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Julie Hilsen - Life of Love · Postcards to the Universe

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Welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa Capria. Do you believe in magic?
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What if you were told that all you had to do was get a
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little creative and work a magic spell to bring anything you can imagine into your
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life. Here on Postcards to the Universe, we will share manifesting tips,
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postcards, creativity, abundance, and prosperity. Here is your host, Melissa
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Capria. Hey guys, and welcome to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating
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the life you crave. I hope everybody is doing well today. It's Wednesday,
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my favorite day of the week. I love doing my show, and
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of course I have another amazing guest, Julie Hilson. She's an author of
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Life of Love, A Joyful God to Self and Sensuality and she is going
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to join me and just a couple of minutes. If you're new to my
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show, I want to say welcome, thank you for being here with me
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today, and I hope that you keep coming back. Just so you know
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that we do record this show live. But if you do like my show
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and you want to check out some of my other guests that I have on,
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you can always go into the archives on Home Times Radio and you can
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go back and listen to any show that resonates with you. And I also
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take the show and I put it up on my podcast on Postcards to the
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Universe dot com, So you can always listen to any show at your leisure
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if you like, and hopefully you really like it that you'll subscribe. That
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would be wonderful. A little bit about me. I am an artist,
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I'm a photographer and I'm also an author, and I have a book out
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and it's called Postcards to the Universe Harnessed the Universe's Power and manifest your Dreams.
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Everything I do is under Postcards to the Universe. By the way,
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all my social medias, my websites, you can always find me that way.
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But in the book, I talk all about manifesting, how to consciously
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co create with the universe and to bring in more abundance in those areas of
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our life that we always want to bring more abundance, you know, like
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love and money and our health and our careers and everything that brings us joy
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and inspires us and creates passion in our life. So there's thirty manifesting stories
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in the book with the photographs that I took of the contributors they sent me
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their postcard, I photographed them when their manifestation became the reality. I shared
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their story with their permission, of course, in the book. And there's
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a lot of exercises like I did some fun games and fun exercises in the
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book that helps you manifest in certain areas, Like you know, money,
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I have a lot of money manifesting fun games to play to manifest more of
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that. And health. I have those whole shower ritual you do to help
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bring more health into your body. So I broke it down like that,
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and it's a really, my opinion, my humble opinion, a great book.
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So I hope that you check it out. And if you're going,
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what the heck is she talking about? What is a manifesting postcard. It's
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kind of like a mini vision board. So instead of we do our vision
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boards, usually we do them in the beginning of the year, and then
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you do the whole all the areas that you and all the things that you
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want to bring in. I have people take a postcard, and it doesn't
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have to be traditional. I have a lot of people who think outside the
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box and send me very interesting things. But you're just picking one area of
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your life that you're working on or one thing you want to bring into your
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life at a time, and you can send me as many postcards as you
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want. And I have people who do do that, which is a lot
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of fun. If you want to know how to make one while you're listening,
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when you're sitting at home, if you go on postcards to the universe
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dot com and you look, I have how to create a manifesting postcard and
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the address to send it. I hope you make one, and if you
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do, just send me an email or let me know on any of my
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social medias that you created a postcard and to look out for it. And
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what I started doing is I started reading doing readings from the book and I'm
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releasing them in short videos on my social media Instagram, TikTok, LinkedIn,
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and I also then put them up on YouTube where you'll see me doing a
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small sample of a reading or one person's story, and I show you the
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picture and you can follow along. And if you do happen to do that,
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I would love it if you let me know you were there by sending
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me a like, sharing it, or you know, making a comment.
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I would really appreciate that. And because I'm doing these readings, I started
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doing it. I decided to re photograph all the postcards that I origin that
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are the original postcards from the book, but the way I'm photographing them is
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very different than they are seen in the book. So that's been fun.
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You know, as an artist, you change and you grow and and things
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have become different. And really it's the way I start photograph the postcards changed
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dramatically during COVID, so I really am enjoying going back and going through them
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again. It's been great for my creative spirit. And I release the postcard
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each Monday. I call them my magical message. And this week's Happens to
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Be Dreams Do Come True. And it's the story of an author who got
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her book published. So check it out. I mean, it's a lot
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of fun. I love it. It's just it's my thing obviously, right.
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So I do workshops. I started doing a couple and I have one
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that's an ongoing workshop. It cycles over it's five weeks. It runs Thursday
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evenings six to eight pm. It's online so you can do it the comfort
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of your home. And I call it manifesting through gratitude a visual journey,
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and we use gratitude along with our camera phones to manifest more of whatever it
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is we want in our life. And using our camera phones, I have
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found because everybody's got a camera now, everybody's got like a smartphone. I
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don't. I think the only person I know still it's a flip phone is
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my father. He's in his eighties, so that'll just tell you there.
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But everybody else has a phone that has a camera attached to it. So
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how can we use that as a tool for manifesting and being in the energy
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of gratitude. So if you want to know more about that, just reach
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out to me, or you can find out more if you see my workshops
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on my website. And at the end of it, you have this beautiful
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visual gratitude journal. So, like I said, I hope you check it
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out if you're on Facebook, I have a group called Postcards of Love and
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that's just funny and uplifting stuff. It's all putting in good energy back into
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the universe. And please send me a manifesting postcard. I love getting them.
