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Almost Famous OGs: Summer of Love with Ashley Hebert · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the almost famous podcast with iHeart Radio. Hi Bob,
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  Speaker 1: how are you? Hi, Trista, I'm fantastic. How are you today?
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  Speaker 1: I'm doing okay even though it's a blizzard outside, but
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  Speaker 1: you know, yeah, that's Colorado for you, at least in
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  Speaker 1: slight and fluffy snow like I think powder when I
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  Speaker 1: think of Colorado. When I think of Michigan stell lately,
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  Speaker 1: I think of like an ice, like black ice. Yeah. Well,
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  Speaker 1: one thing to brighten our day is the fact that
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  Speaker 1: we both get to talk to Ashley today. I'm so excited.
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  Speaker 1: I'm excited too. I can't wait to have her on
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  Speaker 1: talk about an og, talk about Yeah, I'm excited. Hi
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  Speaker 1: are hi? Beautiful Trista, I kind of feel like you
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  Speaker 1: and I look at like a little bit like maybe. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: so seriously, I feel like when You're a Bachelor and
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  Speaker 1: Bachelorette came out, so many people wrote me saying that
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  Speaker 1: we were twins. Oh yeah, so many people. And I
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  Speaker 1: take it as a huge compliment obviously, but yes, I've
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  Speaker 1: always thought we look alike. I feel yes, it's like
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  Speaker 1: maybe the shape of horse name, I don't know, and
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  Speaker 1: we're just teeny, just teeny little pocket size mind size people.
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  Speaker 1: I love it. How are you? Ye? Work great? How
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  Speaker 1: are you? I'm so excited. So Bob doesn't know this,
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  Speaker 1: but I am going to Miami tomorrow, Bob with Blakeslee
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  Speaker 1: because we're having a Miami Dancer alumni reunion. Oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 1: how I mean, I'm so freaking nervous because I'm going
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  Speaker 1: to be dancing on the court at halftime at the
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  Speaker 1: next game. But yes, I know. Actually I'm done. I'm done.
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  Speaker 1: But I'm beautiful too. It's like summer's coming. You can
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  Speaker 1: feel it. The sun's just PERI actually so excited to
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  Speaker 1: not be in New York right now, given the way
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  Speaker 1: the weather's hit in New York for so many years.
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  Speaker 1: Like I feel like my childhood and my previous life
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  Speaker 1: is like a lifetime ago. Yeah, I mean so, it's like, God,
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  Speaker 1: I would never go back there. I mean, yeah, I
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  Speaker 1: never You know something about Florida that's just so beautiful,
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  Speaker 1: And I think it's important for people to just find
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  Speaker 1: a place that makes them feel happy every day. Like
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  Speaker 1: I walk up, I wake up in the morning, I
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  Speaker 1: look outside. There's so much beauty, There's so much just
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  Speaker 1: there's so much to be grateful for. And I feel
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  Speaker 1: like once you find a place where, no matter what's
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  Speaker 1: going on in your life, you can feel that way about.
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  Speaker 1: It just brings me so much happiness. I know, it's
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  Speaker 1: really important to me. So I love that. I like
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  Speaker 1: hearing that too. That's very lovely. Well, the reason I
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  Speaker 1: brought up the heat thing is because I might get
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  Speaker 1: to see Ashley in person. I know, um, so hopefully
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  Speaker 1: it works out, but if not, it's business schedule yours too.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we're just busy, like non stop. Soccer and
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  Speaker 1: dance and basketball. Are those the things? Soccer in basketball
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  Speaker 1: for forty and he's a dancer, acro yes, tell us,
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  Speaker 1: tell us all the things about the kiddos. Okay, so well,
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  Speaker 1: you know Ford is very athletic. So Ford is a
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  Speaker 1: lot of things. He's very athletic. He likes to move around,
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  Speaker 1: he's very physical. He's tried every sport so and he's
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  Speaker 1: really great at every sport. I have to say, amazing.
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  Speaker 1: But and this is probably personality. When it gets a
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  Speaker 1: little too intense for him, like too demanding, that's when
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  Speaker 1: he pulls back and he wants to try something else.
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  Speaker 1: Very interesting. It's very interesting. So he has an intense
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  Speaker 1: like competitive or intense, like yeah, okay, got it. Time commitment, right,
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  Speaker 1: So he made um like a competitive soccer league, Like
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  Speaker 1: he tried out and he made it. But the practices
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  Speaker 1: were like three times a week, and then there were
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  Speaker 1: games every weekend sometimes both days. It was too much.
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  Speaker 1: The kid just wanted to break because I just want
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  Speaker 1: to go home. I don't want So that's a lot
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  Speaker 1: for a young kid, you know, it really is. Oh yeah, absolutely,
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  Speaker 1: And I feel like we run sometimes we won't maybe maybe,
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  Speaker 1: And that's I'll speak for myself. Sometimes I feel like
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  Speaker 1: we have to fill our kids' schedules with saving things.
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  Speaker 1: To me, feel like we're amazing parents for doing all
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  Speaker 1: these things for them and doing our rest with Bosom.
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  Speaker 1: But also I think the kids need a freaking break. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: we're going through that right now. We have a four
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  Speaker 1: year old and one and a half year old, and
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  Speaker 1: our four year old like every day, my wife like
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  Speaker 1: loves to have like activities every day, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: the day I was like, I think he just wants
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  Speaker 1: to like sit down and watch Bluey for like an hour,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and we never let them watch I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: let's just chill today, Like let's do not because I
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  Speaker 1: think you're right. I think sometimes it's just like, I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I know for a fact, growing up, I was bored
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  Speaker 1: a lot, and there was nothing wrong with that, you know,
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  Speaker 1: I was okay to not have anything to do. Basically, Yes, yeah, well,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like as they get older, too, like their
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  Speaker 1: schedules will just get worse and worse and more busy
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  Speaker 1: and more busy. I mean, I've said this multiple times.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like, even on the podcast, when my kids
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  Speaker 1: were newborns, I felt like I couldn't be any more
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  Speaker 1: busy because I was feeding them two hours and la la,
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  Speaker 1: and now, oh it beats newborn stage, it beats all
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  Speaker 1: the stages. It's just once they find what they love,
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  Speaker 1: which is a fun process of figuring out what they love,
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  Speaker 1: but finding out what they love and what they're okay
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  Speaker 1: being committed to and then committing to that like, oh gosh,
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  Speaker 1: it is it is crazy town. It is really. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's intense. So those moments of relaxation and just chilling out,
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  Speaker 1: zoning out. Give the phone to them, give the iPad,
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  Speaker 1: give the TV. I'm all for that. Yeah. The end
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  Speaker 1: of the day, like when we're finished at work, when
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  Speaker 1: I go home, I want to be brainless for a
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  Speaker 1: little while, totally. Like once they get home from school
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  Speaker 1: and they always do an activity every school at at
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  Speaker 1: their school. When they get home, I don't demand that
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  Speaker 1: they do their homework right away and get all their
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  Speaker 1: reading done, get all that done. Yeah, allow them at
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  Speaker 1: least an hour and a half sometimes two hours to
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  Speaker 1: yea and their brain to make decisions about what they
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  Speaker 1: want to do in these moments, Like these kids are
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  Speaker 1: so regimented, and like they tell me you have to
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  Speaker 1: go here, and then you gotta move here, and you're
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  Speaker 1: gonna move there. Like I think it's so beautiful for
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  Speaker 1: kids to just have freedom and to explore their own
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  Speaker 1: decisions and make their mistakes and all, like anyway, whatever
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  Speaker 1: I could, Yeah, agreed. Tell us about Essie. What's she
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  Speaker 1: into these days? I know she's your little mini me.
