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Achraf Hakimi's Divorce Settlement Drama - Sense or Nonsense? · DidiLawren

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  Hello, welcome back to another episode of answered lawrencium,
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  how are you all doing? I hope you're doing great for
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  today's episode. I want to talk about.
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  Hi, Kimmy. According to people, the man,
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  the myth, the legend, you know, people who lots of people are
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  looking up to him because they said this is the man that has
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  defeated woman. Using, you know, his mother.
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  Now, let me just give you a brief background because
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  initially, I didn't even want to talk about this topic because it
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  kind of resonates with everybody.
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  I think this is why it has gone viral.
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  Now, hockey me was 19 years old when he met his wife, who was,
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  then 30 years old if, you know about teenagers, you know that
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  especially teenagers making money, you know, that their
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  parents kind of manage their careers their parents money.
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  Finances. Especially if you're very close
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  to your parents. In this case, he was very clear.
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  He is very close to his mother and his mother managed his
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  finances. Now, he was 19 years old, when
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  he met his wife, who is an established, some Spanish
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  actress. She was 30 years old.
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  And so you could imagine the age Gap.
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  A lot of people say age is just nothing but the number, I agree
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  with that. But If you're dating in 19 year
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  old, who is making a whole lot of money then by default, you
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  should know that his parents or his guide, Ian will be managing
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  his finances. So let's just say she was not
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  bothered about the money at that point, because she was making
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  our money. It was not a problem.
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  She was not looking into his finances now.
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  They got married in 2020, started having children, they
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  have two children. She has four.
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  Divorce, because hockey me, cheated on her and she is not
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  having it because she's currently 33 34 years old and he
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  is 24 years old or 23 24 years old.
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  So, she is not happy with the fact that her husband cheated on
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  her. So she's filing for divorce, she
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  doesn't want to continue with the marriage now on the bone of
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  contention now is that she went to court demanding.
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  How Of his wealth, half of his assets on getting to holds on
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  filing the divorce and everything.
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  She was informed that the husband do nothing because
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  everything is registered in his mother's name.
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  So basically he's broke and technically she has to kind of
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  pay for the chords fees lawyer fee and actually technically
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  take care of Also in because now she makes more money than house.
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  One who makes about, you know, a million pound per month.
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  Now, that is the story in a North show.
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  Now the discussions going on online is that hockey me is a
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  hero because he defeated woman Hakim, he's a hero because of
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  these. Now grown men groan Nigeria, men
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  dissecting this story. They said that he did a very
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  good thing because according to them, your wife is not Not your
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  family, member, your family member, are your parents, your
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  brother's your sisters, some cousins, but your wife is not
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  your family member, I didn't want to go into that
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  conversation because like that's a ridiculous argument because if
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  you're saying that your wife is not your family member your
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  mother was or easy wife. So she is no a family member if
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  that is the case. So that Let's just pack the
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  argument aside and focus on the real thing for me.
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  The real thing here is the fact that the person you choose to
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  marry the person you choose to marry can either make or break
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  you. Now we whole lot of conversation
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  has been going on online, you know, Naidu was obeah release
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  the video where he talks about how you know, women are Gold
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  diggers how they attract. Now, I don't even want to talk
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  about the fact that, you know, she's a good Digger.
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  No, I don't believe that because if they are married, she's
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  entitled to something wealth accumulated.
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  I don't know how the, the the court works both things, are you
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  accumulate during the marriage? You have to share 50/50?
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  But if she's demanding, is just a three years old marriage.
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  If they were married for 10 12 years, 15 years, Yes, 20 years,
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  I don't think it will be an issue.
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  If she's demanding for 50% ball. The fact that they've been
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  married for three years and she wants 50% of his assets.
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  I think that has triggered, a lot of people now, neither
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  release the video kind of giving an Insight or from a man's
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  perspective or from the Nigerian man's perspective.
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  What they think about this issue, marriage is dead
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  everybody with you. Another plate.
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  Open the window? See that video?
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  Or the message or the pictures? All the photos, whatever of that
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  PNG football over the Dakota hockey me when it BC BT 24 years
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  old and in wife wouldn't do, they marry now they asked for
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  divorce and divorce which they asked for chili toxic. 50% of
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  the to it. Indeed, I get mad.
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  And give a point, at example, if the guy that under the video,
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  they don't give a 50 billion for inside.