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I swear I'm like a kid in a candy store when I see them
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in the mail. Okay, so now to talk to my guest today.
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I'm really excited to speak with her, Julie Hilson. She shares her passion
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for living a life of magic, my favorite word and joy. Everyone has
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a divine right to feel precious love and passion in their lives, and attaining
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it can be so simple. Julie shares powerful tools for self discuss and finding
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delight in everyday life. When she's not talking to angels and creating, you
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can find her hiking, playing tennis, cooking, and spending time with her
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family. Her debut book, Life of Love, A Joyful Guide to Self
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and Sensuality, is a guided text written to illuminate the reader's unique joy and
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connect with the heartfelt wonder that is held within the daily moments of their lives.
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Hilson teaches readers how to receive divine help from their guides and angels through
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beautifully worded devotions, whimsical exercises, and heard opening strategies that promote self acceptance,
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self love, joy, sensuality, and connection. Readers tap into their
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unique love vibration and use it to develop deeper relationships with both themselves and the
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people they love. Discussing a wide variety of topics, including passion and desire,
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as well as forgiveness and standards. Life of Love celebrates the beauty that
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is present in every moment. Many have used these methods to create space in
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their lives to happily accept themselves in a loving, unconditional way. And if
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you want to follow along as you're listening or check her out after the show,
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go to Life of lovejoy dot com. Welcome, Julie. Thank you
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so much for being with me today. Melissa, that was so amazing.
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Thanks for having me. I'm so excited to manifest this creation together and I
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love how we are in alignment. And your topic was the dream book,
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and I'm talking about my dream book, so I know it works out great,
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right, Dreams do come true, which I'm sure your book was for
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you. So I always ask like, how did you fall into what you're
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doing today? Because it's very uncomm since I've from anybody I've spoken to that
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when you know that we're completely tapped in and connected. Being from a small
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child, I mean, every once in a while I'll come across somebody who
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was, but it's usually something we come to later on after many experiences,
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some of them painful and we start searching and seeking or did you always have
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that ability to talk to your angels and your guys as a child. Well
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that's a great question because that's a human condition, right. We don't see
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the gifts that are right in front of us, right. And yeah,
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so I always felt a feminine connection. I always felt a strong connection to
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Mother Mary and my mother's mother, her name was Francis. I had a
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strong connection to her, and she was very connected to Mother Gaia. And
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I had no idea why I loved being in nature, why I could just
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sense what animals were thinking, what animals were going through. I was always
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very compassionate and empathetic and empathic. Sorry, and I didn't even know till
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my thirties what an EmPATH was like. So you get these breadcrumbs that you're
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you're not crazy, that you're like I always thought it was just so different.
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I was like, can I just be like everybody else? Why can't
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I just go through life and not feel these things? And so it was
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a like a scavenger hunt for me. And I challenge people to go on
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their own quest to figure out what their unique gifts are and why they feel
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different because that's that's the magic. That's where you're that's where your doo is.
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I love talking about it. Yeah, No, I love that because
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I feel the same way. And I used to think of myself and many
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people listening may also think this way, like, oh, I'm just too
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sensitive, That's what I used to say, you know, I'm just too
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sensitive. Why am I so sensitive? Why does it you know, if
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I see something, especially animals hurt, why does it hurt me so much?
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Why do I feel other people I love pains so deeply? Like and
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I just thought I was just too sensitive? Did you find that also?
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Oh? Yes? I was always told to basically suck it up. Yeah,
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don't you know, don't show your emotions. My mom would say,
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you know, put a box around your heart, you know, like she
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had all the best intentions. Don't get me wrong, my mom is a
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superstar mom. But she was just trying to protect me and didn't realize that
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my heart was where my power was and those strings that got on my heart.
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Yes, I needed to detach, and she was partly right, but
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also I needed to honor that I could feel and love so deeply. But
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it's just it's part of a journey. Right, Oh definitely, And now
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we know, like you said that you're empathic. I'm empathic. I didn't
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know what that was at the time, but I know now what it is,
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and I do things to protect myself because I am, which I'm sure
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you do also to protect yourself because when you're when you're an mpath, you
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absorb the energy of what is around you a lot and it can be overwhelming,
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and if it's negative energy, you can pick up on that so easily.
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I mean, we all have those abilities. Everybody knows what it's like.
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You walk into a room and say there was just a big argument and
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you walked in like after it was over. Everybody can feel like, wait
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a second, what's just happened here? Right, So we all feel it
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to a certain degree, when some of us feel it more deeply, and
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I imagine you know you do also. So how have you learned how to
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protect yourself? Which I think is self love? And I know you talk
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about self love, So let's start with self love. Yes, yes,
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yes, yes, so that is it's huge. And you can feel like
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you're being run over by a truck if you don't know how to set boundaries
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and to say that doesn't work for me, but so many people who are
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giving from this open heart just want to give, give, give, and
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so that's sort of I hit a wall and I had to learn how to
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how to employ self love because I thought my purpose here was to serve and
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my worthiness was in the reflection of everyone else's approval. And so, Melissa,
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you know that that's a recipe for a disaster. It makes you bitter,
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it makes you wonder why people don't appreciate you, and and it makes
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you expect a response, and it makes you have these ideas that you're not
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enough because you weren't recognized. So yeah, that was huge. That was
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huge for me to hit a wall and be like, what is going on?
