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Graduation: How to survive senior year · The Bubble Lounge (Highland Park & University Park Texas)

• 0:07
  Speaker 1: Welcome to the Bubble Lounge.
• 0:08
  Speaker 1: I'm Martha.
• 0:09
  Speaker 2: Jackson And I'm Nellie Shudeau, And today we're catching up.
• 0:11
  Speaker 2: We have a lot to catch up on don't we.
• 0:13
  Speaker 2: I haven't seen your face in a few weeks.
• 0:15
  Speaker 2: I know, and like we took this week off because I cited graduation exhaustion, yes, I mean, god bless, you know, dallas, for celebrating everything big, but I literally felt like there was a party for me, or for the parents, or Charles, or you know, every, every other day.
• 0:32
  Speaker 2: No, it's true, it's been a party for the past month.
• 0:35
  Speaker 1: I have hardly seen my daughter, who lives in my house for like the past few weeks And even after graduation I've hardly seen her.
• 0:42
  Speaker 1: It's been so bad that you guys probably have a cut out of Charles from a party or something.
• 0:48
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I do.
• 0:49
  Speaker 2: Everyone seems to do that.
• 0:50
  Speaker 2: It's sitting in the living room.
• 0:50
  Speaker 2: We can talk more about that in a bit.
• 0:52
  Speaker 1: But I literally pulled it out of her room and brought it down to the living room where all the friends and family were, because we hardly saw her.
• 0:59
  Speaker 2: That's hilarious.
• 1:00
  Speaker 2: I was like, so we can just pretend like she was here?
• 1:01
  Speaker 2: Like, did you put it in the couch or something like lying on the couch?
• 1:04
  Speaker 1: No, it was standing up, but then Sean kept decorating it with extra funny things.
• 1:08
  Speaker 1: We had a good time with it.
• 1:13
  Speaker 2: Well, i mean, here we are, so let's catch up on my graduation, Let's do mine first, because mine was before yours, but I really want you have a story.
• 1:21
  Speaker 2: You have a big story, so let's lead up to it, okay.
• 1:24
  Speaker 1: Okay, so tell me all about yours.
• 1:25
  Speaker 1: Okay graduation Like how were you that week leading up?
• 1:28
  Speaker 1: like emotion wise, i was actually really good.
• 1:30
  Speaker 2: Oh, that's so good And I'm not sure why.
• 1:32
  Speaker 2: Like I'm not, part of me thinks I'm a big worrier, so I worry about things.
• 1:37
  Speaker 2: A year in advance I already worried about him leaving.
• 1:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know You already got it out of your system.
• 1:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I just was really proud of him.
• 1:44
  Speaker 2: That's all I can think of is I was he got mentioned, somebody I just felt really good about where he is.
• 1:49
  Speaker 1: You know, but I didn't.
• 1:50
  Speaker 2: I thought I would cry.
• 1:51
  Speaker 2: when he got his diploma I was like yay, it's hot out here, You're outside.
• 1:57
  Speaker 2: Yes, Yeah, i don't think I would like that.
• 2:00
  Speaker 2: Well, it was at 10am So it wasn't bad.
• 2:01
  Speaker 2: Okay, it was only an hour and remember it's 90 kids, so it was 150.
• 2:05
  Speaker 1: Sorry, one hour and 15 minutes, oh man, yeah, yeah, not that long, quite a bit different.
• 2:10
  Speaker 1: So by 1115, we were done.
• 2:11
  Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, okay.
• 2:13
  Speaker 1: So graduation happened.
• 2:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you were in a good emotional state.
• 2:16
  Speaker 1: It sounds like I did no parties afterwards.
• 2:18
  Speaker 2: I went to a brunch with our family afterwards and then I went to a dinner party afterwards.
• 2:23
  Speaker 2: So I was so happy not to do it myself.
• 2:25
  Speaker 1: Just your immediate family went to brunch, or other people too?
• 2:28
  Speaker 2: No, i had my brother and his kids in town Yeah.
• 2:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and we went to the two parties, okay, so it was really nice, so that was it.
• 2:34
  Speaker 2: So I feel like, and then it's just been a party for Charles ever since.
• 2:37
  Speaker 2: I'm like, dude, you have to stop.
• 2:38
  Speaker 2: This cannot be every night, okay, i know, you know like I haven't done most of the parties.
• 2:44
  Speaker 1: It's all about her And I just feel exhausted, Like just wondering when she's coming home and just yeah, I don't know all this stuff.
