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Due Date with Kristin Cavallari · Two Ts In A Pod with Teddi Mellencamp and Tamra Judge

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Speaker 1: This is Teddy Teapot. Hi guys, welcome back to this
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Speaker 1: week's Teddy Teapot. I am like next level pregnant right now.
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Speaker 1: Like I'm sitting here like having to take my sweatshirt off,
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Speaker 1: and everybody else is in like multiple jackets, like it's
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Speaker 1: a situation here. I am hot, sweaty, and bothered. I
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Speaker 1: am so excited to have Kristen Cavalry on. Not only
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Speaker 1: have I been obsessed with her for years, She's on
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Speaker 1: Very Cavalry Thursday nights on eight Central. She is married
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Speaker 1: to Jake Cutler and has a great jewelry line called
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Speaker 1: Uncommon James three Ketto's. So we gotta dig into all
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Speaker 1: things pregnancy. And then later on in the episode, I
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Speaker 1: am going to have on an O. B. G Way
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Speaker 1: in so we can ask all of the questions all
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Speaker 1: of us are too afraid to actually ask our doctors.
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Speaker 1: It's gonna be crazy. And you know what, I need
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Speaker 1: to get these questions in now, because like I am
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Speaker 1: days away from having the baby. I mean it could
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Speaker 1: be today, it could be tomorrow, it could be at
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Speaker 1: the beginning of next week. I don't know. I'm ready,
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Speaker 1: so oh my gosh, I can't wait. To dive right
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Speaker 1: into it. Kristen, Hi, Hi, thanks so much for coming on.
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Speaker 1: How are you? I'm good? How are you? I mean,
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Speaker 1: to be honest, I'm kind of a hot mess express
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Speaker 1: right now. It's like working up till the last day.
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Speaker 1: I mean, it's craziness. I think that. I mean, I
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Speaker 1: don't know if this happened to you, but did your
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Speaker 1: mind forget everything from each pregnancy before you got pregnant
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Speaker 1: with the other one? Oh? Big time? Yeah? And now
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Speaker 1: of course I've completely forgotten everything, but are pregnant and
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Speaker 1: they're asking me questions like I don't remember any of this,
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Speaker 1: so why did they Why does that happen? I'm like, honestly,
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Speaker 1: the other day, I was like, somebody's like, are you
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Speaker 1: packed for the hospital? And I was like, no, don't
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Speaker 1: I have to do that? Oh my gosh, yeah you do.
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Speaker 1: But I feel like, but what didn't you pack? Because
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Speaker 1: I feel like the first time I packed all of
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Speaker 1: these ridiculous things that I never once used, Like I
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Speaker 1: left with these like crazy granny panties that they gave
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Speaker 1: me and some like spray and my like baby take
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Speaker 1: home outfit didn't fit the baby anyway. So I'm like,
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Speaker 1: what what do you even need? No, I know it's true.
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Speaker 1: The first one you have everything imaginable, and then each
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Speaker 1: one I feel like you bring less and less you need,
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Speaker 1: really thanks, and maybe some spacewash and that's about it.
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Speaker 1: Maybe a new pair of clothes after you have a baby,
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Speaker 1: and that's about it. That's what's I said. And then
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Speaker 1: one of my listeners said, bring tile and all pm
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Speaker 1: because you need to sleep, and they're not allowed to
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Speaker 1: give it to you at the hospital, but you're allowed
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Speaker 1: to take it. And I was like, how did you
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Speaker 1: figure this ound? So that's also interesting because my first
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Speaker 1: five three I have two boys and a girl, and
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Speaker 1: my boys we never sent them to the nursery. I
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Speaker 1: think I felt bad or I didn't even know what
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Speaker 1: that was an option. And then my daughter, for the
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Speaker 1: third one, I was like, oh wait, we can send
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Speaker 1: her to the nursery. Best decision of my life. I've
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Speaker 1: actually got some sleep that night was which was incredible
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Speaker 1: because with my voice we had camped in my first
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Speaker 1: at like two in the morning. I was up all night.
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Speaker 1: You know, I never slapped and stay with Jackson, and
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Speaker 1: we didn't. So you start off with your own sleep.
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Speaker 1: So I would say and sending my mom to the
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Speaker 1: nursery as a game changer. I think so too. But
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Speaker 1: then I don't know if this is a rumor. But
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Speaker 1: where I'm having the baby, somebody's like, oh, they don't
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Speaker 1: do that anymore, where you can send your kids to
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Speaker 1: the nursery. I'm like, I am, I'm like older now
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Speaker 1: more than ever. Do I want to like send the
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Speaker 1: baby to the nursery. But I'm like totally in denial.
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Speaker 1: Like my husband's like, do you think you could pack
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Speaker 1: the bag or do you think you could maybe organize
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Speaker 1: like a babysitter to be with the kids when you
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Speaker 1: go into labor. I'm like, oh, yeah, this is really happening.
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Speaker 1: That's the hard part. Once you have more, It's like
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Speaker 1: you have to find childcare and you don't even know
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Speaker 1: when it's I'm gonna go down. You just have to
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Speaker 1: be prepared for your other kids. And what's the age
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Speaker 1: gap between your kids? So I have a seven year old,
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Speaker 1: a five year old, and a four year old, so
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Speaker 1: they're all pretty closed. Okay, So I'm Mike had such
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Speaker 1: a big gap because my I have a stepdaughter that's eleven,
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Speaker 1: my daughter seven, and then my son's five and then
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Speaker 1: this was like a total surprise. I didn't even know
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Speaker 1: that I was pregnant until I was nine weeks pregnant,
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Speaker 1: and um, so my kids are like at the point
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Speaker 1: where like, mom, are we gonna have to be like
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Speaker 1: the baby center? I was like, I have some extra hands,
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Speaker 1: which will be nice. But something I'm trying to think
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Speaker 1: of is like that beginning stages when you have older kids,
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Speaker 1: Like how much downtime did you have with your babies,
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Speaker 1: Like before you know, you were up running around doing
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Speaker 1: all the things that you do now. Well, so I
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Speaker 1: obviously you know downtime the window when you have other
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Speaker 1: little kids, you know. I mean I had all my
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Speaker 1: really close and age, So my oldest was twenty one months,
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Speaker 1: and then my middle kid when I had my my daughter,
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Speaker 1: he was only nineteen months. I mean, I had babies,
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Speaker 1: so really when you think about it, but I didn't
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Speaker 1: go back to work um with my daughter for a
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Speaker 1: few months. I had her in November, and I really
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Speaker 1: thought that was a great time because then obviously, thanks
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Speaker 1: to Christmas and everything, I could just chill out for
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Speaker 1: a while, which was awesome. My first after seven weeks,
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Speaker 1: he was on a plane with me to l a
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Speaker 1: I took a red eye from l A to New
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Speaker 1: York with him. I mean, I was just going going,
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Speaker 1: I have my mom with me, which was great, but
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Speaker 1: it was really tough, and I if I could go
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Speaker 1: back and do it again, I would have just taken
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Speaker 1: more time to chill out. You know, you can't get
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Speaker 1: that time back. Um, So I don't know where did
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Speaker 1: you go. Each kid's different, and I don't know, it's
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Speaker 1: just it changes. But I think because my daughter was
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Speaker 1: my last one, and I knew she was gonna be
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Speaker 1: my last one, I really just built it for everything
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Speaker 1: was worth and I just enjoyed every second of her
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Speaker 1: baby face. I mean, that's that's what I'm telling myself. Like,
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Speaker 1: I'm like, that's what I'm gonna do. I'm really gonna
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Speaker 1: take this time with her, and I'm going to not
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Speaker 1: rush myself. And then I see myself scheduling things that
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Speaker 1: are like four weeks out, and I'm like, what are
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Speaker 1: you doing? Like I don't know how to stop myself
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Speaker 1: now with the with the other kids, I didn't have
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Speaker 1: my business and I wasn't on the show or any
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Speaker 1: of those other things, and I didn't have a podcast,
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Speaker 1: and I was like able to have that time, and
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Speaker 1: I don't think I appreciated it I first, not because
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Speaker 1: you don't appreciate it when you're in the midst of it.
