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#007 - The SECRET to Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energies! 😊🌸 · Beyond Sovereignty

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Men need to hold me first, men need to hold me first so that I can feel safe, so that
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Well, feminine goddess, it needs to be the divine coming together.
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Synthetic and toxic masculine is that manipulative, is
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that predator energy that is unnecessarily violent.
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Toxic femininity. Neither is worse, but for myself personally,
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it's what makes me throw up in my mouth a little bit. Welcome wisdom
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keepers, soul tribe and new earth leaders to Soul Temple,
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your haven for self-discovery and growth. I'm
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Blythe Langford and I am your guide to finding yourself and
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your true, true, true, true, true purpose. Together, let's
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shift from feeling stuck and misaligned to living a
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life of purpose and prosperity. Divine,
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Masculine and Feminine. Now I am so excited to bring you this episode.
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In this episode we are going to talk about what Divine, Masculine and
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Feminine looks like today, what it looks like within your body, what it looks like
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within a career, a relationship, within society. But
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first of all, I'm going to start off with our cultural programming because a
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few years ago, it was probably about seven years ago, I was running down the beach and
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I just had this full on download and it was very
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intense and I'm going to share it with you. And I know this is a lot to take
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in, but this is what came through for me. So take it or leave
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it. And we're going to get into more masculine and feminine. It's actually going to be more suitable
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for you after this, but I have to share this. I
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realised that, well, what Spirit implanted
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into my brain was that during the war,
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men were taken away from their families so that women could enter
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the workforce. It was the start of the breakdown of the
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family unit and it was the breakdown of having alpha
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male, strong masculine figures for our boys so
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that our boys could be easily manipulated and the whole of
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society could be changed. So whilst the men are
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away at war, the women go into the workforce, not as much
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nurturing for the family and for these children, and
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the system can start to come in and look after the children and help
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out the families by programming
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these little kids, right? Then over
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time, there was the feminist movement. Now, my mother was a part of this feminist
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movement, so I know this very clearly. The feminist movement is
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a toxic feminine agenda. This
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agenda was created to disempower and emancipate our
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men and our boys. so that our boys could think
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that they are inferior to women and that they
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owed women something. And that women could
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finally think that, okay, I've been serving my man around the
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house, I've been this amazing caretaker, and it's my turn
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to go out and fend for my family and look
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after my children in a different way and make the money and do
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all of these things. And I also want to preface that I am not against any
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which way. I was brought up by a feminist, so I'm just explaining to
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you a channel that came through for me. So
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this feminist movement was all about burning the bras about women's liberation. But
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was it? How are we liberating our women? Liberating
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toxic femininity, or synthetic femininity, or
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divine femininity. Because what
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a lot of these women were actually doing was just hating
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on men. They were literally not liberating
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women at all in their femininity. Sure,
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they were getting women into the workforce. Sure, they were getting women into
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a world that was mostly designed for men. Sure, that they were creating
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equal rights in so many areas. And I'm so here for
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that. I am so here for equality. But
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also I'm here for the men. I'm here for those little boys
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that were put down and shut down and were being birthed
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into a womb where the mother hated men.
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So what do you think happened to a lot of these little boys? They
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grew up very feminine. They grew up gay. They
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grew up doing anything to gain
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their mother's love. Because can you imagine being a little boy knowing that
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your mother, your mother hates men?
