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Hypnosis for Phenomenal Self-Worth Learn to Feel Deserving of Real Love · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, demanded by
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  celebrities CE OS and even royalty Adam Cox, these
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  recordings took place live from Evans Clinic in London's world
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  famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here and this is a love based hypnosis session and
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  it was created for a client that had a long history of toxic
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  relationships. We're talking narcissistic
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  abuse, violence, verbal abuse, disrespect, violating
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  boundaries, you name it. And because of that, they had a
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  part within them that was feeling that they didn't
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  actually deserve respect and kindness and real love, but also
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  a feeling of trepidation because a lot of these toxic
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  relationships didn't start off toxic.
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  They started with a lot of love, affection, connection, made them
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  feel wonderful. And then something changed.
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  And because of that, they were now in a new relationship with
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  someone that they thought was kind, respectful, and that would
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  respect their boundaries. But because they've been hurt
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  before and they didn't have a lot of trust in previous
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  relationships based on their own experience, there was this
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  feeling of what if this ends up the same?
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  So they were very guarded in this new relationship.
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  What this hypnosis session is all about is making them feel
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  worthy of real love but also and crucially having the non
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  negotiable boundaries so that if history does repeat then they
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  are able to mitigate and react to that quickly.
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  Because what can happen is if you are in a relationship with a
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  toxic person because of all that serotonin, oxytocin and all that
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  dopamine, it can actually make people justify the behaviour of
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  the person they're with. And my belief is that you get
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  what you tolerate, not what you deserve.
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  And that can lead to this encroachment of ever decreasing
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  standards and that can lead to almost accepting abusive
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  behaviour. So they needed the non
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  negotiable boundaries to keep them safe.
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  What was interesting though is that they didn't perceive
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  themselves to be worthy. There was this big question of
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  do they actually deserve to be treated well?
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  So I asked them who sees you in the most positive way possible?
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  And they had a best friend and a daughter that really held them
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  in high self esteem. So it uses regression to a time
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  where those people were there and then someone who wasn't
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  there but also looked at them very well, which was their
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  father. So they could see themselves
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  through the eyes of other people and start to perceive that that
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  standard, that quality, that worthiness, that other people
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  saw them. They could see themself in that
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  way, and I would encourage you that if you can relate to
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  finding it difficult to accept compliments or affection, or if
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  things are nice and respectable, if it feels boring and you're
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  kind of craving that toxic excitement, you might get some
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  real value from this session. Now, of course, it was created
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  for an individual, therefore some of the suggestions are not
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  going to be relevant to you at all.
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  So just pick the suggestions that are useful, disregard
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  anything that doesn't quite fit. And if you like the idea of a
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  bespoke session created just for you, have a look either in the
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  description of this episode or my website whichisadamcox.co.uk,
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  and there you're going to find some information about how to
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  work with me directly. For now, though, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be distracted or
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  disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in and as you breathe in, breathe in a feeling
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  of pure worthiness. And as you exhale, I want you to
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  release any emotions from the past, from those people that had
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  an agenda, maybe a parent, partner, someone jealous or
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  controlling. I want you to assess that so
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  many of those emotions were real emotions based on false
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  information. Consider breathing in and
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  breathing out a detox, breathing in that worthiness and exhaling
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  any of those toxic emotions of the past.
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  Each breath is a release, and each breath helps you relax a
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  little deeper. That's it.
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  And the deeper you breathe, the more relaxed you feel.
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  And the more relaxed you feel, the deeper you breathe.
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  Each breath takes you deeper, deeper to a place within your
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  imagination because when your body relaxes, your imagination
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  can really awaken. And I want you to imagine being
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  on the oceanfront at a time when your self esteem and confidence
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  was at its very highest. I want you to see how you were
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  back then, smiling free. See how you looked when you were
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  oozing worthiness, confidence. And then step into that version
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  of you and start to feel that way again, the feeling that you
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  love who you are. You're more than enough.
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  But just imagine you have the whole beach to yourself and just
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  make yourself comfortable as you imagine a bed or a blanket there
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  on the sand, hearing the waves gently crash against the shore,
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  each breathtaking you deeper and deeper, relaxed.
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  That's it. And I wonder if you could
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  imagine what it would feel like to imagine falling asleep on
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  that beach. To have a dream within a dream.
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  Just breathe in and breathing out.
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  Every outward breath you release a little more tension.
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  Just allow the tiny muscles to understand for the next little
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  while. Vigilance and tension is no
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  longer required. This is a place of reflection,
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  of learning and reclaiming something that has always
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  belonged to you. Your worth, your strength, your
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  ability to love and to be loved. But as you think back, I want
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  you to think of a part within that tried to keep you safe.
