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__BONUS SHOW___ DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 1_ HOST LATONYA MICHELLE LITTLEJOHN · DA CREW Podcast

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of each Monthy, this is show that you don't want to miss. Every
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body, man tell me Hey, good evening and welcome to Delay but Not
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Denied podcast where I am taking over for my best friend tonight. But guess
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what she is actually the guest. So welcome to Delayed but not Denied and
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I am your host, Trevida Harris tonight. So let's go to God in
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prayer before we do anything else. After that, we will be hearing from
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the actual host, but we got some chit chatting to do. Dear Heavenly
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Father, thank you for bringing us together tonight. Thank you for allowing me
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the space to be able to do this with my best friend. We have
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been friends for so long, and it is because of you that our paths
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crossed and they have been connected every since. Please allow us to give anyone
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who is listening tonight what they need from us. And your precious name,
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Jesus, we pray Amen. We are waiting, waiting, waiting. Hi,
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hey girl, Hey, hey girl. How you doing like a girl?
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I'm good? How are you? I am wonderful. Now listen,
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this is definitely new for me. I am taking over your show tonight.
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So how does it feel, number one to be on the other side.
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It's a little different, it's but I'm like it. Okay, Okay,
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we'll see. You couldn't have chose a better person to do this part right
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here, because you know, I'm gonna be silly, I'm gonna be goofy,
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and I'm gonna ask some serious questions as we go along. So let's
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see. Where shall I start? Where should I start? Hmm? Okay?
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We met in middle school, right, tell me about that? First
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interaction. So it was gym class. We had gym together, you and
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I and your cousin Jessica. We met around that time. We were the
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same height. Unfortunately I stayed this this tight. Yeah. Yeah, we
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met. And as the days, you know, turned in the weeks and
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weeks in the months, we started hanging around each other a little more.
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And you know, we used to dress out for gym, and in the
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midst of dressing out, we all used to, well not all of us,
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but me, you and Jessica, we used to sing, I mean,
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like the it's WVM pressure right. But you know, from that day
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to this day, I've always valued our relationship. Yeah, I I mean
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I can say that too. I mean I can honestly say that friendship,
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that word for most people these days doesn't carry a lot of weight, because
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you can be friends with somebody one day and then the next day you don't
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even know who that person is, simply because of what they consider friendship.
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Right now, we've had our disagreements, we've had our arguments, we've had
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those things, and it's always okay, you could be mad today, I'll
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call you tomorrow right when I'm not mad. You know, we've had those
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moments, and I can honestly say I feel like that is what true friendship
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is, to be able to tell that person what they need to hear versus
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what they want to hear, because oftentimes we want to hear all the good
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stuff about ourselves, but we never really want to dig deep and hear that
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bad stuff simply because that bad stuff is what we need to change and what
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we need to work on with ourselves. And we may not even see any
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issues with it, but it's like, uh, girl, come here,
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let me tell you something you need fix it, because that ain't ain't it,
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That is not it, and that is not what we're doing right.
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And we've had those conversations plenty of times, and I can honestly say that
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in my toughest moments through my health crisis and things of that nature, especially
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in twenty thirteen, that was really a tough one for all of us and
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for you, your husband, your son, everybody was there during that time,
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taking me from Spartanburg to Greenville to try to get help because I went
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like from talking like this to having trouble completing the sentence, and it was
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so so frustrating, and doctors couldn't tell us what was going on. They
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just kept saying it's headaches and this and the third and that was not what
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it was. So I am so so grateful for you being by my side
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in those moments because that was really tough, and I don't think I would
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have been able to make it without, you know, because you know,
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I ain't the easiest patient either at all. But I'm definitely not a good
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patient, you know when it comes to sitting down and you know, being
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still well yeah, yeah, yeah. I mean as much as I try
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to say no to that, that is the absolute truth, because it's not
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what I do best. I don't know how to do that now. Since
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becoming part of the podcast team, what has been your most challenging thing that
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you have faced and what do you see and hope for yourself content on this
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journey. I know that's a compounded question, but that that's what I love
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it. I love it. So I jumped into this podcast thing basically following
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you. You know, we we we do that like I'll introduce you to
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something, you do it. You introduce me to something I tell you know,
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and uh, it's not gonna work. And but you know this this
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was different. I feel like almost like I was called to do it.
