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- 0:00Erin Gray: Welcome back to Your Money, Your Rules.
- 0:02Erin Gray: Today I want to credit one of my clients with this idea for this episode because we were talking in one of our sessions about her implementing more and pausing the learning for a bit.
- 0:12Erin Gray: I think as entrepreneurs, you know, we're so often encouraged to keep learning and we genuinely love to learn.
- 0:18Erin Gray: I think that's just in our DNA.
- 0:20Erin Gray: We read all of the books, we listen to the podcasts, we take the courses, we hire the coaches, we we do all of the things.
- 0:27Erin Gray: And I believe that learning is a very important and valid part of our business.
- 0:33Erin Gray: And I advocate, you know, for everything that I mentioned above.
- 0:37Erin Gray: But I think a lot of us have reached this point where the answer actually isn't more information, it's actually implementation.
- 0:44Erin Gray: So let's dive in.
- 0:46Erin Gray: For a lot of us, information feels very productive.
- 0:49Erin Gray: If you were a good little girl in school and you made straight A's, you were great at learning and taking tests and learning more information.
- 0:58Erin Gray: And I think learning helps us feel productive.
- 1:01Erin Gray: You know, we tell ourselves that we are working on our business, we're investing ourselves, and that's actually true.
- 1:08Erin Gray: Like we are doing those things.
- 1:10Erin Gray: And implementation, though, is where transformation actually happens.
- 1:15Erin Gray: Like you don't change because you learned something, you change because you applied it and you embodied it.
- 1:21Erin Gray: Like think about listening to podcasts on boundaries.
- 1:25Erin Gray: How many podcasts have we heard on boundaries?
- 1:28Erin Gray: Nothing is going to change, though, until you actually set one and you follow it.
- 1:32Erin Gray: Like think about the first time you actually had to set a boundary, uphold the boundary, and then you know, have the consequence for the boundary.
- 1:39Erin Gray: Like that's where we actually embody it and learn the lessons that we have been reading or taking courses on.
- 1:48Erin Gray: Think about all the money.
- 1:49Erin Gray: I mean, I have so many money books on my shelf, and I've taken so many different courses and all of this stuff around money.
- 1:58Erin Gray: But what actually shifted for me is when I actually started taking action and implementing and like being and acting from the identity of a person that feels safe with her money.
- 2:10Erin Gray: So I think the other thing is that implementation, it creates evidence.
- 2:16Erin Gray: So, meaning that so often we want to feel more confident, but confidence isn't built from more information.
- 2:25Erin Gray: It comes from our identity, right?
- 2:26Erin Gray: So when you think about being a more confident person, you'd have to ask yourself, okay, what would obviously the feeling would be confident, but what would be the actions that I would be taking from a place of confidence?
- 2:39Erin Gray: And one of the things that I'm always asking myself is what would a confident, trusting, bold person do?
- 2:46Erin Gray: And if what I am, the action that I'm taking is not aligned with that, then that is where I correct the action and I take action from that place.
- 2:55Erin Gray: So confidence and boldness and trust grows from evidence, right?
- 3:02Erin Gray: Evidence comes from taking action.
- 3:04Erin Gray: I think we need both parts.
- 3:06Erin Gray: We need the part that like settles our brain so that we can actually build some evidence of like, look, I did this and it was okay, and I still felt safe and I worked through it and it was fine.
- 3:16Erin Gray: And then also from the body's perspective as well.
- 3:18Erin Gray: So every time you implement something, you create more proof in your brain.
- 3:23Erin Gray: You gather that data, you um, you know, you learn something, you refine it, you are building more self-trust.
- 3:31Erin Gray: And this is also about being willing to feel the unfamiliarity in your body, the discomfort in your body.
- 3:41Erin Gray: This is about you creating the safety that you need in your nervous system so that you can then take the action.
- 3:49Erin Gray: And the more that you take it, right, the less scary it begins to feel in your body.
- 3:55Erin Gray: And then the quicker that you get results, and then you gather data, and then you refine and you keep moving on.
- 4:01Erin Gray: And I'm not advocating here because I think for me, when I first started on this journey, I was actually taking action too quickly.
- 4:12Erin Gray: Like my body did not feel safe enough.
- 4:14Erin Gray: And I was kind of pushing myself when my body wasn't ready.
- 4:18Erin Gray: And there's this fine line there that only you know because you're in your body.
- 4:22Erin Gray: Because for some of my clients, it's actually like, okay, a little baby step is actually what is the most loving thing for her because she has been so used to putting herself in the deep end.
- 4:33Erin Gray: And then for some of my clients, it's more so of like, okay, I'm ready to just like jump in the deep end because I've been kind of meddling over here in the shallow end.
- 4:42Erin Gray: I don't know what that is for you.
- 4:43Erin Gray: You're gonna have to play with this, but you will know when you ask yourself, you know, like, what is my next step?
- 4:49Erin Gray: Where am I, you know, playing a little bit smaller?