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What would that do to you? Who would you need to become? You'd become
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feminine. Because you thought that if you were anything else,
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if you thought that if you were a masculine man, your mother would
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hate you. And so your primal nature would
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make sure that you were not that. Your primitive nature would
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make sure that you were going to survive in this world and have you be more
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feminine so that you could gain the love of your mother. Because
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without your mother, you are nothing. You are not going to survive. You would die. So
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I think the system did a really great job, don't you? Did a really great job controlling
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and narrating our women to be toxic feminists
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so that our little boys could be emancipated in
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their masculinity. And so this really saddens me. And
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there's also a book coming on this. Believe me, I'm going to write a book on it because I've had
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quite a few downloads about this. And this is where I
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personally believe that we as women whilst
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we're all about women's liberation and being successful
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in a career and our relationships, it's also about
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us as women coming back to our divine femininity, but
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also supporting the men that have been emancipated, the
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men that have been let down by women. Like, when
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I got this download, I was like, oh my gosh, I love men
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so much. Like, it just makes me want to cry thinking
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about all the beautiful men. And I'm talking generations of
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men that have been raised by women that hate men. And
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we're talking about women's liberation. We also need to be talking about
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supporting our men so that they can come back into their divinity. So
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I hear you when you say, yeah, but men have
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done all of this. Men have raped and pillaged and
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they've done all of these terrible things because they
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had mothers that hated them. on
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some level their body knows that their mother
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hated men and they could never be their true
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authentic self. So, women, it
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is our job to provide a safe space for
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men in all areas so that they and
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their bodies can start to feel safe enough to
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come into their true masculinity. because
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I see so many women and I have been that woman
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in careers and in relationships that has been
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in my masculine thinking that I'm a strong woman and
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I'm emancipating my man and I'm emancipating the
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men around me. So how
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can we show up in a different way in our
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strength and in our divine femininity so
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that we create this beautiful safe container, whether
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it be in a workplace or in a relationship where our men
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can thrive And when our men are thriving, then they feel safe
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enough to hold us. And then
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we come into our divine femininity. I know that
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there's so many women out there that it's like, no, that's not how it needs to
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Men need to hold me first. Men need to hold me first so that I can feel safe,
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so that I can just be a complete, utter beautiful
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Well, feminine goddess, it needs to be the
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divine coming together so that your man knows
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that he's not dealing with another toxic woman. They're not
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bringing anything to the relationship. It needs to be a divine union
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of both the masculine and the feminine. Now,
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I should also preface Divine Masculine, Divine Feminine,
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Toxic Feminine, Toxic Masculine because these are different
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areas. I totally get it. So let's go into that a bit as well.
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So when I'm saying Divine Feminine and
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Divine Masculine, what am I actually talking about?
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So if we can in their nature, their pure
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nature, think about a masculine man that
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is in his divinity. For me, it
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sounds like a knight, somebody that's grounded in
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his energy. Yet he is really assertive and
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is going to speak his truth, but not in a way that's so penetrative
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that it's harmful. In a way that's respectful, in
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a way that has integrity and honor. That
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to me is a divine masculine. Somebody that's able
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to be able to hold their feminine. Somebody that's able
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to be able to listen to a woman without being reactive, without
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being aggressive, but actually holding space
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and having the strength to not be able
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to be reactive, but just being able to listen and
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then in time have an answer. in their own
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space, in their own time. Divine Feminine is somebody
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that is also grounded in their energy, yet
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channeling and being playful and
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mysterious and sensual and creative and
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bringing in the flow of nature and elements
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and pure birthing creativity, right?
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So femininity is that strong
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creative flow that flows through us that's playful, respectful,
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nurturing, motherly, caring. That
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is the feminine aspect of thyself. The
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divine masculine, the divine feminine, when they are co-creating,
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whether it be two different people or whether it be the
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one person, that is what it means to be an embodied leader
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or an embodied man or woman. When both
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elements are co-creating the wholeness of
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that being. Now let's go into toxic
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masculine and toxic femininity because they
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are constructs that have been infiltrated and we
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have them within us no matter what if we're in this world
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at some moment in time if we've been on social media, if we've been
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watching TV when we've grown up, we've got toxic masculinity and
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femininity within us. I know I do and I know that
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the more I work on myself, the less the toxicity is there
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and the more I'm able to catch it and honour it and respect it
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and know that it's just a younger part of myself that is actually just
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needing some attention or needing some care or it's where I've actually come
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out of alignment and get to come back into my organic
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state of being which is defined masculine and feminine. But
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the synthetic or the toxic, same thing, synthetic
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and toxic, masculine, is that violent, is
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that manipulative, is that overbearing,
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is that scary, predator
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energy, that leaky predator sexual leaky
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energy that is using,
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that is putting down, that is
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overbearing and unnecessarily violent. That
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is that toxic masculinity, toxic
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femininity. Neither is worse. But for myself personally,
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it's what makes me throw up in my mouth a little bit. Because I was raised by
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a toxic feminine woman, who I absolutely love and adore. Let's get
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that straight. I love and adore my mother. But
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also, the toxic femininity is
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using their sexual entity to get what they want. It's that real whore
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trading. And when I say whore, yes, I'm talking about prostitution trading.
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It's give to take. Like, I'll get something from you
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by giving you this. It's how can I
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manipulate and use my sexual energy for the benefit of
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myself, evil, whatever you want to call it. It
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is that putting down and needing to
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be better than and pointing the finger of blame and using
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guilt and shaming other
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people, you know, that real guilt and shame energy, which is
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just so ingrained into all of us, unfortunately, at
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some level. And so that is the toxic
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feminine and the toxic masculine using our
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energy when we think that we're gaining something but it's never really a gain when
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we get it that way. That's the difference between the toxic femininity, the
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toxic masculine and the divine feminine and the divine masculine.
