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Letting Go Is Not Giving Up · Have A Little Faith with Delilah

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my friends. Hello, Hello, Hello. How's your summer going.
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  Speaker 1: Are you having a great summer? Have you had a
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  Speaker 1: chance to go to a lake or go to the beach,
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  Speaker 1: or go to the ocean. Have you had a chance
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  Speaker 1: to relax and unwind. Have you had a chance to
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  Speaker 1: spend some time with the Almighty? That's what this podcast
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  Speaker 1: is all about. On the radio at night you hear
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  Speaker 1: me talking to people about life, about love, about relationships,
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  Speaker 1: but really the core of who I am, the very
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  Speaker 1: center of all that I share on the radio off
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  Speaker 1: the radio, is centered on my belief in God, in
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  Speaker 1: the Almighty, specifically in Jesus Christ. And this podcast allows
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  Speaker 1: me to talk a little more openly, a little more
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  Speaker 1: free lee, a little more passionately than I do on
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  Speaker 1: the air about my faith. And I am so glad
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  Speaker 1: that you have found us. I'm so glad you're here.
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  Speaker 1: My faith is something I always, always, always want to share.
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  Speaker 1: Today we are talking about something that's often easier to
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  Speaker 1: say than it is to actually put into practice. What
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking about today is putting things in God's hands,
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  Speaker 1: letting go. I so want to share this with you
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  Speaker 1: because I struggle with this. I am a control freak.
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  Speaker 1: I admit it. I've got the T shirt. I'm a
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  Speaker 1: control freak. I want to control situations. I want to
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  Speaker 1: control other people. I want to control politics, I want
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  Speaker 1: to control the world. I want things to go the
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  Speaker 1: way I want them to go, and they don't. We
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  Speaker 1: all have concerns. We all have situations we desperately want
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  Speaker 1: to fix. Whether it's within our family of origin, maybe
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  Speaker 1: our work, our finances, is our health, the future, the
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  Speaker 1: future of our children, the future of our grandchildren. It's
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  Speaker 1: our nature to want certainty, but leaning on faith, having
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  Speaker 1: faith in the Almighty invites us into something very different.
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  Speaker 1: It calls us to trust in the Lord even when
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  Speaker 1: we can't see the whole picture, even when we can't
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  Speaker 1: see any of the picture, even when we have no
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  Speaker 1: clue what we're looking at. In this episode of Have
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  Speaker 1: a Little Faith, we'll explore what it really means to surrender,
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  Speaker 1: why letting go isn't giving up, and how trusting God
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  Speaker 1: can bring peace in the midst of uncertainty. Well look
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  Speaker 1: at real ways to release anxiety, to strengthen our faith,
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  Speaker 1: and to remember that God is working even when we
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  Speaker 1: don't understand what He's doing. Even when we don't understand
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  Speaker 1: his timing. If you've been carrying a heavy burden or
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  Speaker 1: struggling to trust God with what lies ahead, I hope
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  Speaker 1: this conversation encourages your heart and remind you that you
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  Speaker 1: were never meant to carry it all alone. So grab
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  Speaker 1: a cup of tea, a cup of coffee, how about
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  Speaker 1: iced tea or iced coffee, Take a deep breath, and
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  Speaker 1: let's dive intoday's various conversations. At first, we have William.
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  Speaker 1: He's struggling with letting go of a situation that is
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  Speaker 1: already let go of him. William, welcome to have a
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  Speaker 1: little faith. What can I do for you tonight?
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  Speaker 2: Well, Delilah, I've been I was a single dad and
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  Speaker 2: I raised three girls. Now they're twenty six, twenty seven,
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  Speaker 2: and twenty eight. We've always heard your radio. Absolutely love
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  Speaker 2: everything about you and your show. And I raised my
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  Speaker 2: girls and they graduated high school and they went to college,
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  Speaker 2: and now they're twenty six, twenty seventh, twenty eight and
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  Speaker 2: doing very good.
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  Speaker 3: During this time, I had met someone for we were
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  Speaker 3: together for eighteen years and up till like three years ago.