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  Speaker 1: I love my son, He's I know you do. I
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  Speaker 1: know I love him. He's also a little pain in
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  Speaker 1: the butt sometimes, But I love aren't they all? Aren't
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  Speaker 1: they all my daughter I want? But I love her more.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not saying that. I'm saying there's something so unique
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  Speaker 1: about that for me that, like mother Bond, I see
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  Speaker 1: so much of myself and her when she either responds
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  Speaker 1: a specific way or she has a certain emotion, I
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  Speaker 1: can feel like because I'm like, that's how I would feel. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I feel like I understand her and can connect to her,
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  Speaker 1: and I feel like she's just kind of a minime,
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  Speaker 1: and she is a minime, she is, for sure. I
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  Speaker 1: loved the little dancing video that you guys did side
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  Speaker 1: by side. I think I was watching it with someone,
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  Speaker 1: and whoever was watching it with me was like, you
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  Speaker 1: should have done that with Blakesley, like growing up. I
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  Speaker 1: just I don't know, I just don't have time. And
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  Speaker 1: it's fun, but um but I just never did it.
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  Speaker 1: You need to continue to do that because it's really
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  Speaker 1: cute to see, you know, and because you dance like
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  Speaker 1: I just find that she's starting to show injury. I
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  Speaker 1: never wanted to push it on her because but I
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  Speaker 1: wanted her to kind of like come into her own
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  Speaker 1: and she explored soccer and you know, yeah, but she's
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  Speaker 1: she likes something very exciting. I mean, Miami is such
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  Speaker 1: a great place for her because, oh my god, there
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  Speaker 1: are so many studios, so many studios. You are dialed
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  Speaker 1: in in Miami. If she wants to dance that's so
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  Speaker 1: exciting as a dance mom myself. Yes, I know yours.
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  Speaker 1: We are I I love it. I just and we're
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  Speaker 1: boy first girl second. You know so many you know
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  Speaker 1: so many things. We look alike. We love our daughters. No, actually,
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  Speaker 1: I actually, you know. It's really funny. I remember this
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  Speaker 1: is several years ago because one of the kids, I'm
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  Speaker 1: assuming it was Assy, was still I think it was
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  Speaker 1: still in diapers, and there was this video that you
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  Speaker 1: put on, like a video that you put on Instagram.
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  Speaker 1: I sound like I'm even older than I really am.
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  Speaker 1: It was like a real that you made and I'll
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  Speaker 1: never forget it. But you like you made up some
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  Speaker 1: song and I think it might have been JP At
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  Speaker 1: the time, I caught you singing this song. Oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: was so adorable, and it's just just flashed in my
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  Speaker 1: head and I remember like catching myself singing that song
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  Speaker 1: that you basically wrote that day on your Instagram. Like
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  Speaker 1: I'm like you, I can't remember what it is. I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna look it up later and I'm gonna find it.
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  Speaker 1: I want to text it too, because I remember thinking
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  Speaker 1: how cute it was and I was like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 1: I do that all the time. I'm always like making
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  Speaker 1: up songs to you know, keep my kids kind of
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  Speaker 1: engaged and all right. And I remember seeing that and
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  Speaker 1: I was like, and it was at the time, and
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  Speaker 1: I thought of this. The second I found out we're
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  Speaker 1: gonna get to interview you, I remember thinking, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: that's it makes it actually so relatable. And white people
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  Speaker 1: love you so much is because you would post these
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  Speaker 1: things of you just being yourself, and you know, you
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  Speaker 1: didn't care if you I mean, he looked obviously you
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  Speaker 1: looked gorgeous at the time, but you didn't care if
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  Speaker 1: you had makeup on or whatever. It's like, you know
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people don't do that, right, A lot
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  Speaker 1: of people, I think, are you know, basically have a
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  Speaker 1: professional film crew following around twenty four seven and I
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  Speaker 1: just love it. Remember my wife, I'm talking about it,
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  Speaker 1: That's true. I remember my wife and I talked about it.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, that is awesome. We would be such
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  Speaker 1: great friends with Ashley if we live near her. Well,
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  Speaker 1: you know, I try to be cool and normal. They
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  Speaker 1: can do they do? They know about the show? The kids? Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: they do, they do. Actually, there's a really funny video
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  Speaker 1: of my daughter because about a year ago. I think
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  Speaker 1: they've tried. They figured it out a year ago, I
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  Speaker 1: would say. And they're how old right now? So he
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  Speaker 1: four it is eight and say six, So they've always known.
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  Speaker 1: But I just don't think they've never watched this show.