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Speaker 1: Of everything, I know, I mean I think that more cancel.
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Speaker 1: It is nice to get back into a groove after
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Speaker 1: you know, just sitting on a couch all day and
6:43
Speaker 1: leggings out with an ice patch, you know. I mean,
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Speaker 1: it's small nice to have a reason to get dressed
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Speaker 1: in the morning and kind of feel like yourself again.
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Speaker 1: But I think the beauty and um, you know, just
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Speaker 1: taking it slow and not being hard on ourselves and
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Speaker 1: and just you know, resting as much as possible because
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Speaker 1: it is it's hard, and we're going on most sleep
7:02
Speaker 1: in the beginnings. Yeah, that's definitely. Well, somebody sent me
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Speaker 1: the snow or schnoo, I might be pronouncing, have you
7:08
Speaker 1: heard of this? Okay, So apparently it like completely simulates
7:13
Speaker 1: the mother's womb, and like you can rent that. People
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Speaker 1: are renting them, everybody's talking about them. This is not
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Speaker 1: an ad, by the way, but I never had them
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Speaker 1: with my other kids. We like set it up in
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Speaker 1: my room. It tracks their heartbeat, attracts the movements that
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Speaker 1: they need and everybody's like, oh, the baby will be sleeping,
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Speaker 1: Like you won't believe there's no colic. I'm like, so
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Speaker 1: I am like ready to test it out. I already
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Speaker 1: have it set up. I have like the app set up.
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Speaker 1: My husband's like, you've lost your mind. I'm like, everybody
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Speaker 1: swears by this, but there are always those like things
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Speaker 1: that people swear by and then you get it and
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Speaker 1: you're like, oh, that actually didn't work for me, or
7:45
Speaker 1: you know what, this is not the best thing ever.
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Speaker 1: How I mean when it comes to sleep, I would
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Speaker 1: try everything anything. And how is Jay like within the
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Speaker 1: newborn phase because Edwin is like the most nervous human
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Speaker 1: being touching the baby, He's like acting as if it's
8:04
Speaker 1: like a foreign object. He's like hello, and I'm like,
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Speaker 1: can you do the diaper? And he's like, can we
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Speaker 1: wait till the chord falls off? I know, guys are
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Speaker 1: so funny with newborn babies. Jay, it's with each kid
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Speaker 1: he'd be like, I'll be on, I'm on, toddler, dude,
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Speaker 1: you your baby, Dude, Like, can you kill the baby
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Speaker 1: for five seconds to give me a play? I mean
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Speaker 1: he's this way, he really, He's like all come around
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Speaker 1: when they're like seven eight months old. That's I think
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Speaker 1: guys just they feel like they have nothing to control.
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Speaker 1: For you. I kind of understand it, you know. I
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Speaker 1: mean I understand it too. But there were some nights
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Speaker 1: where I know my husband was simply checking on me
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Speaker 1: just to like so he could say he did. Like
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Speaker 1: he'd be like, all good, babe when the baby was crying,
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Speaker 1: and I'd be like, you are so full of it.
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Speaker 1: You're just trying to be nice, and then you like
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Speaker 1: put your headphones on to like drown out the noise
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Speaker 1: and don't like, must be nice. Jay. I'm like, I
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Speaker 1: know awake, and I know you're pretending to be asleep,
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Speaker 1: but I don't as see what you're doing. Buddy. It's
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Speaker 1: like safe like that you get into tonight, everyone's surprised.
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Speaker 1: Everyone's hilarious and right now that have babies and they're
9:15
Speaker 1: like in the middle of the night, I'm like, oh,
9:18
Speaker 1: I know, but it gets better, trust me at all.
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Speaker 1: It gets better. But yeah, I'm really happy to be
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Speaker 1: out of that that you're going because it's so hard.
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Speaker 1: It's just it's hard. You've just given me a reality
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Speaker 1: check because I've totally blocked it out. Now that you're
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Speaker 1: saying this, I'm reliving all of these moments again, and
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Speaker 1: I'm starting to be like, no, but I need this
9:40
Speaker 1: because I swear this is why postpartum happens. Because everybody
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Speaker 1: talks about how you're going to have this baby and
9:46
Speaker 1: then your life will be the best it's ever been,
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Speaker 1: and there are moments that are so beyond hard, and
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Speaker 1: like they don't talk about those moments and they don't
9:56
Speaker 1: talk about the fact like I remember with my first baby,
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Speaker 1: I thought that I was like going to have the
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Speaker 1: baby and then like feel good to like you know,
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Speaker 1: trot out of the hospital, like you know, you see
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Speaker 1: and like the magazines when you see like you know,
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Speaker 1: one of the princesses leaving like in her like pants suit,
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Speaker 1: and I'm like, I am sitting here in these underwear
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Speaker 1: that are like bigger than my bathroom. I am a
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Speaker 1: disaster zone pregnant. No one told me that. I was like, wait,
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Speaker 1: why is what is my stomach? Yeah? Why? I actually
10:30
Speaker 1: feel worse in closed after the baby comes that I
10:34
Speaker 1: do when i'm pregnant, because then it also it feels
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Speaker 1: like something that you don't even really it's like a goo.
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Speaker 1: Your stomach is like this gooey feeling, and it is
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Speaker 1: a it is a weird feeling, and until you experience it,
10:49
Speaker 1: you can't even explain it to somebody. But that's exactly
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Speaker 1: It's like, it's bizarre. And Molle talked about that before
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Speaker 1: I had a kid. I was like, WHOA, I wish
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Speaker 1: someone would have warned me about that stuff. Yeah, why
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Speaker 1: did nobody tell me about the goo? And like, why
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Speaker 1: did nobody like tell you that even though you're tired,
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Speaker 1: you really can't sleep. Even when you can't sleep, you're
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Speaker 1: just like staring at a child. I know. And I
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Speaker 1: felt like, especially with my first I had all this adrenaline.
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Speaker 1: When I first got home from the hospital two weeks,
11:21
Speaker 1: I felt like I was just running off of adrenaline
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Speaker 1: and everyone, you know, my mom, I didn't have a nanny.
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Speaker 1: It's all my oldest seven months old, and so I'm
11:28
Speaker 1: my mom and my mother in law being like people,
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Speaker 1: lay down, lets go lay down and take some sleep.
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Speaker 1: I'm like, I can't. I literally cannot. I like jacked up.
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Speaker 1: And then it like three months was when it hit me.