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  Speaker 3: I had to go help our family business in Puerto Rico,
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  Speaker 3: which was only going to be just a few months
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  Speaker 3: and wound up being two years. Over two years, two
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  Speaker 3: and a half years. And we've always.
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  Speaker 4: Kept in touch, and I paid for her to come
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  Speaker 4: out there a few times, and then, you know, the
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  Speaker 4: six months before I got back, there was like a
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  Speaker 4: distant kind of feeling that I felt.
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  Speaker 3: And when I came back, we were supposed to meet up.
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  Speaker 2: And I've been back for six months now and till
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  Speaker 2: this day, she won't answer my calls or.
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  Speaker 3: I haven't met her.
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  Speaker 2: I haven't seen her, and she hasn't responded or picked
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  Speaker 2: up any of my calls. So it's kind of like
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  Speaker 2: us shut the door on me. And I was in
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  Speaker 2: love with this woman for eighteen plus years. I just
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  Speaker 2: wanted to play a song for her, because I'm not
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  Speaker 2: going to be like a stalker or anything and go
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  Speaker 2: after her. She has somebody else. I just wish her happiness,
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  Speaker 2: you know. And I've still miss her a lot.
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  Speaker 1: She is the one that chose to end the friendship.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, apparently, yes, because she knew that I came back.
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  Speaker 2: We always kept in charge by phone, and even when
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  Speaker 2: I was here for the first week.
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  Speaker 3: When I got back, I was like, well, when are
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  Speaker 3: we going to get together?
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  Speaker 2: Because she had moved to the same city, just different
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  Speaker 2: neighborhood because she also has three kids. So with all
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  Speaker 2: the kids while they were growing up, everyone's an adult now.
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  Speaker 2: We help each other out during our single parents time
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  Speaker 2: during the two thousands, and when the kids started becoming adults,
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  Speaker 2: they've you know, ventured out. And in twenty twenty three,
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  Speaker 2: I had to help our family business, which my mom
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  Speaker 2: has like eighteen apartments in San Juan, Puerto Rico, and
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  Speaker 2: so it really needed a lot of help to start
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  Speaker 2: renting these apartments from five units up to like twelve units.
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  Speaker 3: That we were missing all these units and missing out
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  Speaker 3: on income.
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  Speaker 2: So it took me about a year and a half
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  Speaker 2: two years to come back and you know, finally fix
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  Speaker 2: all that we needed to get done and rent out
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  Speaker 2: apartments and things like that. But we always kept in touches.
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  Speaker 2: She always came out. I think she came out five
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  Speaker 2: times the first year and then didn't come because I
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  Speaker 2: was supposed to go back and I just couldn't leave,
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  Speaker 2: you know, until all the apartments were finished and went
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  Speaker 2: it out. So when I finally finished all that, I
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  Speaker 2: came back, which was back in December. And so when
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  Speaker 2: I came back We had plans to meet at the
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  Speaker 2: beach because we live in Florida Tampa Bay, right next
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  Speaker 2: to the coast, and she didn't confirm, and so she
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  Speaker 2: didn't pick up or anything like that, and so I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: what's going on until this day? Like I've been texting
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  Speaker 2: here and she won't text me back. I just want
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  Speaker 2: to know why, what's going on? Did she meets someone else? Now,
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  Speaker 2: my daughters communicate with her, so I get bits and
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  Speaker 2: pieces of information, But apparently she hasn't met anyone else.
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  Speaker 1: Honey, she's an adult. If she wanted to be in
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  Speaker 1: contact with you, she would be.
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  Speaker 3: Right, So let it go.
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  Speaker 1: You're thinking, if you have closure, if you have an explanation,
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  Speaker 1: if something makes sense, then you can let go. But
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  Speaker 1: you have all the information you need, and that is
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  Speaker 1: that she chooses not to engage with you. She chooses
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  Speaker 1: not to be in a friendship with you any longer,
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  Speaker 1: so let her go. Take that as a period at
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  Speaker 1: the end of the sentence, not a comma.
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  Speaker 3: Right, Okay, Yes.
