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90 Day Fiancé Season 12 Episode 4 “Forsaking others” Part 2 · Vanity Farah with Chris Farah

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Speaker 1: Hello, welcome back, my babes. It's not a Day Fiance,
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Speaker 1: Season twelve, episode four. This is part two of my
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Speaker 1: recap for forsaking all others. We've already talked about Meadow,
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Speaker 1: the Asshole, and Debbie, and we've already talked about Malory
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Speaker 1: my babes, let's get in. We're going to talk about
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Speaker 1: Thomas and Paula. And this episode for them to me
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Speaker 1: wasn't a great episode like they because I feel like
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Speaker 1: it was just super negative, you know, where everything is
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Speaker 1: like her being upset but or him being upset so
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Speaker 1: and I we're supposed to remember like they have a
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Speaker 1: friendship for many years, so like they have you know,
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Speaker 1: fun times and memories and inside jokes and you know,
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Speaker 1: like care for each other. So I do think a
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Speaker 1: lot of their like adversary scenes seems put on where
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Speaker 1: it's like they can't be so incompatible. You know, there's
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Speaker 1: got to be things that are like sweet sexual cam
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Speaker 1: moments that like you know, has made it so that
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Speaker 1: they can be away from each other, they have to
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Speaker 1: be together. He is driving her home, remember that her
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Speaker 1: luggage broke, and she's like, oh, thank you, universe. And
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Speaker 1: he's like, every time you think the universe, you should
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Speaker 1: be saying thank you me, thank you Thomas, thank you
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Speaker 1: for me. And she's like, well, the universe is what
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Speaker 1: you live in, asshole. You're a part of the universe.
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Speaker 1: So when I'm thinking the universe, that also means you.
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Speaker 1: And he's like, I think this is weird because you know,
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Speaker 1: people literally all day long, especially if your name is Asia,
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Speaker 1: like thank God, you know, like thank you God, thank God,
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Speaker 1: thank God for this, thank God for that. You know,
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Speaker 1: like it's obviously a very acceptable phrase if you like
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Speaker 1: were to meet your loved one, like thank God I
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Speaker 1: met you, you know, like thank God, you know we
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Speaker 1: came together, you know, thank God I'm here. You know safe,
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Speaker 1: like you could say a bunch of things and if
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Speaker 1: you said thank God, it's like fine. So for her
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Speaker 1: to say thank you Universe, to me, it's not that weird,
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Speaker 1: you know, Like it's it's not her seeing like miniatures
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Speaker 1: or quantum theory, which is weird, you know, like whatever. Also,
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Speaker 1: I believe, you know, yeah, I think, like I said,
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Speaker 1: my own personal beliefs is that the like divine energy
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Speaker 1: that connects us all one could call God, and one
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Speaker 1: could also call the space of all of this, which
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Speaker 1: is the universe. So to me, this is the same.
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Speaker 1: So I don't know why she's like what he really
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Speaker 1: wanted exactly, thanks for like thank you Thomas for picking
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Speaker 1: me up from the airport, bringing me beans. I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: fart all night long, you know. So she's very happy
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Speaker 1: to be here. She's already been in LA before. But
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Speaker 1: she knows what LA is like, which is that it's
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Speaker 1: palm tree Central. And she's like, I love LA, just
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Speaker 1: like that show on HBO. I love LA. I love
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Speaker 1: the palm trees. You can really take pictures of it everywhere.
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Speaker 1: Plus LA is so easy to be vegan, which is
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Speaker 1: certainly true. In LA, it's really easy to eat quote
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Speaker 1: unquote healthy or clean or whatever that means to you,
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Speaker 1: you know, like a because California produce is really great.
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Speaker 1: It's easy to get. There's a lot of organic produce,
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Speaker 1: you know, you know or not know. But I talk
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Speaker 1: about it enough that like I personally used to work
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Speaker 1: at a vegan restaurant like for ten years off and on,
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Speaker 1: and it was the like premium, like first vegan restaurant
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Speaker 1: in LA. And there's so many now you can order
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Speaker 1: vegan food at like other restaurants. It's very easy too.
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Speaker 1: We have you know, air One Whole Foods. Now there's
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Speaker 1: a brand new one called Laurel Supply. There's just it's
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Speaker 1: just it is a little bit of mecca for that
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Speaker 1: kind of beating. So yeah, I mean, if you if
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Speaker 1: you live a whole lifestyle being vegan, I would assume
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Speaker 1: it'd be like the funnest best thing to live in
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Speaker 1: LA anyway, So we get to his apartment, his apartments
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Speaker 1: in Long Beach, so just we have to remember that,
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Speaker 1: like if you don't live in La, La proper is
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Speaker 1: not Long Beach. It's you know, Long Beach is kind
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Speaker 1: of this middle in between Los Angeles and Orange County.
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Speaker 1: Now I think there's literally parts of Long Beach that
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Speaker 1: are Orange County or I'm not quite sure. Maybe Long
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Speaker 1: Beach is considered part of La County. I don't even know.
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Speaker 1: But it's like forty five minutes in an hour away,
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Speaker 1: Like it's not close to the Hollywood Sign or anything
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Speaker 1: like that, not at all. Now it doesn't have to
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Speaker 1: be because you know, there's a beach part of that,
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Speaker 1: and it's great. I'm not you know, beaches are great
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Speaker 1: to live by. The ocean is so lovely, how nice.
