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Ask me Anything! · Armstrong & Getty One More Thing

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  Speaker 1: I choose the topic, then it's ask me anything, one
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  Speaker 1: more thing. I'm one more thing. I was trying to
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  Speaker 1: decide how to present this information. I'm hesitant to do it.
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  Speaker 1: I have a feeling I'm gonna wish I hadn't. Uh.
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  Speaker 2: Oh boy.
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  Speaker 1: I've always been quite willing to share lots about my
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  Speaker 1: personal life on the air, for better or worse. I
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  Speaker 1: have trouble not talking about things more than the other
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  Speaker 1: way around. I get that, but I will. I will
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  Speaker 1: share this all. Just I'm gonna lay out the topic
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  Speaker 1: and then I think ask me anything would be the
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  Speaker 1: best way to approach it. You guys can just interview
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  Speaker 1: me on the.
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  Speaker 2: Topic, Okay, right, which does not it's not called I
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  Speaker 2: will answer anything.
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  Speaker 1: No, that's plenty out. Yeah, yeah, fair enough. Two months
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  Speaker 1: ago I entered the war. I'm embarrassed about this, by
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  Speaker 1: the way. Oh boy, I'm embarrassed of this. I feel
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  Speaker 1: bad about myself, but it's true. Anyway. Two months ago,
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  Speaker 1: I entered the world of online dating.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, okay, by that I embarrassed by that, Yes I am,
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  Speaker 2: because I had been saying for many, many years, we're
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  Speaker 2: older than you, Katie.
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  Speaker 1: You have grown up in a world where this is common.
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  Speaker 1: I used to we used to regularly say on the air,
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  Speaker 1: it's r O D at reeks of desperation, people who
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  Speaker 1: are online dating times of change, times of change. Then
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  Speaker 1: the numbers become the numbers have become overwhelming, and it's
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  Speaker 1: just practically what everybody does. And uh, and I had,
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  Speaker 1: as a single guy, realized, at some point, I go
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  Speaker 1: to work, and then I go straight home and take
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  Speaker 1: care of kids, and then I get up and go
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  Speaker 1: to work again. And unless I end up in a
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  Speaker 1: car crash with somebody roughly my age, it's also single
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  Speaker 1: and I didn't cause the car, so they're not angry
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  Speaker 1: at me. It's hard to imagine how I'm going to
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  Speaker 1: run into anybody. I got chocolate in my peanut butter. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it almost has to be one of those.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, to do very slow fender benders, like five miles
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  Speaker 3: an hour, just enough so none of the cars are damage.
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  Speaker 4: To you just have to start seeing cute girls and
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  Speaker 4: crashing into us.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, we probably ought to see if there's a little damage.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so sorry. I'm a man who's willing to say
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  Speaker 2: he's sorry when he's wrong. Hi, my name's Jack.
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  Speaker 1: That's not a bad idea, I buy like a two
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  Speaker 1: thousand and eight Corolla. No, I don't care if it
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  Speaker 1: gets a few dents later a minute major dents, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: grocery store sort of. Just oh dang, I wasn't looking,
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  Speaker 1: but you're driving.
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  Speaker 2: A seventeen year old Corona.
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  Speaker 1: That would make me less appealing, wouldn't it is. I'm
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  Speaker 1: still surprised that so many young people are doing online dating,
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  Speaker 1: because I would think you'd still have the social structure.
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  Speaker 1: You're going out a lot, and you know, with lots
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  Speaker 1: of other people who singing, so you can still run
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  Speaker 1: into people the normal Wait, no, no, they.
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  Speaker 5: Lack the social skills.
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  Speaker 4: I know so many young twenty somethings that are on
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  Speaker 4: like five different apps.
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  Speaker 5: It's amazing to me.