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  Speaker 1: So they don't understand the complexity. They don't understand that
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  Speaker 1: maybe people recognize them, you know, at school or some
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  Speaker 1: of the teachers might like, you know, be you know,
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  Speaker 1: like the girl Yeah, see, like filmed herself on my
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  Speaker 1: phone one day. She's like, she's sitting there and she
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  Speaker 1: goes on, I'm going to re enact because it was
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  Speaker 1: just she's like, you know, she was recording herself, like
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  Speaker 1: as if she was a YouTuber. Okay, everybody knows us,
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  Speaker 1: and I don't know if we're famous or rich. I
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  Speaker 1: don't know which, either of those. But you know, so
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  Speaker 1: they don't will they don't care. They don't know. If
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  Speaker 1: they don't care, they're too young, you know, like maybe
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  Speaker 1: they're teenagers, they'll think it's cool, but no, like too young. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: if it's on the air and it's I got you know,
• 12:02
  Speaker 1: a resurgence of ratings, they well, but right now yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: you don't actually and you trist I's hear me say
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  Speaker 1: this story times, but I love it. So we're doing
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  Speaker 1: something together, and um, here's why we know that they
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  Speaker 1: won't think it's cool when they're teenagers. Trists like Max, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I want you to meet my ex boyfriend Bob, and
• 12:18
  Speaker 1: he goes it's uh yeah, he's just like okay, whatever.
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  Speaker 1: Its just and I'm like, ain't good to see a
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  Speaker 1: man that phase of like they're too cool. So maybe
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  Speaker 1: they won't care for sure. I mean, you never know.
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  Speaker 1: I can't say, of course you know they won't care.
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  Speaker 1: But I just feel like it is exciting for you know,
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  Speaker 1: every so often if one of their friends recognizes or
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  Speaker 1: one of their friends parents recognizes, then they're you know,
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  Speaker 1: kind of get a little ego boost and they're like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: I'm cool, my parents are cool. And then it just
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  Speaker 1: goes away and it becomes like cringey, you know, exactly.
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  Speaker 1: Just always. I just feel living in Miami the Bachelor
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  Speaker 1: Bachelotte world, it's so not in my life, like right,
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  Speaker 1: living in la or living in New York where people
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  Speaker 1: watch it. In Miami, I don't know if I'm just
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  Speaker 1: making a generalization, like nobody knows me here. I walk around,
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I look a little different, but I walk
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  Speaker 1: around like I never get recognized. Really, really do you
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  Speaker 1: get recognized when you travel? Yeah? More, Yeah, if I'm
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  Speaker 1: at an airport or am I saying in a different
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  Speaker 1: city on vacation, like people were recognizing but Miami, I
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  Speaker 1: think it's maybe it's just a different culture. They're not
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  Speaker 1: they don't really, Yeah, that's true. It's a theory I have.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like the Midwest is a big hub like Texas.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know about Michigan, Bob, you can speak to that,
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  Speaker 1: but I feel like and I went back to Saint
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  Speaker 1: Louis got recognized a couple of times, Like I feel
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  Speaker 1: like Texas is a big hub misable right the first
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  Speaker 1: body watching, everybody knew you like everyone was. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I just feel like you're way more recognizable the godmother
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  Speaker 1: of the godmother and saying grand I say, you're the
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  Speaker 1: godmother of the grandfather of the franchise. I think as
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  Speaker 1: Michigan's my you know, my home state, and I filmed
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  Speaker 1: all the stuff here and all that kind of stuff.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's why probably Michigan for me is a lot,
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  Speaker 1: But I got a lot in Seattle too. But you
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  Speaker 1: know it's really weird as you're right in Florida unless
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: I'm at the airport, I can say honestly, and I
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: was just in Orlando for the better part of a week.
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  Speaker 1: I pretty much moved through that place, you know, with
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  Speaker 1: great anonymity. It was nice. Yeah, yeah, totally. Do you
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  Speaker 1: still watch the show, Ashley, Bachelor, Bachelort in Paradise, any
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  Speaker 1: of it? So? First off, Bachelor in Paradise this last
• 15:03
  Speaker 1: season was so good. I love you no, right, I
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  Speaker 1: know same? Um, I watch it, okay, so I have
• 15:10
  Speaker 1: you know, obviously JP and I are divorced, so we
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  Speaker 1: share custody. So every other Monday, when I don't have
• 15:18
  Speaker 1: the kids, I watch it, But if I have them,
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  Speaker 1: I'm usually like packing, like, yeah, I'm tiring. You don't
• 15:24
  Speaker 1: have the Bachelor in Paradise in the background. Paradise, excuse
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  Speaker 1: me to excuse me, kids, I need to listen to
• 15:32
  Speaker 1: this lokated to Bachelor in Paradise. I wouldn't report it.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: With Bachelor, I'm kind of like every other week I'll
• 15:39
  Speaker 1: up don't because I know nobody used me same same. No,
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: you know you guys are both I'm sure way better
• 15:45
  Speaker 1: watchers than I am. Because I literally go on these
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: little things where we do the iHeart stuff and I'm like, Hi,
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: what's your name? Oh on Clayton, I was just a
• 15:53
  Speaker 1: bachel me like, but yeah, we're curious about that because
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  Speaker 1: I mean, so you mentioned about you and JP, so
• 16:07
  Speaker 1: you know, it's kind of interesting because I was curious,
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  Speaker 1: Like I had a question. I was wondering, do you
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  Speaker 1: guys both live in Miami area then? Or did he?
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  Speaker 1: Because I remember I wasn't sure what the timing of things,
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  Speaker 1: you know, kind of was on that. So we moved
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  Speaker 1: to Miami from New York together right when I was
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  Speaker 1: in my son or our son, and we lived here
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  Speaker 1: for what six years, and then we lived together obviously,
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  Speaker 1: and then we divorced, but we both stayed in Miami.
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  Speaker 1: We just live in different parts of Miami, but we're
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  Speaker 1: always ten away. So it's very easy, and you know,
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  Speaker 1: it's been actually pretty seamless in terms of like logistics,
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  Speaker 1: like we're both very dedicated to them and bringing them
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  Speaker 1: to all their dreams and practices. Yeah, you know, I
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  Speaker 1: better have a good relationship if you're going to do
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  Speaker 1: all that together. So it's hard, it's hard. I have
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  Speaker 1: a friend going through right now and if you don't
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  Speaker 1: have a co parent who's as dedicated as you are, yeah, oh,
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  Speaker 1: all that responsibility on you or yell. So, you know,
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  Speaker 1: it was kind of interesting because when I got married
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  Speaker 1: after the Bachelor, of course, but not to anyone from
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  Speaker 1: the show, and we were both in the public eye,
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  Speaker 1: and when we split up, it was so hard, and
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  Speaker 1: I remember thinking, you know, if I wasn't the Bachelor guy,
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: they wouldn't care, right, And then to be in the
• 17:27
  Speaker 1: situation that you guys were in, which was the couple
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  Speaker 1: that was formed on the show, to go through that divorce,
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  Speaker 1: that had to be so much pressure, I would imagine
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  Speaker 1: from you know, the outside looking in, was it was.
