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SMNTY Classics: New Year's Pressure on Women · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to stuff.
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Speaker 1: When never told your production of iHeart Radio. And hopefully
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Speaker 1: as this comes out it is are publishing schedule can
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Speaker 1: be a bit of a mystery. Things can change very quickly,
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Speaker 1: but I believe this is coming out in the New Year,
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Speaker 1: in which case, Happy New Year, Happy New Year. Yes,
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Speaker 1: and I want to bring back this classic one. It's
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Speaker 1: it's semi recent. I think we did this at the
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Speaker 1: end of but it was about the pressure women in
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Speaker 1: particular feel around New Year's um around like having a
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Speaker 1: good time and making resolutions and kissing and that kind
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Speaker 1: of stuff. And as we've probably maybe talked about, I
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Speaker 1: recently watched all of Samantha gave me a list of
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Speaker 1: her like holiday go to movies, uh, and I watched
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Speaker 1: them all in one weekend. And I called it in
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Speaker 1: the universe because Hugh Grant was in a lot of Yes,
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Speaker 1: I know that I did not notice until like way later.
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Speaker 1: How I collected my movies and a chunk of them
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Speaker 1: have Hugh Grant. And I'm not a huge h Grand fan.
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Speaker 1: I'm not. I think he's a papa's ass, but he
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Speaker 1: just kind of a character and he happens to be
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Speaker 1: in that movie, and like, damn it, no, it was
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Speaker 1: just funny. I think the universe is very clever, so
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Speaker 1: I'm happy about it. Very clever, but I feel no, no, no,
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Speaker 1: but it was funny because I think at least one
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Speaker 1: of them, at least one of them for sure, but
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Speaker 1: I think two of them had a New Year's which
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Speaker 1: we have talked about at this point if you've listened sequentially,
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Speaker 1: but Joe's Diary that is more of a New Year's
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Speaker 1: movie to me, right, and I think what I think
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Speaker 1: the holiday is a new year. It has a New
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Speaker 1: Year's kind of yeah. Okay, well it's funny because we're
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Speaker 1: doing these out of orders, so we haven't actually had
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Speaker 1: this conversation, but if you're listening to it, then we
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Speaker 1: we have to you already, um podcasting. But it just
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Speaker 1: got me thinking about this again and kind of how
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Speaker 1: to me strange that feels with that like we've got
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Speaker 1: to kiss at midnight or whatever it is. Uh So
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Speaker 1: I look forward to having that conversation. I look forward
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Speaker 1: to you listeners having heard it already or going back
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Speaker 1: to listen to it. But also, yes, again, happy New Year's.
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Speaker 1: We hope it was great and please enjoy this classic episode. Hey,
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Speaker 1: this is Annie and Samantha and welcome to stuff I
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Speaker 1: never told you production of I Heart Radio. So Samantha
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Speaker 1: and I we've been pretty up front with our feelings
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Speaker 1: about New Year's as we approached the edge and the
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Speaker 1: beginning of We are not its biggest fans of the
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Speaker 1: party aspect of it. I guess all of the trappings
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Speaker 1: of New Year's um and we have a tradition, a
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Speaker 1: recent tradition of wearing onesies and contacting each other. I
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Speaker 1: wear the Spider Man one. Oh that's right. When we
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Speaker 1: are you did you did by that Spider Man one?
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Speaker 1: I forgot about it, that's right, I did? You did?
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Speaker 1: And like skyped or FaceTime and uh yeah we did? Yeah?
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Speaker 1: And I got mac and cheese over to me two
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Speaker 1: different times that night. Yes, And then we got it
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Speaker 1: the next day, didn't we Yeah? I had three orders
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Speaker 1: of mac and cheese. I was proud of you. That's
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Speaker 1: I mean. It was one of my best New Year's
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Speaker 1: Eve I've never ever had. And that's the truth. It
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Speaker 1: was a good one. I think it was a good
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Speaker 1: one too. And I definitely just stayed at home. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's been my latest tradition in the last two years
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Speaker 1: is just to sit at home plus three years maybe, yeah,
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Speaker 1: I think for me as well. And I do want
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Speaker 1: to say I've had good New Year's ease um, and
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Speaker 1: I've had good New Year's days um, and I've I've
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Speaker 1: done like the huge party thing and had a good time.