• 2:50
  Speaker 1: I feel like I've been running a marathon, but the month of May has always done that to me.
• 2:55
  Speaker 1: Well, how is she doing?
• 2:57
  Speaker 2: She graduation.
• 2:58
  Speaker 2: I don't know, she's so excited.
• 2:59
  Speaker 1: She's great And she's very excited.
• 3:02
  Speaker 1: She's super happy.
• 3:03
  Speaker 1: One of our friends is a photographer.
• 3:06
  Speaker 1: a dad in the neighborhood took some really amazing pictures of her on the stage She was coming across.
• 3:10
  Speaker 1: You could just see she was just beaming like just so darn happy Yeah.
• 3:16
  Speaker 2: So okay, tell us about your graduation.
• 3:17
  Speaker 2: So I thought it was at night right, it was in the evening.
• 3:20
  Speaker 1: It started at seven.
• 3:21
  Speaker 1: It was some you at maybe Coliseum.
• 3:24
  Speaker 1: And it was a good three hours.
• 3:27
  Speaker 1: There's a lot of people almost 600 people And all went well.
• 3:32
  Speaker 1: Graduation was great.
• 3:33
  Speaker 1: We had our friends and family in.
• 3:34
  Speaker 1: Then we went over to our house and then Alexis and her friends walked over, since our house was the closest to SMU, And we were just all having a wonderful time, just like happy times reminiscing and all that kind of stuff That's right before graduation.
• 3:48
  Speaker 2: No, it was right after Like 11 o'clock at night.
• 3:51
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 3:51
  Speaker 1: Oh wow, Like a little after 10, 10 to 11, somewhere in there, and then they had an all night party at the DCC.
• 3:59
  Speaker 1: Apparently that's a tradition.
• 4:00
  Speaker 1: Did Charles have anything like that?
• 4:03
  Speaker 2: He had so many, I mean I can't even.
• 4:04
  Speaker 1: You don't even want to know.
• 4:05
  Speaker 2: It's like every other day somebody got a big tent put up in their backyard that held like 20.
• 4:10
  Speaker 2: They did that party.
• 4:11
  Speaker 2: He went to a ton of parties And like the big parties and the small parties and everything and all their traditions.
• 4:17
  Speaker 2: So but I lost track, martha.
• 4:20
  Speaker 1: I know I seriously did too.
• 4:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, like I just can't like.
• 4:24
  Speaker 1: This is way more than leading up to my wedding.
• 4:26
  Speaker 1: Probably yours too, right?
• 4:29
  Speaker 2: Much more fanfare.
• 4:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't know Anyway.
• 4:33
  Speaker 1: so she's kind of coming off that high, which Charles is probably too Like.
• 4:36
  Speaker 1: you can just kind of see like what now?
• 4:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean she keeps going out, but there's no official parties, as far as I know Anyway.
• 4:46
  Speaker 2: so graduation was perfect.
• 4:47
  Speaker 2: It was very lovely.
• 4:49
  Speaker 1: We had so much fun afterwards And, yeah, the next day our friends and family were kind of phasing out of our house and we had a family member that was with us that had an accident and fractured some bones.
• 5:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you did tell me about it briefly in a text.
• 5:12
  Speaker 1: So, and they've been in the hospital for about a week now.
• 5:16
  Speaker 1: We're recording this a week before it's airing, so who knows what is next.
• 5:21
  Speaker 1: But, um, very unfortunate circumstance.
• 5:25
  Speaker 1: and it's just to be there with somebody when they are in that much pain and you can't do anything, is it's just, you feel so helpless.
• 5:33
  Speaker 2: No, you do.
• 5:33
  Speaker 2: I had that when we all went to Italy together.
• 5:35
  Speaker 2: My sister came when Charles was in camp and, uh, she came with her two boys and they went on a wine tour on a Vespa wine, vespa tour and my sister was on for five minutes before she felt like thrown off the front of it.
• 5:47
  Speaker 2: Her kids thought she was dead.
• 5:49
  Speaker 2: I mean, it was really hard.
• 5:50
  Speaker 2: She shattered her ankle, her wrist, because she reached out and then, I had to come in my car.
• 5:56
  Speaker 2: They drove her in like a pickup truck to the hospital because she was like at a winery.
• 6:00
  Speaker 1: She's just out in the little bit, oh my god.
• 6:02
  Speaker 1: And I had a car, so I drove to meet them.
