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Golnesa GG Gharachedaghi from Shahs Of Sunset · Untraditionally Lala

• 0:08
  Speaker 1: What's up?
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  Speaker 2: My loves it is La La Kent. Happy hump Day.
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  Speaker 1: With Randal, Happy day period.
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  Speaker 2: I know Rand's feeling a little under the weather, but
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  Speaker 2: I think he can get through this, right, Yeah, I just.
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  Speaker 1: Have a little head cold. I got a tested for
• 0:21
  Speaker 1: COVID twice, so we know we don't have COVID, so yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's just a little sinus infection.
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  Speaker 2: That was the first thing I asked when I called him.
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  Speaker 2: I was at the Salt Lake City Airport this morning
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  Speaker 2: and was like, do we have the VID because that's
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  Speaker 2: going to be an issue. I mean, just stay here,
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  Speaker 2: and he said he got tested twice came back negative.
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  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, I wouldn't have you come to the house
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  Speaker 1: if I had COVID, but I was on my second
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  Speaker 1: test at that point, so yeah, negative.
• 0:49
  Speaker 2: Love it. So I went to Utah for a few days.
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  Speaker 2: I got to introduce Ocean to some of my childhood
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  Speaker 2: friends that hadn't met her before. Ocean turned six months
• 1:02
  Speaker 2: on September fifteenth.
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  Speaker 1: Happy birthday, right baby, I know.
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  Speaker 2: And to Cate, I know. To celebrate her, I went
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  Speaker 2: and got a little tattoo on my hand. My brother
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  Speaker 2: Easton said, you have way too many names and words
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  Speaker 2: on your arms. So instead of getting her name, I
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  Speaker 2: got a little tiny the needle was like a size three.
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  Speaker 2: For anybody who knows tattoos, that's like a very fine needle,
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  Speaker 2: and it's just like a little ocean wave the tribute.
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  Speaker 2: So now I have your name tattooed on me, and
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  Speaker 2: I have a wave for ocean.
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  Speaker 1: I love it. You got the whole fam on there.
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  Speaker 2: I got the whole gang.
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  Speaker 1: It's really really nice. I'm glad you got that. I
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  Speaker 1: think she'll appreciate it when she's old enough to understand
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  Speaker 1: what that is.
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  Speaker 2: I know. I tried to show it to her and
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  Speaker 2: she didn't give me like the googu gaga that I
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  Speaker 2: was hoping for. But then I remembered she's six months
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  Speaker 2: so that reaction hopefully will come.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. So you were in Utahl. Tell everybody what was
• 1:59
  Speaker 1: a typical day of Utah.
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  Speaker 2: Like, a typical day in Utah is very chill. There's
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  Speaker 2: so many times.
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  Speaker 1: Different, different than a typical day here in La.
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  Speaker 2: Very different from La. When I got there, I was
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  Speaker 2: driving to my mom's house and I was like, you
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  Speaker 2: know what, there's so many times in the past year
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  Speaker 2: where I'm like I got to move back to Utah,
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  Speaker 2: Like I've talked to you about it. I'm like, what
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  Speaker 2: are the chances that we do fifty to fifty? Like
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  Speaker 2: how can we get out of LA? And then I
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  Speaker 2: get there and I'm like, you know what, I think
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  Speaker 2: I'm good. I think I love it so much, but
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  Speaker 2: visits I'm okay with.
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  Speaker 1: It's like I knew when you would say that shit.
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  Speaker 1: I was like, dude, I just let you rant, because
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  Speaker 1: if you're like an energizer bunny, if I just let
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  Speaker 1: you tire yourself out with your thought, yeah, well you'll
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  Speaker 1: find your place back. But the thing about Utah that's
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  Speaker 1: great is it's an hour and twenty five minute flight,
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  Speaker 1: so you can literally go there on a Tuesday, come
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  Speaker 1: back on Thursday and still have a great Like there's
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  Speaker 1: no exhaustion.
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  Speaker 2: No. I literally we go out to the airport at
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  Speaker 2: six and I landed in LA at eight fifteen.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying, Like, if you went there for
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  Speaker 1: a weekend, you could fly back Monday and be here
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  Speaker 1: for work. So it's like but it's like me, I'm
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  Speaker 1: the same. My love for Florida is the same as
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  Speaker 1: your love for Utah. But I don't need to be
• 3:17
  Speaker 1: there full time now. I like going there. I like
• 3:20
  Speaker 1: being in the water. I love Florida. You know how
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  Speaker 1: much I love Florida. But I need to come home
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  Speaker 1: and be in my environment where you know, this is
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  Speaker 1: like where I work, this is where our family is.
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  Speaker 1: So I think we're kind of people that get to
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  Speaker 1: a point sometimes where we're burnt out. We need to
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  Speaker 1: go retreat and then come back and like re energize.
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  Speaker 1: But yeah, I don't see either one of us living
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  Speaker 1: ever full time.
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  Speaker 2: Oh swhere, Yeah, no, I agree ocean.
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  Speaker 1: Was your mom broken hearted that you broke her dreams
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  Speaker 1: of going back home the Salt Lake?
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  Speaker 2: You know, I think she would have been if she
• 3:53
  Speaker 2: wasn't here so much. I think so many people that
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  Speaker 2: I had like leanked up with, how is your mom
• 4:01
  Speaker 2: like in California? I'm like, she likes it there, Like
• 4:04
  Speaker 2: she enjoys it. What do you what do you mean?
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  Speaker 2: They're like, so she's loving living in La. I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: my mom doesn't live in Oa. My mom lives the Ark.
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  Speaker 2: I'm staying at her house.
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  Speaker 1: Well, if you add up the room nights at at
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  Speaker 1: Casa Emma La La, she's probably here fifty one percent.
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  Speaker 2: Right, like her doctors are here now. That's why she's
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  Speaker 2: here right now. She had to fly back for a
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  Speaker 2: doctor's appointment.
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  Speaker 1: Your mother, if she'd have a doctor's appointment to see
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  Speaker 1: a hamster in a gardenia, okay, your mother would come
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  Speaker 1: up with something. So it's okay. I'm glad that I
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  Speaker 1: got our good doctor though, because health is is wealth, you.
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  Speaker 2: Know, absolutely, So ocean was amazing on the way there,
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  Speaker 2: and amazing on the flight back. Rockstar, rock star, And
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  Speaker 2: she's never slept better. Rand, that's great and so happy.
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  Speaker 2: I had this like pack and play amazoned to my
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  Speaker 2: mom's house and she slept like a champion. So if
• 4:58
  Speaker 2: you remember last Christmas, we bought Riley a pack and
• 5:02
  Speaker 2: play for her dolls. So I'm like, I'm not gonna
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  Speaker 2: buy a new pack and play. I'm gonna use Riley's
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  Speaker 2: for her dolls. I'm literally setting it up in our bedroom.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, you're just robbing the other children's toys.
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  Speaker 2: Well no, no, no, I never would have taken the
• 5:21
  Speaker 2: pack and play if Riley still played with it. But
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  Speaker 2: now she's in a new She was.
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  Speaker 1: A kid right now. Riley's all weekend we were teaching school.
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  Speaker 1: She was the principal. Then she was the student, then
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  Speaker 1: I was the teacher, and then she got in trouble
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  Speaker 1: because she erased all the math problems I put on
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  Speaker 1: the board, so I had a center to the principal.
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  Speaker 1: So Riley's in. Oh and by the way, Riley went
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  Speaker 1: to gymnastics Sunday with her best friend and now she's
• 5:43
  Speaker 1: in gymnastic. So yeah, Riley's moved on.
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  Speaker 2: Riley's moved on. But let me say this about Riley.
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  Speaker 2: She's the golden child, like besides Ocean. Because she's my
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  Speaker 2: biological kid, she's obviously my soulmate. But Riley's like my
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  Speaker 2: other soulmate, right, like a golden child. Even if she's
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  Speaker 2: still played with that pack and play. If I asked
• 6:03
  Speaker 2: her for it, no no, no, no, I wouldn't steal it.
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  Speaker 2: But if I told her I ordered one, she would
• 6:07
  Speaker 2: have said, you could have used mine, because even like
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  Speaker 2: I'll talk about clothing for ocean, and she'll say, if
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  Speaker 2: you ever need clothes for ocean, you can use some
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  Speaker 2: of my dolls clothes they don't wear.
• 6:17
  Speaker 1: Them, she'd get but I'll tell you something. You know,
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  Speaker 1: they're both like that now because they both asked about
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  Speaker 1: ocean London my other golden child, asked about Ocean, said,
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  Speaker 1: which they're.
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  Speaker 2: Both golden children. But no, no, but London's in the
• 6:30
  Speaker 2: phase where she wants nothing to do with either of us.
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  Speaker 1: No, Lundon's already shucked down. Yeah, London's like, LUN's like
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  Speaker 1: she's pledging a solorty right now.
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  Speaker 2: She's like, where's my phone? Where are my best friends?
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  Speaker 1: But I'm gonna wear them all really cute when you
• 6:43
  Speaker 1: were gone, because you're gone a week and they obviously
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  Speaker 1: know no one you're gone, then they miss you. London
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  Speaker 1: said to me. She was when do you think Ocean's
• 6:50
  Speaker 1: be back? Do you think I'll see her before I,
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  Speaker 1: you know, leave, And I'm like, oh my god, like
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  Speaker 1: because London had no interest, but for her to ask, right,
• 6:57
  Speaker 1: it was like out of our wayst It was really
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  Speaker 1: really nice. One last thing about children growing up. I
• 7:03
  Speaker 1: went to the mall this week, which you got to understand,
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  Speaker 1: you know, because you've been in the mall in your
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  Speaker 1: times with London and Riley in the Ocean. Now, when
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  Speaker 1: London goes to the mall, it's like she's a klingon usually,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean, Like she doesn't leave my
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  Speaker 1: sock new experience. You haven't experienced this shit, You're gonna
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  Speaker 1: love this. I walk into the mall with her her
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  Speaker 1: best friend. I want to go to the mall whatever.
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  Speaker 1: All of a sudden, I have these flashbacks to when
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  Speaker 1: I was like twelve, and I'm thinking, like, when I
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  Speaker 1: went to the mall, the last thing I want to
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  Speaker 1: do is out with my parents.
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  Speaker 2: Take me there, you go somewhere else and we're going
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  Speaker 2: to like roam.
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  Speaker 1: But I wasn't ready for that, and so it was
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  Speaker 1: like this this emotional moment. But it was like I
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  Speaker 1: got to the mall and I'm like, all right, because
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  Speaker 1: I think I have to entertain them because that's all
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  Speaker 1: I've known. And so I'm like, let's go, and they're like, no, no,
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  Speaker 1: We're gonna go like over here, and I was like, whohah,
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  Speaker 1: whoa wah, Wait a second, is this that moment? Because
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  Speaker 1: you don't nobody gives you the book, but you're good
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  Speaker 1: at that. You always say to me, You're like, babe,
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  Speaker 1: let them be, you know, let her be a preteen
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  Speaker 1: and a letter be.
