Why Codependents Keep Choosing Narcissists — and the 11 Stages That End It

The Self-Love Recovery Podcast · Oct 29, 2026 · 24m

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Ross Rosenberg reintroduces a 2021 video on his 11-stage Self-Love Recovery Program, the treatment counterpart to his book Human Magnet Syndrome, which explains why codependents — those with self-love deficit disorder — are pulled magnetically toward narcissists.

Unlike ordinary therapy, the program has rules, demands commitment, runs eight months to a year and a half, and follows an Eriksonian sequence where each stage must be mastered before the next. Early stages move from hitting bottom and finding hope, through…