• 6:04
  Speaker 2: But long story short.
• 6:05
  Speaker 2: After all the pain and all the figuring it out, etc.
• 6:08
  Speaker 2: She had this giant cast on her arm that like literally went from her wrist to her shoulder in an L shape.
• 6:15
  Speaker 2: It looked kind of like a like a restaurant swan.
• 6:17
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, She was frozen like that.
• 6:21
  Speaker 1: Oh my god.
• 6:22
  Speaker 1: So she had to have that on the rest of the trip.
• 6:24
  Speaker 2: She didn't say I mean, she had to fly back.
• 6:25
  Speaker 2: She was in miserable pain so I got her on a flight the next morning.
• 6:28
  Speaker 2: But my point being when you have this exciting time, you have this beautiful graduation, all the parties, everything's great, and then something like that happens.
• 6:36
  Speaker 1: You know it's just, i guess it's just life, you know, you never know when something's gonna happen.
• 6:40
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 6:40
  Speaker 1: But yeah, being in a foreign country and having something like that happen has always been my worst fear.
• 6:44
  Speaker 1: Yes, agreed, so scary.
• 6:46
  Speaker 2: So, scary.
• 6:47
  Speaker 1: So you have a big trip coming up?
• 6:49
  Speaker 2: Yes, i do.
• 6:50
  Speaker 2: We're headed to.
• 6:51
  Speaker 2: I'm taking Charles and three friends are going to Montenegro where somebody has a house Oh wow, the family house and so the other parents were like I don't know about him flying by himself.
• 7:01
  Speaker 2: Blah, blah, blah.
• 7:01
  Speaker 2: So I'm the designated parent who's flying with four men they're not boys anymore to New York for a couple days next week, then after that we go to London for like four days and then I fly to Croatia and the mom picks them up there and I stay in Croatia with a friend.
• 7:15
  Speaker 1: Oh, wow, yeah, my boyfriend, that's good for you.
• 7:18
  Speaker 1: Actually, my high school girlfriend What am I?
• 7:19
  Speaker 1: high school girlfriend, more power to you.
• 7:21
  Speaker 1: That's hilarious.
• 7:25
  Speaker 1: So please send me lots of pics, because I got such a kick out of.
• 7:28
  Speaker 1: Where were you last summer?
• 7:29
  Speaker 1: Paris and England and France, yeah, you sent me some pictures and I happened to be in Norman Oklahoma on a college tour at the time and I did a little comparison, like side by side.
• 7:40
  Speaker 1: Yes, i feel like I'm the only one that thought that was funny.
• 7:42
  Speaker 1: I thought it was hilarious.
• 7:43
  Speaker 2: No, everything is hilarious.
• 7:44
  Speaker 1: I had to do whatever I could to entertain myself at the moment.
• 7:47
  Speaker 2: It was funny.
• 7:47
  Speaker 1: So send me pictures.
• 7:48
  Speaker 1: Okay, I will.
• 7:49
  Speaker 1: I'll send you pictures comparing to the hospital.
• 7:51
  Speaker 2: Okay, so yes, really.
• 7:52
  Speaker 2: And so Alexis has a job this summer, doesn't she?
• 7:54
  Speaker 1: That's a big deal She does, but she just told me today that she's a hostess at a local restaurant.
• 7:59
  Speaker 1: She just told me today, literally right before I came here, she's going to have to get another job.
• 8:03
  Speaker 1: Sean, are you listening?
• 8:04
  Speaker 1: You probably don't even know this yet.
• 8:05
  Speaker 1: Oh, you do know.
• 8:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, because they have too many hostesses and she's not going to get enough hours.
• 8:11
  Speaker 1: So I don't know Anyone looking for a teenager.
• 8:14
  Speaker 2: I thought we were about to say please go to the X restaurant because I can throw money at Alexis.
• 8:21
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah.
• 8:22
  Speaker 1: So, I don't think hostesses get tips that often, but I think every now and then, when somebody's feeling generous.
• 8:28
  Speaker 2: But it's kind of a good segue into a real job, because waiting tables is hard Oh yeah, it's really hard.
• 8:34
  Speaker 2: So at least being a hostess you're just like seating people and you know it's a little bit more manageable.
• 8:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's like your entry level into a restaurant And then I think, you go to maybe food server and then waitress waiter, which yeah those are called.
• 8:48
  Speaker 2: Oh, you're first like a bus boy, bus girl, and then you're like a runner.