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  Speaker 1: She has ended this friendship period period. You're saying, she's
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  Speaker 1: ended this friendship comma for now. But if I can
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  Speaker 1: just figure out why, then I can have closure. No, no, no, no.
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  Speaker 3: No, oh okay, yeah, I see what you're saying.
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  Speaker 1: In her mind, it is over. She doesn't want connection
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  Speaker 1: with you for whatever reason. And you think if there
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  Speaker 1: was a good reason that you could understand, then it
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  Speaker 1: wouldn't hurt so bad. It doesn't work that way. It's
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  Speaker 1: going to hurt because you love her.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I still do. I still all a liver pain.
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  Speaker 2: It's kind of like leaving a little bit here and there.
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  Speaker 2: And I've been thinking, like, this is it. That's the end.
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  Speaker 1: It's the end of what you had hoped with her.
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  Speaker 1: But that doesn't mean that God doesn't have a fabulous
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  Speaker 1: plan for your life. But the plan is not going
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  Speaker 1: to include her.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, And it's so hard to me. I'm sixty two
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  Speaker 2: and I've just retired. I took Social Security early. It's
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  Speaker 2: so hard to meet someone at my age, at our age,
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  Speaker 2: and I don't settle for just to meet somebody.
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  Speaker 1: And stop worrying about that nonsense. Do you believe there's
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  Speaker 1: a higher power? Do you believe in the Almighty?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I believe. I'm a born again Christian?
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  Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, So why are you worrying about it?
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  Speaker 3: I don't know. I don't have that confidence I used
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  Speaker 3: to have.
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  Speaker 1: Does God have a plan for your life? Yes or no?
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  Speaker 3: Yes?
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  Speaker 1: Does God know exactly what you need when you need it?
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  Speaker 1: Yes or no.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely, it's a good way to put it to Lailah.
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  Speaker 1: That's where faith comes in. And you say, I don't
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  Speaker 1: know how this is going to work out. God, you do,
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  Speaker 1: so I'm just going to trust you.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I have to really pray about that and let
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  Speaker 2: go and put it all in his hands.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for really making me open up. And I've
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  Speaker 2: been thinking about this totally all wrong done.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, you keep forgetting that He's the one that
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  Speaker 1: created your heart, your mind, your soul, your body, and
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  Speaker 1: he's the one that knows exactly who you need in
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  Speaker 1: your life to complete your life. Yeah, somebody that you
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  Speaker 1: can bring so much joy and happiness to their life.
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  Speaker 1: That's all God. That's not you, that's God.
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  Speaker 3: Absolutely. You know. Delilah agree totally.
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  Speaker 2: And this just really hurts because I was there as
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  Speaker 2: a as a dad with her daughters and stuff.
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  Speaker 3: They were all fixed dollar kids.
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  Speaker 1: Let it go, Let it go, William. I can tell
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  Speaker 1: that you are a sweetheart. I only want to remind
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  Speaker 1: you that the loudest answer of all is no answer.
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  Speaker 1: When they give you no answer, when they ghost you,
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  Speaker 1: when they're not answering, that's an answer in and of itself.
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  Speaker 1: So let this go. Give it over to God. There's
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  Speaker 1: a period at the end of that sentence. Stop looking
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  Speaker 1: back over your shoulder, move forward and trust in the Lord.
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  Speaker 3: I will. I promise, I promise, and I love you
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  Speaker 3: so much. Elia, thank you so much.
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  Speaker 1: You're welcome.
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  Speaker 3: God bless you, God bless you.
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  Speaker 1: The next story I want to share us from Caitlin.
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  Speaker 1: She's recently lost her biggest supporter and a whole lot more.
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  Speaker 1: Let's have Caitlyn share her story in her own words. Caitlin,
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  Speaker 1: welcome to have a little faith with Delilah. Who are
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  Speaker 1: you thinking of tonight?
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  Speaker 5: Me and my siblings have really been thinking about our
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  Speaker 5: mom a whole lot lately. She passed away in twenty
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  Speaker 5: sixteen due to cancer, and it's been really hard and
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  Speaker 5: that's ever since.
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  Speaker 1: How old are you I'm thirty two, And how old
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  Speaker 1: were you when you lost your mama?
