39:01
  Speaker 1: So I'll be there. So I'll be the first one
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: to make sure I have a seat. How did you
• 39:05
  Speaker 1: find it in your definitions?
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: That seems extreme. It's Kiyasu, afraid to lose out. And
• 39:15
  Speaker 2: the other one, Kiyasu. meaning nervous anxious panicky flustered or
• 39:23
  Speaker 2: in a rush okay it's the opposite of what the
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: phrase is keep calm and carry on which is what
• 39:30
  Speaker 2: they're parroting because they're saying panic and carry on. It's
• 39:34
  Speaker 2: actually more accurate to my lifestyle. Yeah. Constant panic, but
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: keep going.
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, thank you, medication. Yeah.
• 39:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: My mom is not medicated and she just is always
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: in a worry and always in a panic. Yeah. Scooting panic. Yeah.
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: I feel that. So she's saying to him, she goes,
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: why didn't you apply to any jobs? Why didn't you
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: do it? He goes, the why doesn't matter now. Now
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: I'm just going to do it that I'm here. And
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: she goes, it does matter why. I need to know why.
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: And he's like, Jesus fucking Christ. I have all this
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: success and you're coming at me about applying for a
• 40:15
  Speaker 1: fucking job right now. I mean, he really goes to
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: the cursing real quick.
• 40:19
  Speaker 2: I don't like his anger. I know he's traveled a
• 40:22
  Speaker 2: very long way and probably just wants to rest.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 40:25
  Speaker 2: He doesn't want to be at a market and being
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: on TV, I guess. But I don't like this anger
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: he has.
• 40:31
  Speaker 1: I don't like it either.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: And he's pregnant and calm down and– Also, why didn't you?
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: The why does matter. And that sounds like a gaslighting
• 40:40
  Speaker 2: thing to say. Like, the why doesn't matter.
• 40:42
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• 43:05
  Speaker 1: So she goes, I need stability. And he goes, oh, okay.
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: Are you suffering? And she goes, I've been suffering because
• 43:14
  Speaker 1: I've been alone. And my parents are more kiasu and kanchung.
• 43:19
  Speaker 1: I was saying it wrong. They are more so than me.
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: And they are going to wonder, why did you knock
• 43:25
  Speaker 1: me up and then you didn't plan and then you
• 43:27
  Speaker 1: didn't get a job? That's what they're going to want
• 43:29
  Speaker 1: to know. Yeah.
• 43:31
  Speaker 2: They don't even know that she's pregnant.
• 43:33
  Speaker 1: That's the craziest part. I can't wait to see how
• 43:35
  Speaker 1: long it's been since she's seen them that they literally
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: do not know she's giving birth in two months.
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 43:41
  Speaker 1: Crazy. All right. Zuri and Ben.
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: Okay. Also, he already has like two children that are grown.
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: Ben, yeah. No, not Ben.
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: Sorry, sorry, sorry. John.
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: John, I want her to gossip with the first wife. Like,
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: has he always been like this? Is he super immature,
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: but it gets it together at the last minute? Yeah.
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: Is he always fly by the seat of his pants?
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: Is he lazy? What's going on? Right. Right.
• 44:13
  Speaker 1: Um, yeah, I'd love to see her talk to the
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: first wife too. Um, First wife apparently has no problem
• 44:19
  Speaker 1: with this and she still lives at that house. I mean,
• 44:20
  Speaker 1: you know. Right.
• 44:22
  Speaker 2: Maybe she has her act together even less.
• 44:26
  Speaker 1: Okay. Let's talk about Zuri and Ben. Zuri is 26.
• 44:31
  Speaker 1: She's from Fairfield, Connecticut. And Ben is also 26 from Nancy, France.
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: Nancy?
• 44:39
  Speaker 1: Nancy? I thought is what they said. And that's why
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: I was like, Nancy? Nancy? Where is Ben from 90
• 44:46
  Speaker 1: Day Toe from? Nope. That's a different Ben. He's the
• 44:57
  Speaker 1: guy that died. Yeah, Ben died. I thought it was
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: going to be him. It did. France with Zuri. Okay. Me, Zuri,
• 45:09
  Speaker 1: and Benjamin. They met. It says niece. It says niece. Niece. No, Ben,
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: who resides in Nancy, France. Okay. Okay.
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: Is it maybe not said Nancy? Like, maybe it's pronounced differently?
• 45:28
  Speaker 1: I don't know. TLC.com. It says Nancy, France. I mean,
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: I wrote it down as Nancy. Let's look this up.
• 45:36
  Speaker 2: No, it's fine. I'm just going to keep laughing about it.
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: Nancy. That's just a funny name.
• 45:41
  Speaker 2: Nancy.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: Nancy. france um nancy nancy like nancy but nancy.
• 45:50
  Speaker 2: Nancy okay okay yeah.
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: Okay nancy um that's worse that's funnier to say nancy
• 45:57
  Speaker 1: okay so uh we meet zuri and she works with
• 46:01
  Speaker 1: musicians and when this guy came on It was singing.
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: I was like, is this an ad for Ozempic? Because
• 46:07
  Speaker 1: he's like, freedom. And it sounded like, is this like
• 46:12
  Speaker 1: an Ozempic or a Zepbound commercial? Like, what is it?
• 46:15
  Speaker 2: He was giving that face that like, really happy. I'm
• 46:19
  Speaker 2: trying to sell you a medication that might give you diarrhea. Yes.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: Yes. Not approved by the FDA. But We see Zuri.
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: She is there taking pictures and talking. And she is
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: a marketing director and social media manager for a recording studio.
• 46:37
  Speaker 1: But this guy got a lot of airtime for whoever
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: he is. So she tells us she's an only child
• 46:45
  Speaker 1: and very outgoing. She's a social butterfly. She's adventurous. She
• 46:50
  Speaker 1: loves to travel. And she says there's an American Zuri
• 46:54
  Speaker 1: and a French Zuri. Ooh la la. But there's not
• 46:58
  Speaker 1: a French degree because she doesn't speak French.