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  So let's acknowledge that part, the part of you that became
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  guarded, vigilant, cautious in relationships that wasn't self
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  sabotage. And that part was never broken.
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  That part was a protector, A protector that learned from
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  experience. And one of the things that it
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  learned is that when people cross boundaries, when they
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  manipulate, when they disrespect or harm, the mind becomes
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  watchful. You've heard the phrase once
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  bitten, twice shy. You've been bitten in
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  relationships and this protective part is trying to
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  keep you safe by being hyper aware and ready to defend,
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  trying to look for red flags and patterns that you've seen
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  before. All of that vigilance was your
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  mind's attempt to keep you safe because your mind knows how
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  precious, worthy, and valuable you are.
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  Your mind wouldn't keep you safe if you weren't valuable.
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  But today something will change because you are learning
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  something at a deeper level that you do not need to live with
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  permanent armor to remain safe. There is something far more
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  powerful than armor. Clear boundaries, self worth,
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  and the ability to walk away when those boundaries are
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  crossed. And those three things create
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  safety without shutting down love and connection.
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  And as you think about that oceanfront drift back to a time,
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  maybe the same beach or somewhere close by, where a
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  photo shoot was being taken to celebrate a special occasion.
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  Still imagine being in that dream on the beach.
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  But now, going back to that photo shoot, feel the feeling of
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  warm air on your skin and the sound of waves gently moving
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  against the shore, the brightness of the sky and May
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  maybe even there's salt in the air, in the breeze.
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  And there's something magical about a photo shoot because it
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  captures a moment in time. And this was not just any
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  moment. This was a moment where you felt
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  something more than ever before. Natural radiating confidence, a
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  natural awareness of your beauty inside and out.
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  And you can get glimpses of what you remember, the photographer,
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  the clothes being worn. And you may remember the light
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  reflecting off the water, the words being used to take photos,
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  the laughter, the smiles, the energy in the air.
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  And as you see that version of you, I want you to remember how
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  you felt. Poised, radiant, comfortable in
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  your own skin. And you were strong.
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  You were worth noticing. And as you reconnect with that
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  moment, your mind may begin to realise something that was
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  always true. That confidence was not
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  something someone gave you. It's not rare, like an eclipse
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  only happens now and then. That confidence came from within
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  you. It was always there, and it
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  still is. So allow that feeling to grow
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  stronger now, as if every breath draws more of that confidence
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  back into your body. There were other people there.
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  I want you to imagine what it would be like to see yourself
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  through the eyes of other people.
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  Imagine stepping outside of yourself just for a moment and
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  see your best friend and step into their perspective.
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  Start to see yourself as your best friend sees you.
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  And as you look at yourself and the way you smile and move,
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  allow the word phenomenal to just pop into your mind.
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  I want you to notice the qualities they admire in you.
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  Maybe they admire the fact that even though you've gone through
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  so much, your spirit isn't broken, your soul is still pure.
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  Perhaps your resilience, your kindness, your humour or
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  strength, The tenacity, the relentlessness, the
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  determination. Your best friend does not see
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  weakness. They see someone remarkable.
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  And because you're seeing yourself through their eyes, you
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  see you as remarkable, you see you as phenomenal.
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  And just allow that perspective to settle in.
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  Their view is not distorted by criticism or manipulation.
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  It's based on respect and truth. And now switch perspectives and
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  see yourself through the eyes of your daughter and imagine a
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  sparkle or a Halo or a glow or an aura around you.
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  Because to her, you are amazing. See yourself as amazing not
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  because you are perfect, but because you are you and you are
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  a model of strength. It was someone who shows what it
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  means to survive challenges and still keep your heart open.
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  To her, you represent possibility.
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  When she looks at you, she sees someone worthy of admiration.
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  And in the past, sometimes she learned what not to do, but you
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  still taught her. She sees you as someone she is
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  proud of. And allow yourself to feel what
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  it's like to be seen through that lens.
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  And even if your father wasn't there on the photo shoot,
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  imagine him on the beach and start to imagine seeing yourself
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  through the eyes of your father. And I want you to feel in your
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  chest because you are him looking at you.
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  The unlimited pride when he sees you and thinks of you.
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  Proud of your beauty, proud of your values, your qualities,
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  your courage. He admires your character, your
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  ability to stand up again after being knocked down.
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  And then imagine taking all three perspectives, phenomenal,
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  amazing and proud all into one and see yourself that way.
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  And then imagine a full length mirror there on the beach.
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  Step into your body and see yourself through your eyes and
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  those that hold you in the highest regard.