- 4:52Erin Gray: What is most loving to me?
- 4:54Erin Gray: You know, if if I truly believed and I acted, I moved from being a confident woman and a person who trusts herself, what moves would I be making?
- 5:04Erin Gray: So I don't want to advocate here that like we need to be moving quickly because I probably move and I'm air quoting very slowly compared to what a lot of people move.
- 5:13Erin Gray: But I've recognized for me, that's how I move and I gain such clarity in my stillness and I understand how my body wants to move and what I need to do to support myself.
- 5:27Erin Gray: So it's not one or it's not like this all or none mentality.
- 5:32Erin Gray: I'm always asking, like, where is the middle, right?
- 5:35Erin Gray: So when you when I speak about moving quickly, what I mean is when you receive your intuition and you have sat with it, and maybe you are a wave rider and you have gotten to the place where you're like, yeah, this feels really good, and you still don't take the action, that is what I'm talking about, creating distrust or a lack of confidence.
- 5:59Erin Gray: And I think also, too, that it's in the integration is where our wisdom actually lives.
- 6:05Erin Gray: Like we live in a culture, and I talked about this on my previous podcast episode with travel and implementation and spaciousness, is we live in a culture of constant consumption.
- 6:15Erin Gray: Like we value consumption as a society, and wisdom is gained through integration.
- 6:22Erin Gray: And integration requires space.
- 6:26Erin Gray: So this is why, after you know, a session or a retreat or a course or even a podcast episode.
- 6:33Erin Gray: I mean, I used to do this.
- 6:34Erin Gray: I would listen to one podcast after another podcast after another, right?
- 6:37Erin Gray: It's like, that's great that you're learning all of this information, but where are you actually implementing the information you're receiving?
- 6:44Erin Gray: Like it's great to know all of this stuff, but how are you taking it into your body, embodying it, and actually taking action from that place?
- 6:52Erin Gray: And this has to be, I think this is the place where we get to love ourselves even more because have such love for ourselves to be able to play with this, to try things, or I should say do things, get information, get feedback, and then embody what we have learned and then tweak it for our own selves, right?
- 7:09Erin Gray: Like anybody that's telling you this is the way, this is the thing, I have the strategy, they're full of crap.
- 7:18Erin Gray: Like nobody has one specific strategy for everybody.
- 7:21Erin Gray: Like they're not in your body, they don't, they don't know what your nervous system is like, they don't know what your intuition is.
- 7:28Erin Gray: Like, I think it's a great marketing tactic, but but really only you know, which is like the best news and like not the best news because it really stops with us.
- 7:39Erin Gray: Like we've got to be willing to play with this, to reconnect to ourselves, to return back home to ourselves and be willing that I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna love myself no matter what the outcome is.
- 7:51Erin Gray: So, what is important to note here is that if you are experiencing resistance to integration or integrating things, the question that you might want to ask yourself is what is my body or my nervous system protecting me from?
- 8:07Erin Gray: Like, why am I not taking action?
- 8:10Erin Gray: Sometimes, you know, I think here we go back to like in the coaching world, resistance is like, oh, well, you need to like mindset your way through it.
- 8:17Erin Gray: No, you don't.
- 8:18Erin Gray: I don't believe you do.
- 8:20Erin Gray: I think sometimes resistance is like, I actually don't want to do that.
- 8:24Erin Gray: Like, I don't want to be coached into doing that specific thing.
- 8:27Erin Gray: I just don't want to do it.
- 8:29Erin Gray: And that's the resistance is is showing you that there.
- 8:32Erin Gray: If the resistance is there and you're like, okay, I feel scared, okay, maybe some of that's some inner child work that we need to work on.
- 8:39Erin Gray: If it's, you know, the resistance is like, oh, because I've been people pleasing, okay, that's telling us it's like there's always messages there.
- 8:47Erin Gray: And I think for so many of us, we just bulldoze past it because that's how we've gotten to where we are, versus allowing ourselves to slow down, to lean back, to really connect with ourselves and be like, why are you resisting this?
- 9:02Erin Gray: Body, what do you need in this moment?
- 9:04Erin Gray: And start asking yourself questions.
- 9:06Erin Gray: However, you hear your intuition, like reconnect, get even more in depth with that, right?
- 9:12Erin Gray: Why aren't we taking action?
- 9:14Erin Gray: What am I afraid of?
- 9:15Erin Gray: You know, more often than not, the body, it doesn't feel safe because of some learned behavior.
- 9:20Erin Gray: And it's our job to figure it out.
- 9:22Erin Gray: It's not our job to like push ourselves.
- 9:24Erin Gray: I think a lot of us in childhood were just pushed and pushed and pushed versus, honey, what do you need in this moment?
- 9:30Erin Gray: Maybe you do need to rest before you sit down and, you know, have the conversation with your CPA.
- 9:35Erin Gray: Maybe you do need to reschedule it.
- 9:37Erin Gray: Like, I don't know what it is.