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: No. Also, but she is a shapeshifter. Like, I mean,
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: she looks different in every photo. The hair changes.
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: Yep.
• 47:09
  Speaker 2: Change her whole look, like, shockingly.
• 47:11
  Speaker 1: Yes. She is a shapeshifter. So now we meet Ben.
• 47:16
  Speaker 1: Ben works for the family business selling farm equipment. These
• 47:20
  Speaker 1: two met in London. She was living there. I think
• 47:23
  Speaker 1: she was in school. And they met up in the club.
• 47:26
  Speaker 1: And- In Dueling Talking Heads, she tells about traveling to
• 47:30
  Speaker 1: France to see him. She's excited to go. And he
• 47:34
  Speaker 1: says he feels like they were made to be together.
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: She says he feels like home. And after she graduated
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: in London, she moved from London to Nancy, France, maybe Paris,
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: maybe Nice, unclear. She moved to France to be with Ben.
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: But things did not go as planned, and after a
• 47:54
  Speaker 1: few months, she moved back to the United States, and
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: that's all we get. I was like, whoa. Things didn't
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: go as planned. Okay. Now, she's in the kitchen with
• 48:04
  Speaker 1: her mom. Her mom is baking, and she says, my
• 48:07
  Speaker 1: mom has owned three bakeries, all named after me. That
• 48:12
  Speaker 1: just reminds me of Say Anything. I've written 482 songs
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: about Joe, and I'm going to sing them all tonight.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: joe lies joe lies and he cries joe lies okay
• 48:26
  Speaker 1: so deep cut guys very current reference.
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: So also her mom owns bakeries but she's cooking in
• 48:33
  Speaker 2: her own kitchen at home.
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: She says my mom has has owned three bakeries oh
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: okay but she looks like she was making.
• 48:41
  Speaker 2: It felt like gregory sweating over the.
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah yeah no shit This was her making king cakes,
• 48:47
  Speaker 1: it seems, and she was just maybe just doing it
• 48:49
  Speaker 1: locally for people. She doesn't do it anymore, perhaps.
• 48:51
  Speaker 2: I'd love to try a king cake. Am I allowed to?
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: Because you're not from New Orleans? Is that what you mean?
• 48:59
  Speaker 2: Isn't it a religious thing?
• 49:00
  Speaker 1: No. It's all about Mardi Gras.
• 49:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but isn't there like a little thing inside?
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: You find the baby and it gives you good luck.
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: Isn't it like a baby Jesus or something?
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: I don't think so. I've never heard it was baby Jesus.
• 49:13
  Speaker 1: Just find the baby. Oh, okay. You find the baby
• 49:17
  Speaker 1: and it's good luck. King cakes aren't that great.
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 49:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah. It's a shame. Yeah. But yeah, king cake, it's
• 49:23
  Speaker 1: a fun thing because if you take the piece and
• 49:26
  Speaker 1: it's got the baby, you've got good luck for the year.
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: Unconventional cookies that made us all cookies for LibreFest.
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 49:35
  Speaker 2: I've eaten... Too many of them. I gave my dad
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: a couple. They're so delicious and so freaking cute.
• 49:43
  Speaker 1: I've eaten three. Yeah. I've eaten three and then told
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: Dave to come up and start eating them so that
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: I would stop at three. Yeah. And I'm going to
• 49:50
  Speaker 1: take the ones that are the pink shade logo to
• 49:53
  Speaker 1: my parents when I go this week.
• 49:55
  Speaker 2: So cute. They're so good and so beautifully decorated and
• 49:59
  Speaker 2: they have like theme that like I got date with
• 50:02
  Speaker 2: Dateline ones. They're so cute.
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: I got one with Zied on it. That's the one
• 50:06
  Speaker 1: I ate first.
• 50:07
  Speaker 2: Stop.
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 50:08
  Speaker 2: Did you take a picture?
• 50:09
  Speaker 1: Yes. It's on Instagram.
• 50:11
  Speaker 2: Okay. It has Zied on it? Yep. I love it.
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: I ate that one first and closed my eyes like
• 50:18
  Speaker 1: I was having a moment. And then I ate one
• 50:23
  Speaker 1: of the ones that is the visor that says, I
• 50:26
  Speaker 1: eat ass. If you know, you know. And then I
• 50:35
  Speaker 1: ate one of the dancing bears. I love it. Yeah.
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: I love that. That's so thoughtful.
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: So thoughtful. Unconventional cookies, guys. Go look it up. She
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: made every single one of us, Amanda, Amy, Becca, me, Kimberly, Keisha,
• 50:50
  Speaker 1: all different cookies just for us. All different themes.
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: Incredible.
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: Incredible. Thank you. Okay. Back in the kitchen with Zuri
• 51:01
  Speaker 1: and her mom. So I think her mom's name is Kim.
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: So unclear. So she talks with her mom about how
• 51:07
  Speaker 1: she hated living in France the first time. So, of course,
• 51:11
  Speaker 1: Ben is nervous that she's not going to stay there.
• 51:14
  Speaker 1: They've now been long distance for two years, but they are.
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: They do see each other. It's not like they haven't
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: seen each other. She says there's so much.
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: Seems like nothing has changed, but she's trying again. But
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: nothing has changed.
• 51:28
  Speaker 1: Right. Maybe she feels more mature. she says there's so
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: much pressure on me to learn French and his friends
• 51:36
  Speaker 1: feel like I have no personality because I can't talk
• 51:38
  Speaker 1: to them. One time, one of his friends threw ice
• 51:42
  Speaker 1: at me. Excuse me, ma'am. What? No.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: That could have cut her in the eye or something.
• 51:53
  Speaker 1: Can you imagine this is your buddy and his new
• 51:56
  Speaker 1: girlfriend has moved over from London and you're like, At
• 52:00
  Speaker 1: the club, and you have an ice bucket there, and
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: you think, she's boring, I think I'll throw a fucking
• 52:04
  Speaker 1: piece of ice at her. What?