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Speaker 1: So I'm not saying I'm not shitting on Long Beach. Also,
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Speaker 1: Long Beach in itself is a huge city. So like
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Speaker 1: where he lived, you know, there's like there's like the
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Speaker 1: parts that are like Inland. You know, there's like LBC,
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Speaker 1: you know, like we're Snoop Dogg, you know, and all
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Speaker 1: those people like you think, you know, Cameron Diaz and
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Speaker 1: Snoop Dogg went to the same high school. Anyway, Long
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Speaker 1: Beach is huge. Okay, So there's the aquarium. I'll keep talking,
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Speaker 1: don't even worry about You're like, shut up about Long Beach.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I know, Okay. So they get to his
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Speaker 1: apartment and I supposedly he had told her that it
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Speaker 1: looks way different from when he first moved in, and
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Speaker 1: so she thought that meant furniture, but what he meant
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Speaker 1: was no, she hates the apartment obviously, and we like
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Speaker 1: we're already sat up to know that she's gonna hate
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Speaker 1: the apartment because we hate the apartment, you know, because
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Speaker 1: he's so proud to be like, yeah, I think it's
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Speaker 1: so fucking great that I have a couch bed and
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Speaker 1: I never put the bed away, so my couch is
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Speaker 1: just me laying on my bed. I think it's so
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Speaker 1: great that I don't have a dining room table. I
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Speaker 1: have this like weird foldable picnic table that one would
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Speaker 1: bring to you know, like showing a movie outdoors where
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Speaker 1: you don't want to sit too high to block the
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Speaker 1: view from people. It's not reasonable to think that someone
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Speaker 1: is going to expect someone else to sit on the
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Speaker 1: ground and or a yoga block for every meal. That's
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Speaker 1: not a reasonable request. So for us to have to
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Speaker 1: like swallow that this grown ass man thinks that that
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Speaker 1: is a doable thing, isn't. It's like it feels contrived.
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Speaker 1: There's not a part, because that's not a real thing,
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Speaker 1: Like this person Thomas like works and lives in the world,
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Speaker 1: so it doesn't seem in reality that he expects her
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Speaker 1: to be okay squatting over a yoga block, having just
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Speaker 1: like one cheek on this hard ass, small ass block
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Speaker 1: to eat all her meals out. Like so if he
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Speaker 1: was like I just haven't gotten one yet, or I
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Speaker 1: would need him to say something completely different, like I mean,
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Speaker 1: this is not it, but like he'd be like, you
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Speaker 1: know what, I traveled to Asia and you know, and
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Speaker 1: you know they I don't know, have lower dining tables
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Speaker 1: and those like you know, parts of Japan or what
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Speaker 1: the fuck it is, and like that's what I do here,
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Speaker 1: but like that's he doesn't even give us that. He's like,
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Speaker 1: I got this cloth and it's like some what looks
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Speaker 1: like scarf that he's put over this shitty ass plastic
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Speaker 1: ass table. And then you know, he's like, well, here's
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Speaker 1: your closet and it's the coat closet, and she's like
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Speaker 1: not enough space. He's like, yeah, I know, I'll just
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Speaker 1: move these bags. But you know, I didn't clean out
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Speaker 1: my closet for you, and then she's like mad at him.
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Speaker 1: She's like, you don't even wear anything anyway, wear two
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Speaker 1: shirts anyway, give away all your clothes. He's like, uh,
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Speaker 1: well that's gonna take some time. She's like seven days, asshole,
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Speaker 1: seven days. He's like, booh, yeah, this doesn't seem reasonable.
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Speaker 1: And I also feel like, why are there so many
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Speaker 1: times on the show where the guy hasn't gotten his
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Speaker 1: space ready for the girl. But I guess Katie didn't
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Speaker 1: do it for Josh, But like remember how like Matthew
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Speaker 1: didn't do it for Greta. It's like, oh, here's one drawer,
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Speaker 1: or you can just put all your shoes where my
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Speaker 1: shoes are, just put them on top of my Like
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Speaker 1: it's just no. I yeah, Like he really thought that
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Speaker 1: this woman was going to be okay, like having three
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Speaker 1: feet of closet space to hang things, and we're like, well,
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Speaker 1: we've met her for one episode. We already know that
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Speaker 1: she's kind of like a bossy person that wants, you know,
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Speaker 1: her ways. Particularly we know that she likes miniatures, so
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Speaker 1: that alone, we would know that this closet you've given
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Speaker 1: her is just for her miniatures alone, and you would
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Speaker 1: need to give her closet space for her clothes. Like
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Speaker 1: we know that we've never met, you know, met in
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Speaker 1: real life you're supposed to be her best friend. And
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Speaker 1: she's like, look, I'm not asking for much. I'm literally
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Speaker 1: asking for what I, you know, was able to provide
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Speaker 1: to him when he came to visit me. And we're like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: we get it. We get that part. Next part though,
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Speaker 1: is hard. So I you know, she's a vegan, you know,
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Speaker 1: and like I said, and there are people that are
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Speaker 1: vegan that are like militant about it, and there's yeah,
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Speaker 1: like there's a lot of like a lot of animal
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Speaker 1: lovers that take it to like a certain extreme where
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Speaker 1: you're like, well, you have to understand how that people
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Speaker 1: live their lives. I mean, I I eat meat, and
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Speaker 1: if I had a friend that was vegan, I was like,
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Speaker 1: I don't want to smell meat around me. I'd be like, well,
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Speaker 1: I guess we're not going out to eat. Ever, I
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Speaker 1: guess We're never gonna go out to eat because I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna eat whatever the fuck I want, truthfully. And I'm
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Speaker 1: someone who hates fish, Like I'll be honest, I fucking
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Speaker 1: hate fish. I think fish are silkerds. I've never I
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Speaker 1: won't eat fish. Anything that's been in the ocean won't
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Speaker 1: go in my mouth, and I hate the way it smells.
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Speaker 1: I hate the way it looks the way it smells.
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Speaker 1: I think it smells disgusting. I think fish looks gross.
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Speaker 1: I think it looks slimy sometimes the eyeballs are in there.