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  Speaker 3: I was in my early twenties.
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  Speaker 5: Twenty sixteen is that's me a very bittersweet year because
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  Speaker 5: not only did I end up losing my mom that year,
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  Speaker 5: but it also got married for the first time that year,
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  Speaker 5: and I lost her like a month or so after.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. So you need a song to bring
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  Speaker 1: back those sweet memories of Mama.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, And it's like, really, it's kind of heavy on
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  Speaker 5: me and my older brother because it's four of us,
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  Speaker 5: the four of us all together are lost because we
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  Speaker 5: just can't stop thinking about her.
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  Speaker 1: So tell me something about your mom. If I were
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  Speaker 1: to die tonight and stand at the pearly gates, how
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  Speaker 1: would I recognize her?
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  Speaker 3: Is?
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  Speaker 1: What is she like?
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  Speaker 3: What is her soul like?
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  Speaker 5: She would come up to you and start talking about us.
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  Speaker 5: She loved us a lot, and she would have a
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  Speaker 5: big smile on her face. Her brown eyes they would
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  Speaker 5: just catch you instantly. I mean, she was the sweetest
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  Speaker 5: person that I knew, and we relied on her for
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  Speaker 5: a lot, even when.
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  Speaker 3: We grew up.
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  Speaker 5: But our sister was really young when we all lost her.
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  Speaker 5: She was still little, like, still in elementary school.
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  Speaker 3: Little and along. While our mom.
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  Speaker 5: Was dealing with cancer and stuff, our sister was also
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  Speaker 5: dealing with our parents' divorce too, and that wasn't that
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  Speaker 5: wasn't easy on her, and she was in another state
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  Speaker 5: dealing with all that, and we were all here.
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  Speaker 1: You know what you need, and you need a mama hug.
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  Speaker 1: I wish I were there close to you so I
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  Speaker 1: could just give you a big, ten minute mama hug.
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  Speaker 3: Well, that would be great.
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  Speaker 5: I did used to have someone that I looked up
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  Speaker 5: to as a mama. After Mama died, she became MoMA
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  Speaker 5: to me. But she was my husband's mom and well,
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  Speaker 5: she passed away last.
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  Speaker 3: Year in May.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, So you've just got on top of grief,
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  Speaker 1: on top of grief, on top of grief.
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  Speaker 5: Yeah, things about right. Seems like ever since she went,
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  Speaker 5: it's just been.
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  Speaker 1: Grief and no way to process it and no one
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  Speaker 1: to help you through this.
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  Speaker 6: No.
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  Speaker 3: Uh.
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  Speaker 5: And what hurts the most about it is I have
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  Speaker 5: two kids of my own. They're are three and five,
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  Speaker 5: and I could have used a lot of advice from her.
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  Speaker 1: So tell me what you need a little advice for
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  Speaker 1: and I will do my best. Mama Delilah and fill
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  Speaker 1: in the blank here.
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  Speaker 3: Well, me and my ex.
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  Speaker 5: I waited a long time to do it, but I
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  Speaker 5: finally went after child support and I finally did it.
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  Speaker 3: And even not very happy right now.
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  Speaker 1: Does it matter if he's happy? Or not. Are your
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  Speaker 1: kids better off now that they've got a little financial support.
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  Speaker 5: I'm sure they will be when it starts coming. I
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  Speaker 5: know that he's not happy about it, but I could
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  Speaker 5: care less if he was happy about it. It's just
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  Speaker 5: the fact that I gave him a chance and he
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  Speaker 5: just didn't take that chance the way he was supposed to.
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  Speaker 3: He just didn't do.
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  Speaker 5: What he needed to. So I'm kind of dealing with
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  Speaker 5: that now too.
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  Speaker 1: So do me a favor. Stop beating yourself up and
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  Speaker 1: give yourself permission to feel what it is that you feel. Yes, Caitlin,
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  Speaker 1: you've been through a lot. Here's the thing. I can
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  Speaker 1: tell that you need support. But emotional injuries have caused
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  Speaker 1: you to build walls around your heart. You're going to
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  Speaker 1: have to let go of those walls and find real support.