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: Why, is Benjamin still friends with this person?
• 52:10
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we see him two scenes from now. Victor. What
• 52:13
  Speaker 1: the fuck? Fuck off, Victor.
• 52:16
  Speaker 2: They're bullies. They're full-on assholes.
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: Horrible people.
• 52:21
  Speaker 2: Now, should she learn French if she's moving there?
• 52:23
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 52:24
  Speaker 2: That's the fucking lootly... take classes. I don't even care
• 52:27
  Speaker 2: if it's bad French and you're not doing a good job,
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: but you're trying.
• 52:31
  Speaker 1: Kimberly, it's been two years. It's two years. What are you, Kenny?
• 52:44
  Speaker 1: Kenny fully lives in Mexico and cannot speak Spanish.
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: Bare minimum.
• 52:49
  Speaker 1: Bare minimum. Bare minimum. So I agree. She's They had
• 52:54
  Speaker 1: two years and she should have been learning. If she
• 52:56
  Speaker 1: thinks this is her person forever, even for that reason alone,
• 53:00
  Speaker 1: even if she thinks they're never going to live in France,
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: she should learn the language to be able to talk
• 53:04
  Speaker 1: to his family and everything. Anyway, back to Victor. Victor
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: threw ice at her and we say, we hate you.
• 53:11
  Speaker 1: Fuck off, Victor. So she goes, and another time I
• 53:16
  Speaker 1: was at his apartment and one of his friends hung
• 53:19
  Speaker 1: up a photo of Ben and another girl on the
• 53:21
  Speaker 1: fridge just to piss me off. These are horrible people. Horrible.
• 53:27
  Speaker 2: I can see it, too. I can picture them doing
• 53:30
  Speaker 2: it and laughing about it.
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: And laughing. And she goes, so then I realized not
• 53:35
  Speaker 1: only do they not want to get to know me
• 53:37
  Speaker 1: and they don't like me, but now they're going to
• 53:39
  Speaker 1: be disrespectful to me and my relationship. And she goes,
• 53:42
  Speaker 1: his friends are a big reason I left France. So...
• 53:47
  Speaker 1: She tells her mom, I want to make peace with them.
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: And mom goes, no, you do not have to make
• 53:52
  Speaker 1: peace with this person that threw ice at you. You
• 53:55
  Speaker 1: have to set a boundary and show them you will
• 53:57
  Speaker 1: not be disrespected. And that's the end.
• 54:00
  Speaker 2: Also, Benjamin has to do that.
• 54:02
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 54:04
  Speaker 2: It's like Patrick and John. Patrick needs to put his
• 54:09
  Speaker 2: foot down. You can't talk to her like that.
• 54:12
  Speaker 1: Yes, exactly.
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: Or I will cut you out of my life.
• 54:15
  Speaker 1: So she goes, but when you don't know the language,
• 54:17
  Speaker 1: you're an outsider. But I feel 110% that Ben's worth it.
• 54:21
  Speaker 1: But you've had two years to learn the language. What?
• 54:24
  Speaker 2: So he's not worth it then? Do you even have
• 54:28
  Speaker 2: Babbel on your phone?
• 54:29
  Speaker 1: I just Babbel or Duolingo or something. Just once a day,
• 54:34
  Speaker 1: learn a phrase. 15 minutes a day. That's all. This
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: is where I put the note. Kimberly, she's had two years.
• 54:41
  Speaker 2: Why didn't she learn the She said longer than two
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: years because she had all that time before she moved
• 54:46
  Speaker 2: there the first time. Right.
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: When she was young and her brain could probably take
• 54:49
  Speaker 1: it in better. You know, so and then she was
• 54:54
  Speaker 1: there and she could really practice amongst the French people. Yeah. Yeah.
• 54:58
  Speaker 1: All right. So now we're at Zuri's going away party
• 55:02
  Speaker 1: and she's like, I feel really nervous, but I'm ready.
• 55:04
  Speaker 1: Like it's culture shock, but I'm doing it. And the
• 55:08
  Speaker 1: friend says, now, what happened? Because I thought he was
• 55:11
  Speaker 1: going to move to the U.S. And she goes, well,
• 55:13
  Speaker 1: we thought so, too. And he just said he could
• 55:15
  Speaker 1: move his company here. But he sells farm equipment. How
• 55:19
  Speaker 1: would he move his company there? It's a local thing.
• 55:22
  Speaker 2: Where does he live? Oh, Connecticut. They do have farms.
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: But still, he doesn't have the connections or anything.
• 55:26
  Speaker 1: He can't just start up whatever.
• 55:28
  Speaker 2: No.
• 55:29
  Speaker 1: So she goes, but it's really off the table because
• 55:31
  Speaker 1: he's taking over the family business. And the friend goes,
• 55:34
  Speaker 1: what's the situation with the other girl? So Zuri says,
• 55:40
  Speaker 1: last summer, after a long stretch of not seeing each other,
• 55:43
  Speaker 1: I went to visit him. And we were laying in
• 55:46
  Speaker 1: bed and I saw some girl was texting him on
• 55:50
  Speaker 1: his phone in English. And when I asked him, he
• 55:53
  Speaker 1: said he barely knows her. She's just a friend. It
• 55:55
  Speaker 1: must have been like on Instagram. So I asked him
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: to unfollow her, and he did. But then when I
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: got home, I went and looked, and he was re-following her.
• 56:04
  Speaker 1: And I broke up with him.
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: Good. But you didn't stay broken up.
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: They broke up for two and a half months, she goes.
• 56:13
  Speaker 1: But it was awkward because my parents had booked a
• 56:17
  Speaker 1: trip to go and see his family. So his family
• 56:21
  Speaker 1: must speak English. So we all went, and it was
• 56:26
  Speaker 1: pretty awkward. She said, but it gave us a chance
• 56:29
  Speaker 1: to talk. And he told me nothing had been on
• 56:32
  Speaker 1: with the other girl, just conversations. So he blocked her,
• 56:36
  Speaker 1: which you could just unblock. And the friends are like,
• 56:42
  Speaker 1: so did you ask the other girl?