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Everybody has a story, and I wanted to present a platform where everybody can
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be seen and heard and you know, not be judged for whatever their situation
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is. So yeah, that's that's basically what was the first part of the
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question. What has been your most challenging part about doing this? Challenging part
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is knowing that I can't do a do over? That is, Yeah,
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that has been it for me, Like you know, if I slip up
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and can't remember what I'm trying to say, and I do this thing where
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is my favorite word? So that has been you know, learning for me,
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and that was like the hardest part for me in the beginning. Well,
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listen, we all go back and critique ourselves. I can honestly say
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one thing about me though, I ain't watched none of my podcasts except for
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the ones I don't my mama, right, those are the only ones I
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have gone back and watched. But I'm harder on myself than other people are.
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What you know that that's that's one of my things that I feel like,
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I I need to stop doing that so much because you know, I'm
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I'm the hardest person on myself, and I understand where you're coming from when
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you say that. You know you can't go back and do it over.
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And there's no such thing as a perfect moment anyway, you know, So
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you just take the moment for what it is, because whatever you think was
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imperfect, somebody else looks as being perfect, you know. And that's one
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thing that I can say that I've learned during this process, is because I
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was hesitant in starting this, but you know, we have a big sister
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mentor who's like, you can do this. I don't know what you're talking
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about. And that's, you know, with the push that you gave me
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with even writing my first book. You know, I was hesitant that you
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know, you came to me in April. I didn't do nothing with that
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until Nomber, and then I got mad and frustrated and put it down.
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And then I didn't tell you that I had picked it back up because obviously
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I didn't have a choice because my kids locked me in my room after your
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your niece had her wisdom teeth pulled, I was not allowed to get out
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of my room, so I had no other choice but to do something.
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So that's where that happened, and you know, I'm grateful for that push
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because I was definitely hesitant on starting that. But over these years, what
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can you say you have learned about yourself? M So over the past few
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years, just from learning from you, I learned that I am a runner.
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Like I run from the most difficult parts of life. Behind the word
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I can't. I lived by it. I know it just doesn't work with
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me, though, But okay, I work with you and a few other
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people unfortunately unfortunately. But also you've taught me how to embrace the hardest parts
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of life in my life, and you know, for that, I thank
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you so much. I mean, you've introduced me to things that I didn't
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care for. But I was ready to rock with you because that's what we
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do. I mean, you know, with the whole college thing, I
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was like, why am I going to a friends and family day? Because
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I don't plan to go to college. So I was like, I ain't
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even even got my g DS, so what am I doing? I was
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like, let me contribute and tell us something don't feel right, something hurt,
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something important. I can't Oh my gosh, I can't even remember what
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I told you was hurting. But oh, I would say what you said
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was hurting because we're gonna get into that part, because you shouldn't even brought
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that one up, because I was gonna let that one go. You can't
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let it go because, in all honesty, it brought us to a place
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of being able to be upfront and vulnerable with each other and you know,
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being able to be clear on what we feel, say I love you,
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and move past it. I mean, we haven't. We've never been in
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a situation where it's been so hard that we just can't talk to each other
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and can't work it out, or just like, oh, I ain't talking
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to her, no mo. And you know, because people they take friends
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for granted. Yeah, and oftentimes the s all this thing can kill a
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friendship. But we've never had that problem, so you know. But yeah,
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you cussed me out, real good, real good. Well, listen,
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I gave you. Okay, let's just give some back story on that.
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Okay, but let's let's go there first. I've let you know literally
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almost two weeks in advance that this was coming up, and I wanted you
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to go on the day that I had my busiest day at school because I
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wanted you to see what was in front of you if you took that first
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step. Now we get to the day of I knew this text was coming,
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and this is what the text said. See, yes I do.