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  Speaker 2: Well, I haven't done whether just a hookup or they
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  Speaker 2: just they don't have the social skills to try to
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  Speaker 2: get acquainted with somebody they don't know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm on one app. Bumble. I chose that after
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  Speaker 1: a little bit of research. They're almost all all except
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  Speaker 1: for two, are owned by the same company. Now match
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  Speaker 1: dot Com went up out and bought all of the
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  Speaker 1: names you've heard of of online dating, and they're all
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  Speaker 1: owned by one company. Now, and there is a great
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  Speaker 1: belief among people that have been doing it for years.
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  Speaker 1: I've been doing it for eight weeks, but for people
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  Speaker 1: who have been doing it for years that it's much
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  Speaker 1: worse than it used to be. That the algorithms are
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  Speaker 1: designed to keep you on there because you pay a
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  Speaker 1: whatever it is, sixty dollars a month, and then you
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  Speaker 1: pay per like liking somebody or whatever you buy likes. Anyway,
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  Speaker 1: it's a great revenue stream, and there'd be great incentive
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  Speaker 1: for the company to try to keep that going rather
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  Speaker 1: than hey, we found it are we know who you
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  Speaker 1: would like and they knew, we put you together, and
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  Speaker 1: then you leave the app and we never make another
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  Speaker 1: set from you, or we can dribble along people that
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  Speaker 1: kind of might be interesting to you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. Please that the incentive structure.
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  Speaker 1: Is pretty easy to rit. Yes it is, Yes, for
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  Speaker 1: what it's worth.
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  Speaker 2: On the recent season of Only Murders in the Building,
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  Speaker 2: the Steve Martin character is on various dating apps for
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  Speaker 2: older folks, and I can't remember all the names of them,
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  Speaker 2: but one of them is last gasp dot com.
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  Speaker 1: That's funny. So anybody get any questions about this, I
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  Speaker 1: am you. How's it going, Okay, how's it going.
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  Speaker 2: So, do you have a very broad a detailed profile
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  Speaker 2: up there?
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  Speaker 1: I do have a detailed profile. I am doing incognito mode.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if it's necessary or not. I remember
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  Speaker 1: one of the things that sparked in my head, the
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  Speaker 1: idea that maybe somebody I would be doing this when
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  Speaker 1: I was single is I heard Chris Rock talking about it.
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  Speaker 1: He said people were amazing to find me on I
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  Speaker 1: forget what he was on, hinge ormatch dot com or
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  Speaker 1: something like that, and he said with my name. He said,
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  Speaker 1: I'm on there with my name because that's my name.
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  Speaker 1: I'm single and I'm looking for someone to date and
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  Speaker 1: that's my name. So that's kind of what I did.
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  Speaker 1: But I have I do have a profile on there.
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing incognito mode, which is you're not out in
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  Speaker 1: the world for everybody to see you. I didn't want
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  Speaker 1: to do that.
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  Speaker 5: It's like only your matches can see you.
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  Speaker 1: Only people I see and then like yeah, I think
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  Speaker 1: I'm interested, and then they get back. It's been both
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  Speaker 1: good and bad that so few people are aware of
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  Speaker 1: the Armstrong and Getty Show in general. I mean, I've
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  Speaker 1: had a handful of I know who you are and
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  Speaker 1: are all excited about that, But an awful lot of
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  Speaker 1: and mostly the reason that the majority of the reason
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  Speaker 1: people don't know because at some point, very quickly, you
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  Speaker 1: get into what do you do for a living? I
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  Speaker 1: mean that's a very common early question, right.
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  Speaker 3: Hum.
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  Speaker 1: It's people who just don't follow the news at all,
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  Speaker 1: that is most of it. They wouldn't. It's not that
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  Speaker 1: they like a different radio show, they don't listen to
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  Speaker 1: talk radio, they don't follow news, they don't fall politics.