- 9:38Erin Gray: And this is where you get to love yourself enough and play with it so that you get to figure out like, what do I need?
- 9:45Erin Gray: What does the body need?
- 9:46Erin Gray: How can I slow down even more?
- 9:48Erin Gray: How can I implement everything that I've already learned before I go hire somebody else, before I go take another course?
- 9:55Erin Gray: I mean, even this podcast, if you're just listening to this podcast every single week, but you're not taking the action and implementing what I'm teaching you, what are we doing?
- 10:06Erin Gray: So, my podcast, anybody else's podcast, like take what I am teaching you and then go implement it and see how it feels.
- 10:14Erin Gray: Okay, I want to leave you just with a couple of reflection questions.
- 10:18Erin Gray: What advice have I already paid for that I'm not implementing?
- 10:22Erin Gray: Like I have gone back to several courses that I have watched.
- 10:24Erin Gray: It's so fascinating.
- 10:25Erin Gray: And he was talking about how he has a bunch of courses that he's offered, and maybe like only 5% of people actually complete his courses.
- 10:32Erin Gray: That's so fascinating.
- 10:33Erin Gray: I think there's so many, there's so many insights that I think about that.
- 10:38Erin Gray: Like, what are you selling on the front end?
- 10:40Erin Gray: And then also what are you not encouraging to complete on the back end?
- 10:43Erin Gray: And then what are the people that are attracting?
- 10:45Erin Gray: Like, there were so many rabbit holes I went down.
- 10:47Erin Gray: But the fact that he said that, I was like, wow, that's really interesting because I go back and I re-watch some of my courses that I have taken.
- 10:55Erin Gray: Um, now some of them I'm like, you know what, served its purpose.
- 10:58Erin Gray: We're not on the same energetic wavelength.
- 11:00Erin Gray: Like, I'm not gonna listen from that, you know, mentor.
- 11:04Erin Gray: And there are some that I am listening to over again, maybe the second or the third time.
- 11:10Erin Gray: So, what advice have you paid for already that you're not implementing?
- 11:14Erin Gray: Like if you've worked with coaches, go pull out your journals and go look through your journals of a year ago, three years ago, and see what is some of the wisdom and the knowledge that you received and have you implemented it?
- 11:26Erin Gray: Where are you not going first?
- 11:27Erin Gray: Like that is a question that I always ask myself because that is one of my values.
- 11:31Erin Gray: I always go first.
- 11:32Erin Gray: And when I recognize when I'm not going first, I know that's where I need to take the action.
- 11:36Erin Gray: So, where am I not going first for myself, my own self, my team, my clients, et cetera, whatever it might be in parenting, in being a spouse, friendships, whatever.
- 11:48Erin Gray: Where am I seeking more information when I actually need to take maybe more action?
- 11:53Erin Gray: And what would happen if I spent the next 90 days implementing instead of consuming?
- 12:00Erin Gray: There are moments or times of my life where, and I've noticed it as I've gotten even more in tune with myself.
- 12:08Erin Gray: I don't really listen to a lot of podcasts anymore.
- 12:10Erin Gray: David Guillaume, I really like him.
- 12:12Erin Gray: And he actually said on one of his podcasts, he said, I ideally don't want you to ever listen to my podcast ever again.
- 12:19Erin Gray: I want you to get to the point where you only listen to yourself and God and you just honor that.
- 12:24Erin Gray: And like that is what I think about is like, how many of us are listening to everyone else give us advice versus like spending that time with ourselves to get the advice that we need from God and source?
- 12:34Erin Gray: Okay.
- 12:35Erin Gray: And then the last question that I would ask myself is where can I close the gap between my intuition, the downloads that I'm receiving, and then also taking action?
- 12:43Erin Gray: So I don't think any of us need strategy or frameworks or I mean, and those things have a place, but their place, but I think that's such a small percentage of actually of the whole pie.
- 12:53Erin Gray: I think what we need to do more is we need to trust ourselves.
- 12:56Erin Gray: We already know what our intuition is telling us.
- 12:59Erin Gray: We need to use it and to act on it and to close that gap.
- 13:03Erin Gray: And I think I just think that there's so much goodness there when we start acting from that place versus outsourcing and seeking, you know, information from other people.
- 13:14Erin Gray: Okay, that's all I have for you today.
- 13:16Erin Gray: I love you.
- 13:16Erin Gray: I am so grateful for you.
- 13:18Erin Gray: If this episode resonated with you, I would love for you to share it with a friend.
- 13:22Erin Gray: And if you are someone who is looking for a thinking partner, for someone who is going to reflect your brilliant wisdom back to you, who you want to have fun with and to really move from more of that lack of self-trust and overwhelm into someone that feels more clarity, more love for themselves, more self-trust for them themselves.
- 13:48Erin Gray: I would love to support you.
- 13:49Erin Gray: You can click the link in the show notes to apply to work with me.
- 13:53Erin Gray: Okay, I'll see you in the next episode.