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I do. I surely do, because I was so mad when I got
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it, because I was like, okay, it says six, I'm not
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feeling well this morning. My stomach is bothering me, so I ain't gonna
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be able to go now mind you. I'm up and I'm getting ready and
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everything, and I'm like, okay, I knew this HEALTHO was gonna do
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this. I knew she was gonna do it. And so I'm I'm walking
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around I don't win and brush my teeth and it's I'm brushing my teeth.
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I said, oh no, not today. She don't get to get out
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of this. So I text you back and I said, I'm in pain
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every single day and I get up and go to class and I have left
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the school in the ambulance. You ain't got no excuse. You gonna get
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dressed, and I beat it in the middy and you're right, nah huh.
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And now and then you're talking about okay, I'll be ready exactly because
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it was no I was not taking no for an answer. And then when
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you got in the car, I said, now, who you thought you
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was talking to? Yeah? I got chess. Tis like a five year
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old child, m cause who you thought you was talking to? Because that
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was not gonna find with me? And you should have known better. And
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normally I would have I would have said, Okay, you know what,
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she ain't feeling good, But that morning I was not having no bits and
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pieces of that at all, none of it. And then we went to
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lunch afterwards, and I was like, look, you have got to get
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yourself outside of the box that you keep yourself confined in, because if you
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want to see the rest of the world, you gotta take a step out
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of that box or you either gotta break the box down so that you're not
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closed in, but you gotta be the one willing to take that step.
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You know. I was liking that I was one of those people that when
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it came down to me even starting school, I got a lecture from my
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own child because I had every excuse in the book. Yeah, and she
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told me about that. She gave it to you, good too, girl,
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did she? Because I'm sitting there I't literally making like that morning when
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we got up to now I'm like, oh my god, let me just
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tell you how that went. Now I made I can't say it was a
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mistake, but in my mind at that time, it was a mistake because
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I made the mistake of telling her that I had signed up to do a
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enrollment I guess you could say View of Virginia College at the time, and
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I gave her the time and date of this so called meeting. Well,
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that morning comes around and I'm like, yeah, I'm not I'm not going.
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I'm not going. You can go back to sleep. She pulled my
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covers off me and said, get up and get dressed. We got something
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where we need to be. I said, okay, fine, I'm gonna
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get up and I'm gonna get dressed. I ain't gonna have no classes I
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wanna take anyway, So it's okay. So this is how Like this was
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me d and how your time? You know how I am. So I'm
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like, I'm just telling how it don't matter. I ain't gonna be able
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to do none of this. It's just it's okay. Fine. So we
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get there. My enrollment specialist comes out. She's talking to me, and
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I'm like Okay, that's all fine and good. Can y'all do Can I
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do online classes? You know, because I'm still not completely well, you
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know, I'm still having my issues, and so I'm asking these questions and
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she's like, no, you have to do online your first semester, your
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first term. And I'm like, okay, well that ain't gonna work for
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me because I'm I'm just it's just not gonna work. I need online and
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it was just lie working and so then I was like, okay. So
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Kayla is like, okay, I'm about sick of you because you have given
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every single excuse under the sun. This is coming from a woman who lost
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her ability to walk, who lost her ability to talk, who lost her
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ability to do much of anything, who regained all of that, and now
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you sitting over here talking about you can't I there is nothing that you can't
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do unless you just don't wanna do it. So yeah, and so she
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was like, so I'm gonna need you to go ahead and look at this
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book and figure out what you're gonna take, and then we're gonna talk to
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financial aid. After that, then the ladies started telling me about the assessment
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tests, and I'm like, well, I ain't been in school and over
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nineteen years, I dis assessment test when I got to make on this,
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and they were like, I had to score at least I think one twenty
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or something like that, and I'm like, okay, well, if it's
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gonna have some math questions on there, you can go ahead and forget that,
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cause I this ain't gonna work for me. So I'm still giving every
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excuse under the stunt. So she's like, well, I'm setting up your
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assessment test, and so my child was like, yeah, you just got
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every excuse under the sun. I'm tired of listening to you talk. Going
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there and take that test. So I go in there and I take the
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test. I passed the test. I made a one eighty two on the
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assessment tests. So I'm like she's like, well, you did good.