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  Speaker 2: But I also don't have my own. Now I have
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  Speaker 2: my own children, so it's going to be very different.
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  Speaker 2: Me saying that to you is easy for me to
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  Speaker 2: say because I right, right, So I've experienced my own
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  Speaker 2: children growing up, but.
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  Speaker 1: You as a but you also helped me because you're
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  Speaker 1: a girl and they're girls, and you like kind of well.
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  Speaker 2: My dad did the same thing what you're doing. They
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  Speaker 2: have a dads have a hard time letting their girls
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  Speaker 2: grow up. Art the boy.
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  Speaker 1: Oh so I love you. No. So I went to
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  Speaker 1: the mall. It was just this big moment where like
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  Speaker 1: I walked in the mall and I sat. I walked
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  Speaker 1: up them and said, well, do you guys want to
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  Speaker 1: go to that store over there?
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  Speaker 2: And they're like, they're like, we actually want to ditch
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  Speaker 2: you is what we're really wanting, I swear to you.
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  Speaker 1: After I took them to lunch, I sat on a bench.
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  Speaker 1: A true story by myself. I sat on a bench
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  Speaker 1: in front of Sophora for an hour.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's like, what the fuck? It's so cute though.
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  Speaker 1: It was, it was really nice, and honestly, I would
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  Speaker 1: throw all these emotions and I got to emotional. But
• 9:00
  Speaker 1: then I was like, you know what, this is so
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  Speaker 1: cool that my oldest child now it could like go
• 9:05
  Speaker 1: out and because she would come back, you know, because
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  Speaker 1: they have their phones and I know where they are,
• 9:09
  Speaker 1: and and and she would come back and she'd be like, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: we went, we went to the bookstore. We're going to
• 9:14
  Speaker 1: go get ice cream now, And I was like, okay,
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  Speaker 1: here's the credit card. By like it's yeah, so weird
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  Speaker 1: because going with Riley.
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  Speaker 2: No, No, she wants to write. So two things with
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  Speaker 2: your story. Number One, you're a fantastic dad. I love
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  Speaker 2: that you took them. I know it feels like, oh
• 9:31
  Speaker 2: my gosh, she's growing up, but those moments that you're
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  Speaker 2: having with her, she's going to forever be your baby,
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  Speaker 2: because that's how I was with my dad. My dad
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  Speaker 2: would like, take me to the mall, and I'm sure
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  Speaker 2: he was like, I can't believe I'm taking my kid
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  Speaker 2: to the mall and she's off with her friends. But
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  Speaker 2: that makes it so that your daughter. I'm just speaking
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  Speaker 2: from my own experience with my dad, because I see
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  Speaker 2: a lot of my you and my dad and vice versa.
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  Speaker 1: Like you see daddy.
• 9:55
  Speaker 2: No, like I see because I grew up with an
• 9:57
  Speaker 2: amazing dad, So I see qualities you.
• 10:00
  Speaker 1: Haven't used the same quality. People who know you know
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  Speaker 1: that you have such an affinity and love for your father.
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  Speaker 1: That for you to even say that I have any
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  Speaker 1: qualities like it is a complete compliment. So I know that.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, good, I'm glad you know that I'm joking with this.
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  Speaker 2: So DoD Being said, She's gonna always like be your
• 10:16
  Speaker 2: baby just because you're giving her those moments right. Second
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  Speaker 2: of all, she and her best friend face timed me
• 10:24
  Speaker 2: about sixty seven times. After them all they did. They
• 10:27
  Speaker 2: showed me every performance that they had been working on.
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  Speaker 2: They wanted to see ocean every five seconds. They sent
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  Speaker 2: pictures to me about my book. They saw my book
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  Speaker 2: at Barnes and Noble. I was like, oh god, please
• 10:38
  Speaker 2: don't open it.
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  Speaker 1: They FaceTime me for Barnes and Noble, which I was
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  Speaker 1: about twelve feet away. Yeah, and they showed La LA's
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  Speaker 1: books here and I go close the book and keep
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  Speaker 1: a moving.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like, oh my gosh, that's so cool. Move along.
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  Speaker 2: Go to the nice section of the bookstore. And then
• 10:55
  Speaker 2: they showed me all the clothes that you got for them. Yes, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: like the bell body.
• 11:00
  Speaker 1: No no, no, I didn't even get though. She went
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  Speaker 1: with her best friend's mother. Oh and they got those.
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  Speaker 2: And then I what a killer day. The weekend of
• 11:10
  Speaker 2: just shopping and sleepovers, the.
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  Speaker 1: Best time, best time, and you know what, it was
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  Speaker 1: realizing and Riley had her sleepover. So it's like it's like, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it was really really fun.
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  Speaker 2: Good. Yeah, I'm so glad. It was like a few
• 11:22
  Speaker 2: days of just like hanging out with kids. Correct, love it,
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  Speaker 2: Love those days.
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  Speaker 1: But I am glad my baby's back though, both my babies,
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  Speaker 1: you and my little baby. When you drove into in
• 11:32
  Speaker 1: the house, I saw my little baby on it and
• 11:34
  Speaker 1: she was, you know, in the car seat obviously, and
• 11:36
  Speaker 1: I was passing you. You roll down the window and
• 11:38
  Speaker 1: she was like staring out in space, and I go,
• 11:40
  Speaker 1: I go because I was like, oh shit, did she
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  Speaker 1: forget my voice? I was like ocean and she's like
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  Speaker 1: right up, and I'm like, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Every time you FaceTime she was reaching for the phone.
• 11:48
  Speaker 2: She was yeah, because I make sure that, like I
• 11:50
  Speaker 2: don't FaceTime this way, so she's like looking at a
• 11:53
  Speaker 2: phone case. I make sure she can see her face.
• 11:55
  Speaker 1: Oh that's good, I.
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  Speaker 2: Got your back, boo. She knows exactly who you are.
• 12:01
  Speaker 2: She's been listening to your voice since she was in
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  Speaker 2: the belly, I know.
• 12:04
  Speaker 1: But you know, you have spent five days you.
• 12:07
  Speaker 2: Well, it's so funny because when you leave us, you're like, bye, guys,
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  Speaker 2: I'm going out of town. But then when Ocean and
• 12:14
  Speaker 2: I left you you were a sobbing mess. I was like, yes,
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  Speaker 2: you were.
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  Speaker 1: I did not.
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  Speaker 2: I did not you cried?
• 12:22
  Speaker 1: I did.
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  Speaker 2: I thought I was sexy. Why do you have to
• 12:24
  Speaker 2: deny that cried the windstorm? Didn't you see all that
• 12:32
  Speaker 2: wind and dust in bel air? Right?
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  Speaker 1: I didn't. You know what's funny, I didn't know. It's
• 12:39
  Speaker 1: not funny, but I just didn't know. It was the
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  Speaker 1: first time my baby, Like when I leave, I know,
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  Speaker 1: my baby's in our house and she's she's provided for
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  Speaker 1: when you're there, and you know, I know, like when
• 12:50
  Speaker 1: I come back in a day or two, she's gonna
• 12:51
  Speaker 1: be right where I left.
• 12:52
  Speaker 2: Right, Randall knows, I don't leave the house when I'm
• 12:54
  Speaker 2: in LA. It feels much more comfortable with that. No,
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  Speaker 2: it's getting on an airplane not so much.
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  Speaker 1: No, it's not that, it's like I know that when
• 13:01
  Speaker 1: I get home whenever time, she's going to be there
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  Speaker 1: waiting for me. Right right. So it was like when
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  Speaker 1: you left, it was like the first time you've left
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  Speaker 1: with her baby without me, you know, so it was
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  Speaker 1: like a big deal and then I got like, you know, yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I got really emotional. So it's but you know, okay,
• 13:17
  Speaker 1: moving on.
• 13:18
  Speaker 2: It was sweet. So today is going to be a
• 13:20
  Speaker 2: lot of fun because we have Gigi Goldnessas.
• 13:24
  Speaker 1: I love her. Oh my gosh, she's so fucking fun.
• 13:27
  Speaker 1: She is she's the Lalla of Shaws.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my, that's such a compliment.
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  Speaker 1: No, she she actually I think I have to ask her.
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  Speaker 1: But at your beauty party, she came up to me
• 13:37
  Speaker 1: and I was like, you know, I know who you are.
• 13:39
  Speaker 1: I've seen you done that. She's like, I'm like the law.
• 13:42
  Speaker 1: I think she said, I'm like the lot. I said,
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: you guys, when I watched the show, the similarities of
• 13:47
  Speaker 1: the two of you, of just being boss women who
• 13:50
  Speaker 1: just don't put up with shit, you guys have such
• 13:53
  Speaker 1: like a lot of similar qualities, like in terms of.
• 13:56
  Speaker 2: You know, I mean, I take that as a compliment.
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  Speaker 2: I think she does as well. I'm really excited to
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: talk to her. I have not finished this season of Shaws,
• 14:06
  Speaker 2: but it is fantastic. Rand and I are on episode
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  Speaker 2: like eight.
• 14:10
  Speaker 1: It's one of my favorite shows. It's been from the jo.
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  Speaker 2: No we love, Shaws of Sunset, anything that Brava puts
• 14:15
  Speaker 2: onto you, I'm most likely going to watch.
• 14:17
  Speaker 1: I like that guy Mike. He's fun as fuck, Like
• 14:21
  Speaker 1: he's just he's like just always he doesn't put up
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  Speaker 1: with shit. He goes off on people, but then he's
• 14:26
  Speaker 1: also like super sensitive. I like the Reza Oh my god,
• 14:30
  Speaker 1: all of that. And what's the woman's name who had
• 14:33
  Speaker 1: the baby? Who you love? Whom him?
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  Speaker 3: Jay?
• 14:36
  Speaker 2: Well, you know Gigi also has a baby. I think
• 14:39
  Speaker 2: he's maybe one and a half two years old. Yeah,
• 14:43
  Speaker 2: and I'm excited to talk to her about that because
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: she's doing it on her own. I just think she's
• 14:49
  Speaker 2: she's a badass. She gives me great television to watch,
• 14:53
  Speaker 2: which anyone who does that for me, I'm like, you
• 14:55
  Speaker 2: rock my world. So she'll be up next.
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: Wait, you have a huge, huge, fucking week next week,
• 15:05
  Speaker 1: because next week after a two year hius, guess what's
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: coming back?
• 15:11
  Speaker 2: Vander pump ruh. Give it a good clap, Give it
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: a good clap, snaps all around.
• 15:17
  Speaker 1: So you are back. Your cast is back season fucking.
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: Nine, nine, nine or ten, no season.
• 15:27
  Speaker 1: I'm so excited for you. So Today's Wednesday. The world
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: premiere of season nine is Tuesday. I am so excited.