• 8:52
  Speaker 2: You just bring the food out and then you kind of get to do the whole thing.
• 8:54
  Speaker 1: You're the director of the evening.
• 8:56
  Speaker 1: I never worked in a restaurant.
• 8:57
  Speaker 1: I was always too scared Like I just don't think I'd be the right fit.
• 9:00
  Speaker 1: What about you?
• 9:01
  Speaker 2: I did work in a restaurant one restaurant and I made the best connections there.
• 9:05
  Speaker 2: It was a really good job in New York and it was actually during graduate school And And I would go back from Connecticut to New York to like to work there And it was so much fun but, like Donald Trump, was there all the time.
• 9:15
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, all his cronies and it was just sort of that kind of restaurant.
• 9:20
  Speaker 2: Well, I bet that A lot of tennis players and you know everybody came there, all the pros after, like, the US Open.
• 9:25
  Speaker 2: It was actually a really good experience.
• 9:27
  Speaker 2: But I got to tell you I lied and said I had worked in a restaurant.
• 9:29
  Speaker 2: I'd never stepped foot in a restaurant except to be waited on And I was the worst.
• 9:34
  Speaker 2: And they were so nice about it.
• 9:35
  Speaker 2: They're like it's okay, you'll learn, and I did.
• 9:37
  Speaker 1: It was really good training I think everyone except me should work in a restaurant.
• 9:41
  Speaker 1: I think it just teaches you so much about humanity And it sounds like you've had like quite the characters that came into your restaurant.
• 9:47
  Speaker 1: So I'm sure you have really good stories.
• 9:49
  Speaker 2: Well, it's so fun because all the waiters were like actors and actresses.
• 9:51
  Speaker 2: People were like singing as we folded napkins Oh, that's cute And married the Ketchups, and married the Ketchups.
• 10:00
  Speaker 1: That's hilarious.
• 10:01
  Speaker 1: Well, speaking of restaurants, i had the most amazing time last night.
• 10:05
  Speaker 1: I was having a business meeting of sorts at Dunstons with a friend that wanted me to help her learn how to do videos for social media.
• 10:15
  Speaker 1: Okay, so we were sitting there and we were at Dunstons and TBD which have you been there yet?
• 10:20
  Speaker 1: Like on Lovers Lane?
• 10:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, but TBD is like their new, like Speakeasy that they opened up?
• 10:27
  Speaker 2: No, I'm another.
• 10:27
  Speaker 1: Kind of at the beginning of school last year.
• 10:29
  Speaker 1: So, it's been there for a while, but you got to go.
• 10:32
  Speaker 1: You would love it.
• 10:33
  Speaker 2: Okay, it's super cool.
• 10:34
  Speaker 1: But we literally had the place to ourselves and we were literally about to talk business And in comes Gene Dunston.
• 10:40
  Speaker 1: You know the founder of Dunstons, yes, the patriarch of Dunstons.
• 10:44
  Speaker 1: Okay, and he knows my friend pretty well and he plops down next to us and sits there for a good two hours and he just is like this wealth of history and stories.
• 10:55
  Speaker 1: He's like the best storyteller and he shared just so much, so many interesting, fun stories and his daughter-in-law, anna Dunston, who's a fellow bell mom with me, asked months ago for him to be on the podcast And I just I kind of forgot, got distracted, had other things going on.
• 11:12
  Speaker 1: We got to have him on.
• 11:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that sounds like fun.
• 11:15
  Speaker 1: You would love him.
• 11:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 11:18
  Speaker 1: So you know how, modern day, if we want to show somebody something, we show them a picture on our phone.
• 11:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 11:23
  Speaker 1: He pulls out of he has a jacket on, a nice little sports jacket pulls out a handful of pictures, plops them down on the table and he's like and here's our plane, and here's when we're going here, and here's my wife, and it was just Adorable, like those were his props in his pocket.
• 11:39
  Speaker 1: That's hilarious because he's a super duper, sociable, yes, kind of, makes his rounds and he just loves talking to people.
• 11:45
  Speaker 1: Well, we'll have one.
• 11:47
  Speaker 1: It was so adorable, yeah, yeah.
• 11:48
  Speaker 1: I'm not even gonna tell you what this story is told us like yeah, don't, don't, don't, run a death sentence.
• 11:52
  Speaker 1: Is known for their salad bar.
• 11:54
  Speaker 1: He told me why they put the salad bar in.