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Speaker 1: But I feel like it's very very hit and miss
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Speaker 1: for me here miss um and just it became I
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Speaker 1: wasn't having enough hits and I was having a lot
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Speaker 1: of mrs right, yeah, And I think part of that
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Speaker 1: for me being cheap, it's like a I don't want
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Speaker 1: to drive because if I drink right, we're all I
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Speaker 1: don't want to endanger anyone. As well as the fact
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Speaker 1: that yes, police are out on the you know streams
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Speaker 1: ready to go on New Year's and then be the
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Speaker 1: fees to get uber or left too. I can't, like,
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Speaker 1: I just I definitely couldn't. So I was like, I'll
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Speaker 1: just stay home. Yeah, so that's been my thing, but yeah,
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Speaker 1: the next day has been delightful several times now cut
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Speaker 1: A few friends of mine will get together and go
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Speaker 1: to a restaurant to get the black peas collars and
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Speaker 1: for sure, yeah, yeah, that's I always make sure to
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Speaker 1: have that. I've had many a fun waffle house next day.
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Speaker 1: Well for some of us it wasn't so fun, but
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Speaker 1: I had a good time. Yeah. Um, I think yeah,
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Speaker 1: the last few years, especially in the last four years,
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Speaker 1: the party our our crew because we're getting older, our crew,
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Speaker 1: my crew, I guess we're getting older, and a lot
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Speaker 1: of people have families now and all that, so it's
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Speaker 1: just gotta like a little less and less. Yeah, and
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Speaker 1: and so in this many we want to talk about
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Speaker 1: the pressures of New Years, particularly for women. But it
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Speaker 1: was funny how many articles I found about people who
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Speaker 1: really don't like New Years saying, like, you know, that
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Speaker 1: doesn't start until midnight, like you've got to really face yourself.
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Speaker 1: And then it's so expensive, like I mean, there's like
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Speaker 1: a coverage charge to get in, and it's crowded, and
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Speaker 1: then you get to pay for the drinks, and then
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Speaker 1: the food is not very good and you're just not
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Speaker 1: gonna feel very well the next day. And it's like
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Speaker 1: kind of all about drinking and if you don't want
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Speaker 1: to drink, and there's solved that, and then you're putting
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Speaker 1: all this pressure on your stuff with this resolution right,
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Speaker 1: this is gonna be my year or whatever. As if
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Speaker 1: the last year was useless. It kind of was so well,
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Speaker 1: I mean in this particular case, right, but to be fair,
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Speaker 1: last year, we thought that year was going to be useless. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and so we were really excited about this year. It
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Speaker 1: is kind of like this year has taught me that no,
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Speaker 1: it's okay, it may be worse. Yeah. Yeah. Well and
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Speaker 1: it was the New decade too, so we were all like,
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Speaker 1: not only is it a new year, it's a new decade,
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Speaker 1: it's a new beginning. And then they're like, where's sweatpants?
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Speaker 1: And stay inside? Right, Okay, I work from home, never
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Speaker 1: leave again. So I think a lot of people are
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Speaker 1: going to be celebrating New Year's are away. I mean
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Speaker 1: I don't know about the onesie aspect of it, but
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Speaker 1: still missing out. It was, I mean it was pretty nice.
