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Harnessing the Hornbeam - Hypnosis to Break the Spell of Hesitancy · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing
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  genuine. Issues.
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  Brought to you by The Hypnotherapist, Demanded by
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  celebrities, CEOs and even royalty, Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam Smith in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. So get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here now. Everyone every now and then
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  accesses a state of procrastination.
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  And the interesting thing is that sometimes the more
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  important The thing is that needs to be done, the more
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  overthinking takes place before it.
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  And this can be very frustrating.
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  I remember for years I considered a podcast before I
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  actually launched the podcast. And even being a hypnotherapist,
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  I delayed that for years and years before I actually did
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  that. And the important things
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  sometimes get delayed. And that's really what this
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  session is all about. I want you to think of an area
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  in your life that you know you've been putting it off for a
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  while. And the reason for that is we're
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  going to work particularly on that area now.
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  I was working with a client that was very familiar with certain
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  botanicals, certain essences of kind of flowers and trees and
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  things like that. And she introduced to me a
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  particular state called the horn beam state.
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  And it was based on a European doctor's work, Aqua Doctor back.
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  And I looked into it and this state called the hornbeam state
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  is that kind of Monday morning state or that state while you
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  know, you've got to do the thing, but you kind of put it
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  off. It's not quite procrastination.
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  It's more procrastination is the consequence of this feeling.
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  And the feeling is not, not quite now I'm not ready yet.
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  That's the horn beam state. Now the horn beam state has got
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  a function. Typically when people are in
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  this state, they do a lot of analysis and research and
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  preparation. They do everything but the
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  thing. They learn more about it.
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  They think about all the risks and the consequences.
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  They just don't pull the trigger.
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  They don't actually execute their plan.
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  So this session is all about harnessing that state to go
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  beyond it. Because actually, the state
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  itself is useful, so long as it's a launchpad into doing the
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  actual thing. If you remain stuck in that,
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  that could be a tragedy, because you never actually quite get to
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  do that thing and you're left wondering.
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  It's also quite a heavy state after a while.
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  Because. All of these what ifs, all of
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  this analysis paralysis keeps you stuck, so breaking from that
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  is quite powerful. So it uses a forest metaphor,
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  this idea of the horn beam tree and, and the horn beam is a
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  tree, a very Hardy tree. And it takes the essence of what
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  would it be to break that. And it ends with two different
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  timelines, the timeline where you never break the state and
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  forever you just never actually do that thing.
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  And it could be a dream, it could be an ambition, it could
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  be a risk, but you never do it. And then the second pathway that
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  leads from the clearing and the floor in the forest is to
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  actually do the thing. And doing The thing is, is
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  challenging, but it's challenging, particularly if you
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  never start the thing or if you get easily dissuade.
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  You start and then you stop. You start and you stop actually
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  doing and sticking to the thing turns inertia to momentum.
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  And it's the momentum that actually is very liberating
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  experience because when you do the thing, you get wiser, you
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  get experiences, you get the feedback loop, you get the
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  dopamine that comes from making progress.
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  There's a lot that comes from the other side of doing that
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  thing. So I would encourage you to
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  think of what is that thing that you know you want?
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  You know that you've got probably more knowledge than
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  most people. You've just been hesitating.
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  You're stuck in the bit before take off.
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  What is that? And then listen to the session.
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  You'll get more from it now. It was a business that the
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  client I was working with was hesitating from.
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  Some of the suggestions would have been perfect for them and
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  not quite right for you, but I've actually created a webinar
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  of what working with me is like. So if you like the idea of
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  working with me to have something bespoke, check the
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  description of this episode. You'll see a way to register for
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  the webinar and then you'll learn a lot more about what
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  actually working with me one to 1 is like.
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  And actually there's some bonus things.
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  You get 10 hypnosis sessions at the end of that webinar
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  recording as well just by staying to the end, so if that's
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  of interest, check that out. It explains it all on the
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  registration page. For now though, you might get
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  some real value from this session.
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  So find a quiet, comfortable place where you won't be
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  distracted or disturbed. Relax and enjoy the session.
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  Take a deep breath in, and as you breathe in, breathe in that
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  resourceful feeling of calm and relaxation.
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  And as you exhale, feel that wonderful feeling of release, as
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  if any tension, any stress, any worries, it's melting away and
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  leaving your body in your outward breath.
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  That's it. Breathing and relaxation,
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  exhaling tension. And the deeper you breathe, the
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  more relaxed you feel. And the more relaxed you feel,
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  the deeper you naturally breathe.
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  And just slowing down the breath activates that dreamlike state
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  within the imagination. And you've been in that place
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  many times when you've been reading a book and suddenly you
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  drift off into that world within your imagination, experiencing
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  it as if it's real, but knowing your physical body is where it
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  is, and it's your imagination that's going on that journey.
