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Ep. 161 | How Do You Really Enjoy Your Kids · The Family Teams Podcast

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  Hey guys, welcome to the 5-Minute Fatherhood Podcast. I'm your co-host, Jeff Bethke, along with my friend and mentor, Jeremy Pryor. Join us Monday through Friday as we chat about quick tips, skills, and ways to help equip you on your journey as a father to build your multi-generational family team on mission. Stay tuned.
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  What's up, guys? Another episode of 5-Minute Fatherhood. Me and Jeremy here. Here's a fun topic for today, and that's how do you really enjoy your kids? Well, I guess this is a two-part topic. The first one is self-evident that you should actually enjoy being with your kids. I think one of the ways to build super strong bonds, to be parent-attached, not peer-attached, as a book like Hold On To Your Kids and some other things I've talked about, is to actually not just do the hard stuff of parenting, but actually just be friends with your kids at some level, enjoy being with them.
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  be thankful for them and do activities with them that are just enjoyable for you as they are for them. And one tip that I have that I want to hear what Jeremy thinks about is that we like to do this where we kind of do parent specific ones where I mean, like, I have my things I do with the kids that Alyssa is not really a part of. And not because she, you know, shouldn't or can't be it's actually because she doesn't want to be. And one of those is like sushi, right? So we'll go get sushi with the kids. The kids love sushi. The kids love poke. We live in Hawaii. So we have the best there is. Alyssa doesn't like sushi or what's going on there?
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  No, she hates it. She like hates it. She like, yeah, she just thinks it's like the worst thing ever. I think if you even say that word, she starts getting nauseous. So it's very much a, and that's hard for me because I'm like, man, I love it. It's like my favorite. It's what I want to have for my birthday and everything. But, um, so first of all, it's one idea. Just rope your kids into things like that. So then you can kind of have an excuse to go do things that are kind of also selfish because you want them.
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  But no, the real reason is, uh, it then I've just noticed doing this over time, like sushi kind of turned into like our fun little thing we do is, uh, with dad. And there's something about that when you have kind of these special activities that like you do with mom or you do it dad, I don't know. It just kind of starts compounding meaning. It kind of starts having a really fun, unique purpose to it. Uh, and I think those memories down the road will be really strong. Another couple, two other ones that are really easy for us too, is like I, I'm, I paddleboard with our kids. Well, not Canon yet.
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  with Kinsley. And that's kind of my thing with her. Um, and then even like trips to home Depot, that's a classic dad, dad one. Right. But we make that fun. They get to go on the carts and all that stuff. And that's not something Alyssa does. So like, we kind of have our things, we have like three or four things that I try to always envelop them into when I know I want to, or need to do it. And I've just seen, it has a really, really fun, cool element of like a date type thing, cool bonding and all that. That I think is really important, but I don't know how you guys would do this or what you think about that, Jeremy.
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  Yeah, I love this idea. And I think part of what this is, is I think a lot of dads feel a ton of pressure to sort of do little kid activities all the time with their, especially their young children. And there's sort of this belief, we have to sort of call it out. We've called it out before. It is not your job as a parent to constantly entertain your children. And one of the things that you can really do in this area to make it way easier on you, deepen your relationship like Jeff is describing, is really wrap your kids up and suck them into what you're into, right? Yeah.
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  Get them excited about what you love. And sometimes it's a hit, sometimes it's a miss. But you want to like, if you can make it a hit, man, now you have something that you can bond over for years and years. And so some of the things for us, when our kids are really little, I really love to go to parks with my kids.
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  So anytime, if April had a really bad day and she's like, I need you to take the kids, I'd be like, awesome. And I'd take all the kids. We had two or three parks close to our house. I'd go. I'd set them all up. I would even sometimes, if it was for hours, I would just bring my computer. I'd work. I'd go play with the kids. I'd work. It was like just part of what we did. And it was super fun, super easy. I loved it. Now that our kids are older, one of the big things I love to do with my kids is take them out one-on-one to the different little foodie restaurants around Cincinnati. Yes, okay.
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  She loves to have those experiences more relationally, but she's not super into flavors and tastes at an epic level like I am. And a few of my kids are as well. And so that's a really big one. Pickleball is another one we're just getting into as a family. I grew up playing it. It's just starting to become a thing out here in Kentucky. So there's some courts that are opening up. So we're doing that thing. So yeah, just a lot of those kinds of things. Find those things that you love to do
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  And sometimes I'll even, I've made lists of, you know, like art museums. Elisa loves those or, you know, different kids that have different things that they really are into that I'm into a certain book, certain shows, certain movies, certain experiences, things that were magical in your childhood, things that you like football, me and Sydney totally bond over football. So anyway, I love this topic. Definitely don't make it all about, oh, I've got to play three-year-old games all the time. Like that's not necessarily true.
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