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  Speaker 1: I've chatted with so many people that are completely checked
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  Speaker 1: out of that world, and I think, wow, that's interesting
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  Speaker 1: and refreshing in many ways.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. I listened to Q one O three soft hits
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  Speaker 2: of today and yesterday, Right, that sort of person.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, And there are a ton of people, as we've
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  Speaker 1: talked about on the air, who have absolutely no MAGA
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  Speaker 1: or if you voted for Trump, swipe which is it
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  Speaker 1: right or left? I should figure that out.
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  Speaker 2: This is you can keep ending up with truck drivers.
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  Speaker 4: Does your profile have anything about your political leaning on it?
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  Speaker 1: I have myself as a moderate, which is true and
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  Speaker 1: certainly in terms of my ability to be in a
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  Speaker 1: relationship with somebody I am unless you're unless you're like
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  Speaker 1: adamant about certain things and won't even and have to
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  Speaker 1: talk about it all the time. I don't really care
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  Speaker 1: that much about your politics.
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  Speaker 2: Well, right, it's funny because I would be a a
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  Speaker 2: what do you call it to if we don't go
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  Speaker 2: to war like Muhammad Ali, a conscientious objector to the
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  Speaker 2: very question. I am a moderate in terms of getting
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  Speaker 2: together with a woman I hit it off with, and
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  Speaker 2: we care about each other. I couldn't give a crap.
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  Speaker 2: Let's run our lives and if we differ on this
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  Speaker 2: other stuff, let's just not talk about it. And most
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  Speaker 2: well I should in real life. Of course, I'm a
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  Speaker 2: proud fascist, but.
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  Speaker 1: Around I know a lot of people that seem to
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  Speaker 1: have that attitude. Although there was one woman like the
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  Speaker 1: best connection in terms of chatting that I had early on.
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  Speaker 1: We're going back and forth and like the same books
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  Speaker 1: and have been to the same museums and all this
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  Speaker 1: different starts stopping all that, and we even got far
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  Speaker 1: as far as to like facetiming each other and having
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  Speaker 1: real conversations in real life and everything like that. Wow,
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  Speaker 1: this is over a couple of weeks. And then I
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  Speaker 1: was going to drive to Meeter, we're gonna eat for coffee.
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  Speaker 1: So this had had made it pretty far by these standards,
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  Speaker 1: and she said, you know, I can't believe I haven't
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  Speaker 1: even asked this yet. I should ask what your political
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  Speaker 1: leanings are. And I thought, okay, oh boy, and I
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  Speaker 1: said I'm a moderate lean right, And her response is, oh,
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  Speaker 1: that's way too far from where I am. This is
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  Speaker 1: never gonna work. Well. I enjoyed talking to you, too bad.
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  Speaker 1: I mean it was that quickly over after weeks of discussing,
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  Speaker 1: face timing, talking about our kids, I mean, just like
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  Speaker 1: really got to know each other a lot. She finds
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  Speaker 1: out I'm moderate leaning right, that's way too far from
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  Speaker 1: where I am. Now you Matrix dodged that bullet, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: which which makes her a nut job. But how how
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  Speaker 1: nuts is that?
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  Speaker 2: She will never hear this? But you have maneuvered yourself
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  Speaker 2: and your own mind into a terribly sad position.
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  Speaker 1: My dear, no feeling for you.
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  Speaker 2: I pity you, no kidding. Yeah, a lot of people have.
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  Speaker 1: And and how would you not get past the fact
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  Speaker 1: that we've been talking for weeks about raising kids and
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  Speaker 1: jobs and things we like to do, things that really matter,
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  Speaker 1: things that really matter. In your life, and they all
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  Speaker 1: clicked really really well. But on voting day once a year,
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  Speaker 1: the fact that we disagree, we couldn't possibly even sit
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  Speaker 1: down for cast. She wasn't even willing to have coffee
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  Speaker 1: with me once she found out. I leaned right.