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  I want you to notice your feeling of worthiness has never
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  been higher. Your feeling of confidence, self
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  esteem, self love, self respect has never been higher and it's
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  still climbing. Allow your mind to recalibrate
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  because the people who love you, the people who respect you, they
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  all see the same thing. Someone that is phenomenal,
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  amazing, someone that makes them proud.
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  And the more you allow yourself to see what they see, the more
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  natural self worth becomes. And the higher yourself worth,
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  the more confidently you can communicate clear boundaries.
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  And you no longer need hyper vigilance to be on guard to stay
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  safe. You have something far more
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  effective, clearly communicated boundaries.
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  Think of them just like national borders.
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  A country does not need to fear every visitor, but it does need
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  clearly defined lines. The same applies in
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  relationships. And there are non negotiables.
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  There are lines in the sand that must never be crossed.
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  Disrespect, verbal abuse, name calling, a manipulation or
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  physical harm, betrayal in cheating, these.
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  These are the red lines, and your mind agrees in advance that
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  if those lines are crossed, the relationship ends immediately,
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  not going back. If it's crossed, it's over.
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  Not because you are cold, but because you respect yourself.
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  Because the most powerful form of self love is refusing to
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  tolerate anything that harms you, anything that chisels the
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  very foundation of yourself worth.
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  But there's also the amber lines.
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  Not quite crossing a red line, but maybe getting too close for
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  comfort. Those moments where something
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  feels slightly off. Not necessarily wrong, but worth
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  discussing. Consider these.
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  The near misses, the close calls and these.
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  These are triggers for conversations.
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  Not shouting, not screaming. Calm, direct, respectful
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  conversations. Because boundaries work best
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  when they are spoken. They don't work if they're
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  hidden. They don't work if you know them
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  and no one else does. You can't hope the boundaries
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  will be respected if people don't know what the boundaries
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  are. The consequence of a healthy
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  boundary is something very simple.
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  Those people who respect you will honour it, and the people
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  who don't reveal themselves, and that revelation protects you.
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  But it's crucial that if a boundary gets crossed, that
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  there is a consequence. Good people experience pain
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  because in life you get what you tolerate, not what you deserve.
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  That's why consequences are so important.
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  If a boundary is crossed, a consequence must follow.
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  But in doing so, you're able to create a new relationship with
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  trust. Trust does not mean being naive.
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  Trust means giving someone the opportunity to prove who they
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  really are. And if any of that trust has
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  been dampened or damaged over the years, I want you to
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  resurrect it like the phoenix from the flames.
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  Give yourself permission to trust again, but if they ever
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  reveal themselves to be untrustworthy, then you no
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  longer trust that individual. You can't generalize all people.
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  If someone shows they are unworthy of trust, then you stop
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  trusting that individual. But someone that does show they
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  are worthy of trust, you trust them until they give you a
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  reason not to. And what if that approach allows
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  your guard to lower without ever sacrificing your safety?
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  And you are no longer living in fear of betrayal or abuse.
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  You are living in confidence that you will respond
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  appropriately if any lines are crossed.
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  And that shift changes everything, because the heart
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  can open again without ever abandoning wisdom.
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  And as your mind absorbs these ideas, something important
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  begins to change. The ability to receive love.
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  Compliments no longer feel uncomfortable.
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  Kindness no longer feel suspicious.
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  Because you recognize that the people who respect you see
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  something genuine in you. Someone phenomenal, someone
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  amazing. Someone to admire, someone to
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  appreciate. And those perspectives are not
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  exaggerations. They are reflections of reality.
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  A reality your mind is now ready to accept and going forward.
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  Every time you hold yourself to these high standards, every time
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  you communicate or enforce a boundary, every time you look at
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  yourself in the mirror as someone phenomenal, amazing, as
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  someone beautiful, you are becoming a role model.
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  The next level of role model. You already know how to give the
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  right advice. This new version of you lives in
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  accordance with your own advice. You become the example of self
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  love and self worth and that is a legacy.
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  A legacy that will ripple through generation after
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  generation to take all these wonderful feelings of
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  confidence, beauty, self worth and boundaries.
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  Amplify your wisdom and as all these qualities integrate, allow
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  a new level of your identity to be revealed.
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  Not something you try to remember, but something you
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  simply are. And when when that identity is
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  willing to acknowledge and accept all of these changes, let
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  me know by nodding your head. Feel that ripple effect to every
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  cell in your body and then see a version of you there, fast
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  asleep on a beach. Step into that version of you
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  integrating all of these changes.
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  And now it's time to return as you take a deep breath in
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  through your nose and out through your nose.
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  Just wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, connect and calibrate
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  into the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes, open your eyes,
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  910. Wide awake, wide awake, wide
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  awake. Thank you.
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