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: September twenty eighth.
• 15:34
  Speaker 1: The amount of tea that you're going to be is
• 15:36
  Speaker 1: it dropping or spilling?
• 15:37
  Speaker 2: Spilling tea?
• 15:38
  Speaker 1: The amount of tea that you're gonna spill next Wednesday,
• 15:41
  Speaker 1: I am clearing the fucking room for you.
• 15:42
  Speaker 2: Well, now, all the podcasts that we do until the
• 15:46
  Speaker 2: end of the season, the first segment of every show
• 15:49
  Speaker 2: is going to be vander Talk obviously.
• 15:52
  Speaker 1: Not only that, we're going to be doing our mystery
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: phoner every week and it's going to always be somebody
• 15:57
  Speaker 1: associated with the show. This is exciting.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: It'll be really exciting, it'll be weird, and you know,
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: people talk about it all the time about okay, are
• 16:05
  Speaker 2: we going to give it another chance? I hope that
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: everybody gives it a chance, because even though it looks different,
• 16:13
  Speaker 2: our lives still are happening, and there's a lot of
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: stuff that is like pretty intense. And when I watched
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: the trailer, the teaser, by the way, fantastically done, I
• 16:24
  Speaker 2: thought it was great. I thought it was so great.
• 16:26
  Speaker 1: I thought, you guys, because I was around a little bit,
• 16:29
  Speaker 1: I gotta tell you, they captured a small sample of
• 16:34
  Speaker 1: what audiences are gonna see. And boy, you guys really
• 16:37
  Speaker 1: have a lot of dramas well.
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: That was the thing is when I watched it, I
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: was like, damn, that was like a really fun trailer.
• 16:42
  Speaker 2: It was, and they just give you like little tidbits
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: of what's to come. But I'm telling you, the season
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: is intense. Like we're not dealing with little petty shit.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: No, you guys are pretty uh you guys are You
• 16:55
  Speaker 1: guys are in it to win it. You guys put
• 16:57
  Speaker 1: her all out there.
• 16:57
  Speaker 2: I gotta tell you, I like how you said that
• 16:59
  Speaker 2: we're in it to win it. Here it's one however
• 17:02
  Speaker 2: we want to look at it.
• 17:03
  Speaker 1: I got to tell you. The highlight, besides, of course
• 17:06
  Speaker 1: seeing you in the trailer, was that was a Jessica
• 17:10
  Speaker 1: Knsass moment. The highlight is when Arianna falls. Oh my god,
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: I thought of my chair top. I thought of my chair.
• 17:17
  Speaker 2: I've watched it that part probably fifty times.
• 17:21
  Speaker 1: Me too. It's hysterical.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: And me and Easton, my little brother, watched it on
• 17:25
  Speaker 2: repeat when I was in Utah because it's so funny
• 17:28
  Speaker 2: when she's standing in our kitchen saying that she had it. Yes,
• 17:32
  Speaker 2: when she says I've had a really positive day and
• 17:34
  Speaker 2: then it flashes to her just bam. I don't know
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: if her heel broke. Actually I do know what happened
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: because I was there. But the funniest is that you
• 17:42
  Speaker 2: hear someone go oh nods her hair on top of
• 17:48
  Speaker 2: her head. It's so funny. If you guys don't follow
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: Ariana on TikTok, she made a video to it.
• 17:53
  Speaker 1: Oh she did.
• 17:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I texted her and I was like, Yo, you
• 17:56
  Speaker 2: falling is the funniest shit I've ever seen, and she
• 17:58
  Speaker 2: was like, I feel like it needs me be on
• 17:59
  Speaker 2: tikto I said, you need to make that right now.
• 18:01
  Speaker 2: So she made it with a hilarious song, and it
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: makes my day.
• 18:05
  Speaker 1: It is.
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: It makes my day.
• 18:07
  Speaker 1: All I want to say is we are literally six
• 18:10
  Speaker 1: days away from the season premiere, Season nine. Everybody tune
• 18:13
  Speaker 1: in to catch your lava because she is back.
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: Vander Palm Rules airs Tuesday, September twenty eighth, only on Bravo.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: We'll take a quick break and we will be back
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: with Gigi from shas of Sunset. We are back with
• 18:31
  Speaker 2: my spirit animal, Gigi.
• 18:34
  Speaker 3: I'm a spirit animal.
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: Because that's the Grinch. You're my other besides the Grinch. Yes,
• 18:41
  Speaker 2: you're my spirit animal.
• 18:43
  Speaker 3: Hi.
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: You went from Lochnessa to the voice of reason this season.
• 18:48
  Speaker 4: I did, And I don't know how I did it
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: other than just a lot of good weed.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: Wow, Yeah, a lot of good weed and maybe a kid, okay,
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: and a child right that may snap you back.
• 18:59
  Speaker 1: You both have that because you both are you know, intense,
• 19:02
  Speaker 1: strong opinionated women, and now you're like kind of voice
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: or reason.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll see how it plays out. We just finished filming.
• 19:09
  Speaker 2: This is the first season that I've had a kid,
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: and I liked to think that I'm different this season,
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: more chill ye huh. But who knows. When you watch yourself,
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: it's like a mirror. You know, you're like, WHOA, what happened?
• 19:22
  Speaker 3: I have to be honest.
• 19:24
  Speaker 4: When when you joined vander Pomp is when no offense
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: because I you know, I have I don't get certain people.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: I don't get offended.
• 19:32
  Speaker 4: It was it was when you joined is when it
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: became interesting for me. No, I'm saying no to the
• 19:37
  Speaker 4: other people.
• 19:38
  Speaker 2: I was like, that's a cool compliment you could give me.
• 19:42
  Speaker 3: No, it became a little bit more interesting.
• 19:43
  Speaker 4: You're a beautiful woman and like you said, you're you're intelligent,
• 19:46
  Speaker 4: and you have that spicy, you know, opinionated, like I'm
• 19:50
  Speaker 4: not going to take shit personality, and I identified with that.
• 19:53
  Speaker 4: So I would love to see how you are as
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: a mom on the show.
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: Now, well, I'm excited to also see it, but this season,
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: because I who knows which way it'll go. We'll find
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: out on the twenty eight. What was it like filming
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: this past season, because this was like the first, right you,
• 20:10
  Speaker 2: you hadn't.
• 20:10
  Speaker 4: Filmed, and it was the first time with Eli. We
• 20:13
  Speaker 4: started when he was five months old, and it sucked because,
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: as you know, COVID made everything a little different, and
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: you know, having a nurse at my house three times
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: a week for testing everyone and random people, random.
• 20:27
  Speaker 3: Would get COVID. It was inevitable.
• 20:28
  Speaker 4: So it was just interesting and I was not fully
• 20:31
  Speaker 4: comfortable bringing Elijah out in about too much to scenes.
• 20:36
  Speaker 4: I was like, Okay, if you guys want to come
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: every now and then to the house and just get
• 20:39
  Speaker 4: glimpses of him, no problem. But that was it, and
• 20:42
  Speaker 4: I just wanted to just do the shots thing with
• 20:45
  Speaker 4: that outside of my home.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Right.
• 20:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I have to.
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: Ask you, did you get any backlash? For having a nanny.
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: Oh my god, you know what, I thought I was
• 20:55
  Speaker 4: going to get backlash for using a sperm donor.
• 20:58
  Speaker 3: I was praised for that, but I backlash for.
• 21:01
  Speaker 4: Being a single woman who happened to get a sperm
• 21:03
  Speaker 4: donor to have a baby to get help. What you
• 21:06
  Speaker 4: think I was all of a sudden a sperm donor
• 21:08
  Speaker 4: came out of the juban had arms in life.
• 21:10
  Speaker 3: To cradle the baby. No, right, Like what the fuck?
• 21:13
  Speaker 4: And I have an autoimmune disease, so it was I
• 21:16
  Speaker 4: get a lot of shit for it. But I think
• 21:18
  Speaker 4: that the people who give you the most shit, unfortunately,
• 21:22
  Speaker 4: were the ones who could not afford the help, okay,
• 21:25
  Speaker 4: and are a little upset that they couldn't afford the help,
• 21:27
  Speaker 4: And to them it was like, well I did it
• 21:29
  Speaker 4: on my own, Like okay, but what if you had
• 21:31
  Speaker 4: the means to not.
• 21:32
  Speaker 2: Right, like if you had an option?
• 21:33
  Speaker 3: Right totally.
• 21:34
  Speaker 1: But also I think that people don't understand that you
• 21:37
  Speaker 1: guys also work full time. You all have businesses. You're
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: running companies and building brands, and you know, at the
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: end of the day. We've had a lot of powerful
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: women on the show, and they all have said like this,
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: is part of being able to have a successful brand
• 21:52
  Speaker 1: for a company, you know. So I think it's like,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: I just think the hating in that world is just
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: so unnecessary on every level.
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: I didn't realize mom shaming. I had heard that word,
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: but I didn't think it existed until I had a baby.
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: And it was like coming left and right at me,
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: where do you.
• 22:08
  Speaker 4: Get at the most and which area of a mommyhood
• 22:11
  Speaker 4: have you gotten the most shaming?
• 22:12
  Speaker 2: Well, there was a lot about having help, yeah, because
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: and definitely it's a luxury. I was able because of
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: my fiance to have a night nurse, so I was
• 22:24
  Speaker 2: getting a good night.
• 22:25
  Speaker 5: Safe your Yes, I think most of them and get
• 22:29
  Speaker 5: you know, postpartum depression because that time frame as a woman,
• 22:34
  Speaker 5: you need to sleep and heal right, you have to heal, Yes,
• 22:38
  Speaker 5: you have to.
• 22:39
  Speaker 3: It is a luxury.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: It's definitely a luxury. And you know, fortunately and unfortunately
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: I have a partner who also couldn't wake up and
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: do that because he has a full you know, he's
• 22:50
  Speaker 2: got to be ready to go right the next morning.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: So it was just like this battle of people coming
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: for me for having a lot of help, and I'm like,
• 23:01
  Speaker 2: am I a shitty mom because I'm like asking, she.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: Questioned it every day.
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: There's a lot of things I didn't shake off. That
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: was a tough one.
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: But then you talked to She talked to a therapist
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: that she also talked to a lot of other women,
• 23:15
  Speaker 1: and all the other ones were like, listen, you have
• 23:17
  Speaker 1: to embrace like this is the time to work, Like
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: this is the fine if you're going to be out there,
• 23:22
  Speaker 1: because when they're five six, seven four, you know, that's
• 23:25
  Speaker 1: when they're like, well, where are you going? You know,
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: why are you leaving the house?
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: So I think you just yeah, yeah, I'm shaking it off.
• 23:32
  Speaker 2: But we'll see what happens.