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  You see my original die. In fact, if people believe
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  anything for marriage it before, they did way to go on now with
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  the manager for inside the whole world people know, even when and
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  Tamara G cannot most women, women will not so much funner
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  time. They make sure people know what
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  anti-semitic these boys are coming with.
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  You see, a picture here, not Sam Sam for this time.
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  See the game. See a face like a shackle
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  actually when you she omits this guy when is that be 90 years
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  old? Now 24 years old guy, be now the
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  lunar night because I be she don't listen I'm so Kar When You
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  Reach particular time I could devote.
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  He guy I would only half of the guy property.
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  You know where devil company. Shh.
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  Now Wendy, the Congo Court, my lawyer blink Martin everything.
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  Let us do the divorce and inconsistency. 80% of the guy
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  property, the capital for the name of a mama.
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  Nevermore Nevermore has especially Motors V DC.
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  Well, especially Motors. Will know how far you observe
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  the night. Beside the guy don't get.
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  Don't get time, don't they seem small small c 1.
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  And this woman, this woman is gonna do this woman is gonna do
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  this, gonna do it, he's conquering everything before the
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  name of my mother because in my mind and believe only person,
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  when you go feet on back on him, do not miss, it will not get
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  apartment apartment mistake, but most modest know you do buddy,
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  India children. So you see, which already talked
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  one of the richest women for inside the world.
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  We will do so now not from divorced and he that happening.
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  So most women are the entomologist, our relationship
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  now, for business, in fact, marriage, and relationship.
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  Now not gonna poverty alleviation name, will make any
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  gain weight, can give thee to dinner, if the 434 say, oh, I
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  just got a boyfriend waiting there, a friend who asked him,
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  not say, what does he do? Particular man.
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  Taking guys. Here are those girlfriend hard
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  to get final castle for every day now?
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  Now morning, I'm leadership within the entire insightful.
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  How, how, how? Yeah, I know.
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  But like, if you if if if a hundred people being their mind
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  to marry before this hockey, me story will apply everywhere
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  evil, or reduce to like 50. People always used to like 50
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  because a lot of people don't start on the main reason.
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  We put that into marriage because of leadership and Marina
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  money name that Gala even you will be get with it.
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  What is the entire relationship with that money?
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  Not be sad. Top.
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  Someone know they needed for relationship.
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  You didn't dare to bottle. I make, I tell you the truth.
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  It was passed like this. She moved us today and all the
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  fizzy, you know better. It can only get worse.
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  He said he was reason will be taken to a relationship.
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  Now, if you do need it, again need of sunken and didn't wash
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  reason we could take and relationship.
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  If you day in need of financial assistance, today you're being
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  emotional need or psychological need the Congo interrelationship
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  with all those needs you could feel because person will enter
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  relationship with 90%. Get waiting you won't be
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  personally give you and being anti pursuing won't make it give
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  Eagle. Give you with it while give you
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  another waiting on you. One, big eu4 is that example in
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  the relationship with me because of money.
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  I know, go back hundreds of videos TV because you won't make
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  a difference on. I would have waiting, they've my
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  mind to give you man. And every woman will be the hear
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  me if you didn't relationship or marriage get your own money, get
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  your own money so that when you victim or your fist and of
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  caravaca kimochi, no good expect to make it man, give you half of
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  the property. Thank God.
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  It's a nobility different Julie I didn't ask Before Julia.
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  We said before, don't die man. Hey that is water just to go and
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  make up routine to start again. Now after watching this video,
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  my own analysis is that regardless of whether your wife
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  regardless of whether your mother regardless of, whether
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  you're the sister or the wife of a Kimmy, in this case, it does
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  not matter. What matters is your choice of
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  partner. Now, People and usually take
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  its, you know, likely when the make life partner decisions
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  Hakeem, you did not when he met his wife.
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  She knew he was a Mommy's boy, like you cannot tell me.
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  He just started being a mommy's boy today or she filed for
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  divorce and he had to transfer everything to the mother's name.
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  No, he has always been like that.
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  She made that decision to get married to him regardless.
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  Of what she saw bore. I don't know.
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  Maybe she was thinking, this is going to last forever.
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  Maybe he's not going to stable. He's a 19, he was 19.
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  When you met him, he's not lived, he's not done anything.
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  He might be a good boy or a good child at that point, but you
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  don't even know what he's going to be when he's 26.
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  You don't even know what he's going to be when he's 30 how is
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  going to his point of view in life?
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  If you don't know what that is going to be and you are an
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  established woman are 30 years old.