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Speaker 1: And that video is still up on my Instagram and
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Speaker 1: it's like a minute long and very embarrassing, so if
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Speaker 1: you want to find that, it's up there. Um. So
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Speaker 1: when it comes to pressures of this holiday, I do
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Speaker 1: like there is a pressure to go out, um and
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Speaker 1: to dress up and and something glterally and sparkly have
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Speaker 1: a hell of a party, Like this is the party
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Speaker 1: to say goodbye to this whole year, not everything that
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Speaker 1: happened and in that year, good or bad. And those
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Speaker 1: are just high expectations, and I feel you're setting yourself
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Speaker 1: up for a letdown inevitably. Yeah, I definitely would agree
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Speaker 1: with that. There's so many things that you're supposed to
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Speaker 1: be doing, and it's such a couple of year, like
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Speaker 1: like a couple of year, a couple of time of
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Speaker 1: year where if you're not with someone, it's very obvious,
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Speaker 1: overtly obvious. Yeah, And and so that's one of the things,
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Speaker 1: is the kiss, Like there's this pressure to kiss at midnight,
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Speaker 1: and you know, you start getting to count down and
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Speaker 1: your you're surreptitiously looking around for people to see, Like
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Speaker 1: as a single lady anyway, I'm like, well, who do
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Speaker 1: do I want to kiss? Anybody? Like? Why am I
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Speaker 1: just gonna stand there awkwardly? How weird is this going
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Speaker 1: to be? If I don't find someone? In general, like
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Speaker 1: this hasn't been a huge problem for me, but one
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Speaker 1: year I was at UM a friend of ours, a
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Speaker 1: friend and co worker, Matt Frederick, who was like the
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Speaker 1: sweetest person on the planet, he was having a huge
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Speaker 1: New Year's party, and it was like I was running
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Speaker 1: out kissing books or something because I made it out
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Speaker 1: with this guy and he was like, oh wow, that
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Speaker 1: was so good. And then this other guy was there
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Speaker 1: and he was like, oh, I need a kiss too,
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Speaker 1: And then it became like this talk of the party
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Speaker 1: of like how I kissed every guy and I was
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Speaker 1: like what interesting? Yes, yes, um. And then one time
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Speaker 1: I made out with one of my lady friends, like
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Speaker 1: I don't know, made out, We kissed, um, and a
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Speaker 1: bunch of dudes yelled at me basically for depriving them
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Speaker 1: of a kiss kissing partner. And I was like, I
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Speaker 1: don't know you and I don't owe you anything, and um,
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Speaker 1: why is this a thing at all? Okay, I don't
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Speaker 1: you have the weirdest experiences to me because that has
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Speaker 1: never been a thing for me. I've never been told
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Speaker 1: I owed them a kiss. And maybe I just have
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Speaker 1: that bitch face that we've talked about before where I'm like, no,
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Speaker 1: why are you trying to talk to me? Are you
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Speaker 1: trying to touch me? What is wrong with you? To
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Speaker 1: be fair, though, oftentimes with the parties that I go
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Speaker 1: to again are very coupling parties, so I am the
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Speaker 1: one single person outside that, so there's rarely the opportunity.
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Speaker 1: I don't I don't remember going out out, so I
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Speaker 1: remember last year you into a party or the twenty
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Speaker 1: Roaring Twenties party, which I didn't know what the theme.
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Speaker 1: I couldn't figure out why the theme was that, Like
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Speaker 1: I'm like, roaring, why are you wearing uh jazz stuff?
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Speaker 1: I don't understand. I was like, oh, the twenties, I
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Speaker 1: get it, Like it took me a long time to
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Speaker 1: figure that out. Um, but yeah, I definitely never been
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Speaker 1: around that typically. Like I said, I'm with friends, so
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Speaker 1: we all hug each other and maybe giving each other
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Speaker 1: each other kisses on the cheek, which now thinking on
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Speaker 1: it with COVID nineteen sounds awful and disgusting, and why
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Speaker 1: I know it does. But yeah, my sister also made
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Speaker 1: it very clear to me that it was a couple
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Speaker 1: of traditions, because I've said this before. All of my
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Speaker 1: siblings started bringing uh like partners or people home at
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Speaker 1: the age of fourteen fifteen, Like it was weird to
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Speaker 1: me and I never did that. I recently then met
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Speaker 1: the first partner this year, like my parents I've never
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Speaker 1: brought anyone home before this year, and I'm forty all um,
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Speaker 1: But like my sister would have her boyfriends and if
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Speaker 1: any of the couples were there, and she would tell
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Speaker 1: everyone to go into a specific corner of the house.