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You only have one general class that you need to take general education and then
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the rest are in the field because I chose medical offoite administration to do right.
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So then I'm still trying to give them every excuse under the sun,
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but neither one of them are listening to me. So then we go to
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take go to financial aide and I'm like, they ain't gonna have no financial
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aid to help me. I don't even like I had every excuse under the
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sun. Needless to say, I ended up starting August the fourth, which
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was Nathan's birthday. Yeah, and I ended up graduating three months early.
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It was a two year program. I finished in a year and nine months.
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So you know, it was one of the best decisions that I made
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and that my child made me. She called me after that and she said,
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Auntie, let me tell you about your sister. I said, call
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the baby. What's she do? What she do? And she looked like
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hard hated. She was like, are you that hard hated too? I
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said, probably so more than likely. See with neither one of y'all right
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now, she was like, because she was like, you know what you're
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about to make me mad too? How do you no more? I love
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you? Yeah? I had. I think I had just told her nerves
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completely up. Yeah, I had completely. It was bad, but you
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know, like I said, you know, that was one of the greatest
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things, the greatest decisions that I did. But I wanted you to experience
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that as well. And you were just so adamant at no. Yeah,
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and I'm like, you can do this, you know, you can definitely
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do this if you need help with studying, you need help with whatever I
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am here. You don't have to do this by yourself. And you're like,
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yeah, I'm gonna do it, and then it would always be what
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says I'm going for my geed, Do you need help? No? Okay?
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All right? Then you said, well I didn't passed out on okay,
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Well tell me what you need help with and I'll help you. And
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then I had started working at them Adult Learning Center, right, I'm like
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you, I go every what how many days I was working up there Tuesdays
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and Tuesday when same and Thursday I was there, and I'm like, I
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can get you. You can be there while I'm there, and then you
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ain't got a word about nothing. I You do your class while I'm in
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there, registering people and everything, and you just do what you need to
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do. Nope, nope. You know what? So when I got pregnant
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with Dante, I quit school because my mama and a newborn baby wasn't it
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wasn't it wasn't doing what it was supposed to be doing. So was like,
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yeah, we're not about to do that. And then on top of
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all of that, you know, being picked on and my ability to learn
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things being that you know, I've had brain surgery. I learning a lot
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different and I retained information different than most people. And you know, I've
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had teachers laugh at me and and you know, just like okay, she
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she evidently don't get it. So we just got to move on. And
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I'm like, I've always felt like I was always behind. Yeah, you
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know the old people like to say I'm always behind the eight ball. I
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felt like I was always behind the eight ball. And then having Deonte,
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my life took the back seat, like nothing was real important to me but
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him and making sure he had what he needed. And you know, once
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he graduated in twenty thirteen, you know, I'm like, okay, he
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out of that. Not what what's left? Yeah? What's left? What
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am I supposed to be doing now? So I remember that conversation because she
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was like, my baby gone, what I supposed to do now? Live
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girl? When he graduated, I thought I was gonna die. I was
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like, Oh, he's not gonna need me, No, my lord.
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Oh, I remember that conversation all too well, and I was like,
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I'm not listening to this foolishness. Time for graduation after everybody is gone or
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whatever, I found Deonte and I looked at him and just broke down crying,
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and he was like, mom, really really because you know how he
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is, Like really, that's what you're doing. And Rico was like,
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Deante, just give your mama. She you know how she is just you
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know, but through it all. To take it back to the friendship aspect
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of everything, I look at my close friendships like a marriage through sickness and
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health better or words to depth do us part. And I don't allow that
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many people next to me because you know, people have an agenda, so
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you know, yeah, like once they get what they want from you,
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they out and I I, I can't rock with people like that. So
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I only have usualan and and not that's close to me that I hold close
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to my heart like that, because I mean, y'all are the only ones
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that stay on me about what I need to be doing and what I you
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know, how I need to go about my day and things like that.
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I mean, other than Rico, you know, he does what he can
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do, but at certain points he's just like, you know, she boyheaded,
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I'm gonna just let them handle it, you know. But you know,
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because we can say things in a way that is going to pierce a
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little more than what he would say, you know, because as as your
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significant other, your partner, your your best friend, and that aspect.