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So just to create a little bit of point of difference there. When we
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are living from a toxic state, even if we're a woman. We could be
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living from toxic masculine wounding and that can be somebody that's come
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up super high in their career, that's willing to screw people over to
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get to the top, that's willing to use their energy for
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their own benefit and for the benefit of superficial things
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and where we are literally causing harm and detriment
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to the earth or to other beings. I know because I've been that.
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I have been willing to, in my youth, willing
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to do whatever it is needed to get the guy that I want,
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to be able to manipulate. I remember one time I
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had the biggest crush on this guy all through high school. I
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was overweight in high school for a few years and he
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wasn't interested in me. And then I left high school, got super hot, and
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he wanted to be with me. And then when we were together, Literally,
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we had sex one night. I was in my masculine energy and he literally,
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the sex wasn't that great. And I totally
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put him down in that moment and made him feel like I shamed him and
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just yuck. Like I did that, like that was me. And
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so I can, I know what it's like to be toxic
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and feminine and we've all got these aspects within us. So
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it's about how can we continue to put good things in
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and just be aware of ourselves so that we no longer shame
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anybody. I will never shame a man like that again. It gives me
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goosebumps, like thinking the things that I've done in my past. And
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we're all like that. And I've seen what it's done to my father.
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He had five mums. He had a wife that was like toxic
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and feminine that all put him down. And after he
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died, like I ran to the end of the street to my precious sacred waterfall and
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there's a book that's going to come through and it's like honouring the men, like how
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can I honour men so that we can, the
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only way there's going to be a big shift on this planet is that we honour each
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other and women you're like yeah I want the men to honour me. Well, maybe
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we need to go first. It's okay. Maybe we need to go
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at the same time. Whilst we're birthing what it is that we're going to be, how
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we're going to be healing the masculine, maybe they're doing
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the same and they're doing their work so that they can heal the feminine too.
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Because what is within is without. What is without is within.
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Let's co-create this beautiful, divine relationship
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and earth together. So I take that as an invitation
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to you whilst you're healing your masculine
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wounds and healing what the masculine has potentially done to you. Like, Yes,
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do that. Heal those wounds. And then on the other side of that is
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probably a place where I may be at. And I'm not saying either is better
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or worse or there's a hierarchy or anything like that. I'm just saying that on
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the other side of your trauma, of what has
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been done to you by penetrative man,
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by a man that uses and abuses women, is
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pure love. Not for them necessarily, maybe,
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hopefully. But there is pure love for the divinity of
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a man because gosh, I love men.
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I love women too. I love, I just love love. But
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gosh, men, like think about this woman.
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I was doing a program by a woman who I absolutely love and adore. Her name's
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actually Tara Fisher and I love this woman. I think she's amazing. But
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she did this masculine and feminine workshop. It was tantric
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and super beautiful. And I did all of
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the tantric learnings from her because it's actually about divinity and
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what she actually taught us was that men, when
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you think about it, women, like we never think about this, our genitalia is
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within our body, it's safe and protected at all times. Men
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are open and exposed at every moment in time. Their
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genitals are literally hanging out of their body. Our genitals have
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their own consciousness, right? So we never actually think
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about from a men's point of view. They're actually
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out there into the world vulnerable. Men are so vulnerable
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compared to women in this world. And we don't actually take
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the time as women to actually think about men and what they've
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gone through and what they suffer like. We laugh when they get kicked in the balls and they're in
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pain. Like, can you imagine that? We
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don't even take time to think about these things. I think just having a level
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of consideration and respect for men and their journey
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on this earth and considering that they've got mothers that
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have hated men and they've grown up in that, that in
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itself breaks my heart. And I know how much
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that has impacted my brothers and my brothers, spiritual
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brothers and physical brother. And, you know, my
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past being around an industry that was all
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about synthetic masculine and femininity and how
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it has impacted so many men in that industry and so many
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men across the world is just huge. But I also want
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to touch on how this affects men and women in relationships because
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I often see women in relationships that are
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in their toxic femininity, right?
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They think that they're the strong feminine but they're actually constantly shaming
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their men and shaming their boys for things that they're doing. So
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it's just about being aware of when this is happening for
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you and how you can choose something
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different. I have a lot of clients that feel like their man isn't
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able to hold them well enough and they're constantly shaming
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their man. And when they actually hold space
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for their man in their divine femininity, they
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get to see their man just blossom and bloom into
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this divine alpha. And
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when I say alpha, I mean divine masculine. They bloom into
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this divine masculine that's able to hold them, support them,
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love them, make love to them in a completely different way
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and space that is just changes
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them above all. It's amazing. So once
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you can hold that space for your man, obviously
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there may need to be some trauma healing that comes first, but once
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you do that, then your whole world changes. Your relationship changes.