• 11:56
  Speaker 1: Is there still a salad bar?
• 11:58
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, it's a really good salad.
• 11:59
  Speaker 2: Okay, well, people don't exist anymore.
• 12:01
  Speaker 2: They're kind of for the salad.
• 12:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so yeah, it was quite the fun night.
• 12:05
  Speaker 1: Anyways, i definitely needed to laugh and be distracted, and he provided that.
• 12:10
  Speaker 2: Yes, Well, we went to a new restaurant, which is not in the in the bubble, but I.
• 12:14
  Speaker 2: It's called down quarter acre in its own lowest Greenville, which I had never heard before.
• 12:21
  Speaker 1: I've never heard the lowest of Greenville Like I heard lower.
• 12:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's even lower.
• 12:27
  Speaker 1: I.
• 12:28
  Speaker 2: Kept thinking he had a list when he was saying that because I interviewed him.
• 12:31
  Speaker 2: I was like does he have a list?
• 12:33
  Speaker 2: But I was like he's saying like lower He can't say lower Greenville and then I realized he's saying lowest, yeah, but um, anyway, we're going there tonight for a date night.
• 12:43
  Speaker 1: And you look awfully nice.
• 12:44
  Speaker 1: You look like you're ready for date night.
• 12:45
  Speaker 2: I'm ready for dinner And it's um, it's uh, he's a New Zealand, he's a Kiwi guy chef.
• 12:49
  Speaker 2: He used to work at a couple restaurants in Dallas, but the restaurant is really like, beautifully done and the food is really good.
• 12:56
  Speaker 2: So I'm going in for a VIP night And I can't wait to be archibald as the chef.
• 13:00
  Speaker 2: Very nice, very nice.
• 13:02
  Speaker 1: Yeah, i'll have to tell us all about it, yeah, next time.
• 13:04
  Speaker 1: So you know, a year ago, when our kids were about to be seniors, we're I personally felt like a deer in the headlights, like I did not know what to expect and I just I was nervous and all this.
• 13:16
  Speaker 1: But now we've been through it.
• 13:18
  Speaker 1: So we're experts, we can tell the stories, that's true.
• 13:20
  Speaker 1: We can share our advice and tips, mm-hmm, because we know it all.
• 13:22
  Speaker 1: Now.
• 13:23
  Speaker 1: Right, do so.
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: Tell me about like your experience like leading into senior year.
• 13:28
  Speaker 2: Well, I would say The biggest thing was I was aware that that you kind of think senior year is gonna be so like easy for them, Like academically Yeah but then you realize that it's the most.
• 13:38
  Speaker 2: It's a very important semester right And your grades still count, which they do all the time in my mind, but, like you know, they people still see them.
• 13:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know so you kind of realize that I think Charles thought he was gonna waltz into senior year and it's gonna be relaxed Like a free ride.
• 13:51
  Speaker 2: Yes, oh yeah it wasn't at all, not at all so much work.
• 13:54
  Speaker 1: I was surprised by that.
• 13:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so much work And plus they have to take their finals.
• 13:59
  Speaker 2: Then a lot of the seniors, the neighborhood and other private schools.
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: Everybody gets out right.
• 14:03
  Speaker 2: You don't have to take your finals if you have it.
• 14:05
  Speaker 2: You know an A or whatever, So but you do that first semester, the midterms, you know.
• 14:10
  Speaker 2: So it was hard, but I just felt like Charles really settled into what he loves to do and who he is, with sports, with arts, with everything, and I feel like it was an exciting year at the end of the day.
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: Yeah, definitely.
• 14:22
  Speaker 1: Um, I feel good now that I've been through it.
• 14:25
  Speaker 1: You don't have to do it again.
• 14:27
  Speaker 1: But yeah, I get one more one more shot and I feel like I'll do it better this time.
• 14:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I.
• 14:32
  Speaker 2: Never get that.
• 14:34
  Speaker 1: Yeah, i don't, so I don't know.
• 14:36
  Speaker 1: I just felt like it was stressful.
• 14:37
  Speaker 1: There was a lot of emotions going on and you indicated you got yours out kind of early on.
• 14:43
  Speaker 1: Mine came out at the end, because I tend to postpone those types of things.
• 14:47
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they came out big at the end and, wow, i think my biggest tip would be to just take care of yourself.
• 14:56
  Speaker 1: Self-care is so important, like massages, healthy eating, like Just whatever you can do, whatever, whatever makes you happy and feels good.