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Speaker 1: I hate lobster or crab where you have to crack
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Speaker 1: into something skeleton like no. I hate shrimp where like
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Speaker 1: people eat the shrimp and then take out the skeleton
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Speaker 1: of the shrimp and just put it on their plate
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Speaker 1: like it is woo, it is boo it is. I
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Speaker 1: don't even like and I'll eat it. I don't even
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Speaker 1: like this is. I know this is gonna like make
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Speaker 1: enemies for me. I don't even like chicken on the bone, Okay.
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Speaker 1: I know though I cannot go to a restaurant and
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Speaker 1: then demand someone not have fish. I know that this
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Speaker 1: is just something within me that I'll be on fucking
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Speaker 1: plane rides and people will bring in a tune of
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Speaker 1: sandwich or you know, like order fish in the plane,
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Speaker 1: which is even grosser, like you're gonna eat plane fish,
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Speaker 1: You're gonna eat fish from an airport like woo. I
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Speaker 1: am like, no part of me wants to smell it
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Speaker 1: or look at it or taste it, But I understand
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Speaker 1: that there are other people living in this world that
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Speaker 1: you know, are going to do what they're going to do.
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Speaker 1: And I understand that fish is everywhere, is like a
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Speaker 1: major part of a lot of diets, you know. Like,
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Speaker 1: so I won't put my demands on other people. I
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Speaker 1: don't like when people put their demands on other people.
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Speaker 1: I think it's weird when people are like, I live
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Speaker 1: by this one thing and you should too, you know.
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Speaker 1: It's like, well, that's fine for you. I don't understand
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Speaker 1: why you don't understand that your body ends where your
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Speaker 1: skin ends, and a whole different world is around you,
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Speaker 1: and where I start is where my skin starts, and
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Speaker 1: then I have my body mass and my mind up
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Speaker 1: here because I'm a whole different fucking person with a
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Speaker 1: different life, different experiences, different wants, needs goals, Like how
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Speaker 1: dare you tell me what I can do or can't do?
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Speaker 1: And if you try to, then I want to fuck you,
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Speaker 1: get out my life, got out of my life, truly, Okay,
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Speaker 1: So that's how I feel. She's like, I told you
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Speaker 1: I don't want to ever see meat or smell it. Well, bitch,
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Speaker 1: you should have fucking dated a gringo that was vegan, right,
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Speaker 1: you wanted a gringo so bad? Hey, you should have
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Speaker 1: fucking manifested gotten a little miniature vegan. Man, that's what
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Speaker 1: you should have done. Did you not do that? Well,
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Speaker 1: the universe provided for you a gringo that like has
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Speaker 1: steak and you know, vacuum sealed bags. That's what the
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Speaker 1: universe provided. So we can say no to the universe.
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Speaker 1: Got back to the miniature drawing board, buddy. I mean, yeah, like,
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Speaker 1: if you really need a data vegan, then data vegan.
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Speaker 1: Have it be a thing. Put it on your fucking profile,
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Speaker 1: go to vegan Facebook groups or where they wherever they live,
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Speaker 1: you know, hook it up. Like, yeah, I think that.
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Speaker 1: I think that it's always Yeah, I have like some
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Speaker 1: sort of like adversity now, I have some sort of
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Speaker 1: avoidance of anyone that is too extreme in anything, Like
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Speaker 1: I need there to be room in this world for
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Speaker 1: the human experience. And I'm saying that like I do
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Speaker 1: live in la and it is my preference to eat
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Speaker 1: organically and right now in my life because of you know,
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Speaker 1: different allergy things or whatever, I'm like trying my darnedest
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Speaker 1: to stay away from dairy gluten, and almonds right now,
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Speaker 1: And of course I totally don't eat fish, so I
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Speaker 1: know that, like there's certain things that like eating wise,
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Speaker 1: I'm trying to do. But having said that, there are
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Speaker 1: still times in my life where I'm like, I'm gonna
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Speaker 1: eat this sandwich with his bread and cheese on it.
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Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat it. I mean, eat this pizza. I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna eat the taco bell like I don't. I mean,
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Speaker 1: I'm not like, so I don't ride the boundaries that
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Speaker 1: hard on anything because I think that, like the more
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Speaker 1: important thing is to live, to live in this world
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Speaker 1: and to experience things, and also like to share the
15:30
Speaker 1: breaking of the bread kind of ritual with people. So
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Speaker 1: you know, I'm saying, I'm just like, but yeah, having
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Speaker 1: said that, it's just so weird to me. So it's
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Speaker 1: weird for me to have her like demand certain things
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Speaker 1: of him, because I wouldn't want I don't want anyone
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Speaker 1: manned anything of any of their loved ones that the
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Speaker 1: loved ones aren't willingly already doing. You're not gonna make
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Speaker 1: someone turn into your religion. You're not gonna make someone
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Speaker 1: suddenly be vegan, because to me, you should have fucking
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Speaker 1: dated a vegan. Then it's on you. It's on you, okay.
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Speaker 1: So she's like, oh, what's that. It's like a dehydrator,
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Speaker 1: and she like knows good and well that he makes
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Speaker 1: jerky with it. She's like, it's a mic it's like
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Speaker 1: a microwave as big as a microwave, and it's like
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Speaker 1: that you can make some dried mango on that dry
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Speaker 1: some mango make fruit leathers. They get chained for bed,
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Speaker 1: and this is supposed to be I guess the only
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Speaker 1: kind of cute moment they have, or like moment that
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Speaker 1: feels that they like each other. She puts on emojipjs.
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Speaker 1: Could you imagine if he had the same like reaction muted?