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Your man becomes a man because he knows that you no longer need
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to be the man in the relationship, that you are allowing yourself
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to drop into your femininity and be held and loved and
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nurtured. that you don't need to be the one that does everything.
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Because then what's the man's role? What's his role even
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in the business, in the relationship? What are you leaving him to do?
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To just pick up the pieces? To hold your handbag at
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the end of the day? That's not actually what you want. You
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want somebody to hold you and ravish you. Please use this as an invitation
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to allow there to be something else for you in your relationship.
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and in your business and in your life as well. Now I know
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a lot of this might be new concepts for you. I know that for me it
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really was and a lot of the spaces and containers and
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personal development and retreats and learnings and teachings because
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I've done, you know, I've spent a million dollars on personal development over the
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last 20 years. One million dollars. So,
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I think probably over now, the whole point of
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everything, of all of this, is to create a space
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where you can learn about yourself, heal yourself, heal
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what's going on in your relationships, in your career, in your business, in
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your life, within your body. And the reason that I'd
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spent so much time and money, 20 years and
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over a million dollars was so that I could, because I wasn't finding
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places where all of this was being worked on. I was so passionate about,
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and I still am so passionate about all of us having these beautiful
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safe spaces to find out who we are and how we can evolve
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and grow and nurture ourselves and find
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out about our masculine and our feminine and play with our toxic masculine and
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our toxic feminine as well and figure out what their needs are and
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what that actually is within our bodies. Because for
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me, a huge part of what I do and
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what I teach and what is on my programs and retreats is figuring
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out who you are. And then figuring out, is that from trauma?
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Is that from learnings? Is that
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from teachings? Where did this come from? Why
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is it there? And when you are triggered by something, that's something that is
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triggering within you because it's unresolved, it's
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unaligned, it's needing some attention. So
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where can you find the space to get this safe
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container to be able to go into you and find out
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all about yourself, the little nooks and crannies, the consciousness
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of each part of your body. That's why I created this space. That's why
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my dad brought me to this land, so that we could create a healing space,
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a healing container, both online and in our retreats, that
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was like nothing else out there. Because there is so
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many gaps in a lot of the retreats that are offered, in a lot of the programs that
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are offered. You can concentrate on your business, yet you're incongruent
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with your masculinity and femininity within. Yet you're incongruent
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in your relationship with your divine partner. Yet
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you're trying to have a relationship within your business with the men there. We're
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in relationship everywhere. Relationship is everything. How
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we relate to ourselves, how we relate to others, our business. our
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partners, our dogs, our cats, our kids, nature, the
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trees, everything is a divine masculine and feminine relationship.
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So it is so important to be able to
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learn how to relate authentically with
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everything, with nature. And for me, there is
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no separation between nature, between the masculine and between the
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feminine. Nature is the perfect embodiment of all of
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that. And so with my programs and my
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retreats, learning to connect your body, your vessel,
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first and foremost, to what is going on within you and
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with nature, creating that symbiotic relationship is
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vital. for everything else that's going to come into your life.
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So whether it be a business, whether it be a relationship, whether it be a
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child, a puppy, a house, it's so vitally important
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that you are able to have this co-creation with everything
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that is going on in your world. That's why For me, this
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retreat centre, for the programs that I offer, they are so
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different to everything else that I do. I call it the divinity method. The
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divinity is this space. It is the flow of nature. It
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is the flow that you're cultivating in the world. It is the flow that you're
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wanting to step into because it is who you were born
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here to be. So in closing, I would love you to
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use this as an opportunity to be responsible for
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your energy. to be responsible for and
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aware of where you're at in any moment in time. Because
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what we are feeling on the inside creates ripples
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in the vibration, in the frequency, in the resonance that we are
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putting out there to the world. So we all have a
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divine resonance within us that is expressing itself
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to the field. So when you notice yourself slipping
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into shaming yourself or anybody else or guilting yourself or
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anybody else, just tune into your heart again. Just tune into
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your heart. Come back into your divinity. Come back into your
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divine masculine, your divine feminine, which is the collaboration of
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both of those things. and then start to cultivate that
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energy within you and just work with your energies. Even
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just becoming aware of toxicity and divinity will
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allow you to be able to make such dramatic shifts within
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yourself, within your body, within your life that are going
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to positively affect the planet. So remember, you
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have the ability to change your energy and create a
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positive ripple out there into the world. Thank
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