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: Like.
• 15:07
  Speaker 1: I just kept being like I don't have time for me.
• 15:09
  Speaker 2: You know, well, that's a little your country.
• 15:12
  Speaker 2: You're contradicting yourself a little bit because you're like just do all the healthy things.
• 15:15
  Speaker 1: But I was thinking maybe you need to drink like So often, and so all my tips are based on what I should have done.
• 15:23
  Speaker 2: Yes, like the lessons the hard way.
• 15:26
  Speaker 1: I think so many times we say, oh my god, i'm so stressed out, i need to drink.
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: I just hear people say that.
• 15:31
  Speaker 1: I've said it plenty of times and I think that that just kind of makes it worse.
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: I think yeah, that's probably to eat healthy and take better care of yourself and and don't do that Okay.
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, don't do that.
• 15:47
  Speaker 1: That's not the way I don't know It was just.
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: It was such a whirlwind right.
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: Just it went so fast It did, and I think it was just a monumental year for all of them you know, Yeah, but I'm so proud of them.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: I looked at all Charles's friends.
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: We had like a Highland Park reunion from from kindergarten, yeah in the hood, and It was just nice to see all the kids.
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: Of course they're not all friends anymore Right as close as they were right some of them are, and you just sort of realized that I don't know.
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: I'm so proud of all of them.
• 16:16
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well, it's just it.
• 16:17
  Speaker 1: Just you could just really feel that small town community that we have here in the park cities, mm-hmm, and because, like you said, maybe they're not friends anymore but just those familiar faces, mm-hmm, from years That have gone by.
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so fun.
• 16:30
  Speaker 1: I just kept finding myself like Having flashbacks and weird emotions, like everywhere I went, like at North Park Mall, when you go by the planters and little kids are running up them.
• 16:40
  Speaker 1: Yes, and I just remember, like it was yesterday, alexis running up as a little toddler and strangers coming by and going, enjoy every minute.
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, you know, when you blink it's going to be over, ok, ok, i'm just hungry, i'm just like shut up, stranger, I don't need to hear this And now I'm walking by.
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: I don't say it, but I think it.
• 16:58
  Speaker 1: Yes, i don't, i'm not going to be that person, but it's just crazy how fast it went.
• 17:02
  Speaker 1: It's just insane.
• 17:04
  Speaker 1: I know, So with girls on the senior year, i found that they needed so many dresses.
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: Like did Charles need tuxedo?
• 17:13
  Speaker 2: Well, not so formal at times.
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: We just we did something smart.
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: We thought him a tuxedo a long time ago.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: We're like he needs one in junior year.
• 17:19
  Speaker 1: OK, Because they're going to all these events.
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: It's like don't rent one, Just buy it.
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: Gave me that advice, Like in the end it just makes more sense.
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: Of course that's not like a dress, because you wear it, you know he can change up his bow tie or shirt or whatever.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah.
• 17:29
  Speaker 2: And no one knows, but it's not like you know, you don't have to buy any dress every time.
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: was you know my point?
• 17:34
  Speaker 1: I know These girls acted like they were movie stars, Like I've already been photographed in that.
• 17:39
  Speaker 1: I can't wear that again.
• 17:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, please.
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: Really No one remembers that.
• 17:43
  Speaker 2: Just wear it again.
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: But yeah, that never happened.
• 17:45
  Speaker 1: No, i feel like that would be a really good business for someone in the neighborhood to start like a I don't know resell shop, swap meet or something, so you can just bring those dresses back because the girls don't tend to wear them again.
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: Remember there used to be one for kids across from cubies.
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: It was called kid swap.
• 18:02
  Speaker 1: I love that place.
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: I did too, because they had really cute like Easter clothes.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: I would You were like, ok, he's going to fit in this for maybe five days.
• 18:08
  Speaker 2: And you know, like a little blazer or you wouldn't even look so cute right, and like they wouldn't fit in it shortly after.
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: They had really good girl clothes.
• 18:15
  Speaker 2: I used to load up there.
• 18:17
  Speaker 1: I'm so sad that went away.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: I like that place.
• 18:18
  Speaker 1: Yeah Well, someone needs to bring that back.
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 18:22
  Speaker 1: Now it's going to be like a three-story building or something, right?
• 18:24
  Speaker 1: I know I'm so curious.
• 18:26
  Speaker 1: What's going on over there?
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: I am too.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: It looks so different Yeah.