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And then I took that pain and I just started on my quest.
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Like I said, I started a quest to figure out how to love myself.
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What my joy I was, Well, listen, I didn't even know.
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I didn't even know what made me happy anymore because I was so in
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the rut of checking off boxes and being there for everyone else. And I
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thought, well, you know, that's how Jesus taught us to live.
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He was always serving, but I was missing out. I was missing out
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on that divinity that's inside of me, and it's an inside of everybody.
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So it's my passion to just share with people that they are divine beings and
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we're all one, we all affect everyone, and so being happy and loving
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yourself and having self value not self degradation, is so important. And I
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just want to scream up from the rooftops because there's so many people who are
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just trying to live their best life, but they're missing out on the joy
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that they could be having the relationships, because you end up having this illusion
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of separation when you're just living to serve others exclusively without looking at yourself,
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And are you okay? Are you happy? What's your body telling you?
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My body was in one place and my mind and my spirit was like three
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football fields away. Like I was so removed from my body because I didn't
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want to get hurt, so I just let my body like blah blah blah
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blah, you know, like the wheels are turning, the hamster wheels running.
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I would lay down at night and plus I would be so tired,
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my legs would just ache because I just spent all day serving and doing everything
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for everyone, and I was just like so out of touch with what my
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body was saying. And I was tired, and I was aching, and
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I was just not happy. But if you looked at me, you'd say,
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oh, she's got it all together, that she has a beautiful house,
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she has two healthy kids, and she has this husband who you know,
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who does love me and adore me. But I wasn't fulfilled. So
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I had to figure it out. Yeah, yeah, yeah, And a
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lot of us women do this, not that men don't, but women have
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a tendency to do everything for everybody else and put ourselves last and right and
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in we think self love is not the same as selfishness. It's it's a
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different it's different. So what did you do? I know the things that
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I had to do, actual things to learn to love myself, Like I
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had to do rituals. I had to do. I had to be active
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in learning how to love myself. Like, is there anything that you do
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on a regular basis to help you love yourself that maybe somebody listening could do
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that might really you know, inspire them or spark something in them. And
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they'd say, oh, you know what I can do that? Mm hmm,
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Well, I tell you the most meaningful and easy thing you can do
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is look at yourself in the mirror and really look into your own eyes.
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Don't don't look at your nose, don't look at your skin, if you
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know, don't look at anything. Just gaze into your own eyes and tell
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yourself I love you. Yeah. Yeah, mirror work, Yeah, that's
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always that's mine. That was always mine too. Your work. It's hard.
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Wha, yeah, yeah, it was really hard. You like,
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no, not looking at not looking at it today, I'll do it tomorrow.
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Like, oh my god, Yeah, I just cried. I just
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I just sat down in front of the mirror and I just cried big alligator
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tears because I had avoided and just neglected my my ability to see myself.
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And so that was huge. And then you know, I still I still
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love yoga. Yoga connected to me, connected me to my energy centers.
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It gets me moving, it gets my everything flowing, It helps my my
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thoughts. But also you me quiet time. If you're gonna if you're gonna
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live any kind of life of magic or joy, you have I have time
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to just decompress. Whether it's a walk, whether it's meditation, whether it's
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playing a musical instrument. You have to create space for your own mind to
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just do a dump were just bombarded. Yeah, well, yours are very
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similar to mine, So yeah, I recommend and I teach people to do
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this, especially when I'm talking about gratitude, and manifesting with gratitude is mirror
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work, and people don't like it. And I didn't like it. And
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I got the idea from Louise Hay, so I can't say that it was
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mine. I was a big follower of hers or read of her books,
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and she started doing it and I said, okay, I'll do it,
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and I committed to doing it for sixty days straight in the morning. And
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yeah, it was very difficult because the first thing you want to do is
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criticize everything that you see wrong with you in the mirror right image. Yeah,
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it's all about the image. But the more you do it, it
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starts to change. And it's not about just seeing you know, the parts
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of yourself that you like. You know, everybody has things they're like,
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oh I like my eyes, or I like my nose or yeah. You
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start to go deeper than that, and you start to see your flaws,
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physical flaws that you think are flaws, and you start to appreciate those also,
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you know, so, yeah, it's it's it's powerful, It's definitely
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powerful. And I do think that connect the yoga, I could see connecting
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to your body and grounding yourself and is so important. And I'm the same,
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Like my mornings are my time. My phone is off, I don't
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look at emails, I don't answer the phone. It's my quiet time,
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it's my reflection, it's for whatever I want to do. Yeah, and
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that totally helps me in my life and it's served me so well. So
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I totally totally get that. Don't have you found that now that you've created
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these rituals for yourself, this self care, that you changed your energy?
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Yes, definitely. And I want to emphasize that everyone is different. So
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what worked for like Melissa and I might just make someone else not like they
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and what works? So you have to start where you are and accept where
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you are. If if you're if you're not into stretching and that doesn't feel
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good, that is completely okay. And you the whole idea is non judgment
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and these kind of things like recognize when you're criticizing yourself, when you're judging,
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when you're creating a division between you and others, because those are signs.