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Speaker 1: It all just came crashing down on me and I
11:40
Speaker 1: got really tired. But luckily that's you know, right when
11:45
Speaker 1: he was starting to sleep through tonight. So it all
11:47
Speaker 1: worked out. But you know, no one really really talks
11:49
Speaker 1: about that stuff. Everyone is most of what's ever happened,
11:53
Speaker 1: and it is. It is the most amazing thing that
11:55
Speaker 1: will ever happen to anyone who was a tack. But
11:57
Speaker 1: it is also really hard, and so I think it's
12:00
Speaker 1: important to have honest conversations about that so that people
12:03
Speaker 1: don't feel like they're alone off on a little island. Yeah,
12:06
Speaker 1: because then and then you go through this phase where
12:08
Speaker 1: you're like, I don't want the people in my life
12:10
Speaker 1: to see how much I'm struggling, and then it makes
12:12
Speaker 1: things worse. Like even recently, I have this thing. It's crazy,
12:17
Speaker 1: but it's called lightning crotch. Doesn't that sound lovely? But
12:20
Speaker 1: it's where I'm walking and then all of a sudden
12:22
Speaker 1: I will be brought down to my knee. It feels
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Speaker 1: like somebody took a lightning bolt, and like, and I
12:28
Speaker 1: didn't even realize it was a thing. I went to
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Speaker 1: the doctor. I'm like, every couple of days this thing
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Speaker 1: happens and I don't know, it never happened with the
12:35
Speaker 1: other kids, And he's like, oh, lightning crotch totally normal,
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Speaker 1: And I was like what, Like I thought I was
12:40
Speaker 1: going into early like labor, Like what is this And
12:44
Speaker 1: he's like, oh no, it just happens to some people,
12:46
Speaker 1: like and doctors are so casual about everything that then
12:49
Speaker 1: you feel like a crazy person. I'm like, well, I
12:52
Speaker 1: didn't realize, and I'm walking with my kids and all
12:54
Speaker 1: of a sudden, I'm like lean down on my knees,
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Speaker 1: like shuddering and pain, Like I wish I would have
12:59
Speaker 1: known that something like this was like a situation. So
13:03
Speaker 1: does it really does it feel like your who has
13:05
Speaker 1: like ripping apart, like your phones are like literally ripping apart?
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Speaker 1: What it is? But it's what It's insane and it's
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Speaker 1: so bad. It happens for no reason, Like it's not
13:18
Speaker 1: like it's right after doing something strenuous or workout. Like
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Speaker 1: the other day, I was just leaving my daughter's dance
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Speaker 1: class with like I wasn't dancing, I was just walking
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Speaker 1: with her out of class and I was like, oh oh,
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Speaker 1: and she's like, okay, are you having the baby, and
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Speaker 1: like no, it's and then how much do you explain
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Speaker 1: to the other kids? Right? Yeah, so right, Mommy's like
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Speaker 1: it's ripping and sorry, well my son already thinks that
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Speaker 1: the baby's coming out of my butt. Oh that's always
13:51
Speaker 1: a lovely conversation too, isn't it. Other time my kids
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Speaker 1: saw the babies came out of our belly button. I'm
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Speaker 1: the I wonder like once we tell them, then they're
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Speaker 1: going to tell everyone in school, and like, what is
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Speaker 1: an appropriate age to tell them? I mean, I don't
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Speaker 1: I don't know. I have a like an O B
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Speaker 1: G coming on later that I'm going to ask what
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Speaker 1: I did ask like my pediatrician and she's like, you
14:17
Speaker 1: should just be very honest with them. So I was,
14:20
Speaker 1: and I just said, actually, cruise, the babies come out
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Speaker 1: of your vagina. And but now he's one, he can't
14:25
Speaker 1: say vagina. He says vagina. So now all the time
14:29
Speaker 1: he's like, how's the vagina? Mom, I'm like, do you, like,
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Speaker 1: can I see your vagina? Know why? And then I
14:40
Speaker 1: look at the doctor. I'm like, I'm so glad you
14:42
Speaker 1: had me have this conversation with him. Yeah, now I
14:48
Speaker 1: look like the creepy mom, like just trying to like
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Speaker 1: get lunch um, but yeah, no, it's so much craziness,
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Speaker 1: But thank you so much for coming on and sharing.
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Speaker 1: If you could leave the listeners with like one tip
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Speaker 1: of like pregnancy and becoming a new mom, what would
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Speaker 1: you say? I would say, don't compare yourself to others
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Speaker 1: and listen to people, but take it with a grain
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Speaker 1: of salt, because at the end of the day, as moms,
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Speaker 1: we only know what's best for us and our babies.
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Speaker 1: And every baby is different, every experience is different, parenting
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Speaker 1: is different for each kid as well, and so I
15:23
Speaker 1: would just say open, just go ahead, listen to you,
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Speaker 1: you know, and and again, just don't compare because everyone
15:30
Speaker 1: is different. You know what. I couldn't love that advice more.
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Speaker 1: It's so good and so true. And thank you so
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Speaker 1: much Kristen for being on I and you guys have
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Speaker 1: to tune into Very Cavalry. It's Thursday nights on E
15:42
Speaker 1: It's so great, so funny. I love y'all's dynamic and
15:47
Speaker 1: thank you. Thank you for coming on the show. Thanks
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Speaker 1: for having me. I will post you later. Talk okay,
15:55
Speaker 1: bye Teddy bye? Okay. How amazing is kristin Cavalary? Like
15:59
Speaker 1: I need her to live than Los Angeles would be
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Speaker 1: one of my besties. Can you move? Thanks? Uh now?
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Speaker 1: I am bringing on Dr Tristan Bickman. She is the
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Speaker 1: author of whoa Baby, a guide for new moms who
16:11
Speaker 1: feel overwhelmed and freaked out and wonder what the A
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Speaker 1: lot of asterisks just happened. Um. She is a board
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Speaker 1: certified O B g U I N with affiliations with St.
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Speaker 1: John's Health Center and U C l A. I mean,
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Speaker 1: the list goes on and on, and she's going to
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Speaker 1: really help us everybody. Let's welcome Dr Tristan. Is that
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Speaker 1: what I should call you? Okay? Perfect? We're so excited
16:39
Speaker 1: because essentially what this podcast is is I asked my
16:43
Speaker 1: listeners what they want to hear about, and then they
16:46
Speaker 1: write in questions and then we kind of take our
16:48
Speaker 1: cues from there. And something that everybody is obsessed about
16:51
Speaker 1: is like the good, the bad, and the ugly of
16:53
Speaker 1: being pregnant and childbirth and all of that and all
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Speaker 1: of the things that you're frightened to actually find out
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Speaker 1: from your O B g U I N or too
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Speaker 1: embarrassed to ask in front of your husband or whatever
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Speaker 1: it may be. Like I'm going to start off with like,
17:08
Speaker 1: it's a very embarrassing story that happened to me, but
17:12
Speaker 1: I had absolutely no idea it was even something that
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Speaker 1: could happen. Um When I was having my baby, when
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Speaker 1: my first my husband kept saying when I was in delivery,
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Speaker 1: she's coming, She's coming, and I was like looking at
17:29
Speaker 1: the doctor and he didn't seem very positive about it,
17:32
Speaker 1: and he's like, he's like, I see her head. I
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Speaker 1: see her head, Babe, you're getting there. And then I
17:37
Speaker 1: look at the doctor and he would shake his head
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Speaker 1: like and I'm like, what the heck is happening. Finally,
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Speaker 1: Edwin like goes to the restroom or something and I'm like,
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Speaker 1: dr G, what is happening. Why does he keep saying
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Speaker 1: the baby's coming and he's not coming? And he's like, Teddy,
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Speaker 1: you don't want to know? Can you just not know?