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  Speaker 2: And to put a finer point on it, you've gone
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  Speaker 2: through all of the steps you go through to make
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  Speaker 2: sure somebody's not abhorrent. Right, You've decided this person is
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  Speaker 2: not abhorrent. Then it turns out they disagree with you
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  Speaker 2: somewhat on politics, and you decide, yes, they're abhorrent. You
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  Speaker 2: have put politics far too high in your list of
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  Speaker 2: you know, how you define people.
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  Speaker 1: That one blew my mind.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think about politics in the greater sense
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  Speaker 2: principle and ideas and that sort of thing more than
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  Speaker 2: is healthy. And I think that's insane, where I am
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  Speaker 2: just the opposite. If she had said she's a progressive,
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  Speaker 2: which is, you know, an indication of pretty far left.
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  Speaker 2: Having had the conversations we had, I would have thought, well,
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  Speaker 2: that's fine. I mean, given everything we've just talked about
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  Speaker 2: with raising kids and how we feel about marriage and
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  Speaker 2: life and jobs and blah blah blah, that's because you're saying, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: I thought that was damned interesting. All right, So I
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  Speaker 2: ask you anything you have perhaps in the past run
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  Speaker 2: into similar dynamics politically speak like a left lefty.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I did have a girlfriend who was a left
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  Speaker 1: lefty for a while.
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  Speaker 2: Can you get past that these days? Even with your ID?
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  Speaker 1: Actually, this person was this particular person who was very
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  Speaker 1: very nice, but also very adamant about the positions and
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  Speaker 1: talked about it all the time. It was a person
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  Speaker 1: who lived their politics. I mean just it was. It
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  Speaker 1: was all day, every day, and that that was never
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  Speaker 1: gonna work.
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  Speaker 5: I don't this woman, the cop didn't wouldn't go to
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  Speaker 5: coffee with you?
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  Speaker 1: Women are no a girlfriend? Oh okay, okay, very good
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  Speaker 1: relationship other than other than that.
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  Speaker 3: Jack, what kind of photos are you putting up? If
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  Speaker 3: you don't mind me asking.
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  Speaker 1: I'm glad this came up. I was gonna get to
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  Speaker 1: this at some point. Yeah, I cause I got friends
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  Speaker 1: I've talked to about this. Well, I've already had three
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  Speaker 1: experiences where I met somebody at coffee shop. So we've
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  Speaker 1: gotten through the chatting and stuff. You chat on the thing,
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  Speaker 1: and then the next move usually is do you want
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  Speaker 1: to take this to our phones to text because it's easier,
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  Speaker 1: and if you're comfortable enough, you do that. And then
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  Speaker 1: and then sometimes FaceTime or not, or some people like
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  Speaker 1: want to meet for coffee right away, blah blah blah.
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  Speaker 1: I have met three people, so we've gone through the
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  Speaker 1: preliminaries enough that I'm interested enough. They're interested enough three
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  Speaker 1: people that if they hadn't told me who they were,
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  Speaker 1: I wouldn't have known it was them based on the
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  Speaker 1: pictures they submitted that far off of their photos. Damn,
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  Speaker 1: what filters? The fuck is that?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: That's bad.
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  Speaker 1: What the hell is that?
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  Speaker 2: You gotta get them in the showroom to make this sale.
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  Speaker 2: So if it takes a little trigger get you into
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  Speaker 2: the showroom.
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  Speaker 1: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 5: Did you FaceTime with any of them before you.
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  Speaker 1: Met up one of them? I had, And I thought,
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  Speaker 1: what kind of weird video filter did you have? That
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  Speaker 1: slimmed you by sixty five pounds?
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  Speaker 5: The filters are getting so good.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's the thing. It's not just it's not
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  Speaker 1: just like the free filter you use on your phone
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  Speaker 1: or to do whatever. No, these things are fairly sophisticated,
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  Speaker 1: I guess, And.