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Speaker 1: It was very specific and then loudly count down. And
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Speaker 1: it was typically me because I was the one watching
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Speaker 1: the TV and it was single, so I could sit
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Speaker 1: there and count down for them so they can all
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Speaker 1: in their special spot. She was very bossy make a
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Speaker 1: get of a kiss for the for the New Year's
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Speaker 1: and I was like, what is happening? But I remember
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Speaker 1: this distinctly because she made sure that it happened every
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Speaker 1: year and that she was fifteen sixteen when I when
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Speaker 1: I moved in, so it was like, that's how that
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Speaker 1: went down. So that's what I remember of that. Of course,
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Speaker 1: I also remember watching Dick Clark and the ball drop
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Speaker 1: I did one year ago for the peach drop, and
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Speaker 1: I was so miserable I vowed never to do it again.
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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, I mean it gets cold and crowded and
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Speaker 1: that's it, and you don't see but this tiny little
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Speaker 1: piece that barely drops. You don't even know what happened.
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Speaker 1: You're like, what's it? Yeah, and you're stuck in the
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Speaker 1: you know. So apparently this whole kissing at midnight being
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Speaker 1: on New Years came from well, didn't come from, but
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Speaker 1: it was popularized to buy When Harry met Sally, which
11:42
Speaker 1: I watched for the first time last night, by the way,
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Speaker 1: and yes, that does happen. Um, so that came out
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Speaker 1: or The Godfather Part two, which I haven't seen, so
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Speaker 1: I can't verify that. Yeah, that's when the Fredo kiss.
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Speaker 1: Oh well, I don't know what that means, but I
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Speaker 1: know fred it was like useless, right, you broke my heart?
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Speaker 1: Right O. That's that line. That's the phrato kiss. I think,
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Speaker 1: I think if I'm correct, because like they do a countdown. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I've heard it's a miserable one, like the Harry and
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Speaker 1: Sally one is like, yeah, it's sad, okay, yeah yeah.
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Speaker 1: Well so you've got two different versions of it there.
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Speaker 1: The first recorded instance in the US goes back to you.
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Speaker 1: A New York Times article from eighteen sixty three quote,
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Speaker 1: New Year's Eve is a great time among the Germans,
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Speaker 1: who assembol around the domestic fireside in their public halls,
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Speaker 1: their clubhouses, their theaters, their concert houses, and their beer nerves,
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Speaker 1: beer nerves or minor beer sellers to pass the waning
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Speaker 1: hours of the Old Year with music, song, the drama,
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Speaker 1: and the forest good cheer and merriment. As the cock
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Speaker 1: staring out the hour of midnight, all this festivity pauses
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Speaker 1: for a moment to listen, and as the last joke
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Speaker 1: dies into silence, all big and little, old and young,
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Speaker 1: male and female, pushing to each other's arms and hearty
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Speaker 1: kisses go around like rolls of labial musketry with the
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Speaker 1: exclamation prost new yard, Hail the New Year. Gentlemen and
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Speaker 1: ladies in the bloom of youth heartily approved this custom,
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Speaker 1: and their venerable predecessors likewise seemed to reliship if t're
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Speaker 1: only for the sake of old lang sign So uh,
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Speaker 1: I don't know. It sounds like maybe people just wanted
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Speaker 1: to kiss and it became a thing. I've certainly. We
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Speaker 1: did an episode on New Year's traditions on Saber, and
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Speaker 1: there are a lot of like things like that, but
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Speaker 1: most of them are alcohol based and sharing drinks with people.