17:53
Speaker 1: I'm like, I need to know. What does he think
17:55
Speaker 1: is the baby's head? And she's like, well, you've you've
17:58
Speaker 1: gotten a hemorrhoid and every time you push it fills
18:01
Speaker 1: up with blood. And your husband thinks that that's the
18:05
Speaker 1: baby's head. And I'm like, no, like you've got that
18:09
Speaker 1: isn't happening. That isn't what he's seeing down there. And
18:11
Speaker 1: I remember being like, one why did nobody tell me this?
18:14
Speaker 1: Happens to what do I do now? Three? How long
18:17
Speaker 1: am I going to have this hymn? Right? And which
18:19
Speaker 1: was a while? And to no, yes, now one way
18:23
Speaker 1: because I had to get it removed. I had to
18:25
Speaker 1: go get one of those things where they like put
18:27
Speaker 1: a little like around it and then it falls off.
18:30
Speaker 1: But like, please, like these are the things that you're
18:33
Speaker 1: just not warned about. And I mean still to this day,
18:38
Speaker 1: I hope my husband doesn't listen to this podcast because
18:40
Speaker 1: like I never told him, like that wasn't actually the
18:43
Speaker 1: baby's head. But these are the types of things that
18:46
Speaker 1: I don't think that people really know going into the hospital,
18:49
Speaker 1: Like why does no one tell you tell mothers that
18:52
Speaker 1: they leave the hospital and basically diapers and like what
18:55
Speaker 1: is actually happening down there that we need to leave
18:57
Speaker 1: in diapers? Well, number one, presuming it's vaginal delivery or
19:02
Speaker 1: even actually for a C section, there's so much bleeding
19:04
Speaker 1: that a little, a little mini pad isn't gonna take
19:07
Speaker 1: care of it. Um number one. Number two weeks asked
19:09
Speaker 1: you not to use tampons, So you need something that's
19:12
Speaker 1: very large, you need something that's very absorbent and that
19:16
Speaker 1: doesn't leak and Also that's not tight because you want
19:18
Speaker 1: nothing touching you down there. Sounds comfy. I'm days out
19:23
Speaker 1: from this. And then you get a nice east infection
19:25
Speaker 1: because you get all the non cotton absorbent liners. Also,
19:30
Speaker 1: when I would go to the restroom, I would have
19:32
Speaker 1: to like squirt water on myself at the same time
19:34
Speaker 1: because the p would hurt my my private right. It's
19:39
Speaker 1: like salt in a wound. And like Derma blast became
19:42
Speaker 1: my best friend. They gave me one, which you can't buy.
19:45
Speaker 1: By the way, you can't know. Yah, you have to
19:48
Speaker 1: just ask for multiple Okay, good to know, because I
19:51
Speaker 1: was like, I need to go on Amazon and like
19:52
Speaker 1: buy a twelve pack because that was just keep stalking
19:55
Speaker 1: and the minute you get to postpartum, okay, perfect, all right,
19:58
Speaker 1: and can you explain and I don't actually know what
20:01
Speaker 1: this is, but can you explain the bloody show? So
20:06
Speaker 1: the bloody show is referring to something pre delivery. Okay,
20:09
Speaker 1: this is not postpartum. This is prior to going into labor.
20:12
Speaker 1: It's usually as your cervic starts to soften, which is
20:15
Speaker 1: part of labor, and you kind of wipe and you
20:17
Speaker 1: see a little blood. Is it the same as the
20:19
Speaker 1: mucus plug. No, the mucus plug is this entity which
20:24
Speaker 1: I feel is super overrated and over talked about, so
20:27
Speaker 1: I won't talk about it a lot um. But it's
20:29
Speaker 1: a piece of mucus that that serves as a little
20:32
Speaker 1: protection in the cervix. Some people see it fall out,
20:35
Speaker 1: some people don't see it fall out. Some people think
20:37
Speaker 1: when it falls out it means labor is imminent, but
20:39
Speaker 1: it really has nothing to do with the timing of labor.
20:42
Speaker 1: That's good to know, because honestly, I've been looking for one.
20:44
Speaker 1: I haven't seen it, and I'm supposed to be having
20:46
Speaker 1: a baby sooner. But with my daughter, I was induced,
20:51
Speaker 1: and with my son he came on his own. My
20:53
Speaker 1: water broke, but I still never had any bloody show
20:56
Speaker 1: or mucus plug or really any warning that he was
20:58
Speaker 1: going to be coming. Like I just like got up
21:00
Speaker 1: to use the restroom like it was any morning and
21:02
Speaker 1: then all of a sudden. Also, it's a lot of water, right,
21:05
Speaker 1: Like I had a lot of water. It's a lot
21:08
Speaker 1: of water in the sack. When the sack tears, the
21:11
Speaker 1: water comes out. So it depends how big the tear
21:13
Speaker 1: is in the sack. Oh, so that might be why
21:15
Speaker 1: how it had a large tear, Like I had to
21:16
Speaker 1: go my husband drove a sports car to take me
21:20
Speaker 1: to the hospital and because we had to like have
21:23
Speaker 1: his mom they're driving my daughter to preschool, you know,
21:26
Speaker 1: whatever it was. And I remember having to wrap myself
21:29
Speaker 1: in towels to go to the hospital because it wasn't stopping.
21:32
Speaker 1: Because that's not for every that's not everyone. Know, some
21:34
Speaker 1: people have a little trickle. In fact, they don't even
21:36
Speaker 1: know what's happening because they think it's just sweat or
21:38
Speaker 1: a little bit of urin leaking. So I could be
21:41
Speaker 1: my water could be breaking right now. It could be
21:43
Speaker 1: you could be pinking on yourself. Your water could be broken. Um,
21:47
Speaker 1: A lot of people have this question, and truthfully, I
21:50
Speaker 1: don't have an answer for it. I just have kind
21:53
Speaker 1: of embraced mine. But it's stretch marks. How do moms
21:56
Speaker 1: get rid of them? How do you like, is there
21:59
Speaker 1: something they should be doing during pregnancy? I mean I've
22:01
Speaker 1: been putting a little bit of like coconut butter on,
22:05
Speaker 1: but like not religiously. Mostly it's genetic. So I think
22:09
Speaker 1: if you got them the first time, you're probably going
22:11
Speaker 1: to get him the second time, or get him the
22:12
Speaker 1: third time. Um, people do use creams. They market a
22:15
Speaker 1: lot of creams. Personally, I use creams and I didn't
22:18
Speaker 1: get stretch marks, but I don't really credit it to
22:20
Speaker 1: the creams. However, I used it every time because it worked.