• 56:44
  Speaker 2: She says, no.
• 56:45
  Speaker 1: You know, I have thought about DMing that girl, but
• 56:48
  Speaker 1: I trust him. I mean, a little voice in my
• 56:51
  Speaker 1: head says there might be something I don't know. But oh, well,
• 56:54
  Speaker 1: the friends are going to tell you if there is.
• 56:55
  Speaker 1: So don't worry. Just ask, just ask Victor. He'll tell you.
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 57:00
  Speaker 1: So we're talking to her. Her friends are like, we
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: don't trust this man. Like Zuri should have messaged that
• 57:05
  Speaker 1: other girl right away and asked what the stories were.
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 57:10
  Speaker 1: So it's the next day or whenever, and she's puts
• 57:13
  Speaker 1: on a beret just to be super cringy and she's
• 57:15
  Speaker 1: packing and taking her enchilada sauce flower.
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: She's like, um, she's like blossom.
• 57:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Um, And every time we see her in a
• 57:25
  Speaker 1: picture in France, she's wearing a beret. We're like, girl, stop.
• 57:28
  Speaker 2: We get it.
• 57:29
  Speaker 1: We get it. She's taking enchilada sauce with her because
• 57:32
  Speaker 1: they don't have it there. She's taking like a big, like,
• 57:34
  Speaker 1: old El Paso, you know, like.
• 57:36
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry. Did you say enchilada sauce?
• 57:39
  Speaker 1: Enchilada sauce? What do you say?
• 57:42
  Speaker 2: Enchilada sauce.
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: Enchilada? Say enchilada.
• 57:46
  Speaker 2: Enchilada.
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm going to eat an enchilada. What? I'm going
• 57:49
  Speaker 1: to look that up now. What do you mean? How
• 57:52
  Speaker 1: to pronounce... Is that a southern thing? I don't know.
• 57:57
  Speaker 1: Pronounce enchilada. Enchilada. I'm going to press the little button
• 58:04
  Speaker 1: where it says it for me. They say enchilada.
• 58:15
  Speaker 2: I mean, I live in California, so I feel like....
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: So... Wait. Enchilada.
• 58:24
  Speaker 2: Wait.
• 58:25
  Speaker 1: How do you pronounce enchilada if you're Southern? Okay. That's stupid.
• 58:36
  Speaker 1: It's like, though a heavy Southern U.S. accent might soften
• 58:40
  Speaker 1: or draw out the vowel slightly to be enchilada or enchilada. Enchilada.
• 58:51
  Speaker 2: Oh, Lord, I need some enchiladas.
• 58:53
  Speaker 1: Enchiladas. Okay, everybody, let us know. I'm saying enchilada. You're
• 58:59
  Speaker 1: saying enchilada. Yeah. Okay. I'm probably wrong, but.
• 59:06
  Speaker 2: No, maybe we're both right.
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: I'll never have to say it again. so she's packing
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: the sauce okay um so she says goodbye to her
• 59:14
  Speaker 1: dad in the driveway and the parents are really cute
• 59:17
  Speaker 1: yeah um and her mom takes her to the airport
• 59:21
  Speaker 1: um then they're talking about uh ben's asshole friends and
• 59:25
  Speaker 1: then we cut to meeting them we meet victor Who
• 59:30
  Speaker 1: is cute, but not cute enough to be this big
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: of an asshole. No. And Flora Mond, who's not cute
• 59:35
  Speaker 1: at all. Fuck off. So I hate them, but I'm
• 59:38
  Speaker 1: really mad.
• 59:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 59:40
  Speaker 1: And the talking head, Ben, says, last time she was here,
• 59:45
  Speaker 1: I felt very caught in the middle with my friends
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: because they were not a fan. And they're going to
• 59:51
  Speaker 1: have to accept her, or I worry it would be
• 59:54
  Speaker 1: the end of the relationship. I think it meaning she'll
• 59:57
  Speaker 1: leave if they act this way again.
• 59:59
  Speaker 2: But like it's not even you have to choose sides
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: because they don't like each other. The friends are being
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 2: disrespectful and bullying. So why do you want to be
• 1:00:11
  Speaker 2: friends with jerks like that? Right.
• 1:00:14
  Speaker 1: And why can't you put your foot down to say
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 1: like if you don't respect my relationship, then you can
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: go somewhere like we're not friends. I don't know.
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 2: Right. Or just be like decent to each other. Yeah.
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: Like it's fine if you don't like her, but I
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 1: don't want to hear about it.
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 2: Act nice.
• 1:00:28
  Speaker 1: Don't bully her. Act nice.
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 2: Don't throw things at her face.
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: Act nice or just don't come around. The end. Yeah.
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• 1:02:54
  Speaker 1: and Victor says, so she's made no effort to learn French.
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: And Flora, which is true. And Flora Mon goes, Personally,
• 1:03:03
  Speaker 1: I don't believe any of it. Please don't get married.
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 1: And Ben says, all I'm asking is you guys to
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 1: give her a chance. And Victor laughs and goes, you know,
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 1: you were better off without her. And he laughs.
• 1:03:15
  Speaker 2: Oh, my God.
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 1: So hateful. And in the talking together, these two guys go,
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 1: they laugh and they go, they won't stay together long.
• 1:03:26
  Speaker 1: She doesn't belong here. That's what he said. He said
• 1:03:30
  Speaker 1: their worlds are too far apart to ever build something together.
• 1:03:35
  Speaker 1: What are you talking about? Have you seen the show?
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: Xenophobic against her because she's American. I mean, I get it.
• 1:03:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I guess that's what it is. Yeah.
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 2: And I get it too that an American moving somewhere
• 1:03:47
  Speaker 2: and not even bothering to learn the language. Right. I
• 1:03:50
  Speaker 2: get it. But don't throw things at them.
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: The throwing of the ice really has upset me. Can
• 1:03:56
  Speaker 1: you imagine how Horrible she felt to see that his
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 1: friend was laughing at her and threw something at her.