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  Speaker 4: They're being advertised on all social media platforms too, Like
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  Speaker 4: if you go on Instagram and you're scrolling, there will
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  Speaker 4: be an ad that'll say, oh, you can make your
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  Speaker 4: photos look better here, and it's like a matter of seconds.
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  Speaker 1: See Joe's thing? Will you get him in the door
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  Speaker 1: to make the sale? That makes sense to me, Like
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  Speaker 1: if you're putting your picture up as a real estate agent,
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  Speaker 1: you want to look caught to get more people.
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  Speaker 2: To call you to sell real estate agents. I don't
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  Speaker 2: give a crap with you.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even like.
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  Speaker 2: We're not having sex. I don't think you're just gonna
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  Speaker 2: handle a paperwork of a transaction. What do you gotta
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  Speaker 2: be hot?
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  Speaker 1: But if that gets you a call and then you
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  Speaker 1: sell them the house, fine, But if you're dating, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: what you look like is a relatively commonly you know,
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  Speaker 1: a high level bar of something. But to me, it's
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  Speaker 1: more like you just committed fraud at a very high level.
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  Speaker 1: What else are you willing to lie about?
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  Speaker 2: Well?
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  Speaker 5: And I think about that, I mean, I mean, and.
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  Speaker 1: I can easily check. How about the ones I can't check,
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  Speaker 1: Like whether or not you got a murder in your background,
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  Speaker 1: or you know, robbed your last husband, or abuse your
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  Speaker 1: kids or whatever. The hell, I'm sorry, did.
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  Speaker 2: You say a murder? Just one? No, anyway, kitty, you
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  Speaker 2: were trying to say something.
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  Speaker 4: Well, no, I just think about, like, how are those
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  Speaker 4: people not mortified or embarrassed?
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  Speaker 5: Like I look nothing.
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  Speaker 1: They're not pictures, they're not And so I've had this
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  Speaker 1: conversation with a whole bunch of people, like a bunch
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  Speaker 1: of people, probably twenty people at this point who've had
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  Speaker 1: the same experience, and all of us but one have
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  Speaker 1: kept our mouth shut just out of a not wanting
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  Speaker 1: to get into confrontation or whatever. You just kind of
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  Speaker 1: keep the coffee meat short and say, hey, you know,
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  Speaker 1: talk to you later, and then you just don't.
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  Speaker 2: That's such a waste of time there for the old
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  Speaker 2: ghost Aerini's off the back door.
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  Speaker 1: Obviously, you'd be on very solid ground to say, look,
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  Speaker 1: you and I both know you don't look anything like you.
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  Speaker 1: I guess because it's so hurtful.
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  Speaker 5: Oh, I could so see you doing that. Hey, so
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  Speaker 5: listen before we get started. You look nothing like your photo.
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  Speaker 1: Right. One woman told me that she held her phone
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  Speaker 1: up and said to this dude, who is like a
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  Speaker 1: foot shorter than he claimed, I'm looking for this guy
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  Speaker 1: have you seen him held the photo that he had sent,
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  Speaker 1: which is a pretty good line. Yeah, yeah, I'm supposed to.
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  Speaker 1: I was at this coffee shop. I'm supposed to meet
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  Speaker 1: this person here. Do you know them?
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  Speaker 5: I love that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it is.
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  Speaker 1: I guess it's out of sadness. It's like a you're
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  Speaker 1: so uncomfortable with the you look, you feel like you
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  Speaker 1: need to alter your image. I mean, I'm not talking
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  Speaker 1: about minor tweaks, like you're you look like a completely
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  Speaker 1: different person. One of them was just age. You're sixty
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  Speaker 1: and your pictures you're forty. I mean, you just lied
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  Speaker 1: by twenty years of what you look like. You know
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  Speaker 1: that it's his own thing. But then some of the
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  Speaker 1: slimming stuff, I don't know how that works.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, there's a lot of apps that you can do
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  Speaker 4: that type of stuff with and it's uncomfortable.