22:23
Speaker 1: But there are people that use creams and they still
22:25
Speaker 1: get stretch marks. And it's mostly genetic. See, I got
22:28
Speaker 1: stretch marks on my upper legs, like on my like
22:31
Speaker 1: growing area, but I didn't get any on my And
22:34
Speaker 1: then they say, I don't know if this is true,
22:36
Speaker 1: but if you didn't get it with your first you're
22:38
Speaker 1: probably not going to get them with your third, correct
22:41
Speaker 1: because of the genetics. Genetics. Okay, so that makes sense.
22:44
Speaker 1: All right, this is a personal thing that actually affects me.
22:48
Speaker 1: Best advice for lightning crotch, like I will be walking
22:52
Speaker 1: and be brought down to my knees. I was just
22:54
Speaker 1: talking to our other guests about it, and I was like,
22:56
Speaker 1: and she said, the same thing happened to her. Yeah.
22:58
Speaker 1: The hard thing bad is it's unpredictable. It stops you
23:02
Speaker 1: in your tracks when it happens, and you don't know
23:04
Speaker 1: when it's coming. Sometimes it's it's from the pressure of
23:07
Speaker 1: the uterus with the growing baby pushing on different nerves.
23:10
Speaker 1: So sometimes if it gets really severe, you can wear
23:12
Speaker 1: like a belly binder and elevate your abdomen and your
23:15
Speaker 1: uterus and that might kind of alleviate the pressure on
23:17
Speaker 1: the nerves. But outside of that, and there's nothing that
23:19
Speaker 1: you could have done to make it not happen or correct.
23:22
Speaker 1: All right, Well, what about tips for preventing swollen feet?
23:27
Speaker 1: Drink lots of fluid, minimize your salt, and keep your
23:30
Speaker 1: feet elevated. Okay, um, and outside of that, it's going
23:34
Speaker 1: to happen. Yeah, I mean mine or to the point
23:38
Speaker 1: now where like I grew out of my sneakers, like
23:41
Speaker 1: where open toe shoes? Or right now? They my husband
23:45
Speaker 1: like are those slippers? Are you going to eyeheart and slippers?
23:48
Speaker 1: And yes I have. They're very comfortable and pretty much pajamas. Um.
23:53
Speaker 1: What are the pros and cons of C section and
23:55
Speaker 1: vaginal birth? That's a that's a big question. Um, well
24:00
Speaker 1: I can tell you differences pros and cons. So the
24:03
Speaker 1: big difference mostly what I tell my patients is a
24:07
Speaker 1: vaginal delivery is very unpredictable. It could go especially on
24:10
Speaker 1: a first when we have nothing to compare it to
24:12
Speaker 1: you for years since you've had it two others, maybe
24:14
Speaker 1: it's a little bit more predictable. We know you can
24:16
Speaker 1: do it, so odds are you can do it again.
24:18
Speaker 1: But for someone who hasn't had a delivery before, with
24:20
Speaker 1: a vaginal delivery, it could be super easy. It could
24:23
Speaker 1: be quick. It could be three minutes of pushing and
24:26
Speaker 1: no tears. Too. It could be fifty hours of labor
24:29
Speaker 1: and six hours of pushing and still a C section
24:32
Speaker 1: or a big terror and you're sitting on your side
24:34
Speaker 1: for six weeks wishing you never did that. So it's
24:37
Speaker 1: very unpredictable. With the C section, if all goes well,
24:39
Speaker 1: and usually they do, it's very it's very predictable. You
24:42
Speaker 1: walk in, you get your anesthesia, takes ten or fifteen
24:45
Speaker 1: minutes to get the baby out, and about the same
24:47
Speaker 1: to sell everything up, and you you go to your
24:49
Speaker 1: recovery room. So it's very predictable. So those are the
24:52
Speaker 1: two big differences in terms of what to expect in
24:55
Speaker 1: terms of medically well C sections of surgery. So there's
25:00
Speaker 1: risk to surgery that aren't risk of aginl delivery, there's
25:03
Speaker 1: risks of infection, there's risk of injuring other um structures
25:07
Speaker 1: inside your abdomen while we're operating, and there's risk of
25:10
Speaker 1: other post operative complications. With a vaginal delivery, there's there's
25:14
Speaker 1: risk to you of tearing and a lot of the
25:16
Speaker 1: risk with a vaginal delivery. Once you've gotten to that point,
25:19
Speaker 1: it's almost too late to turn back, so you just
25:21
Speaker 1: kind of have to manage it at that moment. You
25:23
Speaker 1: could have a big tear, you could have a little tear.
25:24
Speaker 1: You could be incontinent, you cannot be incontinent, you could
25:27
Speaker 1: have more hemorrhoids. UM. So there's complications on that end,
25:30
Speaker 1: and then in terms of the fetus, there's other complications
25:34
Speaker 1: too with a vaginal delivery. With a C section, if
25:36
Speaker 1: you walk in just for a scheduled C section, you
25:38
Speaker 1: kind of walked in with a healthy baby in presumably
25:39
Speaker 1: you're gonna walk out with a healthy baby. Um with
25:41
Speaker 1: a vaginal delivery, there could be fetal distress that we
25:44
Speaker 1: can't predict. Of course, if the fetal distress is too severe,
25:46
Speaker 1: than we would do a C section. And then what
25:49
Speaker 1: about like the stitch, So like I feel I stitch well,
25:53
Speaker 1: some people I remember this happened to one of my
25:56
Speaker 1: friends not me, I think I I think I had
25:59
Speaker 1: a big hair with one and not a tear on
26:01
Speaker 1: the with the other. I blocked it out. I don't
26:02
Speaker 1: actually know the answer, so I don't probably lie to you.
26:06
Speaker 1: But I have a girlfriend that she got stitched, but
26:09
Speaker 1: they like stitched her in a spot, and I remember
26:12
Speaker 1: about two weeks later she was like, guys, I think
26:15
Speaker 1: there's like an extra hole or something, because they stitched
26:18
Speaker 1: and then they left a little spot and it became
26:21
Speaker 1: and she had to get the whole thing stitched re stitched.
26:24
Speaker 1: So how big are these tears? How many stitches are
26:27
Speaker 1: actually happening? Like how many? I don't even know how
26:30
Speaker 1: many stitches I've had. I blanked all that out well.
26:34
Speaker 1: I described the vagina to patients as kind of like
26:36
Speaker 1: a mouth when I explained the tears. You could tear
26:38
Speaker 1: like down to your chin, you could tear inside to
26:40
Speaker 1: your molars, you could tear up. So you could really
26:43
Speaker 1: tear any which way, And depending on the severity of
26:47
Speaker 1: the tear dictates usually the recovery. Um not necessarily the
26:52
Speaker 1: more tears, the harder recovery, but the deeper the tear,
26:54
Speaker 1: so the deeper the like, the deeper the cut the
26:57
Speaker 1: longer it's going to take to heal. Um, but you could,
27:00
Speaker 1: you could tear any possible way. It's you're getting something
27:03
Speaker 1: smaller out of something bigger. You know, something bigger out
27:05
Speaker 1: of something smaller. So it's it's got to give. And
27:08
Speaker 1: it's not the baby's head that gives that. I'm remembering something.
27:12
Speaker 1: And we don't really quantify suturing. People always like someone
27:15
Speaker 1: this morning, email me, can you tell me how many
27:17
Speaker 1: stitches I had last June? And no, I don't remember her.