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It's just like he don't want to go too far to where it's like I
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didn't mean it that way, but I needed to say it this way in
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order for you to get it. But they can say it to you.
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Yeah, they can say it, and it might especially me because I'm I'm
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the harshest one of all, you know, I'm more are Yeah, so
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I'm not the one to do the sugarcoating aspect. I just can't because I
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feel like if I sugarcoat it with you, You're not going to move like
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you need to. And so I ain't got time to be coddling you and
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doing that nurturing type stuff when it's Hey, I need you to get it
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together because this is what needs to take place you over here and your feelings
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right now, and I need you to get out of your feelings and understand
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what needs to take place. You can go back and get in your feelings
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tomorrow, but today I need you to do this, you know, And
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that's basically how it always is because it's like, Okay, yeah, I
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hear you, I hear exactly what you're saying, but you gotta let that
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go and go over here, because you're trying to get them to meet you
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where you are and they're not coming on that street. Budget Yeah, they're
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not coming. So either you gonna either accept them where they are and meet
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them halfway, or you just gonna keep on riding past, you know.
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And those are hard conversations that we've had to have on several occasions, and
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it's like, Okay, did you have to say it like that? Yeah?
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I did, M I surely did. You mad at me right now?
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And that's fine, you know, looking over, I love you and
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will top lad uh huh. And that's what happens. You know. We've
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had some really good moments and some really silly moments. You know. The
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most silly moment that I can't oh is we we went out for a best
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friend's day and we went to Broncos. We had our tacos and stuff,
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and we had our margaritas. Now, mind you, neither one of us
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are big drinkers, right, so what made us get MUCHO is we was
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trying to be grown like we was trying to be grown. However, I
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needed some chapsticks, so we went to Walmart to get chapstick. Now,
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I don't know what was funny about this chapstick or the decision that was so
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hard for me to make, but we said in that out and laughed for
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I don't know how long, because I can make up my mind about this
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chapstick. It was the conversation that you were was having with yourself, okay,
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chapstick, because you was like, if I get this double peck,
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Kyle was gonna wind up with both of them, and I have to have
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one for the house and one for the car. And I'm looking at you,
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l yep. You do realize you're thinking out loud yep. And somebody
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spoke to you that knew you from Virginia College and why you just bust out
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laughing, which made me bust out laughing. And I'm sure we looked like
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some ignorant foods up in Walmart laughing. But needless to say, the uh,
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those drinks did what they needed to do. They did, they did.
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But you know, like I can say, we've had some really good
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moments. We've had those hard conversations that were necessary and we have a solid
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foundation of friendship, you know. And I can't say that about many people
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because I don't really like too many people, and now I don't really get
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close to many people. You know. If I like, we can talk
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today, and you know, we may not talk again for like three weeks,
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but we pick up right where we left off. And that goes to
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show that there is a true foundation of friendship. Look, I didn't I
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surely didn't want to go back there either. I didn't, but I did
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I did, you know, But this one thing that I can honestly say,
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Oh my god, my children, my children, I love them.
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Let me say this to you. You know, you've known me longer than
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I've known my biological family, and I you know, I found them in
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two thousand and ten. I lost my mom in two thousand fourteen when you
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got when you got sick, my mom, even with everything that she was
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going through, was like, how is Trevida. I still got the voicemail,
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how is Trevida? Is she okay? Does she need anything? And
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you know it meant so much to me for her not even laying eyes on
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you, you know, to love you like I love you, because you
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know I'm like, I don't know ifbody love you like I love you,
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but your your kids, yeah, you know. And then like one other
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instance, you went out, ma'am oh yeah, and you did not tell
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anybody you're whereabouts? See that's not true. I did. And after I
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got home after y'all, don't say how you turned out your location like you
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grown okay? And Kyla called me, and here I am trying to be
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strong for Kylar Colors, upset Colors crying. I don't know where my mama
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is and my heart is like breaking because I can't console her. I don't
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know what to say to her because hey, you know, like, yeah,
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who as you walked in that door, I broke down crying, and
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you're like, what is wrong with you? What is wrong with y'all?