• 1:04:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: So we see her boarding the plane. And I cannot
• 1:04:09
  Speaker 1: imagine that she is actually wearing that tight heels, a dress,
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 1: and a beret on an eight-hour flight. Because that's how
• 1:04:16
  Speaker 1: long it takes to get to Paris. Even if it
• 1:04:21
  Speaker 1: took five hours.
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: Still shorter than my trip yesterday. Yeah.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 1: And mom was like, bye. You can always come back.
• 1:04:29
  Speaker 1: You don't have to go. I love you. And she
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 1: drops her luggage down there. I had to go on
• 1:04:33
  Speaker 1: so many escalators going to the train yesterday.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:04:37
  Speaker 1: Like at the hotel. And I had two bags. I
• 1:04:40
  Speaker 1: have my regular roller and then I have a little
• 1:04:42
  Speaker 1: roller and I have bags on top of those. I
• 1:04:45
  Speaker 1: was like, oh, my God. I should have gotten a
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 1: red cap.
• 1:04:47
  Speaker 2: I've never seen someone drop one, and then it goes
• 1:04:50
  Speaker 2: tumbling down the escalator, and you're going up the escalator.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 1: So now you're going to have to take your other
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 1: one and go down. I don't know.
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: Go down, and you're embarrassed. Oh, my God.
• 1:05:01
  Speaker 1: Okay. Now we see Jesse and Vitorio. Okay. Here's something
• 1:05:08
  Speaker 1: I found out about Vitorio. He works for Hermes.
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 1:05:13
  Speaker 1: Okay. Okay. So that is the fashion brand that he
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 1: works for. But on his LinkedIn, it said he started
• 1:05:20
  Speaker 1: that job seven months ago. So I think it has
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 1: to be around the time they were filming because she
• 1:05:25
  Speaker 1: said he just started a new job. He does, in fact,
• 1:05:27
  Speaker 1: have his own brand, Vittorio Smoot, even though that is
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 1: not his last name, but that's his name on Instagram.
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 1: His last name is like Pacelli or something. Vittorio Smoot brand.
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 1: And her job right now is a fashion director for
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 1: Vittorio Smoot.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 1: Okay. But he works for Hermes.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 2: Good for them making it work.
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 1: But he works for Hermes and he doesn't work for
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 1: his own brand. Yeah. So, Jessie is trying on some
• 1:05:58
  Speaker 1: of her pageant dresses with her gay D, not gay B.
• 1:06:04
  Speaker 1: We were corrected. I thought she said ladies and gay Bs,
• 1:06:09
  Speaker 1: but she said ladies and gay Ds. Oh, okay.
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 1: They have a podcast called Ladies and Gaities.
• 1:06:21
  Speaker 2: Oh, okay.
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 1: And they also have a Team Vittorio and Jessie fan page.
• 1:06:30
  Speaker 1: And there's a podcast called Ladies and Gaities. There's at
• 1:06:33
  Speaker 1: least six Instagram accounts you can follow about these two people.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 2: Good for them. I won't be listening, but good for them.
• 1:06:40
  Speaker 1: So Manny is her gaitie. It's not my thing.
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 1: G-A-Y-D-I-E is how it's spelled on their podcast. She tells
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 1: us she's been doing pageants for years. She met Manny
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 1: eight years ago when he came backstage and said, girl,
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 1: you're going to be my new best friend. She is
• 1:07:00
  Speaker 1: talking with Manny about when her mom died. Her mom
• 1:07:03
  Speaker 1: got sick her senior year of high school and died
• 1:07:07
  Speaker 1: her freshman year of college. So that was before she
• 1:07:10
  Speaker 1: met Manny because She's 29. This was eight years ago.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 1: She would have been 21. And usually you're 21, 22
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 1: when you graduate from college. She also has an Instagram
• 1:07:23
  Speaker 1: called Latinas Who Graduate. There's just so many Instagram accounts.
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 1:07:28
  Speaker 2: But good for her.
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, good for her. So she says her mom was
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 1: a single mom. Her dad was never in the picture.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 1: She could not afford school once her mom died. So
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: she had to work two to three jobs and take
• 1:07:39
  Speaker 1: on huge student loans. and she says um vittoria's family
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 1: does not know her but they judge her off her
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 1: social media and she goes they act like my social
• 1:07:50
  Speaker 1: media is me twerking in fishnets on a lamborghini but
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 1: really her social media the pictures we see it's just
• 1:07:55
  Speaker 1: like some bathing suit shots or some beautiful clothes it's
• 1:07:58
  Speaker 1: nothing scandalous at all to me i mean.
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah it's not as like the vibe of Brittany from Miami,
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 2: who's now- Oh, my God. Right, right, right. Her bikini
• 1:08:10
  Speaker 2: shots that his family was judging. We were all judging those. Yeah,
• 1:08:16
  Speaker 2: well- There's a way to do it that's a little
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 2: more classy. Yeah.
• 1:08:21
  Speaker 1: I think she's a beautiful girl.
• 1:08:23
  Speaker 2: She's gorgeous.
• 1:08:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Anyway, she said he comes from a really fancy,
• 1:08:29
  Speaker 1: nice family. They go to this bougie tennis club. Also
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 1: his job, he's a tennis instructor.
• 1:08:36
  Speaker 2: Oh. Wasn't someone else a tennis instructor?
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 1: Zach Wise, married to Lydia Plath, is a tennis instructor.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 1: Thank you.
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 1: Just always on the front of my mind. So she says,
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 1: he told her, you know, when I arrive, I might
• 1:08:53
  Speaker 1: need to tone down my style.
• 1:08:56
  Speaker 2: Oh, I don't love that.
• 1:08:58
  Speaker 1: So now she's... has a map and she's trying to
• 1:09:01
  Speaker 1: find Florence on the map and she's packing. And she goes,
• 1:09:04
  Speaker 1: I mean, I am bringing my furs, my leather, my
• 1:09:07
  Speaker 1: crop tops, my animal print. You know, I think his
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 1: friends think I dress very showy, but I'm never going
• 1:09:13
  Speaker 1: to change my style for a man. Good for you, girl.