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And so in my book, I go through like checklists of things you
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could try to do and so you you don't have to come up with them
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on your own, because that was where I was. I was sobern out.
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I couldn't even tell you what I If someone said, you have the
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whole afternoon to do something, I'd be like, I don't even know what
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I want to do. I'd be like, right, what do you need
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to Yeah, Like it was just it was so bad, unless it was
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so bad, and but I just need it. Maybe I just needed a
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nap. And I think that's why I loved yoga. I love the vin
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Yes, and that's the oh gosh se ven Yes, it's at the end
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where you lay still. Oh yeah, when you settle in and you're yeah,
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at the end and you're just breathing. Yeah, it's the best part.
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But you're right. You have to find what works for you. Like
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for example, running for me is not my thing, like running jogging.
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I've never liked it. But some people get into a zone that's their place,
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you know. You know, we know movement gets our endorphins going,
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and we know that that's healthy for us, So whatever whatever it is for
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you. Like, one of my greatest joys for me is reading. I'm
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a major reader. I love to read, so that is part of my
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self care making sure I'm always reading a book. Yeah, but for somebody
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else it might not be. You know, So you're right. You have
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to find what works for you and start there, and just start there.
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And just what did you say that? I always found this was really helpful
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and maybe you could, maybe you can. You would say the same thing
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the way we talk to ourselves. We would never talk to a loved one,
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the things that we say to ourselves. Don't you find that true?
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Like I'm sure you would never say to your kids the things you've said to
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yourself. Absolutely, that's in my book too. Talk to yourself like you're
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your own best friend. Mm hmm. You know, how would you say
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that to your best friend? And you are a divine being and you deserve
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respect and regard, and nobody's going to treat you as a divine being until
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you can treat yourself that way. It doesn't come from the external. This
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is all remembering. It's remembering what's in you and and that divine spark that
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created you, that you're a one of one and you're part of one,
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so it's it's a great shift in your paradigm, shift in your reality if
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you can be conscious of that and catch yourself and then and not just guilt
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or to judge yourself for not being nice to yourself. It's just like,
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yeah, I see how you went there, and you know I'm going here
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now. That's how I used to talk to myself and just guide yourself in
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a loving, unconditional way, because if you know, you don't want to
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slip into judging how you judge yourself, you know right, yes I do.
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Have you found that your relationships changed with your family once you started doing
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this kind of work for yourself and how everything changed? Oh? Absolutely?
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And you know it. It goes back to your to your mantra, you
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know, the postcards to the universe. You're sending out these these vibrations that
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you're looking and you made space for another way. You're going to present yourself
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in another way, And I say, you're you're shifting timelines. You've gone
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from one way of being in the world and you decided that's not serving me
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and it's not serving the highest good because I don't feel well, so you're
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you're making space for this new timeline, this new way to show up,
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and it has to affect everyone around you because we're energetic beings and every thought
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affects everything around us. So showing up with unconditional love, self regard,
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with the idea that we're all connected, it changes everything. You get better
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service at restaurants. I have like people give me like hotel perks. I
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don't even ask, like I'll say, oh, this didn't work out,
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and I don't have to say I need a thousand you know points. They're
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like, oh, let me give you two thousand you know points or whatever.
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I don't even have to say I need points. You know, I
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travel a lot with my son, so every once in a while something goes
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wrong and I don't even have to complain anymore. You just come with this.
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I understand how this happened, and if I want it to make you
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aware and like the universe just wants to give you abundance, It wants to
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support you. But you have to see where you're you're blocking the flow because
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you're creating these illusions of separation or victimhood. You know, that was my
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big thing. I was a victim. I'm trying to do my best.
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Why is this happening to me? No, it was happening for me.
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I needed to wake up. And I still don't get me wrong, I'm
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not perfect. I still catch myself. I'm like, oh, artist,
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that's an illusion separation. You know, it's like, that's silly, don't
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go there. Oh yeah, it's true. A lot of us have had
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that victim mentality. And yeah, let's talk a little bit more about that.
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And I want to talk about your angels to the connection that you have
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with the angels when we come back from our commercial break. So let's take
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guys, and welcome back if you're just joining me. I have author Julie
30:27
Hilson on with me and their title of her book is Life of Love,
30:32
A Joyful Guide to Self and Sensuality. So, Julie rape before the break,
30:37
we were talking about, you know, shifting our It's really shifting our
30:42
vibration and our energy. It's like how we show up in the world.
30:47
Is how the world shows up in our life. So if we want to
30:49
show if we want the world to show up differently, we have to.
30:53
It's always an inside job, basically, and for many of us, inside
30:59
it's victimhood. So how did you change that? Like? How did you
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shift out of that? Oh, that's a great question, Melissa. Well.
31:07
I first had to realize that I was being a victim. I had
31:11
to get real with myself because it's you know, you're to be a victim,
31:18
you have to have an expectation that somebody's going to do something for you.
