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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: Focus On The 90%, OK? · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Hey, Hello, Hi Emily.
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  Speaker 2: Here.
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  Speaker 1: Happy five minute Friday. I hope everyone had a good week.
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  Speaker 2: I myself took a second to see some family and
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  Speaker 2: get out of the city earlier this week. They live
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  Speaker 2: out on eastern Long Island, and so spent some time
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  Speaker 2: with Grandma, who is crushing life at ninety five.
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  Speaker 1: I spear she has a better memory than me.
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  Speaker 2: Got to hang out with my cousin and his wife
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  Speaker 2: and there four and a half year old and just
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  Speaker 2: take some space.
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  Speaker 1: Which felt really good.
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  Speaker 2: I have a confession, however, it made me feel a
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  Speaker 2: little bit anxious that I didn't have a movement plan
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  Speaker 2: for Wednesday morning.
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  Speaker 1: It's one day, it's not a big deal.
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  Speaker 2: But I have been so diligent in not only training
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  Speaker 2: for the Chicago Marathon, which I'm running in October, but
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  Speaker 2: also with my strength work over gosh, you know, as
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  Speaker 2: long as I can remember now for the better part
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  Speaker 2: at least of the last year. And yes, I take
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  Speaker 2: days off. I'm not saying don't take days off. But
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  Speaker 2: I was supposed to do two different things on Wednesday,
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  Speaker 2: and I didn't do them. And I'm here to tell
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  Speaker 2: you that it was fine.
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  Speaker 1: It was fine.
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  Speaker 2: I am sure in this highlight reel that is life.
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  Speaker 2: You are keeping up with so many people on the
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  Speaker 2: internet who it's like I must do this, and I'm
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  Speaker 2: so hard and hustle culture and like I move my
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  Speaker 2: body because it's me putting my oxygen mask on. I
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  Speaker 2: move my body regularly because it makes me feel good
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  Speaker 2: in my body.
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  Speaker 1: And so, despite feeling a little bit anxious on Wednesday,
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  Speaker 1: what I decided to do was reframe this. What if
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  Speaker 1: I think about this as a beautiful moment to reset
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  Speaker 1: my nervous system in different way. What if I simply
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  Speaker 1: find the good all around me instead of worrying about
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  Speaker 1: the things that I am without enjoying my hot cup
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  Speaker 1: of coffee in this beautiful space with all of this
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  Speaker 1: nature around me, watching the Billie Joel documentary, and then
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  Speaker 1: ultimately yes, getting in a nice calm walk along the water.
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  Speaker 1: It was perfect.
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  Speaker 2: It wasn't what was on the plan, let's say, like
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  Speaker 2: the training plan, but it was perfect. And sometimes I
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  Speaker 2: know I need to say this to myself. I've just
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  Speaker 2: got to be a little bit softer And me and
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  Speaker 2: Shana Stevenson on this week's episode.
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  Speaker 1: She's the chief brand officer for the New York Liberty.
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  Speaker 2: We talk about this about romanticizing your life, and there
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  Speaker 2: are going to be days where there are things out
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  Speaker 2: of your control. There are going to be days where
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  Speaker 2: you're out of your element. And so on those days,
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  Speaker 2: I remind myself, and I'm here to share with you
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  Speaker 2: that it's okay. We are the sum of the better
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  Speaker 2: part of our actions. And what I mean by that
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  Speaker 2: is one off day, it doesn't determine who it is
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  Speaker 2: that you are, who it is that you will become.
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  Speaker 2: What are you doing ninety five percent of the time.
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  Speaker 2: So maybe right now you're in a season where you
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  Speaker 2: too need to be a little softer with yourself. Maybe
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  Speaker 2: right now you are confronting that voice that is telling
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  Speaker 2: you that you should be doing X or y. Instead
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  Speaker 2: of caving to that voice, I beckon you to ask
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  Speaker 2: yourself what feels good for me today. I feel a
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  Speaker 2: little silly telling you all this story. I know that
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  Speaker 2: you know there's a lot more serious things going on
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  Speaker 2: in the world, but it's on my mind, and so
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  Speaker 2: I share it with you. My promt for you this week,
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  Speaker 2: what is your gut telling you that you need right now?
