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Puppy Love Breakups · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We've got a question for American mama. Dear mama, what advice would you
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  give a teen after they've been dumped by their puppy love. Well, let's
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  ask our American mama, Mama Mama, and joining us now our American mama,
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  Terry Netterville. I feel like I have a little experience on both sides
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  of this equation. Well, I'm currently married to my high school heart.
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  Yes, I broke up with her twice. She broke up with me once,
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  So it happens. Of course, all that breaking up happened long before
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  we got married. Yeah, I mean I've been on both sides of that
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  equation. Yeah. So uh, look, you got you got kids who
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  are about that age, a little bit past that age in some cases.
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  But what advice do you give? Well, I you know I have a
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  lot of friends who will ask me this question. You know, because I've
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  written about this before on Facebook for years. You know how to handle it.
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  And I say, it's it's different with boys and girls. But let
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  me just say there's just recently someone in my family had his little heartbroken puppy
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  love, and I've told him, I said, let me tell you.
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  I'm going to tell you the three things that I have told mine, especially
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  my boys, when there's been a heartbreak. I want you to do these
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  three things and just trust me. Please. The first one is never ever
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  say a negative word about her to anybody. You will never regret that.
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  You will regret it. If you say something negative. It gets back to
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  her because you're so mad and you say something, and then of course a
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  girl runs back and says, you will not believe what you know ex just
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  said about you, and your friends will try and get you to say so
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  absolutely, don't do it. Don't do it. Secondly, if you're the
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  one that's been broken up with, do not whatever you do, do not
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  reach out anymore. They want their space, so don't be the one that
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  will text or find a reason to text or call if they want their space,
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  and if you want them back. Also, because this works, let
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  them miss you, let them see what they're missing. Do not do not
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  reach out when they've said they needed space and they want to break up.
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  And then thirdly, let yourself be sad sometimes. I remember done still.
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  One time in your own private time, I said, night times the hardiest.
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  You know, it's all that it's quiet and it's dark, You're left
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  with nothing but your thoughts. You're wondering what they're thinking, what the other
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  person's thinking, and so allow yourself to listen to those sad songs and cry
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  out those emotions. Just get it out there. And then some other tips
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  that I say is you know, we say fake it till you make it.
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  I say faith that till you make it. Have faith. It's all
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  going to work out, whether you get back with that person or that's not
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  the one. You've learned your lessons. So when you're out, so I
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  told this is what I told my nephew recently was broken off with, And
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  I said, you want to go out and have fun, have fun with
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  your friends, because you want the news to get back to her. You
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  want it to be if she says, oh, how is how is he?
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  Is he doing okay? You want your friends and people who see you
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  at school to go, oh, he's cool. He had a great time.
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  I saw him, you know, laughing it up at the you know
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  what a Cooper Street blah blah blah. He's having a good time. You
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  don't want them to feel like they are groveling and they're sad and they're so
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  droopy because you're not in their life. You don't want them. You have
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  too much pride in yourself, so you know, and you something happens when
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  that when you do go out and you're like, Okay, I'm devastating on
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  the inside, but I'm gonna put on a front. Something happens inside your
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  brain. It tricks your brain and doorphins are let go. When you start
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  laughing, you have fun. You actually start feeling like that. There was
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  a really fun lesson I think that I got in church on one weekend.
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  Actually, he's my Pastor's talked about those a couple of times. He says,
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  look, God will either give you what it is you want, or
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  he will change what you want. And he said, how many people in
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  this room right now are so glad that God did not give you the person
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  that you thought you wanted back then? And you always heard people like there
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  are people standing up the pews. Amen, Oh, thank you Jesus,
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  you're all back. Thank you so much. Because when you're a teenager,
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  especially and you you're when you're young, it's like it feels like the end
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  of the world. Like you you put powards, your heart and your soul
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  into this person, and you're like, wait, a minute. This is
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  I'm actually I thought that this was my person and what you'll discover and actually,
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  uh, he got a message from Summer's boyfriend and and he just said,
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  just know that this is this is the best thing that could ever happen
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  to you. It's happened to all of us. And he said, I
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  didn't realize until I met your cousin, until I met Summer, that now
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  I've got the best thing in this world. And if that had not happened,
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  I wouldn't have this. So just trust God, trust the process and
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  what he wanted at the time. Yeah, it's so true. So you
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  just don't say anything negative. That's a really good point. Let yourself feel,
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  you know, let yourself feel those emotions and cry by yourself if you
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  want to do nothing wrong with that. Yeah, you know, faith it
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  till you make it, and it will be. It'll be okay, it
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  all works out. God has a plan. Yeah, and this time in
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  their lives, I think that parents should kind of you know, if you
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  want to have a day like when Summer had, you know, a little
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  breakup when she was in high school. Okay, you got we got today.
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  We're gonna let you cry today. Yeah, we're gonna get some ice
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  cream and then we'll move forward, and then tomorrow's gonna be a new day,
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  and that's what we need. My last point is learned from it.
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  Yes. Oh, we talked about that too, Yes. Lessons. What
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  is it that you like about this relationship? What is it you didn't like
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  about this relationship? And how can you use that for your next relationships?
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  Right, learn from it absolutely, and be kind to the person no matter
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  what. You'll never regret that. I like ask our American Mama question.
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  ask the Mama button. Turn it out of I'll thank you so much.
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  Thank you,