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  Speaker 1: It had to be other than I know it was
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  Speaker 1: difficult just in and of itself. I know, you guys
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  Speaker 1: actually loved and cared about each other so much, and
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  Speaker 1: I know how hard that can be. But that had
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  Speaker 1: to be a lot to navigate. Yeah, I think there
• 17:48
  Speaker 1: were a lot of different layers to it, right, So
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  Speaker 1: being in the public eye, certainly it didn't keep us
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  Speaker 1: together and didn't tear us apart. I think that it
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  Speaker 1: put pressure on us to really, like first off, stay
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  Speaker 1: private about everything like we were ever about anything until
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  Speaker 1: we were certain, um, And then I think it does
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  Speaker 1: in a way put a little more pressure on you
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: to like try, try, try as much as you can, right,
• 18:15
  Speaker 1: I don't I mean, I don't know if that's the
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: right answer, but that's and I don't know if JP
• 18:19
  Speaker 1: feels that way, but I certainly felt like, man, I
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: want to make sure that we're making the right decision
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: for my kids. And then also I do subconsciously there's
• 18:28
  Speaker 1: a party, it's like I'm gonna let down, and I'm
• 18:30
  Speaker 1: kind of like a people pleaser, like I look to
• 18:33
  Speaker 1: people right that That's that I could talk a whole
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: hour about um. But when you're a people pleaser, you
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: you think more about how it'll affect other people versus yourself. Right,
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: So I in many years thinking that, you know, like
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: into the decision when really it shouldn't, like the only
• 18:54
  Speaker 1: people that should matter are your family or your kids
• 18:56
  Speaker 1: and yourself. So yeah, that was challenging. But I have
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: to say the most surprising thing I could talk about
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: divorce so much because I have to tell you, guys,
• 19:07
  Speaker 1: when when we separate and we went public, the amount
• 19:12
  Speaker 1: of hate I WoT on my social media, sure men,
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: was mind blowing, like the messages. I mean I could
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: go back and probably look, yeah, that's something that really
• 19:28
  Speaker 1: was like, Wow, nothing happened. We didn't teat there was
• 19:31
  Speaker 1: no one fidelity we we I truly feel like we
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: handled our divorce the best that we could and probably
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: that anyone could. Like we really put the kids first.
• 19:43
  Speaker 1: We made decisions based on the kids what we felt
• 19:45
  Speaker 1: was their well being. We treat each treat each other fairly,
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: I felt. So it was really hard to read all
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: those messages. I remember asking JP like, hey, do you
• 19:55
  Speaker 1: get I remember texting, hey, I'm getting like messages from people.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: Do you get anything? He's like nope, really interesting, real
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: wait a second, So all the hate was going to you,
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: like everyone thought separated your family, like it was like
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: I I was the one that did you know nobody?
• 20:14
  Speaker 1: Do you think it's because you're a mom and that's why,
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: like people put this onus on the mom to like
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: make sure your kids are first. Do you think that's why? Like,
• 20:24
  Speaker 1: looking back, I'm really not sure if I have a theory.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: I actually do because I went through it too, And
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: I think you go through it because you know you're
• 20:34
  Speaker 1: on this show that basically you had, and I mean
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: people would say this to me, and I remember thinking
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: to myself, Oh my god, if they only knew how
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: the stuff works. But they like, you had thirty guys
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: that she was from and you still couldn't make it work.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: And I when I when Estella and I didn't work out,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: so I can only imagine for you actually, But then
• 20:52
  Speaker 1: when my when my wife and I split up, at
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: the time my ex wife and I split up, I
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: remember people were like, you know, oh, they just did
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: it for the fame they did. It's like, uh, you know,
• 21:01
  Speaker 1: a lot to go through to try and get you know, Instagram.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: I wasn't even around when I was like, I'm like, oh,
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: when I try to get like, uh my Space followers,
• 21:08
  Speaker 1: what was I doing this for? You know? Yeah? Yeah.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: But I remember thinking to myself, God, it's so pointed, like,
• 21:15
  Speaker 1: and it was all about the fact that you know,
• 21:17
  Speaker 1: you were this person, you had this choice to make,
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: and you still mess it up. How is that possible?
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: You know? Absolutely? And I actually never thought of it,
• 21:26
  Speaker 1: but I feel like that that's a that's a really
• 21:28
  Speaker 1: good theory. But it's funny because I always joke around
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: with people, like my kids took my our divorce much
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: better than half of America, Like the divorced with such
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: grace and they still and I do appreciation and maturity.
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: My daughter was four, Ford was actually maybe she was
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: she was foreign. I think he was about to be sick.
• 21:55
  Speaker 1: I'm trying to think maybe five. But heat when you
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: when I when we sat in the kitchen and Jake
• 22:02
  Speaker 1: is like, I can't do it. You have to do it. Really,
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: when this was before it was happening or during was
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: this was right, but when we had need the decision,
• 22:11
  Speaker 1: we're coming open. Yeah, We're sitting in the kitchen and
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: JP's sitting at the sync and I'm sitting here, and
• 22:18
  Speaker 1: Ford's there, and SE's there. Es he's young, so I
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: don't know how much the others stood at the time. Yeah,
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: never forget. We explained it, you know, like we consulted
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: with a child psychologist to see how the best way
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: to present the information was right appropriately for their age.