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: When I'm I'm kind of shocked that you would have
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: taken that personally because it's I don't know, it's almost like, well,
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: you're I don't give a fuck what people think about
• 23:43
  Speaker 4: me personality, and you created this whole miracle on your own.
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: I'm surprised you would give a fuck what anyone thinks.
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: I called every name in the book, so I'm you know,
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: used to all of that, but like the you know,
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: me becoming a mom, who is you? Territory very you know,
• 23:59
  Speaker 2: when you're when someone's questioning hormonal RM the hormones, oh
• 24:04
  Speaker 2: child eyes, Well for you, Well, IVF.
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: Was the hardest part when I came to my hormones.
• 24:11
  Speaker 4: Literally and I tell this story a million times, but
• 24:14
  Speaker 4: it's just just the most relevant. I was, you know,
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: injecting three times a day of the hormones and all
• 24:20
  Speaker 4: that stuff. And my mom came over my house one
• 24:22
  Speaker 4: day and I'm watching Beyonce at Bachella, right and it's
• 24:27
  Speaker 4: starting up, and my mom comes and sits down and
• 24:29
  Speaker 4: she goes, oh, is that Beyonce?
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: I must have ripped her new ass because she didn't
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: realize that it was Beyonce. Why would she even fucking
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: ask me?
• 24:40
  Speaker 1: Yeah?
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: I mean I almost killed her?
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: And then every day every.
• 24:46
  Speaker 4: Day that's crazy. The hormones were nuts, but I am because.
• 24:51
  Speaker 2: We're women, were already hormonal, and then you're going through
• 24:53
  Speaker 2: the IVF process where you're pumping yourself even more.
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: Is this every day you're normal?
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: It was? It was a lot of hormones for IVF.
• 25:02
  Speaker 3: It was a lot of harm.
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: How long did that?
• 25:06
  Speaker 4: I went through it a couple of times, only because
• 25:09
  Speaker 4: my first pregnancy was a random fluke and it turned
• 25:14
  Speaker 4: it topic and ruptured and I lost both my Filippian tubes.
• 25:17
  Speaker 4: So three months later I was like, I'm I don't
• 25:20
  Speaker 4: give a fuck. I know I'm going to be a mom,
• 25:21
  Speaker 4: so let's let's put that embrya back in me. So
• 25:24
  Speaker 4: I went through to so I had to go through
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: it again. It was just, you know, it was it
• 25:28
  Speaker 4: was a lot, a lot. So God bless my white nurse.
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: Because my God, you deserve it. Yeah, so what was
• 25:36
  Speaker 2: that process? Like, you, we know that you're very independent,
• 25:40
  Speaker 2: You're you've spoken about how you're not into just having
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: one partner. You just feel like you're not built that way.
• 25:48
  Speaker 3: I'm not I respect it.
• 25:50
  Speaker 2: So when did you say to yourself, I'm going to
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: have a baby, but I'm doing it on my own.
• 25:56
  Speaker 4: I think when I realized that I'm not good in
• 25:59
  Speaker 4: ren relationships. I think when I realized that it's just
• 26:03
  Speaker 4: not built for me.
• 26:04
  Speaker 2: Were you realized, Like when did it start sinking and
• 26:07
  Speaker 2: like this isn't for me?
• 26:09
  Speaker 4: I think probably two ex boyfriends ago, maybe my ex
• 26:12
  Speaker 4: husband and an ex boyfriend ago. I mean, come on,
• 26:17
  Speaker 4: I was married for six weeks. I literally woke up
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: and a week seven I was like this is hold on.
• 26:22
  Speaker 2: You felt trapped so you.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: Were married for six weeks. Explain to me when you
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: go into the marriage, because now I get a better
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: sense of you. When you go into the marriage, you're
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: excited about it or weren't excited?
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: We were together for three months?
• 26:38
  Speaker 1: No, it wasn't great.
• 26:40
  Speaker 4: No, No, So I always have I always have that rush,
• 26:45
  Speaker 4: that adrenaline we all get when we meet someone, the
• 26:47
  Speaker 4: butterfly infatuation, and then when I conquer the mind, I'm
• 26:54
  Speaker 4: over it. Yeah, as soon as that word, I think,
• 26:58
  Speaker 4: I love you like I love you too, baby, I
• 27:04
  Speaker 4: love you too.
• 27:07
  Speaker 1: Wait, now, hold on, Has there ever been a man
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: in your life that has been that much of a
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: challenge for you that you didn't or that you've conquered
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: them all? Like they always given? Did they give it?
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: It's like one of course they're given because she's never
• 27:21
  Speaker 2: available enough. So that's when they want you the most.
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: I'm sure every single one is beating your door down
• 27:26
  Speaker 2: because you're like, I'm not.
• 27:27
  Speaker 3: I don't believe in marriage. Okay, I never have.
• 27:31
  Speaker 4: The reason I got married was for I was trying
• 27:34
  Speaker 4: to help him out.
• 27:34
  Speaker 3: He was in an issue.
• 27:35
  Speaker 2: Let's just leave it there, Okay, he.
• 27:37
  Speaker 4: Was in an issue, needed some help. I got an
• 27:39
  Speaker 4: amazing six and a half carrot you know stone to
• 27:42
  Speaker 4: keep me that.
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: It was gorgeous.
• 27:43
  Speaker 3: So thank you girl, as you should.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: Okay, he took me to you know, literally almost two
• 27:49
  Speaker 4: years to he was trying to come for me, sue me,
• 27:52
  Speaker 4: you know, for a divorce. Yes, he wanted to ring back,
• 27:55
  Speaker 4: and I said, well, I found some information out about you.
• 27:57
  Speaker 3: So no, no, it's okay, exactly, No, I'm mistake, mistake,
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: big one.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: Okay. So you basically said him straight and he goes
• 28:10
  Speaker 1: on his way.
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 28:11
  Speaker 4: So two years of that ship and I'm just realizing,
• 28:14
  Speaker 4: you know what, I can't keep doing this to men
• 28:17
  Speaker 4: because it was me.
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: I let him on into that point.
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: I got the previous one to that point and then
• 28:23
  Speaker 4: I just dropped them.
• 28:24
  Speaker 6: Wow.
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: So but I give you a lot of respect because
• 28:27
  Speaker 1: the fact that you know this about yourself is like, listen,
• 28:30
  Speaker 1: I'm just not in that space. And by the way,
• 28:32
  Speaker 1: maybe five years from now you'll change. But today and
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: this is who you are.
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: It is today, and I've been reading about it once
• 28:37
  Speaker 4: I started my podcast. I again, you know, we were
• 28:40
  Speaker 4: just talking about this. I'm trying to keep my podcast
• 28:42
  Speaker 4: controversial and talk about those things that a lot of
• 28:44
  Speaker 4: people don't want.
• 28:45
  Speaker 2: To discuss like that.
• 28:46
  Speaker 4: And polyamory is something I have been resonating with for
• 28:50
  Speaker 4: a while now, and I've been reading extensively on it
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: and trying to understand it, and because of COVID, I
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: haven't been able to put it to fruition. Yeah right,
• 29:00
  Speaker 4: I'm trying to find someone and I've met someone just recently.
• 29:03
  Speaker 3: Oh, and I've laid out the laws.
• 29:05
  Speaker 2: Hold on, how can you say how you met this person?
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: Did you get on a nap?
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: I met him through Resa. I have a great question
• 29:14
  Speaker 3: for us, ask a baby.
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: I have a great question. So let's pretend we're that guy.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: I what is laying out the law? Because this I
• 29:23
  Speaker 1: want to you, this is what I want.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: I want to answer.
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: You go to dinner with you, We're at dinner, You're
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: into me, I'm in the you, and you say this
• 29:33
  Speaker 1: is the law? What is that? I'm dying here because
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: this is great.
• 29:36
  Speaker 4: This is so when I see, when I can see
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: that the emotions are there for both sides, when I
• 29:41
  Speaker 4: can see I'm into the person and he's equally into me,
• 29:44
  Speaker 4: I'm like, Okay, maybe we need to have that conversation
• 29:46
  Speaker 4: and I'll bring it in.
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: It'll be like, so.
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: This is good.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: I start with the sow.
• 29:54
  Speaker 3: I always start with the sow. I always start with
• 29:56
  Speaker 3: the sew, and then it's the well.
• 29:59
  Speaker 4: So most of the guys in my life right now
• 30:01
  Speaker 4: that my best friends, all my guy best friends are
• 30:03
  Speaker 4: typically my ex boyfriends, and my exes stay in my life.
• 30:08
  Speaker 4: And the reason they stay in my life is because
• 30:11
  Speaker 4: I realized, you know this, the relationship wasn't thing, but
• 30:14
  Speaker 4: the friendships were great.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: And that's just sort of what I realized.
• 30:18
  Speaker 4: I don't really want relationships as far as commitment. I
• 30:21
  Speaker 4: just want the relationship.
• 30:23
  Speaker 2: Right, the companionship.
• 30:24
  Speaker 4: I want the companionship, partnership. I want the homie, the
• 30:27
  Speaker 4: ride or die, I want the I want that part.
• 30:31
  Speaker 4: But I'm not into Polly for this sex. And I
• 30:34
  Speaker 4: think people keep confusing polyamory with polygamy or.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: Just not being able to keep it in your parents.
• 30:42
  Speaker 4: I don't believe in cheating. I don't believe in people
• 30:44
  Speaker 4: sleeping around. I don't ever want to be with someone
• 30:46
  Speaker 4: who's just gonna fuck every bitch.
• 30:48
  Speaker 3: You know that. I don't want my shoehead.
• 30:50
  Speaker 5: Okay, let's just let's just savage, Okay, so now, how
• 30:57
  Speaker 5: does he.
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: React to this? Because you're very, very honest, straightforward, and
• 31:00
  Speaker 1: that's I think most men want a woman that will
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: tell him how it is so that they don't get
• 31:05
  Speaker 1: into something that they maybe thought was one thing. Yeah,
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: So how does he respond to.
• 31:08
  Speaker 4: This when he's un fortunate that he's just coming out
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: of a long, long relationship, so he's on the same
• 31:16
  Speaker 4: mindset that he's not ready to jump back into anything
• 31:19
  Speaker 4: right now.
• 31:20
  Speaker 3: But I also have to bring it up.
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: I say, I've had these conversations with men before, and
• 31:26
  Speaker 4: they all promise me that they're not going to turn
• 31:28
  Speaker 4: into that, but they do, right, and they do because
• 31:31
  Speaker 4: they see that I don't wither, I don't alter my ways,
• 31:34
  Speaker 4: I don't have the emotional thing, and they want to
• 31:37
  Speaker 4: own me.
• 31:37
  Speaker 3: They get it and they end up getting hooked.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: It's like the right challenge.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: Men want a challenge.
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: Okah, you would think when you first present that they're like,
• 31:45
  Speaker 2: this is awesome.