27:22
Speaker 1: I remember yesterday, but um, we don't count the stitches.
27:26
Speaker 1: We we talk about the level of tearing. And is
27:29
Speaker 1: it true that you cannot leave the hospital until you've
27:33
Speaker 1: had your first ballbo? Not true? Not true? Not true?
27:36
Speaker 1: Why am I drinking so much pre injuice when I'm there? Then?
27:40
Speaker 1: Good question. They want they want your stool not to
27:42
Speaker 1: be hard when it does come out, but it doesn't
27:44
Speaker 1: need to come out prior it doesn't. It does not.
27:48
Speaker 1: I do remember it not being very pleasurable, though it
27:52
Speaker 1: can be sore, and people often are terrified of it
27:56
Speaker 1: so they kind of hold it back, which then can
27:58
Speaker 1: lead to more constipation, which can make it harder physically.
28:01
Speaker 1: When it does come out, What is the cure or
28:03
Speaker 1: what are some of the things you can do to
28:05
Speaker 1: alleviate that from the constipation from getting bad? So, constipation
28:10
Speaker 1: can be caused from a lot of different things postpartum,
28:15
Speaker 1: from the anesthesia, from having not eaten, from taking pain medicine,
28:20
Speaker 1: which is super constipating, from taking iron in your vitamins,
28:23
Speaker 1: which is super constipating. So a lot of these things
28:26
Speaker 1: are constipating. So I I don't put my patients on
28:29
Speaker 1: prenatal vitamins right away after delivery, or I asked them
28:31
Speaker 1: to take the gummies without iron because that will decrease
28:34
Speaker 1: the constipation. We tell them to limit their narcotics if
28:37
Speaker 1: they need to. If they don't, I ask mine to
28:39
Speaker 1: take a stool softener every time they take a narcotic
28:41
Speaker 1: to kind of counteract that, and then to drink lots
28:44
Speaker 1: of water and to eat foods high in fiber. So,
28:46
Speaker 1: now that you're bringing up in narcotics, how long are
28:50
Speaker 1: after delivery are you normally on narcotics? Everybody's different. Some
28:55
Speaker 1: people don't ask for a prescription, some people are calling
28:58
Speaker 1: for refills. So it's it's like do you stay home
29:01
Speaker 1: when you get a cold, or do you fight through it.
29:02
Speaker 1: It's a lot about just the person specifically, and which
29:06
Speaker 1: trimester have you seen has been the hardest for moms emotionally.
29:11
Speaker 1: For me, it's been different with every every baby. That's
29:14
Speaker 1: a good question. Um, I think the second is the easiest. Um,
29:18
Speaker 1: You're you're not feeling really crappy like you are in
29:21
Speaker 1: the first. You're not nauseated, you're not tired, you're not
29:24
Speaker 1: feeling big and tired and full like you are in
29:26
Speaker 1: the third. So the second is usually the best. And
29:29
Speaker 1: then it really depends on how bad that first trimester
29:32
Speaker 1: is for people. People have a really bad first trimester
29:34
Speaker 1: that probably wins. Yeah, so it's like some people get
29:37
Speaker 1: really really sick. Like I had a girlfriend that just
29:41
Speaker 1: was throwing up the entire first trimester, And for me,
29:43
Speaker 1: I didn't this baby. I didn't even know I was
29:46
Speaker 1: pregnant until I was nine weeks pregnant because I wasn't
29:49
Speaker 1: having any signs and this is my first natural getting
29:52
Speaker 1: pregnant naturally. But I thought, like, truthfully, I thought like
29:56
Speaker 1: maybe I escaped all the symptoms this time. Like I
29:58
Speaker 1: was like, I am like feeling good, I am busy,
30:01
Speaker 1: I am like I am able to do all of
30:03
Speaker 1: these things. I'm feeling awesome, and honestly, the last three
30:06
Speaker 1: weeks I feel like I was run over by mac track.
30:10
Speaker 1: How many weeks are you, I'm thirty eight point five.
30:14
Speaker 1: So for you, the third trime muster is the worst
30:16
Speaker 1: because you had an easy first try muster. So if
30:19
Speaker 1: you were your friends, she probably would have said her
30:21
Speaker 1: first was worse. So it just really depends where you are.
30:23
Speaker 1: And I think the biggest thing is like I finally learned,
30:27
Speaker 1: you know, it took me three times but to kind
30:30
Speaker 1: of say how I'm feeling and started dressing it. Whereas
30:33
Speaker 1: like the first, you know, I didn't want to say
30:36
Speaker 1: how I was feeling to my family, you know, I
30:38
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I just want to I want to
30:40
Speaker 1: white knuckle through it. But this time I can be like, hey, guys,
30:42
Speaker 1: I'm a little bit tired, Like Sunday, I'm gonna go
30:45
Speaker 1: watch the football game with you guys. But then like,
30:48
Speaker 1: can you maybe do like a daddy and kiddo date
30:51
Speaker 1: like at the park and I can maybe rest a
30:53
Speaker 1: little bit, like whereas before I wouldn't have said it,
30:56
Speaker 1: But like, I know myself and if I don't say
30:58
Speaker 1: those things, and I don't set those bound trees. I'm moody. Yeah, yeah,
31:02
Speaker 1: it's always good to ask for help. What is the
31:12
Speaker 1: best piece of advice you would give to an expecting
31:15
Speaker 1: mother going through her first pregnancy to go into it
31:19
Speaker 1: with an open mind. It's very unpredictable, and I always
31:23
Speaker 1: tell my patients not to overthink it, just to keep
31:25
Speaker 1: it really simple, like you you're getting pregnant and you're
31:27
Speaker 1: gonna walk out with a healthy baby, and that's just
31:30
Speaker 1: it's it's a long process and it could go a
31:33
Speaker 1: million different ways, and especially for first we have nothing
31:36
Speaker 1: to compare it to. The patient has nothing to compare
31:39
Speaker 1: it to. I have nothing to compare it to for
31:41
Speaker 1: the patient. Um, And it's just very unpredictable, and just
31:44
Speaker 1: go in with an open mind. Don't beat yourself up
31:46
Speaker 1: about things. Stop stop googling, and call me or email
31:50
Speaker 1: me if you have any questions. I feel like I'm
31:52
Speaker 1: a doctor of Google, though I love to take myself
31:55
Speaker 1: down rabbit holes of things that don't exist. Um. Now,
31:59
Speaker 1: they were getting two questions that people are asking me
32:01
Speaker 1: that I might need you to weigh in on because
32:04
Speaker 1: I don't I can say how affected me, but I
32:06
Speaker 1: don't know the actual answer. Um, what is my absolute
32:11
Speaker 1: hospital must have? Um? For me, I think it was
32:18
Speaker 1: comfy like Pj's. Like I really don't like the test
32:22
Speaker 1: texture of the hospital gown that they give you. It's
32:24
Speaker 1: like kind of crunchy and like I'm a texture kind
32:27
Speaker 1: of gal so like for me, I really needed that.