31:22
And how entitled is that? Like you start out with an expectation,
31:26
So that's like whoa, Okay, So you got to get honest that you
31:30
did that, and that doesn't feel great true, and then you realize that
31:36
you, if you're a victim, you placed a judgment on someone's behavior that
31:40
you desire what it didn't feel, what you wanted. And and I,
31:45
you know, I realized I was trying to manipulate my environment because I wanted
31:48
to control everyone and everything, and that's how I felt safe, right.
31:56
I never thought I, yeah, the way you're saying it, like,
31:59
I, yeah, that's so true, and it's true, you are manipulating
32:04
it to feel and it's also I've it's like in a way, it's like,
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well, I'm a victim, and I have to prove to you I'm
32:15
a victim. So see how all these terrible things happen to me? So
32:17
yeah, see I'm right, I'm a victim. And then you make other
32:22
people have same and that's like, right, game is so low. So
32:27
a huge eye opener was when I saw the Hawkins Emotional Scale. I don't
32:30
know if you've seen this, Yeah, I've seen it. That to me,
32:35
that's like a it's a barometer. It's like a thermometer that tells me,
32:38
you know where am I right now? Because you know you you have
32:44
when you're doing this work and you're seeing how you're you're defining your environment to
32:51
make control and you know everyone has a different way of manipulating their three D
32:57
to make it predictable. And I talk about the ego and how you know
33:01
if you're in fear based you're operating in this protective mode of ego, and
33:07
if you're in love and joy, you're out of ego. And it's not
33:13
that ego is bad because it serves us, it helps us live. It
33:16
helps us predict when the next tiger is going to come around the corner.
33:21
But we don't have tigers anymore. We don't need to live in stress and
33:23
try to manipulate our environment like that. But it once served us very well.
33:29
So it's you know, when you see it in yourself and you see
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someone else going through the same things, you're like, oh my gosh,
33:35
I see you, and I get it. I get where you're coming from.
33:37
And all of a sudden, you have compassion and you've changed from being
33:42
like offended by somebody being rude to you to being like, oh my gosh,
33:45
girl, I get it. And so all of a sudden your world
33:50
you're you're actually helping more people by being less subservient. It's really cool.
33:58
Yeah, it is a lot of out self awareness. I mean, it
34:00
really is looking deep inside yourself and asking yourself to questions like what is why
34:07
is this? You know? Is this serving me? Is is this in
34:12
my best interest? Is my behavior helping me or hurting me? And when
34:17
you really start asking yourself those questions and you start listening to the answers,
34:22
you're gonna be surprised at how much more compassion you'll have for yourself. Right,
34:30
it's but it doesn't happen overnight. I mean, it's a war works
34:32
in progress. It takes a while. It's a lot of practice, right
34:37
yea, and yeah, because I'll be like, oh, I'm doing that,
34:42
I'm doing that, and I want to shift it, but I'm stubborn
34:44
too. Yeah. Yeah, so I have a couple of steps, so
34:49
yeah, tell me, yeah, please what are they? This has been
34:52
fun. I love playing in this, in this energy and playing, you
34:55
know, getting different outcomes with the alchemy of the way you interact. So
35:00
like, you're in this situation, it's not you know, it's not right,
35:04
and you're feeling what we say, triggered or whatever you want to say.
35:07
You're annoyed, you're frustrated, whatever, Just taking a deep breath and
35:12
accept the situation. Just be in the situation for a moment, look around,
35:17
and then feel what your body's telling you. Is your throat tight,
35:22
does your stomach hurt? Do you do your legs twitch like you want to
35:27
run? Like? There are so many signals that your body, your subconscious
35:31
works through your body, and so just taking that deep breath and checking in
35:36
with your divine all knowingness that's within and around you all the time, and
35:40
that's you know, that's part of the angel work is just taking a deep
35:44
breath and saying, Okay, what do I need to see here? What
35:46
do I feel? I accept this, but what do I feel about it?
35:51
And maybe it's get the hell out of there right, like maybe you're
35:53
in danger, like this isn't a good thing, and you know your legs
35:57
twitching will tell you this isn't a place. But you know the whole idea
36:01
that you're going to accept and feel and then send compassion to yourself for being
36:07
triggered, say you know, this is something that you're having to deal with
36:10
and it's not ideal, and then to the person and speaking your truth,
36:15
seeing what they're showing you, but then also saying, yeah, this is
36:19
how it's hitting me, and you being honest gives everyone around you a permission
36:23
slip to share their truth. Yeah, now that's true. That's a good
36:30
point. Yeah. I know that if I'm triggered or somebody hurt my feelings
36:37
or I'm angry about something, if I give myself permission to be mean and
36:45
mad for a little bit, like a little bit, like Okay, something
36:49
happened I'm gonna be pissed off for the next half an hour, like that's
36:54
it, and I'll scream and yell and rant and rave or write it down
36:59
or whatever like just to kind of expel it from my body. But then
37:02
I say, Okay, time's up. That's it. You gave it,
37:07
you allowed yourself to release it, and now you're not gonna sit in it.