• 22:32
  Speaker 1: So when we um, we explained to him in kids turns,
• 22:37
  Speaker 1: you know, like how people you know when they love
• 22:39
  Speaker 1: each other and what you do you know, marriage and
• 22:42
  Speaker 1: then when um, you know, like things don't work out
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: and you're not being nice kind to each other anymore,
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: you know whatever. We explained it and that that's what
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: was happening with us, that we weren't making each other
• 22:54
  Speaker 1: happy anymore, we weren't being as kind as we wanted
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: to be our relationship. You know. We're just talking about that.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: And you know, he said, he looks, said, I understand,
• 23:04
  Speaker 1: and I'm okay with it. And I said, so, I
• 23:10
  Speaker 1: said it again and again and he said, no, Mom,
• 23:14
  Speaker 1: I get it. I'm okay with it. Understand. You know,
• 23:18
  Speaker 1: it was really that's a lot of emotional intelligence for
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: a little kid, you know what I mean. It was,
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: and they still have been super well adjusted, super you know.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: And I think we try to sometimes protect kids from
• 23:32
  Speaker 1: the world, but know, everybody, divorce is happening. It doesn't
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: have to be a bad thing. We don't have to
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: force people to be in a place that's not you know,
• 23:43
  Speaker 1: working for them anymore. Your kids in a relationship that's
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: not you know, like just working for everybody. And I
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: think if you handle it well and you present it well, yeah,
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: more kids not only will they understand and accept, but
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: they will flourish. Like I seeing my kids flourish. I
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: don't know, it's just it's Yeah, you guys are both
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: such kind and good people. It's like it sounds like
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: if it has to happen, I mean, you know the
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: way you handled it. I mean I probably couldn't have
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: been handled any better. I'm sure. Yeah, I mean we're
• 24:18
  Speaker 1: not perfect, but I feel like we really did a
• 24:21
  Speaker 1: pretty good job. Yeah, yeah, it seems like it. So
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: do you feel like Ford was able to process it
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: because he saw the way you guys were treating each other.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: So that's what everybody, you know, if I ever tell
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: that story, that's pretty much what the tailor day they observed.
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: And kids are very smart, So maybe the answer is yes.
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: But one thing about JP and I is like we're
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: not fighters, Like we're behind closed doors. We just would
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: have conversations and it would be tense, but we were
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: never like me. Yeah, no, I totally get that mentioned too.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: There's a possibility about you know that you're right about that.
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: Maybe he sensed it, Yeah, because I feel like when
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: Ryan and I argue we're not fighters either, Like, especially
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: in front of the kids. If we're going to have
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: a conversation and we know it's going to be you know,
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: it's going to get heated a little bit. Then we'll
• 25:17
  Speaker 1: make sure we're private in a bathroom with the door
• 25:20
  Speaker 1: closed and the fan on or something. You know. Um,
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: but I feel like anytime I wear it on my face,
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: like you can see if I'm upset on my face,
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: Like Blakesley especially is very part of me in tune
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: with that, and she'll be like, Mom, are you okay? Mom?
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: What's right? Like? Mom, are you okay? Um? Yeah, yeah,
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: I get it. I think they can sense that you're right,
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: like kids just sense what's going on. So maybe he
• 25:50
  Speaker 1: understood that. I remember when my parents got divorced and
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: they sat me down and you know the same thing.
• 25:56
  Speaker 1: You know, we're It's just it's better for everybody involved.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: And I think you're right, Like, divorce happens, and you
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: can still live a happy life after divorce. And obviously
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: it was an incredible thing that you and JP met
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: on the show and were able to have, you know,
• 26:14
  Speaker 1: these two beautiful kids and they have a super happy life.
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: It seems like so you know, I am all. I
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: am always of the belief that everything happens for a reason.
• 26:26
  Speaker 1: And I don't know if you feel that way, but
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: I you know, like I don't failure. People are like
• 26:32
  Speaker 1: oh it's a failure and success stories yeah, well does
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: not mean you're still together like that to get out
• 26:40
  Speaker 1: of our heads, because the success story is spending time
• 26:45
  Speaker 1: with someone that brings out the best in you, somebody
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: that teaches you things about life, somebody that you know
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: creates another life with you like that success. So I
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: threw story. Yeah, yeah, I was gonna say you're a
• 26:58
  Speaker 1: success ready for Florida and see, you know what it's
• 27:01
  Speaker 1: like that in and of itself, those two beautiful kids
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: who are just having a blast and you know, enjoying
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: their life and at the beach while my kids are
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: fighting off an ice storm. You know, my kids I
• 27:16
  Speaker 1: think would feel like much more successful if they were
• 27:18
  Speaker 1: hanging out in Miami right now. Hemmy everybody else's not
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: as well, right, But so much has happened to you
• 27:26
  Speaker 1: recently too. Now you obviously moved to Miami, but then
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: you start your own business, you start your own practice
• 27:31
  Speaker 1: and go next level there too. So that's going to
• 27:34
  Speaker 1: be exciting, very exciting. So that has been so I. Yeah.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: So I worked as a pediatric dentist here in Miami
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: for almost seven years at an office and then I
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: decided to open up my own office, and it has been,
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: first off, such a blessing, the greatest blessing of my
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: life really, besides the kids obviously, but yeah, right, really right, yeah,
• 27:58
  Speaker 1: you got it, yes, but just such a great blessing.
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: It's taught me so much. Being a business owner is
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: very challenging, and there's a lot more. You know, it's
• 28:12
  Speaker 1: very stressful because I'm a perfectionist, so I like everything
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: to be perfect, everything to be running a specific way. Everything, Like,
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: I'm very hands on. I'm very hands on a perfection
• 28:23
  Speaker 1: So that's been the most challenging part is just being
• 28:26
  Speaker 1: able to control my obsession with perfection. I hear that.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: But it's been I mean, it's been a blessing. I'm
• 28:36
  Speaker 1: so happy that I First off, I'm happy that I
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: was able to open up my own office because not
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: everybody is able to. So so yeah, it's been great.
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: It's been awesome. Question always texts me, call me whatever.
• 28:49
  Speaker 1: Here's Oh my gosh, Actually I do I mean, seriously,
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: I don't know. Okay, what is the one tip to
• 28:57
  Speaker 1: get your kids to brush their teeth? Motivation is very hard, right,
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: I think that's the most challenging thing. So, first off,
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: for kids, for people that have little kids is to
• 29:09
  Speaker 1: spit them off early and be very consistent with the
• 29:13
  Speaker 1: brushing in their routine. Well, they're especially just to your
• 29:19
  Speaker 1: kids kids ages, it's more challenging, but I think it's
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: all about first off, reminding them right, making access to
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: the supply is easy, and all about routine. It's all
• 29:31
  Speaker 1: about routine, Like kids love routine. I don't know if
• 29:34
  Speaker 1: your kids do specific things every night, mind do in
• 29:37
  Speaker 1: a specific order and brushing in there so as we
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: can as they get older, I'm just going to continue that.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: Sure things can change, the order can change, but for
• 29:48
  Speaker 1: my kids, it's a non negotiable, Like it's a non negotiable.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: They have to brush, they have to philosophy times a week,
• 29:54
  Speaker 1: like at nine time, absolutely morning and night. Like I'm
• 29:58
  Speaker 1: kind of crazy about that. It's like taking a shower. Yeah,
• 30:01
  Speaker 1: I think enforcing it, reminding, making as access easy, and
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: trying to be really consistent and regimented with them. Yeah.