32:30
Speaker 1: But what do you think like a common thing that's
32:33
Speaker 1: that's great? I also tell patients to bring chapstick because
32:37
Speaker 1: their lips get super chapped in labor and we're not
32:39
Speaker 1: letting them really drink a lot, and they don't really
32:40
Speaker 1: feel like drinking a lot, so chap six. Chap six
32:43
Speaker 1: is helpful. Um. Of course, you know that your own toothbrush, slippers,
32:47
Speaker 1: to walk around in a robe so you can keep
32:49
Speaker 1: covered if you do wear the hospital gown, it shows
32:52
Speaker 1: your back, so to wear a robe. But the hospital
32:55
Speaker 1: otherwise really really provides a lot. And you know what
32:57
Speaker 1: the best thing that hospitals have crushed ice, you know what,
33:00
Speaker 1: Like I wanted to buy a crushed ice maker afterwards
33:03
Speaker 1: because it was so delicious the way they would like
33:05
Speaker 1: deliver the water or the prune apple juice combo. Like
33:09
Speaker 1: I thought it was like a delicious cocktail. What is
33:13
Speaker 1: one thing I have learned from my previous deliveries that
33:16
Speaker 1: I would do differently with this one. Um my first delivery,
33:20
Speaker 1: I was I had this whole birth plan and all
33:23
Speaker 1: of this, you know, I really thought I was going
33:25
Speaker 1: to follow everything to a tea And what that ended
33:27
Speaker 1: up doing to me was gave me like a little
33:31
Speaker 1: bit of like postpart I created more anxiety and myself
33:35
Speaker 1: by like wanting the birth plan to go exactly this
33:37
Speaker 1: certain way, by wanting her to sleep, schedule to go exactly,
33:40
Speaker 1: I was so structured that I was unable to be
33:43
Speaker 1: in the moment. Yeah, I agree. I tell my patients,
33:46
Speaker 1: you know, of course, our birth plan is to have
33:48
Speaker 1: a healthy baby, but you set yourself up for disappointment
33:52
Speaker 1: if you have all these expectations and if they don't
33:55
Speaker 1: go right, then you're kind of beating yourself up for
33:58
Speaker 1: something that was so unnecessary. So I really, like I
34:01
Speaker 1: said before, I tell my patients to try and keep
34:03
Speaker 1: it simple, not to overthink it. And if you say
34:05
Speaker 1: you want this and you end up not wanting it,
34:08
Speaker 1: let it go and just move. Things are going to
34:10
Speaker 1: change and they're going to shift, and they're not going
34:12
Speaker 1: to go exactly according to plan, and sometimes they're not
34:14
Speaker 1: going to go exactly according to the way your doctor
34:16
Speaker 1: answered it, you know, Like I remember being like, but
34:20
Speaker 1: but so the pediatrician said this, this means this, and
34:23
Speaker 1: then I would like email her and she'd be like, yeah,
34:25
Speaker 1: that's fine, you know, like I just gave you the answer,
34:28
Speaker 1: um U. I had a couple of miscarriages um before
34:33
Speaker 1: getting pregnant with my son, So somebody's asking me, what
34:37
Speaker 1: are things that you can do to feel secure during
34:38
Speaker 1: your pregnancy when you've had miscarriages. I don't necessarily know
34:42
Speaker 1: the answer to this. When I was in the midst
34:45
Speaker 1: of having miscarriages, there's nothing anybody could have said to
34:48
Speaker 1: me to change the way I was feeling. I was
34:52
Speaker 1: very emotional, I was very sad um and I put
34:56
Speaker 1: a lot of pressure on myself. Yes, I would love
34:58
Speaker 1: to say, you know, just try to take it moment
35:01
Speaker 1: by moment and know that it's meant to be, it's
35:03
Speaker 1: going to happen, but I was not that way. I
35:06
Speaker 1: just have to be honest. I was kind of the
35:08
Speaker 1: most upset I had ever been um with this baby.
35:13
Speaker 1: I haven't had those feelings because I wasn't having the
35:16
Speaker 1: miscarriages right beforehand. So I've really just tried to embrace
35:20
Speaker 1: this pregnancy as this pregnancy, and I haven't had those concerns.
35:25
Speaker 1: But I don't know if that's because I didn't have
35:27
Speaker 1: miscarriages leading up to this baby. That makes sense, you know,
35:32
Speaker 1: I have some of course, I have patients who have
35:34
Speaker 1: had miscarriages, and I tell them, you know, whatever it
35:36
Speaker 1: takes to kind of get you through that period. If
35:38
Speaker 1: it's coming in for ultrasounds every day every week, doing
35:41
Speaker 1: blood tests more frequently, just to reassure that everything is
35:44
Speaker 1: moving along, then we can do that. These are all
35:47
Speaker 1: non invasive ways that are completely safe to help reassurance.
35:50
Speaker 1: So if you're feeling that way, reach out to your
35:52
Speaker 1: doctor and there's ways that they can work with you.
35:54
Speaker 1: I mean that's huge, definitely. Um, how long do you
35:58
Speaker 1: bleed after giving birth? I can't remember. I tell my
36:03
Speaker 1: patients up to eight weeks, usually getting better, not worse.
36:07
Speaker 1: Of course, the sign of its getting worse would be
36:09
Speaker 1: something a reason to call your doctor, but six weeks
36:12
Speaker 1: is pretty typical. The next one, did I poop on
36:17
Speaker 1: the table? Is that real? Okay? I don't know if
36:20
Speaker 1: I did it was I know I had a bloody hemorrhoid,
36:23
Speaker 1: So I mean, I feel like that's just as bad. Um.
36:27
Speaker 1: I don't know if I pooped on the table. No
36:28
Speaker 1: one told me if I did. I never saw any
36:30
Speaker 1: wiping of poop. I do have a girlfriend. This is
36:35
Speaker 1: she took castor oil before she wanted to have the baby,
36:38
Speaker 1: and that because she wanted to like induced labor. She
36:40
Speaker 1: was like forty one weeks pregnant. She read online. I
36:43
Speaker 1: guess it's you're supposed to take like a little teaspoon.
36:46
Speaker 1: She took whatever the bigger spoon, like whatever was. She
36:48
Speaker 1: messed it up and she had like explosive during childhood
36:53
Speaker 1: because of the cast Royal. And then the icing on
36:56
Speaker 1: the cake of this story is that then her mom
37:00
Speaker 1: is trying to like fix the situation because the husband's
37:02
Speaker 1: in there. They have a videographer, and she thinks she's
37:05
Speaker 1: getting baby wipes out of her purse to wipe her down,
37:08
Speaker 1: but she actually got chlorox wipes and like like bleaching
37:13
Speaker 1: her skin, like burning her. So I don't know about
37:16
Speaker 1: the poop. I do know, like I'm not ever going
37:19
Speaker 1: to take cast royal because of that story. But how
37:21
Speaker 1: common is it that somebody poops on the table super common,
37:24
Speaker 1: so I probably did. That's what you're saying. This is
37:26
Speaker 1: your third at least one out three it did. I
37:30
Speaker 1: If not, it's your lucky day. Um Oh, how do
37:36
Speaker 1: I shave my vagina when you can't see it? Well? UM,
37:40
Speaker 1: I think that you know, there's different options for everybody.
37:43
Speaker 1: A lot of people have done laser hair removal prior
37:46
Speaker 1: to having a baby. Um. For me, I just like
37:49
Speaker 1: kind of wing it and it works out for the best.
