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Fear & Faith. Same Muscle, Different Outcome. · The Nadia Chapman Show

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  Hey everyone, welcome back to the Nadia Chapman Show. I am back after,
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  oh my gosh, taking four or five weeks without recording.
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  If you follow me on Instagram, you know that I was traveling in Europe for some
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  skating competitions and also visiting family.
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  We were in Holland and in Finland and a day in Estonia for my birthday and to
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  Italy. So it was amazing. And I was so eager to return to recording when I got
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  home, but I was hit with a cold.
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  So the last thing you want to hear is me talking with a stuffed up nose.
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  So here we are now, much better and ready, ready to dive in into so many topics
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  that I've been journaling about when I was away.
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  There's something about that space you create when you're traveling,
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  when you step out of your routine and you're forced to slow down,
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  which is something I have a hard time doing. I have a really hard time slowing down.
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  But when I was in Europe, I was forced to slow down, which was great.
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  And it just gives you time to think. It gives you time to reflect and to notice
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  patterns. So not just in yourself, but also in society and in people around you.
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  And this idea kept coming back to me over and over again.
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  What if the very thing that's been
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  holding you back is actually the same thing
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  that could move you forward and I did a
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  little reel about this a few days ago how fear and fate use the same muscle
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  and it's a topic I love chatting about so this is what we're gonna dive in to
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  today so what does that mean if the very thing that's holding you back is the
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  exact same thing that could move you forward I want you to sit with this for
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  a second because most people spend
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  So much time trying to get rid of fear or trying to silence it and push it away.
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  And without really realizing that fear itself is not the problem.
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  It's just how we're using something incredibly powerful that we already have.
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  Fear and faith use the exact same muscle.
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  They both ask you to believe. And they both ask you to believe in something that doesn't exist yet.
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  That might be the ride or downer for today. And when you really start to understand
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  that, it changes the way you see your thoughts, your reactions,
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  and even the way you show up in your life.
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  Because think about what fear actually does. You know, it pulls you into the
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  future and has you imagining the worst case scenario.
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  It has you imagining everything that can go wrong. It creates scenarios that
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  haven't happened yet, outcomes that are not real, conversations that don't exist and might never exist.
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  And yet your body responds as if they do.
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  Your heart starts racing, your stomach will be in the knot, your mind is going
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  to be spinning, and suddenly, oh, well, you push on the pedal brake.
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  So you hesitate, or you overthink everything, and you're holding yourself back.
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  Not because it's actually happening, but because of something that you're simply believing.
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  And that's the part that's so important to understand right now.
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  Your brain doesn't really know the difference between what is happening in real
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  time and what you repeatedly imagine.
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  All right. Your brain is kind of dumb in a way. So if you spend enough time
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  rehearsing failure again and again, embarrassment and rejection or just things
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  falling apart, your body start preparing for that version of the future.
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  So you start living it before it even happens and it might not even happen.
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  But here's when things get really interesting and honestly, really empowering.
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  Fate works the exact same way. It's also belief in something that you cannot see.
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  It's also using your imagination to project a future.
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  The only difference is what you're choosing to see there.
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  So instead of picturing everything falling apart, you start seeing things working out.
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  You start trusting that even if it's not perfect, you know what?
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  You'll figure it out with time.
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  So you start kind of allowing that space, that space for possibility instead
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  of shutting everything down with doubt.
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  So same mind, same imagination, same ability, just pointed at different directions.
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  All right. So most people never realize that they are already incredibly good
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  at believing. They don't need to learn how to believe more.
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  They just need to become more aware of what they're currently believing in.
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  Here's the kicker. You're already practicing belief every single day.
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  Every time that you assume something will go wrong, well, that's believing in something.
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  Every time you know that you tell yourself that you're not ready or every time
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  that you hesitate because of, oh, you know, what might happen, that's a belief.
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  It's just belief in the direction of fear, but it's a belief.
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  And when you start seeing it that way, something shifts.
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  The fear stops feeling like this thing that you've got to fight constantly and
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  instead becomes something that you can redirect, redirect in the right direction.
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  So it becomes a signal, not a stop sign.
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  And that signal that your imagination is active is very powerful.
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  So the question becomes this, what are you going to do with it?