• 1:09:17
  Speaker 1: And She says, he recently got a new job. He's
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: a workaholic now, but I still call him constantly. I
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 1: call him a lot. I will call someone until my
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 1: phone catches on fire. You will answer. It's funny.
• 1:09:28
  Speaker 2: That is a little crazy, but.
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 1: But I loved the visual of it. I will call
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 1: you till my phone catches on fire. Yeah. She says,
• 1:09:38
  Speaker 1: you know, because it's concerning. He works in the fashion industry.
• 1:09:40
  Speaker 1: He works with a lot of models. We've never had
• 1:09:43
  Speaker 1: sex yet, which I had already forgotten. But now I remembered. Okay.
• 1:09:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, there's a lot of question marks.
• 1:09:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:09:55
  Speaker 2: Okay. Yeah.
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: So, red flags.
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 2: By the way, on conventional cookies, I got a giant
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 2: red flag and a tiny red flag.
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 1: Oh, I only got a tiny one.
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 2: I got a giant one, too.
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 1: I ate it already. Okay. Maybe I ate four cookies. Okay.
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: So we see Vittorio getting ready and he goes, he,
• 1:10:22
  Speaker 1: so he's in this beautiful kitchen and he's got all
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 1: these like gorgeous, fresh vegetables and fresh flowers. And he goes,
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 1: so the one thing I did not tell her is
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 1: I no longer live in the city. I live in
• 1:10:34
  Speaker 1: the countryside. Every time they showed this place, I was like,
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 1: is he like super rich? This is a huge, huge estate.
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 1: It's a huge countryside estate. It's up on the hill.
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 1: It's gorgeous.
• 1:10:47
  Speaker 2: But she's going to want to live in the city.
• 1:10:49
  Speaker 1: Of course. She's from New York City.
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 2: She's the city gal. But I did love that he
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 2: bought all of this stuff for her.
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 2: He bought the biggest celery I've ever seen in my
• 1:10:59
  Speaker 2: entire life for her green juices.
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yes.
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 2: Really sweet. So sweet.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 1: He goes, I know she's going to love being in
• 1:11:07
  Speaker 1: the countryside. I've got the veggies for the green juice,
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 1: lots of flowers. He says, you know, us European men,
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: we're probably more romantic, more sensitive.
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: I'm so happy she's moving here. But I'm also anxious
• 1:11:20
  Speaker 1: because it's so different from what she's used to. And
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 1: I'm worried when she gets here, she'll think she made
• 1:11:25
  Speaker 1: a mistake. We see Jesse, because they're doing all these
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 1: quick clips, saying goodbye to her brother, Ivan. I was like,
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 1: more Ivan. He was cute. She arrives in Italy. And
• 1:11:37
  Speaker 1: in the airport, she puts on a t-shirt that says
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 1: Italia across the front with a trench coat. She thinks
• 1:11:43
  Speaker 1: it looks chic. But I mean, you know he's going
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 1: to think it's tacky. So the talking head, he's in
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 1: the car and he goes, she says she's landed and
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 1: wants me to be there, be there, be there. But
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 1: I told her, yes, yes, yes. But then I take
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: my time because she exaggerates, you know, like I'm like
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 1: a politician that way. I say, yes, yes, yes. But
• 1:12:02
  Speaker 1: then I just do what I want. We don't like that.
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 2: I think that's their bickering relationship, though, that we soon
• 1:12:09
  Speaker 2: see is kind of funny. It's just like it's that
• 1:12:13
  Speaker 2: New York kind of. Yeah. Just constant bickering.
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. Wear me out.
• 1:12:20
  Speaker 2: I mean, for me, it would get old really fast.
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I want harmony and peace.
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 1: So now she's on the train, you know, from the
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 1: airport on the train headed to wherever he is. And
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 1: she's super nervous, but she looks amazing. And she gets
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 1: up and my God, his voice goes up four octaves.
• 1:12:39
  Speaker 1: I kept thinking like Jake and Matt are going to
• 1:12:41
  Speaker 1: kill it with this voice. It was amazing. You're an entity.
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 2: And I was like, wow. If we already had questions
• 1:12:54
  Speaker 2: about him.
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 1: Yeah. He's like, welcome, welcome, welcome. And he picks her up.
• 1:13:00
  Speaker 1: And she's like, oh, my God, you can pick me.
• 1:13:01
  Speaker 1: He goes, oh, strong, strong, strong. I'm working out. It's
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 1: the tennis. It's the tennis. And she goes, what do
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 1: you think about my look? What do you think about
• 1:13:08
  Speaker 1: the shirt? And he goes, no, okay. So I like
• 1:13:11
  Speaker 1: the shirt. But see, like, the shirt is okay for, like,
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 1: watching a soccer game. So the stitching, he's not run properly. Somebody,
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 1: by someone underpaid in some little country. And she's like, oh,
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 1: my God.
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 2: Sweatshop shirt.
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 2: Right.
• 1:13:23
  Speaker 1: You got it from Sheen. I can tell. So she
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 1: has a suitcase with her face on it from one
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 1: of her pageants, which was hilarious.
• 1:13:33
  Speaker 2: I didn't know you could do that.
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 1: He helps her with her shoes on the grate because
• 1:13:38
  Speaker 1: he's like, no, no, no. But it's nice that, I mean,
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 1: he's a fashionista. So he realizes that those shoes won't
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 1: work on the grate. So he's helping her and she's like,
• 1:13:47
  Speaker 1: oh my God, my shoes are not.
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 2: He's used to this. So he's not like, why did
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 2: you wear those shoes? Why did you wear those? You
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 2: can't even walk in them. He's like, no, this is fashion.
• 1:13:56
  Speaker 2: You have to wear them, but you need help walking.
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 1: Yes. So he's like, okay, okay. Perfecto. Perfecto. Okay.