37:52
Speaker 1: I don't know that there's like the best way. I mean,
37:56
Speaker 1: I've I've had the vagina in the same place for
37:58
Speaker 1: a long time, so like I just to reach down
38:00
Speaker 1: there and hope for the best. But I don't. I mean,
38:02
Speaker 1: I don't think it's like the prettiest it's ever looked.
38:05
Speaker 1: But I don't know. Yeah, definitely people miss spots, so
38:11
Speaker 1: being spoken from a doctor herself is not looking it's
38:15
Speaker 1: including myself. By the way, some people I know have
38:19
Speaker 1: like their husbands do it. No way I would trust
38:22
Speaker 1: my husband was a razor near my vagina. Sorry, not
38:26
Speaker 1: gonna happen. I'd rather be spotty. Um. Any tips for
38:30
Speaker 1: relieving the pressure down there after having the baby. Ice
38:36
Speaker 1: ice can help with the swelling. The cold helps contract
38:40
Speaker 1: vessels and tissues so that I can help with the swelling.
38:42
Speaker 1: It also numbs it a little bit. The ice is
38:43
Speaker 1: most helpful in the first twenty four hours, so like
38:45
Speaker 1: beyond that, it's just time. Yeah for me. Yeah, okay,
38:52
Speaker 1: well I record the labor all right. So I don't
38:55
Speaker 1: actually know the answer to this question because I've been
38:58
Speaker 1: burned because my husband been recorded me, me having the
39:02
Speaker 1: hemorrhoid baby, the bloody hemorrroid baby. He recorded and then
39:07
Speaker 1: he sent it out to people, and I was like,
39:11
Speaker 1: he wasn't like also recording like a production cam, like
39:14
Speaker 1: in the right flattering areas. He was like recording the
39:18
Speaker 1: full thing and like send it to like our parents
39:20
Speaker 1: that weren't there in the room, and like our friends.
39:24
Speaker 1: And it wasn't until his assistant texted me, was like, hey,
39:29
Speaker 1: you should tell Edwin. He's texting out like I don't
39:33
Speaker 1: know that you want to see it, and I'm like,
39:35
Speaker 1: and why are you sending people? And he was like
39:38
Speaker 1: just this, you can't really see anything. I'm like, you
39:41
Speaker 1: can see everything. Like I'm still embarrassed with that video,
39:45
Speaker 1: and it's like on one of our iPad maybe this
39:47
Speaker 1: is your time to retain side. I don't know, so
39:51
Speaker 1: that's still up in the air. Um. And will I breastfeed? Um?
39:55
Speaker 1: My plan is yes. Um. With my daughter, I breastfed
40:00
Speaker 1: for seven months and then I still pumped. And with
40:04
Speaker 1: my son, he immediately was in the nick the nick
40:07
Speaker 1: you and he would never latch. So I always pumped
40:12
Speaker 1: with him and it was really, I have to be honest,
40:15
Speaker 1: it was really hard to consistently pump when he would
40:17
Speaker 1: never latch. Um. And so I really don't know. And
40:20
Speaker 1: to be perfectly honest, I have to ask you about this.
40:23
Speaker 1: I had my boobs done after my son, and I
40:26
Speaker 1: don't know if that is going to change anything when
40:28
Speaker 1: it comes to I was didn't think I was going
40:30
Speaker 1: to get pregnant again, so I never thought to even
40:33
Speaker 1: ask those questions like will that change things when it
40:36
Speaker 1: comes to breastfeeding. It shouldn't you should? Yeah? Should not
40:40
Speaker 1: affect it? Okay, So, but but to answer to say
40:43
Speaker 1: one thing, you know, it's not so much. I mean,
40:45
Speaker 1: the breastfeeding is good for bonding, but most importantly that
40:47
Speaker 1: you're giving the baby your milk. So if you need
40:49
Speaker 1: to pump, you need to pump. Yeah, that's more important.
40:52
Speaker 1: I mean, that's my plan is to breastfeed. But I
40:55
Speaker 1: I have learned that beating myself up right after I
40:57
Speaker 1: have a baby isn't the best thing, and that I
41:00
Speaker 1: just have to see what works for us and trust
41:03
Speaker 1: that whatever my body is letting me do and whatever
41:06
Speaker 1: the baby wants to do is what's best for us.
41:09
Speaker 1: And I see, you know, I remember when I was
41:11
Speaker 1: in the nick you there was a mom next to
41:14
Speaker 1: me and her son was solely in the nick you
41:16
Speaker 1: because she was upset that her breastmolk wasn't coming in,
41:19
Speaker 1: and I'm not. I just remember thinking, wow, you know,
41:22
Speaker 1: like there's there's a huge problem, like that, this is
41:26
Speaker 1: not the world's biggest problem. And we take things and
41:29
Speaker 1: we really make things, you know, hard on ourselves, and
41:32
Speaker 1: it's like, I know that moment where you're just like
41:35
Speaker 1: beyond you want things to go a certain way and
41:38
Speaker 1: you can and this you cannot control it, all right,
41:41
Speaker 1: And the most important, of course is the baby gets nutrition,
41:44
Speaker 1: whatever means. And I tell patients, patients come to me
41:47
Speaker 1: trying to breastfeed and they asked for antidepressence for breastfeeding,
41:50
Speaker 1: and I'm like, let it go, you know, just feed
41:52
Speaker 1: the baby, don't. You've got to enjoy the baby. Otherwise
41:55
Speaker 1: you're getting so obsessed about this that you're losing sight
41:57
Speaker 1: of this newborn you have and it's just taking for everything.
42:01
Speaker 1: So not everybody can do it, and that's okay, And
42:04
Speaker 1: I think that's the that's that's the thing with with
42:07
Speaker 1: parenting and with becoming a mom, Like we're all going
42:09
Speaker 1: to make mistakes and we're all going to do the
42:11
Speaker 1: best that we can, and you know, listen to your
42:14
Speaker 1: gut instinct most of the time, like your motherly instinct
42:16
Speaker 1: is right, I mean, am I right? Correct? Um? What
42:20
Speaker 1: would you leave our listeners with one thing? Like, if
42:23
Speaker 1: they are about to have a baby or they're in
42:26
Speaker 1: the midst of like a hard pregnancy, what would your
42:28
Speaker 1: tippy that it's all worth it, that that you know,
42:32
Speaker 1: whatever however it goes, it's worth it if it if
42:35
Speaker 1: it ends up in a C section, it's worth it.
42:37
Speaker 1: If you end up not breastfeeding, it's okay. If you're
42:39
Speaker 1: sitting home on your side and someone else has to
42:41
Speaker 1: take care of the baby for a while because you can't,
42:43
Speaker 1: it's okay. And at the end of the day, you'll
42:46
Speaker 1: probably do it again and again because it is worth it.
42:48
Speaker 1: At the end of the day, you'll have a seven
42:51
Speaker 1: five year all that don't appreciate you, park at you,
42:54
Speaker 1: and actually are the best things that ever happened to you.
42:56
Speaker 1: So it's amazing. Thank you so much. Thanks for helping
43:00
Speaker 1: my pleasure. Best of luck to you and guys. I'm
43:02
Speaker 1: like gone for a bit because I'm like on a
43:04
Speaker 1: maternity leave ish, I don't know I'm gonna. I say,
43:07
Speaker 1: I'm gonna be back real quick, but we'll see how
43:09
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