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Speaker 1: Like I found her not attractive at all. It was
16:37
Speaker 1: head to toe flannel pj's gross. But no, he's like,
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Speaker 1: you know, into her. So you know, the pjs don't
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Speaker 1: really make a difference. And they do this thing where
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Speaker 1: they like to intertwine legs, which I love. I'm weird, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I think that. Like I said, like I I don't
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Speaker 1: want to have to hug someone all night long, and
16:59
Speaker 1: I don't know necessarily want someone to hug me all
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Speaker 1: night long. I don't mind, like falling asleep, being like
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Speaker 1: a little spoon, but like I'm going to break away
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Speaker 1: from you at some point and like you know, because
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Speaker 1: I just I flip back and forth on night long,
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Speaker 1: but I yeah, I like cuddling for a moment. So
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Speaker 1: the fact that they have a cute and if they're
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Speaker 1: like again their only cute moment of the episode inside
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Speaker 1: joke where they do spider legs, which is like their
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Speaker 1: version of cuddling, which is like intertweating all their legs.
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Speaker 1: I it's funny because even this moment, even though it's cute,
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Speaker 1: they don't give a lot of like sexual cam. Like
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Speaker 1: even in this moment, they kind of like give more
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Speaker 1: like two best friends. I don't know what I keep
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Speaker 1: saying sexual cam, So I'm like, what am I expecting.
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Speaker 1: I don't get like a lot of vibes that she
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Speaker 1: like wants him to like be inside and he feels
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Speaker 1: like he more just like idolizes her then like wants
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Speaker 1: to jump inside that, you know, batch he seems to
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Speaker 1: be like enamored with the idea of her, you know,
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Speaker 1: like Brazilian Fiery knows what she wants like strong women,
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Speaker 1: and we know that she like she said wanted to
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Speaker 1: always be with a gringoat. We're not quite sure why
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Speaker 1: I always wanted to like what about it? You know,
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Speaker 1: it feels like she was just like, he's nice enough,
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Speaker 1: and he lives in La I would I guess we
18:52
Speaker 1: both are beginners at volleyball, so we have that in common.
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Speaker 1: It feels like they were just like we're friends that
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Speaker 1: we're talking and then you know, like as he said,
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Speaker 1: he like said that he had feelings for her, and
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Speaker 1: she was like, no, I'm dating someone else. And then like,
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Speaker 1: I don't know, she broke up with that guy and
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Speaker 1: was like, well, I guess why not that one likes me?
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Speaker 1: I mean, it doesn't feel like I don't know, a
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Speaker 1: full love connection anyway, So let's see what happens. Though.
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Speaker 1: Let's move on to Asia. So she goes by a
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Speaker 1: lake to meet her prophet friend Patricia. I guess, you
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Speaker 1: know what a coincidence. She's a prophet and Patricia's a prophet.
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Speaker 1: It must be so wild for her to, you know,
19:41
Speaker 1: be surrounded by such touched people, such god touched people.
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Speaker 1: She's like, I mean, listen, you thought that I was
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Speaker 1: a prophet because I called that there was gonna be
19:55
Speaker 1: an n Sync song playing in the Year of Our
19:58
Speaker 1: two thousand and I was right where it's like, well, yeah,
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Speaker 1: and I don't know what Patricia did, honey. Patricia must
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Speaker 1: have been like, listen, it's nineteen eighty nine. I bet
20:13
Speaker 1: you I'll hear a Michael Jackson song coming up. And
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Speaker 1: it must have been like, you know, I'm bad. And
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Speaker 1: She's like, oh my God, I'm right, God, God, thank you.
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Speaker 1: I mean, come on, tell me, okay. So Asia's like, yeah,
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Speaker 1: but you can hear, feel and see a message from God.
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Speaker 1: And ever since I was a child, she's told her
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Speaker 1: things that have come to pass. I don't know if
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Speaker 1: I can do that, right, child. I do love accents
20:40
Speaker 1: of you know, like I talk about how much I
20:42
Speaker 1: love English accents, but yeah, I love every accent. I
20:44
Speaker 1: think it's so interesting, it's so great to like hear them.
20:49
Speaker 1: I went on a deep dive, like I found this
20:51
Speaker 1: like lovely Lady on TikTok that could do such a
20:55
Speaker 1: good trends. No way, yeah, trans Atlantic accent, like she
21:00
Speaker 1: sounds just like Judy Garla. She does this weird breath
21:02
Speaker 1: at that after everything. Anyway, it's just like I can
21:05
Speaker 1: hear it all. I can just hear like music anyway.
21:09
Speaker 1: So basically it's just like, yeah, she she told me
21:12
Speaker 1: I was going to meet Maxwell. She prophesied this show fiance.
21:17
Speaker 1: And it's so funny because so rarely does Nanitay Fiance
21:19
Speaker 1: let us know that the people on the show know
21:22
Speaker 1: that they're on a show. They break their fourth wall
21:25
Speaker 1: sometimes sometimes they'll give us like a you know, a
21:27
Speaker 1: producer asking a question, but like, rarely do we ever
21:30
Speaker 1: get to hear like fucking Andre of Libby being like
21:35
Speaker 1: and we get to be on the show. So it's
21:38
Speaker 1: so interesting. Okay, you know, they're talking about the fact
21:42
Speaker 1: that she has to go to Nigeria and they're waiting
21:45
Speaker 1: for a sign for God, and there's geese and ducks
21:48
Speaker 1: at the pond and they, you know, start making some
21:50
Speaker 1: noise and so that's enough. They're like, oh, there's God.
21:53
Speaker 1: Thanks God. God's making these geese go crazy. It's not
21:59
Speaker 1: the film crew or just their mating seasons. God. Okay.
