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Autism and Eating Disorders in Girls · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  So autism in girls is no exception to the rule.
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  Girls are autistic. It's just as well as boys are
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  autistic. So how do you communicate better
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  and how do you create better communication?
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  I'm covering that right now in this video.
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  Don't go anywhere guys. Welcome back to the Aspect
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  world. My name is Dan, I have autism
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  and ADHD and I'm making weekly videos all about this stuff
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  because I believe to my purpose of life to help autistic
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  individuals grow and flourish into amazing individuals.
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  And really like just set right to that, like ambition of them
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  to be the best they can do, really get their potential out
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  and change the world for the better.
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  So if you want to come on with me for this journey, this
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  mission, this awesome movement we have going on right now,
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  remember to hit the subscribe button by clicking the
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  notification bell down below. Literally it's how I upload
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  video and I pulled 4 videos every day on every social media
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  platform. So yeah, check me out on
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  anything even threads and weird things like Vero guide what's
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  going on. Communication is the core for
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  autism struction condition. There's there's two things that
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  I think are most important with autism that are kind of the most
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  debilitating. One is anxiety, which I have
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  covered in other videos and if you haven't go check out my
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  other videos. There's loads of anxiety.
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  But the other is communication. How do you communicate better
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  with autistic individuals or how do you help girls?
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  Nielsen Structural communicate better?
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  Well, the girls are quite an interesting example here and
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  talking about females now, but males on the Austin Spectrum are
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  less susceptible to masking, which is basically like putting
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  on a front, a kind of, well, putting on a mask or an act if
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  you will, to overcome a certain social situation or a situation
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  of communication that is uncomfortable.
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  So boys in the Austin Spectrum will be more susceptible to just
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  meltdown on that situation or completely shut off from it.
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  Whereas girls will are more have more tendencies to mask or or to
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  pretend to be comfortable in a situation when in actual fact
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  they're dying inside and they just want to go home.
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  And yeah, it just it's just not a a comfortable situation for to
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  be in because what happens is they go home after masking and
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  then have a complete meltdown at home and then it spoils their
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  entire time. Now before I go any further
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  guys, if you want to download my Life Hacks PDF book for autism,
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  you can do autismhacks.net right now.
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  It's completely free. So they got my gifts to you.
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  The link is down below if you want to check it out.
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  So how do you communicate better or how do you teach people to
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  communicate better, especially girls on the autism spectrum?
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  The first thing is validation and acceptance.
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  We have to teach that they should accept themselves of who
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  they are. If they're not comfortable in
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  the situation, then that's OK. Validate their feelings.
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  Tell them that like, hey, it's OK to feel like that it's OK to
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  struggle with communication and that is fine.
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  That's who you are. So once they validate their
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  feelings, once their feelings are heard and they know that
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  what they're doing is nothing wrong, then you can implement
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  things like confidence. How do you build confidence in
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  someone who's feeling terrible at communicating?
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  Where you say to them What medium do you feel best at?
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  Maybe they want to send emoji text messages.
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  Maybe they want to send a voice note.
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  Maybe they want to send emails. Maybe they're going to film a
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  video. I'll send you the video.
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  Maybe they even want a zoom call.
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  When you find the format in which they best relay
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  information, encourage and get them to use that.
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  But when they are using that, they will feel so much more in
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  control of their life. And when you have control, you
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  have confidence. When you have confidence, you
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  have validation, and when you have validation you beam like
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  the sun, you are able to fully be who you want to be.
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  Nobody's holding you back. This is the best way to increase
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  confidence in communication between girls and autism.
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  This will stop a lot of masking going on when you're trying to
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  communicate because obviously when you're masking, you're not
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  actively communicating in the proper manner that you want to,
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  you know, relay information. And at the same time it's going
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  to build so much more confidence in the person and make them just
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  a better communicator all round. Now.
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  Guys, if you enjoyed this video, please share our social media
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  and give me a comment down below.
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  I read every single one. OK guys, see you in the next
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  video. Peace.