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Season 4 - Episode 8 - The Goldilocks Affect. · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermind, set coach, creative strategist, and also
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  happen to be a farmer. This is my chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast to teach
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  distinctions, possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring
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  some joy into the world. So welcome to the coop, and
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  let's start your day off in a fantastic way.
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  Hey everybody, good morning from my studio because it's freezing
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  cold again and I'm not out there in the dark, cold chicken coop
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  right this moment. They're not even awake yet.
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  So today we're talking about something called the Goldilocks
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  effect. So what is the Goldilocks
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  effect? Can you even imagine what it
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  could be? Well, what it comes down to is
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  this. Do you remember the story of
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  Goldilocks and three bears? And she goes in and she's eating
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  the porridge, and this one's too cold and this one's too hot, and
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  this one's just right. Well, human beings love to
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  entertain 3 choices. And that's why when you go on
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  most websites, there are three choices and there's always one
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  that's highlighted and it's always in the middle and it's
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  sticking out. There is a science behind this,
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  and the science is that it's the Goldilocks effect.
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  Most people are going to pick and choose the one that is smack
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  in the middle because it's labeled that way.
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  The most common, the most comfortable, the one most people
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  choose. And because of how we're wired
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  to follow what other people do, and that is not an accident.
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  Most of us are wired to do that. Well, all of us are wired to do
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  it. Most of us choose to stay within
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  that frame unconsciously until we point it out.
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  And then you go, oh, I don't want to just be like that.
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  And then we move beyond it and, and get past it, put it behind
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  us. But the, but the reality is,
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  unless you know it, you don't do it.
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  So that's why we're talking about this today because if you
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  don't realize that you have this effect going on in your head,
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  you will just constantly be like Goldilocks and pick the one
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  that's quote UN quote, just right in the middle.
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  And there is something to be said for the awareness of it and
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  being able to choose when you know.
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  So this shows up pretty much everywhere in your life and when
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  you start to notice how it affects you across the board,
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  not just going to a website and buying.
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  I mean, if you, if you're a regular listener and I, I talked
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  about the jump rope thing when I went onto that website, I can
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  promise you I chose the one that was right in the middle because
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  I am I going to use both the jump ropes that it came with
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  maybe, but I don't know. But it was the one in the middle
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  and it made the most sense. So I was like, OK, I'm going to
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  do that. Why did it make the most sense?
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  Because I'm wired for that and it's something new.
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  I'm going into uncharted territory doing this, and if
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  it's like, OK, I'll go right where they tell me to go, Isn't
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  that interesting? They're telling me what my
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  experience should be instead of me pausing.
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  Now, did I actually pause because I'm aware of the
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  Goldilocks effect? Yes.
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  Do I have intentions of using the second rope, which is much
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  better in the sense for doing tricks?
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  Yes. Will I get there?
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  Remains to be seen. So far so good.
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  But I chose it based on a future version of myself, which is
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  quite helpful when you start thinking about it, these things,
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  and This is why we're talking about it, You have to look from
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  a future version of yourself because you know you're working
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  on being committed to get to that version.
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  So I'm making choices based on the person who's going to be
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  able to really skip rope in a short period of time.
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  So in the normal day world, how does this affect you?
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  Well, it, it, it's constantly running behind the scenes unless
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  you're calling it out. So you have to ask yourself, am
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  I choosing the one that I really want or am I choosing the one
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  that I'm programmed to choose? That is the real question.
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  And the programming will Simply put you in the middle.
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  The programming will keep you in the middle.
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  Everything is designed to keep you in the middle because the
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  middle is safe. When you think about herds in
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  Africa as they're moving across, like if you think about gazelle
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  or you think about all those big herds that run across the plains
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  in Africa, the animals that are on the edge are the ones that
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  are in the most danger. That's why they all group
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  together and we watch it and we think it's Stampede.
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  They're running over each other. This is the stupidest thing I've
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  ever seen. However, when you understand the
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  psychology of it, the middle is safe because the lions are not
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  going to come for the middle. They're coming for the edge.
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  They're coming for the ones that are lagging behind, the ones
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  that are weak, the ones that are in peril.
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  They're not coming for the middle.
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  So that's part of the hard wiring in our head.
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  We like to think we're beyond that as humans, but we're not.
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  We're not at all. And we will do it every single
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  time unless we're aware of it. Now, I'm not saying you don't
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  choose the middle because I chose the middle when I bought
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  the jump ropes. What I'm saying is be aware of
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  the Goldilocks effect, look at it and say, do I want to be in
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  the middle? Am I consciously choosing to be
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  in the middle now? Why the middle was so appealing
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  this time for me and I thought about it, I could get different,
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  even another different jump rope.
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  I didn't. What I said was no, this is as
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  advanced as I will want to go with this.
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  I'm not going to become some jump Roper on Instagram.
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  I don't need the other one. That's not part of my goal.
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  It was conscious and I like the fact that they laid it out that
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  way, but I did it consciously and that's what this is all
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  about today. So go make sure you're not
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  living like Goldilocks unconsciously.
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  And if it works, you choose it. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you soon.
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  Bye.