22:04
Speaker 1: So next scene, he's just packing for Nigeria and she's
22:10
Speaker 1: she made a shirt of herself of herself that she's like, yeah,
22:17
Speaker 1: I'm gonna give this to him, so you know, if
22:19
Speaker 1: he ever wants to wear this shirt with my face
22:21
Speaker 1: that says I love my baby. It'll be great. I
22:27
Speaker 1: can't imagine having like the strength of vanity, even though
22:32
Speaker 1: I'm named a podcast called Vanity Fair. Like, I can't
22:35
Speaker 1: imagine putting my face, my just my face on a
22:39
Speaker 1: shirt for someone I'm in a relationship with and being like,
22:45
Speaker 1: you can wear this, here's my hot girlfriend. Like I don't.
22:49
Speaker 1: I don't have the confidence to do that. I wouldn't.
22:56
Speaker 1: I mean, like, I don't even think I can make
22:59
Speaker 1: a shirt with a picture both of us on it.
23:01
Speaker 1: I would maybe give someone a kitchy shirt with like
23:04
Speaker 1: a saying on there or something like that that like
23:05
Speaker 1: you know, means something to us or whatever, But like, never,
23:08
Speaker 1: just my fucking face. Never. Also, because I don't want
23:12
Speaker 1: to see my face on a shirt like that. Inevitably,
23:15
Speaker 1: the picture's not going to come out well, you know,
23:17
Speaker 1: like as you're wearing it, like you know, someone's stomach
23:19
Speaker 1: is like Preuschicken's things. I know it's going to be like,
23:21
Speaker 1: you know, a weird deformed version of my of my being.
23:25
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna like it. I'm not gonna be like, ah,
23:27
Speaker 1: what a great looking picture of me, like sprawled across
23:29
Speaker 1: this person's chest looks really great pixelated on this person's shirt,
23:33
Speaker 1: Like I just, I mean, it's not going to be attractive,
23:35
Speaker 1: and you know, if it's not attractive of me, then
23:37
Speaker 1: fuck it, you know. Okay. So however, she's not just
23:41
Speaker 1: vain about herself. She's like, let me tell you, I'm
23:44
Speaker 1: going to turn this man out, honey. I'm giving him
23:46
Speaker 1: some things. First things. First, he needs a hair transplant.
23:50
Speaker 1: I'm going to bring him all of these things because
23:51
Speaker 1: I've already made him go to an esthetician and he
23:54
Speaker 1: got a chemical peel and we're like what and then
23:56
Speaker 1: they show us a picture of Maxwell. Indeed, he has
23:58
Speaker 1: some texture. I didn't know there was, Like you made
24:02
Speaker 1: him go to like an esthetician in Nigeria for a
24:04
Speaker 1: chemical peel. She's like giving him like you know, hair
24:08
Speaker 1: growth oils and like different retinal serums. She's like, there's
24:13
Speaker 1: not a lot of beauty products there, so I'm going
24:15
Speaker 1: to bring it all for him. Will he use it?
24:22
Speaker 1: I thought it was okay, I know that last episode
24:29
Speaker 1: and I made it real event, Jake and I went
24:31
Speaker 1: in on Marissa's Oh Marissa's not on this episode. Other
24:35
Speaker 1: on Marissa's ex's like head versus head with hat, but
24:40
Speaker 1: in actuality like I wouldn't. I also, yeah, I'm not
24:46
Speaker 1: trying to make someone get surgery. That's crazy. I would
24:54
Speaker 1: never be like, yeah, you need a hair transplant to
24:59
Speaker 1: a man. It's just because I don't care about usually
25:04
Speaker 1: the way their heads look. I would, I'll be honest.
25:08
Speaker 1: I could see myself if someone really had like a
25:11
Speaker 1: bad set of choppers, you know, like really just like
25:14
Speaker 1: you know, hadn't been able to like get some of
25:16
Speaker 1: those teeth done. I could see a situation where I
25:19
Speaker 1: would be like it, i'd be nice to get you know,
25:23
Speaker 1: some braces or what are they do now, you know,
25:27
Speaker 1: like the clear guards or whatever. And if yeah, maybe
25:31
Speaker 1: if he like to me, I guess that's easily fixable.
25:34
Speaker 1: I mean, it isn't like someone is like ripping or
25:38
Speaker 1: opening or like stitching anything back together and skin resurfacing.
25:44
Speaker 1: If especially if they mentioned something like it was a
25:50
Speaker 1: part of themselves they wanted to you know, change, I
25:52
Speaker 1: could like support it. But it's so yeah, it's I
25:55
Speaker 1: think it's kind of weird to be like, get surgery.
26:00
Speaker 1: I want you to get surgery, because I would be
26:06
Speaker 1: really upset and you know, weird. It out. If some
26:10
Speaker 1: guy was like, you know what you should do, go
26:14
Speaker 1: ahead and get those tits lifted, go ahead and get
26:17
Speaker 1: a breastlift. I really appreciate it. Why don't you get
26:20
Speaker 1: some light bo I'd be like, fuck you, how dare you? Anyway?
26:30
Speaker 1: But she does look great, so maybe she You know,
26:33
Speaker 1: I want to be like, the fucking God tell you
26:36
Speaker 1: to do that. God told you to tell this man
26:38
Speaker 1: to get a hair transplant. Anyway, it sounds like you're
26:42
Speaker 1: babbling again. So she calls him and the first thing
26:48
Speaker 1: he says to her is like, you're so beautiful baby.
26:50
Speaker 1: I love that nose. Did she get a nose job?
26:55
Speaker 1: She does look a cute nose. Then we realize because
26:59
Speaker 1: she tells that her mom is going to actually accompany
27:02
Speaker 1: her to Nigeria, and he's like, oh good, I love
27:07
Speaker 1: your mom and I can't wait to see your mom.