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  Speaker 1: And it's pretty good, but again good. So you think
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  Speaker 1: you're gonna show up looking completely different? Okay, Joe's on
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  Speaker 1: his camera and now has changed himself into a pig,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm supposed to just not mention. I'm just supposed
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  Speaker 1: to notice that you're a pig. You're baby route.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, just keep quiet.
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  Speaker 1: I should just keep that to myself and say I
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  Speaker 1: enjoyed talking to you about politics. That callowing me a pig.
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  Speaker 2: You're calling me a pig, I could use it to
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  Speaker 2: lose a couple of pounce. Calling me a pig.
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  Speaker 1: Is just hurtful, I don't know, but not cool man.
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  Speaker 1: So the big is shaking its head just in case
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  Speaker 1: anybody is thinking about doing this. This is what I've
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  Speaker 1: learned and talking to lots of people. For women, it's
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: uh weight mostly. For men, it's height and age men,
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: it's height and age. For women, it's weight mostly, I
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: guess is the way the way you do it, you
• 16:25
  Speaker 1: shade your things, so you know, I don't even know
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: what to think about that. I don't know what to
• 16:32
  Speaker 1: do about that. It's very discouraging, though you could very
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: quickly get to a point of because it's it's like,
• 16:38
  Speaker 1: as many people point out, it's like having a part
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: time job. It's so time consuming. It's so freaking time
• 16:43
  Speaker 1: consuming because you get you know, you get whatever, two
• 16:47
  Speaker 1: to five people a day they have to start a
• 16:50
  Speaker 1: conversation with, and then women usually do a background check,
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: so if you get further enough along, you find out
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: the real name, and then you do a background check
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: to make sure they're not a sterial killer. It's and
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: it's a lot of work, and then you a lot
• 17:00
  Speaker 1: of work. And then if you're a busy ish person
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: I'm a full time single dad with a kid, carving
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: out time to go do anything is very, very difficult.
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: I'm tending to match with people in similar situations, and
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: you carve out the time to meet somebody you know,
• 17:14
  Speaker 1: you know completely lied about who you are, So thanks
• 17:17
  Speaker 1: for wasting hours and hours and hours of time. And
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: it's it's pretty discouraging it. I realize it works for people,
• 17:26
  Speaker 1: but not.
• 17:27
  Speaker 5: As well as he used to.
• 17:28
  Speaker 1: Everybody that's been on for a while says it's way
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: worse than it used to be. Whatever they did to
• 17:32
  Speaker 1: the algorithms when match dot Com bought all the different companies,
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: it's just, you know, like Joe said, all of the
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: incentives are against what they claim they're trying to do.
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: This is why people are going to chatbots, have a
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: conversations with chatbots, right and and the classic mail order bride.
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: And then sign nice gal from a different culture is
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: looking for a new start in America.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: There you go, Jack, I did. I did one of
• 17:58
  Speaker 1: those for a long time. The woman that was clearly phony.
• 18:01
  Speaker 1: I mean her pictures were way too not just that
• 18:04
  Speaker 1: she was attractive, but they were professional model shots, obviously,
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: and she lived in Miami and was interested in me
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: and everything like okay. So I played that along for
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: a while, just trying to figure out what the scam was.
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: But man, it went long way. I talked to her
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: on the phone, and she was from a foreign land,
• 18:21
  Speaker 1: and she kept going. She kept sending me videos though,
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: and I think I was supposed to click on them
• 18:25
  Speaker 1: and then end up installing malware on my computer. I
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: never clicked on any of these.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: They're probably just torn dog videos.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: I don't clearly it was a scam. Clearly it was
• 18:35
  Speaker 1: a scam. But to your picture, and then I'll shut
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: up about it, Michael, What my pictures like? What those
• 18:42
  Speaker 1: of us who are sane are doing. We want to
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: look exactly like our photos. The last thing in the
• 18:48
  Speaker 1: world I would want to do is to walk into
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: a coffee shop and have somebody go ooh, geez, no thanks, you.