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  Speaker 1: And here is a hint. God is available. Twenty four seven.
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  Speaker 1: He's waiting. He is waiting to take you in his
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  Speaker 1: arms and just love you and talk to you and
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  Speaker 1: nurture you.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you.
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  Speaker 1: The last story I want to share in this episode
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  Speaker 1: is from Tammy, who's struggling to understand what forgiveness really means. Tammy,
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  Speaker 1: welcome to have a little faith who or what is
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  Speaker 1: on your heart tonight.
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  Speaker 6: I've been Mary for about twenty one years with my husband.
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  Speaker 6: We have a daughter together, and we've had our ups
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  Speaker 6: and downs and everything. And he's now having cancer. I
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  Speaker 6: know you like, he cheated and now he's.
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  Speaker 1: Got cancer, So just startn't pick.
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  Speaker 3: Me up here.
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  Speaker 6: Since I'm the only one working, he's not able to
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  Speaker 6: work anymore.
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  Speaker 3: So I've been wanting to call.
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  Speaker 6: You if you can dedicate a good sign for me
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  Speaker 6: to be relaxed tonight.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, back back up, back up, back up, back up.
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  Speaker 1: You said he cheated and lied.
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, he lied and cheated on me on Valentine's Day.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, so you've decided to stay with him and to
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  Speaker 1: forgive him instead of break up over this.
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  Speaker 3: He wanted to stay with me.
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  Speaker 1: I gave him a choice. But I'm saying you made
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  Speaker 1: the choice to stay and to save your marriage. It
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  Speaker 1: sounds like, yeah, if that is true, are you going
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  Speaker 1: to forgive him so your marriage can move forward? Or
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  Speaker 1: are you going to continue to be upset with him?
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  Speaker 3: I forgave him.
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  Speaker 1: No, No, you didn't. If you forgave him, you never
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  Speaker 1: would have mentioned it to a complete stranger.
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  Speaker 3: I do have it in my mind.
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  Speaker 6: It's not going away from my mind. But I did
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  Speaker 6: forgive him, and I did say it to him directly.
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  Speaker 1: Do you know what it means to forgive?
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  Speaker 6: Yeah, you need to like forgive and forget.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no, no, no, no, you don't forget. You
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  Speaker 1: didn't have a brain surgery. You can't forget when you've
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  Speaker 1: been betrayed. I'm asking you, do you know what it
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  Speaker 1: means to forgive?
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  Speaker 6: Well, that's the only thing I know about, So I guess.
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  Speaker 1: Not to forgive means it doesn't mean that what he
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  Speaker 1: did was okay. It doesn't mean you pretend it was okay.
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  Speaker 1: It doesn't mean you pretend it didn't hurt. To forgive
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  Speaker 1: means that you decide not to make him pay you
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  Speaker 1: a debt he rightfully owes. He owes you a great
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  Speaker 1: debt because he betrayed you in a heartbreaking way. He
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  Speaker 1: can't ever repay that debt. He can't take away the pain,
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  Speaker 1: He can't make it okay. To forgive somebody is to
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  Speaker 1: say you owe me a debt, but I am not
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  Speaker 1: going to make you pay. I am going to say
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  Speaker 1: it is paid in full, even though what you did
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  Speaker 1: hurt me. I'm going to choose to release you from
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  Speaker 1: that debt you owe me.
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  Speaker 6: Okay, Well, even if I say like, okay, it's up
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  Speaker 6: to God to decide his sight at that point. It's
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  Speaker 6: not up to me, it's up to God.
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  Speaker 1: Right, But you're his wife. You're the one that chose
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  Speaker 1: to stay in the marriage, and you're the one that
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  Speaker 1: is going to suffer from the pain of betrayal. If
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  Speaker 1: you don't forgive him, that unforgiveness, that pain, that bitterness
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  Speaker 1: will seep into your soul and will poison your heart. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: So what I am suggest testing is if you're going
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  Speaker 1: to stay in this marriage and continue to care for
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  Speaker 1: your husband, it might be a good idea to truly
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  Speaker 1: forgive him and let the past be the past. Because
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  Speaker 1: what you're doing now is you're trying to move forward
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  Speaker 1: while you're lugging around a suitcase filled with heartache.