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 2: We go home.
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 1: We go home. Let's go.
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 2: Let's go.
• 1:14:05
  Speaker 1: Let's go. Bambino. We finally begin our life in Italy.
• 1:14:09
  Speaker 1: And she goes, yeah, it's real. Don't fuck it up.
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 1: He's like, oh, he laughs. So they're driving and she goes,
• 1:14:15
  Speaker 1: where's your apartment? And he goes, oh, 20 minutes, 20 minutes.
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 1: She goes, why 20 minutes? I thought your apartment was
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 1: in the city. He goes, so I moved. So I'm
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 1: no longer too close to city center. Too many tourists,
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 1: too much, too much. She goes, so you moved and
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 1: you didn't tell me. And he goes, I mean, his
• 1:14:35
  Speaker 1: voice is so high. He goes, oh, it happened because
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 1: I'm never here. I'm never here. I'm always away and
• 1:14:42
  Speaker 1: I'm traveling. So I just find the situation more flexible.
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 1: And she goes, so why didn't you tell me that
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 1: you moved? He goes, I forgot. I have so many
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 1: things to do. I have so many calls. I have
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 1: so many things to do. And the talking head, she goes,
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 1: I just picked up my entire life to move here.
• 1:15:02
  Speaker 1: And he forgot to tell me that he moved. Like,
• 1:15:06
  Speaker 1: that's a huge detail to leave out. It's not truthful.
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 1: It's not honest. My blood is boiling. I am so mad.
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 1: I don't speak the language. And I know no one.
• 1:15:16
  Speaker 1: And now I'm isolated in this house. Like, I am pissed.
• 1:15:21
  Speaker 1: And as they drive up, she's like, oh, hell no.
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 2: I mean, I would be so pissed. That's ridiculous. I
• 1:15:29
  Speaker 2: feel like it takes active... planning to hide a move.
• 1:15:34
  Speaker 2: You have to not FaceTime or not show your background.
• 1:15:39
  Speaker 2: You have to not tell them what's going on in
• 1:15:41
  Speaker 2: your life, like boxes and packing.
• 1:15:43
  Speaker 1: You're moving.
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 2: It takes up your whole life. He maybe had assistants
• 1:15:46
  Speaker 2: helping him, but it's a huge thing. So if you
• 1:15:50
  Speaker 2: were not telling her about that, you were actively lying
• 1:15:53
  Speaker 2: to her.
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 1: Because he has a moped. So how did he move
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 1: with a moped? You know what I mean? He had
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 1: to like rent a truck. It took a lot of
• 1:16:02
  Speaker 1: planning to move like that. Oh, my God.
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 2: I'm sure he hired movers. But still.
• 1:16:11
  Speaker 1: So he's just lots and lots of time of ghosting
• 1:16:12
  Speaker 1: her when he was doing this moving process.
• 1:16:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he just chose not to talk to her for
• 1:16:17
  Speaker 2: like two weeks. Yeah.
• 1:16:19
  Speaker 1: So next time on. We see Andy and Nigel going
• 1:16:23
  Speaker 1: barefoot grocery shopping, and I say, no. And so she's
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 1: asking him, is your lover going to be at the party?
• 1:16:32
  Speaker 2: I don't like that. How many times are we going
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 2: to hear that word this season?
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 1: I don't know if lover or playmate is worse. Playmate
• 1:16:42
  Speaker 1: reminds me of the people on Double Lives and Suburban
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 1: Wives going, would we play with other couples?
• 1:16:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah.
• 1:16:49
  Speaker 1: So Zuri arrives in France, and they're in his apartment,
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 1: and he switches her phone to French and says, your
• 1:16:58
  Speaker 1: French lessons start now. I'm going to have to be
• 1:17:01
  Speaker 1: tough on you. Too controlling. I don't like it.
• 1:17:05
  Speaker 2: I don't like it, but if she had learned any French,
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 2: then this wouldn't really be a problem.
• 1:17:12
  Speaker 1: I would say give me four or five days to
• 1:17:14
  Speaker 1: acclimate to the time, and then let's start. doing French
• 1:17:18
  Speaker 1: lessons in the house just as we're getting ready. Right.
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 1: And then I'll be taking official French lessons. Just give
• 1:17:23
  Speaker 1: me one week to settle in and unpack.
• 1:17:26
  Speaker 2: For sure.
• 1:17:27
  Speaker 1: Please. Okay. So, Jessie. Jessie is pissed about the house.
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 1: She's pissed. And she's like, he lied about where he's
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 1: living and now I feel tricked. And we see these
• 1:17:41
  Speaker 1: animals and her like, what's that? And it's like a
• 1:17:44
  Speaker 1: horse comes by, a chicken, and she's like, what the?
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 1: And you can imagine if you thought you were going
• 1:17:50
  Speaker 1: to live in a city and he's going to go
• 1:17:51
  Speaker 1: to work and you're there with a bunch of animals
• 1:17:53
  Speaker 1: that you didn't.
• 1:17:54
  Speaker 2: Sign up for. Yeah, do I shuck hay now during
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 2: the day? Is that what you do with hay?
• 1:18:00
  Speaker 1: You bail it. You shuck it.
• 1:18:02
  Speaker 2: Shuck oysters.
• 1:18:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you throw it. I don't know what you do
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 1: with hay.
• 1:18:06
  Speaker 2: Shuck corn. I don't know things. I'm a city girl.
