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Autism Traits – 🤫 3 Secret Signs You Ignore! · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Hey guys, here are three hidden traits of autism that you
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  probably didn't even know. I'm going to cover all those
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  right now so don't go anywhere. Hey guys, welcome back to the
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  Aspy world. My name is Dan and I make
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  quickly videos all not autism and ADHD.
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  I have autism on ADHD. So if you want to follow along
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  platform, just click follow and you'll see daily videos from me.
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  So one of the main things that people always ask me, they say
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  like, well, how how didn't you know you were autistic until you
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  were 26? Well, I've always known about I
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  was autistic, right, but I didn't know it was called
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  autism. Now, I wasn't diagnosed until I
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  was 26 years old, but there was some really interesting
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  giveaways and and hidden signs, but not hidden, but like things
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  that I felt were normal or just like average and everybody else
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  was like, oh, so I'm going to go through those right now.
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  So that if you may be questioning, hey, if I'm on the
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  autism spectrum, do I relate to this?
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  Number one is obsessive special interest.
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  Now, I don't mean that like, you know, you could be a fan of
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  something. You could be like, oh, I really
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  like the Flintstones or I really like, you know, I don't know
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  anything. The Telegraph polls.
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  You could be the world expert on Telegraph polls, but you'll also
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  know more about it than anybody else.
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  You'll be able to tell everybody about it.
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  You'll be obsessed with it. You'll cut all Telegraph polls.
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  You'll be able to, you know, memorize every single thing
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  about it, the history, where it's going.
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  You know, you could be the expert in that field.
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  This is what autistic special interest is.
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  Now look, a lot of people have specific, specific interest or
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  like fandom interest, right? I know people who are fans of
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  like, I don't know, some bands like Nirvana, right?
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  And they've been to see them when Kurt was alive or they got
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  all that, you know, LP's and all that kind of stuff.
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  But in autism, when you have an obsessive interest, you are
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  completely taken by this thing. It's all you listen to, it's all
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  you read about. It's all you spend your money
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  on. It's what you want to talk about
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  is the only thing that interests you to a degree or a magnitude
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  that is just far greater almost to level of, of obsession.
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  Because people who are neurotypical or not autistic
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  will have interests, right? Will have specific interests or
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  they'll have kind of like fandom interests and they'll really
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  like something or like somebody, which is fine.
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  Everybody has their interests, but it will never become
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  obsessively like interesting to them.
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  You know, they'll be like, Oh well, you know, I like this
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  thing and that's kind of cool. But autistic individuals will be
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  obsessed. Like everything in their being
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  is all about that one thing. Now for me, I have many
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  different ones. I'm obsessed with things like
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  marketing, like online social media marketing business.
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  I love growing businesses. I love social media, growing
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  social media spaces like YouTube and Instagram and TikTok and I'm
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  just obsessed. I'm obsessed.
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  I read all these books. I, I collect all the books from
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  it. Like if you ask me anything on
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  it, I actually do it as a job as well, which is really obviously
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  amazing, but it fascinates me. It fascinates me so much that I
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  know more about it than some of the people I know.
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  We've been doing it way longer than me.
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  And in actual fact, I was hired by a friend of mine to help run
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  their sales funnel because I knew more about than them and
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  they had been, you know, been in business, social media marketing
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  for like at least 10 years longer than me, which is crazy.
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  But this is how realistic individuals do things now.
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  All this time when I was growing up and I had obsessive
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  interests, I was interested in robots and technology and
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  science and stuff, managed to build robots and computers,
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  always fascinated by computers and virtual reality, but I never
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  ever to my thought process thinking, hey, nobody else has
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  this. For me, the reason it was a
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  hidden trait was because I feel like everybody had this.
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  Like I felt everybody wanted to know more about science or
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  everybody was obsessed with virtual reality.
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  And you get to those obsessive lengths, which in actual fact is
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  incorrect because when we're autistic, people get to
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  obsessive lengths. So this is #1 most hidden trait
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  of autism, thinking that you just you're interested in
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  something when actually you're obsessively interested because
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  it gives you dopamine and that's the reason for it.
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  Autistic individuals will have this because it's dopamine
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  efficient. It's going to give you lots of
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  dopamine, like happy hormone feeling, when because autistic
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  individuals actually are dopamine deficient, which means
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  we burn through so much dopamine, we're constantly
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  striving for more. So our obsessive interest gives
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  us so much access to dopamine that we do it so much that it
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  always drips dopamine to us. That was number one.
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  OK guys, number 2 is really interesting.
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  Autistic individuals will have a hard time making and maintaining
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  friends all the time. Growing up having like 1 friend
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  or that one person and then not being able to converse with
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  other kids and other kids finding you weird, other kids
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  finding you odd. Maybe now in adult, you know,
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  you're thinking I don't have any friends.
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  Do you don't want many friends? Maybe I want you know, 1 friend
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  and that's it. But also adults, we we cannot
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  tend to think like, Hey, why am I bad at making friends?
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  How come I don't want to go out and hang out with friends?
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  How come when I do make a friend that never really stays?