37:12
That that personally helps me a lot, because then I don't build up
37:15
resentments, you know what I mean, Like I learned how to honor myself
37:22
that sometimes I need to get it out. I need to be mean and
37:25
mad, I need to feel sorry for myself, but I'm not going to
37:28
live there. So let's just do it for like, you know, I
37:31
don't know, ten minutes, twenty minutes, a half an hour, whatever,
37:35
and then okay, it's time to move on, right, Like all
37:37
right, I'm done now, you know. Yeah, And that's just something
37:40
that works for me. And that's some care, you know, that's self
37:44
care. Because if you don't let that out and you just put it down,
37:47
I call it the emotional trash compactor. You just packing it down,
37:52
You're going to develop illness. It's gonna get stuck. It gets stuck in
37:55
your energy systems. And it's just I mean, that's the whole idea of
38:00
like reiki and and these these healing modalities. This is this is science now,
38:05
it's it's proven you get blocks of energy within you. So yeah,
38:09
cycling through it, speaking your truth it self care of punching a pillow or
38:15
I like to write with a wide mark sharpie, like just sharpie it out.
38:22
That's a new one. I I haven't heard that one. I'm gonna
38:25
sharp be it out right now. This is give me ten minutes, guys,
38:30
Yeah, and then then burn it, you know. Yeah, I
38:34
mean, oh, I had Mitch and I had an argument last night.
38:37
He's and he knows. Now, He's like, well, you just yell
38:39
and do what you need to do. And I'm like, thank you,
38:43
because he knows I've got to yell. I'm like, I'm a very passionate
38:45
person and and you know, and I'm feeling these things. I have got
38:51
to let it out if even if it's not intentional, like people we love
38:54
do things that hurt us and it's totally not intentional, but it still hurts
39:00
you. And it's just a disservice to pretend like it didn't hurt you because
39:04
they mean it. Yeah, And I think that's dishonoring yourself too, if
39:08
you're not if you're you know, like there's a lot of people in that
39:13
are into spirituality or into this kind of like this manifestation, and they're like,
39:17
don't want to touch on anything negative and they want to be all rainbows
39:22
and butterflies, and I that's not me. I don't think that that works.
39:27
I think because you're dishonoring we're complicated. We you have a whole host
39:30
of emotions. I think we need to honor our emotions. But it's where
39:34
we decide to live that really really makes the difference in what shows up in
39:40
our life. But I have to talk to you about angels because I want
39:46
you When you said, like you connect with the angels. Do you get
39:52
messages? Do you feel like messages are downloaded to you that you receive them,
39:55
you hear them in your head? Like, how does that work for
39:59
you? Well, you know, you go through different cycles. I've noticed
40:02
like sometimes it's through dreams. I get downloads in my sleep and I'll wake
40:07
up and I'm like, I don't think I even slept all night. I
40:10
was getting downloads, and I'll have to get up in the middle of the
40:13
night and just write things down. And other times it's just like I'll get
40:17
a sense I get this knowingness and there's no reason I should know it.
40:23
And I do believe that you're a kashik team and your angels they're all working
40:28
together. And that's part of God inside all of us, is that you
40:31
know, God has legions of angels that he uses to serve, you know,
40:36
the highest good, and so we also were part of God's in us,
40:39
so it's part of what we all have. So I encourage people just
40:44
to start asking and then ask for a sign and you'll get I'll get angel
40:50
wing like shapes around me all the time. And I used to try to
40:55
avoid the angels because I thought it was sort of like this this area that
41:01
it could be gray or scary, and I would let in, like I'm
41:06
so sensitive. I'm like what if I let in an entity that wasn't of
41:09
my highest good? And so I was really hesitant about opening my heart to
41:15
an angel message. But they used to leave me little pieces of paper in
41:21
the shape of angel wings like around my house until I was like, wow,
41:25
I'm just gonna go learn. Okay, I get it. I think
41:29
I get it. Oh my god, that's wild. Yeah, that one
41:34
hasn't happened. But I do find white feathers quite a lot in places that
41:39
wouldn't normally be a feather, like in my house, like where inn you
41:45
know, And I'm saying, like, you know, and I know it's
41:49
not on my shoe. Yeah. So yeah, it's interesting. Now,
41:53
is there? You have something that I thought was really interesting when I was
41:58
reading about you and reading some of the questions that you'd like to and to
42:01
answer. So one of yours is how can angels help my relationships? So
42:07
I was like, yeah, how can they help my relationships? We all
42:12
we could all use some of that. Oh sure, Yeah. And then
42:16
you ask the angels to show you, show me something I haven't noticed,
42:22
show me something I haven't seen m And that could be and that could work
42:29
in our favor either way. It may be something we don't like, showing
42:34
us that that's not the relationship we should be in, or showing us something
42:38
that maybe we've missed about somebody that's wonderful because we're trapped in our own you
42:45
know, heads or whatever. Yeah, and asking them to help you find
42:49
your innocence again. We've all been tainted by things like whether it's a movie
42:54
or magazines or just concepts that have clouded our ability to feel in a curious,
43:02
sensual, open way. So asking asking the angels to help cut cords
43:08
of things that don't serve you, that hide your innocence, that that make
43:14
you feel like any kind of judgment or shame about your body or about your
43:19
relationships. I mean, they can help you find peace, and it's it's
43:24
beautiful and they're just waiting for you to say, please put me, please
43:29
show me, and then and oh my gosh, just please thank them.
43:34
You need to thank them. And I'll just be like, oh, think
43:37
you thank you, think you thank you, flap around. It's so fun.