• 18:29
  Speaker 2: And of summer we'll see a lot of progress.
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, You know It'll come along a lot, i think.
• 18:34
  Speaker 1: So tell me graduation gifts.
• 18:37
  Speaker 1: Like did you just like?
• 18:38
  Speaker 1: every day it felt like Christmas, like, leading up to graduation, there's a gift dropped off on your door constantly.
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: And then you realize just like Christmas, you better go out and get the gifts yourself too.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: You know, i was like, oh, like I didn't realize.
• 18:50
  Speaker 2: I didn't think of all the people, but all the parties I got invited to and all the really nice gifts.
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, you had to think, oh, i got to reciprocate.
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: I mean not in a bad way, i just mean you want to.
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it was very overwhelming and like way more than I was expecting.
• 19:05
  Speaker 1: And you're right, like you definitely went to give back and reciprocate and everything.
• 19:10
  Speaker 1: But I would say, make your list early and just know there's going to be like a whole lot more added to it along the way.
• 19:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and make it a big list, because people really do have parties and give gifts.
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: I know You know, i know.
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: So this is what I thought was interesting is that all of our gifts came wrapped in the clear bags with a pretty like grograin bow on them, like there was.
• 19:34
  Speaker 1: We only got a couple that were actual wrapped.
• 19:37
  Speaker 1: Yes, i don't know about you, i don't know if that's what they do for boys too.
• 19:41
  Speaker 2: No, i mean remember like that's like the Highland Park colors and stuff in the bag, yeah, so we didn't get that, but there was just a big range, you know Big range of wrappings, et cetera.
• 19:52
  Speaker 2: But every day I was like, oh my god, there's another gift for you.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: I know Seriously.
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: Anyways, that was fun.
• 19:58
  Speaker 1: Yeah, we're still working on wrapping ours.
• 20:01
  Speaker 1: We I should say me kind of procrastinate it.
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: There's no reason to procrastinate.
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: Guys Like pick your gift, commit to it, get it wrapped and start handing it out, maybe in March.
• 20:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what I think.
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: That's kind of true.
• 20:13
  Speaker 2: Did you Do your Christmas cards in?
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: September.
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: Yeah, i just feel like the more you can pre-plan and get things done, the better.
• 20:20
  Speaker 1: I kind of drug my feet on a few things and that caused a lot of stress at the end.
• 20:25
  Speaker 1: So I just get it done, people, yeah get it done.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: You'd have done as we say in Texas.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: So, we're talking about all the parties, like the brunches.
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: Did you have brunches?
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: Yes, Do boys do brunches?
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: I don't even know.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: I mean, we did everything.
• 20:40
  Speaker 1: Frenches parties everything.
• 20:42
  Speaker 2: Sleepovers, campouts, rides and fancy car Just the whole.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: it was almost like prom all over again.
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: Wait, was your antique car parked on Southwestern today?
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Is it with the first?
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: No, that's not our car With the first sell sign.
• 20:57
  Speaker 2: No, that's our friend's son's car.
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: And he lent it to us for prom with our blue car, which is a 36.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: Interesting, but that's a real 20s car.
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: Ok, i was driving down there to Ness I was like oh my god, that's Nellie's car, why is she selling it?
• 21:09
  Speaker 2: No, no because I was surprised It was roaring 20s theme, so they needed a 20s car instead of our 30s car.
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: So you said, you did not host a brunch or a party.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: I did not.
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: I had a party later.
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: I had a party right before Memorial Day weekend, on Thursday, for Shelton parents.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that's right, It was really fun And that's how I did it.
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: I was glad because I saw everybody who had a party.
• 21:31
  Speaker 2: I was like I better invite those people.
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: And not everybody came, but it was a really fun party.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: No, I think that's smart, Because now you're kind of breathing easy and the whole anticipation is over and everything, but I would recommend, if you're going to have one, to reserve your venue a year in advance.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: I would not have thought about that, but one of Alexis's friends did, and she reserved the room, thank goodness, because I heard so many people scrambling trying to get a place.
• 21:55
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm already booking the hotel for Parents Weekend in October.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: No, that's smart.
• 22:00
  Speaker 1: It's very smart Yeah.
• 22:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:04
  Speaker 1: So we were talking about cutouts earlier and you said, you had little Charles right.
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: Oh, amber Carter made these.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: She took all their heads, kindergarten, and put them on a stick.