27:09
Speaker 1: And her mom comes in the room just at that point,
27:12
Speaker 1: and she replies, I can't wait to see you neither, Maxwell,
27:17
Speaker 1: And I was like, did she say neither? And so
27:19
Speaker 1: I put the captions on and surely she did. That
27:24
Speaker 1: was funny to me because I felt like it was
27:26
Speaker 1: almost like a Freudian slip. I can't wait to see you. Neither,
27:30
Speaker 1: I don't want to see you. It's kind of or
27:33
Speaker 1: is it that thing that people do, like when someone's like,
27:36
Speaker 1: I could care less, and you're gonna be like, so
27:41
Speaker 1: you could, you couldn't? You could care less? You care
27:43
Speaker 1: a lot right now? That's what that means. If you
27:46
Speaker 1: could care less, it means that you care in this moment,
27:49
Speaker 1: and you can consider a world in which maybe you
27:52
Speaker 1: could care less. But you the phrase is like, you know,
27:55
Speaker 1: I couldn't care less, and therefore we would know that
27:58
Speaker 1: you have hit the limit of this caring. But the
28:01
Speaker 1: other way means that you haven't hit your limit, and
28:04
Speaker 1: you could care more and you could care less. You know.
28:07
Speaker 1: She's so confusing to me. So godless is her friend going,
28:16
Speaker 1: the one that's getting married to the other friend that
28:19
Speaker 1: they both got denied with their mom. I'm really happy
28:24
Speaker 1: her mom's coming Juliet, But I also want to be like,
28:28
Speaker 1: what does Juliet think about this in a confessional, because
28:31
Speaker 1: the only other scene with her mom was like very like, oh, okay,
28:35
Speaker 1: you're going to the lawyer to see what's happening to me.
28:38
Speaker 1: To us, we assume that Juliet's like I don't want
28:41
Speaker 1: her to marry him, or is Juliet like, get my
28:46
Speaker 1: daughter out of my beautiful home. I want more space.
28:51
Speaker 1: If she marries someone, she'll be you know, living with
28:54
Speaker 1: that person. I get to have more rooms for myself.
28:56
Speaker 1: I don't know what Juliette's POV is yet, Like doesh
28:59
Speaker 1: support daughter or not? And I'm bringing this up because
29:02
Speaker 1: I feel like it's a bad storytelling on the producer's part.
29:06
Speaker 1: We need to know what is Juliet's like endgame, What
29:10
Speaker 1: side is Juliet on? Is Juliet just like on God's side?
29:17
Speaker 1: Therefore Asia's side or real God side, our side. Okay,
29:25
Speaker 1: let's keep it moving, honey to Shay, so listen, honey,
29:30
Speaker 1: Annabelle has woken up at like five am, and she's
29:33
Speaker 1: already scrubbing things, you know, first the bathtub because she
29:36
Speaker 1: wants to take a bath, or take least take a shower.
29:39
Speaker 1: I don't think she means she wouldn't put her body
29:41
Speaker 1: like in that bathtub. She wants to take a shower.
29:44
Speaker 1: But the shower, the thing that's supposed to make her clean,
29:47
Speaker 1: is dirty. So she's like, that's where I'll start. Smart.
29:51
Speaker 1: He sees her and he's like, Honey, get back in bed.
29:54
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make you breakfast in bed, a good old
29:57
Speaker 1: American breakfast. And we're like, what does this mean? Is
30:01
Speaker 1: it like, you know, bacon, eggs, pancakes, you know, like
30:05
Speaker 1: fresh juice, Like what is it gonna be? And she's
30:07
Speaker 1: like okay. So she, Honey gets in bed and then
30:11
Speaker 1: Shay you know, gets two eggs and he gets a
30:16
Speaker 1: plastic bowl. He breaks the eggs in the plastic bowl,
30:20
Speaker 1: scrambles them, puts them on a plate, you know, toasts
30:25
Speaker 1: two slices of wonderbread and by the way, the eggs
30:28
Speaker 1: look overcooked, and then puts like so much jelly and
30:33
Speaker 1: jam on that and like butter, and he's like, yeah,
30:36
Speaker 1: you can have the toast for dessert. It's lackluster. Okay.
30:43
Speaker 1: So she has to eat her meal Honey in bed
30:46
Speaker 1: with the dogs just staring at the food, you know,
30:49
Speaker 1: like and there's hair everywhere, dog hair everywhere, and she's
30:54
Speaker 1: grossed out by She's like, in the Philippines, we don't
30:56
Speaker 1: do this. He's like, I know. She's like yes, because
31:00
Speaker 1: we think it's gross because we think there's gonna be
31:03
Speaker 1: food now in the bed, and like it's a lazy
31:06
Speaker 1: person's thing. We like to keep things, you know, in
31:08
Speaker 1: the respectable in their respective parts of the house, which
31:13
Speaker 1: she could fucking pick up on what I'm putting down,
31:17
Speaker 1: and he doesn't. So she said like, okay, well, I'll
31:19
Speaker 1: just tell you I'm going to finish this fucking breakfast
31:21
Speaker 1: in the kitchen. It's weird to eat in the in
31:23
Speaker 1: the bed. Now I'm trying to think, I think it's okay.
31:31
Speaker 1: I well, I really only eat breakfast in bed if
31:36
Speaker 1: I'm in a hotel room. I don't like eating breakfast
31:38
Speaker 1: in bed in my own life ever, because usually the
31:42
Speaker 1: only major part of the day where I feel like
31:44
Speaker 1: I can get up and go at him is like,
31:46
Speaker 1: you know, in the morning. The only time I would
31:50
Speaker 1: like to eat in bed is like truly at night.