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  Are you using it to rehearse everything that could fall apart or using it to
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  build trust, trust in how you'll respond when things get hard?
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  Because it might get hard. Because let's be honest for a second.
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  Faith doesn't mean everything is going to go perfectly. That's not what it means.
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  That's not real life. Faith is not about guaranteeing the outcome.
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  It's about knowing that even if something goes wrong, you won't collapse.
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  You won't fall apart. You will adjust.
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  You will keep pushing, you'll learn, and you will keep moving.
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  And that kind of belief creates a completely different energy.
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  When you're operating out of fear, well, you will tend to tighten up.
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  You will wait, you will hesitate, and you'll play small without even realizing it.
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  You hold part of yourself back because you're trying to avoid a future that hasn't happened yet.
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  But when you start operating from fate, you move differently. And that's beautiful.
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  You take action. You take action even when it's uncomfortable.
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  You show up more fully. You allow yourself to be seen, to try to risk a little
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  bit more. And that's when growth actually happens.
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  Not in the absence of fear, but in the presence of something stronger.
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  And I think a lot of people are waiting to feel confident before they act.
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  That's something I've noticed a lot with people in my life and the people I work with.
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  Waiting to feel ready before, you know, they go after what they want.
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  Waiting for some kind of certainty that everything will work out.
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  A lot of people do that, but that's not how it works.
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  Confidence isn't something that arises first and then you take action.
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  It's something that you build through your action, through showing up,
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  through doing the things, even when you're shaking and even when there's still
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  part of it that is really unsure.
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  And that's why this shift is so powerful, because instead of asking, how do I get rid of fear?
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  You start asking, what am I choosing to believe in right now?
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  And you start catching these moments where your mind automatically goes to the
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  worst case scenario And instead of getting pulled into it, you pause for a second,
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  just long enough to create that little space.
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  And in that space, you need to give yourself another option.
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  You don't force positivity. You don't pretend that everything is perfect.
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  You simply open the door to a completely different possibility.
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  What if I actually handle this better than I expect?
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  What if it works? What if this is part of something that's building me, not breaking me?
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  And slowly over time, that becomes the new pattern.
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  Not because you're eliminated the fear, but because you're training your mind
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  not to automatically follow it.
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  There's a big difference. So you've strengthened a different pattern.
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  And the more you practice that, the more familiar it becomes,
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  the more natural, the more automatic it becomes. And the more natural it feels
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  to trust yourself, to move forward, to take action without needing everything
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  to be guaranteed at first.
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  Because at the end of the day, I'm going to tell you, you're already believing
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  in something. So you can't not believe.
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  Your mind is always projecting. It's always imagining things,
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  always trying to make sense of what's ahead.
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  So if that's the case, if you're already using that muscle every single day,
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  why not use it in a way that actually moves you forward? Why not direct it towards
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  something that expands you instead of shrinking you?
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  Because the life that you want, and I know that you want big,
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  beautiful things to happen, the life that you want and the growth that you're
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  chasing, the confidence that you're trying to build, none of that comes from
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  eliminating fear completely. It's always going to be there.
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  It comes from choosing something stronger to focus on.
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  It comes from deciding over and over again that even without certainty,
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  you're still willing to believe in something that hasn't happened yet.
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  And that's not weakness.
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  That's one of the strongest thing that you can do.
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  So the next time that your mind starts running ahead and creating all those
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  scenarios, all the what-ifs, don't shut it down.
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  Just notice it, recognize it for what it is and gently, intentionally choose
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  again because you're already believing in something.
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  So you might as well choose something that moves you forward, right?
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  If this hits you today, if you felt something somewhere in this,
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  I want you to take just a little moment and really ask yourself what you've
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  been believing in lately.
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  So not in a judgmental way. We
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  never do that. We come into coaching with curiosity, not judgment, right?
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  But with awareness also because that awareness is where everything starts to shift.
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  I'm really happy to be back here with you, recording and sharing these moments.
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  After being away and after slowing down, it just reminded me how much I love
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  doing this and connecting with you in this way.
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  If this episode resonates, send it to someone who needs to hear this or save
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  it for yourself for days when your mind starts going in the wrong direction again.
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  And as always, keep showing up, keep doing the work, and keep choosing the version
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  of you that you want to grow into. I'll see you in the next episode.