• 31:46
  Speaker 3: Tell yeah, They're all that, fuck yeah.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: And this is exactly what I've been looking for my
• 31:49
  Speaker 2: whole night.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: It's good.
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: Men are very needy. Yes, people think that we're's some
• 31:55
  Speaker 2: meaty No, we're just forwards about what we're looking for Fairly,
• 32:01
  Speaker 2: Gigi has been forward about what she wants. Dudes aren't
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: like that. They just like think a different way.
• 32:07
  Speaker 4: Very simple minded, a productive way of Yes, I think
• 32:10
  Speaker 4: you guys, you guys know what you want and that's it.
• 32:13
  Speaker 4: There's no I'm going to play this game, this and
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: this and this.
• 32:16
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 32:17
  Speaker 4: That's why I always try to give my girlfriend's game.
• 32:20
  Speaker 4: I'm like, you want him, then, you know what, go
• 32:22
  Speaker 4: get your life over here together. So they're gonna come
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: after you one when they see you. Don't give a fuck.
• 32:27
  Speaker 4: I love you for you, you know. And I think
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: women are relying so much more and more on that
• 32:32
  Speaker 4: man to make them a whole person or better gay
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: strait doesn't make a difference just looking for that significant other, right,
• 32:38
  Speaker 4: And I'm not and I'm very forward that I am
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: a whole honey. I have my child on my own,
• 32:42
  Speaker 4: I pay my bills on my own.
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: I don't need you to add.
• 32:46
  Speaker 4: You can add to my spirituality, my energy, my happiness.
• 32:49
  Speaker 2: Yes, my mom always said, you don't want you don't
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: want to find your other fifty percent. You want to
• 32:54
  Speaker 2: find your one hundred percent and someone else who has
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: a hundred So that instead of it being fifty to fifty,
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: it's a two hundred percent type of thing because you
• 33:03
  Speaker 2: got to be good with or without a person.
• 33:05
  Speaker 4: That's why I've never been heartbroken because when I left
• 33:08
  Speaker 4: a situation, I've always been a whole and I'm abnormally logical,
• 33:12
  Speaker 4: so I think my logical yeah, heart's really Yeah, it's
• 33:16
  Speaker 4: a little bit too much when you long I'm November
• 33:19
  Speaker 4: twenty seventh.
• 33:20
  Speaker 2: Is that a sad Yeah, Yeah, you're a good one.
• 33:23
  Speaker 1: That's like very robotic almost. It's like a little likes
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: so logical to the thing of like analytical. But what
• 33:30
  Speaker 1: I do like is that you're straightforward. So when somebody
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: comes into your life, they either they're hearing it. If
• 33:35
  Speaker 1: they hear it, they have to accept it. If they
• 33:37
  Speaker 1: don't want to accept it, then that's their own issue.
• 33:39
  Speaker 1: It's like you've told them. So that's pretty because very
• 33:41
  Speaker 1: few women, i think, could say that you know that
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: way and really own it so totally.
• 33:47
  Speaker 2: Because we're like born into this atmosphere of like what
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: is right and normal and correctized path we're supposed to follow,
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: and it's some of us don't want that cookie cutter life, right,
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: you know, absolutely respect it.
• 34:00
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 34:01
  Speaker 2: So you you decide you're going to have a baby
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: with or without a dud, and with.
• 34:06
  Speaker 3: Or without I don't need the dude, I don't need
• 34:08
  Speaker 3: to do and I did.
• 34:09
  Speaker 4: It literally shopping for sperm.
• 34:13
  Speaker 3: You know, it's like if they've got to build a
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: bear workshop kind of store.
• 34:15
  Speaker 2: On right. You see the bases. You see the bases,
• 34:18
  Speaker 2: you can like check out. I've only seen movies. I
• 34:21
  Speaker 2: think you're the first person that's actually talked about it
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: really real life.
• 34:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you get in.
• 34:26
  Speaker 1: I don't understand. So you look at the person and there.
• 34:29
  Speaker 4: So I hired a company. It's called a donor concierge.
• 34:33
  Speaker 4: Now there's different ways to go about it. You can
• 34:35
  Speaker 4: go to your local sperm bank kind of concept or whatever.
• 34:39
  Speaker 4: The company I hired is like a concierge company. Okay,
• 34:42
  Speaker 4: they will do a two hour analysis on you see
• 34:46
  Speaker 4: what you're.
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: About, what you're looking for, all.
• 34:48
  Speaker 4: The details, and then they just set it out to
• 34:51
  Speaker 4: all the banks in the nation and neighboring.
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: Countries, like like for a match, basically for a match.
• 34:58
  Speaker 4: It's like it's it's so difficul when you think you're
• 35:01
  Speaker 4: doing this to create a child. It's not like a
• 35:03
  Speaker 4: cute like dating site anymore. This is like your genetics
• 35:07
  Speaker 4: and mind and everything.
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: I mean everything, Like they state their education and everything.
• 35:13
  Speaker 3: Like that, everything down to the grandparents, uncles on think.
• 35:17
  Speaker 4: So what the packet is like this thick it's about
• 35:19
  Speaker 4: fifty pages deep. And I told them one of my
• 35:22
  Speaker 4: terms was I have to see photo. I can't take
• 35:25
  Speaker 4: a one without a photo like I have. That was
• 35:27
  Speaker 4: one of my Okay, so you.
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: See some of them not send photos.
• 35:31
  Speaker 4: I think about eighty to ninety percent of donors don't
• 35:35
  Speaker 4: really like to leave a photo.
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 35:37
  Speaker 4: Most donors statistically are donating in college because they need
• 35:40
  Speaker 4: the money. It's like they get like if they have
• 35:43
  Speaker 4: good sperm, they'll go from like one hundred dollars to
• 35:46
  Speaker 4: five hundred dollars per.
• 35:51
  Speaker 1: This is so fascinating. So you get a picture. Do
• 35:56
  Speaker 1: you meet the person?
• 35:57
  Speaker 4: No, it's strictly anonymous, so there's a lot of legal aspects.
• 36:00
  Speaker 3: You don't have to know the guy's name if they
• 36:03
  Speaker 3: offer it.
• 36:03
  Speaker 1: Okay, what does the guy look like? What did he
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: look like?
• 36:07
  Speaker 4: I can I can show you a picture of what
• 36:08
  Speaker 4: he looks like. He's very good looking. He's probably a
• 36:12
  Speaker 4: shade more tan than I am as Tana, is your right?
• 36:18
  Speaker 2: I love that. Was it important for you to have
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: your donor be Persian?
• 36:25
  Speaker 4: I didn't particularly want a Persian person. I wanted someone
• 36:31
  Speaker 4: with darker skin and darker features because I wanted to
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: make it as easy as possible from my child that's
• 36:37
  Speaker 4: going to be a donor child. I wanted to make
• 36:40
  Speaker 4: it a little bit easier to not be like, you
• 36:42
  Speaker 4: don't look anything like your mom. Were you sure you're
• 36:45
  Speaker 4: not adopted? I don't want my child to deal with
• 36:48
  Speaker 4: all that, because it's going to be enough that they
• 36:49
  Speaker 4: don't have a dad and Father's Day and all those
• 36:51
  Speaker 4: kind of yeah.
• 36:54
  Speaker 3: So I was just like, all right, But I also.
• 36:56
  Speaker 4: I didn't typically want a Persian person. So I found
• 37:00
  Speaker 4: this guy.
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: He's just perfect.
• 37:02
  Speaker 1: He's taugh, he's.
• 37:03
  Speaker 3: Charming, he's amazing.
• 37:05
  Speaker 4: And I have all the genetics to aunts and uncles
• 37:08
  Speaker 4: and you know, parents are judges and attorneys.
• 37:11
  Speaker 2: You want to know. I see he gets older, like
• 37:13
  Speaker 2: the health, what health concerns do I need to be looking?
• 37:15
  Speaker 2: What allergies should I be looking?
• 37:17
  Speaker 3: Exactly?
• 37:18
  Speaker 4: So when I see that, and I match my genetics
• 37:20
  Speaker 4: to his genetics, and then we see, like is this
• 37:22
  Speaker 4: going to be a good mixture of chromosomes, genetics, and
• 37:26
  Speaker 4: then you know, we do the embryos. And then I
• 37:28
  Speaker 4: waited for ten days after we grew the embryo to
• 37:30
  Speaker 4: test all my embryos, and I made sure to get
• 37:33
  Speaker 4: you know, the perfect score embryos to insert right.
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: Back up, you know, And did you did you care
• 37:41
  Speaker 2: if it was boy girl? Not?
• 37:43
  Speaker 3: Really? I wanted the healthiest.
• 37:45
  Speaker 4: I knew that I wanted a child, and I was
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: thinking that it's going to be super hard to have
• 37:49
  Speaker 4: a boy without a male figure to teach him how
• 37:53
  Speaker 4: to be a man. I was scared of.
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: That and I could be completely off my rocker. I
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: feel like it would be more of a challenge to
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: raise a woman without a father.
• 38:02
  Speaker 4: That's what everyone told me. That's what everyone said. They're like,
• 38:06
  Speaker 4: it's going to be harder to have a daughter without
• 38:08
  Speaker 4: a father. Yeah, you know, the boy will end up
• 38:11
  Speaker 4: raising you. You're he's going to be your protector, boy Elijah, Elijah, Yeah,
• 38:16
  Speaker 4: he's almost seventeen months.
• 38:18
  Speaker 1: Blays all the time. We're always mama's boys, you know.
• 38:20
  Speaker 4: And great, I feel like I works he's not going
• 38:25
  Speaker 4: to be a mama's boy.
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: Literally, like we're at the park the other day.
• 38:27
  Speaker 4: This person will like looked at me and said something
• 38:29
  Speaker 4: because he fells on the floor and he goes and
• 38:32
  Speaker 4: I can tell he's okay, and I look at him.
• 38:34
  Speaker 3: I go get up, Baker. This guy goes, Wow, you're
• 38:38
  Speaker 3: a tough one. But I'm like, he's a boy. He
• 38:42
  Speaker 3: needs to fall, he needs to go through totally. You know.
• 38:45
  Speaker 1: Let me say something. I think. I think whether you're
• 38:47
  Speaker 1: I think if your child, whether boy or girl, has
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: the love that I know you have your child honestly,
• 38:52
  Speaker 1: and I really mean this. There are a lot of
• 38:54
  Speaker 1: families that you know, have two parents and they're very broken.
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: I think when you have love come from one parent
• 39:00
  Speaker 1: or two parents of any type or sort, they're going
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: to be.
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: Just I agree with you, you know, I don't.
• 39:06
  Speaker 1: I don't worry about you at all.
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 39:08
  Speaker 1: I think I think that this child is very lucky
• 39:10
  Speaker 1: to have you.
• 39:11
  Speaker 3: Thank you. I appreciate this.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: So was your was the labor good? Like? What was
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: your experience doing? I have to know now that I.
