From Savannah to Me: Why We're Still Waiting 30 Years Later

The General's Briefing · Mar 17, 2026 · 19m

In 1995, Terry McMillan gave us Waiting to Exhale—four Black women waiting for Black men to get it together. Waiting for them to commit. Waiting for them to choose them. Waiting for them to show up. Waiting to exhale.

Thirty years later, in 2026, we're STILL waiting.

The last time I was in a relationship that lasted longer than 9 months was from August 2005 to January 2009. That's 3.5 years. And since then? 17 years of relationships that don't last. 17 years of asking myself, "Is it me? What am I doing wrong? Why can't I make this work?"

And I just realized something: It's not me. It's the…