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  And I want you to imagine a bookshelf, maybe your bookshelf
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  or maybe someone else's, but just imagine seeing a book about
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  nature and just imagine flicking through the pages until you
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  discover a picture of a forest. Not just any forest, the kind of
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  forest that it's easy to imagine walking within that forest.
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  And maybe you could imagine a forest on a sunny day under blue
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  skies. Maybe it's just after sunrise,
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  or just before sunset, but I want you to allow yourself to
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  imagine walking into that forest, and I want you to
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  imagine how the light comes through the canopy in a
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  particular way, filtering through leaves, touching the
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  ground in patches of warmth. The world around you were awake
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  and yet unhurried, and I wonder if you can notice the ground
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  beneath your feet, the feeling of solid ground on the forest
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  floor, the way the path is clear ahead of you, even if you can
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  only see a little bit of it at a time.
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  And sometimes in nature, you can feel a connection, feel
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  connected to the forest, knowing that the path doesn't need to be
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  fully visible to be fully real. And as you walk, your breathing
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  deepens naturally, your body finding its rhythm, and
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  something begins to settle. It was perhaps a little tight
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  before you arrived in this place, in this forest.
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  The particular quality of a mind that has been given permission
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  to simply be present rather than busy.
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  Each step into the forest takes you deeper into your imagination
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  until you arrive at a clearing and I wonder if you could
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  imagine. Right in the centre of that
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  clearing stands a magnificent horn beam tree.
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  Just stand before it for a moment and simply look and
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  appreciate. The horn beam is not the tallest
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  tree in the forest, and it's not the most dramatic, but there's
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  something about its quality, its presence, that draws your
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  attention and holds it. Something settled and purposeful
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  and strong. Maybe you could imagine placing
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  a hand on its bark, feeling the texture of something that has
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  been growing patiently for a long time.
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  Something that has put its energy not into performance but
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  into substance. Not into appearing strong, but
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  into becoming strong, quietly, year by year, ring by ring.
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  And this tree knows nothing about the weight of not yet
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  started. It has no concept of that
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  feeling like on a Monday morning, that hesitancy, that
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  reluctance. It simply grows, puts out
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  another leaf, another branch, another ring of itself into the
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  world. Not because it has resolved to
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  do so, or suddenly found the motivation, or waited for the
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  right conditions, but because growing is simply what it does
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  when it's alive and you're unconscious can notice something
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  perhaps profound, insightful, important, or maybe just useful
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  as you stand beside that tree. But the heaviness that sometimes
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  gathers around the thought of beginning, the particular
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  weariness that can arrive before a task is touched and disappear
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  so reliably the moment a task is started, that that heaviness has
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  nothing to do with your capability.
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  It's just the essence of inertia, the gap between
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  stillness and motion, and the tree has never been confused
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  about which side of the gap it wants to live on.
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  And I wonder if you can allow your imagination to travel with
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  the tree through all winter and into the moment of spring.
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  The horn beam has been holding everything through the cold
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  months. All that potential, all that
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  capability completely still. Not because anything is wrong,
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  but simply because the season has not yet called for it.
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  And then, as if by magic, something shifts.
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  The light changes by a fraction, the temperature changes by a
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  degree, and something in the tree responds to that smallest
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  of signals. Not with careful deliberation,
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  not with planning or analysis or a full assessment of whether the
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  conditions are optimal, but with a single committed unfurling one
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  leaf. Not a whole canopy, just one
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  leaf pushing through into the air it hasn't touched before.
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  And the remarkable thing is what that single leaf makes possible.
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  Because once one leaf is open, the tree knows something it did
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  not know the moment before. It knows that it can do this,
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  and the second leaf comes more easily, and the third more
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  easily still, and before long the whole magnificent canopy is
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  green and alive, doing the work it was biologically engineered
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  to do. The first leaf is never the
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  hardest one for the tree. It's simply the first one, the
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  one that opens the door for everything that follows.
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  And the horn beam does not wait until it is certain the season
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  will cooperate. It offers its first leaf,
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  creating that natural chain reaction in harmony with the
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  seasons. And what if all of this thinking
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  and planning and preparation was your winter?
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  Not wasted time, but preparing time.
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  The time before the action is time well spent, Like sharpening
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  the saw before attempting to use the saw.
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  But all of that preparation only makes a difference and matters
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  if action is finally taken. And I want you to search within
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  to find that part, the part that now wants to do, to decide
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  without needing to know everything.
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  The willingness to start and learn as you go and just bring
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  that part forward. And that part has experienced
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  time and time again the feeling you get when you start something
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  and then return to it. And each time it gets easier and
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  easier. It's almost like your body, your
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  hands, your mind knows what to do.