• 39:19
  Speaker 3: Did did you do vaginal?
• 39:21
  Speaker 1: Oh?
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: Did you did you? I did too?
• 39:23
  Speaker 3: I did vaginal. Yeah.
• 39:24
  Speaker 4: I wanted to do the whole badge experience. I wanted
• 39:27
  Speaker 4: to as much as I could. I had to induce
• 39:31
  Speaker 4: early because of my health and my mother condition. Not
• 39:34
  Speaker 4: too early, like less than a month, less than a month,
• 39:37
  Speaker 4: but it was my health was getting bad, okay, so
• 39:39
  Speaker 4: we had to get a mouth putting back on the chemo.
• 39:41
  Speaker 3: So it was just we came out.
• 39:42
  Speaker 4: But it was literally the third or fourth week that
• 39:46
  Speaker 4: the first quarantine hit.
• 39:48
  Speaker 2: Oh my.
• 39:49
  Speaker 4: So they were saying, going into birth, you have to
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: go alone, and then like a week before they changed
• 39:54
  Speaker 4: it that you can have one person go to your
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: sister right by. I chose my sister because at that
• 39:58
  Speaker 4: time they were saying it's an old person ends disease,
• 40:00
  Speaker 4: and I didn't want my parents to go to the hospital,
• 40:02
  Speaker 4: like what the fuck would happen? So they induced me
• 40:07
  Speaker 4: at one am. At eight am, they came in and
• 40:11
  Speaker 4: they said the baby's going to be coming soon.
• 40:14
  Speaker 2: So I just got chills.
• 40:15
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they just began the process. I'm like, Okay, this
• 40:18
  Speaker 4: isn't too bad. But then I like, you know, closer
• 40:21
  Speaker 4: to seven pm, I was like.
• 40:24
  Speaker 2: They're like, what exactly is it coming?
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: Did you keep getting the bullet?
• 40:28
  Speaker 2: What is the bullet that sounds?
• 40:29
  Speaker 4: So you have your epidural and then you, Yes, that
• 40:33
  Speaker 4: the anesthesiologist comes in and he hits you with a bullet.
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you can only have it every thirty to forty
• 40:38
  Speaker 3: five minutes.
• 40:39
  Speaker 2: And I nothing. No, I enjoyed. Can I tell you
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: I've never slept better than to.
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: Earth definite labor while you were in Later they were sleeping.
• 40:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah. They induced me at eleven am, and I went,
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: I was like, literally, they came in. They broke my
• 40:57
  Speaker 2: water at probably ten pm. Oh, they had to break
• 40:59
  Speaker 2: your while had to break my water. And then they
• 41:01
  Speaker 2: said we're going to change your your sheets because there's
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: a lot of water. And I was like, can you
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: just leave it? I can't fink shit. I'm like tired.
• 41:09
  Speaker 2: I slept like a baby am she was born. Oh wow,
• 41:14
  Speaker 2: I was like, this is the best I want to
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: give every day. Yeah, I know, I got lucky.
• 41:19
  Speaker 3: You got that.
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: Not everyone has that eat yet.
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: No, mine wasn't too bad either. I was just I
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: didn't sleep too much. I was so excited. My sister
• 41:26
  Speaker 4: was passed out on like filming my sisters slurring and
• 41:28
  Speaker 4: sleeping right next to me, and like no, I was
• 41:31
  Speaker 4: excited to be there and to have a baby and
• 41:33
  Speaker 4: just the whole concept that was just cool.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: And that's why I was so confused why I slept
• 41:39
  Speaker 2: so well, because I'm like, you're having a baby. You
• 41:41
  Speaker 2: would think that I wouldn't be able to sleep now
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: the night after I had her, Like there, she and
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: I couldn't.
• 41:49
  Speaker 3: I couldn't sleep.
• 41:50
  Speaker 2: I didn't want to miss anything, even though she wasn't
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: doing anything. We're going to take a quick break and
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: we will be right back. We're back with Gigi gol Meessa.
• 42:01
  Speaker 3: Gol Meessa. I love thely you say.
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: You say it's so proper, do what you do a
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: lot of shut it up well because you've said it
• 42:07
  Speaker 2: so many times, and I'm like, I like that.
• 42:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: So we spoke about your baby. He's seventeen months. You're
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: digging it all. He's looking at her face and sometimes
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: it gets rough. I know, I.
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: Feel like I feel I don't know what's coming next.
• 42:23
  Speaker 3: I'm getting nervous for your bout.
• 42:25
  Speaker 1: Well.
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: I just wanted to quickly ask, because you have a rottweiler. Yes,
• 42:29
  Speaker 2: did you get a lot of people talking about that,
• 42:31
  Speaker 2: like how could you allow a rottweiler around your baby?
• 42:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah? I get it.
• 42:34
  Speaker 4: I still get it a lot on social media when
• 42:37
  Speaker 4: I post pictures of Jajah.
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: Love that name, by the way, thank you.
• 42:42
  Speaker 4: She's my little Jajaabor. She's just Eastern European, big and
• 42:46
  Speaker 4: just sexy.
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: She's sexy.
• 42:47
  Speaker 3: She's so sexy. Yeah, she's a Rottweiler.
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: And I think that society has Pacey's misconceptions on certain dogs,
• 42:55
  Speaker 4: that they're bad and they're dangerous. But you know, after
• 42:59
  Speaker 4: so much reason, I'm a research person, I'm a reader.
• 43:01
  Speaker 2: I'm getting that to read.
• 43:03
  Speaker 4: So they were rated amongst the top dog for children
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: and families, So it was a no brainer for me.
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: I love it. It was my mom. I was telling
• 43:13
  Speaker 2: you my mom has two pit bulls, and obviously I
• 43:16
  Speaker 2: don't really I just know, like an animal's an animal.
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: And if my baby grabs a dog in any way,
• 43:23
  Speaker 2: you know, like they don't know. So no matter what
• 43:26
  Speaker 2: the dog, even my dog Lily, who's like a little mutt,
• 43:30
  Speaker 2: I get nervous just in case. But my mom's pits
• 43:34
  Speaker 2: could not pitbulls. My mom's my mom's piples could not
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: get enough of ocean when we were in Utah, I
• 43:44
  Speaker 2: mean guarding her with all of their I mean, they
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: like they didn't give a damn about me. It was
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: all about like how do we make sure that baby
• 43:53
  Speaker 2: is okay?
• 43:54
  Speaker 1: It was the.
• 43:54
  Speaker 4: Sweetest thaiss babies, They really do.
• 43:57
  Speaker 2: So I love that you have your your son.
• 44:00
  Speaker 4: I get a lot of shit for it, but I
• 44:01
  Speaker 4: don't really care. I got her specifically for the child.
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: You know.
• 44:05
  Speaker 4: I found a breeder that was just an amazing breeder.
• 44:07
  Speaker 4: They didn't do in a breeding. They don't believe in
• 44:10
  Speaker 4: cutting body parts of the dogs off, and so you know,
• 44:14
  Speaker 4: it's like she came all the way from Pennsylvania. But
• 44:16
  Speaker 4: I mean she went through great training before I got
• 44:19
  Speaker 4: her with cats and kids, because.
• 44:21
  Speaker 2: She's still of this animal, right, she's my ears.
• 44:24
  Speaker 3: Okay, she's in my ears. She'll tell me she you
• 44:26
  Speaker 3: know what.
• 44:27
  Speaker 4: Now she doesn't do it anymore because I think my
• 44:30
  Speaker 4: son does fake cry so much. But she used to
• 44:33
  Speaker 4: notify me every time the baby would cry. She would
• 44:36
  Speaker 4: come over to me and kind of like nudge me
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: or just like cut the paw up, and it was like, mom,
• 44:41
  Speaker 4: can you hear him?
• 44:42
  Speaker 1: Now?
• 44:42
  Speaker 4: It's like because my son Elijah's always like yeah, randomly,
• 44:46
  Speaker 4: I think like Josh I just looks so much shut
• 44:48
  Speaker 4: up kid.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: Like you're a shaker totally. So what was I have
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: to ask you, are you an MJ good?
• 44:55
  Speaker 4: I mean, it's you know, I think where we left it,
• 44:59
  Speaker 4: where we left did that the reunion was I would
• 45:03
  Speaker 4: I would be open to her efforts. Okay, And something
• 45:06
  Speaker 4: has taken place recently which put all that backwards for me,
• 45:10
  Speaker 4: which I'm sure season ten.
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: I love that we're getting season ten. I've been obsessed
• 45:17
  Speaker 2: with Shaws since you guys started, which I think I
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: was like still living in Utah at the time, and
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: I was like, I got to get to La and
• 45:24
  Speaker 2: I got to be friends with these fabulous persians. Yeah,
• 45:29
  Speaker 2: you came to give them.
• 45:31
  Speaker 4: It was amazing for you guy, was it was really nice? Well,
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: thank you for coming, Resent.
• 45:37
  Speaker 3: I had a blast, Oh my god. Yeah.
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: And you guys are still close, Oh my god.
• 45:41
  Speaker 4: Resident and I are getting closer by the day, especially now
• 45:44
  Speaker 4: that I just met someone through him.
• 45:45
  Speaker 3: So it's kind of like, that's cool.
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: Now you guys all have like a foursome. Yeah.
• 45:49
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 45:50
  Speaker 1: Let me ask you a question. The worst moment for
• 45:53
  Speaker 1: you in all of the history of being on the show,
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: and the best moment of being on the show that
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: you can remember.
• 45:59
  Speaker 4: Worst moment was when I tried to physically attack Reza
• 46:04
  Speaker 4: and his husband Adam jumped in the way and I
• 46:06
  Speaker 4: ended up gashing at him very badly.
• 46:10
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 46:10
  Speaker 4: And I love Adam to death like two pieces, and
• 46:13
  Speaker 4: I ended up hurting him because of my anger for
• 46:16
  Speaker 4: his husband, and it.
• 46:17
  Speaker 3: Was it was a big wake up call for me.
• 46:19
  Speaker 4: I was going through a lot at that time, so
• 46:21
  Speaker 4: I immediately just checked myself into two different facilities. I did
• 46:25
  Speaker 4: cognitive behavioral therapy and I did spiritual healing.
• 46:28
  Speaker 3: So that was my best and worst.
• 46:31
  Speaker 4: Because it grew me. I needed a moment and I
• 46:34
  Speaker 4: grew and I came back this new goal Neessa.
• 46:37
  Speaker 3: That's where Lachanessa died there.
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: Wow, what season was that, because I remember that was
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: I think season five or six.
• 46:44
  Speaker 3: That was what he was saying.
• 46:44
  Speaker 4: It was lying about having Ara and going through chemo
• 46:47
  Speaker 4: and all that stuff, and it was just I wasn't
• 46:49
  Speaker 4: so much physical pain at that time, and I was
• 46:51
  Speaker 4: drinking heavily and I was taking oxy because the pain
• 46:54
  Speaker 4: of my ARI was so bad, and I was trying
• 46:57
  Speaker 4: to deal with the concept that I have to start
• 46:59
  Speaker 4: chemo now, and it's just the word didn't sit right
• 47:01
  Speaker 4: with me.