43:43
Well, yeah, I feel like that too. I don't think the
43:45
angels necessarily would care that you thank them, but I think in the thinking
43:50
is that you're tapping into the gratitude. You're grateful for the experience, you
43:54
know what I mean? Like, that's what like, because there's seeing us
44:00
from such a higher perspective that we're not seeing us right, and they're so
44:07
loving, unconditionally of us humans who come here to Earth school and are very
44:13
flawed and are figuring it out and are trying to grow and evolve. But
44:20
yeah, I love that. So just asking them to show you something that
44:23
you don't know in your relationship that's really interesting. And anytime you've done that,
44:29
you've gotten some kind of an answer. Oh the clarity, Yes,
44:32
you get clarity, you get peace, and you know it's it's a beautiful
44:38
thing. And you can call on a team of angels like you can form
44:42
your relationship just like you do your postcards. You can have your team of
44:45
angels like my relationship for being present, my angel for being present in my
44:52
relationship, my angel for being compassionate, my angel for being authentic. You
44:57
know, think if you can think of your core value of your relationships and
45:00
ask for an angel to be part of that team, you can call on
45:05
the team and you can even get a bit, give it a code.
45:07
You can be like my angel team one oh one. Like whatever you decide,
45:12
you're defining it. You're creating this team. And I'm telling you it's
45:15
it's part of their role too, Like angels have duties and so when we
45:21
call on them, it helps them get to their next level. And it's
45:23
it's all of our oneness. It's so fun. It is fun because I
45:28
do call on certain angels for different things, so I do, but I
45:31
never thought about it as like giving it like a code. Like I like,
45:35
if you're in like serious trouble and you need like a rescue, you
45:38
can come up with something. Yeah, that's cute. Yeah, nam I
45:44
twelve twenty one, the twelve twenty one, and then my team is there.
45:47
I'm like, I need help now. I love that. And I
45:52
love this question that you had too, because I never thought about I never
45:57
thought this question ever, but I love it. How can spirituality help my
46:01
sex life? And I thought, hmmm, I got to ask her about
46:06
that, because that's really interesting. What do you mean by that? Well,
46:09
it comes back to your divinity and that your body is a vessel and
46:15
it's a sacred thing. So when you're when you're coming into a union as
46:23
a sacred being of light, as a sacred being of presence, your senses
46:30
are heightened because you understand it's it's your divinity that you're sharing. And even
46:37
if your significant other doesn't prescribe to the same spiritual concepts, they do feel
46:45
the difference and energy when you come with this presence and this piece of I'm
46:50
going to share my divinity with you. It's really special. M Yeah,
46:57
I can see how it could be. And there is a lot of shame
47:02
around people's sexuality and sex, and so I can see how shifting that and
47:09
try and bringing light to it and spirituality to your own sexuality can shift that
47:16
energy for you. Because there are a lot of people who are shamed,
47:19
who are ashamed of sex and having sex and who they have sex with or
47:23
who they're attracted to. And that's sad, you know, because that makes
47:29
your energy vibrate lower. And like we said earlier, we didn't really get
47:32
into it. But when you vibrate low and you have shame and you have
47:37
guilt, and you have anger, and it's and it's held down and you
47:39
push it down, your body will develop a disease that will manifest into a
47:45
disease down the line. Because it's it. It doesn't just go away,
47:49
right, doesn't just disappear. So energy never does. It has to change,
47:54
It has to change, it keeps moving. So for anybody who's lists
48:00
who it's maybe having a hard time finding any kind of inspiration or joy or
48:08
any passion in their life, is there anything that you talk about in your
48:14
book or that you recommend that people can start incorporating on a daily basis that
48:20
can maybe start to spark that mm hmm. I tell you there's three different
48:24
sections in my book, and the first one is knowing your Light and understanding
48:29
that you're a being of light, And there's exercises to bring in your light,
48:34
to ask the angels to show you your light, to see how your
48:38
how you're most brilliant in the world, and understand that you are needed any
48:44
matter. But also if you're having thoughts of self injury, if you you
48:50
know, if there's something going on deeper that you're questioning your existence, please
48:54
seek professional you know, mental health professionals. I'm not a nice psychologist.
49:00
I'm a speech pathologist. So these are these are things to look at.
49:05
But I'm not gonna say I know all the answers. I'm gonna I'm gonna
49:08
lead you on a quest and take what serves you and leave what doesn't.
49:13
But then also, you know, treating your body as this divine vessels Part
49:16
two, and how you're taking care of yourself. What kind of sleep are
49:20
you getting, what are you putting into your body? What are you allowing
49:22
around you? What's in your surroundings. Music carries a vibration, like if
49:27
you listen to violent music, your body picks up on that and it makes
49:30
you constricted and small and not you're not your best self. Yeah, so
49:37
there's all these things to consider how you decorate, you know, like the
49:40
elements, earthwind, white water, fire, you know, incorporate these things
49:45
because they're all part of how we manifest right, and to have these things
49:49
around you and you know, are do you have a mess? You know,
49:52
your internal being can't be satisfied and clear if you're living in chaos.
49:59
So look at that. You know, it's like an inventory of things.
