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Who do you look up to? · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens Hey everybody. Good morning from the chicken
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  coop. So today's question for you, who
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  do you look up to? This is a very serious question
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  because I think that most of us don't necessarily consider and
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  take an inventory of who we actually admire, who we look up
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  to, who we put up on. I don't even want to say, some
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  sort of a pedestal, but may be some sort of a pedestal, where
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  we think that this person is the bomb, yet, we know very little
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  About this person and where this really comes into play is with
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  celebrity. So not saying that you're doing
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  this with celebrity but it really does come into play with
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  celebrity because you don't know, the people, the way you
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  think, you know, the people and having been in an industry for a
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  very long time, working with tons of different speakers and
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  authors and trainers. You, you tend to think because
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  you read their book or you've seen them live or you've, you
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  know, Had some touch points of maybe at a conference with them
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  that you know them. Well, let me ask you this.
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  Do you really even know the people that you have in your own
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  personal life, you know, we always think we're so shocked
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  when we hear on the news that somebody, our neighbor did
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  something will say, oh, everybody always says the same
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  thing. Oh, he was such a nice guy or
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  no, he never showed any signs of anything.
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  Well, that just always comes back to the statement that I
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  made a few seconds ago. And I said, well, do we ever
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  really know? Anybody.
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  And I think it's valid especially when you're in the
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  position of talking about, who do you look up to?
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  Because this is vital, if this is part of your decision making
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  process and you're looking for someone that you look up to in
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  order to ask advice from or get direction from or just get
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  opinions from and you don't even know the person yet you are
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  really trying to get them to help you.
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  So it puts us in a position where we have to stop and pause
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  and we have to ask okay, who are the people that I think I know
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  really well and who are the people that I really want to
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  take advice from who do I want to put on my Advisory Board
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  Napoleon Hill talked about having an Advisory Board met and
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  many great thinkers have. He's not the only one but he had
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  a very unique view of it and he actually would go to think about
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  what somebody who had He passed away, dead people are his
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  Advisory board. If you've ever read the book
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  outwitting, The Devil, then you'll know he talks about this
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  in that book and I mean I don't think it's a bad idea on any
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  stretch of the means because you can basically say this is the
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  person's character. This is the person that I know
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  from the biographies or whatever and project and that is
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  completely possible and you are using the projections from the
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  best of the person. So to speak as opposed to when
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  you are dealing with a Whole person right now, you don't know
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  if they have ulterior motives, you don't know if they have
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  other things going on behind the scenes.
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  So why is this so important to us?
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  Why is it that we need to pay attention to this kind of thing?
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  Because it doesn't seem like it's that big of a deal.
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  You know, if the person gives you advice, you don't have to
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  use it. Well, if they have influence
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  over you, it's a big deal. And if you are constantly
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  looking outside of yourself for answers, then the question you
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  have to come back to is why what Reason that you're always
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  driving back to outside yourself, is it that you have a
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  certain amount of distrust in yourself?
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  Do you have a certain amount of, you know, just feeling ill?
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  He's about things and you just don't have certainty.
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  So you're looking for it. Well, that presents a bigger
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  question itself of, is there a way for you to start to create
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  certainty in your own decisions? Because ultimately, that's what
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  you want to be able to do you want To be able to make
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  decisions for yourself and you want to be able to make
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  decisions that make you feel good and move you towards your
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  directive, towards your goals towards your outcomes.
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  And if you're constantly looking to people who are outside of you
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  for that recognition or that affirmation of, yes, this is a
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  good direction to go. You're probably going to run
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  into a lot of roadblocks because most people will inherently, you
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  can't get around. We'll give you the negatives of
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  things and that's because human beings are hard-wired to find
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  what's wrong. So people aren't doing it to be
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  me. They aren't doing it to be
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  destructive. Albeit some do that and there
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  are ill intent, really, it comes from a fact that we are trying
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  to protect everybody. You know, we always look for
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  what's wrong, so we can protect ourselves.
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  But in this case, you're supposed to be able to support
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  yourself internally, figure out what you need in terms.
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  Turn Ali and do what's best for you.
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  And that always starts from that place, inside deep inside.
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  And figuring out, is this right for me, without anybody else's
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  opinions, influencing you do? I think it's great to go out and
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  get different opinions. Yes.
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  Do I think you should listen to them all?
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  No, I think it's a collective. I think if you trust to someone
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  and you really want to ask them, you have to ask yourself what's
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  the reason I trust this person? I think it is an excellent.
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  Sighs to have in your mind or even on paper.
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  A formulated trusted Advisory board that you go to to ask
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  opinions. I have that in my life and I,
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  it's very small. Let me be very clear about this.
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  This board is very small, and there are only a few people on
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  that board. And I will ask questions of
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  them, because I know that they will give me their true
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  opinions, unfiltered, albeit, sometimes they're hard to hear
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  and I know, Know that I can still make my decision and
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  whatever my decision is they will support me in those
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  decisions but I have them and then it's a question of.
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  Well, what do I want to do myself?
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  So I'm going to give you guys that as a homework assignment.
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  Go off, figure out who do I look up to and actually write down
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  the reasons why you look up to those people and make sure that
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  those people are worthy of being in this position.
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  Being somebody that you should look up to and even if They're
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  not in your personal life. Even if there are people who are
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  out there that are, you know, celebrities you should put that
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  on the piece of paper. If you look up to somebody and
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  say, what's the reason I look up to this person really figure it
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  out because you really don't know a whole person's life
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  behind the scenes and it's important if you're trying to
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  emulate them and you like what they're producing in their life
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  and you want to emulate that in your life, you better know all
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  the aspects of it before you decide to take them on as an
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  advisor in your mind. And really say, oh, this is what
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  I'm trying to do because you don't know the whole scene.
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  So do your research. Make sure it within yourself,
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  you know, who you look up to whether it's in your personal
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  life, or celebrity life, professional whatever, it might
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  be. Make sure you really do the
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  research and choose and finitely pick those attributes that you
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  want to borrow, but nothing more.
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  All right, I will talk to you guys tomorrow.
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  Have a great day. Bye.