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  And that's because autistic individuals have social
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  interaction issues, right? So social interactions like non
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  verbal cues, how close or far to stand for somebody's social
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  expectations? Like when do I check up on a
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  friend? Do I e-mail them?
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  Do I message? If I text them?
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  Do I call them? Do I go around and see them?
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  Like all of those things add up to being the social construct of
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  what is acceptable to have friends.
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  But autistic individuals that don't inherently have this
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  inside, you know, that's not something that we kind of we've
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  learned because when you're an autistic person and you're
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  trying to navigate the world, you're trying to navigate many
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  different things in life, navigating social constructs is
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  the last thing on your mind because also it gives you a
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  struggle, right? So you're trying to like
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  literally survive in life, a chaotic sensory filled
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  environment built for neurotypical brains.
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  Your brain is in a constant state of chaos awareness, right?
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  So making friends and understanding friendships is
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  probably one of the most difficult things.
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  And also making eye contact, a lot of people feel like you're
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  not being genuine if you don't make eye contact.
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  And autistic individuals find it really difficult to make eye
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  contact and maintain eye contact.
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  So you can see if you're a person who's like, you know, on
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  the autism spectrum, you'll probably have very little to no
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  friends. Sad, unfortunate truth and find
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  it difficult to make friends or even if you do have a friend,
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  how to maintain that friendship, right?
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  And you'll constantly feel like, oh, maybe I should do more with
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  my friends or maybe I should do this and maybe I shouldn't make
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  an effort to see them. But you you can't, There's no,
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  there's no, no amount of like wishing is going to make you
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  want to do it. So that was really interesting
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  guys. If you're interested, actually,
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  I have a free web class of how to build a bulletproof brain.
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  Now, if you are an autistic adult and you want to lower
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  anxiety, become more confident, become more focused and really
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  streamline your life, I have done a free workshop, the
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  Bulletproof boot camp. You can actually go to the link
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  in the description right now to go watch that video, that
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  training, that workshop. It's really interesting.
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  It's very, very interesting actually for autistic adults who
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  may be struggling in areas and it's completely free.
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  So just go ahead and check it out.
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  OK, so #3 is probably one of the most interesting ones that I
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  never thought would be connected to autism.
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  But now when I think back to it, I thought, I think to myself,
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  like, how did I not think this was connected to autism, right?
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  And this is repetitive clothe buying and clothes wearing,
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  right? So autistic individuals like
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  myself will buy the same clothes in multiples so that we always
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  have the same outfit. So I always have either black
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  skinny jeans, Gray skinny jeans or blue skinny jeans.
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  And I always wear a black top or a black vest, right?
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  And that for me there. There's a few reasons why I
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  chose to do this. One is that it's comfortable and
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  it's a routine that I like, don't have to worry about what's
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  going to come next. It's the autistic individuals
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  love to know where they're going to be next, what they're going
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  to do next, what's what's coming up.
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  Because the ambiguity of not knowing where I'm going in life
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  or not knowing what I'm going to do, the surprises is difficult
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  to be. So autistic individuals like to
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  know what's coming up next, what's going to happen next.
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  So if you come already, prepare that I'm going to have these
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  clothes for the rest of my life. Everything else is easy.
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  And the second thing is the, the, the mental capacity to
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  choose what you were supposed to wear in the morning takes away
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  from some of the productivity aspect of my brain where I'm
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  like, I don't want to waste my time thinking about what to
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  wear. I'd rather just wear the same
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  thing over and over again, obviously clean.
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  I mean, multiples of, and then put my energy and focus on the
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  things my goals are going to move me forward to changing the
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  world, right? That is how I think about it
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  now. Autistic individuals who will go
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  out and buy like the same pair of shoes in multiples like that,
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  we're going to buy the same pair of shoes, exact same one.
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  You know, if you find a pair of shoes you like, you go out and
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  buy like 6-7 pairs of the exact same pair of shoes and just keep
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  them in the closet until that ones wear out and then you'll
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  swap and machine them. And then also with T-shirts,
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  like if you find AT shirt, you go out and buy them in multiples
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  because you're like, I don't want this to run out or jeans,
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  right? This is fascinating.
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  Autistic people are just amazing.
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  Our brains just just why it's to a different level of kind of
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  giving ourself productivity. You know, that being said, don't
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  forget I actually have this workshop, the bulletproof boot
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  camp. You can go there right now.
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  Just go to the link in my description right now.
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  Or if you're watching on like Instagram or Facebook, you can
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  go to the link in my bio where you can actually see the link
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  there to go through to the bulletproof boot camp.
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  It's amazing. I'm on this mission.
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  I'm on a mission in life to provide autistic individuals
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  with the the tools to bring them on the shelves and show them how
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  amazing they are, how how much they can move themselves forward
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  and like really build amazing things.
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  Because you are a absolute Wizard of something and you just
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  need to nurture that and bring it out right without this kind
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  of oppressional kind of resistance from typical society.
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  And I'm here to guide you through that.
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  So don't give up. Let's go bulletproof boot camp.
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  Let's go link down below or in the description slash bio of
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  this channel. OK, so if you have anything to
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  add, pop in a comment down below.
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  I'd love to hear it. All right, guys, Peace.