50:01
And I have charts, I have crossword puzzles. It's really fun. I've
50:06
had a last putting it together. And then the last the last section is
50:09
dynamics of relationships and so these are these are the way we interact and we
50:16
interplay and and to really look at observe how you're showing up because that's ninety
50:23
nine point nine percent of it is what you're feeling inside you're projecting out.
50:28
So if you're not getting what you want, it's something like you said,
50:30
it's your work it's your work to look at yourself and and stop projecting.
50:36
Please stop projecting if you're if you're upset with something inside, and you know
50:40
you can do some things to get to your inner soul to find your You
50:45
know a lot of people love inner child work, and I think it's fabulous.
50:49
I don't talk about in my book, but I really think it's a
50:52
powerful tool. Yeah. Well, that's what I liked about the postcards because
50:57
when people are making them, especially like together, when we do them and
51:00
as a group and a workshop, like I'll notice that adults who are very
51:05
serious when they walk into the room turn into little kids at play by the
51:08
time they're like picking all the art. It's like when you used to,
51:12
you know, draw with crayons and coloring books and you're putting all your stuff
51:15
together. You can feel the energy shift. You can feel it and it's
51:20
like we're kids again. We're playing, we're creating. And yeah, so
51:23
there's something about the tapping into the inner child that is so true. I
51:30
think we need to do that more. And I wanted to ask you this
51:35
is dawned on me because this happened to me and I don't know if it
51:38
happened to you when you cause you mentioned there was a time that yes,
51:42
you had the beautiful house, it looked like you had the beautiful life,
51:45
but inside you weren't feeling fulfilled. You weren't feeling joy. When you started
51:51
doing your own work and everything changed for you, did you notice that you
51:55
both met new people came into your life that matched you, and also some
52:00
old people had left your life that no longer resonated with you. Did you
52:06
have that experience personally? Yeah, it was so. It was so hard
52:10
because I wanted to bring everyone along with me and I talk about what I
52:15
was experiencing or what I was feeling or thinking about, and I would get
52:20
this glass look from some of my friends, like their eyes with glaze over,
52:24
like what are I don't even know? And you know, some some
52:29
of the relationships it didn't even end like in a great way, like I
52:32
was triggering people, and I had to be like, I wish you peace,
52:37
but I need to like stop this, you know, like I wish
52:38
you all the peace. Because when you're shining this light, it also shows
52:44
darkness and it gets uncomfortable, and you show people things in themselves that they
52:49
don't want to see, and I didn't do it on purpose, but I
52:52
had to learn that to take it personally because when something moves out of your
52:55
life, whatever it is, whenever you lose something, it's to make space
53:01
for something that you're supposed to be focusing on, because if you just collect,
53:07
you're hoarding everything and you're not making space for what could be. So
53:10
and it's not that I treat my friends like, you know, like objects,
53:15
But it's all about you know, you're you're going to resonate with certain
53:19
people. And you know, I have friends around the world. Now who
53:22
I say, you're a you're my friend, you know. And I would
53:27
have never had friends around the world had I not opened up my heart to
53:30
the possibilities. Yeah. Yeah, it's an adjustment. It's a huge adjustment.
53:37
Yeah, it is. It is an adjustment, and it's not always
53:39
easy because it's some people you may have known your whole life and it hurts,
53:44
you know, but yeah, but you're just a They just don't match.
53:50
You just don't match anymore on a frequency level. So something will happen
53:54
or they'll just go away. And you know, but you have to trust,
54:00
right, you have to trust that it's all for your higher good.
54:05
It's all for your best interests. And you said this earlier life is not
54:08
happening to me, it's happening for me. And if you can really say
54:14
that mantra and get it and really and really say it, especially when difficult
54:20
things happen, you can start to look for the lessons in when sometimes certain
54:24
painful things do come up. I mean that's just been my experience that's helped
54:29
me personally one hundred percent. I totally agree. Yeah, so we only
54:36
have I can't believe it. We're on we have like two minutes, not
54:38
even So is there anything that you didn't get to mention or say that you
54:44
feel is really important that you want to say before we wrap up? Oh?
54:47
I just I honor you and what you're doing in your audience. And
54:52
you know, anyone who's listened to this whole thing, you know. I
54:55
just I'm holding you and I know that you can get where you want to
55:00
be. And it's you know, you're you're being very brave to even consider
55:05
these things. And you know I see you, even though if I've never
55:08
met you, I'm holding you in my energy and I'm supporting you because I
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know that you're here for a reason, and it's worth the effort most.
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I really appreciate you having me on. I've just it's been a delight.
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Oh, thank you. And tell people if they want to reach out to
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you and connect with you and get your book where they'll find you the best
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way. Yeah. Well, my website's Life of lovejoy dot com and there's
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a link to my book on there and the audiobook, and I'm also on
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Amazon. But yeah, my website's a the hub of everything, and I'm
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also on Instagram and Facebook if you look up Life of Love Julie Hilson.
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Oh, thank you, Julia. It was such a delight talking to you
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today. Thank you so much for being with me. All right, guys,
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thank you for listening to Postcards to the Universe with Melissa creating the life
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you crave. And I'm wishing every everyone a wonderful week filled with joy,
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abundance and love. Peace,