31:53
Speaker 1: And if I want like snacki's while I'm like watching
31:56
Speaker 1: TV or something. Okay, So she's like, okay, let's get
32:05
Speaker 1: in the car and I'll drive you around Paducah. And
32:08
Speaker 1: he starts pretending he's a tour guide. You know, he
32:12
Speaker 1: puts his Meto pants on. He's like this, here's the
32:16
Speaker 1: abandoned mill, and right here is a road sign, and
32:20
Speaker 1: right here and she's like, oh my god. She's like,
32:22
Speaker 1: shut the fuck up. She's like, yeah, Shay just will
32:25
Speaker 1: talk and talk and talk and about the most boring,
32:29
Speaker 1: mundane things, just like to have noise in the air,
32:34
Speaker 1: you know, Like I'm surprised. She wasn't, like, can you
32:36
Speaker 1: put on the radio? And he's like, look, this is
32:41
Speaker 1: the market square and she's like great. He's like it
32:44
Speaker 1: has less people right now, but on the weekends it
32:47
Speaker 1: really picks up to maybe you know, two or three more.
32:50
Speaker 1: She's like, oh my god. And then he's like, well,
32:52
Speaker 1: my friend's bought this bar. Let's go inside. And then
32:55
Speaker 1: when they go, this is a weird editing because we're
32:58
Speaker 1: supposed to believe that they've had breakfast, which makes me
33:00
Speaker 1: feel like it's morning. And then this they just drove
33:03
Speaker 1: around with a small ass town. We're like, okay, what
33:05
Speaker 1: is it eleven, you know, And then they go into
33:08
Speaker 1: this bar slash pool whole hall, can't talk and his
33:12
Speaker 1: friends are there, his friends are already drinking. But we're like, okay,
33:14
Speaker 1: this is what they do there. It feels like they're
33:18
Speaker 1: in there for like an hour, but it's pitch black outside.
33:23
Speaker 1: Now I thought it was just pitch black while we
33:26
Speaker 1: were inside, like like they had blacked out the windows,
33:29
Speaker 1: but truly we're gonna see her go outside and it's
33:31
Speaker 1: darkest sin So like, where the fuck did this day go? Anyway,
33:35
Speaker 1: So we meet Lindsay and Jeff his friends, and Jeff
33:38
Speaker 1: has no tact at all because, out loud, he's like,
33:41
Speaker 1: we thought you were a mail order bride. I don't
33:45
Speaker 1: know if he thought she didn't speak English well or whatever,
33:47
Speaker 1: but that's fucking rude. She's like, well, I'm not, bitch.
33:50
Speaker 1: I've known this man for five fucking years, okay, and
33:55
Speaker 1: just so you know, like no, and also is that
33:58
Speaker 1: what people think of me? Because it's a fence, and
34:01
Speaker 1: so they'd be like, well maybe a little bit. Well
34:04
Speaker 1: you just you know, you're not around, so we don't know.
34:06
Speaker 1: And he's known as being single. She's yeah, upset that
34:11
Speaker 1: people are judgmental. And then after that lovely conversation, I
34:16
Speaker 1: don't know why Shay wasn't like, babe, why don't you
34:18
Speaker 1: have a drink or two and let's have some fun,
34:20
Speaker 1: let's play some darts. He doesn't. He just makes her
34:22
Speaker 1: sit there longer and be like, you know what, let
34:24
Speaker 1: me tell you I need to warn you about my
34:27
Speaker 1: ex wife, Nicole. She's like, I don't want to fucking
34:29
Speaker 1: talk to Nicole. He's like, yeah, no, I don't want
34:31
Speaker 1: to talk to Nicole either. But before she does, talk
34:33
Speaker 1: to you, because it's already been producers already told us
34:36
Speaker 1: that we have to make the scene happen. I want
34:38
Speaker 1: to get in front of that and tell you my
34:40
Speaker 1: side of the story first, which is not how you
34:43
Speaker 1: lay this down. And he's like, my side of the
34:45
Speaker 1: story is that she's gonna say that I cheated with Angie,
34:49
Speaker 1: but I never touched Angie. Angie I wouldn't touch because
34:52
Speaker 1: she's the daughter of my friend. And Annabelle's hearing this
34:56
Speaker 1: person say this in front of her, and she knows
34:58
Speaker 1: that it's lying. Doesn't care what language speaks. She speak
35:01
Speaker 1: sing enough English, but even if she didn't, she could
35:03
Speaker 1: tell by body language. This man's fucking line. Also that
35:06
Speaker 1: this man feels like he's guilty. So he says, She's like,
35:13
Speaker 1: did you cheat on me with Angie even though obviously
35:16
Speaker 1: he just said he didn't, because she can read by
35:18
Speaker 1: the language, and he's like, no, I never laid a
35:22
Speaker 1: finger on her, but I do say that, you know,
35:25
Speaker 1: you know sometimes, you know, when you're dancing by the
35:29
Speaker 1: lake after doing a beer rip, right after the dance ends,
35:33
Speaker 1: you know, you do that thing where you like kiss
35:35
Speaker 1: each other. But I don't think it's cheating, which it is,
35:42
Speaker 1: and he knows it is. That's why he's already brought
35:44
Speaker 1: it up, and like his only defense is that he
35:48
Speaker 1: doesn't think it is cheating. But if she thinks of cheating,
35:54
Speaker 1: then he'll stop. Which is a kind of fucked up
35:59
Speaker 1: life that is like so weird and manipulative and also
36:03
Speaker 1: indicative of someone who is going to say whatever the
36:07
Speaker 1: fuck he wants to say to dodge and get out
36:13
Speaker 1: of a situation that he knows is shitty for him.
36:19
Speaker 1: It has it doesn't have any dignity to it, Like
36:22
Speaker 1: there's no integrity in that kind of thing, Like there's
36:25
Speaker 1: it's just it's weird, and she knows it. He's like,
36:30
Speaker 1: so if that's your opinion, If it's your opinion, then
36:33
Speaker 1: that's cheating. Then I'm sorry, but I didn't mean to,
36:37
Speaker 1: in your opinion, cheat on you by kissing other women
36:42
Speaker 1: when I'm drunk by the lake after we've danced. So
36:48
Speaker 1: she says she's tired and she doesn't want to listen
36:50
Speaker 1: to him anymore, so his crap, and she gets up
36:52
Speaker 1: and walks out, and we're kind of like, well, girl,
36:54
Speaker 1: what are you gonna where are gonna go? Where are
36:56
Speaker 1: you gonna go? You know you're gonna end up back
36:59
Speaker 1: and dog Hare City, so like, what's happening? But she does.