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  I think for me, if you're 30 years old and you don't know you
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  Direction, life is taking you, then you need to sit down and go
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  back to the drawing board. Ask yourself questions to know
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  where you've gone wrong because obviously you must be doing
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  something wrong. So there was this video, I
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  watched where this lady I was speaker talks about Out, you
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  know, Matt choosing a life partner is the biggest decision
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  you could make in life. I think.
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  One of the greatest disservice you would do to yourself is to
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  marry the wrong person for you. Hmm, in my books.
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  Your spouse is a key success factor whether you're a man or a
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  woman and choosing what is even more important for a woman
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  because men have more room to navigate okay than a woman does
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  because in the context of our own culture African culture?
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  Yes she's expected. And in biblical terms she's
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  expected to be submissive to her husband.
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  Now you better be sure that the guy you want to submit your life
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  to and have to answer to Is a guy who has the capacity to
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  handle you to handle the life of who you are.
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  Ya know, if the guy does not have the capacity to grow with
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  you, your vision with your ambition and as you emerge there
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  will be problems. So and have watched many women,
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  struggle and fight. So I am forever grateful to the
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  man that I call my husband because I have seen his
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  commitment. Go to the full emergence of who
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  I am. Yeah.
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  Sometimes it's tough because you know, sometimes outside does
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  make it difficult for your spouse Outsiders and all of
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  that, especially when you're a woman but in all of those
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  things, it makes me understand why it's really important that.
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  As a young woman, I always say to young men, don't make a
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  choice of his person to you're having sense of who you are,
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  okay? Because if you do then you it's
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  easier for you to consider other things other than his reach tall
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  and handsome. I would say, two men, only a
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  foolish man does not understand. If he puts his wife down that,
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  he puts himself down. That's what true.
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  The Bible says, your wife is your helper, the quality of the
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  help. You get is the quality of the
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  helper. You allow to emerge.
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  If you allow your wife to be the best of herself, you get the
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  value for it in your day of trouble, you know, men run into
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  trouble, business is go wrong. Carriers can get stopped, you
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  can lose jobs, you can have crisis, you can't, but imagine a
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  team of a husband and wife that are both doing well.
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  When one is down the other holds up when one is up the other ones
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  support, you have an incredible team that creates value for you.
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  So your wife is your asset, your God given a set, that is meant
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  to bless your life. If you allow her to be the best
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  of herself, you get the best helper you The pool take life
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  partner decision for granted, especially when you have peer
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  pressure, especially when you think, oh God, my mates are
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  getting married, your biological clock pressure from family
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  societal pressure, you think, okay, I just need to get
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  married, you don't take into account certain things that you
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  see in that life partner. Are you able to grow with that
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  person? I, uh, Able to build with that
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  person. How are they even planning to
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  grow financially? So if you're not even
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  considering any of these things you get into trouble for men.
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  On the other hands, they have mastered that odds of you
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  getting married to somebody regardless of their financial
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  status for putting contingencies in place to ensure that they
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  don't, they don't get the short end of the stick, but we made,
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  they go with their feelings. We may want to think, okay?
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  Um, he loves me. I love him.
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  I'm going to have his children. He's going to be Kumbaya for the
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  rest of our lives, but then you get in there.
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  You have those children, you are a stay-at-home mom because you
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  have to pause your career to birds.
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  Those children nacho those children to eat a certain age
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  where they are able to go to school.
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  If not, you're going to have an army of nannies, taking care of
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  your children and most men at that level would not even want.
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  That because they said, okay what do you want to go and do I
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  make a lot of money? I can pay you to sit down and
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  take care of those children. But then when divorce is happen
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  or when marriages end that payments automatically and then
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  you find yourself in situations where people are calling you
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  good ideas. So, I don't know, the only thing
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  I can say is, people the person you marry can either.
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  Make you or break you, whether you've been married for three
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  years. Whether you've been married for
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  20 years. What are you been married for 50
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  years? It doesn't matter.
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  What matters is those your ideology.
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  Align, do you people are line financially because people,
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  sometimes we don't even consider Financial, they'll be like, what
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  can we build together for Building Together?
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  Doesn't mean that you people have the same goal on how to
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  spend that money or how to grow that?
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  Money. So that's all I have to say for
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  today. Please leave me a comment in the
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  comment section. What do you think about this
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  topic? Thank you very much for watching
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  today's episode, please like like, like and share.
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  Thank you very much. Bye.