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And the sad part about it is I left the phone number and I left
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who I was with on the table where my children always go and eat in
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front of the TV in the living room. And guess what she did.
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She put her food on top of the place where I left them up.
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So then that's why I'm like, y'all, don't made this whole thing.
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I don't have to cut my date shot cause y'all don't win in a panic,
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my phone blowing up, y'all nine one one C S I FBI first
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forty eight, we was about to have him all searching you hear me.
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I mean so from that moment on, I did not have another date for
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quite some time. You didn't need one. You was on punishment. See
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that, Will, I'll be talking about that will. I'll be talking about
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y'all keep trying to tell me that I'm not gone, And I don't understand
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what it's coming from because I'm gone. It's coming from a place to love.
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I mean, I'm away. Everybody knows you're awaereabouts. I mean,
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you know the rules. Okay. Now, see listen, I didn't even
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do nothing. Though I didn't do nothing. We went bowling, we had
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dinner. That was it, you know. But I wasn't even gone alone.
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Though I and I talked like and see this is what Kyler didn't tell
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you. Kyle had left and I told I said, I'll probably be look
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no follow me. Actually what I'm talking about, Kyler. Yes, yes,
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first forty eight. No, outside, somebody were running license plates and
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and everything. But I left the stuff on the table. She put her
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plate down on top of the place where I left, and I put it
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right there so that she was say it and it was rigging. You would
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have been you would have been better off putting it in the middle of your
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bed because she stay in your bed. Well, that would have been true
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too, But I figured, and she went to the sack. She went
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like her She was a creature of habit, and I knew she was gonna
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go right in there with her food and go right to the couch and put
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it on the table and sit there and eating. So she put it right
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on top of the note that I left. Because that first call, it
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was cool, Auntie, you talked to my mama. Look, she talked
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about when I call you answered the phone right d D. He said,
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we all need to get together that hang out. Listen, girl, I
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am a miss I'll by myself. Y'all get together, Hanne. She is
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not grown, Tell okay, tell me she ain't listening, see y'alla because
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I am grown. I don't know. Yes, miss Arma, she needs
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a silver alert brace. Yes. Look, my kids keep trying to get
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me to get an iPhone so they can get me the the watch whatever their
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thing is. No, I don't know why you just trying to ride the
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android train on app Because y'all don't want me to be grown? Because you're
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why because you're not. You're not You're not who Lord, Jesus, get
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your children. Get your children, because they keep trying to tell me what
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to do. You're not, you know, Jesus, come get you.
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Yeah. You look, you ain't got time to be grandma. You don't
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skip your grown up look it. Look to tell you what Kyler taught me.
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Kyle taught me. Sh she told me. She said, you ain't
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having no hot mama summer. You gonna have a uh what does she call
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it? I had to I'm a grandma now, so I ain't. No,
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they ain't no hot mama summer. I said, well, Kyle,
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I ain't never really had a hot girl summer, so I think I don't
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skip collar that anyway. She said, well, you're a grandma now,
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so you ain't got to worry about so you know, Natalie, Yah,
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Yeah, down to ma'am. Huh, Miss Natalie. We we got this.
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We gonna go on do our own day. No, y'all gonna have
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a seat somewhere. I ain't had no hot grandma summer. Me and Scotty
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chilling on Friday nights. That's what we do. And I have to tell
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you to mind your business and leave it. I was alone cause you be
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calling us everything I meant, it's what y'all doing. Mind in our business
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now, Scott do look like she a great secret keeper though for real,
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she looked like she holding in all your infult. Look Scott be, Me
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and Scott be having our own look good time, and she'd be looking at
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them like it can y'all go? Because I don't know why y'all still here.