37:03
Speaker 1: She goes outside. It's again pitch Blacks, where like time
37:07
Speaker 1: has no meaning in this place, and the producer talks
37:10
Speaker 1: to her and he's She's like now because there's no
37:13
Speaker 1: one to talk to her. I guess the two friends
37:16
Speaker 1: Lindsay and Jeff have fucking left. And you know, at
37:20
Speaker 1: this point you almost want Nicole to come out from
37:22
Speaker 1: the bushes and be like, Hi, Annabelle need someone to
37:25
Speaker 1: talk to about what a shitty person Shay is. Hi,
37:28
Speaker 1: I've been waiting for this. I have nothing else to do,
37:31
Speaker 1: like you almost do, because he makes it feel like,
37:33
Speaker 1: I know you don't want to talk to Nicole, but
37:35
Speaker 1: she's going to be around. We're going to run into her.
37:37
Speaker 1: And this is what feels like a bar in Paduka
37:40
Speaker 1: that's open, so like it does feel like Nicole is
37:42
Speaker 1: just going to be like, here's my time to shine.
37:46
Speaker 1: Annabelle's really upset, and she's like, I thought he loved me,
37:51
Speaker 1: but he doesn't. And I don't even know if this
37:52
Speaker 1: wedding's going to happen. And we're like, oh, this is
37:54
Speaker 1: what day one? This is the first full day you're there.
38:02
Speaker 1: I feel yeah, I feel like Nicole and Allison are
38:05
Speaker 1: just like in a truck watching all this, being like, ha,
38:09
Speaker 1: we hardly have to do anything. Dad's ruining his own
38:11
Speaker 1: life for us, you know. Yeah, It's like Shay is
38:23
Speaker 1: used to getting away with murder, and I do think
38:26
Speaker 1: that he probably murdered people, but like, you know, like
38:29
Speaker 1: he he either because it's like a small town, or
38:33
Speaker 1: he's made enough money, or you know, he's just a
38:35
Speaker 1: white male and just been alive for so long. It
38:37
Speaker 1: feels like he's gotten out of like fishy, slimy situations
38:43
Speaker 1: his whole life, and like has remained relatively unscathed. So
38:46
Speaker 1: like he gets to do what he wants because there
38:53
Speaker 1: is no way in which you say what he said
38:56
Speaker 1: how he doesn't think it's cheating, but if it's her opinion,
38:59
Speaker 1: he'll stop without thinking, Well, you already are gonna do
39:04
Speaker 1: whatever you want to do, and you'll just not tell
39:05
Speaker 1: me if you cheat on me next time, you just
39:07
Speaker 1: won't say anything. He yikes, but maybe you know. I
39:15
Speaker 1: like to think there's a part of Annabelle that if
39:17
Speaker 1: she stays with him, she's like, I don't really care
39:18
Speaker 1: what he does, as long as you know he's putting
39:23
Speaker 1: money in my pocket and more money than he's giving
39:26
Speaker 1: his daughter. But we're obviously going to see Nicole, but
39:31
Speaker 1: we're obviously going to see Angie again, and I'm hoping
39:33
Speaker 1: to god we see a scene with Angie's dad and
39:36
Speaker 1: maybe in all on one time you know that? Am
39:40
Speaker 1: I done? That is the end of the episode, My babes. However,
39:44
Speaker 1: thank you so much for listening to me chalk for
39:46
Speaker 1: so long. I certainly appreciate it. I again love this season.
39:49
Speaker 1: I feel like it's so much. I can't believe we
39:51
Speaker 1: didn't have Marissa or Edward, nor do we have Katie
39:53
Speaker 1: and Josh, and still so much to talk about. And
39:56
Speaker 1: mostly I mean, I if I went back listening to
39:59
Speaker 1: this episode, especially obviously part one, probably forty minutes of
40:03
Speaker 1: a forty five minute of a forty five minute episode,
40:05
Speaker 1: and me talking about how much I hate him, Okay,
40:08
Speaker 1: it's just that I do, you know so? But I
40:11
Speaker 1: think you do too. We're friends, okay, me and you,
40:14
Speaker 1: not me and mito. Okay, thank you guys so much.
40:17
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40:20
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40:47
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Speaker 1: I will take money. Please be the shade to my Alison,
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Speaker 1: which is his daughter, and she got ten dollars. I'm
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Speaker 1: only asking for five for biscuits for Sunday, all right,
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Speaker 1: my babes. Other than that, we're going to breathe and
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Speaker 1: you know, send each other on our merry way. But
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Speaker 1: I certainly thank you for listening and thank you for
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Speaker 1: being with me, and yeah, it means a lot. And
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Speaker 1: happy June, all right, my loves, Let's breathe June. We're
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Speaker 1: like halfway through the middle of this year. It's been
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Speaker 1: a wild, crazy year and an unsafe time for you know,
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Speaker 1: a lot of people, and doesn't we don't know what
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Speaker 1: we're gleaving towards, but we have each other and the universe.
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Speaker 1: So okay, two breaths. Oh feels good. Thank you. Thank
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Speaker 1: you for being present with me, and thank you for
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Speaker 1: breathing with me, and just you know, feeling like we're
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Speaker 1: in this moment together even if we're gonna go on
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Speaker 1: our merry ways. Okay, take care of yourselves and one another,
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Speaker 1: stand up for what you believe, and make art and
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Speaker 1: I'll talk to you later. Bye bye, bye bye