• 18:55
  Speaker 5: Should post on with your mustache.
• 18:57
  Speaker 1: No, if you're not interested in what I really look like,
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: I'm showing the mustache.
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I hear you talking. That's oh, why why
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: set yourself up for that sort of you know, embarrassment.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: I'm gonna try filters. I'm gonna try makeup.
• 19:14
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna wear makeup, and it's point just a waste
• 19:16
  Speaker 1: of time. Yeap, that did smooth you out. That's the filter.
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: That's the filters colors, not as a number of profiles,
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: as hope, number of profiles like mine, say, zero filter.
• 19:30
  Speaker 1: I am actually this age. All these pictures are in
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: the last year. That's what a lot of profiles. Of course,
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: some of them are a lie. They have that smoothed
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: out filter that just smooths out your skin way too much.
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: You've probably seen those, Katie. It's very those are cheap filters. Blur.
• 19:44
  Speaker 1: It's yeah, it just blurs out your face so much.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: And that's immediately a path. Why you burn out your
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: face so much? I don't know. It's weird.
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: God, the one I just used it makes me really
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: look like a weak effort at being transgender.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: Oh.
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: One other thing that I'll mention the nice Katie's got
• 19:59
  Speaker 2: a pandaff handle rain on a cloud above her head,
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: tossing down red hearts.
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: Jack, I think you need action shots.
• 20:07
  Speaker 3: One of you writing one of you, like pointing one
• 20:10
  Speaker 3: of you.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: Like Tom Cruise. Yeah, taking my jacket off like a girl. Yeah.
• 20:16
  Speaker 1: The other thing. I'll talk about this another time because
• 20:19
  Speaker 1: this is going pretty long. But you have to get
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: used to the ghosting. It's just the culture is weird.
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: The culture is where you'll be talking with somebody over
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: several days, seems like it's going well, and then people
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: just stop responding. And like the first time I wanted
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: to stop responding somebody, I sent him a text and said, hey,
• 20:36
  Speaker 1: I already had somebody else that got to me first,
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: So we're gonna go out for coffee. If that doesn't
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: work out, I'll get back to it. And they said,
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: you realize nobody does this right. Lets you know that
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: they met somebody else and they'll get back to you.
• 20:49
  Speaker 1: That's not the way this works. That's what they actually
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: told me.
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: Actually kind of criticized you for being polite.
• 20:56
  Speaker 1: You don't handle it like normal society. And I have sense,
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: you know, when in Rome joined in, it's just like
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: you go along and with the endless possibilities, you decide
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: another one and you just ghost the five people you've
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: been having conversations. Oh, it's horrible.
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: It's terrible.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: It's demoralizing, but that's what everybody does, and it's not
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: good for society. I guarantee you this is making society
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: worse and more jaded and will lead to fewer long
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: lasting relationships.
• 21:22
  Speaker 2: That's unplug the internet. Yeah, on, Katie, you're not a blowfish.
• 21:28
  Speaker 5: Feel like Alish identify.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: Exactly you identify as a blowfish. But you're uninflated.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: You I don't know how to I don't know how
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: to blow up. So as soon as soon as we
• 21:39
  Speaker 1: get off the air, I will take my six foot
• 21:41
  Speaker 1: eight frame with long mane of blonde hair back to
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: Bubble and see how I do.
• 21:45
  Speaker 3: Wish you well, okay, Jack, here's what you do. You
• 21:49
  Speaker 3: go on dates with a fake beard. You get to
• 21:51
  Speaker 3: the dinner table. If she looks like her picture, you
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: rip the beard off and you go on the date. Otherwise,
• 21:56
  Speaker 3: you just walk past her and go out the door.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: With a fake beard on it perfect goldberry.
• 22:01
  Speaker 5: Well, I guess that's it.