• 47:03
  Speaker 2: I'm angry about it.
• 47:04
  Speaker 4: I was going through a lot and then to come
• 47:05
  Speaker 4: on and have to fight for what I'm going through
• 47:08
  Speaker 4: on my show.
• 47:08
  Speaker 3: It was It was tough. It was tough.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: That's always That's always been something that has rubbed me
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: the wrong way because there was also so you went
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: through that and then Yolanda had deed with her limes disease.
• 47:19
  Speaker 2: That was question that. It always bothers me when like,
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: I don't care how entertaining we're trying to make a
• 47:25
  Speaker 2: show and how real life it is. I don't care
• 47:27
  Speaker 2: if cameras are on or not. You're not questioning what
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: I'm going through health wise. If I tell you this
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: is how I'm feeling, don't question me. So that must
• 47:35
  Speaker 2: I'm sure you were very angry and at the top
• 47:37
  Speaker 2: of all of the pain and then trying to like
• 47:39
  Speaker 2: mask how you're feeling. Probably with the alcohol.
• 47:40
  Speaker 4: Alcohol, definitely, the alcohol definitely helped the pain, you know,
• 47:44
  Speaker 4: and helped me have fun because I was in so
• 47:47
  Speaker 4: much pain I couldn't have fun, right, So, yeah, I
• 47:51
  Speaker 4: got through that drink.
• 47:53
  Speaker 2: With the drink. Yeah, mine was more just like mine
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: was triggered by so many other things I wasn't going through,
• 47:59
  Speaker 2: was based on that.
• 48:00
  Speaker 4: My triggers of life and what I grew up with,
• 48:03
  Speaker 4: you know, and I got clean in two thousand and
• 48:05
  Speaker 4: five from drugs.
• 48:06
  Speaker 2: But wow, yeah, that's amazing.
• 48:08
  Speaker 1: It's a big deal about it.
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it sated is sixteen years that I quit.
• 48:11
  Speaker 2: Wow, good for you.
• 48:12
  Speaker 3: I did one hundred and twenty days and rehab.
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: Dam.
• 48:16
  Speaker 4: I did a seven day in the hospital, Detox, Full Hospital,
• 48:19
  Speaker 4: Broughtman Hospital, and then I did one hundred and twenty dys.
• 48:21
  Speaker 1: What were you cutting off of? Was it oxy?
• 48:23
  Speaker 3: I was No.
• 48:24
  Speaker 4: I was not doing pills at that time. It was
• 48:26
  Speaker 4: just coke for me.
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: I was.
• 48:27
  Speaker 4: I used to snort anything, any anything I could crush,
• 48:30
  Speaker 4: I would snort it.
• 48:31
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 48:31
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I was big on snorting ecstasy and coke.
• 48:34
  Speaker 1: Did you stay up for days and days?
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: No? No.
• 48:37
  Speaker 4: It got to the point where I was just normal
• 48:39
  Speaker 4: and if I needed to eat a meal, I'd smoke
• 48:41
  Speaker 4: a joint and eat and then I'd do.
• 48:42
  Speaker 3: A couple more lines. Yeah.
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: Like functioning.
• 48:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's a functional addict. My ex was a coke dealer,
• 48:48
  Speaker 4: so I would literally it was a bad situation. It
• 48:51
  Speaker 4: was a bad We all go through that.
• 48:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she talks about it all the time, drinking.
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: I do. I think it's important to talk about. And
• 48:57
  Speaker 2: you know, there's some things that I wrote in my
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: book where people like it made a very interesting and
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: funny headline. But the reason I talk about those things
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: is because, you know, people don't realize how bad things
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: are when cameras are down, when you're by yourself, no
• 49:13
  Speaker 2: one's around. So for me, if I could help people
• 49:16
  Speaker 2: who are who are battling the same thing and they're
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: watching our lives from the outside thinking that it looks clamorous,
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: it looks glamorous, let me tell you what it's really like,
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: right when everything when everyone goes to bed, right, So,
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: I'm very proud of you. That's amazing. I wasn't aware
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: that you did that.
• 49:31
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 49:32
  Speaker 4: I'm proud of you too, girl, Well, thank you. I
• 49:35
  Speaker 4: never read about it. The one time I think I
• 49:38
  Speaker 4: talked about it, I got shut down so fast because
• 49:40
  Speaker 4: everyone was like, how can you say you got over
• 49:43
  Speaker 4: using drugs if you drink alcohol. I was like, well,
• 49:46
  Speaker 4: a lot of very different addictions that I had, But
• 49:48
  Speaker 4: you know, I get it, I get it.
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: I totally get it.
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: But now if the drugs were, you know, the thing
• 49:54
  Speaker 1: that brought you down, then you stop using drugs. And
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: you know sometimes alcohol. I know that most added you know,
• 50:00
  Speaker 1: recovers say you got to stop everything, but you know
• 50:03
  Speaker 1: it was you.
• 50:03
  Speaker 4: Do the book Book, The Big Book definitely says that
• 50:06
  Speaker 4: to stop everything, you know, because you don't want to
• 50:09
  Speaker 4: pick up on other tendencies. But I started using at
• 50:11
  Speaker 4: the age of eleven woow.
• 50:13
  Speaker 2: And you were born and raised in Los Angeles.
• 50:16
  Speaker 4: Eleven years I smoked my I took my first boon
• 50:19
  Speaker 4: whip when I was eleven and a half year.
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: When did you for the first time? When did you
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: coke for the When did you start doing the snorting?
• 50:25
  Speaker 3: Snorting? Was like fourteen fifteen?
• 50:27
  Speaker 2: Well, I was like coming off.
• 50:28
  Speaker 4: I was snorting wide out when I was thirteen. I'd
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: be in school thinking it's cool to I would drive
• 50:33
  Speaker 4: the white out and I would like snort it up
• 50:35
  Speaker 4: in class and I would think it I was I
• 50:37
  Speaker 4: needed help. When I was asking, you were every where
• 50:40
  Speaker 4: I could and no one was hearing it.
• 50:42
  Speaker 1: What school did you go to here?
• 50:43
  Speaker 3: I got kicked out of.
• 50:44
  Speaker 4: Ten schools, so holy shit, Okay, every back in school
• 50:50
  Speaker 4: in LA except where the Persians went.
• 50:52
  Speaker 7: I never fucking went to the book where the versions
• 50:54
  Speaker 7: go Beverly, of course, I grew up in alas Verdi,
• 51:00
  Speaker 7: so I was like, I went to different schools everywhere.
• 51:03
  Speaker 2: But you know, I have to say, what an inspiration
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: to hear you know, you talk about how you started
• 51:09
  Speaker 2: smoking weed at eleven sporting at you know fifteen, kicked
• 51:12
  Speaker 2: out of ten schools, to being this, like obviously you're
• 51:16
  Speaker 2: very beautiful on the outside, but to like really just
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: embodying what a beautiful human is, going out and having
• 51:22
  Speaker 2: a baby on your own, just being a badass bitch. Like,
• 51:25
  Speaker 2: I'm so proud of you.
• 51:26
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 51:26
  Speaker 2: That really is amazing and an inspiration to a lot
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: of people. So thank you for opening up about that.
• 51:31
  Speaker 1: What are the other things that you work on the
• 51:32
  Speaker 1: outside of the show, Just I'm curious.
• 51:34
  Speaker 4: WUSA WUSA definitely my cannabis brand. I started with the
• 51:38
  Speaker 4: CBD brand for WUSA, but then like everybody's baby, mama's neighbors, cousins,
• 51:43
  Speaker 4: something has a CBD line.
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: You were in it early.
• 51:48
  Speaker 4: Mine is my own stuff, and it was because of that,
• 51:51
  Speaker 4: it's it was much more expensive, and when all this
• 51:53
  Speaker 4: became mass produced fake shit, they want to go for that.
• 51:56
  Speaker 4: They don't want to go for the real stuff that's expensive,
• 51:59
  Speaker 4: So right, doubt. I partnered up with some people and
• 52:01
  Speaker 4: now I'm going to launch the THHC.
• 52:03
  Speaker 3: Side of it.
• 52:03
  Speaker 4: That's yeah, it's it's where the market's at, it's where
• 52:06
  Speaker 4: I'm at. It helps me with my nausea, throwing up
• 52:08
  Speaker 4: all day, and inflammation and that's from RI. That's from
• 52:12
  Speaker 4: ARI and the chemo. I inject myself once a week
• 52:15
  Speaker 4: in the stomach with chemo with a low doses of chemo,
• 52:17
  Speaker 4: and then I sit in a chair for IV infusions
• 52:20
  Speaker 4: once a month and receive medications.
• 52:22
  Speaker 2: And what does that help with the jecty?
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: Autoimmune disease?
• 52:26
  Speaker 2: And what is.
• 52:28
  Speaker 3: What my issue is?
• 52:29
  Speaker 4: I have an overactive immune system where my my cells
• 52:33
  Speaker 4: are attacking my body. Okay, they're attacking this autoimmune attacks
• 52:37
  Speaker 4: all my joints for some reason. That's why it's called
• 52:40
  Speaker 4: rheumatoid arthritis. So right now, about forty four of my
• 52:43
  Speaker 4: joints are under attack. I've had surgery as all that stuff,
• 52:46
  Speaker 4: you know. So it's basically the medication comes in and
• 52:50
  Speaker 4: suppresses that.
• 52:51
  Speaker 3: So I'm on immune.
• 52:52
  Speaker 4: Modulators, which is what COVID sort of needs to not exist, right,
• 52:57
  Speaker 4: So I have a very low chance of getting COVID
• 53:00
  Speaker 4: because of my high medications. I have like a one
• 53:02
  Speaker 4: percent chance of getting COVID for that, but I can
• 53:05
  Speaker 4: also it's very risky for me to get vaccinated. Oh wow,
• 53:09
  Speaker 4: So right now we're starting the program for me to
• 53:11
  Speaker 4: get vaccinated because what's going to happen is the vaccine.
• 53:15
  Speaker 4: What it does is overstimulates YOURMN system. I have a
• 53:19
  Speaker 4: massively over stimulated immune system and all my medications are
• 53:22
  Speaker 4: suppressing it. So I have to come off my meds
• 53:25
  Speaker 4: for some time, get the vaccine, stay off the meds,
• 53:28
  Speaker 4: and that vaccine is now going to put me backwards
• 53:31
  Speaker 4: with all my So it's I've been dreading doing it.
• 53:35
  Speaker 4: But now that LA is passing this new mandate that
• 53:37
  Speaker 4: you have to be vaccinated for everything, that's it.
• 53:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah you so your your body is basically attacking itself.