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  And isn't it fascinating how more often than not, doing it is
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  actually easier than not doing it?
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  That strange relief of discovering that the thing was
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  never as heavy as the thought of the thing and the energy that
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  arrives not before the work, but inside it.
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  I want you to get a sense. Then, rather than resisting the
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  horn beam, what if we harness the horn beam?
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  What if on the other side of that dread, hesitation or
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  preparation is that relief, that momentum?
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  Maybe that's what the horn beam positive state feels like.
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  Not the forced brightness of trying to feel motivated, and
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  not the grim determination of willpower, but the natural,
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  easy, almost effortless quality of a person who has crossed the
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  threshold and just found the work waiting there manageable
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  and real. Exactly as capable.
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  And I wonder if you can call the bluff of all of those doubts.
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  Because when you do the thing, you realize most of those doubts
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  and what ifs were not real anyway.
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  Your unconscious can install this now, something that lives
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  in the body rather than only in the mind.
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  That knowledge below thought that the other side of beginning
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  is always better than the thought of beginning, that the
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  first action unlocks a state your whole system moves into
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  naturally once the threshold is crossed.
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  Maybe you can recall a memory of a hesitant child on the edge of
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  a cold swimming pool. Perhaps the ocean.
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  They think how cold it will be, so they hesitate.
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  And the more they hesitate, the more they delay.
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  And yet they see friends splashing around in the water.
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  Those first few seconds may be uncomfortable, maybe even a
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  shock, but when you're through the other side, doesn't it feel
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  like fun? And what if there's something
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  else the forest has to offer? This clearing is not only a
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  place to stand and observe, What if it's a place to work?
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  And I want you to imagine you've come to the clearing with
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  something to build, a vision that has been patient in the
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  planning, ideas that are ready to become real, a contribution
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  that is waiting for the hands that can make it.
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  This forest, this horn beam, this clearing, is simply telling
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  you what you already know at the deepest level.
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  The people who need what you are building cannot find it in the
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  drawing. They can't find it in the
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  concept. They can only find it in the
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  built thing. And the built thing begins with
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  a single action, offered with the same quiet commitment with
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  which a tree offers its first spring leaf.
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  Not perfectly, but with guarantees, just genuinely and
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  now. And what you discover as you
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  begin is that the capability was never in doubt.
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  It was always there, patient in the winter and ready in the
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  spring, waiting not for conditions to be perfect, but
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  waiting for you to decide that now is when the building starts.
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  but in your environment. A decision, an action, time
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  connected to doing the thing. Knowing that in the same way
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  that you can follow a trail in the forest and not know the full
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  trail, you can take the first action, trusting that you will
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  be able to learn all those things you don't fully
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  understand yet. You learn by doing, failing,
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  analysing, reflecting, learning some more, and then going
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  forward. You can't know every twist and
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  turn before you start. So allow that part that has
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  confidence in your ability to to ask, to learn, to delegate, to
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  fail and reflect and come back stronger.
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  And when that part is awakened and you're clear what starting
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  looks like and imagine seeing that version of you taking that
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  action and notice it looks more effortless with less resistance.
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  And that time before you started, when you cross the
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  line, you harness the horn beam. But if you never cross the line,
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  the horn beam was holding you back.
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  Allow your unconscious to ask the question, do you want to be
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  held back? What do you want to take action
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  again and again, allowing yourself to move forward.
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  I want you to get a sense of the time will pass anyway.
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  Imagine 2 versions of you. A version of you is waiting for
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  the perfect moment, continuing to analyse, plan and prepare.
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  Every season is winter, and the other version of you launches,
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  starts, is willing to fall down and pick yourself up again.
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  Allow your unconscious to reveal just how different those two
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  versions of you 10 years from now.
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  Which one has accomplished more, impacted more lives?
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  Which one has learnt more, understood more and which one?
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  Which one seems happier? These are two different trails
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  in the forest. Only you can decide which one.
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  So imagine you're back in the clearing and seeing two
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  different trails. The Trail of Hesitancy stuck in
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  the moonbeam on the second trail that harnesses the horn beams
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  power to move beyond hesitancy and forward into action.
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  And then momentum. When you're ready to take that
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  trail, that path, let me know by nodding your head.
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  And now it's time to return. Take a deep breath in through
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  your nose and out through your nose and wiggle your fingers and
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  wiggle your toes, connecting and calibrating into the here and
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  the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to awaken you.
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  Starting to count 123 Waking up 456 more alert. 7-8.
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  Open your eyes. Open your eyes. 910.
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  Wide awake, wide awake, wide awake.
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