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This my grandma's time, This my grandma time. Y'all y'all couldn't in
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got all mind your business, just got all my your business. But back
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to the conversation about in all friendships and things, we have literally gone through
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it all, and what stands out the most for me is when you lost
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your ability to walk and talk being that you talk about lamented. Yeah,
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and you got so much to say, you know, well you are gonna
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get a car your mama, Look, I go get my balloon, you
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know, and then just finding doctors that kept like giving you the run around
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and not being you know, giving you answers that you needed and then sometimes
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you would text me, and that's one thing I do hate about texts,
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and you cannot read somebody's tone, and so when you text me, and
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sometimes it looked like a suicide note, I'm like, oh my god.
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And then I'm like, I'm trying and it ain't even that deep. But
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you know me, I'm been through some things because you know me, if
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I'm in my feelings, I'm in my emotions, I'm gonna say everything that
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I'm feeling in that moment, and y'all will be like, okay, you
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all right. You know, I'm just telling you how much I appreciate you,
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I love you, I'll value you, and so on and so forth.
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Those conversations be coming up a thing there sometimes and I just be like,
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oh Lord, what is she doing? And I'd be like, I'm
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good, What's what the problem is? You know, I'm glad you should
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because you can't hang yourself with nothing, because you can't reach nothing. So
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look here, I thank God for your your folk foot eight. I see
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God knew what he was doing when he stopped right there. That's all I
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can say. But if you well, I think if he'd have made me
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any towler, he'd have been like, Okay, you know what, I
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already got enough with her right here. If I would have gave her another
40:43
inches, I wouldn't be able to do nothing with her at all. I
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already got Sometimes, you know, the mouth of a six footer. Yeah,
40:52
you know, because look, I might be small, but you ain't
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in the runoff of me. Nah, you ain't even pump me him?
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Do not that I'm six feet taller when I need to be. You know,
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I'm tallering spirit. Now, I'm tallering spirit. I may not get
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there, but I might have to stand on a couple of things to do
41:09
it, but I'm I'm gonna get there. My punt gonna be made right.
41:15
Nothing funny thing. We was in Walmart. I don't know if you
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remember this, but we were in Walmart. You were getting grocery and you
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were trying to reach something and this dude was checking you out, and because
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you didn't seem interested what you was reaching for, he kind of like pushed
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it back a little bit and you start saying some some words you had for
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him. I could have laid in their out and just died laughing, because
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I'm because when he pushed it back, that made me not even be able
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to reach it. I'm like, dude, really, yeah, he won't
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try to no more. But you know that's just that's just who I am,
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you know. But I am honored that you asked me to do this
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show tonight, and you know that. Of course we could go on and
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on. However, we only have a small amount of time, so I
42:21
will come back and take over again whenever you want me to. So you
42:27
know, I don't know what your signature line is for your show. I
42:32
know yours. I know because because I don't know your signature because do you
42:40
say the same thing at the end of your show every time I do?
42:45
But listen. But no, no, I'm gonna I'm gonna give you an
42:50
opportunity to throw out a signature line. You know, the title of the
42:52
show. What does that mean to you? Okay, let's see, this
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is how I'm gonna close your shirl tonight. Okay. With God always says
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that whatever you're praying to him for it may not come on the time that
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you have a sign but you will never be delayed or denied for what He
43:15
has called you to do because your assignment is always on time. How about
43:21
that? That's it? Right? There all right, y'all. I thank
43:25
y'all for tuning an in with me and my bestie for life. She can't
43:30
get rid of me if she wanted to, and I know sometimes she'd be
43:32
like, I'm trying, not trying. Some days she'd be like, mmmm,
43:37
I can't deal with her to that because she on another level. I
43:39
talk to her tomorrow or maybe even next week, because I ain't doing it
43:44
today. And you know, very see that conversation that I'm happy exactly,
43:49
it's I always gonna come back around. So you can't get rid of me
43:52
completely. You're only temporarily because I'm gonna go on to my corner. You're
43:57
gonna go on to yall, cane. Then we still gonna text at the
43:59
end to all of that disagreement or whatever. I love y'all talk to you
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tomorrow because that never we never ever go without saying that, regardless of how
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mad or how upset we are. And that's one of the things that I
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feel like has kept us together as sisters and besties and whatever else. Now,
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see, we didn't even touch on that. See, that's why we
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got so much of other stuff to talk about. But listen, you guys,
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