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Season 2 - Episode 61 - The process of condemning ourselves · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim. Every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places her chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the chicken coop.
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  Today, I want to talk to you about not being where you want
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  to be and not beating yourself up for it.
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  You know, so often we get really good at telling ourselves.
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  I'm not where I want to be on Mount where I want to be.
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  I'm not where I want to be and we forget then in the process of
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  acknowledging, we're not where we want to be, we are doing more
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  damage to ourselves by thinking about it over and over and over
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  again instead of just taking the information from it and saying
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  okay I'm not I want to be. So, what should I do about that?
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  How do I want to handle this? How do I want to show up?
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  Who do I want to be in those moments?
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  And the worst part of this entire situation is that in the
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  process of doing this, we obviously forget, because I know
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  you've heard me say it before, and I have to remind myself of
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  this all the time too, that we are ultimately attracting more
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  of it because we're energetically aligned to it.
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  So, let's talk about that for a Second.
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  And really determine the fact that being energetically aligned
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  to something. That's not what you want.
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  Really does cause more of the problem can't not like attracts
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  like and we're so good at beating ourselves up.
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  And we think that the more we beat ourselves up the more we
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  may pay attention but the beatings will continue until
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  morale improves. Rarely Works what ends up
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  happening? Is we get ourselves Aligned to
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  what's wrong and then the universe provides us with proof.
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  That guess what? It's not working.
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  See, I knew it wouldn't work, see?
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  I knew this wouldn't work, see, I knew this would be the case.
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  And as soon as we start saying that all to ourselves, once
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  again, we're energetically aligned to it and boom.
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  There we are. It's a vicious circle and
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  breaking. The circle is the essence of the
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  work. We're here to do as human beings
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  and stop treating ourselves. Like we would never treat
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  anybody else. You know, I'm a True Believer
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  that if you're listening to this podcast, you're the type of
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  person that does not want to hurt anybody else.
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  You're here to improve yourself, you have an attitude of growth
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  you intend on having a growth mindset.
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  You work towards that piece of it and you really don't want to
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  go out there and destroy energy that other people have.
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  You just want to have a happy great life and All of that I
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  completely and totally understand.
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  And I'm aligned with where you have to stop and pause and
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  correct yourself. If you will is you can't treat
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  yourself that way because when you treat yourself that way it
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  just gets worse, you are actually misaligning at that
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  point in time and the more you misalign the more you create,
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  what you don't want and again vicious circle.
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  So what do you do? How does how does one handle
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  this? What is Is the thing that one
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  does to get out of this? Well, the very first thing you
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  have to do is recognize you're doing it.
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  So, if you feel like you're doing this to yourself, stop
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  pause, and say to yourself, okay?
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  I've been doing that and it's clearly not working.
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  So I need to do something that will work.
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  Something that will work is, treating yourself really well
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  and in your head, I'm not saying go out and spoil yourself and do
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  all those things. Of course, you can do that, but
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  I'm talking about being really thoughtful about how you're
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  talking to yourself talking. Yourself kindly apparently
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  Dottie has an opinion on this to yes ma'am.
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  And speaking with intent of healing and saying, you know
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  what, I'm not where I want to be right now and I'm going to
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  change that. I'm going to do something about
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  this. I'm moving away from this
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  because it's not working and I'm moving towards this.
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  It's not like you have to pretend you're somewhere, you're
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  not but you're moving towards what you want and away from what
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  you don't want, that is the key moving towards.
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  What you want and moving away from what You don't want and the
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  more you do that, the better off.
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  You are the more you decide to change that?
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  Part of yourself, the better off you are and I can't stress
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  enough that nobody can help you with this because nobody knows
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  what's going on in your head but you nobody understands the
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  connections and conversations that you have with you.
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  Like you you are the one that's in your head.
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  You are the one that's doing the damage.
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  So you have to be the one that does the healing.
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  We can all point it. But you've got to be the one
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  that does it, if you're the one dishing it out.
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  So I'm going to challenge you to go off and see where you are not
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  being kind to yourself in this moment.
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  Stop telling yourself, you're not where you should be.
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  You are exactly where you're supposed to be.
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  You know how I know that because if you were not where you are
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  supposed to be, you wouldn't be there.
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  There is something in you, that's keeping you where you
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  are, and it's you. So, we have to take
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  responsibility ownership shift ourselves and make better
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  choices. Has and how we speak to
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  ourselves and how we align ourselves.
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  I hope this is helpful and I hope you treat yourself well
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  today and I will talk to you tomorrow.
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  Bye.