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Speaker 1: I'm not sure. Also, I want to put in here
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Speaker 1: it's a real downer, but rates of sexual assault in
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Speaker 1: general are higher that night in the US. That makes yeah,
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Speaker 1: And I will say another part to our tradition, which
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Speaker 1: I wish would go away, and I know people have
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Speaker 1: been trying to revamp it, and I do love that,
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Speaker 1: do you do you? But the resolutions for sure, because
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Speaker 1: typically it comes with the connotations of weight loss, I mean,
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Speaker 1: which is completely tied into the single lady thing because
13:51
Speaker 1: we know our only value is to attract men very heteronormative,
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Speaker 1: aren't we um And we can only do that by
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Speaker 1: being really and really beautiful whatever that seems. And I
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Speaker 1: think it's really interesting because right now there's a big
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Speaker 1: conversation about fat phobia and the responsibility of a fat
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Speaker 1: celebrity or those who identify being fat, because the Lizzo
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Speaker 1: had this whole thing, and it's interesting to see what's
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Speaker 1: happening in that conversation. But yeah, it definitely comes with
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Speaker 1: the season two because you're seeing family. I'm freaking out
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Speaker 1: because I've definitely gained weight, uh since seeing my family,
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Speaker 1: So I don't love going to see my family because
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Speaker 1: my brothers are going to make a comment Garnt, even
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Speaker 1: though they're twice my size, they're still gonna make comment,
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Speaker 1: and it makes me nervous and anxious. But that's part
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Speaker 1: of this whole holiday thing that's just awful because you
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Speaker 1: you know, relished or maybe you've been a little bit
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Speaker 1: gluttonous whatever, because it is the holiday season and now
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Speaker 1: you feel guilt Thanks New Years. Um, and then to
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Speaker 1: find a partner. Thing, Like I said, my family is
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Speaker 1: the epitome of you are not of worth unless you
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Speaker 1: have a partner. Again, one holiday tradition, I used to
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Speaker 1: have What's going Home and having my mother cry about
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Speaker 1: how she was gonna how I was going to be
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Speaker 1: alone and die alone. So that was always a fun
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Speaker 1: part of my Christmas traditions. Um. And you know what,
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Speaker 1: because I was so caught up in that, I aim
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Speaker 1: a little superstitious. I definitely believe in like power of
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Speaker 1: things and you know, karma and stuff. But there's a
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Speaker 1: tradition that if you aware pink underwear that you'll find love.
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Speaker 1: And so one time I did that, I don't feel
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Speaker 1: like it worked. Was this a while ago. We're supposed
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Speaker 1: to wear it on New Year's So there's sus colors
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Speaker 1: that you're supposed to wear to bring money, to bring luck,
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Speaker 1: and pink underwear, I think it was one of those
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Speaker 1: things that I don't own that I was like when
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Speaker 1: and made it to a special trip to Target. Gotta
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Speaker 1: find that partner this year. Yeah. Yeah, And we've talked
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Speaker 1: before about that whole which it's gonna be interesting. And
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Speaker 1: since we've been in pandemic, we've been inside and people
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Speaker 1: are talking about like I've lost the whole year of
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Speaker 1: my dating life essentially. But there is that big push
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Speaker 1: on dating apps a new year, where everybody's like joining
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Speaker 1: and trying to find someone. So there's that the yeah,
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Speaker 1: um and yeah, this whole resolution thing. There's so many
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Speaker 1: pressures that specific are specific to women, like be more organized,
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Speaker 1: to take kids to X y Z things, make memories,
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Speaker 1: make healthier foods, have it all. Um. And that's not
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Speaker 1: to say that men don't have those kinds of resolutions, um,
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Speaker 1: and that they're inherently bad or unhealthy, but the pressure
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Speaker 1: to make them is more traditionally on women, I think,
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Speaker 1: and we know women often face higher expectations on they
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Speaker 1: put them on themselves, other people put them on them
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Speaker 1: and there's more burnout because of that, especially coming out
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Speaker 1: of the holidays. Social media can exacerbate all of this.
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Speaker 1: We know that for sure, Um, it's a lot of pressure,
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Speaker 1: and likely women in particularly Winnific color, we're already doing
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Speaker 1: more than white people than men. So the pressure to
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Speaker 1: do more is just like I feel like you're kind
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Speaker 1: of dismissing what intentionally or not, what you've already been doing, right,
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Speaker 1: and then you're adding more and it's it's just too much.
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Speaker 1: It's too much. It's a whole doesn't like self esteem
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Speaker 1: thing and sent the mentality to it that it doesn't
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Speaker 1: hit traditional mill that a normative ideas anyway. So it's
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Speaker 1: kind of like I'm going to read more, I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: do this more, you know, thinking that you have to
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Speaker 1: be better somehow, and if you're better somehow, other people
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Speaker 1: will notice and therefore it makes you better exactly. Yeah. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: And I've if it just feelers so much tied up
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Speaker 1: into that of like I'm not good enough. There's nothing
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Speaker 1: wrong with having goals. Goals are great, but I think
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Speaker 1: a lot of people approach it from this mentality of
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Speaker 1: I'm not enough for whatever reason. Um, and I've I've
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Speaker 1: made the b more social resolution a k A. Meet someone,
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Speaker 1: I've done I've done the things. I've made the weight
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Speaker 1: loss one multiple times I've done more be more fun, which,
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Speaker 1: oh my god, that that you're um being more productive.