• 53:45
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, my body is killing itself.
• 53:47
  Speaker 4: So I just have to prevent it from killing me
• 53:49
  Speaker 4: because if it hits my lungs or heart area, then
• 53:52
  Speaker 4: the inflammation can kill you.
• 53:53
  Speaker 1: I have a question, how do people that have this
• 53:56
  Speaker 1: do they live long lives? They just have to be
• 53:58
  Speaker 1: on medication.
• 53:59
  Speaker 4: For us help if you if you treat it, a
• 54:01
  Speaker 4: lot of the times people will twine up with lupus
• 54:05
  Speaker 4: and fiber milage my my five. I can never fucking
• 54:08
  Speaker 4: say this word fibro mileage, milage.
• 54:11
  Speaker 2: Fibro milegia miles right.
• 54:15
  Speaker 3: Say that.
• 54:15
  Speaker 2: I want a lot of TV.
• 54:17
  Speaker 6: They have like the ad a lot of Anatomy, a
• 54:21
  Speaker 6: lot of the ads where they're like, if you're suffering
• 54:24
  Speaker 6: from Yeah, you know, I watched the say It so
• 54:29
  Speaker 6: tell me this because you you said that for after
• 54:32
  Speaker 6: you got into it with Adam.
• 54:34
  Speaker 2: You also did spiritual things I did to get leveled up.
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: And there's this thing that I've been into recently about
• 54:43
  Speaker 2: trusting my body and I mean knowing like I I
• 54:48
  Speaker 2: believe in it. I feel like it's on my side,
• 54:51
  Speaker 2: and I kind of say these things every day just
• 54:53
  Speaker 2: for for my own spiritual aiety. Do you find that
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: it's hard to see yourself and go, how is this
• 55:02
  Speaker 2: body attacking itself? It was I'm saying that that was.
• 55:06
  Speaker 3: The alcohol and oxy use.
• 55:07
  Speaker 4: Oh that was me not understanding why I'm so young
• 55:12
  Speaker 4: and I can't do what my friends can do that
• 55:13
  Speaker 4: I can't climb a staircase without feeling like I'm going
• 55:16
  Speaker 4: to die without you know, opening a bottle of water
• 55:19
  Speaker 4: like Randall just opened his water, but I can't do it.
• 55:21
  Speaker 3: I would have to do it with my teeth for
• 55:23
  Speaker 3: a long time. So for me being twenty something years
• 55:26
  Speaker 3: old getting.
• 55:27
  Speaker 4: Diagnosed as something you can't possess it, you don't process
• 55:30
  Speaker 4: it well. So it took me a while to accept
• 55:33
  Speaker 4: that that this is it and this is the rest
• 55:35
  Speaker 4: of my life and everyone has a flaw and what
• 55:39
  Speaker 4: am I going to do with this? And when I
• 55:42
  Speaker 4: put it on the show and I started talking about it,
• 55:45
  Speaker 4: and the outpour of people, young people who were like,
• 55:48
  Speaker 4: oh my god, it's okay to talk about, you know,
• 55:51
  Speaker 4: being sick, because she's pretty, she's got our life together
• 55:54
  Speaker 4: and she's got this disease.
• 55:55
  Speaker 3: Maybe I can. So it's just, well, my god, it's
• 55:59
  Speaker 3: been the best. It's the best.
• 56:00
  Speaker 1: That's great. I'm glad that you talk about it because
• 56:02
  Speaker 1: people need to hear that. Not everybody like people look
• 56:05
  Speaker 1: really good in their box, but it's not true. And
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: everybody's got their thing, whether it's that or law with
• 56:11
  Speaker 1: drinking or everybody.
• 56:12
  Speaker 2: I think it's important. And as you we all have issues,
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: as you have gotten older, I'm sure you look at
• 56:18
  Speaker 2: it as like this is not going to control my life, right,
• 56:21
  Speaker 2: this is a small piece of what I deal with,
• 56:24
  Speaker 2: But I have so many other things right to live
• 56:27
  Speaker 2: for and go and do and be grateful for it.
• 56:30
  Speaker 2: Right do you find that you?
• 56:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 56:31
  Speaker 4: I mean I think what you were saying a second
• 56:33
  Speaker 4: ago about the haters of having help and stuff like that,
• 56:36
  Speaker 4: it makes me. It's very hard for me. For those
• 56:39
  Speaker 4: who have been following me for years and have been
• 56:41
  Speaker 4: watching me, They've seen me go through this health process,
• 56:45
  Speaker 4: they've seen me suffer. And those are the same people
• 56:47
  Speaker 4: that are criticizing me for having help. You know, they
• 56:50
  Speaker 4: don't understand. I can barely open a bottle of water
• 56:53
  Speaker 4: without using my teeth. How do they think I'm going
• 56:55
  Speaker 4: to hold a thirty five pound right, boy that's.
• 56:57
  Speaker 3: Trying to run everywhere? I can't. I phizz can't. Right?
• 57:01
  Speaker 3: You know?
• 57:01
  Speaker 4: Was I selfish to have a child knowing I have
• 57:04
  Speaker 4: a disease?
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: Maybe maybe you know.
• 57:07
  Speaker 4: I don't know, you know, but I got set back
• 57:09
  Speaker 4: because my doctor said with that fluke of a pregnancy
• 57:13
  Speaker 4: laws they think everything because I got I was in
• 57:16
  Speaker 4: remission when I decided to go for pregnancy.
• 57:18
  Speaker 2: Oh wow, I was.
• 57:20
  Speaker 3: I was like, I got the clearance. I was good.
• 57:22
  Speaker 4: But with that loss, they think some shock happened to
• 57:25
  Speaker 4: my body that my I came back ten times worse.
• 57:28
  Speaker 4: So I began sitting in the ivy chair while I
• 57:31
  Speaker 4: was pregnant. It was six months pregnant. I had to
• 57:32
  Speaker 4: sit there like imagine my belly's out to hear and
• 57:34
  Speaker 4: him sitting there.
• 57:36
  Speaker 3: So that's what they said, we got to de baby.
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: Out's got to be super special because the fact that
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: you fought the fight that you fight, you know what
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: I mean, it's going to be an amazing dance. It's
• 57:45
  Speaker 1: just so really I mean that, I mean, that's.
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: Such a strange thing to your body. It's basically attacking itself.
• 57:52
  Speaker 2: But then your body is sitting here creating what You
• 57:55
  Speaker 2: can give me all the science in the world about
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: how a baby's created. No, it is a fucking miracle.
• 58:00
  Speaker 2: It is what it is.
• 58:01
  Speaker 3: It is.
• 58:01
  Speaker 2: You can give me all your facts that you want.
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: So that's a miracle. And so you know, it's like
• 58:06
  Speaker 2: you think about what you go through on the day
• 58:09
  Speaker 2: to day with Ra, but then you create this like beautiful,
• 58:12
  Speaker 2: healthy baby. You know, I don't know, see I don't
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: get stone, but I still have stoner thoughts.
• 58:17
  Speaker 3: No, it's not a stoner thought it's a logical Like.
• 58:20
  Speaker 1: Really, what I think is amazing is first of all,
• 58:24
  Speaker 1: having a baby as a feat in itself, but then
• 58:26
  Speaker 1: doing it under the circumstances that you deal with is
• 58:28
  Speaker 1: like is real.
• 58:29
  Speaker 2: That's a what was What was that like being pregnant? Like,
• 58:32
  Speaker 2: were you worried about his health going through having to
• 58:35
  Speaker 2: like still do your ivs and your injections.
• 58:38
  Speaker 3: I was.
• 58:39
  Speaker 4: I wasn't worried about his health too much until the
• 58:42
  Speaker 4: high risk doctor was like, we got to plan the
• 58:44
  Speaker 4: induction kind of concept because the inflammation is rising in
• 58:48
  Speaker 4: your body. But if you ask anyone who was around
• 58:52
  Speaker 4: me on a day to day basis while I was pregnant,
• 58:54
  Speaker 4: they would tell you I had the easiest pregnancy in
• 58:56
  Speaker 4: the world. Right, no one would have known anything was
• 58:59
  Speaker 4: going on with me. I smiled through it because did
• 59:01
  Speaker 4: you feel grateful? Did you feel no nausea?
• 59:04
  Speaker 2: No?
• 59:04
  Speaker 3: Nothing?
• 59:05
  Speaker 2: I was?
• 59:05
  Speaker 3: I was? It was it was a blessing.
• 59:07
  Speaker 1: But having this issue like so you literally can't go
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: out and play sports. You can't like.
• 59:12
  Speaker 4: Like I can, but I I I'm going to suffer
• 59:15
  Speaker 4: from it for like a week or two with I'm
• 59:17
  Speaker 4: going to get swollen up and you know, my things
• 59:20
  Speaker 4: will happen. I'll flare up and I'll get out of breath.
• 59:23
  Speaker 4: But right now, my doctor said, you know, you're starting
• 59:26
  Speaker 4: to get better. So he wants me to get into
• 59:28
  Speaker 4: some sort of active work. He's like, now that you can,
• 59:31
  Speaker 4: because it's time. So I'm thinking, you know, pilates or
• 59:33
  Speaker 4: swimming something that's light my joints.
• 59:35
  Speaker 2: Swimming square So yeah, wow, she will not be playing
• 59:39
  Speaker 2: pickleball with you.
• 59:40
  Speaker 3: Randa is pickleball.
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: It's Randall's obsession.
• 59:44
  Speaker 3: Okay, you have to teach me.
• 59:48
  Speaker 2: Any time you can play with me.
• 59:49
  Speaker 3: I'm not I'm not okay.
• 59:51
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he goes hard and paint.
• 59:53
  Speaker 1: I don't even know the tennis. It's like you play
• 59:56
  Speaker 1: with a whiffootball. It's like a hard racket. It's a
• 59:58
  Speaker 1: smaller that sounds but yeah, but it's it's easy. I
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 1: mean it's easy.
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 3: It is easy.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 2: That's what's great about it. It's like you don't have
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: to be like super athletic. Just thinking about He walks
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: in the house and he like wants to love on me,
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 2: and I'm like, you, you gotta get.
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 3: Away, sweaty, I don't be from the pickle.
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 2: Give away from me.
• 1:00:31
  Speaker 3: Your pickle juice, get your pickle gros.
• 1:00:36
  Speaker 2: This was like, probably one of my most favorite podcasts.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 2: You're so easy to talk to. I'm so grateful that
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 2: you were on Give Them Lalla with Randall.
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 3: Thank you.
• 1:00:45
  Speaker 2: Let's have a play date with our kids?
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 3: Yes please? And I'm bringing the nanny Yeah.
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: Obviously, bitch you know any other way. I love it.
• 1:00:57
  Speaker 2: Thank you guys so much for listening to another episode
• 1:00:59
  Speaker 2: of Give Them with Randall. We will catch you next week.