• 30:18
  Speaker 1: So I have a specific one. So I have a
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: four year old who I got it pretty good with
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: the brushing. I used a little pop patrol, the little
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: pop Patrol battery operating toothbrush. But is it too early
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: to flow, and he's never too early to floss, right.
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: I can't get him to do the floss, so I
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: do the little tooth picky thingis yeah, okay, okay. So
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: let me tell you so, usually kids under the age
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: of four, all of their teeth are spaced out. There's
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: a space in between all their teeth where the toothbrush
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: reaches in there. So honestly, technically you don't have to
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: at that point. But at the age of four, the
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: back two molars in all four corners of the mouth
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: they start to touch. That's just developed. The adult teothy're
• 31:01
  Speaker 1: pushing in pushing forward, so they push them together. As
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: soon as they're touching, you need to floss in there,
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: so check it's the back four. If anything touching in
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: the front, I would flos in there too. I love
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: the little floss sticks, but you have to do it
• 31:16
  Speaker 1: for them because at four they just don't have that
• 31:18
  Speaker 1: deck stery. They can probably do it. Yeah, you really
• 31:21
  Speaker 1: do need to do the back and what I recommend
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: doing is dipping your floster in toothpaste and flossing the
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: toothpaste in between. Because toothpaste has something that they have
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: to bacterial. It helps a strengthen in between your teeth
• 31:32
  Speaker 1: and believe it or not, that's where kids in my experience,
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: especially like six, seven, eight years old, get cavities. It's
• 31:39
  Speaker 1: in between those baby molars. Yes, I love you at it.
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: Thank you. I have never heard that before. Love it.
• 31:49
  Speaker 1: We're doing We're going crazy. We're helping people, helping people
• 31:53
  Speaker 1: want tooth at a time. Here, I you need guys, anything, Okay, Well,
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: what I want to know is tell me about the
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: new love. Tell me about is it Yannie or is
• 32:05
  Speaker 1: that how you pronounce his name? Yeah, so I knew.
• 32:07
  Speaker 1: It's just that you're just waiting. You're like, I'm just waiting.
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: Scoop in there. Okay, this isn't fun. I mean to
• 32:17
  Speaker 1: know to know. So I love this story because it's
• 32:24
  Speaker 1: so funny. Okay, I get divorced. It's a year after JP,
• 32:29
  Speaker 1: a year and a few months after JP and I separate. Okay, Okay,
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: it's my birthday. My friend plans a dinner for me, okay.
• 32:39
  Speaker 1: Looking to make a reservation. She knows this guy from
• 32:43
  Speaker 1: from the hospital. He's a pharmaceutical ren so she knows him.
• 32:47
  Speaker 1: He's also kind of like a food influencer on the side,
• 32:51
  Speaker 1: so she kind of kind of big time. It iswallowing.
• 32:57
  Speaker 1: He's very dedicated to that. So anyway, so she's like, hey,
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: let me see if I can get he can help
• 33:03
  Speaker 1: me get a reservation or give recommendation. So they are
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: talking and whatever. He helps her get a reservation or
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: something as a thank you, like, hey, thanks for helping me.
• 33:13
  Speaker 1: Why don't you drop by at the dinner? It's me
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: and like nine girls. Yes, she's like where she's showing
• 33:20
  Speaker 1: me the guy, and I don't even think because I
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: look at him and I'm like, oh, like not really
• 33:26
  Speaker 1: doesn't seem like physically my type. I was not even
• 33:29
  Speaker 1: thinking there wasn't in that mindset at all, like at all. Yeah,
• 33:33
  Speaker 1: we're talking about hooking up with like hooking him up
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: maybe with one of our other friends who single. Like
• 33:38
  Speaker 1: we're just like whatever. So we're sitting at the table,
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: the night's almost over, and then I see this very handsome, tall,
• 33:46
  Speaker 1: beautiful man walking. I swear it was like slow motion,
• 33:49
  Speaker 1: like I've never had you just gave me too. That's
• 33:54
  Speaker 1: not the guy. That's not the guy. And he sits
• 33:56
  Speaker 1: down and I'm like and I look at my friend.
• 34:00
  Speaker 1: Why was I not in the running roo? I know
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: I knew divorce, but like, I don't get why you
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: didn't even think about Oh, Ashley, no, he's not your type,
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: like no, no, no, no, She's just like I never
• 34:15
  Speaker 1: would think of you with him, Like I never would.
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: So whatever, the night goes on. We finished dinner, we
• 34:21
  Speaker 1: go to the bar, most of the girls leave. There's
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: five drols that stick stick around four or five and
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: we're at the bar talking, drinking and we start, you know,
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: like maybe I was being a little bit of a flirt.
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: I don't know, and then that's this history we have
• 34:39
  Speaker 1: been together for like I guess April will be two years,
• 34:43
  Speaker 1: so almost that's amazing. I'm looking at his post right
• 34:47
  Speaker 1: now of like this incredible seafood ensemble and I'm like,
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: I just got to eat lunch today and I'm super
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: hungry right now. The funnies. I've never met someone that's
• 34:59
  Speaker 1: so dedicated to something like that. Like last night he
• 35:03
  Speaker 1: was over. He was posting from like seven thirty until
• 35:10
  Speaker 1: one in the morning. What Just like it's a lot
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: of work, Like people think, yeah it is, Yeah, it's fun,
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: but it's also a lot of work. And he's so
• 35:22
  Speaker 1: so dedicated to I love that. Yeah, he's got three
• 35:26
  Speaker 1: million followers. That doesn't happen by accident, you know, and
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: they're all authentic, Like he build it from one one followers.
• 35:35
  Speaker 1: That's amazing stuff. He's like authentically grew that account himself,
• 35:41
  Speaker 1: buying hand from one follower, So I think that's yeah.
• 35:44
  Speaker 1: I love it so on all the restaurants and all
• 35:48
  Speaker 1: the trips, that's amazing. I mean the trips, the trips
• 35:52
  Speaker 1: like old account couple, Italy trips here and there, right,
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: I remember Greece. Yeah, has to do it. Yeah, someone
• 36:02
  Speaker 1: has to do it, and someone has to go along.