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Speaker 1: And then sometimes I make I may resolutions like the
18:01
Speaker 1: year I made the b more social, I also made
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Speaker 1: a resolution that was rest more. So I'm just I'm
18:07
Speaker 1: trying to get better at that part of it. We
18:23
Speaker 1: do have advice, UM, and one of the pieces of
18:26
Speaker 1: advice we found a lot was try and separate what
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Speaker 1: you actually want from what you expect. UM. Gabriel Odingen. Odingen,
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Speaker 1: the author of Rethinking Positive Thinking, advises that w O
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Speaker 1: O P whoop, wish outcome obstacles, plan for setting reasonable
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Speaker 1: expectations for New Year's um for resolution as well. UM.
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Speaker 1: And my therapist, I think I've said it before on
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Speaker 1: the show, is actually recommending people don't set resolutions in
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Speaker 1: or that they're kind to yourself where they're taking to
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Speaker 1: account all these stressors and things like don't don't put
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Speaker 1: something on yourself and there's so much, so much already
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Speaker 1: going on, uh, and recognizing what you've accomplished. I think
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Speaker 1: there's so many things like doing having a marker and
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Speaker 1: having a boundaries. Those are okay, like having a start marker,
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Speaker 1: like this is the timeframe I want to do this,
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Speaker 1: that's okay. But when you start like beating yourself up
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Speaker 1: about it, which happens too often, that's that's the problem.
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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, um, And I was reading as part of
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Speaker 1: this research. I found a bunch of people's resolutions they
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Speaker 1: were making, like right, hit, Oh we didn't know it
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Speaker 1: was coming. It's like a weird time capsule. It's like,
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Speaker 1: oh jeez. I still think about the fact at the
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Speaker 1: beginning of this year we were planning to go to Portugal.
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Speaker 1: I think, I, yeah, we're going to go to Portugal.
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Speaker 1: I would not have seen Star Wars a hundred more
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Speaker 1: times since then, like it's wild. We even had huge
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Speaker 1: plans from a huge but bigger plans for my birthday
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Speaker 1: and I got watched away, literally literally watched away. Thank
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Speaker 1: you Hurricane Sally. Um And yeah, I know it's kind
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Speaker 1: of tiresome phrase to hear. But of course this year
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Speaker 1: is going to be different. Um, no big parties. I'm
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Speaker 1: doing my traditional meal, as we said, I'm having some champagne,
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Speaker 1: probably watching Star Wars and oh yeah, I will be
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Speaker 1: using I'll be wearing my onesie. I mean, at this point,
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Speaker 1: my giant comfy comforter so I don't think I've made
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Speaker 1: this announcement except on Twitter. My partner for part of
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Speaker 1: my Christmas present, gave me this giant one size and
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Speaker 1: I'm putting air quotes on. It fits all comfy hoodie
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Speaker 1: so it's literally a portable comforter um and I love it.
20:42
Speaker 1: And I look like a giant tip person and I
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Speaker 1: love it. Like literally, I made a joke about the
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Speaker 1: fact that if I just crouched down, it's just become
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Speaker 1: a big gray ball encompasses me so like depth, like
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Speaker 1: like it just completely and I love it. So that
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Speaker 1: might be my onesie for the year. I'll just put
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Speaker 1: Google guys are like a headband on that. That's like
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Speaker 1: um like that like yeah, but that's gonna be my
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Speaker 1: New Year's because yeah, this girl's gonna be staying in
21:09
Speaker 1: I say, game night, maybe with a few friends and
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Speaker 1: just texting everybody a gift us is happy New Year's.
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Speaker 1: That will be my I like it. Get that gift
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21:26
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