• 22:14
  Speaker 2: No, it was like, whatever age it was, but the idea like remember the fourth grade mom's sketch.
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: Like it was sort of like that, like I had on a stick and did that and it was really cute.
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: You know, I guess that's where it all started because, like it's almost like you can't do a party without these cutouts Yeah, whether they're full-size or toddler, or a stick or whatever.
• 22:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 22:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: So I put ours in our living room under the Japanese armor, so it looks like Charles is, you know, like six years old with Japanese armor on.
• 22:39
  Speaker 2: That's pretty funny.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: Alexis is still standing up in our living room left over.
• 22:45
  Speaker 1: And then there was like medical supplies left over from our medical incident at my house and Sean draped it all over Alexis, like tied it on her head.
• 22:55
  Speaker 1: It was pretty funny.
• 22:56
  Speaker 1: Anyways, you got to have fun with these situations.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: Take a picture of it, post it.
• 22:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so tell me, is Charles saying this?
• 23:03
  Speaker 1: This is driving me crazy, mom.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: I'm 18 now.
• 23:06
  Speaker 1: Like, does he say that a lot?
• 23:07
  Speaker 1: No, no, but I don't know.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: I mean because he's not a girl, i don't know.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: But we all know Charles is kind of easy.
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: He just, you know he's, he's like I'll do it myself or whatever, but he never says to me I'm 18, you know you know it's funny.
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah, i'm hearing that so much.
• 23:23
  Speaker 1: I said that you know I never did.
• 23:26
  Speaker 1: No, i actually did, probably for like a year.
• 23:28
  Speaker 1: Anyways, i just I'm so tired of hearing it.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: I'm like I gave birth to you, i'm very aware of how old you are, and so today I started talking to her about something really boring and adultish, like insurance things, because I'm having an insurance thing with my wedding ring.
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: That's been going on for a very long time And she's like Oh my god, mom, this is so boring.
• 23:47
  Speaker 1: Like well, alexis, this is adult stuff.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: This is what being adult is.
• 23:52
  Speaker 1: You need to know about this.
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: I don't want to know about it.
• 23:54
  Speaker 1: I got, but you're 18.
• 23:56
  Speaker 1: You know you keep telling me you're 18.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: You got to know about this stuff, so I feel like you turned it on her.
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: I feel like they want to be 18 and adult whenever it's convenient for them.
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: Agreed, of course, of course.
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: Whenever it works to their advantage, exactly.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: Anyways, it was a whirlwind, wasn't it?
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Yes, I mean a happy one.
• 24:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so now we're on to the next thing.
• 24:16
  Speaker 1: That's the scary part right Yeah, on to the next thing.
• 24:19
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, now we have all this build up about them going off to college now.
• 24:23
  Speaker 1: So when does Charles?
• 24:25
  Speaker 2: leave Sometimes in August because of running, so I'm not sure yet.
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so many like the football players have already gone.
• 24:32
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they go for the whole summer They go immediately.
• 24:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, so that's good that his sport isn't like immediately, right now.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Exactly, she leaves August 12th, august 12th, wow, yeah, i know, be here before you know it.
• 24:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly, we're already through to June, you know?
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: Oh, no, i know, i can't believe it's June and it's hot.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: It's hotter than heck, like we all do with big.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: it is really hot isn't it Yeah?
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: Anyway, i hate that.
• 24:54
  Speaker 2: So yeah, off they go with their summers.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: Well, I thought Rebecca gave us great advice.
• 25:00
  Speaker 1: The week before last, when she said, when we said what should we be doing this summer?
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: And she said do nothing, Just enjoy yourselves.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 25:07
  Speaker 1: And that's exactly what you're doing by going overseas.
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah exactly.
• 25:10
  Speaker 2: You have so much fun.
• 25:11
  Speaker 2: I can't wait.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: We'll have to trade stories.
• 25:13
  Speaker 2: I'm sure we'll go somewhere In a couple weeks.
• 25:15
  Speaker 2: We'll be back.
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: It is not planned yet.
• 25:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: Jackson's always operate last minute.
• 25:23
  Speaker 1: It'll all work out, it'll all be fun.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: Well, i hope you have a wonderful trip.
• 25:27
  Speaker 1: Thank you, see you in a few weeks.
• 25:28
  Speaker 1: Absolutely, and that's been another episode of The Bubble Lounge.
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: I'm Martha Jackson and I'm Nellie.
• 25:34
  Speaker 2: Shudeau, and we'll catch you next time.