• 36:04
  Speaker 1: I'll be your post one. I'll be sitting like by
• 36:08
  Speaker 1: cool eating my you know Glacamolean chip, having on and
• 36:12
  Speaker 1: he's like, You're like, but it's so fun. I really
• 36:20
  Speaker 1: it's It's been such a wonderful two years and I
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: can talk a lot. I could talk. I won't bore
• 36:25
  Speaker 1: you guys with this, but about like dating after marriage
• 36:29
  Speaker 1: is so interesting, Yeah, because you're going into a relationship
• 36:32
  Speaker 1: with a completely different perspective. I like what you're right,
• 36:36
  Speaker 1: Because when you're young, you're like, whant you get married
• 36:38
  Speaker 1: and don't have kids? What is he going to propose
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: going into a relationship without those types of expectations is
• 36:45
  Speaker 1: such a thing because you really get to enjoy the
• 36:48
  Speaker 1: moments and accept people who they are and the speed
• 36:51
  Speaker 1: that they want to work at, and it's like it's
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: so wonderful, it's really cool. It's really was he married
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: before he was actually for one year or around one year?
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: And is his wife still? Like? Are they they don't
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: have kids? Right, he doesn't have any kids. I'd be honest,
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: I know nothing about her, Like I don't really name. Yeah,
• 37:16
  Speaker 1: you don't know her name. I don't know her name.
• 37:18
  Speaker 1: I don't know anything because he's never told you or
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: because you just don't remember. I'm just like, I don't know.
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: Oh my god. It's different when you get divorced without kids.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: I mean I can speak to this because I've done it,
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: and other than other than if you are going to
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: be moving in the same circles. Yeah, my ex wife
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: and I, you know, are still very friendly because we
• 37:40
  Speaker 1: have moved in a lot of the same circles. But
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: it's like, there really isn't a reason to stay connected
• 37:45
  Speaker 1: to that person other than you know what I mean.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: With kids, there's definitely a reason. But when you don't
• 37:49
  Speaker 1: have children, it's like if you choose to, that's great,
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: but you know, right, yeah, yeah, yeah, I get that
• 37:56
  Speaker 1: because she's not like I don't know. I honestly don't know.
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: I've never even we've talked about it briefly, but like
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't even know her name. Like that,
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: I need crazy met. You don't need to let me
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: text him. I think that says a lot about the
• 38:15
  Speaker 1: confidence you have in your relationship, yet the type of
• 38:17
  Speaker 1: person to be like, well, I need to know all
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: of this and I need to be you know who's
• 38:21
  Speaker 1: texting you. It's like, no, that's why I could text
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: him and it's no big deal. You'd be like, oh,
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: you guys are really funny story though on that topic,
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: because I am very confident, Like that's one thing about
• 38:30
  Speaker 1: him is he makes me feel like he's not. This
• 38:34
  Speaker 1: is really I don't know. I explained this. He's the
• 38:35
  Speaker 1: type of guy he's not. He's not very woman focused,
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: Like I feel like he doesn't go out and like
• 38:40
  Speaker 1: look for women. Yeah, kind of to himself. And like
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: I once was at an event with him. I saw
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: this girl like kind of like looking at him, going
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: up to him, talking to him, and he just he
• 38:49
  Speaker 1: doesn't even like it was or is it. But it's
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: really funny. So I've always felt very confident. But when
• 38:56
  Speaker 1: we first started dating, he was on his phone all
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: the time in the middle of the night, and I'm
• 39:04
  Speaker 1: because he was doing the foodye stuff, yes, and I'm like,
• 39:09
  Speaker 1: like I did have questions at that time, like why
• 39:12
  Speaker 1: are is three in the morning and you're on like
• 39:14
  Speaker 1: look up and he's on his phone like kind of
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: turned it and I'm like like, is there something you
• 39:20
  Speaker 1: need to tell me? Just to light in your eyes
• 39:22
  Speaker 1: because I'm I'm posting, you know, And I'm don't really
• 39:26
  Speaker 1: sad because I would like think something was not all
• 39:29
  Speaker 1: the time you'd be like, no, I'm just posting. I'm
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: sorry about it. And that was funny because he's on
• 39:39
  Speaker 1: his phone all the time. So I was thinking like
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: maybe something but right, So, because both of you have
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: been divorced, have you thought about what are your thoughts
• 39:49
  Speaker 1: on marriage in the future. Okay, So when I first
• 39:52
  Speaker 1: got divorced, I was like, no, I'll never get married
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: again because I don't have to really. Yeah, totally, we
• 39:57
  Speaker 1: didn't feel like it didn't makes sense for me. I
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: think with having kids already and like having a business
• 40:04
  Speaker 1: and like maybe more assets, Like I felt like it
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: was going to be complicated, okay, But so I was
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: very like, oh, I'll never get married again, Noah, girl powers,
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: sing over whatever whatever in a relationship. And people didn't
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: agree with me. But I understand because I think people
• 40:22
  Speaker 1: when they're in a relationship, they want that commitment. It's
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: not so much about the marriage, but they want that
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: level of commitment. So for me, I don't want to
• 40:32
  Speaker 1: get married as long as we're both at the same
• 40:35
  Speaker 1: level of commitment for now, I think I'm very happy
• 40:39
  Speaker 1: with as long as we stay committed and you know,
• 40:41
  Speaker 1: things are going well. I don't think that that'll ever change.
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: But yeah, you know, I mean I don't know. I
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: don't know. You're not opposed to it, which is nice,
• 40:49
  Speaker 1: and you're open to the relationship element, which is she's
• 40:52
  Speaker 1: opposed to look at that face I learn about marriage.
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: I feel like it's weird that, like the dad walks
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: the woman in down the aisle and then he gives
• 41:02
  Speaker 1: the woman to the man. It feels uncome So yeah,
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: my personal opinion, I don't need a man panting, like
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: going from one man to another man, Like I'm all
• 41:12
  Speaker 1: set that I like them all set. I'm all set.