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  Speaker 2: What is your gut telling you that you need right now?
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  Speaker 2: Before I get into this week's listener question. I'm putting
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  Speaker 2: out a mass call. If you have never submitted one
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  Speaker 2: before and you love five Minute Friday. You're listening to
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  Speaker 2: this or shaking your head, I know it's you. I
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  Speaker 2: want your question in my inbox. Email hello at Hurdle
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  Speaker 2: dot us with a question that can be featured next
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  Speaker 2: week on the show. And now this week's listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hey Emily, my name's Tammy. I'm a long time listener
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  Speaker 2: of the show. I'm super interested about working for myself,
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  Speaker 2: and although I think that I could be really good
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  Speaker 2: at it, I'm actually really concerned about feeling really alone.
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  Speaker 2: How do you stave off loneliness when you're working alone?
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  Speaker 2: Does it ever get tiring? With love your input? Thanks
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  Speaker 2: so much, Tammy. Oh, this is a good one. It
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  Speaker 2: gets lonely, for sure. I think what I love about
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  Speaker 2: the last few years is that I have really dove
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  Speaker 2: headfirst into events, and all of those events are a better.
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  Speaker 2: Part of those events include collaborating with different individuals and
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  Speaker 2: different companies, and I get really excited about that opportunity
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  Speaker 2: for collaboration. So while I yes am often building alone
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  Speaker 2: and thinking alone and spending time on my own, I
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  Speaker 2: look forward to the opportunity of how can I create
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  Speaker 2: something that enables and empowers me to collaborate with others
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  Speaker 2: bigger than that. Though, when I do feel really lonely,
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  Speaker 2: I make it a point to spend time with people
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  Speaker 2: that I care about and make plans in advance. So
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  Speaker 2: by Tuesday, you ask me what I have on deck
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  Speaker 2: for the weekend, and I have at least one to
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  Speaker 2: two things that I'm looking forward to.
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  Speaker 1: When I think.
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  Speaker 2: About my morning routine, I love to give back to myself.
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  Speaker 2: I love that time for myself, but I'm often linking
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  Speaker 2: up with friends just to spend some quality time before
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  Speaker 2: going into a day of solo work. I am fortunate
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  Speaker 2: that with podcasting I get to talk with a lot
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  Speaker 2: of really great people, but yes, it is predominantly a
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  Speaker 2: solo act over here. I think it's also really important
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  Speaker 2: to reflect on your feelings and be honest about your feelings.
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  Speaker 1: So if I notice that.
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  Speaker 2: I am feeling a bit overwhelmed, usually that's because I'm
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  Speaker 2: not vocalizing how I'm feeling or what I'm dealing with,
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  Speaker 2: and I'm.
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  Speaker 1: Just trying to take it on solo.
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  Speaker 2: A good friend said this to me last year, just
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  Speaker 2: because you're a single member LLC does not mean that
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  Speaker 2: you need to be doing this all by yourself.
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  Speaker 1: And it's so true.
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  Speaker 2: So I would say, get honest with where you're at,
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  Speaker 2: make sure you've got really great people in your corner
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  Speaker 2: that support you and are there to listen, and then
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  Speaker 2: when the opportunities arise, collaborate solo.
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  Speaker 1: Work, doing your own thing.
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  Speaker 2: It's not for everyone, and that's the last thing I'll
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  Speaker 2: say as a part of this answer. It's not there's
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  Speaker 2: nothing wrong if you are the kind of person that
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  Speaker 2: actually thrives with having the structure that comes with working
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  Speaker 2: for another company.
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  Speaker 1: However, if it.
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  Speaker 2: Is for you, it can really open a lot of
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  Speaker 2: doors in terms of flexibility and opportunity. You've just got
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  Speaker 2: to really want it. So that's what I will say.
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  Speaker 2: Make sure you are following along with Hurdle over on
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  Speaker 2: social It's at Hurdle Podcast. I'm over at Emily Abadi
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  Speaker 2: another Hurdle conquered. Don't forget to some of your listener questions.
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  Speaker 2: Talk to you next week.