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 1: She's pissed. And Nigel arrives. Nope. Nope. niles see we're
• 1:18:18
  Speaker 1: gonna we're gonna yep niles niles arrives to pick up
• 1:18:23
  Speaker 1: matilda they're doing squishy face squishy hugging and he says
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 1: i want to tell her the truth but i'm not
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 1: sure how she'll react and we see her saying like
• 1:18:34
  Speaker 1: i feel deep shame but i don't think he's told
• 1:18:36
  Speaker 1: her yet i think she's just like my family will
• 1:18:38
  Speaker 1: say they feel deep shame if you haven't brought the
• 1:18:42
  Speaker 1: visa or a car or a ring for me so
• 1:18:45
  Speaker 1: a car um ali's friend is at the table i
• 1:18:50
  Speaker 1: think this is the same friend that was in the
• 1:18:52
  Speaker 1: class with her the lamaze class and says um maybe
• 1:18:56
  Speaker 1: ali is better off without you and he gets up
• 1:18:59
  Speaker 1: and storms off and tells production i'm again jesus fucking
• 1:19:03
  Speaker 1: christ like he's just lots of cursing and he says
• 1:19:05
  Speaker 1: i might not even stay here i might not even
• 1:19:06
  Speaker 1: stay here well you fucking better because you got a
• 1:19:09
  Speaker 1: kid on the way.
• 1:19:12
  Speaker 2: This guy is walking red flags i don't and he
• 1:19:15
  Speaker 2: seems on the on paper to have it all together
• 1:19:19
  Speaker 2: like right right job he works for his family business
• 1:19:22
  Speaker 2: he has two grown children and like but he is
• 1:19:25
  Speaker 2: someone did put a side by side and showed me
• 1:19:28
  Speaker 2: of him with the um green river what's his name
• 1:19:32
  Speaker 2: that killer the green river killer killer he looks like
• 1:19:36
  Speaker 2: serial killer essentially He.
• 1:19:38
  Speaker 1: Looks exactly like somebody else that's been on the show.
• 1:19:40
  Speaker 1: And it's something about like the nose and the glasses.
• 1:19:43
  Speaker 1: And it hasn't come to me, but it will come
• 1:19:46
  Speaker 1: to me. And it could be 12 episodes in, but
• 1:19:48
  Speaker 1: it will come to me. He looks like somebody else
• 1:19:50
  Speaker 1: that has been on the show with the glasses and
• 1:19:52
  Speaker 1: the nose.
• 1:19:53
  Speaker 2: Yeah. It's not Colt.
• 1:19:57
  Speaker 1: Absolutely not.
• 1:19:58
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 1:19:59
  Speaker 1: Mm-mm. So if anybody has a suggestion, let us know.
• 1:20:04
  Speaker 1: You can DM or you can, if you're on the
• 1:20:06
  Speaker 1: paid feed, you can write in the comments. Everybody, thank
• 1:20:09
  Speaker 1: you so much. And if you did come to LibreFest,
• 1:20:12
  Speaker 1: if you were able to come, we had the best time.
• 1:20:14
  Speaker 1: We had so much fun. So thanks to Kimberly and
• 1:20:17
  Speaker 1: Keisha and Amy and Amanda and Becca and Kristen, our
• 1:20:21
  Speaker 1: social media gal was there. We had a blast. We
• 1:20:24
  Speaker 1: had so much fun. It was great.
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 2: We should do it.
• 1:20:26
  Speaker 1: We should do it again. I say we do it again.
• 1:20:28
  Speaker 1: In LA next year at yet another Hard Rock Cafe. Okay.
• 1:20:33
  Speaker 1: Because they're so easy to work with. Yeah. Yeah. Let's
• 1:20:36
  Speaker 1: do it. Really great. Okay. Let's think of LA. We're
• 1:20:39
  Speaker 1: coming for you next.
• 1:20:40
  Speaker 2: I love those travel plans for me. That's right.
• 1:20:43
  Speaker 1: You're so close. You just hop in your Prius and
• 1:20:47
  Speaker 1: go right over to LA.
• 1:20:49
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 1:20:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah. And that's it, everybody. We will see. I have
• 1:20:54
  Speaker 1: on Thursday this week, I have Melissa Reich, your BISH therapist,
• 1:20:58
  Speaker 1: on to talk about Bravo. And then after that, we're
• 1:21:02
  Speaker 1: still going to be doing Papa Bravo, but it's going
• 1:21:03
  Speaker 1: to be some sort of special episodes and things because
• 1:21:06
  Speaker 1: I will, in a week and a half, be going
• 1:21:09
  Speaker 1: to Italy to go to Vittoria's countryside home. I'll be
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 1: letting you know.
• 1:21:15
  Speaker 2: Tennis lessons.
• 1:21:16
  Speaker 1: Tennis lessons. Tennis lessons. Just go to the– oh, my God.
• 1:21:20
  Speaker 1: What if I go to Hermes and he's there?
• 1:21:22
  Speaker 2: I know.
• 1:21:23
  Speaker 1: Oh, my gosh. Now I'm so excited. Okay. And that's it, everybody.
• 1:21:28
  Speaker 1: And make sure you're following us on social media. That
• 1:21:30
  Speaker 1: is Pink Shade Pod and Date Dateline. TikTok, same. And
• 1:21:36
  Speaker 1: also YouTube is Pink Shade Bunkies and A Date with
• 1:21:41
  Speaker 1: Kay and Kay. And they're also covering A Date with
• 1:21:44
  Speaker 1: the Bake, the British Bake Off, Great British Baking Show.
• 1:21:47
  Speaker 2: What's it called? Yes. A great saint.
• 1:21:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah. That show.
• 1:21:52
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 1:21:53
  Speaker 1: And Dateline will be new this week. And Kimberly's back.
• 1:21:56
  Speaker 1: Back with Katie. Back in the saddle again.
• 1:21:59
  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 1:22:00
  Speaker 1: I haven't watched it yet. I haven't watched it yet,
• 1:22:03
  Speaker 1: but I will.
• 1:22:04
  Speaker 2: I have to record right after this.
• 1:22:06
  Speaker 1: No!
• 1:22:06
  Speaker 2: Because my eyes are drooping.
• 1:22:09
  Speaker 1: Oh, no, girl. You run over to Starbucks. And I'll
• 1:22:13
  Speaker 1: see you guys later this week. And Kimberly and I
• 1:22:14
  Speaker 1: will see you this weekend with our 90-day Hunt for
• 1:22:18
  Speaker 1: Love terrible show recap. Okay, bye.