• 41:19
  Speaker 1: I respect everybody's beliefs totally, culture and tradition. It just
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: is probably not for me. Yeah, I hear that, so
• 41:28
  Speaker 1: would you. Well, I guess it doesn't even matter. I'm
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: not even gonna ask it. But I feel like when
• 41:33
  Speaker 1: I got married, the tradition part was really important to me.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: And you're right, like after we got married, I still
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: have this regret that I didn't involve my mom as
• 41:45
  Speaker 1: much because of the tradition. So, like you know, like
• 41:50
  Speaker 1: you said, it's tradition for the dad to walk the
• 41:53
  Speaker 1: bride down the aisle, and I had my dad do that,
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: and then I had my dad gave like the speech
• 41:59
  Speaker 1: at the reception and my mom and I. I mean
• 42:03
  Speaker 1: when my parents divorced in fifth grade, so I lived
• 42:07
  Speaker 1: with my mom, so I saw my dad like every
• 42:10
  Speaker 1: other weekend. Um. But I mean, I for I was
• 42:16
  Speaker 1: really being raised by my mom, you know, just because
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: we lived together. And I really it's a big regret
• 42:22
  Speaker 1: of mine to not have involved my mom as much.
• 42:24
  Speaker 1: So I get that. I totally understand. Every time I
• 42:28
  Speaker 1: got married, I did it better and better. It's like
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: my last one. Every time I got married. I gotta
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: do it every show. Trista, No, I was gonna say,
• 42:39
  Speaker 1: I don't know your history. So you were married, divorced, remarried.
• 42:44
  Speaker 1: So here's my history in a nutshell. Everything comes back
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: to Trista basically for handing me. Hear this, she kicked
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: me to the curb, so im so. I actually so,
• 42:58
  Speaker 1: I was a well twenty three year old touring music.
• 43:02
  Speaker 1: I sent a record deal right on college and I
• 43:04
  Speaker 1: did the cliche she cliche thing where you marry a model, okay,
• 43:08
  Speaker 1: and we were married and divorced within a year because
• 43:10
  Speaker 1: I went on tour with Matchbox twenty as the opener,
• 43:12
  Speaker 1: and I basically by the time I came home, I
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: realized that I really wasn't married anymore. So that was awesome.
• 43:18
  Speaker 1: And then and then a few years later, I end
• 43:20
  Speaker 1: up on Tristmas season right, and then she, you know,
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: she rolled the dice with this Ryan character, and thankfully,
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: you know, because of me endorsing him, they worked out.
• 43:36
  Speaker 1: I actually really did. I think it's one of my
• 43:37
  Speaker 1: favorite memories of talking to Tristo about how much I
• 43:40
  Speaker 1: loved Ryan. But while I was still on the show,
• 43:42
  Speaker 1: pus um and then um, you know, but it was
• 43:44
  Speaker 1: one of those things where you know, that was just
• 43:47
  Speaker 1: such an awesome couple. And then I got married after
• 43:50
  Speaker 1: being on the show, and that one lasted it's like
• 43:52
  Speaker 1: six years, and then then we Splepp and now I've
• 43:55
  Speaker 1: been married every since. So yeah, so technically I should
• 43:57
  Speaker 1: have gotten annulment probably the first time, but um, I
• 44:00
  Speaker 1: was too busy traveling around and doing you know the history. Yeah,
• 44:06
  Speaker 1: so anyway, but I will say to what you were to.
• 44:09
  Speaker 1: My point three is why even brought that up. Was
• 44:11
  Speaker 1: my my wife and I got married in twenty sixteen,
• 44:15
  Speaker 1: and we got it right, you know, like our moms
• 44:18
  Speaker 1: were our flower girls. My dad was my best man. Yeah,
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: my sister was the matron of honor. My brother in
• 44:28
  Speaker 1: law was our reverend you know. Um, so it was
• 44:32
  Speaker 1: like we really kind of invested in the in those things. Yeah,
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: that's why I lost it. Yeah, so far, I'm just kidding.
• 44:45
  Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. I love you and Jess. You guys
• 44:50
  Speaker 1: were just fine. Thank you. You're all set, as Ashley says,
• 44:53
  Speaker 1: you're all yes, I'm all set. I'm all well, Ashley.
• 44:59
  Speaker 1: We I've loved having you hear me, especially, love you
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: so much. I just feel like whenever we get together,
• 45:06
  Speaker 1: I just I connect with you so so much. Anytime,
• 45:12
  Speaker 1: I just actually adore you. Thank you so much for
• 45:15
  Speaker 1: coming you, Tristo. I feel really connected to you. I
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: always have thanks for coming. Hopefully I get to see
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: you in a couple of days, so your schedule so
• 45:24
  Speaker 1: we can, Okay, I will than I. She is so sweet. Ah,
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: she's the best. Love her, like, definitely one of my favorite.
• 45:36
  Speaker 1: I hate that question, like who are your favorite Bachelor
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: Nation people, because I feel like they're all children, you know,
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: I can't pick a favorite, but she's definitely one of
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: my favorites. I mean, one of my favorite memories. We
• 45:48
  Speaker 1: did this thing in New York um for we TV Bridezillas.
• 45:54
  Speaker 1: They used to have a show called Bridezillas and it
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: was me, Yeah, me and her and Dez and Dianna
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: and I will never forget. We were at this bar
• 46:03
  Speaker 1: and they started playing um like a Bruno Mars song Finesse,
• 46:08
  Speaker 1: and we were just in the It seemed like it
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: was like a like a pub. It wasn't like a club,
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: it was like a pub. And we were just like
• 46:15
  Speaker 1: We're just going to get out there and dance. And
• 46:17
  Speaker 1: one of my favorite memories. Well, especially you being so
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: like such good dancers. I can only imagine you probably
• 46:24
  Speaker 1: had some routines in common you'd throw out there in
• 46:26
  Speaker 1: the dais right. Oh. The thing is, I don't remember
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: stuff like I literally started learning these routines for this
• 46:32
  Speaker 1: weekend two days ago, and I Bob, I, I'm so old.
• 46:38
  Speaker 1: I go to bed like so sort of like rickety,
• 46:41
  Speaker 1: like my neck is killing me. I know, yeah, Blakeslee
• 46:49
  Speaker 1: should probably take a video. I'm sure Blakesley will be there.
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: I don't know, because she came to like the dance
• 46:57
  Speaker 1: studio that I'm rehearsing at, and she was a lively me.
• 47:00
  Speaker 1: I'm like, pleasly, Grace, you cannot laugh at your mother
• 47:05
  Speaker 1: back of the day, I could do this move right now.
• 47:07
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna take a slower row, like when I do
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: exercises at home, and they're like for those of you
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: who can't keep up, you know, I'm like, that's me
• 47:13
  Speaker 1: because I cannot keep up what I need to totally
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: all right, Thanks Bob, Thanks everybody, good right, everybody