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  Speaker 3: So how would I forgive him?
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  Speaker 5: Just say it like.
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  Speaker 1: That or well, on my own, I do not have
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  Speaker 1: the ability to forgive somebody, especially that kind of betrayal.
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  Speaker 1: But with God's help, I can go to God and say, God,
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  Speaker 1: help me, help me to forgive this person who has
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  Speaker 1: betrayed me. Help me to forgive this person who's stolen
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  Speaker 1: from me, or lied to me, or in your case,
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  Speaker 1: cheated on me. God give me the strength to forgive.
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  Speaker 1: And it's not going to happen overnight, and you're not
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  Speaker 1: going to feel all happy in love. But if you
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  Speaker 1: keep saying that, and you keep choosing that, and every
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  Speaker 1: day you say I choose to forgive you, I choose
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  Speaker 1: to let go of this pain. I choose not to
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  Speaker 1: hold on to this bitterness. In time, your heart will heal.
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  Speaker 6: Okay, I will do that, Dahlena, thank you so much
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  Speaker 6: for your advice.
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  Speaker 1: You deserve to be loved, You deserve to be happy,
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  Speaker 1: and carrying around this kind of heartache from betrayal is
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  Speaker 1: going to hurt you. So I pray that you choose forgiveness.
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  Speaker 1: That doesn't mean what he did is okay. It doesn't
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  Speaker 1: mean that you forget. You don't forget. Come on, we're
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  Speaker 1: not stupid. But you can choose to leave the past
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  Speaker 1: in the past and to move forward together. Okay, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: That's what I'd like to do, Tammy. Choosing to stay
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  Speaker 1: in this relationship is very noble. I'm just asking you
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  Speaker 1: to remember that forgiveness is not a one and done.
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  Speaker 1: You don't do it once and then it's all over.
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  Speaker 1: It's a daily practice. I know your situation is very complicated,
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  Speaker 1: but if you are able to let go of the past,
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  Speaker 1: then God will be able to help you create a
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  Speaker 1: beautiful future.
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  Speaker 3: Oh wait, I will Deliah. Thank you so much.
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  Speaker 1: All right, God bless you.
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  Speaker 6: God bless you too.
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  Speaker 1: As we wrap up today, remember this. Letting go is
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  Speaker 1: not the same as giving up. Giving up says there's
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  Speaker 1: no hope, will never make it. Letting go says God,
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  Speaker 1: I trust you with what I can't carry anymore. God,
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  Speaker 1: I can't, you can, and so I'm gonna let you.
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  Speaker 1: There are seasons when you've done all you know how
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  Speaker 1: to do. You've prayed, you've planned, you've worked, you've waited.
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  Speaker 1: You release the outcome into God's hands. You've prayed, you've planned,
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  Speaker 1: you've worked, you've waited. Releasing the outcome into God's hands
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  Speaker 1: isn't weakness. It's an act of faith. It means believing
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  Speaker 1: that even when you can't see the way forward, he
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  Speaker 1: already can. So whatever you're holding too tightly today, fear disappointment,
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  Speaker 1: unanswered questions, or the need to control every outcome, I
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  Speaker 1: encourage you to place it in God's hands. Keep showing up,
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  Speaker 1: keep praying, keep trusting, keep taking the next faithful step.
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  Speaker 1: Surrender doesn't end the journey, it changes who's carrying the
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  Speaker 1: weight of the journey. Thank you, my friend, for spending
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  Speaker 1: this time here with me today. If today's conversation encourages you,
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  Speaker 1: share it with someone who might need the reminder that
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  Speaker 1: they don't have to carry everything alone until next time.
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  Speaker 1: May you find peace in letting go and trust in
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  Speaker 1: God and courage to keep moving forward because faith lets go,
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  Speaker 1: but it never gives up. God bless you. Until we
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  Speaker 1: meet again, do me a favor, take some time out
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  Speaker 1: of your busy schedule to slow down and love someone.
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  Speaker 1: Lord bless you.